What if your ex boyfriend is dating someone else

5 Ways To Deal When Your Ex Is Dating Someone New

If your ex boyfriend is dating someone else

he is indirectly complimenting me sometimes, hinting to do fun things together. i the think the best course of action is to keep contact with him via text and ask him out again after a few weeks. think she is exhibiting some of the signs and she definitely still has feelings for you. i feel betrayed that he didn’t wait for me after saying he would, which is probably unreasonable. he’s told me so many times that he trusts me more than anyone in the world and loves that he feels like he can be completely open with me without feeling judged when he is used to always having to be “on”. it might satisfy your curiosity, but it won’t necessarily give you closure. hes said things that have hurt me i’ve forgiven him, more than once so i dont get why he cant let this one time go. it’s been a long time after the breakup and perhaps he is already over the breakup and has moved on. ex and i broke up when i just came back from overseas exchange program. so the next week i went and got the remaining things i had at his place she was there but he had her stay in the basement. so i decided to no contact her at all, and will first talk to a terapist within a week and a half about my past problems. again i wont rise to it but my mum said that if he carries on this week i should text him and say look i dont know what is going on i can see you keep watching me and i think after your holiday we should meet and talk. it’s a good thing that he is contacting you. late last night he starts following this guy and replies to a tweet about a movie. he did not sit and discuss with me his plans. but i was suspicious, so the other day as my way went past her building i checked for his bike – and it was there. so backstory is that my ex and i broke up 6 months ago because of long distance. if you want, you can tell him you need some time and space as well and leave it at that (it’s your decision since you’ve already established no contact and told him you are done. read this article to know how to apply no contact when you have kids. know that she is confused and needs help as she has been drinking heavily and smoking heaps but she tell her family she is happy with this new guy…. he said like he wanted us to but he said if we can get along until then and not argue. could this be a way for him testing water with me and hiding his feelings from everyone until he knows where he stands with me? when we talked i explained to him why i did it and how it was innocent it was just a ride home, and he told me how i disrespected him, and he told me that we were going to get back together but just not right now, he said he needed time to get his mind right. she asked me why i waited this long and i told her that i was scared. really want him to see and realise tt im the only genuine girl for him that cares a great deal. i think this has brought us to become friends again and ive blocked the guy that caused trouble by telling me that my ex is a no good idiot who is jealous and gave me up but dont want me to be with anyone else. so this guy was a friend of mine years back when we were in 1st yr in college. i’ve never loved someone from just looking at them. i’m very much in love with him & idk how life is gonna be with out him in me & my daughters life. husband and i have a 20 plus year relationship consisting of being best friends (with benefits), having a child, becoming a formal couple then married (9 years total/ 6 married). the relationship was very good until he faced problems in his career, and got depressed for a while. had recently posted a question and your response was to apply nc again for three weeks. the only reason shes with that guy is he is a good listener and friend. but there is nothing else you can do at this point. anyway he was coming to stay with kids when i weny into have baby, when he arrived i was in labour didnt realise but his mum came and we went in ambulance he stayed with our kids. he said that he loves me more than anyone, he said that he’ll do anything for me but is in love with her too. i first wrote in i gave little bit of story and what was happen between us, i seem to be having more trouble lately because after i saw her with someone else at her work when i stopped by to talk and give her a letter i ended up texting her next day saying wish you didn’t hate me and hope you read that letter and i know it probably wont mean anything but she said she don’t hate me and that it did mean something. he is searching for a deep love- and was hoping to find it with me but hasn’t. i text him this morning about sun beds and he replied straight away. weeks later i find out he has a new girlfriend, and trying to cope with all of this is very hard because i’m emotional as it is being pregnant, the 2 have been together now for a month and i’m worried my chances are low, i don’t think it’s a rebound relationship, but i do know she’s not pushing him into anything he doesn’t want to do, and she’s aware of the second baby on the way, there is no way that i could follow with the no contact period because of the fact that we have a 3 year old daughter. i wouldn’t have seen them if it weren’t for my friends as him and i are not friends on it right now. they spend lot of time together and they seem to be in love and she wished me good luck for future.. he arrives back at christmas last year, and seeing him still gives me butterflies, we frequently txt and talk on da phone. if after a few months, he doesn’t make a move, tell him that you are interested in rekindling the relationship. should i break the no contact after 30 days since that day or should wait until he is the one who find me first? i know there is a chance that he’ll become her boyfriend during that time, but imo it’s a risk you must take. so, life is going to be a roller coaster for you. i know that finding me was a mission because he didn’t know my surname. ever since then, i have been pestering him by call and texts for two weeks. now is the time i can text him but after yesterday i don’t know whether i should. you go to your ex and say straight up “im not going to play a lot of games, this is how it is. i dont understand his game, he dont want me but dont want me to move on or be with anyone else. i was ready to hang up after asking him but he then started being very nice, asking what i did that day and told me that he has feelings and a heart and isn’t emotionless. and i could still remember how much he put his heart to give me a surprise for the anniversary. he pushes my buttons deliberately to get a raise out of me and gloats about his new relationship, how she does the things i did not like to do with him. is, i have a lease until the end of the year. i’ll not recommend no contact since you two were never technically dating and you never really broke up. however i heard from a friend that he isn’t seeing the second one anymore but they are close friends, but another friend told me they might still be together but he’s not sure. well, that being said, he and this girl (who is/was my closest friend) have been spending so much time together, even while we were dating they were close and i was always jealous of them, but now that we’re not together anymore, they’re so close they could be sown together and it wouldn’t make a difference… she is always over his house and vise versa… (its been, 3 weeks since we have broken up… yes, still raw) but what hurts the most is that he told me he still loves me, he even said he still wanted me in his life, he still wanted to see me everyday and to still talk and be friends! he hasn’t replied the whole day, i know he has been very busy (he told me he would be even before we met up and that he wouldn’t have a day off for the next 2 weeks), but he always found the time. this way he can have her and you as well. but once you get used to living without him, you’ll realize you don’t need him to raise your daughter. and after they breakup with you, they start a relationship with someone who has no career and no life goals whatsoever. should i have no contact for a while and if so how long until i contact again. and a part of your mind will not believe me and keep you stuck in your negative state of mind. i don’t think she would have stayed with you if you didn’t mean anything to her. has usually been happy when she is around him before their step up in relationship term from friends to actually being more then that. she was amazed how i suddenly appeared there and nearly kissed me. if they’ve been in the relationship for a few months or less, then it’s probably a rebound and it will end soon. and so to forget about me, she started dating someone. but then today a day after his dad told him he is text me asking how my eye is and what happened etc when i told him he text saying ffs and then asked if my boiler was fixed as it went on blink. had been on a few dates in the mean time, had sex with one or two, but no relationships. i expected him to take 2 days to reply (he is the type of guy with strong emotions who prefers to cool down before reacting + he sometimes does it on purpose waiting for my reaction), but it’s been almost 3 days and still nothing. i feel like part of my is there where she is. (he also asked is i needed to see him today he seemed like he had other plans too). if she decides to go with her ex husband, then you’ll have to suck it up and accept it. when do you see it as it is and realize you have to just give it up. i already feel like i been lost her awhile ago, not going to be able to get her back since she said she moved on from it cause she been here before and it not worth it, that her relationship isn’t a rebound it going to be real mccoy, and that trying to follow these steps is just going to fail me. it felt like she is trying to show me that she is doing better. if he doesn’t, that means he was just using you, in which case, you are better off without him. what i’ve seen on her social media she post how amazing he is and the cool amazing things he does for her. i knew he was talking with this girl he met on the trip and i couldn’t handle it.. i’m confused if i should still hold on or should i just move on? as you can imagine i didn’t handle this very well, i did all the mistakes of begging and telling her i couldn’t live without her etc. know it might seem pathetic that i’m still trying after a year apart but that’s how much i love this man and the father of my child. he is actually my client and i am a senior executive in my company. one point he put a down payment on a wedding ring for her (he was in his mid 20’s at this time). so if you want to keep him, you better keep those attributes as well. i usually let him