Why are there so many single moms on dating sites

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posted: 1/2/2009 8:09:48 ammy point is why are so many young women having kids at an age where they aren't fully adults yet? there was nothing i could do to prevent it from happening. (that tells me right there you don’t understand it) i don’t think you are doomed to never have another relationship. i assure you that while more women may not want to date or marry older guys, the census information shows that your info is not relevant because over 20% of the women are at a minimum, open to the idea of marrying guys 6 to 10 years older and 10% are open to the guy being 10+ years older. because my hubby was more of a friend to his son than a parent., if a divorced woman, when she tells you her story, tells the entire story, it’s probably because she did what i did, took control of her life, knew that she had to be alone and out of any sort of relationship and dating for long enough to be independent and a better, stronger person than she was before the divorce. i work full time and own my house outright (no mortgage) and have plenty of money for holidays and extra education for my kids, piano lessons ect. is there any polite way to call your half brother an idiot? by telling women they have no responsibility for their choices and by telling them that it's okay to be a single mom you are rewarding loser men.’m so sorry the general population has to deal with “someone like me” now, the product of a single mom… i don’t do drugs, i work two jobs, and go to school.“i think it’s a bit unfair to suggest christina has to change her type just to clinch someone. so go out there, have fun, and don’t worry about it going anywhere. everyone on this forum that actually accepts everything in this article should grow a pair of balls decide on a person to person bases. it’s not that they aren’t good catches, because they are – for somebody else. you're not the victim because he left you a single mother. because this sounds like a very arrogant attitude when you two were planning on “becoming one”. she doesn’t care about them they’re just her welfare tickets. and trying to get knocked up by them to continue the fetal factory career. mean i suppose it’s possible that some relationships fall apart in a completely unilateral fashion where one side deserves all of the blame. these are then the women that will just “settle” for any dumb ass to come along and take care of her and her kids and all the while she has no sexual attraction for him other than liking the fact that he will take care of her kids. you can't have just any man when you are in a vulnerable state like this.’s testosterone levels drop drastically after 40-45, and so do men’s libido, erection quality, and sexual performance overall (of course, there are huge individual differences). is  not attacking attacking is whats happening to men around this country paying for kids who are not there own biological kids being forced by the justice system in the court rooms  to pay for other mens kids statistics show 90 percent of alimony goes to women and thats counting women who make other man pay  for their children all it takes is for this single mothers to prove he took cared of the kids took them to school bought them things and bam she has you paying for another mens kids men!  for one thing, many times the parents live hours away. she married her bad boy bf at 19 because “he was just so hawt! but like jb states, you need to look very, very carefully at the situation as to how this woman came to be single while having children.  i won’t go so far as to say that men age better, even though that is my perception when i look around, but i also understand that since i do not look at men in a sexual light, i might be more critical of women’s looks, since i am judging them on suitability to be a mate…and rejecting the vast majority. knows, if you put the stress of dating on the back burner, you could meet mr.  if we are to respect this idea that it is their right, then we would then have to respect the right of men to pursue and bed every single they can in his biological calling to father as many children as possible.  only to tell her that while no, dating is by no means fair, there are different but just as good options worth considering in dating or outside of dating. i’ll admit that it’s true that there are plenty of guys my age for whom that would not be possible though! if you can't even understand my argument perhaps that explains why you also can't read people enough to determine who's marriage material and who's not. “hot guy” who settles for her is giving up far more than she would be giving up if she settles for a not quite so hot guy. its sad she was banned from twitter a few times because someone accused her of being abusive. frances is so wrapped up in herself that she can’t even see it., the age old dilemma of single mothers: young hot guys only want them for sex. the betas are flushing women over to the alphas via the welfare state. that is someone who is unmarried and has had a baby. personally as a single mother the only think i look for in a man is someone who can take care of their self, will eventually settle down, and someone who loves children and can handle the fact that i already have one. i think it was because of that choice, you are where you are now. your claim about kids being raised by single mothers all turning out bad is bullshit when you look at all the successful kids who were raised by single mothers."weak men are guilted into subsidizing the bad decisions of single moms". i’m happy, and my kids dont need to compete with some stranger for my time or attention. personally, i’d rather live more freely being childless and have played it smart. there are several societal factors contributing to the vast amount of broken homes. i was raised by a single mother and occasionally my grandmother (who went the extra mile of instilling sense of shame just for being male…girls are better behaved, men start wars, blah blah). think younger women are far more open to dating, and to a lesser extent, marrying older men that some women believe. a legally married mother has just as much ability to abuse and neglect her kids, cheat on her partner, or receive welfare as a “single” mother. mom was a single mother, and i forgive her for being selfish and confused. so weak men are guilted into subsidizing the bad decisions of single moms who are able to continue their lifestyle of being with loser men. that being said, i’m not a pushover or a weak person. says that nobody questions that the original intent of feminism was and is a social good? is not murder and there is no such thing as an “unborn child.  evan is right – look for someone in their mid to late 40’s in decent shape – also divorced with kids — there are a lot of them out there. oh my god i am so ashamed of my self , so finally i told her no piece of ass is worth all this shit . i saw this video on youtube last year i came across about not dating single mothers. she is not materialist at all and even though she struggles to survive she refuses with so much pride and honour any financial help i offer. if you care more about money and social status a single mom probably isn’t for you. but its hard for single women with no kids to find husbands. while single mothers do have the ability to better themselves and the lives of their children, most often than not they are more susceptible to making poor life decisions, as harsh as it sounds., telling women they are responsible for their actions means that i'm justifying child abandonment. today most child parents are living at home, barely have a job, many except their families to care or heir children while they go off with their friends, etc, etc. so if a woman wants children they really need to get it figured out early on. i agree wholeheartedly with sense and personal responsibility, but i don’t see that a lot of judgybitch’s points are incompatible with feminism, which is, after all the radical notion that women are people. are the self-centred women who paint the innocent, sweet pictures of themselves. i think she shouldn’t give up either but if you want a relationship, it does require some time and energy. now they make themselves some sort of victim of a uncontrollable natural disaster and some kind hearted guy should help them carry the burden of their poor life choices… no thanks. have a group of above average men who prefer younger women have a meet and greet function where there are much younger women, but also women much closer to his own age.   but i then have to ask: why so you need a partner? for equal consideration, what shall we say about those men who take advantage and don’t seem to care either…that “men will be men”? are there hoardes of women running out in the 20s and getting in-vitro. up to receive new blog posts straight to your inbox:Why married couples stay married. i met a single mom who was burning the candle at both ends, trying to secure a degree in public health while raising a young daughter. women wouldn't be able to be with alpha men and get resources from beta men.“even if i really take my time getting to know someone before we become intimate… it seems that sex is all they continue to want. before anyone has something smart to say, i had my period, started it 2 days after he died. i'm sure theres a lot of simps that will step up to the challenge but a large percentage of men just arent having it. i will always believe in two parent households, but life is not candy land. you’re simply spewing ideological doctrine with no awareness or critical analysis. soon after, another video i found was another rebuttal, to point out or make clear from the criticism, it wasn’t about attacking single moms, just stating the facts. deception is always possible and it's not always easy to recognize a bluff when you first meet someone..: some questionsquentin, i agree with several of the points that you made in the article, such as the idea that many single moms initially choose men who are good looking and charismatic, but irresponsible and dead weight to the family. someone who makes terrible decisions is butt hurt cause the truth landed at her 20 year old mommy door step. just keep it in mind that the guy is likely not interested in marriage, and if you do that, you will see the signs with clearer vision, and when you see it, have an eye out for a replacement, then rinse and repeat.: 12/17/2008msg: 25why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22? don’t even get me going about the ‘bomb site’ i don’t want to go there so i will never allow a man to see/touch the nastiness. her argument seems to be that ‘not all single mothers are like that’. children from the single mothers familes who are bitter and from the young age put children against their fathers and extended families by saying shit and how unfair and shity their father was.. you’re not a feminist because you don’t think women should be able to control their own fertility such as by means of taking birth control to prevent pregnancy, pregnancy being a condition that is both damaging to a woman’s lifestyle (career, education, mobility, finances) and very life (it’s fucking dangerous. scared of these comments about using single mothers for one thing; scared i bring someone else into my son’s life who is not there forever; scared of the stories about pedophiles targeting mothers.-forward many years to today and she’s been happily married for a year with three great kids, a happy home with a great guy who didn’t see her or her single parent status as a problem. the greatest gift we give to each other, as human beings, in dating and relationship, is our time, and our undivided attention. your argument for abortion cites information that is only relevant in a society where the norms were created by people who oppose your belief. thing is - there are just as many young single fathers out there.  or maybe guys that are still attractive in many ways but had some silly deal breaker, like being short.  my best advice would be to stop dating and focus on giving your undivided attention to your children. men tended to stick around at least for a while when dad was standing there with a shotgun and generally, for every young single mother there is a single father or a father that has chosen to abdicate his rights and responsibilities. there are few men who are overjoyed to spend their blood, sweat and tears on some other guy’s genetic offspring. can't wrap my head around this actually being a real question, so i'm not going to waste my time giving a real answer. nowadays though i find not a small number of people in my work and social circles being single dads and single moms. it is so painfully bad that “you” have to start taking the child’s feelings and phsycological/emotional health into consideration because they sure as hell aren’t. i know you have no idea what "most" young parents do in any situation, so even using that phrase ignorant. the same time, i also understand that not all men will be attractive to younger women.’s best way to let a great guy know i’ve chosen someone else? i don’t think women who are so unattracted to older men can reconsider later; if they do, it’ll only be out of desperation to have a partner.  many women start reporting increasing difficulty getting dates once they pass 30, and feel invisible by 50. dating anyone involves a risk of getting swindled or hurt. these are the people with children that have the best chance for success, based on the study, and are least likely to have children that have children out of wedlock… i just find that aspect fascinating..I got dumped back on february 3rd via text message by my ex who is a single mother…i gotta say this article describes her situation to a t…. there are people who would pay for women to abort their babies, but those women are generally brainwashed feminists. older guys (i’ve also dated someone a yr younger though), it bothers me that i’ll almost certainly have many yrs alone at the end of my life (if i marry a guy many yrs older). don’t think evan is suggesting to change her type, but obviously if you keep sticking your finger in the fire and get the same results, doing something different would be a smart idea. i also believe in not bringing a child into the world in a bad situation, as i have since i was young and so i never put myself in danger of this. once the shock wears off and you get through the grief, you will start to see that this one was nothing but trouble and you are better off without her. having a child gives a woman something to succeed for. cons are in that list now as well as the ones who sit and do nothing.“instead of dating cute 34-year-old single guys who don’t have kids, how about you date cute 43-year-old guys who are in the exact same spot in life, who understand your predicament, who have obligations of their own, and who will be delighted to meet a woman who gets them. hasn’t spent a night with his daughter in two years, even when the mom asks if he can take her so she can pick up an extra shift or two at work. these bitches have hurt our economy so much its effecting care our senior citizens get (its horiffic! yeskids, holidays such as christmas are going to be much more expensive, not to mention more birthdays. we live with my dad but i pay for everything my son needs/wants and i personally don’t think any single parent (never married) should date with kids under 18. all single parents whom reading this comments, it’s about preferences. i know it’s different for the woman in this case because she has children, but i just want to say that i think it sucks that women are expected to compromise on age all the time.’m curious about single mothers who were married to lying, cheating, drunk men who leave them for the next best thing? i have thought so much on how i could have made it different so my son would have his parents together. own sister had massive psychological and emotional problems due mainly to the abusive boyfriends she had in her life who would fuck about with her in many ways. another thing is families who are excepting of their child having a child.‘…i’m sorry but i’m catholic and could never abort my child…’. are unfortunately a lot of emotionally stunted men and woman , people go in i would hope to believe with good intention, some with hidden agenda’s planted in the back of there undeveloped mind’s . the topic being the advice to men that men should not date single mothers.“that is like urging someone to settle which no-one should do.. really there’re al the same most of them have mental issues and just plan to see how long you will put up with there shit before you bounce out . so therefore bitches can say whatever they want and we aren’t lawfully allowed to shut them up, but we can ignore them and choose to surround ourselves with people who are more open minded.” in other words, not only are you not helping me out, but you’re not helping yourself out either. now kids are important, yes, but not more important then your spouse, and if you forget that, well, look for the divorce paperwork. women without children don’t want to get involved with a man with children anymore than men not wanting to get involved with single mother. figueroa: > you can't just blame a@ashamed to be a man right now (view comment)you can't just blame a woman for choosing a man that does something terrible.  you seem to be absolutely certain  ( from what i can tell ( that if a young woman is not interested in much older men ( let`s say 15+ yrs or so) that she is doomed to couharhood. you sort of end up making a choice (either consciously, or sub-consciously) that money, fame, etc. the hormonal ingredients of the so-called birth control pill are listed as a carcinogen by international medical experts yet feminists hold women in so much contempt that feminists believe they can bully women into ignoring the science by bellowing “is not” when scientific fact goes contrary to feminist whim. visiting her apartment for about 30 mins, we set off to find a place for me to stay because as you know she was a single mother and didn’t want to explain to her five year old son where this strange man came from. she is trying to steer the discussion away from the unbalanced risk reward of a relationship with a single mother. single guys in their mid-30s who want to have their own biological kids in four years don’t. in the summer before my senior year at high school i’m told she has fallen in love with a man who lives about 5hr drive away and we would be moving to his town so she could be with him. most of these women treat their children like second class citizens or inconveniences to their dating lives, they shouldn’t had them in the first place if that was so important. yes, i would absolutely advise men to stay away from her. so my advice to women who want a younger guy is to become a man in this instance. father’s day with four kids who don’t see their dads has to be comfortable…so, i’ll be just fine with my higher standards, thank you very much! old people who worked all their lives being denied proper care. too many men are not really in their families, too many men are abusive. his admission was shocking to his parents, my parents, friends, etc. older women do a lot better in the dating world vs older men. so don't let it get to your head and choose a loser. hate the idea that women are not being realistic if they expect a guy their age to fall in love with them. i assume you are not the author, thank you for answering. i am fortunate we are two states away and not close , she would absolutely destroy any mans life , sanity ) these type of woman will make you an emotional slave and try to control , manipulate you to follow there skript , sounds like fun healthy life huh ! is holding up a mirror so that she can see what her situation looks like from the other side. too many women are having to be forced to join the work force rather than being able to fulfill their best roles… and looking to remarry better and wiser somewhere down the road because of the very thing you endured…and not because they are stupid immoral skanks looking for a free ride. i can’t believe dating a single mom is so complicated. once i did start dating, i found the selection of men to be so much better. it makes me want to vomit when i wonder as a working person since 1984 just how much of my tax money has gone to some god damned lazy slut but when i was homeless or very sick i was simply turned away. and no, i’m not the guy that would ever go out with a single mom or a single women just to have sex.  women claim that all of these other things are important, and yet as i have always said, for many women, not all, but for many women, it isn’t that looks aren’t just as important as they are for men, but that they simply have even more requirements. then the answered usually with some tyrad about how terrible he was. men don’t seem to be getting told that if they’re not having any luck chasing young girls, they should focus on dating women their own age. me, i’m going to stay away from single mothers from now on if i ever feel well enough to start dating again. you are what’s wrong with this world by lumping all single mothers in together, their are single mothers out there that have bigger balls than everyone of you so called men on here.) but doesn’t the fact that many women here have high educ. knowing about their preferences weirds me out, but they promise to not make it obvious to my son and in general we get along well.: the part i take on the assholes (part 2) | complicated rules for dating my single mother(). i just want a friend and a companion and someone who i have chemistry and intellectual compatibility with. why are you even having children when you're not married or committed to this person to help raise your child? it’s not because you are bad or your kid is bad or because you are used, it’s just all the baggage of that kid’s other dad and that kid’s other grandparents and all those complications. he cheated on me with our teenage baby sitter) and my husband who was a single dad of three children.: 6/30/2008msg: 6view profilehistorywhy are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22? if you don’t know about god, scott, simply say “i don’t know” or take the philosopher wittgenstein’s advice: of which you cannot speak, pass over in silence.’s like saying if you are married with children you should give up on intimacy, love, support and romance and sleep in different rooms because your focus should be on your children not your selfish, personal needs. i’m also emotionally secure and my kids are fine and happy.

