4 months where she was dating both of us without the other knowing..through my own investigation i found out she is seeing a 50 year old man now. intimately close to someone gives us a feeling of security and a boost to our self-esteem. he’s been sleeping with loads of other women when they were still together, he’s left her alone while their son was born (to get back with her later) and now he’s only spending time with his son maybe once every two months, not really showing any interest, yet playing the victim in front of everyone. i did contact his new wife and explained to her that i was still in a relationship with her now husband during their entire engagement up until they were married. i can get other women but i just don’t want anyone else. stopped no contact at 30+ days using the magic letter, she texted me and told me that a lot has happened. but you have to understand that breaking up means having the right to see other people. and i don’t think you should talk to him for at least 2-3 weeks after this. she feels a little better when she is with garry, but she can’t shake the feeling that this relationship is not giving her the peace that she expected. ask a trusted friend to change your password for you for about a week or two. there is hope you will get back together and yes, it’s probably a rebound. or she will break up with him and realize she still has feelings for you. and im too scared to write him that letter, especially when he’s with someone else. do you think he will still care or think about me or should i stop worrying and move on? they are into the same things and they are always together mostly at his place i would assume just like she was with me. i applied the no contact for 2 months but just recently i just gave him a birthday cake (because his birthday is near) thru a friend, and he told the friend not to do such things again and told her not to get involved. you’ll be just wasting your time and causing yourself more hurt if you try to pursue him. knowing her, i think she is expecting that i’ll reach out to her on her b’day, as i’ve never let anything get in the way of it. i know she is on vacation with her new boyfriend, and i dont want to be the crazy pushy ex boyfriend. you want to find out your chances of getting your ex back? and then i want to escape to a remote, internet-free island irl. just before christmas, something really bad happened to me involving another male taking advantage and of course i went to my boyfriend for support. i told her that i could not be in a relationship with someone that did not have the same feelings as me. i somehow pulled it back but she wasn’t as the same as she used to be(i asked her to start detaching from me like 2 weeks ago but never thought she would do it, which i think is the first mistake i have done). but thing is, he says he doesn’t love me anymore and doesn’t care about me anymore. since then i have found out that he started seeing her before we split (she didn’t know) and he has promised her the world, while also seeing me and telling me i was his soulmate. she also had an ex of 5 years before me that she jumped from him immediately to me. i’ve been worried sick about her because this new guy is a smooth talking player who doesn’t really care who his girlfriend is as long as he has one but she seems to think she’s in love with him and she seems to be trying to replace me with him. her relationship and her level of happiness isn’t really going to get you any results. the only thing you can control is your actions and your decisions. and when you see how happy they look together, it may just cause your heart to break into even tinier pieces. if you can’t seem to do it by yourself, you should seek professional help. we finished watching the movie and we ended up sleeping together and afterwards he got a text from his friends about going out to eat. i called her about 2 weeks after this conversation, and she said that she wasnt ready and said she has to find herself and wants to be happy with herself. what is going on and what on earth do i do? after that, if you still want him back, get in touch with him. do you think her feeling threatened will help destroy their relationship? and that is not a quality you should look for in a life partner. reading this i know i made the right move and i’ll stick to it. i slept over at his house on wednesday; we went to a county fair together on saturday; and he asked me out to lunch on sunday. she said when i was on my trip she holed up at home, didn’t hang out with anyone and envisioned herself in the future, realizing i’m not the person she should be with. because you were important to her and it’s hard to get over a relationship especially if you are in a rebound. i go i sit what ever i see he is in my mind i could see him everywhere missing his smile question start questioning myself what happened to him?- is really troubling, specially when she was treated badly by that man for years. had a wonderful time with my ex mom 🙂 my ex is still asking if i still come to visit, or talk to her etc… and hes still with his bad influence single mother gf, i just want to put this out there. of course, you should give her the time and space she needs to get over her ex and you will both need to start a new relationship that will not be a rebound.’m just hoping that she’ll see me for me…but i know she can’t do that unless i’m not there to be missed. she is happy i told her and even more mad than i am: she forced him to quit his job, which she helped him get. i hitted his limit and he created new facebook account and added his family and relatives only. is it a rebound when your dating close friend you both alrwdy know everything and get along great. for what to do, you should just apply no contact, at least for 60 days. after a breakup, that intimacy is gone in a matter of few days and you are left feeling empty. and if she doesn’t break up by the end of that time limit, you give her an ultimatum. now that i wanna work on the relationship and have gotten rid of all my anger issues he doesn’t wanna work on it.’s good that you were able to be calm and not be needy in front of him. but you will find someone who will care about your happiness. and if he doesn’t commit even at that time, you should move on. taking my ex and her new boyfriend out to dinner after i had spoken to them. a few days later, while still debating on calling him, he texted me again, emphasizing that he has contacted me twice. this may already be something you’ve done when you were still trying to get over the breakup, but keeping that mental tally does come in handy in situations like this. even though, she usually waits three months before sleeping with someone she is dating, she makes an exception in garry’s case; simply because she thinks that sleeping with him will make her forget about you. as for them being the same person, like i said before, it doesn’t necessarily mean their relationship is perfect and doesn’t have any issues. after no contact, you still want him, get back in touch and go out with him a couple of times. like i said they are the same exact person with everything. for some reason your brain always tricks you into thinking that you’re in competition with the new person in your ex’s life, which is silly since a) she already has the ex and b) you don’t really want the ex anyways. he kinda looked like he missed me the way he looked at me according to my friends, i didn’t look at him. wonder if your ex’s family and friends are comparing you to this new partner, and then you wonder who’s ‘winning’. if she texts you during these two weeks, you can reply to her but keep it short. you’ll go to the bar and you’ll run into them, and then what? should i keep doing this then message her aftr 30days? if they found someone they mash up with better and everything in general about that person is better.. i cant txt him, because his gf keepa on snooping around his phone and even the one who’s replying to his messages and acting that she is my ex (she done this with my ex mom and she wasnt happy about it). the only reason shes with that guy is he is a good listener and friend. she wont see it coming and then she will contact you. i wanted him to feel that i was done chasing and exerting effort to get back. after we broke up i basically did everything you shouldn’t do, i texted him and called him many many times for about a month until i finally realized that i needed to cut off contact and i deleted him off of all social media and stopped contacting him at all. confusing fact, is that she still has me on her social media as “important life event”, despite the fact she s living and possibly is together with her x husband. also says if your thinking of our ex at anytime its not important that you should not do it just learn to move on cause it’s not