do his thing and be supportive. i did not respond to this and will not be contacting him even though i feel like i didn’t get a whole lot of closure as i didn’t speak with him face to face. when i questioned this new girl he told me nothing was going on. my text did not require a reply really, but he replied and he wrote quite a lot. he has been hurt in his past by past relationships where they have cheated and technically i did but i didn’t sleep with anyone. the only thing you can do is start dating yourself. were living together so it’s been difficult to do no contact. i want to thank you for all the time and effort you put into me and this relationship., this webpage did bring me hope and confidence in getting him back 😉 thank you! either your ex will move on and be in a happy relationship with her current boyfriend. have to give him some space and let him realize on his own what he’s missing. he is a very needy guy and very jealous guy. my only problem is yesterday my ex deleted my mother from facebook and deleted most pictures of me and him on there too. he has admitted that since being back, the person i am now and the state of the current relationship is like night and day compared to before (his words). all this to rub it in my face but i kept nc. this threw up all kinds of feelings as i explained i been chatting to somebody too.’m so glad you ignored him if he loves you he will beg for you . now about 2 in a half months later i’m back in the same position i was in a few months back because he is still messing with the same girl & doing the same things he had been doing. maybe he was really just busy and didn’t how to respond to your text. just before we broke up he said i would never be a doormat for someone its not fair. he wasn’t going to give me another chance and that isn’t going to change.? and last friday we had sex, again, yes it’s terrible, and he was texting me all weekend and i spent the whole day with him monday and then tuesday he acts like i don’t even exist like does he feel guilty for keep cheating on her with me? i just am super confused by his actions and whether he is doing all this because he is missing me too much. she doesn’t know that i know all of this. all we know, your boyfriend might have jumped into a new relationship before moving on. think you made the right decision by breaking up with him. does he still like me or is he in two minds of his own weather to move on with this girl or try with me., yes, part of it could be her being the “damsel in distress” but, before she told me that she’s found this guy, i was fairly happy. this time is different, right after our fight he immediately started dating someone else besides me in 3 1/2 years. i’ll recommend you try the 5 step plan once, and if it doesn’t work, move on. now this makes it the second time he unblocked me and has randomly contacted me as so. why would you want to be like your ex’s new girl when being you is so much more fun? i know we are not done with each other (otherwise i wouldn’t be here) and he wouldn’t hide her from me (or so i’m assuming). i felt bad and emailed him the next day, told him i didn’t mean to pressure him but that i thought we could work things out . he didn’t speak to me since then – no texts or email. it shows you that someone close to you can show you love and joy and the feeling of happiness that you might of had with in a relationship. are common responses when ur ex appears to be withholding their new relationship when secretly wanting to get back together. less than a month later he starts dating a new girl and she makes him block me out of his life from everything (his phone, twitter, facebook, everything). behaviour is crazy what is he playing at he was always into doing things with our kids, im just going with the flow but im confused by all this could seeing baby have made him question what he wants and ive basically put a wall up to protect me as ive changed more confident not stressed happy etc.’m sure that is what my current ex is realizing her self. i’m not sure if i should put my heart on my sleeve or try to play it cool. he didnt come see baby (i was out next day) he finally came on friday baby 3days old for 45mins. what is going on and what on earth do i do? i heard that my ex’s courting someone for about 2 months. take a deep breath, sort yourself out and go nc for a few months as he says. there is no way of knowing what was going on in her mind when she was in the relationship with you unless you invent a time machine, get a mad brain scientist, go back in time and get the scientist to analyze her thoughts and behavior. did all the mistakes mentioned above, and even worse; i tried comitting suicide and let my ex boyfriend know about it. and if he does, you should cut all contact with him and move on. i love him very dearly – i’m not sure if he truly knows this., but then he broke up with his girlfriend more than a month ago.” that clearly means he’s seeing someone else but it’s not on facebook. however, he has said several times since his trip to cuba that he has strong feelings for me and would be devastated if he lost me. it’s been about a month and i pretty sure they are dating i haven’t asked cause i am sure he wouldn’t want to tell me. he could just simply reject me if he didnt want me. there were days in my house where we had to sell off the scrap metal for food but i never felt bad about my life. he even suggested we meet up half an hour earlier (so we could be together longer before he goes to work), he took me to a nice place by the river, we joked a lot, he called me by a cute name… and when he brought me back he reached out for a hug in the car which really surprised me. he said things like he wanted to marry me one day and made me promise to never leave him. no contact but keep her added on snapchat —- view her public timeline snaps yay or nay during this time. break up was rough till my dad sent him a harsh message and his anger on me increased. some of our common friends told me that my ex is with her because he does’t want to be alone and he doesn’t want to remember me, and also he gets grumpy when hearing my name. and my boyfriend were together for 2 years and 7 months (and friends for 4 years before that) when he broke up with me, 5 weeks ago. situation is complicated,i have been together with him for 6 years,so he decided date someone else without me knowing,as we us women we like to dig information,i started asking him questions…. once i declined going to his new house for make out and he got so upset about it and refused to speak with me for 5 months. he came upstairs was sitting holding baby and talking to me i asked him his opinion on a baby monitor and he said hed buy it i jokingly said where u getting all the money he said his “personal life nothing to do with u. like how it happens after long periods of no association or someone being in a relationship. i politely said i had a different approach to dealing with these things but honestly it seemed like he didn’t care (he did say he’s glad that i’m better and hopes i’m recovering well). her response was that she missed me too but needed to get some things in her life straight. this site has placed a lot of perspective into my situation. i’ve offered to show my fb account, email, phone records, texts, even take a polygraph to prove ive been 100% faithful. we “touched” a little bit the conversation about us being naughty on the beach, i know it’s probably not a good idea to talk about sexual stuff but it was more in a joking way. it’s her ex, there’s a chance that this relationship is not a rebound. the fact that he managed to ‘fall in love’ with this woman who doesn’t even speak english and wants to marry her and buy a house with her hours after meeting her seems, frankly, insane. i now realise that nc is the best thing i can do as for some reason he is so angry but is blaming me. the thing is he was in a serious relationship that ended a year before he met me because he didn’t want to get married or have kids (she was 5 years older) i contacted him after 3 weeks and he was very friendly so i made the mistake of sending a txt a few days later saying asking did he want to meet up and have a chat about things he replied 24 hours later saying he knows it was hard to send the txt but he wants to be on his own for now that hes not ready for anything and he really likes me and he genuinely wants to be friends. allow yourself a moment or two alone for some loud screams, maybe some throwing of objects that won’t break, but if your ex starts dating someone else, you have no right to be openly mad about it. was wondering if there is a time limit or something to all this i know your suppose to strike before the move on but if you can’t even associate even the smallest simply conversation. well, that being said, he and this girl (who is/was my closest friend) have been spending so much time together, even while we were dating they were close and i was always jealous of them, but now that we’re not together anymore, they’re so close they could be sown together and it wouldn’t make a difference… she is always over his house and vise versa… (its been, 3 weeks since we have broken up… yes, still raw) but what hurts the most is that he told me he still loves me, he even said he still wanted me in his life, he still wanted to see me everyday and to still talk and be friends! know they’re still together and that his rich family is backing her business endeavor, as she was fired from her job shortly after shacking up with the man. his mom texted me yesterday and said she felt bad but that he called and told her he went sight seeing in nyc and she asked who he went with and he went on about some girl classmate he likes or something . she said what a wonderful guy i am…that she tells all her friends that…but still, she has made her mind up…she never wavers, even if she’s wrong…. no contact, if you’re still friends on facebook/have them on snapchat is it ok if they look at your posts?– he is looking for small contact when we are together, like grabbing my arm/leg jokingly, leaning closer to me etc but never really trying to kiss me or anything, but i respect that and i don’t think he will try anything as long as he is still with her even though they might be on the verge of breaking up. ex and i decided together to broke up because we didn’t feel like that this relationship was working anymore. if you have finished no contact already, then there’s no harm in contacting her on the anniversary. i realized he didnt make me happy completely and i still missed my ex. it can be a gut wrenching feeling to think about your ex boyfriend (who you still love with all your heart) in someone else’s arm. decided that we can see other people if we want, she told me about one guy who has spoken for her and she asked is it okay for me, i didn’t take him as a threat. i think that’s great and i wish you the best. don’t know what to do… my ex fiancé and i were together for nearly 10 years but broke up 9 months ago. people lose feelings and there is a good chance she cheated on you while she was in the relationship. im pretty sure the reason he split up with me was because he was scared to lose me as i kept saying i didnt know if i wanted to be with him. and i told him that i will not be his side chick and he said he knows and we keep having sex, twice monday, so a total of 5 times since they’ve been dating, they’ve been dating for 2 weeks now.