Why are there so many single mothers on dating sites

point is that does not worth it, for a single childfree man, to date a single mom. while she was in prison she kept promising to sign adoption papers but never did.  why would they take on such huge responsibility if they could find someone else without that responsibility? it doesn’t change the fact that most women do not want to date someone who is out of their age range by more than 5-7 years. another note i am curious judgybitch where do you stand on the single mothers who have chosen to give a better life to a child through adoption? and only god fearing good christian women are against it, right? lot of women are posting on here asking men not too be judgemental. think your views are brash and, only by today’s standards, controversial (makes for good blogging i suppose). the way i feel about her, it makes that love seem weak and pale in comparison. if so and if you want to be more respectful knock that shit off! if someone is determined to be uneducated and live off welfare, they're going to do so at any age.  in both cases, they will in some ways treat that man as if he is guilty. before i met my husband, he dated a single mom with a child. are already reeling from their parents’ dysfunction, and they need that extra attention mom is giving to xyz men.  now, you can get all mad and angry about it, or recognize that it is real and there. would give anything for every one of those women to have had an extra 10 to 20 years on them, yet be just like they are. you're c very black and white in your views, and this subject has a bit of gray area. by the way, even though i’m 40, i get hit on and asked out by young 20 something’s regularly…. not already obvious, i’m a single mother myself (dad is still in picture, living in another state and in college) & though we’re not together this has not affected my child’s life whatsoever. there is no indication that this woman is on government assistance. man, i guess my mom should have just aborted me so i wouldn’t have ended up so fucked up. what i am saying is that yes, in the majority of cases, it is the men who are chasing after the younger women with little bags of candy.“children of single mothers do poorly on every imaginable scale: they have more emotional problems, experience more stress, are more likely to grow up poor, they have lower educational achievements and experience way more behavioral problems than children who grow up with married parents. you are thinking of putting your precious prong into a chamber where a child has been poisoned, ripped, torn, suctioned out? people are conditioned left and right and centre from day 1 that sex is fine with someone you don’t really love or know. if you know your partner has a bad history, why would you breed with this person? would say that children of gay couples know their family is different, but it’s still a family with two parents. mothers are clearly really, really bad at making life decisions…….  too many people act as if they have forever to find the right person.’s going to be a while before i try dating someone else, if i ever do. abortion is also anti man because it will always be something women who are married can do in secret and husbands will be continuously lied to all around the united states and have no idea a woman is killing a fetus that is equally his. it was not my son’s fault that his father was a disgusting pig who couldn’t control his impulses and i wasn’t going to kill him for that. so a few years did not make a difference in how i lived my life. of a small catholic school and because of her nature many of the young kids seem to go to her when they need a little help or advice. when i’m 40, i will likely be most attracted to other 40-somethings. the shit that babies are everywhere and unwanted is bull. am single mom and still managed to graduate from the university of az, with my masters. i found out from her county that she or her husband ever filled for a legal separation or divorce ( public records don’t lie ) i wish i would have thought to investigate sooner , i could have saved my self alot of b. is it that people who know the least are the ones who act like experts. marry someone with kids, you become a step father or mother. as to me looking my age, i don’t have an issue with that because i put it there for you to see so it of course informs your mind and influences. probably know that in order to have a full life (balancing family and career etc)  you need to be extremely well organized, and have schedules for everything, including for example for dates two evenings per week. at least the later one kept her offspring alive and there is a lot more respect in that to me. girls tend to have self esteem issues and boys tend to have anti social issues. too many “strong” women have a problem with compromising because they are so afraid of being walked on. eventually she did get one because it was just too much to suddenly be thrust into parenthood with a girl i’d known for a few months, but it took an awful lot of tender convincing. picky women-statistically the pickiest in the country- and having unrealistic standards,even female dating coaches are frustrated. only exceptions might be widowed and widowered single parents with infants who are in need of another parent to help them raise their tiny babies. that doesn’t mean i have to like it or that i or christina should have to suppress who we attracted to because maybe, just maybe there are some guys out there that break the mould., my opinion is that a single mom or single dad, even if widowed or widowered should generally not date while their children are young and living with them. you don’t get everything you want, ever, why would you expect dating to be any different? too many seem to think a woman is just a vagina with some silicone around it. graduated hs at 17, college degree by 20 & independently supporting (in my own condo) me & my daughter (who’s incredibly bright for her age) gives me way more pride than the unhappily married couples who stay together “just because they made a kid together” and feel the need to adapt to societies expectations of a normal household all the while they’re making their kids suffer and stress over their own relationship issues. now it feels like i’ve been given a glimpse of how beautiful life is, just so that i’d know exactly how good i can feel, then kicked back into my fog so that i can have the pain of knowing what i’m missing. to each his own, as i have said i am not a single mother so i am not defending myself to your judgemental ways just having my own opinion which is clearly not welcome to close minded fools. think i’m hot but my boyfriend doesn’t seem to think so.  though not impossible, she should follow evans advice to give her the best chances rather than hope that men will suddenly change and find single moms super desirable for a relationship. there are instances like rape or birth control failure that can result in unplanned pregnancies but not necessarily unwanted. shouldn’t quit because single men your age want sex and more time.’m realistic enough to realize that most 20 somethings don’t want to marry  man past mid 30s, and some don’t even want a man more than a few years older than they are. i assure your opinion may in fact be the majority, but who cares. at the very least, it takes an extraordinarily strong, forgiving, and mature soul who is willing to hitch their life to a wagon already loaded down with some very heavy baggage.: 6/4/2007msg: 4why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22? women over 30 are not worthless, or unattractive or whatever bs mra types want to put out. i know everest is high, but some people get up the damn thing, don’t they? then you go ahead and convince yourself they are all brilliant, caring and deeply invested in their children’s future. divorce rate is very high, so many folks date single parents. that is like urging someone to settle which no-one should do. at sometimes her son talks about his dad of which that makes me feel sad, i had introduced her to my mom but initially she didn’t like her becouse she’s got a child and my mom once asked why am i dating a women with a child while i don’t have one but according to my observation they are in good terms now . and single moms play by a different standard than married moms. mariied couple with kids isn’t a reasonable comparison at all – they’re the *couples’* kids…completely different from taking on someone else’s kids, which likely come from poor decision making (or else they’d be married with a father!  only thing is , op may not find some of these men attractive, they may have other issues, and she just may prefer the occasional fun she can have with men her age. the first person that i’ve ever love, that i’ve trusted in ten years, the second in my life, someone who made me believe that they loved me and wanted me and cared about me, basically told me, “fuck you, i don’t want you in my life. what she hears alot of is mom wouldn't wake up or there nothing in the fridge or cupboard to even muster a breaky or a bag lunch. the thugs, goons, drug dealers, criminals & etc do make their vaginas wet so that's who they procreate with. most women share my preference of not wanting to date someone who looks like he could be their father, regardless of how good he looks for his age, and how good of a job he has. this:click to share on facebook (opens in new window)click to share on twitter (opens in new window)click to share on pinterest (opens in new window)click to share on pocket (opens in new window)click to email this to a friend (opens in new window)click to share on tumblr (opens in new window)click to share on reddit (opens in new window)click to share on google+ (opens in new window)moreclick to press this!, you are far from the typical single mothers out there.  when i was hanging out on rory’s blog, there was a woman who was dating two guys. she basiclly home up with me because i didn’t seem to understand why she was so upset that winter night and that i was invalidating her feelings ? view of things and i think this is how many people think. point is that any man that doesn’t want his life ruined by the family court will indeed judge and stay clear of all single mothers. and if she’s on good terms with the ex it strongly suggests a “frivorce” making for way to many risks and downsides. i was married for ten years, have four beautiful boys under 9 and have a very fulfilling and successful career. hate spam as much as you do, therefore i will never sell, rent, or give away your email address. how many minutes a day do you see those “beautiful children? these women are smart and can figure out if they’re willing to date much older guys, and whether it’ll make them happy., it doesnt matter anyways, many women marry a rich, good guy then go behind his back and cheat with a guy who is good at laying pipe, or, they marry the good pipe layer and then go find themselves a sugar daddy. she has two teenage sons who are going off to college…imagine that! i’m sure that there are also single moms like the one you described that we should stay faaaar away from, but that has nothing to do with the fact they have a child, but with their disturbed characters.  but when someone insists women should consider older men, i assume they mean much older, since a few years older is the norm.“that is like urging someone to settle which no-one should do. left my husband because he was verbally, emotionally and sometimes physically abusive of me.!“i fell in love” single mom leaving 3 kids behind to marry prisoner. they had to know, there is no way they didn’t! my daughter grows up to be a single mother (not widowed, single), then i have failed disastrously in my job as her parent.-to-2cjoined: 1/14/2008msg: 5why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22? so instead of giving up on the whole thing – which, as you know – is incredibly shortsighted, given that you have 50 more years on this earth, how about you change focus? now, a very cute, single blond that lives on my floor was flirting with me in a major way last night. no one questions that the original intent of feminism was and is a social good. i get together with friends and other parents with children to keep everyone engaged and ensure my daughter has positive impressions at an early age. was amused to see that the recent pew research poll included without comment single moms and obese women in concluding there were only 91 marriageable men to 100 marriageable women, all in the 25 to 34 age range. or in words, you increased your chances substantially to become a single mother. right now if women are with men who are not stable it doesn't matter because the state steps in and pays for things that the man normally would pay for. people like you who claim that there is this magic recipe of finding the perfect wife by taking steps a, b and c are not grounded to reality. please beware of single mothers its not worth the risk its jsut isnt there is alot of personal experiences of men being fucked by the court systems when all they wanted was some sex and fun dont date single mothers i cant wait till some single mom here tells me not all single mons are like that haha please the moms who dont need help and have a career and money are in the few haha. stop making excuses for single moms and the decisions they make. yourself and your kids a favor – focus on showing them how you are a whole person and a whole, in tact family just the way you are. it doesnt matter if a woman has a career or not because most women are like chameleons they change based on there emotional states all the time. also don't think you're qualified to say why young women are getting pregnant and how they were sexually educated - do you?”   there’s a huge difference between something being that way, and it supposed to be that way. usually agree with your advice and male perspective but this time i felt it was an over-simplification and i wanted christina to know there were people out there who were facing similar issues. it’s very uplifting and edifying to reduce human beings down to some arbitrary ratings system. not all young men will, particularly when raised by a woman (single, or if father not engaged in the household).” if my choice and ex’s choice wasnt that this is best for my son., that you love someone that treated you so bad, is a little disturbing. i also think women who think single mothers are crazy might change their mind if they got an ultrasound of their baby. wish single parents and blended families would stop trying to put a heroic happy face on their circumstances. and finally everyone can make mistakes, just for us guys a mistake of being with the wrong girl doesn’t get us pregnant and we can get rid of it easily, whereas women are disavantaged by nature as they become pregnant and abortion has a time-limit and besides it’s psychologically a very difficult step for women. back to dating now but ive got my witts about me now regarding men with kids…. remember that we are the largest free online dating service, so you will never have to pay a dime to meet your soulmate. why do people expect women to date and even marry men they aren’t attracted to just to get themselves married? it is claimed, and there may be something to it, that some men may in fact be simply trying to date younger women for their ego, to prove to themselves that they still have it. shouldn’t quit because single men your age want sex and more time.#2, she can put an emphasis on finding a man who also has kids…preferably one who has joint custody, or full custody. of all she is smoking, stunningly beautiful, something like sophia loren in her twenties and have had the best passionate sex and intense love experience ever in my life with this woman. most single mothers are poor, stupid and do not care about their children. is a difference between initiating contact on a dating website and chasing in real life. cared for your kid when your were in high school/college? the ones that are like this are generally not truthful. take it from a 26-year-old male who is tired of his dating pool being saturated with kids. you can never say this to anybody without having them jump down your throat and talk about “moms deserve happiness too.   i’ve lived through your situation and my children are now in their 20’s. korean war and world war ii friends who fought for americas freedom and i sure as hell feel more for these heros over some horny lazy piece of trash! of that small minority, single parents need to buckle down and pour everything they’ve got into their damn kids! my mother taught me about personal responsibility, integrity and work ethic. like judgybitch wrote above – single moms are a screaming red light, for this reason.  the fact is you have to understand statically what evan is saying, it’s not all of them but if she is able to make small changes to meet her dating goals that can bring great results.. i am not technically a widow but from reading this article i would be “classified” as a single, no good, money hungry, slut of a mom. grow the fuck up and don’t let some judgemental bitch tell you who you should or who you shouldn’t date. my son tried to tell me i should get married like daddy. my mother has been a single mother for the last 22 years pretty much(since she had me). i would also be interested to know the ages and how many kids these responders actually have! is an emotional topic so i expect the replies to this article to be emotional too. that really sucks guys i couldn’t even imagine being stranded like that anthony i didn’t even like being away at college in a state i didn’t know let alone to travel for some who doesn’t even have the courage to tell you the truth to your face. take care of a baby who was born with herpes. if you are 50, and a 39 year old man falls in love with you, will you tell him that it would be creepy for you to date him? problem with you saying these things is that men who want to abandon their children for selfish reasons read this and think "he's right - i'm an alpha and she should have known i would leave".“don’t sacrifice who you are because the guys you’be dated so far don’t have the maturity to handle your situation. there’s a name for doing the same thing again and again and expecting different results, it’s called insanity. the point of the article is highlight the irresponsibility of single moms in general,though few of them are sensible.: 2/4/2006msg: 18view profilehistorywhy are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?  just keep dating the same types of guys she does presently, and hope that she eventually finds one that will look past her kids., i love the anger from some commenters – seems you’re hitting close to the bone on some issues! outside of that she is not needed, so donot go and fool yourself into thinking otherwise and as trac says ” dealing with us western women” dealing with anything is simply a choice . don’t sacrifice who you are because the guys you’be dated so far don’t have the maturity to handle your situation. the risks are far, far too high and the rewards are much lower. is it really this difficult to find a sweet person to share your life with and just have fun ? people who confuse being safe with giving their children permission when they will make the decision regardless of the consequences is a parent that doesn't really care about preventing the unwanted/unplanned pregnancy. think what you are saying about single moms and divorced single moms isn’t right. you appear to be one of the divorced moms she mentioned at the top of her piece — divorced without the divorce. the ones who want (more) kids at 50 are ah’s and steer clear of them.  i am saying that for any man, with any woman who has a daughter, there is risk there whether he acknowledges it or not. saddens me that people look down on single mothers so frequently.  but realistically, that’s what any man who has a relationship/marriage with you will be – a father figure for your kids – whether or not they already have a father, and whether or not you provide the lion’s share of the income. but i wonder…when you and your friends hit 45, maybe 50, will you think it’s creepy for an older person to date or marry a younger person? i bet the 43-year old single mom of four kids with three babydaddies at a previous job that a coworker tried to set me up with (“oh, she’s a good woman, so treat her right! at the very least, however, i have learned a lot about judging a person earlier on, who i am and what i want, and that things require effort and work and communication. i know grammar nazi’s are annoying, but if no one points out the mistakes, then they’ll never go away! are 2 main reasons as to why most single moms are single:They picked a loser to begin with. if every person didn’t go for a single mom, then women would stop looking around after dating a jerk while friendzoning the good guys. no one of us has planned to be where we are rasing child in my case a boy on our own and you say how can woman rase a man? but in todays society a single man is better off health wise staying single. i see that as the big risk in dating a single mother, or divorced mother. was going to try to keep this post somewhat positive and peaceful but this kind of negativity and discouragement to rise above hardships is just downright disrespectful. if you read her post, you can tell she doesn’t want to stop dating. was basically juggled from one poisonous parenting figure to another over my childhood, but, through no ones choice but my own, i ditched my family like a hot sack of shit. she took her son and sold him for 10 thousand dollars and took the underage girls out of state.

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i work 50 hours a week in the medical field, go to school part time, and parent both of my kids full time. some just might be off the scale crazy, will key your car, stalk you and have emotional breakdowns that would even scare charles manson.'s disturbing to me at least to see so many single mothers so young on this website and they seem perfectly content being a mother at such a young age.  as i said, she has options, but only she can determine if those options are something she is willing to accept. i am so blessed to have my happy healthy son who just got accepted to michigan state for mechanical engineering.) on a slightly unrelated note, have most pple given up on soulmates? try troll “karen” you might want to change your gravatar before pretending to be a woman and spamming about all the sex average old women get from young hot studs. and unwed mothers are grabbing up the single childless men and using them and jading them. your facts straight before you go poisoning any young minds. evan and others have pointed out over the years, women are the gatekeepers of sex and men are the gatekeepers of commitment. i can’t listen to music because every song reminds me of her.  i do disagree with the one-sided statement that women are “supposed” to be more selective. but then i met a guy on a forum who has been single most of his life, lonely, 10 years older.  don’t be surprised when you are a 60 year-old never-married man. let me tell you what are a few benefits of dating single mothers. this person shouldn’t be writing anything at all … so is best if child is grawing with both but sees abusive father, sees him treating his mom like shit ? in fact, the only people i know who perpetually bleed the system are well over 40.  i’m sure you could find someone who ticks off all your checkboxes, given enough time, but what if it takes you ten years? women outnumbering single men in the eastern cities & single men outnumbering single women in the western cities, relationships, 666 replies. perspective on your situation is that, as evan wrote, you will have a tough time finding what you want with someone your own age (early to mid 30’s), and that your experiences are not unexpected (unfortunately). i will always tell women to go ahead and chase the young guys if all they are after is fun. she works her ass off and got an early childhood education certification mostly so she could raise her children better. the state has replaced the man for single moms and it has allowed them to make decisions which promote their single mom lifestyle.) life happens, and we need to have grace and compassion for people who end up parenting outside the umbrella of marriage. she has had a happy, successful and productive life so far. that is to say, these children are destined to fail from the very beginning because they have been placed in a category outside of societal normalcy.. you’re not a feminist because you oppose abortion care, even though you know that blocking safe access to it gets women, who unlike fetuses are actual people, killed. single mother dropped out of college to care for me. he ended up marrying someone who was a few years older than him (and catholic, and conservative).  but then, i know a lot of girls who did marry guys even less than 1 year age difference who express great sexual interest in some older men. this is a problem with how people are bought up and conditioned. pour yourself a dry martini, stack some brubeck, and remember–these men and women are entertaining you with their dribble for free! while i agree with some points made… this “just me” character is just asinine! raising children alone can be smarted then taking care of a lazy ass man that wants life given to him and a woman to wait on them hand and foot, so think twice before lump us all together. my older brother, my father and my son all have a great relationship with each other. that doesn’t mean somebody won’t be offended at what i say. feminists believe killing is “care” and that women are too stupid to know better. stating that they are better than single or divorced mother is just as judgemental as stating that all single mothers are the lowest of the low on the dating totem pole.!…her father offered to move her and her daughter to florida…she says to my sister “i want a job or drive, i have to take care of my daughter”…my sister just shook her head in disbelief. dumped always sucks but honestly, this lady sounds pretty heartless. you say sounds very meaningful and it is pretty much along the lines of what evan preaches on this blog – kindly let the man know that you are not interested in random sex, and it will weed out the players. they both use each other to their own advantage and have no desire to create something stable or long term. i don’t enjoy always having to do things by myself like going to parents evening and the bloody pta. the last boyfriend she had (20yrs older than her) began dating her when the youngest was 2. now novel length so i’ll write something else at the end of the comments. it’s a ticking time bomb with a solo mother. can agree that children of single moms can have a tough life, but i don’t think that means they should be killed in-utero. 1 of 35    (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35)it's disturbing to me at least to see so many single mothers so young on this website and they seem perfectly content being a mother at such a young age. i guess the point that i was trying to make is that it is unfair that it is considered perfectly acceptable by our current cultural standards for older men to chase after women who are 10+ years their junior. and the real situation is the only real reason that a man needs a woman today is to have a child. then you introduce something that is not only completely unnatural, but also diametrically opposed to the beliefs of the people by which the “normal” family is modeled, namely, abortion. the warning signs were all there yet they got knocked up by these losers and ended up becoming single mothers. although it was not my decision to get divorced, and my kids are both teenagers with their own lives/social circles, etc. i was mortified by the comments my catholic family made at the time about it bring bad enough that we never married but now i was an “official single parent” i would “ruin both our lives”. i also think the definition of owning one’s mistake should simply be “recognising your own part in something”, that doesn’t mean you cannot ask for help and you cannot hold someone else to be similarly responsible. saving from her job as a part-time sales assistant, butler was able to afford a trip to minnesota, where mosier is serving his sentence.  you think men need to wise up, but men don’t care what you think. i could work full time now and go to school full time and put my son in day care and prove myself “different. when i met him, only the middle daughter lived with him, now his very troubled 15 year old lad lives ft with him as his ex wife booted out her own son onto the streets…. if she has a younger kid boy or girl at home and there spoiled shit bags run . so when the woman is at her prime she needs to be planning on how she will use her strengths to snag a quality man. your situation is created solely by you and you alone. yes, the majority of them won’t want to take on a ‘single mom’ with 4 kids but it’s generalising because there are always exceptions to every rule. don’t spread your legs or whip it out until marriage after a good while to see if you and that person are compatible. i get the message, “i can’t have someone under my ass all the time. many of these people have personality disorders that they have to live with from childhood abuse and they cannot change and are not accepted by any christian religion. see an interesting pattern in the criticism from previous comments; the assumption that the man is looking for someone they can trap so they can abuse, and are willing to spend years on a relationship all in the hope of being able to abuse that person. he told me that the prison had been on lockdown so he had not been able to get stamps to write to me.’m sorry sophie, i thought you were advocating the unrealistic approach, but you and i agree.: 12/10/2007msg: 7why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22? what you have then are generations of children that are not only poor, but raised by single or divorced parents. so excuse me if your story, entertaining as it is, rings hollow for me and any other man who has experienced the same thing. would also advise staying off dating sites – they’re shallow and toxic. but with no college only low paying jobs are available to people live me where i’ve lived. may have been a few problems up until my early twenties (i was kind of a raging prick), but now i’m 25, attending university, earning a respectable wage, in a 7-year-long relationship with a fantastic guy, and, frankly, things are looking pretty good.  i think men are more likely to be scum in this area so i think the older women bear an unfair burden here. to make it even, even if we married, you’ll just never be more than the third most important person in my life, either”.!Teresap1020joined: 6/30/2008msg: 13view profilehistorywhy are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22? they think that if they use a condom there is no damage done. so personally i will probably never date again simply because i have ruined my sons life and i do not deserve to be “rewarded” for such behavior at all. give them some accountability for their choices and stop taking away credit from the actual married women that make favorable decisions. or that she might want to find a like-minded family man who happens to also be divorced? there is no cultural pressure for married couples to fix their problems and stay together anymore. he didn’t care about her or you enough to marry you before she came along and you were foolish enough to lay down with him deliberately trying to create another bastard and you call me assinine? oh, and for the record, he didn’t start treating me like this until our son was born.”   you are wrong that “its just supposed to be that way. my point was that while men may always continue to want young women as they age, even though they themselves could be old enough to be the girl’s father, women are different. her child has never spent a single second in a daycare facility. men of color make less money than even white women do on average, so i don’t think this is a problem with most of them. why do so many single moms want to increase government spending? if you are attracted to a woman who doesn’t care what other people think (especially judgy bitches) and holds to her faith rather than the the judgement of other people i think a single mom can be perfect for someone. think some men are put off by a woman’s profile when he is within her preferred range, but he is in the upper few years and she is showing a clear preference for younger men. i’d like to just puke thinking of that comparison. whats so bad about waiting for mr right to bring a kid in the world? imo and experience, it’s been a 50/50 on good and bad with single mothers and fathers. we are discussing young parents in this thread, not parents on welfare or parents in general.  if you want more than a couple of dates a month you are likely going to have to pay the babysitter.  with nokids i can call up spur of the moment to see if she wants to go do something. which also makes it hard to criticize working class and poor black people as a black person because when you do they believe you’re protecting white supremacy and inequality. if babysitting is problem there would be state sanctioned day care 24/7 so mommy has no excuses! course i'm generalizing, but there is truth to this generalization. think it’s a bit unfair to suggest christina has to change her type just to clinch someone.  the opinion i do hold is that because men do prefer younger women, and because men are more than willing to enter into sexual relationships with women they would never dream of marrying, that a woman who refuses to date older men, and only date younger men, is playing against the odds. that’s the problem i have with a lot of single moms, it’s always his fault or someone elses fault. and my family was more ready to bring someone new in, and so was ii.  if you ever find yourself referring to a woman whose husband died on a battlefield as a single mother, you should immediately pour tabasco sauce into your eyes, because you deserve to weep all the tears i’m certain she has. it would be interesting to see how many of our young violent criminals were raised in households i just described.. you shouldn’t be blaming single mothers , open your eyes. we hear that men are weak because they can’t handle a strong modern woman who makes more money than he does., single mothers are clearly really, really shitty at making life decisions. they talk about their “girlfriends” or “boyfriends” or the “dating scene” in general i always ask them, “and you don’t feel you’re neglecting your children and putting them at risk with this behavior? the reason that they're "single mothers" is that there is far less pressure to have a "shotgun wedding" due to the birth of a child.  absolutely, and i would expect anyone to feel the same. when i was 30 and newly single, i could go out with 3 men a week. advice, sophie, is nothing more than “do what i did”. i actually think online dating has ruined everything as it has led to far more choice and people disposing of people far more readily. i left my man when my son was 5 months old and is the best thing i ever did ! if they were all like you, there would be no issues. today the problem is young people are selfish enough to have children when they aren't stable. i do think the state needs to do more than give welfare to young people.  lumping her in with single mothers is an insult to his memory, to her and to her children. quite frankly, bree, you aren’t bringing anything interesting to this conversation at all. so, in conjunction with the next comments, i wonder if you weren’t basically beating him up-side the head with the fact that you make more money than he does (and shooting his self-esteem even more)? when you buy a new car you don’t intend to share it with a stranger every now and then good luck.  i strongly suspect that this ‘always being pressured’ argument women keep trotting out primarily originates from other women (or that person’s self-esteem or insecurity issues), not men or any media influence. i have no cell phone for a multitude of reasons., i am a man, and yet i will tell you that most men aren’t worth your time. get a dog if you’re lonely, you will find someone one day who’s not carrying around the relationship killer called a child.. people, and that women should be so immoral and without conscience as to kill innocent people. whine and moan and guilt weak men into subsidizing their bad decisions through the welfare state. note that she joined the group when she was 20, and is now 23, yet in many of her pictures she looks like she could be 12 to 14 years old. i love kids and want to have a family of my own someday. wont not go out with them, but will be really scrutinizing their relationship  as im sure not all fathers are over indulgent, emotionally guilty parents. the problem with single mothers is they shouldn’t have shagged someone who wasn’t a keeper to begin with and free sex with “no strings attached” is a damn trick that men sold women just to make them feel liberated and take all the blame once something doesn’t go according to plan. if men could sleep with women each week, compliments of the state, then do you really think there would be as many men getting married now as there are? i am a single man and want children of my own. read what i posted seven months ago , i was dealing with damaged goods and more baggage than i should have ever put up with cause the ” sex ” was so gooood . are many attractive men in their 40s , and it’s only about 10 years older, or even less. reality is it’s impossible for people in this world to not ever date a single parent giving many folks are divorced. am seriously at the point of giving up on the whole dating thing… is it too much of an ask that i could actually meet someone who can see me as a woman, and not just as mother or worse, a bit of bedroom fun? society encourages girls/women to have babies out of wedlock.  most men want a woman their age or younger, and will often go for the younger woman if he can do so, while most women want a man within 5 or 6 years of their age, a man within a few years older to 10 years younger, or a man within a few years younger to 10 years older. see what’s happening in families with both parents better . i have so much love in my heart to give. there is a definition for “species” that is very specific and about as objective as one could expect.’s easy to say, if you have a stupid, poor mother who evidently did/does not care about you. get knocked up by some kid and work the system like her and my sister before my clock stops ticking! but not anymore, ever since welfare women know theg dont need a man. he didn’t know her but she ripped him away from us so she could get all her freebie unwed mother benefits. con artist unwed mothers are no better or worse than the rest. i have also written a similar article in indian context. out what my blog can do for you, and what type of man becomes a dating coach for women. and you are a high school teacher and it took you 8 months to realize that. i look to date older men for the reason that evan stated. its not worth it, and not only is it not worth it there clearly are no incentives for any man to marry anymore. my ex had our daughter when she was 20 and i was 21, we obviously arent together anymore but i always supported my kid and she needs no help from the system. this single mother is emotionally stunted and damaged beyond repair , no little pill can fix her . if i were in my 40's and still single, i would accept the fact that there probably aren't going to be too many childless women in my dating pool.? do i need to be a nun in order to find someone who can actually see a relationship with me?? many of the comments here (not yours, specifically) are so. she is 100% loyal to me and truly loves me, since a single mom does not have time to play around but she is by default more profound and knows better to appreciate a good man, instead of 1000’s of superficial materialistic bitches without kids. men in their early to mid 30’s (and even late 30’s) are just beginning to think about settling down, and about “one day” having children. and you better make damn sure you’re good to him and do what he says, so he don’t wander off and find a prettier, younger version of you. in nature men are especially ruthless, and commonly eat their own offspring. it was also worth dating them, because it opened up additional opportunities. because single dad’s come with some serious issues of their own, that are their own faults, well meaning ones, but they create monsterous situations! this is sadly happening to some of my vietnam war. we are not judging when we choose not to hang out with someone. comment wasn’t aimed at men in general, it was aimed at the ones that think “western world women” are below their standards because the want nice little obedient women instead, don’t get your panties in a bunch. much as i hate that i was dumped back into the single life in my mid-fifties, i am glad i wasn’t single when one son was still in my care.: 10/24/2008msg: 23view profilehistorywhy are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?  and unless they get what they want, most are happy to remain single. yet, if a woman in her 30s who has kids wants to date and have a relationship, then the only real option she has is to focus on guys who are ten years older? it’s just some people can’t handle truth, some people can embrace its reality and those who can’t or refuse reality.  even the not so hot guy would be giving up a lot. i myself have determined that their own “belief” is what a personality is any way and it will not allow them to fit in with any christian religion.’m seeing a lot of “my mum was a single mum, and i turned out fine” and i’d like to agree. so now,if what’s her face movie star remarries, she should look for someone with kids, imo not a single man.

