i do not see why giving them a phone is a must. i really enjoyed that she differentiated that expecting and hoping…"alessandra on breaking the six deadly dating patterns – an interview with dr."give the guy a chance to prove he might have what you need for a satisfying relationship. i’ve been doing online dating and it’s been going pretty well and i’ve met some great guys. then buy one of those walmart phones and use that anonymously. the main reason is to attract the greatest number of prospects. people don't like to chit-chat over email for long periods of time or give out their phone numbers. here are the most urgent concerns you raised about etiquette when youre dating online — as well as her wise answers. just know you will not be exclusive with anyone if you don’t give him your phone number. after all, giving out your number shows interest in the person you're talking to and moves you one step closer to making plans. i hadn't realized that there was this much stigma around revealing your number, but now i see that i was in fact afraid of coming off too forward. you’ve ever wondered why you struggle with men, it’s quite likely because you’ve never given much value to HIS circle in the Venn Diagram. person cannot find out where you live by your cell phone alone, unless somewhere on the public internet you wrote "my name is [x] and my phone number is [x] and the address associated with both is [x]. it’s right up there with a first message saying “i like your profile, let’s meet soon and see if there’s any chemistry”… eh, let’s not. and i do have to actually speak to a guy over the phone before meeting. i circumvent the issue of giving out my personal number by using google voice. it’s just a matter of time before online dating profiles will have all of these things combined anyway. do i hit home runs in person yet strike out online?, please see the comment right above yours (and mine too in response to it, once emk lets it out of moderation). if he refuses to give you his phone number, be wary.
problem in dating is when you think your circle is the “right” one – even when it doesn’t overlap with anyone else’s circle. i have the same cell phone number for 16 years and i do not plan to abuse this number by giving them to people who might be a riff raff. she didn’t give out her phone number, i’d think she were a freak or hung around with some bad people. do not lie about your weight and interests, or show a photo of you when you were much younger. i don't want to have to deal with the drama and inconvenience of changing my number just because some guy decided to text-bomb me for 'leading him on' or to randomly text me photos of his junk. in general, it just feels pushy when asked for my number too soon, like he is more interested in selling me something than in actually getting to know about shared interests and perspectives. it generally is easier to track someone’s address down a landline or work number than with a cell phone number. did entertain a couple of people who sent way too many messages that were well-written and thoughtful(and i’ll admit, on paper they looked like winners in every way)but as expected, one never asked for my number and the other did but then was really flaky about following-up. i kept giving him alternate suggestions, like using email since we both had smartphones, but he insisted on doing it his way. so i would strongly suggest talking on the phone — that’s where i feel you get more of a connection. think we should get over this fear, though, because it seems like giving out my number sooner helped keep my conversations alive longer. have a google number and i use it exclusively for online dating., no woman thinks she is the only woman on an internet dating site. i would have discussed all that before exchanging numbers anyway. not sure what you're taking about with your first reference. risk to withholding the number from a good guy who will be turned off is much greater than the risk of exposing herself to a stalker. and what’s the big deal about giving someone your phone number?^^^ the google result will give you only a general area, not exact address with street name and house number.'m in a relationship now, so it's a moot point currently, but if my current guy and i broke up, i'd probably get a contact free/disposable phone to use for this purpose.)…the presumption is that everyone is online dating with the objective of being in a l/t relationship is a false one.