… i need your advice… so my ex broke up with me 5 months ago we dated for 3 years since i was 16 we had some good & bad times in our relationship. i am a bit shocked because i did not expect this. got my gym membership and have friends who are offering to be my gym buddy so when the texting phase comes around and i use the thanking him for what he did line you mentioned could i slightly brag about my weight loss or just wow him if i get the chance to see him? also, for that night out that we had he told me that he wanted and thought of kissing me but he didn’t. it just means she is in a rebound and didn’t really have time to process her emotions. me for my english,But after i read all of this i can say that i’m a little wiser now. i know it sucks but you have to accept that he is a jerk for doing this to you. his facebook statustells youtalks about her to his friendspublic displays of affectiondoesn't answer your textshe's distanthe doesn't make time for youmakes it publiccancels on you. but i have no idea how i should aproach this. i told her that i have seen other girls (mistake? she thinks that the new relationship, despite not being what she expected, is still giving her some level of comfort.’d recommend you do no contact for a couple of weeks and then text her again. and also the girl is controlling my exbf decision not to resign from the company because his parents are asking him to apply to a diff. i will advise that you forget about him and move on. but you will find someone who will care about your happiness. he’s always had eyes for other girls and that’s caused trust issues for us. then i met this guy after few years and he was the perfect man for me. but i had to end it because during the later part of our relationship, he became very neglectful, kept secrets, sexting his exes. he will soon realize that this relationship is not going to fill the hole that he is feeling in his life and end it. i know it sucks that he is with someone else, but there is nothing you can do about it and you have to come in terms with that. and you will definitely meet someone who will treat you with the respect and love you deserve. help kevin, u r the only hope now,i dont wana move on,i want to grow only with her, my age is 24 n her 23, we lives in india,today she enjoing her life allott by making me forever alone, i will never able to love agn anymore now, i will never marry any other girl, i also blocked her just for doing no contact but i dont think there is use anymore, plz be my god n help me, m ready to do every single step. i believe that is how it is meant to be. he could have kept it with him and the next day he said he was just testing me if i was suicidal which is a bull shit. it may help to explain the inconsistency of his ‘feelings’ & the cheating. she was the confidant of his throughout our entire relationship and the downfall of it. before i was the one who always make the decisions now everything chanced maybe it’s what i deserved after cheating and other things. i am a very beautiful woman and i have been on eight dates trying to get over him. we had a fun night there but i noticed my ex was laughing a little bit too much and tried to laugh out loud. so then i asked him “what do i do” he told me “just be patient” i had told him before that i will give him his time and that i don’t mind waiting for him but i don’t him to change his mind and stay with her. the reason he acted mean is because he is mean. i listened and didn’t say much other than him getting the rest of his stuff from my apartment (we had lived together). i somehow pulled it back but she wasn’t as the same as she used to be(i asked her to start detaching from me like 2 weeks ago but never thought she would do it, which i think is the first mistake i have done). he is still in a relationship with her on fb but it seems like he is giving all his free time and attention to me so i guess things with her are dying. it makes me think it is less about her and our relationship and more about something else. we live in different states (me northwest she ‘s in the east) and fell in love – the first real love we both had. anyway weekend i met up with him(after going through all the classic mistakes) he agreed to stay friends and work on things and wouldn’t meet other girls whilst we are like this. after break-up this two months i have been so emotional and push her away from me and i was not at all rational and now i see what i should have done. he feels that the last 2 months he was forcing his love for me (didn’t seem that way). i wish it was easier to control my emotions , but it really does hurt that barely 3 weeks after we break up he is seeing someone else, when he told me he wasn’t apposed to eventually trying to work things out, but that the way things have been going we needed to break things off right now so we don’t resent each other . i have been following your good friend jason’s rewind advice. but he started talking to me about his work and the fact that we always spent so much time together and he felt panic. to get your ex back when he has moved on to a new girlfriend. kids have just come back from staying at his house, which i have found he had introduced our kids to her and had her stay at his house while my children were there. then apply no contact for another 2-3 weeks and then text him. plus you say how long she waited like if she did appropriate time length. correspond with you almost a year ago about my ex-boyfriend. thinking about these ludicrous situations is not going to help you in anyway right now. thought it was because of his friends,they don’t have girlfriends and because he is unemployed and kinda stressed because of that. thinking about your relationship with her in this way is just going to lower your self esteem it’s going to hurt your next relationship., me and my ex boyfriend broke up for about 4 1/2 months now and i initiated the break up as he was neglecting me. to get your ex back when he has moved on to a new girlfriend. the only difference is that different people deal with this grief differently. it’s going to be exactly like it has been for the past 16 months. we had some issues and she felt bad, because i didn’t show my feelings and i wasn’t sure what i felt and sometimes i was unkindly for her but she loved me very much. we laughed a little but he has gone quiet as i know he is getting ready for work..plz help kevin,i admit that i was over possesive for her,not only whatsapp but she recharged for calling pack,she also used to recharge within every 2 or single day, which indicates that she is really moved on & loving someone. he left town before we did for his 1st job. next day i heard my ex had asked from her friend that do i know that my ex is going to germany to meet her exchange student friends and that guy, most likely. let him know that you will wait for him until he makes his decision but you will not be a doormat or his backup., if he has a new girlfriend, and it’s not a rebound, then you have some serious trouble. i trust that he won’t find someone else but i’m also afraid that will. taking my ex and her new boyfriend out to dinner after i had spoken to them. he also told her that after his birthday he was confuse and didn’t know what he was going to do with me. she had a mom who had cancer and i didn’t want my girl to go through the same prosess with me if it turned out to be cancer. 5 days ago i get a text from saying not to send things because her mother got into it with her. months later he told me that he’s always i loved but couldn’t tell me because i had a boyfriend. hurts me is that the female colleague is a bit older than me, not the type who has simple needs and wants (he would often say that what he wanted in a girl is simplicity since he’s a simple guy), and is too convenient for him that i thought wouldn’t be a challenge to him at all unlike me who he pursued for 5 months (i didn’t like him at first so i would really ignore him). i think it is not anymore a rebound relationship maybe he is serious with her! do want to be with him, but i am just tired if sharing with with her, and i am ready to find peace again, even if it’s without him. long it’ll go on sort of depends on how fast he is able to sort out his feelings.. went few dates and messed up his mind and he called off the whole wedding thing. he has used this friendship idea to try and get us back on track after a rough patch but unfortunately we had to break off because of circumstances regarding my health..) have been dating on and off for the past 7 years. think the hard part will be playing it cool if he does say yeah and agrees to see me. i think he has moved on and he is committed. if not, you should try to contact him and build attraction. im going on a date with his mom, do you think its ok to keep in touch with her?” and when someone asks if you’ve heard about his new girlfriend you should shrug it off. i am hoping this is a sign that he is realising what he has lost. i graduate this week from my school and my ex-girlfriend didn’t congratulate me so i was thinking is she mad because i didn’t answer her last text message or maybe she is moving on. but i can’t really be sure if it’s a breakup since there was never actually an us. the only thing he would like to do is smoke marijuana but that’s it and ever since he started living there he tried different kinds of drugs. thanks for all the advice kevin and sorry i post so much, makes me look like i’m obssessed with my ex. or is it best to leave it alone and swoop in later on the chance things fall apart? this is a rebound and probably won’t last right? after her visit she hoped that she wouldnt make me more hurt by this…. while some people argue there isn’t a benefit to ‘talking about the relationship’, he’s actually expressed that he likes it and is truly very open and honest when we do sit down and talk. and we talked again, last friday and he told me that he just can’t break up with her because that’s mean, and i know it’s a rebound relationship like who gets a new girlfriend a week after you’ve been in a relationship with someone else for