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and how the government is taking assistance away from veterans and elderly so we can take care of princess sow and her brood.  there are exceptions to any rule though, and maybe you will be one of the lucky ones to get that exception. to be fair, no one is psychic, male or female, and abusers don’t start abusing while there is still a chance or opportunity for the woman to leave the relationship.  i think we also agree that it is up to each individual, what they do, but it helps if you are realistic in your choices. said that, i have little respect for women who spread their legs, get pregnant and become single moms hoping to snag a man or to get ebt cards filled and free medical benefits…i have seen and paid for too much of that via my taxes for their “entitlement” mentality…and hopefully, there are plenty of men still left who use are able to use their brains to know the difference…. there are many single moms that do work and have decent if not good jobs making a median income. there is no way in hell you left your son at home alone and worked at mcdonalds and paid your way thru school without help., if i read your post correctly, a widowed mom is not the same thing as a single (i. we share two beautiful children who are raised well by both of us (but yes not together). she just has to find some that she thinks are attractive. think women believe stereotypes about foreign women because it is comforting to do so. i’m pretty sure that you do not live a bubble where all the men you have met who got married to a single mother live a miserable life. my problem with her trac is her even using her faith to back-up her actions and using the catholic church as her reason and bragging about hee success at her choice is my particular problem with single mom.’s quite a story and i’m very sorry this is happening to you. its being taken out on our elderly because the baby makers are abusing the system so much that were running out of money here. frankly, considering that i usually walk through life in an unfeeling haze, i’m surprised that i was able to do so at all. you meet a divorced single mother, immediately start looking for the flaw. lot of them have visions of marrying the guys they're with at the time, so to them unprotected sex isn't so bad. this is that single mom who shits on the nice guys (like you) because that’s not how she really wants to be treated. say the darndest things and there are lots of idiots who believe them. if you sit on the sofa and watch tv all day and every day, you'll become fat. and to say having a heroin addiction is a better option is absolutely insane. are an ignorant person and i see no value in attempting to open your eyes to the real world. thay make child fors child to make a choise between parents making child believe that if he s gona choose 50-50 or dad he will automatically “betray” the mother. i wasn’t offering advice per se; merely shared understanding and support.. you’re not a feminist because you don’t think women are capable of making their own decisions and only do what men want. she is 34 with a masters degree , lives with her parents that she says don’t really show love to her and never have, her mom agording to her mad her feel worthless her whole life also . this is coming from the same person who published an article saying "hitler was actually a great guy". can someone please, please just point out one definitive source? it’s always the fault of the working class/lower middle class who are required to be aspirational and spend money otherwise the economy would dry up. when they broke up he stopped seeing the girl but slowly came back while we were dating. ultimately, all i wanted from that single mom was to hook up, because that’s all i felt she could give me. men tended to stick around at least for a while when dad was standing there with a shotgun and generally, for every young single mother there is a single father or a father that has chosen to abdicate his rights and responsibilities. believe that the majority of men are not interested in marrying a woman more than a year or two older, and the vast majority are not interested in long term when she is older by more than a few years. to mention there’s this whole affair of, you know, being in love. therefore, it’s all the guys fault: “all they want is sex”. she wouldn’t feed her kid a proper lunch unless someone was watching. not having others take care of you and your kids. understandable, no reason to involve random men in the boy’s life if you’re not sure. 1,000 questions already answered:search for:Ask evan: ask me a dating question. new baseline is now that men are abusers and you’re happier without them. i think she is better off dating men who are in their 40s and are divorced and already have children, like 1 or 2. very smart, great personality, but had anger issues, and there was constant bickering and fighting with her sister.  a great wife and mother places the needs and happiness of her husband and children above her own needs, and in doing so, finds her greatest happiness.  there is a big difference between having the right to be attracted to a certain type of person and actually being able to date such a person. i’ve seen horrible single fathers, and of course some very selfish and irresponsible single moms as well. the ones who open the fetal factory for a career choice. while you list her dysfunctional choices in baby daddies and other areas of her life as “red flags” you cite her looks and sexual nature as positive things.  then they started dating, ended up married and now have kids.  so the question is, why can’t you find love? but you musn’t accept any fucked up person in your life, in a general sense. don’t get offended, 40somethings, yet to 20somethings you are more of the old people – thats a whole generation apart and parents of 20somethings are most likely just several years older than you are. a friend at work has moved in with a man who has his kids 50% of the time and that’s hard enough, but it would be challenging to say the least to have someone else’s children around always. they do not want to learn anything new – and will twist everything to confirm what they already believe so they don’t have to go to any trouble like thinking or analyzing. i'm not saying that there are no young parents who do the same, but i'd rather my taxes go to someone who needs a leg-up, than someone who waited until she was 30 to have kids and can't even claim ignorance. think the numbers concerning the above lead to that misunderstanding because there are more women who might be open to marrying an older man, but don’t do so because they meet their husband in high school, college, or other activities that filter people by age. your statements are generalized and not based on any certainties. none of the available pills seem to work, and some of them make it worse, as hard to believe as it is.  while she may in fact find some guy who overlooks all of that, the odds are stacked heavily against her. waiting to have kids until late twenties to early 40s is a purely modern thing brought on by women's desire to be career oriented. i’d rather help out our veterans who are protecting us and coming home shunned or with missing limbs. if you ask the children, the children overwhelmingly want a man and a woman as parents. first husband had one child, and i happily filled the role of step mother, and over 30 years later, he (my step son) and i  stay loosely in touch. i may not have a 10″ salami, “hawt” or tall, but i do have my freedom and that’s something a single mom can not give, but take away.  i do not think 30 something women are worthless, nor do i think 40 or 50 something women are worthless.  but because the sex comes so easily to her, she does not see what she does have. your ex shares custody and gives you weekends off, but i think we can all agree that women with four kids have less available time than women without four kids. there were no pregnant teens because they were not allowed to attend high school and many fewer actually earned their high school diplomas as a result. adoption is the best choice to make if two prospective parents can’t make a commitment to each other. shows like playing house make it look nice and women like our beautiful hollywood celebrity unwed moms make it seem normal.  but that last thing would be very difficult to arrange with someone in the early stages of a relationship, because people prefer to get to know each other little by little and in a spontaneous rather than in a strictly planned manner. don’t hear from him for days, i assume it’s over…then a text with, “hey are you home tonight? of prison and then has to pay her 18 years of child support. i had the guilty thought when she went into surgery, that i secretly hoped she would die of a complication, because that kid was so well behaved with mom not around that i could see how being a parent could be fun and rewarding again. we do not want to give our, usually, hard earned resources to another man’s child. something that drove another man to pledge his undying love to her, to have and to hold, from this day forth, and then sometime later decide “fuck this shit. do some online chatting with a whole assortment of different women. not many children of single mothers turn out like you. you’re just as guilty so be responsible for your part in procreation. just makes me think a)yeah i do think i’m a gd enough person that other guys will like me, b) even if nobody else wanted me, i still wouldn’t wanna be with u. knowing she was dead broke, in debt, 3 men in her life and a lot of drams with the kids and all three are on medication. some of them didn't even acknowledge the fact that they had a kid out there.  something that drove another man to pledge his undying love to her, to have and to hold, from this day forth, and then sometime later decide “fuck this shit. bottom line there are lots of us single mams out there. i see a lot of women on her, such as jenn trying to convince us that all women are creeped out if an older man shows interest. thank you for responding, and am sorry that your situation went as it did. my comment i said “there are huge numbers of people running and worshipping with the pagan religion.  sigh, ok let’s just get all the buzzwords out there now. boys are likely to end up with criminal convictions and girls are likely to end up single mothers themselves, thus repeating the whole cycle.  but keep in mind, it takes two to tango  when you are 50, you can prefer a 50 year old guy all you want, but the reality is this…the men who are desirable tend to prefer women at least a little younger. you are demonizing the only parent that actually stayed to raise the kid. women absolutely need to realize that having another mans child makes them far less attractive to attractive men their age with options! more than once i have had women who were 10+ years younger pursue me for relationships, and continued to do so while knowing my age. i don’t want to do the lunches, soccer, and other time consumption activities that may be required not to mention he has alimony and child support payments, along with college funding. the women i’m talking about aren’t even common law..and women wonder why there’s thousands upon thousands of escorts and rub n’ tugs here. sure, i make mistakes from time to time but who doesn’t as a parent. after i had my son, i went back to school, got my nursing degree and am now a rn making ,000 a year. this woman played the victim role real well too, i you ever feal something is wrong , that’s your gut/ intuition trying to save your ass from misery and it’s my fault for not listening to myself . of this is a little disheartening; however some is true. don’t reproduce then because here’s a wake up call; the kids should always come first whether you are a single parent or not. also think that if you are older, it is much more likely for your partner to cheat, or leave you for somebody younger and fitter, if you marry somebody younger.  dating as a single parent is not for the faint of heart. however if a single man with options should in general avoid single moms of all flavors, meaning divorced and kids out of wedlock, he will do much better for himself in general. the ones i’m talking about are single/never married who have unteen kids all with different last names. my son is very well off with no emotional or mental instability and had none for the three years he was raised by just me. most single mothers are single mothers because they are selfish, stupid and uncaring. in that age your choices are multiple, why consider someone twice older? feel played, because i wouldn’t have put myself into this so much if she hadn’t told me she loved me. i may have had unprotected sex before marriage but at least i was engaged for a while before hand and i’m sorry but my priest will take a “bastard” as you called her over abortion on any day…. they are always very honest that it is my age that has changed their desire for a relationship.’t want to sound mean but here’s actual proof that getting married under 25 doesn’t last (as evan is always pointing the stats for getting married young). some women might take on a guy with 4 kids, but many wouldn’t. sorry if i’m defensive, i was told for 12 years that i was a subhuman by my husband. and to sophie’s comment, as a single woman with no kids, i wouldn’t take on a man with four kids, so i totally get the letter writer’s dilemma.*standing ovation*…"stacy on what is the best online dating site? harsh as it is, from my experience, women i know with happy marriages, strong families and loving husbands - or wives - are the ones who chose stable, high quality partners over low life losers. after that, make some short and casual dates (coffee, lunch, etc. sorry but you need to direct your blame to the right culprit. there is nothing bad or wrong with a women or man who doesn’t want to date someone with a large amount of kids, you just have to meet the one who is at that stage of the game/ similar life experience and or circumstance and like evan said most (not all) 34 year old men are not at that stage yet. if she had a babysitter she wanted to spend time with her friends, i guess because i was there when the kids were around. also says in the “single fathers just say yes” article that men who are fathers are the embodiment of responsibility, but i think that if a woman feels as though she morally cannot kill her offspring, has the same embodiment of responsibility as a single father. we share custody of our son, whom (luckily for him) ex sees as a piece of himself, so he’s safe from the wholesale scorn and denigration that i got.   because i assure you that when you are 50, the 47 to 53 year olds aren’t going to be nearly as smitten with you as you would like…not the ones you want anyway., i am getting most of the attention from 20 and 30 somethings.> ” i work 50 hours a week in the medical field, go to school part time, and parent both of my kids full time”. i assume your son has his fathers last name and you have your last name. if you are a mother and you are collecting child support, you are not a single mother. some of those men even if they are not married or dating the woman, want and should get rights to their babies but they do not., i agree with u on some stuff, but how many times do u have to tell us that many older men prefer younger women? why are you having children with men who are not marriage material? think that’s what some other women feel when it comes to significantly older men. they are usually, but not always, a combination of balding, overweight, graying, hairy in every place other than their head, and wrinkled. you’re a misogynist and it’s clear in your comment.  depression, suicide, drug abuse, jail and psychiatric medications are all more common in populations of children raised by single mothers.  remind him that you are the one in his corner and so deserve better, then walk away. winter night i told her , maybe i am not the guy for you and she sobbed saying noooooo the sex is so good . tell that to all the trendy liberal girls who are leaving there borderline gay hipster boyfriends and making babies with black criminals. a single parent really shouldn’t look great (outside of a naturally occurring beauty such as facial symmetry). married women don't seem to have a problem figuring this out, somehow it's only the single moms who can't quite put their finger on it. this is why the mrm is a lost cause, it’s mostly supported by white men and black men simply don’t care to support it. i’ve been iffy and sometimes depressed with this article but you know – i should be. single moms don't know what a quality man looks like., look at any statistics you like about outcomes for children of married parents versus children of single mothers. thanks for killing the hope before i even started dating…. far too many guys who are 10, 15, or even 20+ years older than me have contacted me as well. i am very not jealous, but i have no desire to be with more than the person i love. i also understand that we tend to judge the world based on our small little box that we live in. generally speaking, dating a single mother is huge pain in the neck. there are qualitative differences between widows, divorced mothers, and single mothers.! because society grants these idiots instant victim status they get away with blue murder. i think once you are over this, you’ll be glad she’s gone. when i divorced, irreparable differences, ive prisoned myself as a singlemom status, wont date till the kid is 18.  the men of this country aren’t going to read what jenn says and say, “well golly gee, she’s right, we should change our ways. free 24/7 daycares state ran only for when mommy is at work so she can’t use the “i can’t find a babysitter” as an excuse. after having lunch and unable to find a open hostel, she excused herself claiming she needed to pick up her son from daycare. as adults we need to be responsible for our actions or decisions and unless there is a medical, mental, or age issue don’t expect society to pay for our decisions! f…"emily, the original on what’s best way to let a great guy know i’ve chosen someone else?. of all races, have become more open to dating women of other races. i find that laughable considering the amount of dating profiles written by men my age who state under the kids heading that they’d either “prefer not to say”, “probably not”, or “no, i don’t want kids”. wanting a pussy so big it can take a fist or worse one both hands can go in easily and they can clap!  in short, just because we want something doesn’t mean we will get it. are all first drafts, so feel free to nitpick my grammar. then i missed her daughter so i went to see her at the bus stop. met a single mom 2 years ago, who decided with her ex to have a baby and the guy left her when it was already too late to do abortion.. am i considered someone who puts my own happiness in front of my child’s? does it matter to you whether a man decides to date a single mother? i wasn’t very likely too but i have thought about it if a single mother who i found sexy was available.: tough love for single dudes considering single moms | honor dads().  plus, with them being so young, what you can watch at the movies is greatly reduced. most important dating advice you’ll ever hear – don’t do anything. any single parent who spends money on “looking hot”, and this includes gym membership for the dads as well as makeup and what-not for the moms, is spending money that should be going to their children on themselves in hopes of attracting someone so they can spend time away from their kids..: some questionsquentin, i agree with several of the points that you made in the article, such as the idea that many single moms initially choose men who are good looking and charismatic, but irresponsible and dead weight to the family. woman who cares so little about her children, her own prospects, and her future husband is not going to make a great wife. say that you’re not but others on this thread are such as with dave in his reply to frances, which you agreed with him on. a woman would take on a guy with 4 kids and hopefully the world will one day change so that the same is true vice versa.  the children of single mothers have already been wounded so deeply by the lack of a father. deception is always possible and it's not always easy to recognize a bluff when you first meet someone.