worth it to think or feel like you want them. you see that he still wants to get back together? went through similar situation my partner at the time left me basically to be with someone else he recently phoned saying he wanted to marry me at the same time he was trying to get rid of her it hurt me i couldn’t stop brining it up but lately i have stoped begging him or calling him for i shouldn’t have to be brave i also joined the gym which help . it gives you a chance to feel that level of intimacy again. could you please advise what should i do next in order to get him back? im now gonna apply the no contact rule, but is this a rebound. i know she’s seeing someone but her usual mo is to show her enthusiasm with the person she’s with all over social media. and when he came home he was being really distant so i asked if we could talk… and it turned out that he had been talking to her and that he all of a sudden didn’t see a future with me. any help/advice/insight you can give me would be greatly appreciated. forgot that she had mentioned that it’s crazy how next month would have been a year since we started. what are my next moves, i can’t find that anywhere, please help 🙁. but there is a problem that started in our relationship, i was getting jelouse of his best friend who is a girl in high school and about to graduate, she is 18, and my ex is 22 and they known each other since childhood, he told me that i had nothing to worry about, he isn’t attracted to her and he called me an idiot because he only loved me. have your moment of sadness and realization to let the news sink in, and then try to move on. im pretty sure from what ive read here that ive only pushed her further into his arms. i think he is trying to hold on to me still. was with my ex boyfriend for about a year, and we just recently broke up about 2 weeks ago. i don’t visit him so i will never know. weeks, she’d called three times texted a couple, i decided to call on the way to work. there is no way of knowing what was going on in her mind when she was in the relationship with you unless you invent a time machine, get a mad brain scientist, go back in time and get the scientist to analyze her thoughts and behavior. now almost a week after this fake break i tell her we should take a real break after seeing this website. it’s an attempt to feel the same way you were feeling while you were in a relationship with your ex. to sum everything up, we have been on and off for about 2 years and during that rocky point of our relationship, i made the biggest mistake of my life.’m looking for places…she does need to miss me but, in all honesty, i don’t she any hope in her coming back to me. up with me for someone else we did have not sex in 6 moths he says i’m bored never go out and the new guy he like to go out the opposite of me is that a rebound ? i really thought she loved me, you shouldv’e seen the intensity she displayed many times in our arguments. the truth is, you can never know 100% if your ex has truly moved on or you still have a shot with them. and also the girl is controlling my exbf decision not to resign from the company because his parents are asking him to apply to a diff. she said when he was stressed she would get stressed and then he would get mad cause she didn’t express what was wrong with her that’s when she said he yelled at her. i immediately applied the no contact rule and she tried contacting me asking me how i am but i did not reply, but during this two weeks i found out that 3 days after the break up she started talking to an old friend from her country. my experience, rebounds usually end and are not meant to last. but yet here she is all smiles and hearts and all these other pictures and stuff with the both of them and just of him. this means you can’t get mad when he begins to start dating someone else. feel like i have failed in both mine and your life and that i could have done better but at least i tried the best i could while under the influence of other people. i break up with someone i ship them off to an imaginary island where they roam free and make coconut snowmen and live very happy, very celibate lives far, far away from me. during this period (3 months) we stayed in contact, but it was no longer intimate/ relationship like – he would just tell me how much he loved me whilst i would encourage him to move on with his life. i do love him and forgive him and see if there is a chance for us again. i dont know if this is a rebound relationship or something else. think you are putting her on a pedestal and what you think is love is just an obsession. she might feel that she is in love with garry because garry provides her with comfort and an escape from the pain that she desires deeply. you will not be obsessing over them so much and you will be able to concentrate on your happiness more. on the other hand, your ex might just be in a rebound relationship. is, i have a lease until the end of the year.
you need to get help for anger and then after this contact her and say a simple. that the change she still has feelings for me is bigger then the change she likes her other ex. she was really nice to me and i really love her a lot(i think i love her more than i loved anyone else). gf is dating one of her close male best friends. was dating this lovely woman for a year and half, all around great honeymoon to foundation stages of a relationship. even though the sex is great, she is still not at peace with herself. i broke up with him i’m january this year and a week later he’d moved on to the type of woman he used to moan about and the complete opposite of me and i keep seeing them around my neck of the woods. either he can commit or you cut him off entirely from your life and move on. she now lives in his house that looks just like the houses we were fixing to buy. sent him a lengthy email saying i was sorry i messed up and that i hurt him, and that after we broke up i had done a lot of self-evaluation and i was sorry that i was so selfish and that i took him for granted. while others are not able to get out of the grief and their minds become obsessed with their ex. you can help me with this, because i’d like to know if the nc rule is still applicable to my situation or it’s already too late.. he started on a dating site 4 days afte the break up and told me so. she’ll start talking about her day or how school is going and how she wants me to keep a look out for a job for her. he came home and we had a talk, he brought him my stuff over (i almost lived at his house three or four times a week) he told me i looked beautiful all the time and touched my face, pretty much acting like if he cared. apologies i meant not making eye contact while we were talking but looking elsewhere and smiling. sure ways to deal with an ex seeing someone new. but it’s still significant if you two had a good connection. the only thing it’ll do is keep you in this obsessed state of mind. when first time i saw her i was like your all different she agreed she is into things she was not into before but all of a sudden? all of this was just as blindsiding as the breakup. just accept that your ex has moved on, and so can you. regardless of his reasons, start no contact for a month. so long story short me and my ex for 2 years broke up 3 weeks ago after valentines day. updating it postingnphotos and changing his profile photo with the one shes in it. this was due to her being in a foreign country, away from her really close friends (she had been here 2 years before i met her) and, after she moved cities to be with me, couldn’t find a job. all you know that she is not a very understanding person, since she is not accepting your explanation for whatever happened. we had been dating for 3 years and when he broke up, he listed reasons like he wanted freedom, to be stress-free and he felt that the feelings faded. i wished her a happy birthday the other day, and the conversation was small. i showed up telling him i’m not trying to “pull a beth” (his other crazy ex who we battled together and had fun doing so even though she borderline stalked him) and that i genuinely just wanted to be friends with him. all what i remember what my ex had said, that he is confused that he has feelings for two girls, he said he knows its hard for me that he is with that girl, and he has said that he remember good memories of us. like the no contact rule is going to screw me over here, more i don’t say anything more she going to be liking the new guy a lot more then me. your e-mails everyday and web site has been helping me tremendously. i’ve had a couple of casual text conversations with her since so she’s not ignoring me. of the examples of this social media behavior that i want to share came from one of my readers. i have tried just to be short and friendly but all i get is she reads my text