about 3 years? three weeks our break up, i heard from bf sister that new girl and my ex has something going on and i was ripped apart. tried to mend things out within a day(bad mistake)but she never changed her mind of going back to her ex however she threatened to block my phone if i kept on texting her. i love him and i don’t know if blocking him and not knowing if he’s trying to talk to me is more painful than if i unblock him and he never talks to me. cannot tell if this relationship is just a rebound, and i have a chance of a future with this indecisive person, or if i should just let go of the entire thing and move on.,yes its daily,i have no idea who is he/she but its killing me,she is still online but when v had relation she always used to sleep on 12 am or before only then what is this now, she used to recharge her number every 2 days means she is calling someone also,she blocked my emails ,contacts everything when i tried to send her old memories pics but insted replying she blocked me. they think that finding someone completely opposite will probably give them happiness. i had the feeling she might have an immaturity about her, her current state of mind could make her this way or bad experience from a previous relationship might make her treat her exes this way. i did not want to see him that this time even if he asked because i was still in pain because of what happened and the break up. after a while i agreed to her decision and we texted for a while and i wished her a beautiful life with him and so we agreed to stay friends but not close however she told me not to worry that she will not post anything on facebook regarding her new relationship because she is protecting my reputation and respect as well as hers. i asked if he was going to wait for my examinations to be over and he replied “i don’t know, see how”. he has been talking with a friend he’s had since childhood who is going through a divorce and i feel they have become emotionally connected on more than a friends basis.. its been almost two months and hes still with this grl i think, im not 100% sure, haven’t heard anything from him. unfortunately i may have screwed up on your rules because after finding out he was dating someone else i told him that i couldn’t talk to him because i still had feelings and wanted to do the whole “out of sight, out of mind” approach. yes, the other girl had more time to connect with him and he is probably avoiding you because he is committed to her. i text him and next thing he’s angry and blocks my number again. you are supposed to learn to live a happy life with or without your ex. post: should you contact your ex on valentine’s day? even the night after i saw her making out with that guy she texted to say she saw me last night and if i had a good night. they have been officially dating (well, on fb at least) for 1 month now and we have been nc for 6 weeks. and if she’s found a way to be happy (i am not saying she is), then it’s her right. for that year, we were not greatly in love , i still missed him though we were in the relationship and he felt the same, it went on and he was busy with his tournaments and again when his ex girl came into the picture he left me broken. he says he likes being around her cause she is not smarter than him, she listens to hat he says and doesn’t argue back like how things were in our old relationship, i almost feel bad for her. if you don’t trust him and you are not willing to listen to his advice and make sacrifice then he can’t help you. the day after i texted him she even came where i work (looked like an excuse to check me out + she came all dressed up). recently just found out that he has been seeing his ex who he dated for 5 months,they broke up when i came into the picture and from what the girl told me they didn’t speak for a full year until she contacted him trying to get him back in his life because she says she felt like i snatched him away from her which isn’t true because i didn’t even know she existed until a couple of months of me and him dating. if he is still the same after a month, then you should move on. after that i went to her and told her that i can’t do this no more and that i will be there for her if she misses us in any time given, but i can’t share her happiness now when she has new bf. everyone keeps telling me he will be back, he is stalking you now. i found out was she started texting him out of the blue and they texting for a few months. i told her i wasn’t going anywhere and that she was the love of my life and always will be but that some space would make things better. i had been working on me always looking happy when i see him and now this. i felt like my heart was breaking and i didnt know why, but i seduced him when he get back home (we were living together so i still have less than 3 days before he moves out from my house) and we had sex. i told him that it is now or never but he is reluctant. i lost my nerves and confronted the girl immediately on this mater and she denied. i saw comments on his instagram (bc he insisted i re-follow him) of people being shocked. 1 week after the break i made efforts to get him back, gave him the anniversary gift i was saving up for him. he then told me he couldnt meet for a coffee this week as he was swamped. it’s not because they want to play mind games, but simply because it’s human nature to try to be consistent with their decision. forgot to say earlier that the last time we spoke long on the phone (like two weeks ago) i told her that she is so beautiful and other praises and she didn’t say anything good about me and something she said like she have seen that i have changed but she haven’t changed and doesn’t want me back. she treats me like her own daughter, she loves me because i changed his son life in a good way…. then the next day she cries that she doesnt have any feelings towards me. in the websites there’s said that book it’s so powerful and you have to be sure that you want your ex back if you give it. i wish i didn’t because we didn’t try to solve the problems and i chose the easy way and decided to break up.]they were high school sweethearts when they went to college they lost their communication and things ended between them but every time they see each other the feeling is still there and every time they try to make a relationship out of it something always goes wrong and nothing happens. accepted the fact he is with a new girl, but still love him and want to have another chance together, but don’t know what to do? unfortunately i couldn’t understand his need for space and i freaked out. this sounded like it could be a rebound relationship especially considering how things developed between us over break but i can’t tell. i am excited to see him, angry, hurt and scared at the same time. so when i got home, he texted me and asked me where i was. he has told me that we will never see each other again ive to drop kids off at his parents where he will see them a couple of times a week then his parents will bring them back to me. what is going on and what on earth do i do? he said he didn’t want a relationship with anyone yet i am almost sure this girl is his girlfriend. we had sex too and he would still hold me and rub my belly. we got secretly married (no one still knows) and after a few months he lost his job and moved to another state. when he did find out i was moving to where he was, he again started texting me all the time saying that we should hangout when i do move up there. he’s still saying he wants make me the effort to keep me in his life and make us work as ‘friends’. if instead of trying to convince him to get back together and that you could change, you would’ve just played it cool, you would’ve increased your chances of getting back together. i came to this uni so we could be together as well. so this guy was a friend of mine years back when we were in 1st yr in college. also, does this sound like a rebound and what should i do at this point? she does not look rebound to me and my ex literally told me he really loves her and want to spend his life with her. i really can’t see a reason for him not replying to an innocent text 🙂. is what i plan on doing and i hope your right about the missing me part. we finished watching the movie and we ended up sleeping together and afterwards he got a text from his friends about going out to eat. after my ex and i decided that we can be friends we now joke around over texting and laugh and reminisce about old times. i’ve now binned his and as he’s so desperate to cling to mine, he can keep them. so in november she meets someone , and well they start dating . then again i ask myself how happy can he be if his wondering about me and cant get me out of his mind when supposedly his happy that he’s back with the love of his life. have wrote a letter i plan to give her witch explains the real reason for the breakup and my love for her. i’m just wondering if there’s any chance of us getting back together even as he has this new girlfriend. and after i started to see my current ex my old one was always saying she missed me and was sorry and other things. i have not been suicidal but i sought out help for my internal battles and i pray if you ever feel that urge again, you do the same.’s not a good idea to show up at his house. and my ex broke up with me saying that i didn’t respect him. kevin, i need help figuring out if my ex is in a rebound relationship and what i should do next. i know she has tried to insert new dude into areas of her life in replacement of me. sent him a text after almost 8 weeks of no contact following your directions of first text message. you ask him if he’ll break up with his girlfriend for you? when we were together i would always tell him he should see his kids and he would agree. should contact him even if he doesn’t contact you. but again he said to get organised and wed go visit relatives with new baby, again another normal family day all smiles and happy he did leave an hour earlier as he was so tired. i would blow his phone us constantly & he would just ignore me all night & day. he is probably confused about what he wants in life and you should not try to pressure him into something right now. it is sad for me that the other guy was in the same course with me and we became friends (english course :d) and without me they even know each other..my frnd saw her near one hospital so i worried n msged her by taking risk that what happend tell me i will help you, i am always der for u, but instead replying me she blocked me on gmail . then the next day she cries that she doesnt have any feelings towards me. was dating a guy for 5 months everything was going so well he was always showering me with compliments telling me how hot and such a good person i am