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i think that it's a narrow point of view to judge someone and feel they have that right simply based on a circumstance. your post sounds just like a child who objects to being made to face some adult consequences of her lifestyle choices. a single parent who openly expresses a “sexual” nature is shameful. i totally understand that a woman who is just being friendly to me might just say i look younger to be nice, so i never put much stock in it. i’ve made myself a fool in front of the community that we were a part of, so i’m getting off of there for at least a good six months. but this woman, like so many others, will prolly never grow-up and take responsibility for her own behavior. hey if our government can force healthcare on people that can’t afford it and that doesn’t violate our rights then forced sterilization of freeloaders shouldn’t be a rights violation either. sequence of events is out of order some, so bear with me. you’ve showed that you care more than anyone in my life but my siblings. by your tone i think you protest too much and that you are an unwed mother who needs spayed do you stop leechiing off our tax dollars! where i lived that was the ” just me” person… minimum wage where i live is practically an hour.’s a risk to dating a single mother whose ex is still in the picture. to trac men are entitled if they discuss the likely consequences of having a relationship with certain types of women and choose to avoid such extreme risks.  the okcupid results showed that women are actually more critical of looks, but yes, since they are also critical of other things, they will give guys a chance that they find less attractive than their preference. i let her stay because it was late and i figured what the hell we all have baggage maybe i was being to hasty , she has a 12 year old son and my girl is six , my gut told me she was moving way to fast because when she was jumping up and down on my bed she screamed if i didn’t care for you i would have stayed in ohio or found someone thae . it is a sacrifice but we had both agreed married it was for the best, so what would changing it say, really? society holds a judgemental attitude for just about all of us in someway, whether you are a single parent, of a particular religion, a different nationality or the career path (or lack of it) you have chosen, sexuality…. so your definition, rather stereotype of a single mother would be someone who was never married, unemployed, lives off government, and whose children have an absentee father, or at least one who is nothing more than a check in the mail. grandmother was a divorced single mom that was abused by her first husband. rather than look for a long term man to eventually marry and create a life with single moms don't look for long term men. i know for a fact that there are many women who prefer older guys.: 1/16/2006msg: 17view profilehistorywhy are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?: the truthwomen need to think beyond penis size and swag, something most women seem unable to do. it sounds like divorced women scare the hell out of men!  whichever way she phrases her attitude about nsi sex, there is no way to negotiate with a man to overlook the responsibilities she would have as a single mother of four kids. people won't agree with your article because like most other people who make bad decisions, it's easier for them to blame society and "bad luck. is one guy (online dating) that tells me he works away for 2 weeks and comes home for  2 weeks and has his 3 boys ft during that time….  while you are right that western women are “more selective, harsh, and unforgiving on looks, physique, status, confidence, etc ?  i have seen many women do this and then say that it was the best relationship they’ve ever been in. my experience its tough being a single guy with no kids dating a single mom. there are good single childless women out there that would love to have a relationship with you with a clean slate. there are more fish in the sea – convince yourself of this first.  is it flattering to find a young twenty something attracted to me? picked a good man and he left cause she scared him away. many single mothers are in fact the product of a broken marriage. this type of behavior rarely arises sua sponte,I couldn’t agree more.  it is just many  women will overlook appearance in favor of other qualities.  children of single mothers do poorly on every imaginable scale:  they have more emotional problems, experience more stress, are more likely to grow up poor, they have lower educational achievements and experience way more behavioral problems than children who grow up with married parents. also this whole article focuses on not just the “unwed baby factories” but the divorcees as well, i am just as much against the women who pop them out for a pay check as you are, but my issue is with the ones who are raking the divorcees and the sperated common-law women over the coals. meanwhile your comments end up rubbing it in to women that we’re devalued by some men based on smthg that we can’t help. we do not develop emotional attachments to children as easily, and there’s nothing that can change that instinct. my favorite tv shows are all unwatchable, because they all have something that remind me of her. and if she is mess for this reason or for some other reason, there is nothing wrong with giving her love, support that she needs to help her heal and help give her strength so that she can be there strong for her children. if you don’t want them men who’ve been through the wringer, don’t go out with them but you are seriously limiting your dating pool if you refuse to date anyone more than 6 years older than you..i had my son at 23 and it all depends on how mature you are.’m a single mother to 1 and dealt with a lot of the same.  but if it doesn’t, the only person you can blame if you are still single is you…it won’t be anybody else’s fault. those guys would also seek women much more likely to bear them their own biological children. i found her mom and told her all of this and she didn’t know i even existed , none of her family knew about me so apparently i was a secret too , her mother didn’t sound co concerned or surprised at all either .  as evan and others always say, the more qualifications you put on who you want to date, the more you’re limiting your dating pool. besides that is what toys are for, batteries are better than diseases. i know i am a good mother, person, professional and i also know my best friend upstairs is proud of the life i have created for our child. women just need to deal with that to be frank,you can blame it all you want on men,i also think men might even have a bigger blame but they still get the free pass,thats what women needs to know. these women should be avoided at all cost, single mothers or not. but there is a lot of truth to this post. both men and women can hide character flaws for quite some time if necessary.  she simply lets him know that the problem is that guys are all to willing to give the illusion that a relationship is building…take the sex, and then when it starts to actually resemble a real relationship, they disappear. anything else just gets thrown up soon after, if i can even get it down. times i have not been a suitable man for single mothers. sought out these good qualities in men they dated and married - hence they experienced the rewards that come along with marrying stable, mature and responsible men. there’s no way that i – or most men who don’t have their shit together – would willingly enter into a relationship with a woman who has so many other responsibilities, the way all moms do. there were trade-offs that accompanied that decision, but he ended up with a great wife because of it. sure, i know plenty of single mothers that aren’t conscious of their daily decisions and the impact that it may have upon their child/children & that behavior is more well known rather than the percentage of single mothers who grew up when they had a kid upon natural instinct & decided to live up to if not excel in their role as a parent. and as it happens, the vast majority tend to wind up with people who are plus or minus 5 years of their age anyway.  every child of a single mother lies awake at night in bed, longing for the daddy he sees on tv, in books, in the lives of the other kids at school. you should probably look what guys (like tom10…"karl r on what is the best online dating site? her inner-strength, spirit, and intellect, only fall short when compared to her love of seeing others succeed. i was a 14 year old virgin who almost flunked the 8th and 9th grade because i had a baby to take care of. so it was not 100% her doing that got her a baby, we all have problems and a lot of men are too immature and inexperienced emotionally to communicate their perceived problem with their partner, so they bail, leaving the mother who is hardwired to protect her offspring. children from single-father and single-mother families perform roughly the same in school, but both are outperformed by children from two-parent families. why do you think so many single moms vote for a larger state? i do understand that people can abuse their parner or children regardless of marital status but that’s why one should make damn sure who they are making a baby with or don’t have sex with that person in the first place.  add to that how every woman i did this with will inevitably yell at her kids while we are laying there. science shows that acorns or human zygotes are not “just tissue”.. “, and “nobody tells men to [do whatever these things women are supposedly told to do]. their happiness as a child is crucial to who they become as a adult and what they then offer to society. because the reality is that the older they get, the more likely it is that they are going to meet women who already have children. her family hates him, he has depression and the two bicker like the kids they are.? birth control is easily had; what is preventing society from using it? d…"evan marc katz on what is the best online dating site?  i do agree that women are selective, but i reject the notion that this is good, or somehow their birthright.’ve been dating a single mom for a little over 3 years…. so, before you decide to compile a huge population of women into being “idiots” who throw their child into an awful situation you should probably get out and talk to real people with real life stories. however, i am a man, and i know what many of these men say. i am a single father of one little girl for starters, i spent three and a half years alone getting my life in order after my divorce so i figured it was time to date , i found a woman in ohio on pof, i am from michigan . we live in a world where men are trained to believe their life only has value if they are in service to someone or something other than themselves. most married moms are not brilliant nor or their husbands. the man she claimed to hate, the piece of shit that fucked her over time and again, that hasn’t spent more than 2 hours alone with his daughter in years, and she ended up picking that asshole over someone who would have done anything for her, and treated her as well as he was able, for five minutes of pleasure and an abusive dickhead. himself has stated over and over that people need to be more serious about finding their mate when they are younger, instead of thinking that they have forever to find the right match. i have not been married but i do want to share this. he looks a hell of a lot better than many men younger than me. they also are more impulsive and act on primitive instinct, rather than plan ahead and set goals. obvious question then becomes: why are you having children with men who will potentially leave? “we weren’t allowed to touch because he was a maximum-security prisoner at the time,” said butler. a person who’s children are still dependent on the should be giving every moment outside of their job to their children. the single mom was a co-worker (another dating no-no) , that was very kind to me. lastly one thing that ruins everything in this post would be generalizations so i’m not going to have this perceived as one. took me until recently to discover that i have more control over my dating life than i gave myself credit for. divorced mothers, who are a breed of single mothers, might  be a little different, but whenever you approach one, sing this little song in your head:  it takes two to tango. i am out in the dating game giving 100% just like most single guys in their mid-20's, but i have hit a rut lately where every attractive, single woman i meet has at least one kid and was never married to the father. and eventually the state will run out of money and the women will have to start changing the men they are with, or changing their behavior to attract better men. men are guilty here because they say bareback sex feels so much better. if anything the ones you have to watch out for are the women who have more than 3 kids with 3 different men now thats a warning sign. point is this:  who are you to judge the choices she made? to be a man right now: it sounds like you are sayingit sounds like you are saying women are at fault when a man abandons her with their child. in fact, the only people i know who perpetually bleed the system are well over 40.  nothing…not one single thing can wreck your life like a woman can. science was invented by christians, by the way, so when atheists try to use it in hopes of scoring some kind of atheist point they only end up looking foolish. is just just one example of a crazy single mother i know. exists because there are soulless vultures waiting to take advantage of distressed mothers, most of whom would follow through and give birth if not for selfcentered boy”friends,” mothers, fathers, grandmothers, pressuring them to get rid of the inconvenience. people are always unequal and black women deserve to be called welfare whores…i mean, fuck.! i’m not the kind to settle for a loser so i guess kids, career and bob for me now. end of the world – she’ll have to settle for someone who’s not a model! now the poor guy is stuck paying child support for a child that might not be his/he didn’t want with a person he hates. married moms go for men that aren't quite as good looking but who they know will stay with them. yes it was hard at some point with her jealous ex, yes it is hard sometimes with the kid because you need to sacrifice some bachelor-activities, yes we had in the beginning some quarrels/discussions about future children, some jealousy stuff, etc. it’s not really fair to shove all that on someone who really doesn’t understand it, and that’s a single man with no kids. are still so many men in los angeles that are on their 2nd and 3rd marriages to much younger women and they have kids. now she is a supervisor at a few nursing homes. so, until things are done with your ex (that you had kids with), don’t dive into dating another male just because you are bored. average looking 35 yr old single mom does way better in the dating world than the average looking 35 yr old single dad. maybe a bad analogy but to struggle and have a child suffer through a life of poverty and the missing of the guidance of a decent father ( yes there are some) seems to be more cruel. wanted to give my take on why men aren’t interested in a woman with 4 kids. you are this pro choice- you might as well be a feminist if you ask me. i skived from work because i did not feel like going or because i just wanted to something else. just have more and more kids they aren’t capable of feeding and clothing themselves and somebody has to do it. it’s a shame we feel the need to be “politically correct” in this country, because frankly, the author speaks the truth in regards to single mothers.  but i will say that sometimes it’s not what we say, but how we say it that might cause someone to misconstrue the meaning, especially on a written forum where we don’t get non-verbal cues. i’m saying is, while it’s easy to blame the single parent solely (which is completely unfair, because there are some great single parents out there), after a while, the kid has to get some gall about themself, take responsibility for their own life and stop crying ‘wah, my mother/father sucked and ruined my life 4evahh’. and if the greatest gift a woman can give a man is her time, who are men going to gravitate towards – the harried mom who has to manage four lunches, babysitters, soccer practice, and bedtime routines – or the one who is blissfully unencumbered by such essential responsibilities? if someone hasn’t even done so much as a “commitment ceremony” they are single.  i have found it a good time in my life to do some of the things i did not do before i became a wife and mother, like go back to school.  rarely did a man marry older women, even by a few years.  having relatives that will gladly watch them for free helps immensely, but it seems this is rare.“…now own 3 businesses 2 sole proprietorships and one non-profit for the ronald mcdonald house…”. it’s good though to try to keep in perspective that people’s bad choices are warning flags. single mothers have poor judgement when it comes to choosing partners, friends, jobs, colleges, etc. i was 21 when i had my daughter and by the age of 22, i was a single mother. i’m so overwhelmed, and not due to alcohol since i don’t drink, that i admit that i love her too.!But- she can go after half of any appreciation in property values…even though she paid no taxes no rent no mortgage and any debts are considered to be family debts except for mortgages . i don’t care if there are some women who refuse to date older men. i don't care how handsome he is or how much of a "bad boy" you think he is. that with the above thought, and i wonder if the reason why he left you were because you; were becoming a career woman, which may have effected his self-esteem, and you kept making him feel inferior due to the fact that you were the “bread winner”. i'm glad to say, my daughter, a mid-teen, has declared she will remain pure until she gets married and wants a purity ring to symbolize that.  single mothers are bona fide idiots and here is why you should never even consider dating one:First, this is a woman who clearly doesn’t give a shit about her child’s well-being and future prospects. and it gets worse and worse with time as more weak men are forced to pay for an ever increasing welfare state to take care of the women who would rather go for the low quality men if they got the welfare state in their back pocket. children are raised by two parents, one parent, aunts, uncles, grandparents – it will not matter when your societal “norms” fall away. posted: 1/2/2009 10:25:20 amdreamdancer there were no pregnant teens because they were not allowed to attend high school and many fewer actually earned their high school diplomas as a result. prior to marriage, and the increase of responsibilities and financial stress which nearly always comes with it – and manifold so with the birth of a child – everything is just okay. my brother was not a good father and his daughter was raised in a single-mom home. writers are arrogant, narsasistic pricks with no grasp of reality and often say whatever they want with out little no concern with truth. add to that the fact that it is almost impossible for gay couples to have unwanted children, and the children are doubly assured that they are not “accidents” or “unplanned”. single mother is a woman who had a child outside of any established relationship, or a relationship so fragile the thickest retard in the world ought to have been able to see bringing a child on board was a fucking terrible idea..a – compromise), and to use whatever sexual assets/powers they possess for personal gain without serious consideration of the consequences to them or to the men they manipulate. yes we(my priest and i) had a long talk about the situation after my ex left and what needed to be done differently, which is why i don’t have another child from someone else!   with yeskids, this can only happen once the kids go to bed and are asleep.  if he’s truly a gentleman – he will care more about your relationship with your kids than how often you’re available for a late night booty call.  i understand why the 27 and 37 year old adventists are interested. rightly or wrongly, most young cute single guys will consider single mothers for sex only unfortunately.  are there men who would see you as you wish to be seen, and value you for the person you are? this is what happened to someone i hold close and he regrets it. at the working class/lower middle class level, the majority are, especially black women. fell out of love with a man who lived for years in a shitty 15ft trailer so he could send home 90% of his income to support his kids and provide for the huge house and luxuries we and she enjoyed. i would love to see somebody do an experiment like that. so now i’m single, but i’m not looking for another man! “not one single thing can wreck your life like a woman can” is a statement that can easily be flipped to read “not one single thing can wreck your life like a man can. relationships don’t work for a range of reasons and when it’s unfortunate yes sometimes they are children involved.  so they will win a staring contest over this issue, not to mention that they can and will find other avenues to get what they want. i also found a firefighter who i married and who has raised my son like his own.  in fact, at 20 they have no value to me because they simply aren’t relationship material. mothers are also not single mothers, although a huge flashing proceed with caution sign is definitely in order.  like you, i could take care of myself and my kids, plus their father was apart of their lives.. feminists hate women because they (1) think of women’s bodies as property and (2) insist that women should slut around and exhibit other pathological sexual behaviors, ignoring that the sexual relationships of healthy adults are heterosexual, monogamous, and take place exclusively within marriage. if she uses shaming tactics like trac above and she is a single mother then she is basically all set to make life a living hell for any man naive enough to entertain the thought of a relationship.   your lack of success in finding a quality man is likely related to the type of man you are searching for. and in this country i read an article about people being aware that in nursing homes that substances have been found in foods and beverages to hurry the patients death up. but try to avoid the ones who are still not looking to settle down. even other single parents have a difficult time dating other single parents.

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i am outgoing, educated, have a good career, no threat to brad pitt but the looks decent wagon didn't pass me by completely, and i certainly have no trouble approaching women. advice you’re giving out, in many ways i understand it, but in others, it seems very cruel.  there are huge risks there for a man outside of the normal drama. no man from here needs to move anywhere from where they are living now because we are not the ones complaining about the situation.’m sorry you went through all that and i hope you feel better soon. i’m still young and i want to enjoy what’s left of my youth with someone my own age who can keep up with me. not date a single mom specially if she has been married 2 times . it also encourages women to claim rape in order to get an abortion, which perverse incentive we really don’t need. depression, suicide, drug abuse, jail and psychiatric medications are all more common in populations of children raised by single mothers.  her best bet is to in some way that is agreeable to her, change what she is looking for. one bad experience with a crack head woman does not reflect on most of the single responsible parents out there.: what is the number one complaint you have about available single women: weight, looks, kids, finances, materialism, relationships, 120 replies. i’ve made this clear to both my daughters and my son. mom usually has a loaded shopping cart and sports tattoos but can’t afford milk cereal cheese peanut butter or juice so working people pay for it with taxes. is it unreasonable that i am hoping someone could take me seriously or see my worth? ask them, they also want their mom and dad to be married. the ones who do this as a career choice are the ones who are putting our country’s economy in jeapordy. her husband is dead, so it’s just her raising the kids and paying the bills. even if i really take my time getting to know someone before we become intimate… it seems that sex is all they continue to want. i can tell you for a fact that while it does happen where a woman chooses to date a guy 10+ years older, in many cases women do not want a guy with that much of an age difference. the only consolation i have is how hard it was to find your article again after stumbling across it randomly on some trash site. some drastic things need to happen here to stop these women from milking the system.  nothing good ever comes from denying truths that are there. married women choose men that are more responsible, dependable and committed to a serious, stable relationship.” that viewpoint is not only insulting to women (who on average, tend to age much better than men do because we do more to maintain our appearance), but it’s insulting to guys to imply that they can just fall out of love at the drop of a hat simply because their women are no longer the young, starry-eyed, innocent girls they once were. and when i met my wife, i knew very soon afterward, that to share and build a life with such a remarkable human being is the only thing i had truly wanted long in a long long time. i am very well aware of that (and not angry about it either, just resigned). i made the mistake early on in my divorce, but soon came to my senses and have been nothing more than a dutiful parent and provider for almost 4 years since. are demonizing the only parent that actually stayed to raise the kid..but he lived with me for nearly two years before he married me…so my crazy shit was no surprise…people are complicated.  oh, that’s the story she’ll spin for you, because really, what women is going to sit there and say “i’m an unbearably controlling and irrational cunt who made my husband’s life such hell he decided he would rather be a weekend dad than spend one more second with me”. i’m not a cold hearted person so i never participate in that stuff. i came of age a decade earlier and easily more than half of my peers were the products of either divorced parents or parents in which both parents worked full time. son also live with them during school week then goes to the biological father three weekends a month , which the mother never married! both her boys are finally getting a clear picture of rational vs irrational behavior, and are starting to see why men leave women. that’s why what constitutes personhood is something that is debatable and remains a major point of contention between the two sides of the abortion debate.  so as i said, just going by what the average age difference is not conclusive. not saying the article is completely wrong but there are other perspectives to think of here. this all happened in an age where there was not as much support as there is today for women in this kind of situation. is suggesting that christina should sacrifice who she is, but if she is not getting the results she wants, wouldn’t it be wise to consider making changes to her approach and her target dating pool? i believe there are many women out there who have suffered emotional and/or physical abuse in their past and have made all kinds of mistakes that are considered ‘wrong’. i never blamed everything on my ex, i took my fair share of being too weak to do anything but endure it, i was scared of being alone. but i believe that you should judge each person and situation on its own merit, and not rubber-stamp them all as dumbasses or bitches. it is true that single mothers are not a good bet, they are better than those with no more moral fiber than to relieve themselves of the inconvenience of a fatherless child by having a greedy abortionist do the dirty deed.) are most men that unconcerned with a woman’s education level or job? the author’s views on “homosexual marriage” and abortion are cringeworthy, it is clearly a non-christian man’s best effort to acknowledge the pitfalls of single mothers. after a month, she called my parents and told them that she lost my number and so they gave my new number to her.  i also don’t think it is unreasonable to say that the older a woman is, the harder she will have to work to keep him.  if a woman does decide to include older men in her dating choices, she doesn’t have to date all older men."i also discovered that i could attract a ton of quality men, in no time at all, if i needed to go back out there. so a lot of the points you made i could not relate to. these bimbos usually hang out with ex cons druggies perverts etc so the set up daycares would protect the real victims here. christina may be mother but she is also an individual and an individual subject to the laws of attraction like anyone else. is a shame that many kids are losing their virginity at 12 or 13 but this is what happens when people want to wait until that age to actually talk to their children about sex, if they ever do. i’d rather think of myself as someone who chose not to dump my responsibilities onto other people. my advice to single mothers, fathers, whoever you are, is to just raise your kids in an environment where they feel like they are number 1 in your life. i’m sorry but not all single mothers are cock sucking whores who live off of the government and don’t want to do good things in life. teens aren't stupid they know how to get pregnant and they definitely know how not to. sure, if your husband cheats, treats you poorly or is abusive then some poor choices were made. i'm not a parent but reading it rubbed me the wrong way too. most of them prefer a man with mega bucks anyway since they would obviously need a man to take care of them but will also take advantage of these men that have money which then they will dump these men when they're done with them and then to move on to the next one unfortunately. they get knocked up, dumped and now they're single moms struggling to make ends meet. are two other problems kids can't make the responsible decision not to have sex but people think they can raise a child.  two american men i personally know here in jacksonville, are married to women 13 years younger. i couldn’t care less if a woman wants a younger man. “person” is not such a rigid scientific term and lacks such a specific, objective definition because there is a significantly greater degree of subjectivity. they do this for attention and that’s what makes them so cute. my ex did get himself into counseling, and he has always been a great father to our two sons, and over the years a good friend to me too. single moms choose to be single moms, whether the know it, like it or have the ovaries to admit it or not. as i found out about a week ago, the reason my ex left me is because she ended up fucking her ex-husband, and is now back together with him. should have read the entirety of the single fathers post. of course, if there wasn't a welfare state that caters to single moms and gives them resources then there would be a lot less single moms. its making things hard for single hard working women with values that in past generations were normal: date marry then have a baby.  if you like someone but the kids don’t, then the kids are probably going to win that one, at least while they’re young enough and still at home.  as a mother i would have to put him first, and honestly, i don’t know how i would have tried to fit in dating with one young child, let alone 4. doesn’t appear to hate women who are prepared to be full adults. if you want to claim that somehow it’s not a “person” you’re going to have to come up with rationalizations that lead to all sorts of absurd conclusions and end up being arbitrary anyway. they go so far as having what they call open sexual rituals or free sex. can also congratulate anybody i feel like because most women won’t own their mistakes. i made all the right choices, and i am sick and tired of hearing about poor single moms, especially the ones who were never married and just couldn't keep their knees together. because they aren't responsible enough to care for a child., i agree with you absolutely, be wary of a woman that blames everything on their ex, even if they were abused.  