then never replys just ignoring it or replys once hours later and that’s it.. just wait till his new relationship blows up because if his girlfriend continues acting like this, it will eventually end. however selfish it may sound, the only time you should reach out to your ex is when your life could not be better. i’m tying to work on things but this came up and it has been in my mind. decreasing your self worth and self esteem in the process and putting an unnecessary roadblock for yourself in moving on and finding the right girl for you. even if you try to resist, there’s always the temptation to have a teeny tiny peek at what your ex is up to.’s entirely possible he cheated on you and was lying to you when he asked you to visit him. ex was in a ten year relationship with his ex, was married to her for five. what is going on and what on earth do i do? ex bf broke up with me back in nov we dated for 3 years. do apologize for taking up and wasting your time lately. but can i ask what should i do now knowing that he is into someone this new girl. also that it is the easiest and quickest way to get over someone that you use to be in a relationship with because you are spending so much time with that new person like close good friend that it takes your mind off your ex and makes you realize that someone else has always had feelings for you and you might have always had feelings for them but never acted on them until now that this was the chance to act on those pent up feelings plus is shows her how incompatible she was with you . for my ex, after 5 and a bit months she’s still been simultaneously hiding her relationship (ie, “it’s not official”) and rubbing it in my face (all kinds of tweets, photos of parties with him/things we used to do, etc). he asked me for this advice, then mentioned that he heard i took a trip, and he seemed impressed by that and other things. we have gone through this once before but he came back. cut all contact with him and move on with your life. my friends all seem to think she has been manipulating my attention by doing things like this, as she only gets in touch when it suits her like when she’s been upset etc. she will sort of freak out when she finds out that you have been investigating her and it’ll make you look creepy. anyway, about 3 months into the breakup she started dating a new guy and they are in a full on relationship, talking about marriage and so on. i don’t want to go into the reasons why i think like this. start no contact and even if she contacts you, don’t answer her. i know it seems like the plan is meant to be about playing mind games, but if you notice, a huge part of the plan (step 2) is about self realization and self-improvement. we had a close relationship and i had a good relationship with his family. she does nice things for me and calls/texts/facebooks sometimes and vice versa but then she will completely change and treat me like crap for several days in a row and ignores me until she responds to me again. we went out for bbq for lunch and then went back to his place and we ended up watching a movie. the last thing you want is for your ex to think you are completely devastated from your break up. remember, there will always be a part of you that will wish he fixes his issues and you can get back with him. i said, you should start talking to him more often and then ask him to hang out. you should leave her be for another one month and then contact her using one of the methods in the 5 step plan. it’s a slippery slope, and no matter how strong your self-control, eventually you’re gonna end up looking at her profile pictures and the profile pictures of everyone she’s known since 2009. i don’t know what to do next, or how to answer? i arranged for a cleaning outfit but spoke to his pa to be in the house. theory, your sleuth skills might be enough to let you go unnoticed, if you do deign to check them out. day 8 nothing so called and left voicemail saying i’m binning your bits but still want mine. very common sign of a rebound relationship is whether or not they are trying to rub in your face. my ex emailed me the other day saying he’s trapped and his new fiancé is pregnant and she’s screwed him over and he hates his job and asking for help from the people he emailed. you will realize what you should do during no contact. she thinks if garry and her start having sex, she will feel much closer to garry and perhaps forget you. we have been fighting our way through the struggles of raising a child while attending college and working.! the night that i knocked round his house and he wouldn’t let me in because he had her upstairs. didn’t have any pictures of his ex on his screen saver, and he told me he was over her but he still had pictures of his ex in laws which i found weird and made me think that he wasn’t over that relationship. the basis of the conversation went like this (sorry it’s going to be a bit of a read):Me: i’m not here to pull a beth, just so you know. was with my ex for 3 years and we broke up. think you should just stay calm and let her make her decision.. keep telling yourself the relationship didn’t mean anything to her and you were just a plaything for her. it’s just a weird situation being from a small town and having someone mistreat you so badly. if you want to believe that they love you the most, then go with that. her parents don’t like me because we got into a little debt when we were younger. why can’t she let new dude organically become part of her life rather than inserting him into contexts i previously occupied? we got along so well otherwise, made each other laugh hysterically and were very physical. it’s possibly the best free guide on getting your ex back on the internet. ex gf broke up with me at the end of november and found out she was on match a month later., this hasn’t stopped him from pursuing this woman down in cuba. so finally i decided to leave then two days later he came back to begged me plead me everything but i liked someone else. don’t scream it out at the top of your lungs on the highest building you can find! and no, this is not just what she has told me. if he starts calling you constantly, let him know you need some space and time to deal with the breakup. made things worse for me is that i saw him, two his colleagues and the girl in our own hometown. he also text me to ask how i was and wish my mum a happy birthday! although, from what you said, he is still not fully over you. i knew from the start this was never a rebound. likely do you think the rebound of your ex and another will last if it started all within a week of them talking to each other? i don’t think either one of you is a rebound. you say she loves two men in the same way? i’m at a lost and i am so deeply in love with this girl, any advice would help. whatever technique your ex has used to get over your relationship isn’t really your business. i even went to his house and waited for him. do you really think he could have changed his mind within 6 months? also, understand that even though your behavior wasn’t needy, the act of going to his house just so you don’t lose him was somewhat needy. you probably meant a lot to her at one point and like many other relationships, that changed and she ended the relationship. broke up almost 3 weeks ago and sadly i’ve done the text terrorism and showing my neediness towards him. two days later he was already seeing another girl but he was telling me that maybe we could try again in the summer when i go home from college or later on when he is also in college and we will be able to see each other more. if she is still cold, then i’ll suggest you give up hope and move on. how are you planning to get out of this state of mind leave her behind? i would hope it’s not because she is trying to work things out with her friend. i am pretty mad at him for doing me one day and her the next. do yourself and your sanity a favor and unfollow your ex and his girlfriend on any social media channel. may-june i saw him adding a guy on his facebook. she also gets help with her problems in the next weeks. i said i respected his decision and when i asked if we could at least be friends he said ok. few months ago, his younger brother, who also married very young and had been with this wife for 8 years, got divorced. i’m not focusing or trying to find ways to get her back right now. a few days beforevalentine’s day i texted him (sad, i know, but i didn’t text him so i wouldn’t be single for vday haha). some people are extremely active on facebook and twitter while some people don’t usually post their personal life all over social media.