and how lucky he was to have me. i just ended the 30 days of no contact and did exactly what you wrote in the 5 step plan. i can’t get over it cause she said he was like a brother but but he is not. it has always been his,dream to study abroad and i don’t think it had much to do by our break up. but only give him an ultimatum if you are ready to leave him. whenever she is with him, her mind is not thinking about the breakup and you. so i know for certain he is still checking up on me. he’ll try to keep himself in this situation for as long as he can. he is immature and completely confused about what he wants in life. he told me he was bad for me and i need someone better and to get him out my life. if not, then what you are feeling is probably jealousy coupled with loneliness instead of love. that was confusing to try and understand if so then why are you with someone. he came back sunday very tired and seemed hungover (he did say hes been drinking a bit) again i expected to sleep whilst he spent time with kids. intimately close to someone gives us a feeling of security and a boost to our self-esteem. day of the break up he yells at me hes going to his new gfs house which left me shocked. he is going to ignore you, cheat on you, disrespect you and then come back and ask for forgiveness. seems more of an obsession and finishing a story than love. comparing yourself to your ex’s new girlfriend is like a death sentence, and convincing yourself how much better you are than her is not exactly healthy either. week i saw my ex and her boyfriend walking and holding hands in a shopping mall near where i live. despite of everything we went through, he accepted me to accept his decision. i made a mistake and wanted him back and wanted to fight for our 9 years but his constant random messaging of i have moved on makes me think why bother. thank you kevin for getting me through such a hard time, my head is all over the place as i’m nervous about what the future holds for me and my ex but it looks promising. i know that they have talked together with ex-girlfriend that i graduate but it’s strange that she didn’t say anything. ended the txt/snapchat conversation after 30 min, i told her that i had a guest coming by to visit , and that i had to leave… wished her a great day. also says if your thinking of our ex at anytime its not important that you should not do it just learn to move on cause it’s not worth it to think or feel like you want them. im pretty sure that he still wants to be friends otherwise he would of just ignored me completely. know it always goes against as he did his best to avoid and unanswer all my calls.. but he is not going out if his way to see me.– first 2 weeks he has been rubbing it in my face but i kept calm and did nc for 2 months (no signs of her after the first 2 weeks, nothing on fb, she is never seen with him etc). he seems to get all defensive when i go out and is scared i will meet someone. i am a few days into applying the nc rule now… would it work in this situation? if you don’t get him back by that time, cut contact from him and move on. and then he emailed me saying since i had always been there for him i deserved to know he had gotten a sports scholarship for college and we started talkin again, it made me realize that i didn’t lose my feelings for him, he still made my heart ache, but then we started fighting again after he told me he loved me because i didn’t know what to feel, i blocked his number because i am sick of fighting with him, now i just don’t know if that was the right idea. he lives up country but come to visit and stays. the past few days he has been putting up attention seeking status’ and writing where he is going to be like he is waiting for me to turn up. like the no contact rule is going to screw me over here, more i don’t say anything more she going to be liking the new guy a lot more then me. (we are in college) he ended up getting with the girl he kissed, but claims to not have had feelings for her when the incident happened..he told his mum about moving out and she said he didnt look overly happy and i had said the same he looked somewhat sad, but i think that may have been wishful thinking on our parts. four days later i get a text from him saying ‘i have feelings for someone else’ i texted back just saying what? was too hurt but still till next two days i messaged him that i shall go away from his life now,,but i dont think he must have read my messages as he again started cutting my phone calls. i wanted to know if this guy is just a rebound or she has really moved on to another guy cause i really to love her to death. ex was in a ten year relationship with his ex, was married to her for five. people say she is only with him cause he provides the material things and takes her to these amazing places because she is really young and he is 14 years older and had a thing for her for years..so this time i just want to remain silent n let my silence speak……bt what if he finds my absence a reason anough to get irritated and decide to leave me forever …it is all so heart breaking kevin…i really want to talk to him and tell him that i love him immensely and am waiting for him to come back, want to show him that i am the one who he can count on anytime as i shall always be there to hold him, so when he messages and i stop myself from replying i dont like doing this to him……can i make the no contact little less than 4 months and make it like two months……. the first few times nothing happened but the couple after that we ended up kissing which led to sex. then last friday i text asking to buy a cable off him and he ignored it, i text back saying i am just being friendly. she got herself a boyfriend but they’re not official yet, she told me about him the day that we were breaking up that she has been talking to him for almost 3days already. there is no point in meeting him or trying to get an answer out of him. he also said that he wouldn’t give up on me and didn’t, he was very persistant i might add (and initially immensely clingy) and i ended up falling for him, (i struggled with depression and he was the one to pull me out of it, i know this sounds cliché but he was my rock) he incessantly promised me that we would be together for a long time, he always talked about wanting to get married and having kids and was really excited about it. however i did the no contact thing even erased his number. i told her that i could not be in a relationship with someone that did not have the same feelings as me. and when they get in touch with each other, they realize that there is a good chance their relationship might work better this time, and they give it another go. but also said that he needed time for himself, yet, he spends all of it with her… i still love him, and want to be with him, but it feels like he is purposely trying to show me that he is moving on, that he doesn’t care about me anymore, or that he doesn’t miss me, doesn’t love me and that he is perfectly ok without me…. i don’t know if he is looking for a rebound or just trying to get over me. my new relationship was long distance and i could only fly to see my guy once a month. took time before we got into sex, i took her on multiple dates. the next day he said it shouldn’t have happened and won’t happen again and he’s sorry for givin me false hope and called it a day. when she left i told her i missed her laugh and she said she missed me. if he still doesn’t want to commit, you should try to move on. i arranged for a cleaning outfit but spoke to his pa to be in the house. so i text with advice from my mum to tell him i would like to know whether we could start a fresh or just stay friends and he has ignored me. i keep understanding his situation on why he did it, i forgiven him i told that. broking up he said to me that he’s a different person now than when we met. then at some point i was talking to him about moving in with one of my friends if she happens to get a house and that was when he proposed that we move in together and i asked him if he was sure he would want that and he said i think we should set up a separate bed in case, but i don’t think it will be a bad thing. then starting around november/december she started acting much differently, such as a complete personality change, loss of interest in hobbies/interests, heavy drinking/staying out until early mornings, constant anger,lies and hatred towards me for no reason. the last 6 months have been long distance , because he moved for grad school. due to my problems i let my frustrations out on my ex. an ex from 3 years ago messages me and i wasn’t exactly forthcoming in being in a relationship. she told me that i she broke up with her boyfriend because he was ignoring her. if that’s the case, could this make the relationship more or less successful?-with a newborn the nc rule is hard to follow & ive already made some of the mistakes listed above 🙁 why is he able to be so moved on after 6 years and a beautiful baby? situation is such that few years back i was in a abusive alcholic relation and so one day i decided to put my foot down and enter a no contact period till he could respect me but sadly the worst happened. now after letting me down with payments, shouting at me and hanging up continuously, i didn’t know what else to do other than to block contact with him. unless he used his little brother’s account and saw my status or his mom told him that our college friend and i are talking :). yes my ex is on my mind a lot but i am not pining and watching my phone anymore. didnt respond to my text message after nc so i added her on snapchat to which she accepted. on reflection we also realised that we didn’t have that much in common, so i guess our relationship was built mainly on attraction which i know isn’t ideal, but we still made it work for a while. at first i didn’t think anything would go on between them because of the type of girl she is. and the truth is before, i’ve done all the mistakes said in 5 steps to get your ex back. he has chronic atopic dermatitis on his face and skin. so i told my ex that but he said hes over me and just wants to be friends.. he ended up saying “i hate this babe i care about you and probably always will but i just can’t do this anymore” then a few days after that he asked me if i would want to do a friends with benefits which i did not agree to then i went into nc.” and so i told him that it feels like he used me for sex and he said it’s not going to happen again. my ex send me message that i was right when i said to my bf tht it was unfair that he decided all alone to end our relationship. i am very active on this website and i’ll probably reply to you within 24 hours. gay pride is coming up soon just before his holiday and i know for a fact he will be