some people continue to believe that something did happen, and others will reserve judgment with the possibility that something did.  so this vast majority of marriages you speak of is hardly a vast majority.  so while i am not putting much stock in it, if it did happen, that strong belief would allow me to not worry that she saw it as a short term solution.  you feel entitled to something you will likely never find. are you saying i don’t deserve to be alive because my mother had sex with a boy when she wasn’t married? feel sorry for them because they always complain that nobody wants date them because they are single moms. i’ve raised 2 good boys who are fine young men, but now have a defiant, rebellious tween i’m raising. her then-bf was a banker (but earned less than her; he’s not some nasty unscrupulous wall st type though, he’s really gd person) with intelligence and dry british wit. offense, but even if you are the most responsible, kindest, most domestic, most loving, and most attractive woman in the world, you’re still a bad bet for marriage. am so glad you changed your mind, and that you changed it for you. then he’s gone and the public is stuck with many thousands of these oops babies. the future is wide open and bright, and i found a rare gem to cherish. but thank you for calling out the bs of (some) women. you probably thought you can change him, like some lifetime channel movie.  so to those of you being intentional in not dating someone with kids if you don’t want to be involved with kids, at least on that level, i thank you for doing that. my great uncle was born in like 1890 something and "had" to marry his wife. more and more men are realizing a much better life for themselves also. personally i can’t see dating even when my son moves out. once married, especially when there are children, that’s when it becomes difficult. men have to take responsibility for our actions, we made that single mother, just to experience a few moments of sexual bliss. i hear people say those without children are selfish and don’t understand. you know wich children from single parents families end up on the wrong side of life?: hanna rosin says we are witnessing the end of men! and no they are in no way like a widow. what so many women fail to understand is just because a woman can get a super hot guy into bed, it doesn’t mean that he is going to commit to her or even considers her girlfriend material. once listened to an episode of tom leykiss’ show (ugh he’s gross), he told this middle-aged caller “men don’t care whether u own your own home, they care about what u look like with your clothes off”. think having a single mother affected me in similar ways, but it would have been much worse had i been born a boy.  this is where she again just hits him with brutal honesty but does so in a pleasant and disarming way.!I know a guy,she lived there and just after 2 years she took off…his condo went up by about 0k,she got the order for k but he couldn’t afford another mortgage,so had to sell the condo…. i think there are plenty of single dads in their 30s (i know, i dated them) but i would also push her towards dating a bit older. she doesn’t have to take anyone’s bs advice… most of ya all are trolls…. to be honest, i tell my son, don’t marry a woman with kids.  you don’t see shows aimed at boys of some illusive princess charming. 🙂 i’m just saying some women here don’t wanna read it many times on this blog…. right men should judge single mothers and if they are any judge they will steer clear. although i am of the “divorced” single mom type, it’s unfair to group single mothers as more flawed than the single without children variety. will always be single, divorced, widowed people out there – always. smart people “settle” all the time, for all sorts of things. i put all thoughts of dating and men aside for almost 7 years., jb is being a bit strong, but to not concede to any of her points that there is a much carnage because some women make selfish choices and those have terrible consequences on the children is wrong of you. and before anyone can attack me on that as well i will point out that i am referring to the ones that have been in a strong relationship for many years and not just had a shotgun marriage because the girl got knocked up. but at least there was a commitment rather than the 2 careless people who fuck without considering consequences of a real live human being being the result! they are sensible, rational, practical and concerned with their children’s future. nokids, if we decide to spend some time together at her place, we can cook something together, and it’s a good chance i will like what we are cooking. married women understand how much worse it is for their child to not have a father in the child's life and so they prioritize having a father as one of the most important parts of the child's life. so while it may seem to you like i’m limiting my options, i’m telling you that those guys don’t even qualify as options for me, so it would make no sense for me to waste my time dating them anyway. i think you need a hobby, something you love to do, like paint or do music. are very aware which parent put them first, and which parent made their sex life the top priority., single fathers who look better than 90% of men their age and have everything going in life. stop being so whiny, i think she owned her mistake well before being left by her partner. so my attitude is: “i didn’t write the ‘new’ rules; i just have to live by them”. after she took him the hurt was so great my parents divorced. of you guys have some bad experiences and a lot of single mom bashing. men are no longer going to be the clean up guys. marriage is nothing but legal slavery for any man out there. even rich people are single parents because they are no longer with their wife, husband or boyfriend or girlfriend. posted: 1/2/2009 8:51:28 amno offence but "it takes two to make a baby" and the " he should have kept it in his pants thing" is getting very tired as an excuse to actually bring children into this world when you are really unprepared. i am unmarried, but have been with my son’s father for almost 6 years. to have the one thing that made me happy ripped out of my life without explanation or any apparent logic behind it is what broke the proverbial camel’s back. found her attractive, and personality wise we were very compatible. i have discussed this with many men and they all basically agree that this often the case., what you describe is the story of so many of the lives of my own peers. i think they’re a lot on dating sites and because you have kids most won’t find you interesting so only the jerks that want sex now respond. just think… how many of them will say, “my babies daddy is a great guy. woman can be mediocre in every aspect but still want and attract men who are way better than her in every aspect. just like someone has the right not to date me because i like tobacco products and eat healthy all the time.  they struck up a conversation and she couldn’t get him out of her mind so called him back to do more work.“divorced moms who escaped abusive marriages with drug/sex/gambling/whatever addicts should not get a free pass from you, either.  while age disparate couples do marry, similar aged couples are far more common, and generally the norm. where you live, which puts you in one of three states; new mexico, maine and missouri.“a woman would take on a guy with 4 kids and hopefully the world will one day change so that the same is true vice versa. my ex husband, who happens to be an engineer (i was always attracted to the very smart guys, just so happens that some very intelligent people use their intelligence for evil) admitted to a very very dysfunctional, unsafe (with unlawful actions) double life one day out of the blue. nobody but you and your boyfriend made a baby in your personal household. tom 10 refers to “most young cute single guys will consider single mothers for sex only unfortunately“. imo no single (never married) parent should- focus on your child(ren) because maybe you can give them a better life than your own. what if the single mom that isn’t married was raped and had the child because her religious beliefs go against taking even a fetus’ life. feminists are so hateful of women that feminists insist a woman must suppress her fertility by sending deadly poisons, cutting instruments, or mechanical devices into their wombs; feminists believe women are too weak willed to be abstinent. divorced women and women who have kids out of wedlock are essentially one of the same. the disproportionate share of successful children from indigent, “broken” families can only level out, if not turn the other way. other side of is that i didn’t know how to bond with men because i was taught male interests are bad. if a western woman feels that you are responsible for her negative feelings then in her mind that justifies all and any revenge. morals of our society has been a little skewed, but if you know what you’re looking for, you can find it. many men will do anything or say anything just to have sex. if you’re so pissed off why are you here? but a lot of women, not enough but a good deal of them, are as responsible as men and feel that they had no choice in birthing and raising their child.  single moms = low sexual market value, little red pill and on and on and on. posted: 1/2/2009 8:15:56 ammy point is why are so many young women having kids at an age where they aren't fully adults yet? it’s almost as if they wish to entice others into the same burdens they’re carrying, rather than having the courage and transparency to admit the difficulties they created through their own bad choices. i just came out of a relationship with a woman that played with my emotions and there is only one person to blame !  the women you hang out are one small group of women compared to the 150 million women in the u. i’ve never really cared about partying with the girl i am seeing, i want her as a wife, someone to come home to, cook, love me, blah blah blah, you get it.  be right up front that there will be no sex now or in the near future. do you know that there aren’t any extenuating circumstances that prevent them from getting married? of dating cute 34-year-old single guys who don’t have kids, how about you date cute 43-year-old guys who are in the exact same spot in life, who understand your predicament, who have obligations of their own, and who will be delighted to meet a woman who gets them. a little cold you could say but come on, if you are not ready you are not ready yet when the topic of either option of abortion or adoption is mentioned there is this emotional justification that you think you are making the right choice to have those children. it’s a fact that most men (not all, but most) in their 40s are not as attractive as their 35 year old counterparts.

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so a single woman who is just “going steady” who has given birth is an unwed mother. but there are a lot of exceptional women who were significantly older/younger. they don’t even try to be of any value to society. i wanted to be the one she called when there was a bug in the house because she has an intense phobia of them. while i agree that there are good-looking men in their 40s, many more of them are not. why do you hate women so much that you want them to die?’m not going to try and kill myself again, but i’m barely hanging on here.. but i’m assuming we’re all adults and that the realities of life are on the table. i'm not asking this in an accusatory way, but what are your thoughts on single moms who married someone who initially seemed like an ideal provider, but ended up being horrible abusive? if someone is determined to be uneducated and live off welfare, they're going to do so at any age. so no need to be so perplexed about what’s been said by that 20something colleague – 40s is not actually old, yet in most cases too old *for someone in their 20s*. lumping her in with single mothers is an insult to his memory, to her and to her children. a woman is going to have children and spend many years of her life pregnant and out of work if she wants to have a family. if we were to split up, i would encourage my son’s father to stay in his life, yet i am sure he would choose to of his own free will., you can spout that until you are blue in the face. even if it’s 90% him and 10% her… there is still 10% she needs to own up to..One of the 20somethings at work was complaining that  some “old pervs” were hitting on her. the only thing i couldn’t forgive would be if she broke it off because she cheated, because we both told each other that there were going to be no others if we were to be together, and that’s too much betrayal of trust for me to deal with. narcissism is a huge reason why and thats not the only disorder. i have dealt with girls with depression beyond belief, a woman is less likely to be suicidal when they know they are going to leave a child here missing two parents most likely.  so i stay away from that for the same reasons that men stay away from women with children.  i started dating a guy in his 50’s with no kids, never been married, didn’t want to ever be married and was totally selfish. all the arguments that are pro-dating/relationships post divorce are nothing more than selfish justification from those who are too weak/pitiful to try and be happy on their own.  finally while i think there are more younger women open to the idea, not enough men keep their appearance up enough to take advantage of it.   the other one was better looking but had many personality faults. well frankly , ive researched studied psychology and all of us have or known someone who has gone through the us family law system, and i have to tell you its one big joke. i do agree that if things don’t seem to be working out for her, she does need to change something. even some guys in their early 40s look like they’ve already been through the wringer. there is also this ‘me,me, me’ thing going on with today’s people. if an otherwise good man knows society won't fault him for leaving the burden on his wife, he'll perhaps make the choice to leave and relive his easy, fun bachelor days, since bachelorhood is now glorified over marriage. i’ve seen many men do one night stands, and short term affairs with these older women, and then totally bad mouth them when they are back around the guys. any of your children are female how come they found good man and you could not?, sluggy, is why a man should never ever date single moms or divorced moms. i’ve had girlfriends in the past, just no one i’ve cared about so much. hate to be the first to flat out say that everything you have written about dating a single mother is true. she clearly hates men and blames all men for something that a woman wrote. though i have felt a sense of deep grief (im not quite sure why as even though i have been attempting the dating thing i am quite happy and content with my life, there’s at things i need to change a bit but i dont feel a huge yearning for a relationship all the time) my decision, reading your comment was exactly what i needed to hear and iexactly what i need to do. that said, i would rather date a man with a child; if he’s a good father, it shows that he knows how to take care of and consider someone other than himself. rent if you’re lucky is 475 a month if you’re careful. are their children not just as wounded by the lack of a father figure as the children of a divorced or single mother? and i urge people to compromise, which is something everyone should do.: 6/28/2008msg: 10why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?   when you feel a soul spark with someone you meet in person, you aren’t thinking oh, sorry, you’re a year out of my age limit – and it looks like your body type is  “average” – i’m going to have to pass. if more people had them, there would be less of us supporting them. so when you have a child as a woman you made the choice to either have the child or to have sex which has a possibility of creating a child. there are about 15 different negative outcomes but this is a quick summary for a blog post. it was nice going somewhere everyday where someone cared about me.  i have dated, intermittently, but then i found myself wanting to compartmentalize and keep kids separate from whom i was dating if it got beyond the first date. if you pursue loser men, they'll leave you as a single mother. told me that the reason she liked me so much was that i treated her like a queen, but that i was more, i guess you could say dominant, than her. i am a woman and i have seen this same thing too many times to count.  but that was one child, my first hubby had him about 50% of the time, and he was self employed, only worked about 20 hours a week (and made great money at it) so it wasn’t really much of a burden, in fact, it was a delight. jki think the reason for more single moms in your age range is because of sex in the media being such a prevalent "source of entertainment". think of prejudice when single parents feel alienated due to the fact that they have kids, an automatic strike that most childfree adults keep in mind. say fine, just give me a call when you get a chance, because it’s been really stressful, and the sound of her voice makes me feel better, always.  the 2012 info stated that nearly 1-4 women marries a man more than 5 years older, an about half of those are 10+.”  you and your kids will be so much happier in the long run. i read it carefully and will take it into account; the way sherlock does, i’ll try to store it in my ‘mind palace’ haha. your giving yourself to single mum child and x husband,,,he will always be in the picture ! in the same way that you ‘don’t want to date a guy who has kids’, i guess guys don’t want to date you for the same reason.: 12/14/2008msg: 15why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22? for whether i look my age, i prefer to go by women i know, and the fact is, many of them, before i informed them of my age, when not wearing the beard, thought i was younger…much younger. feminism is (and i love this quote) “the radical idea that women are people. of the things that attracted you to this woman are the very red flags you should have avoided. it just makes you sound as ignorant as you must be. and they also understand that they don't have their whole lives to do this. never said the only people living off welfare are young parents. with a sex partner, i just needed to like her for a day or so. i’m sure he could’ve gotten hotter girls, but her personality, intelligence and career success (even among cambridge grads and among lawyers, she was exceptionally smart & successful) probably ‘compensated’ for her less-hot appearance. i was just looking to chat with some people more experienced than me at this activity. i don’t care if a guy is freakin’ richard branson, he is not someone i would consider for myself. they think it’s normal so the bar is set very very low for them. if i am going to spend decades of my life caring for children why would that be children of some other mans, when there are plenty of single non-mothers who i can respect, shower with love and have my own children with? but mosier had been in a fight with another prisoner and had lost his visiting privileges. the love of a child is the most rewarding thing you will ever experience how can you possibly see this as a bad thing whether she is single or not. i must admit though, that i may be a prejudiced judge because i have always been attracted to asian women, and it is true that many asian women look younger than their age.’s been my experience that all women are crazy to some degree. moms who escaped abusive marriages with drug/sex/gambling/whatever addicts should not get a free pass from you, either. she is probably ok to date and perhaps even marry so long as the man can handle following the memory of her dead husband. what counts is if she can take care of the child or not. cannot force a woman to take care of a baby. I am out in the dating game giving 100% just like most single guys in their mid-20's, but I have hit a rutUpdated to add: the use of the term ‘single mother’ is not exactly accurate. get used to it, black women are an angry bunch… they will never admit failure.: 10/24/2008msg: 19view profilehistorywhy are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22? i also don’t see why having a piece of paper that proves to the state that you are committed makes you any less of a mother.> “that includes the bitter, judgemental and horrible person that you are who obviously only feels better about himself by juding others and putting other people down. but when some drunken drug addict unwed mother that had several kids with different men and lost all of them because she let a guy rape her 5 year old daughter for drugs. but it’s a very small percentage of the whole of single mothers. however i know that women like her are the exceptions that prove the rule. that’s the great thing about finding love…you only need one person to fall in love with you. stayed at her house, rent free, ate her food and didn’t help her with her eldest son who when i was interested her just started to have problems in school related to the lack of a strong male presence. don’t get me wrong i got nothing against gays having kids or single mothers i’m merely pointing out an inconsistency in your logic.: 6/28/2008msg: 14why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?) from there, ask out the ones who you felt something for – whether sexual or spiritual, mental or recreational; ask them out for dinner and mini-golf or a concert, or whatever. she wants guys like her ex-husband, which you are not. and children are the excuse why they don’t work or work deliberately so few hours they get welfare checks.  if she could have a magic fairy wave a wand, she would have the two men combined so that the great guy would also look great, and have a tooth paste commercial smile. i lived in rural area and much of my time was either drawing comics in my room (i was banned from that eventually) or taking day walks up into the hills with my dog and finding a spot to read my fantasy novels. being a mother gives a woman something extra to live for., i’m giving you my new book, “believe in love – 7 steps to letting go of your past, embracing the present, and dating with confidence., judgybitch there were some massive assumptions in that post (many are possibly true often enough). before you criticize white women for dating criminal black men, why not list all the white women currently married to criminals, usually white collar. the problem with you saying these things is that men who want to abandon their children for selfish reasons read this and think "he's right - i'm an alpha and she should have known i would leave". problem with this approach is that it will also weed out the hot guys that she really wants.  not saying this is you, but forcing kids to share their parent with the current lover is not fair to them. just remember tt lots of readers here are women above 35, who i think wanna here the truth, but in a way that doesn’t make them feel lousy. and when they have a child with a guy who will leave them, despite all the signs that married moms knew, that is their choice. making a relationship happen is hard enough work without having some other guys child in the mix. thay victimise the father and thay dont have a clue that by doing so thay victimise the child.  but even the women here express that it gets harder and harder to find men they desire, who also desire them.’s ugly, and the reason i will not date women with daughters. – dont take it personally, but a lot of single mom kids have issues, which is natural since they are denied the love and care of 2 parents. when my parents divorced, they were still civil to one another, and i saw my father multiple times a week.'m a strong independent woman who aint need no man (just the welfare state).: 1/25/2005msg: 2why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?   perhaps god is supposed to orchestrate the meeting at the right place and time, when he knows both people are ready for a healthy love. this despite a single man 5 years my junior and childless happy to start a long-term relationship with me butw turning him down because the connection wasn’t strong (see christina: there are exceptions). they also didn't have the resources available todah, so there wasn't often a choice. they have these children not because they want a child, not because they want to enrich their lives with these gifts… simply i find that most of them are with deustch bags and somehow in all their wisdom they think having a kid will make it all better.  usually they are getting too loud and so instead of getting up, she just yells loud enough for them to hear, telling them to be quiet. i understand your reasons for not wanting to date single mothers, and i don’t blame you considering what you went and are going through. you could still have sex (i’m sure you still do), but don’t put any new guys through the bullshit of not being a priority and having to take care of someone elses kid and then making it hard for him if he wants to leave you because of the attachment to the kid., i am in a similar position although just the one child and it is probably more the resigned vibe you are giving off or maybe you are looking too hard.: 1/16/2006msg: 9view profilehistorywhy are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22? women who prefer dating much older (45+) guys either don’t care much about sex, or have some other priorities, e. i guarantee i would have turned out to be a sociopath or convict. the contrary, what i do often hear and read in media and magazines are direct suggestions to women that they are totally “empowered” to love/date/have sex with whomever they like without shame or consequence, to never ‘settle’ (a. my ex says i am a fantastic mother and pays a lot in support so i can continue staying home with my young child rather than working. my life is happy, but i really would love to share it with someone… but dating when you have four kids is like the mt everest of the dating world! the young women today do not realize they are ruining their chances at finding a decent young man , because guess what a decent young man is not going to marry a slut. it’s been a hellish nightmare that not one of my siblings escaped without serious personality disorders, depression, compulsive behaviours ptsd etc. there is something else going on in their lives to make the so troubled. i do not entirely agree with this post, but coming from a single mother and suffering the “cinderella effect” it is unfair to believe that all children coming from this background will be messed up., i can assure you that older men are told all of the time that they shouldn’t be chasing young women, which it generally good advice since it’s usually ineffective to chase someone much younger than you. posted: 1/2/2009 8:27:48 amwomen have sex early on in life partly because of us men you know, it takes to tango, they are more single mothers because most guys bale on them, did u ever think of that? her mother worked as a stripper for a good 10 years to pay the bills and take care of her kid. and i don’t mean an article assertion that has been re-framed or re-interpreted by someone who lacks reading comprehension skills (and i will say that many responses i see to comments demonstrate quite clearly a serious lack of skill in this area, so it’s very likely this will happen to mine). all the single mothers i’ve met in my life, including my own, i’ve never met one that did not live and care for their child, or was a drug addict or in jail. while there is this labelling, men will continue to see females who happen to have a past  as damaged goods. i would appreciate if you could clear some things up. in these days you don’t need a significant other to adopt so are they just as low as the rest of the single mothers you have self appointed yourself to be the judge and jury to? got remarried to a guy after and they are still happily married. but yes, i’ll be honest: i don’t really want to date guys who are more than 7 years older because a) i usually do not find them physically attractive, as i’ve stated, and b) they re usually not on the same page as me in life as far as wanting marriage and children. i said, what is the point of stating the fact over and over again that women are more selective, harsh, and unforgiving on looks, physique, status, confidence, etc ? women don't need to marry betas if the welfare state will provide their money for them. dont deny that there are some single or divorced mothers who are perfectly dateable. in the absence of the welfare state women wouldn't be subsidized to play the field and get the best of both worlds. your kids are going to be grown and gone in a few very short years, and you may have to support yourself for the rest of your life. there will be a 10 year gap between my daughter and our new born, i wanted to be sure before i had another child. said, her children are not an appendage – but,  she chose to have a big family and for whatever reason, got divorced.. saying that feminism is misogynist is like saying racial equality is racist. clients"evan rocks as a dating coach, and if he can change my life, i promise: he can change yours, too! most women seem to bristly at that notion…the notion of having to settle, and so long as she sees it as settling, it won’t be very appealing to her. more thing i want to tell to all man over there. but isn’t it better for the child to have parents. don’t men hate being single as much as women do? there was a small box of the kids stuff left behind, private things like counselling files and some special stuffed animals.  problem is, she prefers to stay there, and since i am in school for the next couple of years, that isn’t going to work short term. killing his child in secret is never something a woman that is an mra should support.  the odds of finding a great guy by doing what she has been doing are very very very slim, and she knows that…but yes, she might win the lottery/be struck by lightening and have that one in a millions top shelf guy with no kids come along and marry her.  do not give up;  the right man is out there. i had given up on the idea and i dont blame guys for not wanting someone with in my case 3 kids, totally understandable. instance, a large number of men act like idiot pervs on dating sites…but just because they are that way doesn’t mean they should be that way. but he left her a going away present, a baby girl, born sometime around 2007 i think. it’s taking me some time now to heal from this , she was hypersensitive about everything and then i was accused of being the defensive one? i’ve known more than a few single moms who were good bets and had sweet, well behaved kids. not always the case…often the case…many women feel they must keep a man’s ego in check to the point that they become somewhat insulting, or very stingy with compliments. and i am pretty sure that there is no man who will go near that drama. i am behind in my career because i wanted to live my life the way i wanted to. some in here say that 20somethings aren’t open enough and rational about their prospects enough – yet why need they be? guys hitting on you are doing so because of your age, not your “mothering” status. a self-respecting guy is usually the one who these women look to to take care of the business that they themselves participated in blaming the first man for all the problems. a woman's husband died or something tragic made her into a single mom - we should absolutely help her and level her playing field - as decent human beings that's what we should do. completed and graduated from college during and after pregnancy(on my own dime) and now own 3 businesses 2 sole proprietorships and one non-profit for the ronald mcdonald house… my daughter is in swim classes, gymnastics, and competes in pageants she’s very well taken care of. i had a single mother, and she was none of these. see; so, you’re the *only one* allowed to judge?  in this country, using the court system, a woman can straight wreck a man so men have just as much right to be selective. while you may not agree with the way she and her partner have decided to arrange their relationship, it is not grounds to accuse her of being a lazy, freeloading, drain on society who can’t keep her legs shut.