it made me look stupid in the end for believing she actually meant things like missing me or thinking of me or wanting so see me when she did. my ex send me message that i was right when i said to my bf tht it was unfair that he decided all alone to end our relationship. i blew up in the follow-up text messages and i probably will regret that but i am human and still in love with her. ex and i have been broken up for around four months, dated for 3, and knew each other for a year before that. a day or so of not speaking, he contacts me to let me know that he had cut off all contact with this girl and that nothing has happened. like how it happens after long periods of no association or someone being in a relationship. let him know if he is not willing to give you what you want and what you deserve, you must leave him. about 3 wks back during the no contact period she texted me that she hasn’t done anything intimate with the person she’s seeing. if you’ve been keeping tabs on her (via mutual friends or checking her emails or facebook), then you are not really following the no contact rule. he never acknowledged being engaged to this other women, he was shocked i found out and asked me how i found out. you need to stop trying to rescue the “damsel in distress” and find someone who is happy and who can make you happy. kevin, i know from reading this what you will think, but he is a good person deep down; affectionate, caring, funny and loving, however this dark side is extremely overwhelming. so for the past couple weeks i’ve let her have her space and deal with these rebound like you say. the last year, things had been hard and unhappy in the relationship (particularly caused by financial issues). this: 13 ways you know you’re dating a high quality woman. someone who is not even compatible with their life goal. i heard through mutual friends that she already had dinner with his family ( something we never did together) . has been extremely vocal about wanting to be married for a few years now. so, now i want you to tell me, how to get her back. and if she’s found a way to be happy (i am not saying she is), then it’s her right. i met her a day before we broke up and she said “i miss you so much” and hugged me hugely. heck noooooo, if she’s in a relantionship and having sex with some whatever, move on, leave, get yourself a nicer one, there are better ones believe me, let her keep on rebounding for the rest of her life then. i don’t know if it’s somebody from this country or from somewhere else but, she hasn’t started going out (yet) and although i really want to ask her who/where this bloke is/from…i don’t want it to kill me anymore than it is. she’s known him for a while as he’s from the town where she lives, they were in high school together (we both study at university which is a 3 hour drive from her hometown, he still lives there). then he started reminiscing on our past and my smile, but then the tone changed and he told me that i should move on, that i don’t want to be with him and years later i would thank him. is how your boyfriend keeps secrets from you based on his zodiac sign. got a call from my ex the other night at like 10 she asked if i was doing anything and if she could come over. if it doesn’t, then you know it’s over for sure. also a few days ago she told me she still liked me bus she misses the old me and she will back with me if i be the old one maybe (i think i said this before). i know there’s a lot of hurt and internal conflict and misery here and my recent heartbreak certainly feels insignificant to many of these stories. i got a “i’m seeing someone, we’re done talking, don’t ever talk to me again”. [read: are you jealous of your ex’s new life? was wondering if there is a time limit or something to all this i know your suppose to strike before the move on but if you can’t even associate even the smallest simply conversation. ever since she’s been dating this guy she’s been posting pics on various social media and adding comments indicating that they are in love and he’s dreamy blah blah blah… also, she blocked me on fb when they started dating and then unblocked me. or not you should try again is for you to decide during the no contact period. i had the feeling she might have an immaturity about her, her current state of mind could make her this way or bad experience from a previous relationship might make her treat her exes this way.’m so glad you ignored him if he loves you he will beg for you . i confronted him about it n he denies her in every way n tells me she is just his friend he told me about. even though your mind wants you to believe you didn’t, i know you did. anyway weekend i met up with him(after going through all the classic mistakes) he agreed to stay friends and work on things and wouldn’t meet other girls whilst we are like this. even the whole thing with her dating her friend maybe even still. are a lot of articles written out there about positives of “rebounds” how they are actually proven to be better for you and that they are not rebounds they are just new better relationships. either just being ignored or whatever so you do nc for another time period. i wish i didn’t because we didn’t try to solve the problems and i chose the easy way and decided to break up. give yourself a time limit for how long you are going to wait for her. the next day he called me three times but i didn’t answer and have no answering machine and i also got a text calling me scum and my mum lazy. i’d love to help and see her and show i’ve changed, maybe this is a good opp to rekindle something as i have completely changed physically and mentally. he also hangs out with her in full view when he is the kind of person to keep his business to himself. been 3months since my ex and i broke up, and now shes seeing another guy. she said, “if you really wanted to marry me, you would have found a way. i am worried he is only focused on the bad parts of our relationship and is ignoring all the wonderful times we had and how great we were as a couple. rebound relationship is simply an attempt to fill a hole in your life that was left by an ex. instead, he or she just ran into open and loving arms, and there’s nothing you can do about it other than move on. and if you found out all these things after the breakup, then you should not tell her you know all this. so my parents tell me to just give up because this is the second time she broke up and if we get back together the 3rd time will also come. give her some time and space and meanwhile try to make some positive changes in your life. within 3 months she went from “i love you and want to marry you” then this guy comes along and in one night she was telling me i ruined her life and am a horrible person. i know i will get over him one day but i don’t want to and the pain thinking about it is unbearable 🙁. i did all the things that was written in your no contact period like hang out with friends, have a vacation, spa, focus to something like work and so many. she wanted to send you a message that she is moving on. is going to be difficult, especially if you were close to your ex’s family and friends. give him some time, and if he doesn’t contact you, you should contact him and ask him if he cheated on you. i read your article about the no contact rule and the 5 step plan. i’ll recommend you keep contacting her via text and slowly increase the frequency and length of the conversations you have with her. i’m a bit confused as what she is doing. i said i know your with him (her friend that she is now dating) and you seem happy i’m not going to make problems for you. so i said i want to break up with you the following day.. i think they took advantage of him being depress and feed him with “she doesnt love you anymore” crap. have been in a relationship with this girl for almost 14 months. so in five months from our break up he’s got a new girl pregnant, made her his fiancé and now contacting me. the past 3 months, i have definitely been guilty of making all the ‘mistakes’ you mention in your article. she did not reply to that message but i sent her another message saying “i was pretty drunk yesterday and let me know when i can talk to you”. kevin, i need help figuring out if my ex is in a rebound relationship and what i should do next. i’d be naive to say that just because it’s a rebound it won’t work, i’m aware it very well could, but in that just-less-than 2 month period since us breaking up and her getting this new guy she would contact me from time to time. if she is not cold towards you and you have already done no contact, then you can stay in touch with her., most likely a rebound and it was probably done to get a reaction out of you. i mean, a part of me does wonder was it me that caused him to run, or is he a natural runner? you said she was in a relationship with you for 7 months. even months down the road she would hit me randomly saying she misses me a lot and thinks of me a lot and misses us and what we had. she started seeing someone pretty much immediately, not