there even though he hates going. i texted later to my ex that i ate with him and i’m happy for you that you have man who threat you good and hopefully you are doing great now and in the future. he said no he was dating people but nothing serious. an ex from 3 years ago messages me and i wasn’t exactly forthcoming in being in a relationship. he seemed very excited that i started working out, he kind of seemed “proud”, he also used smileys a lot, like really a lot 😀 😀 he indirectly complimented me a few times saying that i am lucky because i have a nice body and therefore woulnd’t even need working out much and stuff. i was so clueless as to why he stopped texting me like he used to. kevin, i know from reading this what you will think, but he is a good person deep down; affectionate, caring, funny and loving, however this dark side is extremely overwhelming. he changed his contact number and told all my friends not to give his new number to me. then one of my friends boyfriends called harrassing me and wen i let my ex know he got mad and told the guy to leave me alone and referred to me as his girl. and i had told him about this guy that i was dating for 2 months n that he had already gone with another girl. a way i want him back but another part of me is thinking if it would make the both of us happy. the fact that that i screwed up last time, how is it going to affect this time? i got emotional and walked past them and i said “is it possible” or something like that. later implemented the “appreciation” texts and he actually apologized for not being around (for everyone who is reading these articles and are still skeptic, believe me it works). her reasoning for not wanting to be in the relationship anymore is that she didn’t have time and she felt that she was missing out on life from being in a serious relationship. however he has not texted me since before work the day after he spent the night.. untill one evenning i text him and told him that i still love him, then i realize that he started avoidng me now. my bff suggests being aggressive about it, but i rather follow your advice from last message and let it be his idea., after that he stopped posting on fb about her (this was almost 3 weeks ago). the problem with that is he might end up engaged etc. broke up with my ex two years ago but we had a long story with ups and downs for about 4 years. it is the one she always wanted to be with and the one that makes her more happier then she ever was. i just feel i am worthless and that i spent six years with someone who couldnt care less about me. two months later he’s still with her and sent me several texts simply saying i have moved on. don’t have any regrets from my former ex who is married now. after saying he wants no contact he has been texting me. when i found out about the other girl i asked him about it and said i was confused because he had just saw me and kissed me and things felt so right. we were very excited about it but also very nervous. only talk to him about the kids and your pregnancy. i said that my brothers baby make funny noise and maybe you wanted to hear it and i have nothing else. to the point where my ex said i was pushing him towards her cause i caused him stress and she didn’t. and if you found out all these things after the breakup, then you should not tell her you know all this. if after that, you still want to give it one last try, contact her. all we know, your boyfriend might have jumped into a new relationship before moving on. should i say that is the start of the 30 days or start it at a later date? i asked him about how long it had been since he started seeing this girl and he said it was a few weeks before from the time he told me and when i asked why he didn’t tell me sooner he said it wouldn’t have been worth mentioning if it was only a few dates. this wouldn’t be a rebound if they decide to take it to a more than friends level and so is there anything i can do to bring him back? i had asked him on the phone who he sees his future with and he said that he sees a better and longer future with me. my name is patricia and i was with my ex for 10 months. a surprise to me as i told her my intensions are to be with her, not entertaining prospects during the break. just left you a comment on another page but wanted to write this one here since this is the topic.” i know i shouldn’t called to her and i thought what i should to text so just think something not so serious. basically, right now, he can have his cake and eat it too. someone who is not even compatible with their life goal. i asked to have lunch with me and i was polite and friendly and said that it was good thing that we broke up because i wasn’t best boyfriend but i also said that i was a little disappointed what he did but i wasn’t too sad about it. all i need to do is to wake him up. she loved the gift i got for her and me to wear. he will soon realize that this relationship is not going to fill the hole that he is feeling in his life and end it. and then as if destiny played its role and one day he just decieded to end the relation because his ex walked in to live with him. i agree and time away from him has really helped me but i’m concerned that if i go 30 days with no contact, he’ll foget me., but then he broke up with his girlfriend more than a month ago. that with his new gf, i noticed that he took her to rome (2013 winter) whereby in 2012 winter, i was there with him in paris. it took him ages to reply but then he said it was nice seeing me too, after all this time. however he has not texted me since before work the day after he spent the night. and then his birthday weekend was coming which he had plans to party out of town. i don’t know who i have spent almost 7 years of my life with and it freaks me out. i broke up with my boyfriend about four weeks ago and he contacted me saying he’ll give me a week to decide if we should get back together, but when the day came and i made up my mind on wanting to be with him, he said we should just be friends. but when he was with me, he would call his mom to let him borrow the truck and do whatever it took to see his kids. but, i have a lot of time invested in this, and i just want to know if you think this i the girl for him? i understand he is getting the good feeling being with her that was lacking for a long time in our marriage. he also wrote something on his mum’s wall to get to me. i have been trying a lot to just focus on myself and not think of her and what’s she is doing in her life now or who she is doing things with or has been for how long. he said he was supposed to see someone but he put that off to give me a first chance. after about 6 more months , he realised that things we’re not going to change as i resisted giving it a chance as i hid us from my family so he gave me an ultimatum. she was doing this usually six days a week (weird because she was never into a lot of drinking ), and then she started sleeping over at “guy friends” houses. apart from what’s recently happened, we both agreed we were happy and he even text to say i’m pleased to have spent them years with you, we had good times. this is the case, then you will have to let his rebound relationship run its course.

What if your ex is dating someone else

yes, the other girl had more time to connect with him and he is probably avoiding you because he is committed to her. or say for some strange reason she actually does contact me sometime here and wants to talk or hangout and say some small chance in heck that we do this on regular basis we just talk more and what stops her from constantly thinking of him as more of a friend., say your ex is in a rebound relationship now and you start to do no contact. i am just afraid that it will turn out just like me former ex before my current one i am talking about. then i text his friend asking if it was too soon for him still. even if she does, she is breaching his privacy, which means less attraction points for her. i tried doing the no contact rule and it worked for about 2 weeks, but i caved in and texted him and soon after we met up all the time because he lives really near me and i would find any excuse to meet him. saw couple of times after this and everything was fine. i will be attempting no contact after my birthday party he is throwing for me this week before he takes her on a mini trip for the weekend. but thing is, he says he doesn’t love me anymore and doesn’t care about me anymore. there are a bunch of articles out there on how to be more then just friends with a girl you have always had feelings for or how to be physical intimate with your friend. if it doesn’t work, you can close this chapter and try to move on. guess there is nothing you can do unless he decides to stand up for himself and break up with her. in fact, statistics show that 90% of the rebound relationship end in a breakup. i did once admit my breaking up with him was probably a mistake but he was not keen on saying whether we could work something out. i now realise that nc is the best thing i can do as for some reason he is so angry but is blaming me. no contact again for another two weeks and send another text (or a letter, your call). i couldn’t do because i didn’t want to mess my kids up (we have just had a major house move about 4 hrs away from where my ex and i lived) so couldn’t bring another new major change to them, obviously he could though. my situation is me and my boyfriend were dating for 3 years. while others are not able to get out of the grief and their minds become obsessed with their ex. , went to her house to sleepover , left her house picked me up for breakfast and then picked her up again… i know i said i wouldn’t forgive him but i miss him… this weekend i saw him and we had a perfect day, but yesterday he ignored me completely and this morning before him going to work he knocked on my window said he wanted to talk, that he would call me once he got to work , and he did, but then he told me he would call me in 30 mins and still hasn’t ……. heck noooooo, if she’s in a relantionship and having sex with some whatever, move on, leave, get yourself a nicer one, there are better ones believe me, let her keep on rebounding for the rest of her life then. your last comment, i am little unsure if you applied no contact. he said he was dating someone and i want prepared for that. but, his gf just unfriended me on fb and called me crazy on twitter, so i’m wondering if he made me out to be crazy even though our conversation went relatively well, or if she’s just mad i went up to see him…or both. it took him half a day to reply to my next one but since then he started replying much faster. since you’ve already established contact and open communication, you should just take it slow, have fun and follow