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  i really don’t think that is going to be an enjoyable society for anyone to live in…not really. some people are not as anal as others and have more fun. dating forums are a place to meet singles and get dating advice or share dating experiences etc. also don't think you're qualified to say why young women are getting pregnant and how they were sexually educated - do you? so ive been loking down on myself for years, and living the consequances of my actions. is it really that scary for a decent guy to date someone in my position? that nasty ex bf i mentioned who showed what a horrible person he is after i refused to marry him or get back with him? says: “i left my husband because he was verbally, emotionally and sometimes physically abusive of me. and all i can think of not is that this is the mentality of someone who ends of a single mother…. them in the 1950's and they are making them now. if you doubt this how does someone with no job have a vehicle gas and mandatory insurance.: 10/24/2008msg: 16view profilehistorywhy are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22? now, every person needs to go to college in order to be able to have a career..maybe that female your so in to realized even though her husband is still a jerk she still loves him and what she feels for you isn’t love…it was comfort…and blocking and pushing you away is what she needed…she needed to know somebody could love her then she needed to know she could be in control…that sucks its awful…but heartbreak and feeling abandoned can really screw you up. lol i was not disputing the reality that men are more attracted to younger women. throughout my whole life i have enjoyed building real businesses by solving real problems. i told her you rely heavily on men and people , she said god keeps me at my parents and he is punishing me ! i wanted to be the one who would leave little notes for her, dance with her, be there for her when she was sad. lastly you maybe a guy who needs to be the most important person in your girls life, and needs to be at parties every weekend with your girl and stuff like that, if so, have at it! no, she does not have the same chances that a single woman or one with 1 kids has. i loved one of the children very much- one of them would tell me whatever i did was not as good as his father did, and the other kid was just sort of there.   sorry, i wish there was more specific terminology for “older within a normal range” and ” much older. children who don’t have their biological father actively involved in their lives are at dramatically higher risk of a whole host of negative outcomes. the point to my story was not all single mothers are welfare whores, and not all of them are looking for someone to provide for them and take care of them and step in as a father to a child that’s not thiers. unless you were raped - which is an exception and a tiny minority of situations - you chose to be a single mother indirectly. i am now a man who prefers, yes i said i,t prefers to date single mothers, matter of fact i’m dating one now. many single women in their 20's with kids (dating, boyfriend, married).  and i am sorry, but just because a woman does not find much older man attractive, has no correlation that she is repulsed by older women.   the kids shouldn’t be subjected to anyone you aren’t planning to marry – why should their little hearts be dragged through the mud?. feminists hate women because they don’t think women are capable of making their own decisions and only do what men want.  for instance, most churches have bible school classes before or after the sermon that are segregated into age groups. so you can take this article and shove it up your ass. think about it, dating/relationship building takes time, effort, and resources away from the people who are supposed to come first in the lives of a parent. i recently spoke with a women a bit younger than me who is dating a guy, living with him, and he is 6 years younger. calling them fat, saggy, etc…and those are the nicer things.  some women will not wanna be with an older man, no matter what, they wanna be with a peer or nobody. the only reason i’m not dead yet is that my dad’s still awake.  these are not poor dirt farmers, these are college educated women in the fastest growing economy in the world. if you want to be a “career woman”, more power to you, i’m not knocking you, and congrats for making that part of your life work out. because i am going to get my shit together, and i’m going to find myself a woman who’ll appreciate someone who’s willing to make her the center of his life, and who’ll do the same for me. then you proclaimed to be a catholic, so i am going to say missouri is your home state.’s not the reality for most children born to poor single mothers..Instead of dating cute 34-year-old single guys who don’t have kids, how about you date cute 43-year-old dads who will be delighted to meet a woman who gets THEM.: hanna rosin says we are witnessing the end of men! the reality is that most women want a peer, a partner – someone to grow old with, not someone who will practically be ready for the retirement home by the time their kids graduate from high school. if he's a deadbeat loser and you met him at a sleezy club or some crumby free dating site somewhere, chances are he won't be dependable and you'll end up supporting his kids without his help.  i don’t think we should be quick to condemn or take umbrage with the single folks who don’t want to date someone with kids; i will admit, it used to bother me. not to mention i have personally known multiple men whose wives legally killed their babies without their consent. & she is the most amazing person in the world – bar none! do people expect men to date or even marry women they aren’t attracted to (like dating a woman who already has children of her own)? are going to keep this image in your head of this perfect man who is going to make you happy, and then one day you might even think you found him, and marry him. you were in a meaningful relationship and i am truly sorry for your loss. you search the web you will find that depending on what site you go on, stats are different. she might have to settle for someone average-alright in looks. shawna fode is your typical lower middle class, mid-size city chick who was attracted too all sorts of shady white men, including some with an axe to grind against people of color. are a ton of fat men with great personalities, who make decent money and who will never leave a woman. if you are a man who likes gambling then get married because thats what it is. i am dating my first single mother and i am beginning to hate it. single mothers don’t like it then they should have thought of that before they disposed of the father. my big brother is married to a woman who was a single mother. idiotic and narrow mindness of some of these people astound me. after some time, you’ll get it down to just one chick. i suggest you spend your energies making yourself a better person rather than judging every body else!" the truth is, "bad luck" and "society" didn't force you to date and breed with deadbeat losers. i don’t think you need sex to live and some definitions of drugs would in fact consider sex a potent drug- best to do only with the one you spend your life with. a single mom would rather go with an adventurous man than a dependable man. hopefully you will all have fun meeting singles and try out this online dating thing.  he will likely say something to the effect that she is a sweet person but she has too many kids for him. doctors are now prescribing hrt for guys even in their early twenties. i would rather my taxes go toward someone who fell upon hard times then someone who has a child or children knowing they can't afford them. agree that they are different, but by what arbitrary decree are women supposed to be or allowed to be more selective? the fact that you give gay parents a pass because the children “know their family is different” is laughable – it just shows you’re not thinking for yourself… “like gay is so totally in right now!  at some point, you are going to have to stop holding out for mr. i started dating here after my first wife left me (we did not have children), and i was devistated. again, the irony of it all is that our society has been completely dominated by christian values – a marriage, nuclear family, chastity, etc.  i got divorced at 37, and did do the dating thing – and have never gotten re-married. today women are earning a substantial amount of money and are capable of it also.  the op is certainly welcome to continue trying to date someone her age. i am also explaining why any rational man would reach the same conclusion. changes like i’ve mentioned would make society and our economy better for everyone. you are suggesting that she cross her fingers and hope real hard and not change anything that she is doing.   if both parents love and put the kids first, they will grow up healthier than most of their friends from a two-parent “perfect” home. i am happy he steps up to take care of his son and they love each other. he was clear he didn’t want our child so i didn’t register him as the father. or are there a significant percentage of guys who do care alot about intelligence and career of a woman? my definition of a decent guy is mostly they are smart enough to know what marriage laws have become for them and are opting out of marriage.: 11/14/2008msg: 1why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22? the only consistent thing in their lives are a string of poor choices and lots of clear cut signs that he can't or won't commit. are a lot of single childless women out there like me. and you’re thinking only of yourself and not your children who are going to do worse in every conceivable measure than children from intact homes. this woman has every right not to be seen a some irresponsible woman. she and i are very close and i told her if/when she decided to have sex, hopefully it will at least be after she gets out of high school, she needed to talk to me first so that i can make sure she remembers to use protection. wife's friends from high school are all about 40 years old.  again, soft, truthful vulnerability is in my opinion the best way to discuss this. i also wouldn’t have another daughter (and a son on the way). they want to take spontaneous romantic trips to vegas, which is something that’s hard to do with four children of your own. of these issues, all of these flags, knowing i didnt want this as my future but also not wanting it to end and not wanting her with someone else. them like the plague- even when things are going good- it never is the ideal situation. i think they need your saturday nights more than a random guy, sorry. to put the icing on the cake, i’m also african american.  you can be 100% mommy now, and 100% sexy lady after your kids are grown – believe me, it’s worth the wait. feminists are so hateful of femaleness that they imagine that ingesting chemicals to suppress the natural functions of the healthy female body is something to be desired, as if the uniquely female power to be pregnant were a disease. so fellow men, if you're an alpha and all you want to do is bang as many broads as possible then carry on. to a single mom they would much rather go with an attractive man than a responsible man. are just too many obvious red flags with a loser - and if you ignore those signs and get pregnant, it's your fault. think the ex (single mom) was planning on getting pregnant with my child, because she started dating another guy after ,me, and got pregnant within three months., if i have a daughter or two later on and they become single mothers, then they have failed and i as a parent will have failed as well. i work 32 hours a week, own my own home in a very nice neighborhood, take my kids to soccer practice and games, we eat meals together, talk about their day, work on homework, etc. it’s simple… for one to own up to their part in something like that it takes a high level of humility and self-reflection which they don’t possess… my advice. i couldn’t respond to your most recent response to me there, i’m going to do it here. i’m so far outside her normal type, it was hard to fathom why she liked me., i think divorced parents with school age kids (either custodial or non-custodial) who date/get into other relationships are nothing more than selfish sycophantic prats. if they decide to end their marriage for good, then they will be single folks with kids. i'm not asking this in an accusatory way, but what are your thoughts on single moms who married someone who initially seemed like an ideal provider, but ended up being horrible abusive?  i think it is going to be a very ugly very selfish society. for you to write such negative things toward a woman who got pregnant and decided to be a single mother you should be ashaimed of yourself.  earlier than that and you are constantly interrupted by kids. i’m not desperate so i guess that’s in my favor but come on – even divorced women have needs that parenting doesn’t satisfy! when i first entered high school there were no pregnant teens. go get yourself spayed so this doesn’t happen again. some of us have really good jobs, a budget, goals and a plan. obody is perfect and yes that includes the bitter, judgemental and horrible person that you are who obviously only feels better about himself by juding others and putting other people down. who cheat, are addicted to porn, cause bankruptcy, are drunkards, selfish, lazy and disconnected to their wives and children are not exactly wonderful to live with nor great role models for the children born to them. posted: 1/2/2009 9:43:06 amtrue the rates of teen pregnancy have dropped because they actually preach safer sex while you are ther but the rates of those women rise when they leave the school system. but my older sis is a cambridge-educated lawyer and when dating her now-husband, she was no conventional beauty–definitely plump with slightly-above-avg features.”  he would likely say no, or in some way try to state that it is just part of a relationship. seriously dated a single women with three kids- it was a horrible mistake., they are told to get a better job, to be more exciting and sucessful, etc. think the problem with the facts you cite is that they are currently self-fulfilling in our society. are always ready to have sex and will jump from one to another(bad thing but will be hailed for it),but for women its a different reaction all in all,women ought to know what they are getting into before they indulge,thats the only way you are going to stop having single moms added on the current list. tell me the reasons for not having a man in the picture aside, should all these men you are offering advice to jump head first into a relationship with a widowed mother? my mother was screwing teen boys and leaving my alone in my crib to do so. why do so many single moms have no desire to find a quality man but a huge desire to find a quality state?.”, but i have not once read or heard these assertions from any professional/respected media outlet, women’s/lifestyle/’progressive’ magazine, dating coach, dating blog or any other venue; only anonymous internet user comments to an article. on the contrary… i’ve dated a few single mothers and they have been the most selfish, manipulative, self-victimizing and flat out crazy people i have ever met. if she’s mean to people ditch her, because sooner or later she’ll be mean to you, if she’s mean to others.  when a man picks a wife, he wants to know he won’t be competing with some random babydaddy who was there before him. i would also suggest just putting any serious dating aside for awhile, like a few years at least. why would some dude want to raise another man’s child- isn’t that like voluntary cuckholdry? they are so easily manipulated by girls and are fools for love too often and end up unhappy, cheat on their wives and paying for it for the next twenty years., even if everyone was a parent, that wouldn’t mean i’d have to date one.?Tim, what’s so great about being able to attract nsa sex when what we want is a great relationship? it’s clear that feminists don’t see women as full people but as some kind of feral beast that kills her own offspring for a little more food or other material gain.  i think we share the same frustration that the bigger picture doesn't get discus…"gowiththeflow on how can i turn drinks into dinner without scaring guys off?  but men aren’t playing ball, so women throw a tantrum about it. are several posters on here claiming to be good single mothers. outcomes for children of single mothers and married mothers with bas are worlds apart and if you think that is because mothers with bas are brilliant, well i feel sorry for you. because while you’re here commenting on how much better you are than they are, they’re pulling double duty being the mother and the father, providing a loving household for their children. i ask can this not wait one year so i can graduate with all the friends i have grown up with? i think that single moms should not seriously date anyone new until their kids are old enough and you aren’t needed like that. i’m sick of cum dumpsters making babies for a career choice. some reason old yeller comes to mind and it was a man who shot the dog in the end because it was the right and humane thing to do. but using catholicism as her reason for having the baby but the other side of the fence is sex outside marriage in the catholic religion is seen as dirty and sinful.! i was actually confused about dating a single mother myself, and recently went on a date with one. she isn’t able to dispute the topic so she tries to drag widows down to her level and shame men into submission. my son grew up playing travel hockey and playing the piano. you are an ignorant person and i see no value in attempting to open your eyes to the real world. man would be fortunate to meet a single mother with similar characteristics to my own single mother; responsible, selfless, hardworking and above all, loving. if they are so committed in their relationships then once they discover they are pregnant they should march their knocked up asses with the person who knocked them up into a court house church justice of the peace etc and show how committed they are and get married instead of making bastard babies and becoming a leech to society and a disgrace!  i made note that i would need to win her love with treats, and quickly detailed doing so with a friends two dogs that did not like anyone. it seems that at this age, women care more about excitement than they do stability. meh i don’t feel like divorcees are bad people. are women expected to date men with a lower educational level? also come from a family with a bunch of bachelors who never got over their first heartbreak. for myself, i spent 16 years in the united states navy and went on to a successful career in the commercial diving industry. imo you should look for someone that maybe has a kid also, that way you can put up with each other’s stuff. there are programs for unwed mothers to go to school for free. for all the talk about may-december romances, statistically those are actually few and far between. why would you choose to ignore those signs before you chose to have a child with this person?’s a waste of time to chase people who aren’t interested in you. we do not care if we are not attractive to 20 year old guys, because with few exceptions, women do not want to date guys who are that much younger than themselves. they have been lied to by society and their friends about the reality of not only men, but also the dating market. she was married to a man that she claims verbuly was abusive and passive aggressive and also claims he raped her and or would only initiate sex while she was sleeping . very easy for us women to develop high physical and sexual expectations of men because obtaining sex is so easy for us. “i felt sorry for him being locked up, nobody to talk to except other prisoners. it is about the many cases when you are starting to hang out with two people, and like them both and you then have to let go of one. feminists believe women are too stupid to know the scientific fact that the unborn in the womb are human beings, i. who just happened to think the wrong guy was the one… it happens and i’m sorry but i’m catholic and could never abort my child not that i’m opposed to others getting one that’s their business… but as a woman who was committed to getting married (with a ring and date set), educated, job holding, non drug addicted person i saw nothing wrong with procreating even if it was untimely she’s no mistake and definitely no wretch.