sure if she left me for him or what. nothing beats straightforward honesty, its less hassle all round and if you are both playing such games then what does that really say ? me and my ex fiance were together for nearly 10 years. he’s still with his rebound nearly five months later so if the man i love is still going strong with her, i don’t want his belongings left here forever. you decide to pursue him, you should be prepared to handle his hot and cold behavior and not react to it. example, suppose your ex always says he/she wants someone with a career goal. but i am done now – this is a degree of disrespect i couldn’t even imagine and who knows what else i don’t know yet. plus all the the signs that your ex is suppose to show to determine if they are or not in rebound. mutual friends have severed their ties to this man, get an untrustworthy feeling from him or understand him to be a jerk. i made a great impact on my ex he was proud of me, and told people i changed his live for the better, because he had a dark past. i only visits once in 6 months because of my busy schedule and i have never been a fan of visiting men i date. things were moving forward slowly and a month ago we went to a concert together, which he initiated an where he actually told someone i was his girlfriend. it may help to explain the inconsistency of his ‘feelings’ & the cheating. we started talking very briefly via texts a month ago and she’d respond to my texts but never initiated. if she doesn’t contact you, then you should contact her. on the other hand, if their relationship has been going on for over a year, then you can safely assume that the relationship is serious for them and it’s probably not a rebound. especially when you have a long time apart and she is already completely past and over you. years, perhaps that’s why it’s hard for you to let him go even though he disrespected you. she hugged me and started crying, she hugged me for around 10 seconds and told me:”i can’t do this, i feel like i’m cheating on him. it’s so near that it wouldn’t be weird if you were to suddenly show up and see them there, right? ex broke up with me 10 weeks ago (we dated for 2. broke up with him through a pretty harsh text but did not expect him to actually go along with it while he was home on christmas break. when we were discussing this i asked if we were still friends at least? after that i stopped texting her and calling her, i don’t know if she misses me. four days later i was told by a mutual friend that he was also seeing someone else and had been doing so 2-3 times a week for 2 months! don’t know what to really do about any of this. heard that his gf is bad mouthing him on facebook, posting a status “if you cant love me etc” and inserting his picture down below. your ex seems happy and their new relationship seems to be going perfectly. i tried talking to my sister about this she said i was just being used because she would say she misses me but never say why and it always happen out of blue maybe once a month and then back to nothing. i also called her (she agreed that i could call her) and i talked like i was doing great (i am sort of) and she said she didn’t have any feelings for her other ex anymore. ask for my stuff and to tell him he had a week to contact me about his otherwise i’d take it to mean bin it all. it makes me think it is less about her and our relationship and more about something else. am trying to get some help here on some issues i am having. it’s a slippery slope, and no matter how strong your self-control, eventually you’re gonna end up looking at her profile pictures and the profile pictures of everyone she’s known since 2009. from moving the rebound relationship too fast, another common behavior that rebound relationships have is choosing someone they’d not go for normally. well he became relatively distant and conversations became few and far between. you are the love of my life and i regret letting you go but i cant be man enough for you and i feel we had bought each other down and we are both two people in different worlds who magically collided past each other and fell in love. it shows you that someone close to you can show you love and joy and the feeling of happiness that you might of had with in a relationship. today i sent him an email letting him know i can’t accept a cold friendship like this, “we deserve better and maybe we have a better shot at friendship later on, hugs”. he still has stuff at mine, after nearly 9 years, there is a lot! so quit the comparisons, quit the stalking, quit the brooding over the fact that your ex got over you first.
i am just afraid that it will turn out just like me former ex before my current one i am talking about. thanks for all the free stuff, and thanks for te opportunity to share this. so stop comparing and start blocking, because she might be looking at your profile and thinking the same thoughts, and neither of you deserves to feel inferior. i first wrote in i gave little bit of story and what was happen between us, i seem to be having more trouble lately because after i saw her with someone else at her work when i stopped by to talk and give her a letter i ended up texting her next day saying wish you didn’t hate me and hope you read that letter and i know it probably wont mean anything but she said she don’t hate me and that it did mean something. things that happen when you fall in love with your life instead of a person. if not, then what you are feeling is probably jealousy coupled with loneliness instead of love. i feel like my ex has second thoughts about us getting together he says there is still hope but i feel like there isn’t anymore, he dropped a bomb on me couple of days ago telling his best friend that he loved her, and she told him that she loved him back yet they can only be friends right now because she likes someone else, this is while i was trying to get back with him and he knew that i loved him. i was devastated, she was younger and more beautiful than i am. it just means she is trying to avoid you for some reason, or perhaps she was expecting you to talk to her so she can reject you (and feel better about herself). the next day he called me three times but i didn’t answer and have no answering machine and i also got a text calling me scum and my mum lazy. to the point where my ex said i was pushing him towards her cause i caused him stress and she didn’t. you are looking for a time to reach out to your ex, as soon as he starts dating someone else is most definitely not that time. let him fight for you and prove that the really means it. some people engage in this, especially if they’re still super bitter about their ex. why was he letting a young girl sleeping at his house if he loved me and didn’t want anything to happen? i was originally going to show up at his house and clear the air claiming i just want to be “friends” just to get my foot in the door and work my way in from there. but if she needs to do that, then she probably isn’t over you yet and is quite immature. then we stopped contact with each other and he meets this new girl like 3 months later and they start hanging out and eventually get together and become “official. this is the first time i’ve ever done anything like this, i feel helpless. knowing her, i think she is expecting that i’ll reach out to her on her b’day, as i’ve never let anything get in the way of it. i do think you will be able to make a better decision if you go through the no contact rule for 30 days. whatever it is that has you beaming like a light bulb, you have every right to let your ex know about it, but calling him after you’ve just discovered he has a new object of love in his life, won’t shed any light on either of you. he didn’t speak to me since then – no texts or email. well, kissing your ex when you know you are starting seeing somone is not ok. compare yourself to this new person in every way that matters—and every way that doesn’t. it was a lot of fun, but i kept my distance and suddenly he was very flirtatious, talking about our sexlife and how great i looked and so on. was this meant to happen was i just the last person she wasted time on before realizing she loves her friend more then a just a friend as someone she could have life with. take a step back for a second and look at how much obsessed you are becoming. he didn’t jump into the relationship right away and he is letting her decide who he talks to, i’d say that he is pretty serious about his relationship. im so crushed i miss her so much i truly love her w all my heart and would b different if i had another chance. came to see you because she was still confused and still had feelings about you. if it doesn’t work, you can close this chapter and try to move on. my work situation is super great … and i have even been out meeting other women , just to get my mind right ( if that make any sence ? however she now is dating this new guy 2 weeks after we broke up. i just dont know if what has happened are signs to leave, or if him becoming a raging dick when we arent around each other means that the “no-contact” rule will make this worse…. everything we had planned is now on pause, we were planning on moving in together anytime soon now but i guess that’s all behind us now. said at one point that when she happen to run into me earlier in month she wanted to say she misses me but i ignored her and that she thought i hated her so that why she ignored me at gym. more you pay attention to what you can do to become a better person, the less time you’ll have to sit around and be bitter about your ex’s new relationship., your advice has made me open up and realize alot. posted before but now im really confused, my ex broke up with me about 3 month ago, we were together 10 years we have been in regular contact until last week when i decided to go nc i knew she had been seeing another guy and i think that’s why i was dumped but reading on here he could of been her back up plan before we finished, she kept lying about him all the time then last thursday she sent a text telling me she was now seeing him , but a month ago she said he was a rebound a bit of fun , now her saying that makes me think its serious between them last sunday after spending the day with her which she organised , holding my hand kissing me etc he text and she said i have to see him to sort my feelings out, she spent the night at his, i was heartbroken i think she is in love with this guy and after reading on this site its like she hasn’t been emotionally involved for months but on the other hand dumpers in rebounds think there in love but this guy has been around to pick her up when we were going wrong , she sent a snapchat on friday then i had caller id withheld calls on my phone on sunday which she used to do if we fell out could be coincidence but that has never happened before im trying not to panic i have been no contact for a week but god i miss her so much even after how horrible she has been but im in panic mode , how can she stop loving me , how can she forget me , how can she move on , etc etc etc but this site says if she waited 3 months or more to move on she admitted seeing him after 3 months but has been seeing him longer , and this guy is the total opposite (more confusion) real player not nice to women multiple partners etc etc ,but she says he is gorgeous and in her text she said i was good looking great sense of humour ,big heart which i think is a ego boost for her cos why leave if im all that anyway im so hurt and confused some good feedback would be excellent cos im at rock bottom. seems like she likes excitement and guys who are hard to get. i think there is little hope, but only if you move out and stop being there for her all the time. of all: i wouldn’t dare to show up here if i wasn’t absolutely sure that her ex (the one before me and the father of her child) is an absolute jerk. and does no contact really work for me even in this situation? they fact that she hangouts and has sex with this other guy destroys me but i feel like she’s just trying to replace me. if any two people are involved in this type of thing …maybe they arent mature enough for a relationship in the first place. i was hoping you could offer some suggestions for me. but after that later she responded with longer message saying she decided it not healthy for her to e with me to much damage done to deal with and she been through this before but she thought it was different and she has moved on from it. we talk she tells me she misses me an she doesn’t want to get back right now i just wanna know if she’s in a rebound or what cuz it’s hurting me inside an i wanna move on..In january this year my wife changed positions in her work place and then all of a sudden within a week this co worker told her how he felt about her and she feel for him. the longer they’re in the relationship, the more you lose hope. then he said his personal life was a mess but when i asked why he wouldn’t tell me, but at the same time he said he was seeing other girls. if so, then you must know there’s no way you can know for sure if her relationship is really perfect or it has some major flaws. i realized he didnt make me happy completely and i still missed my ex. about maybe 3 or 4 months ago she text me randomly saying she misses what we had but i found out a month ago that she is engaged and now she is married and i never knew about it only cause i saw her facebook saying she was engaged and now it says married. deep questions to ask your boyfriend tonight that will immediately bring you two closer. ex fiance got married two weeks after breaking off the engagement we have been togother for more then two years we had our problem. don’t you think that you should be concentrating on what will make you happy? resolute ways to resist the urge to call your ex. we said we should take a break to miss each other for some time, we missed each other soo much after 3 days, but we said that we can’t do this for next month, so we broke up saying we should stay only best friends. dude is a recovering alcoholic with domestic charges in his past. everything you are asking is based on the assumption that they have a great relationship together. seeing your ex with a new significant other can feel like a painful blow right to the heart. that and when you have been apart for almost as long as you were together don’t that kill any chance of that ” running into them and realizing things could work” type deal. turns out he met this girl through tinder (rolling eyes) and said “she is amazing, we hit it off perfectly and it feels like we’ve known each other for years. i know it’s painful and i’m sorry you are in this situation, but i want you to know that everything will get better with time. she said she does not see us getting back, not meant to be, etc… i brought up lies that she said, and instead of apologizing she yelled “dont you ever call me again” and sent me a text that said “have a nice life! allow yourself a moment or two alone for some loud screams, maybe some throwing of objects that won’t break, but if your ex starts dating someone else, you have no right to be openly mad about it. you are not sure if you should contact her, you should do another month of no contact. heard from his mom my ex is still asking about me, how i am etc thats a good sign right? they are exactly the same person personality wise, spiritually, ideology, and belief wise. we did still see each other on and of till about 4 months ago, until then he was just dating girls but nothing serious. there a way to see if they were only with you because they were only physically attracted to you especially when they are saying the same things they said to you to their new partner. he said both of them went into it not expecting anything serious, but the more they chatted the more they had in common. the thing is, you said let his new relationship play out and then contact him but he still has half his life around mine. it’s been about a month and i pretty sure they are dating i haven’t asked cause i am sure he wouldn’t want to tell me. i resisted the urge to stop walking and be approachable so i pretended to be talking to someone on my mobile phone and ignored him as i kept walking. she doesn’t know that i know all of this. he actually texted me right after i posted that, just asking about a music festival i went to last weekend. i was ready to hang up after asking him but he then started being very nice, asking what i did that day and told me that he has feelings and a heart and isn’t emotionless. this site has placed a lot of perspective into my situation. and you should do nc for 30 days and message her after that. i can’t get over it cause she said he was like a brother but but he is not. if your decision is based on what are your chances if she doesn’t reply, then i’ll say you still have a chance and you should try again after a couple of weeks (preferably a month)..) have been dating on and off for the past 7 years. couple days ago she sent me a bunch of books to read while i’m gone this summer, but then the next day she goes back to being really hateful and rude towards me and acting very spiteful.