however, i would wait several days before contacting the person by phone, because you don’t want to sound too needy. i’m not sure why anyone, man or woman, thinks that a person who doesn’t know you from a hole in the wall would be willing to jump through these kinds of hoops (pen pal, several phone calls, etc. tried texting using burner again, but i didn't receive all his texts, so i just gave out my real number.’s definitely good to take some time before handing out your number. online daters have had this experience: you start a conversation online, it seems to be going well, then someone drops the ball and nobody picks it up. > blog > online dating > am i being unfair not giving my phone number until i’m ready? have tried everything and online dating is still not working!, you would not let a stranger you met in the street into your house. besides, your profile doesn’t say very much about you, so maybe if you tell me more about yourself, if we click, then, maybe in a few weeks, i’ll give you my phone number and we can go from there. perhaps, the trick to preventing online dating conversations from dying down was to move them over to text — and a fake number could let me do that without compromising my privacy. i am not in competition with anyone…this is dating, not football. so women, if you’re using your facebook, linkedin, or any other photo’s in your profile that are up on another public site they’ll come up in an image search with a lot of other info. it true that your photo is all anyone really pays attention to? this has worked perfectly well for me and i have not been shy about giving my number when asked to guys i like, or think i might like.’s always polite to ask through an email, “would it be ok to give you my phone number because i would really be interested in talking to you. since someone from okcupid harassed me over text, bombarding me with messages and telling me i was rude for not responding right away, i've been reluctant to give my number out and preferred to keep my conversations on a dating site's interface until i trust the other person not to abuse their texting privileges. encourage other online daters to give out their numbers sooner. is the real rule: after 3-5 days of messaging, ask to meet at a public coffee shop, bar, or restaurant, or ask for the phone number. when i explained that it wasn't my actual number, it made more sense to him.. i hate giving out my phone number, because most of the guys asking for it want to text.
instead of talking on the phone, suggest a meeting in a neutral place. a few phone calls would have to take place first. do you have a special number that cannot be used to look up your address? call him, but make sure you use the phone blocker if you use your home phone. sometimes if the number is not restricted, you can find out the name of the phone account holder. to me, both of them are good guys who are protective of me and are willing to give me a sense of security., the best security experts in the world will tell you the same thing… go with your intuition, your gut feelings…. you talk to him on the telephone, and, after a bit of chit chat, he suddenly starts talking about sexual things, or asks you what you are wearing, hang up. tell him you are very lonely, or are alone in the house, or give out any personal information. are the parent, so what you decide in your wisdom isn't right is what you have decided.’m a guy, and i agree that you should not hide your number.’s a story about a man i gave my number to but kind of wished i didn’t….?Unlike androgynous, i don’t think 18 years of online dating makes you potentially clueless (unless you are! unless you're dating a guy who works at nsa or is a computer hacker. was a guy i “met” online who wanted us to talk everyday on the phone for a few weeks before meeting. like many people, i don’t have a landline and my cell phone number is the primary contact # for my entire family.^^^ the google result will give you only a general area, not exact address with street name and house number. you rather spend 20 minutes on the phone discovering your date’s a loser? after all, the idea of internet dating is to actually meet in person eventually. it’s like to be a woman in online dating.
as i started to realize these aimless conversations were the rule on dating sites rather than the exception, i wondered how to prevent them and save everyone time. person cannot find out where you live by your cell phone alone. i have a limited amount of time to be doing any combination of e-mailing, phoning and face to face dating and i assume the same is true for the men i meet online. how many guys would be upset or offended if, after 4-5 dates, a woman told you "oh, by the way, here's my actual/real phone number. i’ve had 2 men using fake photos try to contact me online, one through my facebook, and one through meet up. you know in some countries having a phone is a luxury. over ,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. you apply the same principle on your sister and daughter and just tell them to be quiet when they are raped or harassed with text messages or incessant phone calls. the same token, he doesn’t want to receive an reply that says, “dear dan, thank you for your initial inquiry. what’s the damage if i give it to one more guy? give my number when asked, if i want to have a phone conversation. it’s not because i think i’m then only woman online, or even the only woman these men are interested in. because several years ago i used my real mobile number to place a for sale ad online, and it’s still online (i’ve tried unsuccessfully to have it deleted) if someone were to google my “real” mobile number, my name appears – both first and last. then if that phone rings/beeps, you know it’s not family/close friends/work folks calling/texting. think that’s a way better alternative than refusing to talk on the phone for weeks. you obviously have some reservations or else you wouldn't be posing the question online -- if it doesn't sound good it's probably not and your teen child's safety is paramount. is someone going to find your address by your phone number? sparklingemerald i know what you’re saying and that’s great you and i check out the competition obviously just being on this site means we’re by far smarter than the average online woman/man. so when i’m through with dating, the telephone number is no longer used. problem in dating is when you think your circle is the “right” one – even when it doesn’t overlap with anyone else’s circle.