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  older men often have lots of issues, are inflexible, and run away from anything they perceive as “drama” or resembling their failed marriage/s. as much as i love and respect marriage, i always say i prefer kids being raised by single parents than to be raised in an unhealthy marriage. some however, were very shocked to learn my age and did not want a relationship with somebody much older, so the chose to no longer desire a relationship. for me, i’m not interested in anything so unrealistic.!) then he shacks up with some piece of trash who didn’t want him to be involved with his own kid, lives off the government, lives at home with her mom at 27, and takes care of her 6y/o daughter and fathers another kid with her after 3 months of him leaving us.” and it’s going to forever change the way you view dating, men, and relationships. unmarried means you’re single no ifs ands or buts. are more prone to wait now then they were years ago. it’s good that met her on the internet, but next time use a dating web site. the kind you are attracted to, can respect, and who are, at least on the surface, fighting the instinctual urge to populate his and only his dna….  so the inevitable happens before she invests more of herself by having sex with him. when my dad left for the first of his next three wives, she was forced to get a job with southwestern bell. i hope one day men have the choice to opt out of parenthood. all the women i know who are winners, i noticed they've all been married only once, never divorced. a personal note, if i were in your situation, i would be rather having uncommitted sex with men in my age group, rather than looking for a serious relationship with an older man. my point in saying that men need to wise up as much as women do, is that guys don’t seem to realize that the longer they stay single, the harder it will be to find women who’ve never been married and don’t have any kids. problem with the letter writes is, in my opinion, not that she runs into players, but that there are objective reasons why men in her desired age group would not want to spend much effort on growing this relationship. i always came second, i always became resentful and many of them felt they were finished having children. i work 8-14 hours a day 5-6/7 days a week and spend a few more trying to get my business going while spending as much time with my son as i can. less murders because we had decent values and kids were raised by in most of the cases by their married biological parents and there weren’t all these half siblings and not any talk of “babydaddy” bullshit!  sorry but there is no empirical evidence to support  you belief. sometimes i have to forcefully push some cash in her pockets because i know she really needs it. the one hand: enough women perennially don’t get it (about dating not being “fair”, for example) that there would never be a shortage of clients needing to be told what’s really in their own best interest.  a modern man doesn’t turn up his nose at a woman with some sexual experience who might have learned a trick or two from previous lovers about what men really like, or more likely, she learned how to find out, but the majority of men would like to see a new sign on her uterus. you're a single mom these days you're praised and heralded for your courage and strength in raising a child all by yourself. so any relationship with a single mom will always start off on unequal footing from the get go, since he will always be second,, if not less, to your kids. even more so without the harley cap i would guess. today, over 70% of divorces are initiated by woman and i would not doubt that the currently popular ‘men are disposable’ meme has an influence on this, and probably the op’s as well. a woman becomes a single mom because she dated a string of deadbeat losers that walked out on her and his kids, chances are she saw that coming miles away - and she has no one else to blame but herself. too many women don’t get these wishes, though i bet they all wanted them. yes, i know everyone says that but i believe my luck comes from years of working the night shifts in the navy, not being a sun baby, never doing drugs, going very light on the alcohol, staying in shape, not being a junk food junkie, and being blessed with the youthful skin of my mother as well as facial features from her side of the family that are also symmetrical. are just very, very risky for would be fathers these days. the ones who pick losers - well, obviously they end up being single moms or dumped, single, divorced and forty. a lot of young people are ignorant enough to see nothing wrong with being a teen parent or a young single parent living with mom and dad with little education and little money. why do people expect women to date and even marry men they aren’t attracted to just to get themselves married?  you sound like an intelligent person with a lot going for her, and i hope you find what you are looking for. if she’s working, if she’s smart, if her child is happy (and that reflects well on her parenting), try dating. i also know alot of them have open marriages and that in itself is not approved by any christian religion. without our mostly* peaceful (drones and bombs) society, ya’ll single mothers would probably lose a couple children to starvation and predators…. i can recall exactly one guy i knew of a great many in that age range who considered a woman in with a child either a very unlikely candidate, or completely unacceptable. his wife is dead, so he’s raising the kids alone. when i was 14 one of my step moms 18 year old unwed mother friends dropped her newborn son off at our house. so later on we are not like you blaming it on the circumstances be a grown up and own up to your mistakes dont bring some bullshit saying that she loves her kids now thats besides the point we are not talking about her feeling towards her kids now that she has them  we are talking about men and women who know its smart to use all three forms of contraceptives so then they can decide when they are ready to have kids so no it doesnt matter if she loves them now and she wouldnt have an abortion she already formed an emotional bond it could all been avoided some women and men are just baby makers and then complain why theres so many obstacles in their life now haha they asked for it.  also, being adventists, it is like dating in a small town. a lot of them are, but same with traditional parented families. right now, as a dad, be there for your children! (some women prefer much older men, some are willing to consider a great much older man, but not all women are like that). then, tamara, many of the women you speak of say some vile stuff themselves. there’s just not enough room left for me at that point. someone else said also, nowadays many young single parents are feeding off the system as a college education is needed nowadays. there was nothing i did to contribute to our marriage falling apart. it’s far more effective to find a great catch among the people who are interested in you. i live in south carolina, a state that has virtually no support services for such weather.  brazil is the #1 economy in south america and #3 in the western hemisphere. the vast, vast, vast majority of single moms are not exceptions.“some people might think i’m bonkers for falling in love with a prisoner.. that said, you are right, there are a few men out there that want to blend a family. i have an outgoing personality and seem to be asked out a lot… we usually go on a few dates, everything is going wonderful… but nobody ever commits. sure we’re “fine”… we’re all “fine”, aren’t we? the ones who are still single, divorced or single mothers, all seem to follow the exact same formula - they are drawn to low quality men, and low quality men produce low quality lives., how many 35 yr old single dads do you know of who can get hot 22 yr old college girls in bed with ease? or wrongly, most young cute single guys will consider single mothers for sex only unfortunately. i still hear a lot of people saying there needs to be more sex education.  you decide when you wish to pursue something serious with, and whom you will pursue it with.: 8/16/2008msg: 8view profilehistorywhy are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22? a month ago i was dumped by my girlfriend, a single 32 year old mother of two girls (13 and 6).'t meet a single woman who didn't have a child already. the other reason i have stopped looking is because, frankly dating is far too full of preconceptions and madness and i am far happier. yeah and aside from paying what ever little fees i did have to pay with my paycheck i was also on a soccer and academic scholarship… and super couponing is not beneath me. if your sons too young for any of that just sit back and watch. risk of making myself look bad, i once dated a single mom of a two-year-old. believe most men are more than ok with short term relationships with women of any age so long as he likes what he sees and likes how she makes him feel. great uncle was born in like 1890 something and "had" to marry his wife.   i mean, go for the men you want, but anyone who sees dating someone in the same boat as her as settling will likely struggle due to her lack of awareness. i also am not the type to give my child up for adoption, always wondering where he was or how he was doing. what’s misogynist is reducing women to mindless animals, as if breeding is all we are good for, as you do. personally, i thing the ancient male gender roles of protector/provider/workhorse were much worse than the status of children which women endured under “patriarchy”. and because of this the single moms end up with men who leave them. just go volunteer at a va and a nursing home a couple weeks then come back and share with all of us what you’ve learned.  they were past the honeymoon years, also so it is likely that they are still together. there are successful women in this world who had unfortunate events take place that have left them as a single mom and to simply tell all men to avoid them is absurd. am very supportive of widows who are now single with children. u aren’t gonna change their minds, and u aren’t helping them with such comments.   if my marriage ended when he was still young, i would have just concentrated on being the best mom i could be and wouldn’t have bothered with dating.  you could have spent the last ten years happily with someone else who ticks off most-but-not-all of your checkboxes. live feedloading tweets by @evanmarckatz…you said"hey emily,Just reread my comment, and it absolutely sounds like criticism.) thanks, i’d already realised he’s a terrible person. really don’t get how, at this point, we can’t safely assume not making generalised judgements about people for whatever reason is the ideal way to promote equality. mother i've ever met who has a happy life and a present husband, got there by choosing men who were winners - not losers. the majority of women in my dating pool were single mothers. horrible experience and not fun at all , i found out she is also a pathological lier , she said her divorce was filed last september ! western women have a limited time to catch the best man they can and they are competing for a gradually shrinking pool. my parents don’t want me, i’m just here out of a sense of duty. if they can’t do this well today there are choices.  the only older men that do really well dating have lots of money and well-preserved looks. are a widow and i clearly exempted widows from the “single mom” label. issue is with the ‘bucket’ women with children are put into. you are going to see false rape cases going up. are you honestly saying all women should abort any child they have out of wed lock? she later says that she does love me while sober, so i don’t feel worried anymore. but in my location i also see many horrible married parents.  the problem is that men are fine not getting married. you are going to see alot more unhappy women out there than ever before, simply because women and most of them donot have there own mental ability to be happy with themselves and to be honest with themselves. most single moms don't know what a good man is. i don't care how cool some guy is or if you think you can change him into a great man. don’t have a degree, so college educated women don’t even know i exist and if they do, they’ll toss me back because i don’t have the prerequisite college degree and white collar job. she hardly ever has quality time for me and whenever we do begin to develop quality time the son calls ……. another, better, option would be it to date at all of dating a single parent would make me less happy than simply being single. there are parents out there who put their oot down and tell their child that the baby will be put up for adoption. know you say you are a judgy bitch and your rant here is just fucking wrong. a week or so later she broke up with me.! as much as i understand this dilemma i wouldn’t date something with 4 kids either. the logic behind this, is that there were a lot of ‘wrong choices’ made for them as a child and so they might have had a slower development of their own autonomy. why do some women choose good men and other women not? when the laws change and everyone is on an equal footing and i do mean equal footing and women stop using the golden uterus to get what they want and develop some self respect you will see marriage get to what it is supposed to be, but until then happy no marraige. it is considered seriously wrong, but your idea that the offspring of premarital sex are “bastards” and looked down upon is totally foreign to catholic moral teaching. but as scripture says, “the fool in his heart says there is no god. can't just blame a woman for choosing a man that does something terrible.  so he is going to be able to look past the kids. i guess i must be in reasonable shape because nobody can guess i’ve even had four kids, or that i’m even 34 (i get asked out by guys in their early 20s- i feel like i should read them a story and tuck them into bed… not get into bed with them, uh! soon lifeboats will no longer be “for women and children only. however, i am not going to ever be dad number 2 just because the ex decided to marry some type of bad boy criminal unless the spirit from up above told me to marry. do think that if you want to date somebody younger, you will be under far more pressure to keep yourself very fit, whether you are a man or woman..but the fact that your getting hounded for sex is just a sign of the times…us single women with no kids get the same crap…keep your head up…..She never has had a job or never lasted at any she did have so. should men be held responsible when they are denied equal reproductive rights? others drive a piece of crap someone felt sorry for them and just gave it to them. she turns jobs down saying they are below her standard because she has a masters degree!“if she happens to prefer guys younger than her, no amount of telling her to look for someone older is going to change what she really wants and likes. she would say that we were “soul mates”, but if we were we would have met before she met the loser that ruined her for me. have some sympathy for single mom’s as my own mom was one.. feminists hate women because feminists consider abortion to be a form of medical “care”. posted an attack on a person without knowing the particulars of her situation. my grits, i had 3 wonderful children out of wedlock , i was more prepared for children then a immature selfish man that was all about him only him him him. its a big disappointment when the same kind of guys are no where to be seen when we require a little commitment. more and more men are waking up to the reality and you can’t prevent it. it is not always 100% the women's fault if their man leaves them, and not every single mother is created out of a one-night-stand or uncommitted situation. the ones who have baby after baby with a different sperm donor so you get multiple last names in one house hold. think julia is just annoyed that ‘karen’ is pretending to be a woman, when he’s clearly a guy. but then again you would have those arguments anyway with whoever woman you’re with and hey i have a woman that any man would dream of, she loves me so much, great passion/sex, humor, 100% loyal (she doesn’t even look at any man) and in a year or two we’ll have hopefully another child so really i consider myself lucky and happy. even when he’s an adult why change everything by dating? you pretend to be upset by someone who is “juding (? she does not stay at a job very long (no more than a year) and all her jobs are low paying care-taking jobs (-12 bucks an hour). i can acknowledge that some 40-something guys are better looking then their 35 year old counterparts, but the fact is that that isn’t very common. the majority of them had a kid out there somewhere, or several kids with several different women.?i know many don’t care that much (or i would have a hard time, erps! knowing you would always, no matter what, be a single mom? this is why most guys steer clear of getting into anything other than a fling with them, it’s because it’s mostly all about them, and their relationship with their careers, not about the family, or the children they have therein. marriage is a wonderful institution, but what has ruined it is the culture and society television magazines and all of the programs tailored too fuel womens dreams and wishes which are mainly drama filled look at all of the soaps on tv.  maybe because you are a woman and do not look at women in a sexual light, you are more forgiving, because the simple fact is most women do not age well either. it’s almost like they’re allowed to have this immature, peter pan i’ll-never-grow-up-therefore-the-women-i’m-attracted-to-won’t-either mentality, while women are told to wise up and change their expectations because no man their age will want them. she can’t stand it that men aren’t buy that hipocracy any more. there are huge numbers of people running from christianity and the bible and studying wicca, witchcraft, and paganism.  i actually do try to not be personally offensive on these boards, but there are many men out there who would love to find a virgin to marry. i understand that but not any other reasons unless they are financially capable and mentally and emotionally capable older established women whose time is running out. but the problem with your thread is instead of saying, "why are so many 18-22 year olds single parents". no, you wouldn’t be unworthy of companionship, but you’d probably have a harder time proving that you’re committed to them, because of the fact that there is a man around that you have had sex with on many occasions, that you’ve spent large amounts of time with, that you had to love at some point, who you are still in contact with. that’s the thing with some of these single mom’s- they will try to trap you with a token kid, then you are kind of stuck in their spider web, so to speak. i am still talking to the 27 year old brazilian simply because she has already lived in my area, and is the same religion.  there is just too much responsibility involved, right from the outset (and, again, most men mature into child-rearing responsibility over time and do not want it thrust upon themselves quickly). also do not hold the opinion that women must accept much older men.  then he asked the men to stand up if they are a good man. it gives her a reason to go to school and get a good job for her and her child/ children.  once the accusation is leveled, some people will never look at the accused man the same again. so you say that a child of a single mother has this over the top desire for a father figure and therefore will latch onto any man he can, however a lesbian couple with just as many zero fathers should be able to rise a kid.? online dating…and poor me guilt trip kept me around. you can’t unring the bell but imagine having those great happy kids with a stable hard working non pot smoking husband so you didn’t have to do it all. now the irony here is that the people most likely to stay in a marriage (a first marriage, never divorce) are the same people who overwhelmingly oppose abortion – yes, the christians.  however, it is going to be much harder to find someone her age that is willing to be with her (given her situation).  i think it was because i had too many obligations. all it takes is one moment of weakness, one lapse in judgement, and you could seriously hurt someone. the flip side - a few of my wife's friends are losers. at 52 years old, i’ve never felt that way with any man i’ve dated… i believe that it’s just a matter of time before all of you beautiful women on here find someone special. i was once involved in a friends with benefits relationship with a single mom. my son is and always has been well taken care of and loved. what the hell , i am so screwed up from all of this guys and gals 🙁.? that some pregnancies end short of birth through no fault of the women involved does not excuse the women who intentionally cause other infants in the womb to die., i do think the op should be more open-minded if she is serious about finding someone for the long-term.

women have put themselves in the situation where they are today, they did it to themselves. while devastating, after many months and taking time to heal and being patient with one another during the painful process, the children and i were able to move past it fairly well. by every reasonable scientific definition a zygote is a member of the species homo sapiens. and moms boyfriends just can’t cut the mustard here unless they’re real serious.  now, as i have had some life experience, i find that i would rather they just reject me up front. most of her friends are married, never divorced and have a great family. women@some lady (view comment)i call bs to your post. all of us started like that and that’s why when we kill someone else, it is murder. we are the judgemental ones yet according to you single men are all “irresponsible, immature, dependant and [only want sex]”! if you did a study in the outskirts of detroit or the like you might find a bunch of single mothers who are drug addicts, uneducated and in and out of jail. people who confuse being safe with giving their children permission when they will make the decision regardless of the consequences is a parent that doesn't really care about preventing the unwanted/unplanned pregnancy. but this doesn't fit the criteria of a single mom. have also found that white men tend to have the problem of being emasculated by a wife or girlfriend who makes more money than they do. is: single moms are better off staying singlethese type of women are much better off staying single altogether since many men will never get involved with a woman like this to begin with since they do carry a lot of drama with them. he also suffered colic and bronchitis and somehow he was my responsibility. but if you have children then you are choosing the risks that come with that., in this particular situation, there is no indication that any of these apply to the woman who asked the question. we hear that men over 40 are all beer bellied, losers with poor hygiene. of course she started the processes while she was still dating the guy and after they broke up she found out she was pregnant. certain people are more likely to act a certain way. short term it’s easier to do things without wrangling the logistics of a single mother and long term a lot of these guys don’t want the added responsibility.'s like saying it's a woman's fault when she gets dates a beta and gets raped because she should know that "betas" are often sexually frustrated. if most single mothers were like you, you would not see the disastrous outcomes for their children.   plus, he has also likely dealt with woman who don’t want to deal with his kids. since it clearly doesn’t fit into your stereotype of what a single motheris is. i said things i can’t take back as well as she , i make mistakes because i am human it’s what i take away from the lesson is the key , i can share with you my friends this , i miss her dearly and know i was in it to win it , my story personally is tragic because of the potential i saw with her and us as a team and at the end of the day that’s what it takes to play a team ! she never has done anything with her life but lay on her back for lots of men and pushed out 2 daughters she didn’t take care of. just about all women marry a man to try and change him, because thats what they are attracted to.  as has also been noted by many top shelf women here, the top shelf men their age aren’t interested, because they are top shelf, they are finding younger women who unlike you, are interested. but for the most part, you usually end up in bad situations - like being a struggling single mother - because you made terrible choices in your partner. (adoption or giving it to the mother) but until that happens men might be more likely to be better as single parents than women. only do i think about who my child could have been then and now, i feel incredibly guilty that i ended an innocent life so that i could live my life the way i wanted. there will be a much better woman for you in the future. > blog > dating > i’m a single mom who is ready to give up on men because they all want sex. just stay single after 35 and i’ll see you at the mustang ranch. for every good-looking, childless, never-married man over the age of 40, there are about 50 who are no longer that attractive who’ve already had all the kids they want, and just got divorced. i suppose you would do the only reasonable thing and advise all self-respecting men to stay away from her.? some people thrive off drama and hurting people i guess . and here you are whining that women over 50 feel invisible. i just don’t think it’s fair that she compromise on dating guys her own age, if that’s what she truly wants. a rebuttal of that video was soon made by a single mom, explaining why she dont date single men with no kids. and when they have to give up or pay spousal support or alimony which there is a growing number of this happening guess who is complaining. he still smses daily, and one thing he likes to say is “you’re getting older, u think many other guys will want u? well maybe i’m standing up for some good folks who worked and contributed to society and are treated second rate so our government can take good care of your baby factory acquaintances. you said "why are so many 18-22 year olds single moms". you are short, fat, older or an asian man, you must read this., there is no way i would have ever taken on four ! women have it in there minds that someone owes them, no matter what. by going through this topic had brought second thoughts in my mind regarding my relationship, i’m currently dating a single mom of a 3 year old son, we both love each other.: 12/14/2008msg: 21why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22? men have caught on to the whole "alpha fux/beta bucks" and are dropping out. yet there also great guys like that guy who posted a video of he and his much older wife dancing. therefore, it’s a waste of time complaining about it being unfair. would not classify myself as being a feminist…i would say that i am moral and have standards of human decency and respect for treating my husband the way i want to be treated…and if he does not, then we either negotiate about what is being brought to the table or there will be consequences…and that works both ways. what i do know and have seen is that ive heard some pagans make comments and say “those damned christians” to each his own i guess. might even go through her best years trying to attract a younger man only to strike out in this endeavor, only t find herself in a position, when she is 40 plus, where the only men serious about dating her are ten years older. it is likely that single mothers and single fathers both put their child’s needs first, or not first. those emotions that you have felt for this person don’t just fade away.  make the range equal on both sides and then just ignore the older guys you aren’t interested in. is spot-on and, actually, for the record, i have stopped dating because my priority is my child. if you let yourself get easily frustrated, then your best strategy is to avoid dating.  just let him know that you aren’t going to sit around and let him lash out at yo in his pain. none of the women i have known have ever specifically sought out older men. my ankle monitor died that night, so the police came and picked me up. she was always employed, never got a cent from welfare, she went to college (not on the taxpayer dime) and was married to my father before i was born. is a shame that many kids are losing their virginity at 12 or 13 but this is what happens when people want to wait until that age to actually talk to their children about sex, if they ever do. we get to decide whether we breed or not based on whether or not we want to, and many do. you worked your con job and are doing well now. with a baby you can get free child care if you choose to go back to school. i’ve talked to the son of a bitch on several occasions, and he just wants to be footloose and fancy free. i am a woman, who has had many women friends and coworkers over the years. seems that you are very restricted in the free time that you are able to give to a partner. as long as people are trying to do and be the best person they can be isn’t that the best role model for a child. i made mistakes to affect my sons life and refuse to bring another child into this world out of wedlock. seems to be fairly common to see women frustrated about men not wanting a relationship with them because they have kids, but it often appears that these women aren’t considering men that have children as potential partners.  then when you are 50, he will still be there with you and you won’t have to deal with this mess. i am quite shocked and amazed by the negative and judgemental comments… personally i would not date a single man… i think they are are irresponsible, immature, dependant… all they are in for is sex sex sex…. there are waiting lists everywhere for infertile and homosexual couples who want a baby who cannot make a baby themselves. i believe also all parents should have mandatory child rearing classes. remember this is my point of view, there would be guys that go into it but it’s just not me. why are some men so infatuated with other mens babies coming out of their girlfriends cunt before he got to her. it’s about time someone challenged the socially popular and out-of-date consensus that single moms (widows excluded) are some sort of angelic, ambivalent, selfless people. any man really insists on falling in love with a single mom he needs to talk to the baby’s real daddy to ascertain the truth about the woman. arrested for rape, then go on the welfare while he waits to get. here’s the thing, “career women” are married alright…they’re married to their jobs. the video made it crystal clear that single men without men choose to date women without kids based on preferences.  so long as you don’t assume that dates mean sex, i would love to go out with you. is mentioning the word “settling” so anathematic to women here? i bet more so-called christians engage in shit like swinging than pagans. you don’t have to tip them, you don’t have to pay their taxes, or their healthcare. don’t dispute that women may have a preference for men close to their own age, but the fact is, if that isn’t working for you, what are you going to do? i am as happy as i have ever been right now, and this kind of bliss wouldn’t be possible without the wonderful single-mother that i met more than 5 years ago. but fetal factories are something else ones should run away from. know 2 single mothers who are struggling and it breaks my heart seeing them and especially their innocent children suffering from moronic decisions their mother made.! poor you, the bitterness in your tone is fairly obvious you have some serious issues, maybe you should exercise some compassion and offer some respect on those who may have made mistakes and are obviously taking the responsbility and actions to do the best she can to provide for her kids., if i remember right, you are like in your late 20’s or early 30’s and still a virgin, right? the people i’m referring to aren’t divorced women. ideally, i want guys within 3-5 years of my age range, but to put that in a profile would limit my dating pool too much. you can’t force a woman to give up her free welfare money. they feel left out and basically are joining a cult. and actually many children from single mothers turn out like that. and dating a single mother isn’t for you, but that doesn’t mean it is not for anyone else as well. the pill is a class one carcinogen according to the who but yah, women should totally take a cancer causing agent to chemically spay themselves so a man and jaunt around their internal organs with no consequence, like the man accepting how a woman basically functions. women aren’t taught the billings method first so they feel they have to take the pill so they won’t get pregnant. about 5 mins later, i got a long text message from her saying that i wasn’t what she expected and wished me luck on finding somebody. even if it takes two to tango i can assure you there could be nothing that she did that made her deserve the years of torment (even a visit from him after she divorced him). stating that single mothers may often times be troubled individuals is different that claiming that most are stupid, poor and uncaring. people sometimes have to deal with things they may not like and they have to sacrifice things for the other person. i’m the oldest of my siblings by years, so no adult companionship there.. many of our parents never thought their marriage would end and it did.  you are going to wake up one day and find that the best guys are taken, or no longer interested in you. posted: 1/2/2009 8:50:05 am"my point is why are so many young women having kids at an age where they aren't fully adults yet? you are not entitled to get the man or woman that you want, otherwise, all men, even 50 and 60 years old would date 20 and 25 year old women, and all women would have the bad boy millionaire type. every painful moment, every sad moment, every fucked up part of my entire life, i’d relive them all just so that i could hold her for five seconds at the end. yet it is entirely possible that a nice person made a mistake when they were younger by copulating with some guy and decided to have the courage to raise the kid alone., i am a single father with an 8yr old daughter. pointing out how things are unfair and what needs to change so that the dating world can be fair is a ridiculous waste of time. adult or the attitude need to be certain thing is something some people will never have and others have it in their teens.  the only person that can change your situation is you.. of all races, have become more open to dating men of other races. and if your mother just so happens to be a medical professional and you follow in her footsteps it might be easier for you to get a well paying job straight out of high school to pay for college! you're less educated on the matter then every single parent between the ages of 18 and 22 on this forum. i love a few other women who happen to be single moms, i really do.“i think it’s a bit unfair to suggest christina has to change her type just to clinch someone.  not the that men she wants, and even some she feels she would be settling for. some day she wont need me this much and she will have her own life and i’ll have to go out there and get myself a new one. your daughter was born and you tried for another while you were still single.  actually, women who have been unhappy with their love lives, who make a significant change in some way, tend to be very happy. 40+ year old male, have been with a single mother for 3 years with one small child..i puppy love sometimes but i’m over that shit in about a week…my husband i loved…then one day his high school crush contacted him on facebook…some chick he pined for for years apparently…and i stopped mattering…this chick screwed you over because shes afraid to feel again. if you had a car there is gas and insurance. is a perfect example of the feminut “truth”:If a woman cheats on a man, it is because he is not giving her something she needs.  now add in the fact that you will never be #1 in her heart…well…what exactly is the upside for one of these guys who are single with no kids? then, out of the blue for no reason, he became a horrible, abusive monster! speaking in real terms not all women are bad and like this. again the reason why there is “friction” is because middle class and lower middle class/working class white men now have to compete for the same women.  there are many women like her, but not nearly as good looking, who can’t get guys into bed with them, at least not with any regularity. so there were 2 incomes before the split it wasn’t that hard handling the last semester on my own… and have you heard of dual enrollment? and married men and women both know this which is why they don't waste their time with losers who have all the signs of an instable person. mitt romney caught some flack for saying basically the same thing at cpac last year, but the man is right. have no stability in my life right now, yet a single mom has thrown very obvious hints of interest.” their delusional desires to feel sexy and not like a mother somehow take precedence over their children’s psychological well-being. moms are much more likely to go after alpha men who are attractive, muscular and good in bed and hope that they can keep the man by giving him more sex and following his every whim. my siblings and i were raised by day care and were the first gen latch key kids in the early 80s. to see some statistics on just how many single mothers are ” stupid”, ” poor” , and do not ” care about their children”. to boot i’m overweight so i don’t think i could get a date with a single dad who was overweight ugly as sin inside and out simply because i’m disgusting. just want to add, for what it’s worth, that if she can juggle dating and raising up good, well-adjusted kids, then i do wish her the best of luck in finding what she’s looking for. because, let's face it, most single mothers in that age bracket do not hold full-time jobs and live off the system. that’s a pretty tough thing for any human being to do, to not play the victim, but overcome the entire issue, to include seeing the angry, abusive ex as a broken person as well. you have made it quite plain how you would eventually treat responsible, mature, independant, genuine, sincere, single men. i broke up with her the next monday, it didn’t stay that way though for long we got back together off and on because i think we were both tiered of being alone so it ended up being an emotional roller coaster that just ended three weeks ag. if you’re willing to date older, you can often get someone who is a much better catch than the younger people who are willing to date you. i am fully aware that had i taken after my dad’s side, i would not have this luck. your son has a chance to become a single man with kids if he has kids with his future wife. i’m not saying that guys should prefer single moms as i do, what i say is this: she could possibly be a girl straight from this post and is the a-hole this post describes. you’re looking to answer your most pressing dating and relationship question, my blog is like google for your love life!“when you meet a divorced single mother, immediately start looking for the flaw. as to having kids it takes more then wanting to do the right thing for them it takes the resorces to do it and lot of men and women should not be having kids before they are ready to provide for them also. thankfully there are blogs such as this one which show us what kind of people they really are.  your focus should  be on your children, not dating or finding love. trac, i hope you never reproduce with your failure at reading comprehension: “her kids are, and should be, her priorities. this site is called judgy bitch and this is america so fuck off unwed mother. women need to be held accountable for their actions, there are plenty of great guys out there but those guys aren't making ladies vaginas moist. it makes no difference if 1 in a thousand single mothers is mother theresa when the remaining likely hood and impact of the risks to the man and any of his children is so devastating. why break up, when, only three days before, there was no sign of anything being wrong? do i deserve to be alone forever because i am a single mother? the reason is because kids can get very attached to the “partners” of their parents and often suffer greater heartbreak and emotional turmoil when they couple breaks up. which is exactly why so many women are opting out. you are choosing a decision that may make you a single mom if the guy leaves. i read dating column comments, i very often see (presumably women) posters regularly use phrases  such as “women are [constantly] told to [settle] .  to give them some hope that it might be you, and then leave them is unspeakably cruel. accomplished men do consider women outside their race, single mothers no matter how they got to that point are not considered at all, why should they? i’ve had many friends and coworkers over the years complain that guys on dating sites who contact them are way too old., not knocking you for being successful, i also don’t know you personally (so don’t assume). many more young women are keeping their babies with the help of caring families that are no longer embarassed because their child provided proof that they engaged in premarital sex. point here, is find a guy your age now while guys are still in the mood to marry women their age. also, she loved giving oral and was great at it. i can get to a computer i will name some specifics from the dating single mothers and the dating single fathers argument.