#5 don’t make comparisons between you and the new partner..i thought he was coming back around because of his words to me lately ( i miss you- not over you, etc) and our time apart. text him or send him the letter mentioned in the 5 step plan. we haven’t communicated since valentine’s day and it’s been a month since they’ve started dating and almost 4 months since we broke up. you think i have great chance getting him back after i made the efforts and practically dropping form the face of the earth after? childcare is expensive, so we alternate schedules in order for one of us to stay with our daughter. i was pretty insensitive about it becuase his parents had been going through a divorce, and i was having my own family issues, and i guess i broke up with him when he needed me most. also there are a lot of articles written about how your best friend is the perfect one for you and the popularity of girls ending up dating their best friends and it being the best thing they ever had, also things on how they are the perfect ones for you all this time but you only recognize it after so many years. my ex and i had been going out for almost 3 years before i broke up with him this past december right before new year’s eve. they do everything a couple would do together but she just keeps saying she isn’t dating. if their new relationship has been going on for a few weeks, you can’t say for sure if it will end in a few months or it will continue for years. even the night after i saw her making out with that guy she texted to say she saw me last night and if i had a good night. your ex with someone new is always going to be weird, no matter how shark-infested your island waters, or how long you’ve left them stranded. missing someone is a huge part of the grief one goes through after a breakup. your ex will try to win you back based on their zodiac sign. to know the truth isn’t even for the purpose of rekindling anything, but just for a sense of closure. i already feel like i been lost her awhile ago, not going to be able to get her back since she said she moved on from it cause she been here before and it not worth it, that her relationship isn’t a rebound it going to be real mccoy, and that trying to follow these steps is just going to fail me. and talking to her best friend is not a good idea. my questions are, is he rebounding with the new girl? also, his gf is straight up attacking me online while trying to be passive about it. had been on a few dates in the mean time, had sex with one or two, but no relationships. let me add to this that the week before she initially posted the picture of herself with her now-boyfriend i saw her at a nightclub making out with some guy that is not the guy she’s currently dating, and also looking over at me in between kisses (i was there with my sports team, she was there for a friend’s birthday and we knew by that point of the night that each other was in the club). also, before she started dating him were in contact quite a bit, but right after she started dating him she became very cold and distant and seemed to be trying to push me away. it showed me the difference between being happy physical with someone and not really caring compared to actually caring for someone like my current ex who i would of done anything for. had been with my ex for ten years she broke up with me 6 weeks ago she said she felt different but still loved me i had suspicions she was cheating because she started to lie a lot it she is now with this guy but denies it. apologies i meant not making eye contact while we were talking but looking elsewhere and smiling. either your ex will move on and be in a happy relationship with her current boyfriend. 2 weeks passes without contact n out of the blues he texted me asking how i am and such, i tried playing cool and waited hours before replying to his simple messages but i now messed up. i usually recommend people to give themselves a time limit, in most cases, 2-3 months, if things don’t work out by then, you should just move on. seen that she said she loves him so i see that they think they are soulmates and always have been but take away the material things he does and the notion of you thinking you have same ideology and i don’t see much there. i am in total shock because this is a man i have waited for, for 4 years. know they’re still together and that his rich family is backing her business endeavor, as she was fired from her job shortly after shacking up with the man. but yet, here she is, rushing a relationship faster than a speeding bullet. he said before he left that we’ll still see each other and exchange text messages.
help you keep your sanity and to keep you from revisiting that dark place you frequented after your breakup, here are our tips for what you should do. you go to your ex and say straight up “im not going to play a lot of games, this is how it is. i’m no psychologist but after coming out of a long term relationship and hurtful breakup with someone with npd, he seems to show a lot of the traits. you choose to search for a new relationship or put all your efforts into a hobby, it’s infinitely better than sitting at home and thinking about your ex and your ex’s new partner. ex is the kind that you described as the angry ex in another post, however, he has anger management problems. just get back in touch and let it be his idea to get back together. i wasn’t just comfortable doing that at my house and i told him that, because i wanted him to feel that my parents’ house isn’t really the best place to do it. the other end of the spectrum, there are exes who will try to hide their new relationship from you. i really don’t know what the relationship is like because she doesn’t say anything about it to me. i started doin the no contact but it was short it was about 2 and a half weeks because she asked me to see her for our b- day and btw we had a very good time and she loved the gifts i got for her, after that we saw each other two more times later on in that week but idk if her relationship is a rebound because she liked this guy before we met and another thing is she said he’s a nice guy and always makes her laugh she ” loves him” now i don’t know what to do i really want to have her back and i am changing for the better cause she means so much to me. if you decide to comment read the comment guidelines before commenting. but this guy was a rebound because he helped me stop thinking about me&my ex whenever i was with him. i know how it looks and how things are but, would or do you see it as being completely over and it has been for some time from her perspective. don’t quiet understand when you say if she don’t respond which is unlikely in my case. we talked about the stress that he is still under, and seemed like he is tired of dealing with it. what is strange to me is that this new girl is very similar to me just younger, he even said to me when he meet her that she reminds him of me when i was her age. it was as if the undeniability was a coping mechanism for me at the time to heal after the hurt that had been caused. if you want to pursue her more, do nc for another 2 weeks and try again. regardless of that, your best course of action is to follow the 5 step plan. my former ex thought it was over when no one officially said so she was with a guy for 2 months. this probably shouldn’t bother you all that much if you’re already in a happy state in your life. if you want to believe that they love you the most, then go with that. if they already connect on deep level then i’m sure she feels the sexual physical part is complete too. think you should send the letter after two months of no contact. here is what not to do when your ex starts dating someone else. the fact that that i screwed up last time, how is it going to affect this time? started to play online games with my ex again since last month and we had fun and he said “thanks for the nice memories:)”. you need to stop thinking about the past and start thinking of your future. went to marriage counselling but every time she was asked not to contact him and start to work on our marriage she would just lie to the therapist and me and done what she wanted. if you still want him, apply no contact for 2 more weeks and get back in touch. simply put, it’s like inwardly saying that your ex’s annoying quirks are someone else’s problem now! is this a clear sign that i was never really anything to my current ex? things are getting worse then before i at one point i was able to not think of her as much but since last i saw her is when she asked to come over and since then she has just been so much more happy with him then she ever was with me. how can she fall out of love with me after almost 5 years of feelings for each other that she can surprise me one day and want someone new? so obviously this means she is 100% over me already and very happy in new relationship with her close friend right? she just wanted to do the exchange and leave, but she did mention the dating profile that i had re-activated.. give him call while he is at work or something. i am trying to move on with the help of a therapist and trying to get back to the old me. we later talked in the car where she told me that she was seeing someone but is torn between me and this other guy because i’m a great guy. easy ways to stop