the blueprint in relationship rewind. even though you feel like you will wait for him, you are not going to let it stop you from living your life. me and my friends got a ride home from a guy that my ex doesn’t like. we have a baby together, so we are forced to talk to each other so the no contact rule is pretty much impossible. also that it is the easiest and quickest way to get over someone that you use to be in a relationship with because you are spending so much time with that new person like close good friend that it takes your mind off your ex and makes you realize that someone else has always had feelings for you and you might have always had feelings for them but never acted on them until now that this was the chance to act on those pent up feelings plus is shows her how incompatible she was with you .’s been pretty hard for me with my ex, i left him back in december and found out i was pregnant with our second child, but even before that i still had feelings for him and i know he did too, well i tried to get our relationship back and everything seemed to be going good but then he started acting weird and not replying to my text messages as much. i didn’t say anything because i was expecting him to talk about it first since he’s the one who first showed interest in me. what if he cheated with his new girlfriend on me ( but i didn’t know he had a girlfriend). was dating a guy for 5 months everything was going so well he was always showering me with compliments telling me how hot and such a good person i am and how lucky he was to have me. ever since she’s been dating this guy she’s been posting pics on various social media and adding comments indicating that they are in love and he’s dreamy blah blah blah… also, she blocked me on fb when they started dating and then unblocked me. remember when you said there isn’t going to be a friendship like we had? tried to move on, but couldn’t, i was with this other guy and still missing my ex 🙁. he texted me later on in the evening and then again 2 days later. want to try and forget about your ex, and you don’t need to be constantly reminded that he is dating someone else when pictures of the two of them show up with lovey dovey captions like “love him,” or “my boo. his friends and family are not happy about his decision., to build attraction slowly using text messages, as mentioned in this guide. i was looking at his fb, which i know i shouldnt be, and i accidently liked a post someone posted on his wall, because i was scrolling with my finger on my iphone. she is so nice and beautiful person and it’s very hard to forgot everything.’s hard to say if his new relationship is a rebound since he had crush on the girl for a long time. she is the complete opposite of me and his type in general (very young, childish, dependent). also, 2 common friends told me (they don’t know we are back in contact) that he is not into this girl of his and that they got the impression he is with her just for the sake of it, but he doesn’t seem to have feelings for her (which i always thought). she still wants to be some kind of friends with me, we said that we wish nothing but good each other and i wished all the best for her and the other guy. then he started reminiscing on our past and my smile, but then the tone changed and he told me that i should move on, that i don’t want to be with him and years later i would thank him. he will not leave her now; even though he has admitted that he wants to get back together in a few months and he has cheated on this girl with me… why won’t he just leave her now when it’s clear he still has feelings for me? i thought he was starting to yell at me but instead he started bawling and said” do you know what the worst time of my life was? even has placed his picture with her as a profile picture. (they are very messed up over this and don’t really want to speak to him either) thank you again for all your help i really appreciate it, and i do agree that the original breakup was necessary. he wants to use this lame excuse to hide the fact that he has already cheated on you emotionally. it’ll also give him some more time to miss you and maybe his rebound relationship will end till then. anyway he sent me a big bunch of flowers and the next week he dumped me over txt message saying it was hard for him to do this ect. i am now working out every day, i see clearly all my mistakes and i feel happy most of the time. also do you think she will go in a relationship with her other ex for a rebound or a permenant relationship? should i do at this point, considering all i’ve done and if i am unable to physically create space or make ‘no contact’. stop talking to him for 2 months and think real hard if you want to be with someone who cheated on you. it hurts so much letting go so beautiful girl but if i don’t quit everyone thinks i’m insane. he maintained he loves me and misses me but needs to work on himself the and see what’s best for his future. i am just wondering is this a rebound relationship or not because i am just so confused? so we were working things out and all but then he starts talking to his co worker&now they are in a relationship. why was she in love with me for three years if we never had a connection? you think there is a lot of hope now the true reason for leaving me has come out? i got emotional and walked past them and i said “is it possible” or something like that. then he recently married this other but continues to contact me. but one thing after another happened, i got depression and his family left him, alot of pressure was added to the relationship so it ended, we have been broken up for 14 months now. when i looked at the info about it online, his pic was right there. even though it puzzles me a great deal when we made grand plans for a life together, have kids etc. never got a response from the email/don’t know if he even read it. first month of dating they were already confessing their love on twitter, posting song lyrics to each other and now i’m confused if this is really love or just a rebound and that i should just go nc to wait it out but at the same time heal. no contact again and this time when he contacts you, don’t answer till the end of no contact. when we went to the theme park, he hugged me on my waist from the back which i think is really really sweet and i miss that so bad. but we were madly in love and our wedding were supposed t take place in a month, so he got married t this girl he hardly know and he posted got married in his facebook wall maybe he is in a rebound but he got marriedg. i hope you could help me out, my ex bf and i had a great relationship for 4 years, he is my clyde and i was his bonnie my partner in crime. once he is out of the house, you’ll be able to focus much better on yourself. he said he cannot afford to be self fish by calling me there but he also knew how important he is in my life. and if he does, you should cut all contact with him and move on. he also told her that after his birthday he was confuse and didn’t know what he was going to do with me. as you have already seen, it doesn’t help you get your ex back. i pleaded for her to come back after i found out they had sex but to no avail. he took me to paris by surprise and after the trip. year relationship he told no that he wanted to be with her because it was something new and exciting and he just to do something different i cried and told why being like this do you even care about he told yes so after that we didnt talk tell 5 days later he told he was happy with his new gf alwayz rubbing it in my face to just leave him alone so i did i did the nc rule for 8 days he was texting during those days i didnt text back then he called 3 times i didnt call back then i broke on saturday i called him and asked why he called me he told because he wanted to place a restraining order on me i was in shock since i did do anything to him found his new gf wants it not him so i could stay away for good he was rude to me when she was around but as sokn as she left he called back to tell that he was sorry and if was okay with everything i saw as a joke like really weres your balls at he would never let tell him what to dobwhen we were dating or who to even talk to he told me that we couldnt stay friends becsuse his new gf doesn’t like me and she called that same day to tell things to she was mad that me and my ex still text and talk so my ex told to delete his #and he would do the same and never bother me again this just happen yeasterday its been a month since we broke up and its been a month since he dated her but she has rapoed around her finger so tight there moving so fast to hd always spending all his free time with her he sleeps over her house in the two weeks they been seeeinv eachother he told it feels like when we were frist dating it broke my heart i really love and care for my ex so much we been through alot togather we always had eachothers back he was my bestfriend my partner in crim and i miss him dearly everything about him but he happy he tells me with his new relationship idk what to do anymore i feel like im going crazy like its all a bad dream and i just want wake up from my heartache and into his arms. we were together for 3 years and then his ex started contacting him again saying she still has feeling for him my boyfriend decided to talk to her behind my back to say that it was over between them and she should stop. she started calling a couple weeks ago to ask random questions or if i’d bring my dog to her pet store. neither of us have had a new relationship in this time. i made him tell me to get out of his life. stop talking to him for 2 months and think real hard if you want to be with someone who cheated on you.’s what i keep telling myself especially since this girl does not live here but apparently has come down to visit (southern state and she’s from new york). he looked skinny and i asked if he even eats and he said sometimes. i thought of talking to him at the first opportunity even if he does not want to hear. from someone you said to my face was like a brother to now saying ” i got a good one” with happy faces to ” i love you” with hearts a smiles. if thats the case, im very confident to give him new experience if we r back together. push him to sombdy else arms because i was mean to him and not being a lady now he wants me to b the other women whats up with that is that ok? that’s why i think she moved on and over as quick as she has already and to the next guy she feels she has better connection with. is there really a chance for us to be back again? i know it sucks but you need to become learn to be happy in your life without him before you try to get him back. in fact, the reason his current relationship is not working is because he never got over you. i