i just know that this place has helped me through some rough patches in the past. me, and i can’t speak for everyone here, it isn’t women like you we are bitching about. due to unwed mothers blackmail tactics to my parents with the tension it created going home wasn’t an option though i asked if i could. am not from that time, there were no pregnant teens at my inner city high populated high school because it wasn't a "popular" thing to do. these women are definitely competing for an ever shrinking pool of men. btw i wasn’t comparing your comments to my ex’s nasty remark, i was comparing my sentiments towards him to the sentiments that some women have towards much older men. a 40-something, childless guy, i am occasionally one of ‘those guys’ the op complains about but it’s only because my many experiences/relationships with westernized women (many of them single moms) as a whole has taught me two universal truths: 1) women love and crave attention [mitigates self-esteem issues so many women have], and 2) women with any appreciable smv will always seek out a guy who is better, younger, richer, whatever than her [re: hypergamy] and if she marries him, will likely bail if he ever loses this status, even if only temporarily. i’ve been talking to a lady recently and was thinking of breaking my “no single mom’s” rule, but now i won’t! all sluts are about one thing and one thing only .  there are women in her shoes that have gone years without sex.), as there will likely be no shortage of older men at that time either :-)..Reelaxjoined: 11/14/2008msg: 3why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22? single mum with a child can never marry anyone again or date…shes already been married already had a child and for a single guy to involve with a single mum is wasting his time buying a used car with a damaged engine ready to blow up at a young age, every single mum says shes divorced but speaks to her ”x” husband at least once a week due to the child…they may as well be married again…. having had to watch my own back means that i would not be considered worthy of remarriage to a good fellow for having endured and then using common sense to escape such a man…and if i am the one to be scrutinized for his character issues which were brilliantly concealed or had later developed over the course of many years by his own poor choices, then i would perhaps elect to remain single too rather than being branded and rejected wholesale. i was a single mother due to my partner of 8 years choosing alcohol over his child and myself, i am now married to an awesome man and we now have a child on the way.? more and more started to surface as time went on and i am ashamed i let it continue for so long, i told her thank god i never introduced my daughter to you or your son , you are not fit to be around her . i think you’ll learn more about the person’s values by having conversations with them than judging them by their statistic as a single mother. married couples have to cancel date night at a moments notice, you can’t have conversations without being interrupted and yes you would have to spend money on your own kids too, so if all of that is “yuck” don’t have kids or you will just end up creating another single mother. so as of now, so i haven’t allowed myself to “date” until i’ve fully got myself together. you are all still slaves and white women are your masters | judgybitch().  again, i only point that out because there are women who would be happy for even that.’s an ignorant hypothesis at best( yours), but without some evidence supporting you ignorance, it’s just an angry rant by an individual who got burned at some point.: 6/4/2007msg: 11why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22? now of course i don’t see the benefits outweighing the risks of dating even if i wait a year or five for a man to meet my son. and if adultery did occur, she would have to prove that there is no more feelings for each other. young men should encourage this too, since i think too many are duped into becoming fathers when they are too young and just not ready. as for the observation that we do not live in a perfect world but a fallen one, that’s something not caused by god. times it is about the fact they were late and they weren't fed breakfast and are very hungry.  you can’t have a “do-over” and think things are gonna be great – you brought your 4 kids into the world and they come first, i assume. i ended up dating women who ranged from 11 years younger to 16 years older. but right after baby and the d and c sever and fuse permanently her tubes so there is no more chances to make more “welfare checks”. oh, and for the record, he didn’t start treating me like this until our son was born. think my husband was the only one without a kid out there somewhere. sometimes its her fault that she has a child out of wedlock. the approximate wage for a person who has no college. i'm not saying that there are no young parents who do the same, but i'd rather my taxes go to someone who needs a leg-up, than someone who waited until she was 30 to have kids and can't even claim ignorance., maybe is ok to date a single mom, but not spending money on her child., ever assume a divorced woman is some innocent blushing maid cruelly abused by some terrible man. i know you do so out of caution, but learn to see the grey contours not just the black and white.’s the crux of the issue – a widow is husband-less not by (poor) choices, while unwed mothers/divorced mothers are. i focused on just my own family, raising the boys, building my career, and becoming completely content with being alone.  it has nothing to do with fairness; there is nothing fair about the dating world. women who are happily married are almost always more wise and mature than single moms. as a childless woman, i tried dating single dads, the kind who shared 50% custody. bottom line is that for her, her kids are a big part of her life and she loves them immensely. ever age thinks their time is worse than earlier eras when the truth is that things stay the same or tend to get a bit better in most areas. it’s not because i didn’t bang single mothers. feel sorry for them because they always complain that nobody wants date them because they are single moms. this is something that all of us have to deal with when dating. no matter how much the other person says they hate the place they are in , people make choices and place themselves in the hell there used to. (by the same logic, women should steer clear of single dads. i don’t hear men say, i need to find my soul mate and ditch their husband. some men can be just as bad, my own brother i am sad to say is also 39yrs old and moved back in with mommy after his relationship failed, he has a 9yr old daughter who i love to pieces but he sleeps on moms couch, doesn’t pay rent, doesn’t buy food or pay bills all this despite having a full time job. you made that choice and because of that choice, he left you a single mother. as a natural result i didn’t know how to talk to women (more importantly pick ones that had some resemblance of ethical virtue). please do all of us women, single moms and just single, a favor and move to the eastern world so you don’t have to deal with us western women. single mothers have already demonstrated how disposal they consider fathers. before we completely derail this thread, i can confirm that some white women do have babies with the criminal element; white, latino, black, even asian men and eventually end up being single mothers. thank god there are decent men out there though none on this page clearly. is a case of many but not all… so you single women are going to be fighting for a very limited type of dude. a lot of entrenched views and unconscious bias on this thread so just want to finish off my contribution that has appeared to have exorcised so many by wishing christina the best of luck in the future and hope that you get the relationship you want. and how they compromise is the difference between single moms and married moms.   he oved to my hometown and we are great and with my 4 kids. we are brave and you shouldn’t be even talking , because you don’t have that much love like we do… just start loving yourself. under: personal development, brawn > brains, state husband, raised by children, victim of self. you could argue that the men who buggered off should be there but how many times does it take to get it that there are many men like that? you’ve got absolutely no idea what you’re trying to preach about. i am in my late 20's and i would venture to guess that half of my female friends are single moms. so after adding up the numbers, i’ve determined that in north america; i have been priced out of the dating market.’m sorry to say this but why do people jump first and then look afterwards? some people just don’t click, no matter how much both try. they also don't think long term when it comes to having children, which is probably partly due to the "welfare state" as you call it. condoms break, birth control can fail and people are making the best of it and moving on. maybe you could compose songs while you drive around or sing. but the author nails it about viewing single parents with a great deal of skepticism when it comes to dating them.#4, start dating men significantly less attractive than she is used to. a child of a divorced, single mother; everything written sounded exceptionally truthful.  no, because many people meet and fall in  love in high school and college, where most people are within 3 to 5 years age difference.”  she should say, “i absolutely love sex…i just don’t like it in uncommitted relationships. posted: 1/2/2009 8:34:02 amactually you've contradicted yourself and gotten some facts wrong. says, aside from you, that your spawn is “incredibly bright” (especially since you have no other children to compare her to).: 10/24/2008msg: 20view profilehistorywhy are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22?  but doing my due diligence as a parent has ramifications for generations. loser men were usually broke, in between jobs, living on their parents house, divorced, had a history of dating and ending dozens of relationships because they couldn't commit, and other qualities that are common among loser, low quality men.  why would they take on such huge responsibility if they could find someone else without that responsibility? all due respect, that’s the exact sort of narrative that i think any man (or woman, if the roles are reversed) should be skeptical of:“i did nothing wrong! jb has not even covered serveral more reasons why this is an extremely bad idea for you. there are emotional reprocussions from having abortions or giving children up for adoption but how is that any better or worse then not being able to feed that child you couldn't muster the strength to make a tough decision to not carry that child to full term.  they choose who they will actually marry, so long as the other person also wants it. even thinking back to 2 year relationship i had with a single mother and her son reflects this. though its reasonable to blame it all you want on men,the choice is the woman's at the end,because women hold the keys to progression to be frank. no, sorry, not in the sense of the word that they meant it. is coming from the same person who published an article saying "hitler was actually a great guy"., single parents of either sex who are open to dating and especially “sexual” are huge red flags. i just don’t understand why you think it’s the women who are the financially or emotionally needy ones when relationships break down. he's done it over and over in every other area of his life. if more fathers would step up, less women would need the so called system! she has passed on sub jobs at schools, turned down job offers from friends , but tells me she needs to get her and her son out of her parents house because its not a healthy invionment for her or him ? don’t tend to agree with this particular post, on a personal level, anyway. you’re always the third wheel, you always come second; her kids are, and should be, her priorities. are tough economic times we are in so where is the compassion that women are supposed to naturally have when faced with those moments? but you must remember that these are humans we are talking about, a species where no two are alike.  while i am sure she will get some young men giving her what she wants, she will also get exactly what she is giving out. (he was so damn lucky) i was thinking, why wuold someone do that, knowing how hard it was to already be a single mom. different educational outcomes are compared for 409 children in single-father, 3,483 in single-mother, and 14,269 children in biological two-parent families. dont think you can control her or help her to resolve her problems. the chances of you being number one in her life are slim to none.  are you ok with being similarly judged by other women who chose partners, had children with them, and are still married? chances are good that, some months or years from now, evan (or another dating coach) will hear from her again . almost all of them working at some pink economy job, none of them high wage earners. think there would be plenty of older fathers that would be sympathetic to her commitment to her children – certainly more so than a childless 34 y/o. i find something very wrong with a women who can’t readily tell you her part in a failed relationship or marriage. so yes, you women can very, very, easily get hot guys into bed.@tim: there’s no ego problem, most of us ladies know that it’s easy for most women–incl unattractive ones–to get nsa sex; since there are some very unfussy men around. i have had many women tell me when i wear it that i should either shave it or color it because it ages me. this is a totally different viewpoint than the single mom. are not the average single mother but i see a few problems with you proclaiming your above the fray.  she wants the 8, 9 or 10, who also has all these other great qualities. there’s nothing wrong with being a single mother, the issue, like evan mentioned, is lifestyles not gelling. a sweet, if undisciplined little girl, just like jb says, the kid wanted a daddy so bad. to be rude but the poster was not talking about women like you so your comment really was not needed. i’m not here to satisfy someone else’s needs at the expense of my own, that’s not a relationship.  i know so many men and women who would rather cut their legs off, than be on their own for any period of time. people go into adulthood these days wanting one big party, when in fact if one is taught that way unless they figure it out sooner rather than later they will just face and cause chaos. if one of your kids grows up to be a single mother? my feminist mother decided her personal career was more important than relocating so her kids could be with their father and keep the family unit intact. got more but those are two shinning examples,I wondered why she had 3 flatscreens in her house…1 in the basement. she and i are together at least 3 days each week, sometimes more.  so guys 29 to 39 are hitting on her and going on dates. as a mother myself, i totally endorse the author’s cautions against getting involved with single moms.  other times, they are unfit to do this, and others the woman isn’t close with her parents. so lighten up and just enjoy life and try instead to pursue real love and that comes only through sacrifices and hard work. be so blind, so self-unaware, so into “blaming others for blaming,” you done gotsta be a feminist. did have a mini-breakdown on my birthday, got so drunk that i couldn’t walk, and posted a long, bitter diatribe on the website where we met. in today’s day and age, what rock are you living under that you don’t know how to avoid getting pregnant? woman who keeps her baby alive is a better person than a woman who kills her babies.  it forces him to see her as a real person with real emotions, and real vulnerabilities. guys are sexually attracted to a wide variety of women. are you telling me that you had no choice in any of these decisions?  or did you know in advance that you and the father of your two kids would someday divorce, and you decided to go ahead and make babies anyway?, like all women seem to wear it as a badge of honor that you care about more things. many more young women are keeping their babies with the help of caring families that are no longer embarassed because their child provided proof that they engaged in premarital sex. if you’re not on welfare and are trying to improve your life for yourself and your kid then i applaud that.    while a much younger woman can get by more on her youth and looks, an older woman will have to be sweeter, more forgiving, more patient, more generous, more health conscious, less selfish, etc…  the same holds true for an older man which is probably why people who do get into these relationships as the younger person, often report that it is the best relationship they’ve had. more than that frances fails to provide any reason to dispute the topic of the thread. when it was the early stages of our relationship she informed me that she had broke up with the father of her child due to some certain circumstances. hate how single mothers are judged so harshly by some but some us don’t help ourselves by continuing to date the same dickheads over and over again, and worse, having more babies with them. because all these things are important to them they are able to flip the switch from play mode to marriage material mode with men. she has had bad intuition about the relationship from the beginning even though i treated her and her girls well but was careful not to get ‘too involved’. would you date someone who just parties a lot and, because of that, drinks regularly (at those parties?  of course you are going to have the attitude that you have. she has more time for you and is more carefree. who drive almost three hours arrive at midnight just to freak out the next morning , now mind you we went straight to bed when she came to my house and she said she didn’t feel good and mentioned that night so i sad your safe its ok , next morning all hell broke loose . if she happens to prefer guys younger than her, no amount of telling her to look for someone older is going to change what she really wants and likes. i don’t think anyone wakes up wanting to be a single parent of 4 kids.  so she will no longer have sex with a man that is not worth that gift. they are human beings who need to be thought about before 2 horny people get together. are welcome to read the blog, and maybe learn something that isn’t pure ideological bullshit, but you are done commenting.: 12/14/2008msg: 24why are there so many young single mothers aged 18-22? my friends are all married and i hate it when the conversation comes around to me “needing a man in my life”. dating a single mom won’t be a nightmare if you have the same beliefs that killing an innocent child in order to live up to the standard of society is wrong. but it still takes two to tango for both sides so i would be wary of each parent that is single. well with these changes comes the problem society and culture has changed . is it unfair to suggest that she considers dating men who are in the same boat as her as opposed to men who don’t have kids? stupidity is very common and it does not discriminate against single mothers or married parents. so instead a few years later, she hook up with another man that already had a girlfriend, paid for his bus ticket from north carolina to washington state (vancouver). our own beds, now we parent up and own it! as a single father just accept (your choice not your ex’s) that dating can resume when they’ve left home. i like that you dont tip toe around what most men are thinking(behind their opposite views they spew in order to get laid from said single moms. there are tons and tons of guys out there who will not leave a woman but many women are not attracted to these guys. stop your benefits for reproducing if you’re on welfare. topic is launching so many thoughts, being that i am a single parent.  a true gentleman will seek to be her knight in shining armor, if he cares that much about her, or at a minimum, will not feel good about using her and so he won’t. i walk six miles to the nearest neighbor still around to use the cell phone. a single parent, i often hear people who are happily married with children say you should be content with being a parent now and put your own human needs for intimate love and support on hold for the next 10 years until you are “child free”. should all men steer clear of me cause i am a shitty excuse of a person because i am a single mom? so a 20 year old woman is going to have a much easier time getting a 20 year old man. i have made the mistake of dating single mothers in the past as well, and the problems i experienced were almost identical in all three relationships, which tells me today that dating a single mother should be the very last option for a man seeking a relationship.

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