comparing your new guy to your ex. i’ll be honest kevin i don’t have many people to talk to about this issue so i appreciate the advice. i ask what his name was just cause i was curious and she won’t tell me anything and is very secretive about it. so, i want to get this out of the way. he did something amazing for her birthday recently and now he has another shot at showing her how amazing he is with the upcoming holidays. much to my demise, he changed his profile to one of him and a new girl. your mind is stuck in a negative spiral and you need to get out of it. but i went out with my friends (mainly) had fun she found out and the other day she told me tht pushed her away, this was the same convo as the ear ring. days after that i got no texts and i found out later on that during that weekend that we were supposed to meet like always, he went on vacation with his colleagues (and that girl he talked about) and they, not the company, paid for it. and for that you’ll have to let him go. ended the txt/snapchat conversation after 30 min, i told her that i had a guest coming by to visit , and that i had to leave… wished her a great day. after all, the less your ex is on your mind, the faster you can get used to not thinking about how things were between you two. he’s been beyond childish and cruel throughout all this when i wanted to be civil and get my stuff back and his. you’ll do you, while they’ll do whatever it is that they do. have i lost her forever or is this just a rebound relationship? but i found out that he was already dating this new girl before i even came back home. what should i do if he doesnt reply to my text? i hope you are not thinking of getting back together with him. unfortunately i couldn’t understand his need for space and i freaked out. have a feeling he was the one cheating on you, or at least was thinking of cheating on you. i just don’t get how someone can be so heartless and vindictive. i’m writing to you right now, because i just don’t know what to do. me and my ex were together for 8 months, and i have been in nc for over 6 weeks since the breakup. they think that finding someone completely opposite will probably give them happiness. so in five months from our break up he’s got a new girl pregnant, made her his fiancé and now contacting me. i just don’t understand if my being a single mom was really an issue, since he told me from the start he accepts me for who i am (unless his family’s totally against the idea), or he’s just a pathetic flirt. some people keep someone lined up for dating before breaking up just so they don’t have to be single for longer than a few days. maybe there are things that would have to change and we can have a rational discussion about whether such changes are possible, given our situations”. by september of this year, things seemed to be getting better, but in november, he went to cuba for a week and came back telling me he met someone he was madly in love with and wished to end things with me. after a bout 8 month at sea i find out he is dating someone else i though i was okay with it but when i finish the contract and returned home and started working at my old job where both my ex and his new girlfriend work i feel very sad and heart broken i love him and wish to be back with him he has been dating this girl nearly three month now what should i do. her parents being against you and pushing her into the new relationship might work in favor of you.” i tried calling him because i wanted to get some closure…but he texted back “please enough is enough. why would you want to be like your ex’s new girl when being you is so much more fun? the problem with that is he might end up engaged etc. that mean she is on to the next right even with the random they saying they miss you and what not. my birthday will be coming up this week and last week when i visited my ex he asked me for my new address. i don’t know if its a rebound relationship with her new guy, or what the deal is there. so if having a new relationship is what makes your ex happy and focusing on your career is what’s making you happy, stick with your career and quit mimicking what your ex is up to. see what your saying on stop with the having hope and stop thinking of her. since then i returned to uni and he continuously called/ text me letting me know how sorry he was and that he’d do anything to show me no matter how long it takes. should i answer or even tell her that i know all of this? he replied back that he is no longer engaged, and that he is gonna leave the country soon for time alone. i just want to know if this is a rebound. because you’re friends with her on facebook does not mean you should stalk her like your life depends on it. and is there any hope that we can get back together? it hurt so so so much and i really couldn’t believe he could do that to me full stop, let alone during a time that i was extremely vulnerable. you sure you will be able to have a healthy and long term relationship with this guy? well after her always being needy towards me, she gave up i guess and was so angry at me that she went off and let her friends convince her to start having sex and talking to this other guy. all the times she said she misses me or thinking of me a lot i know we’re not true because she has been with her best friend turned boyfriend for sometime. also said is was easier when they were just homies but yet here she is just amazed and happy with him. she just glanced at me really quick and it looked like it was a disapproved look, like really this guy. he made it known that he started to go on dates with someone, even wearing the clothes that i got him (maybe guys are different, but i know i would’ve thrown or given that away).. now i have to be a bitch to tell him to make up his mind? i think you do have a chance to get back together. he is a very needy guy and very jealous guy. the big difference is that i actually cared about my current ex more then i have for anyone i told her i actually felt love for her not lust like others. hating on this new person will just fuel your bitterness even more. in the first couple days of the breakup i made the mistake of begging him to work through our issues instead of breaking up with me, and i told him i would always be there for him. and i don’t think you should continue contact with him and/or have any high hopes of getting him back. or is it best to leave it alone and swoop in later on the chance things fall apart? he’s younger than her and according to her very clingy, even wanted her to move in after only a couple months. if she ends the relationship, she will have to face all the pain and emptiness alone and she doesn’t think she is ready to do it yet. at first i would look past the distancing, but then i started getting frustrated and we would start fighting. the best thing for you to do is no contact, at least for 2-3 months. here’s how to deal with the weirdness and get back to the mainland, because you have far more important things to do than worry about who your ex is smooching. say to do another couple weeks of nc and try to text her again. i told him even though he said he said we shouldn’t talk anymore that i still care about him and will always have an open ear if he needs someone to listen. also, does this sound like a rebound and what should i do at this point? it might satisfy your curiosity, but it won’t necessarily give you closure.’ve been doing the nc with him for a week now, but within that period i accidentally bumped into him but i didn’t expect him to show up in the area right then and there. she is so income with him already and i know he is with her since he just been waiting for this to happen for years and now he has it. then he recently married this other but continues to contact me. like this happend few times before in the past,but in day or two everything was okay. now after letting me down with payments, shouting at me and hanging up continuously, i didn’t know what else to do other than to block contact with him. it was really hard to hear her lash out and distort me and our relationship to say the least. people say she is only with him cause he provides the material things and takes her to these amazing places because she is really young and he is 14 years older and had a thing for her for years. i did it becuase i felt i had a lot of personal issues to deal with (family, etc. whatever her reasons for not being with you right now is her business and not yours. you so much for your response…it’s just so hard to understand how someone can tell you those things right in your face and lie. regardless, you can try getting her back using the 5 step plan and if it doesn’t work, move on. she said she misses the old me where she fell in love with in the first place and that if i become the old one again, she wil get back with me maybe.