failed a lot because i became so needy and asked many times does she have any feelings and does she miss me…. if he still doesn’t contact you, you should try to move on. had recently posted a question and your response was to apply nc again for three weeks. our aim here is to help you become a happier and more confident person. i wasn’t sure what i wanted and then we met and she said that she missed me much but she had decided to break-up. but think of it this way, he did you a favor by ending it right now rather than ending it after 3 more years. she always said she wanted someone who has some goals in life. he still cant explain it properly and is giving me bad excuses as to why. i miss just texting you funny pics and you sending me funny videos (he giggled), and when we broke up a month ago, i was thinking about things, and i wasn’t upset about losing the relationship, i just didn’t want the friendship to end. if it’s a 2-3 month thing then it’s not really a rebound it’s just a relationship. if you show any weakness or neediness, it’s going to work against you.? mmmmm” i only got them in morning so text saying i was sleeping and he replied right away with “lol” anyway after that he went back to no contact and was even nasty straight to point about me to his dad. you want to ask a question about your relationship or breakup, head over to the boards. my problem is i love this man, he is my other pea in my pod. it’s possibly the best free guide on getting your ex back on the internet. will only be approved if they are pertaining to the article and add value to it. you want him to think your life is better than ever! kind of makes you think those are more relatable to them then anything else. i thought it would be a good idea if i sent the letter so it arrives after her b’day & a separate postcard with a simple b’day greeting. he left town before we did for his 1st job. he went to play some pool but he learnt that i had a boyfriend through our conversation. he also mentioned that he hasn’t seen his other 2 kids. partner of 6 years broke up with me 2 weeks ago,mew have some issues due to my illness he finds it hard to cope.. it is a quote from a poem that is inspirational . i know she doesnt love this guy im way better looking she always said he was ugly. but after a week and a half two very close friends of his met in a car accident and were in a critical state. i do recommend a letter in the 5 step plan, but if you are trying to get him back from his new girlfriend, text messages are the way to go.. i cant txt him, because his gf keepa on snooping around his phone and even the one who’s replying to his messages and acting that she is my ex (she done this with my ex mom and she wasnt happy about it)..there r lods of things she did before to express her love. we were together for 3 years and then his ex started contacting him again saying she still has feeling for him my boyfriend decided to talk to her behind my back to say that it was over between them and she should stop. situation is me and my ex boyfriend for more than a year broke up 4 months ago and he had her girlfriend a week after the break up. no contact but keep her added on snapchat —- view her public timeline snaps yay or nay during this time. i think that will increase your chances of securing a date. im very close with his family and he told me everything just about it took a while because he dont express his feelings. media is not an accurate description of how people actually feel. i don’t know what my ex see this guy i think i’m better looking and smarter than him but i know he seem like more manly than me and he is two years older. it hurt but i feel like he is playing games. just because his social media profile shows he is happy doesn’t necessarily mean he is happy. this girl has been his friend since they were around 4 years old, and he had a crush on her when he was younger before he met me. if it doesn’t work out, you’ll know it’s over and you will be able to move on. we have been long distance for about 9 of those years. he is afraid if you think he has moved on, you might also try to move on. after that i stopped texting her and calling her, i don’t know if she misses me. please kevin i have waited almost a year now in hope but that that day seeing him with another was sooo painful that i almost lost my mind and hope but please please please my love was and is tooooo true and i know i still want to love him forever..The next day i felt that my lifepower was so drained. we sometimes chat and its very neutral from both sides because i’m not sure what to do because i know he is still dating this girl. i know it’s really hard since it was your first relationship, but it’s something that almost everyone has to go through. we were very close and when you’re close with someone they can hurt you. that’s why i get my doubts that maybe i am not doing everything right 😀 like he is making her more happy lately… if that makes sense? my story is my partner and i were together for 7. just dont know if this is a sign him contacting me again last night? isn’t it possible that she did have a meaningful relationship with you and after the breakup she just found someone more compatible than you? if she is not cold towards you and you have already done no contact, then you can stay in touch with her. to make your ex boyfriend breakup with his new girlfriend. i also think he is now with his housemate… he posted some photos on fb of them together and hid them from me. two weeks after break up, she hooked up with a guy who looks exactly like me, has same interests, watches same tv series, listens to same music etc. are doing great and you should keep up with your attitude. decreasing your self worth and self esteem in the process and putting an unnecessary roadblock for yourself in moving on and finding the right girl for you. your “sneaky signs your ex still loves you (even if they say they don’t)”. i asked her to tell me that she doesn’t love me anymore, because after that i could move on knowing that there is nothing to left but she couldn’t say that. they spend lot of time together and they seem to be in love and she wished me good luck for future. you want to ask a question about your relationship or breakup, head over to the boards. did not know whether it is a rebound relationship (hopefully it is!. i broke up with my boyfriend almost 4 years ago because i was very confused. i recently noticed she added this guy on facebook and also saw that he is at least 5 years older than her which is also very unusual. he begged me for my forgiveness & promised to be the man i need & want. i ended my new relationship and thought that my ex and i were going to work things out. ex and i are broken up for about a month now. the next day, he doesn’t really talk to me, i’m thinking “ok, he’s still mad it’s cool he will get over it. we have been together in a four year relationship, long distance but at the same time he said he was angry and the situation changed.? i have looked at his facebook and he still has photo albums up with me in them., clearly i missed him to start with which is why i checked his fb. we broke up when i was about 8 months pregnant, but he would still come around like everything was cool, because even though he would be out doing who knows what he was very excited about being a dad at the time. hang out with him and if he talks about other girls, tell him you are not comfortable with such talks.. this has happened before but i went back to him. my only problem is yesterday my ex deleted my mother from facebook and deleted most pictures of me and him on there too. went to marriage counselling but every time she was asked not to contact him and start to work on our marriage she would just lie to the therapist and me and done what she wanted. i would hope it’s not because she is trying to work things out with her friend. i told him even though he said he said we shouldn’t talk anymore that i still care about him and will always have an open ear if he needs someone to listen. my ex girlfriend and i have been separated for just over 5 months. i thought about him constantly through all the amazing experiences i had. he pushes my buttons deliberately to get a raise out of me and gloats about his new relationship, how she does the things i did not like to do with him. he was frank about not being comfortable with committing to a girl because of his responsibilities regarding his family (he’s the breadwinner) and serving his community. so far i dont think her new reltation is a rebound reltn. we loved each other and planed to get marry next year. he told me that he understand and he asked me if we aren’t go to hang out anymore. but he broke up saying i’m his soulmate and he still hopes we’ll end up together. that same break he took me out to see a movie and we held hands throughout the whole thing and after we went back to his place and he showed me his baby pictures and a few family photos, something he had never done before. i was also working towards my final examination and the pressure was very overwhelming. my work situation is super great … and i have even been out meeting other women , just to get my mind right ( if that make any sence ? well i was wrong after 6 months of dating he tells me that he still loves his ex-girlfriend and that i helped him heal the pain he had and that he got in contact with her. my point now is i want to get him back. in addition, you might also want to read this article on what to do if your ex is in another relationship. she was totally devastated because of this and asked who will be there for her then? is there any chance at all of not only getting him back- but getting him to develop these feelings? he always hugs me tight when he comes and goes but all i get is a kiss on the cheek. yesterday i was at the gym which is quite near where me ex lives. day she is the loving partner the next she has done the complete reversal on me. seems like she likes excitement and guys who are hard to get. i’m a bit confused as what she is doing..please please please tell me what is the right thing to do now …i ll try my best to stick to it. i heard about this no contact rule and i did it for one month. you know after you told not to do the nc rule yah i broke it yeasterday not on purpose though my ex end up calling me at six in the morningon his mom cell phone crying that he made a mistake and the he left his 80 for his 20 and that he missed me and loved me after that he told he would call me back later i felt on top of the world thinking my ex wanted me back in his life he called me later that day but it went south he told he didnt deserve such a great girl like me that it wasnt fair to me if we got back togather because he already slept with his new gf he told he wanted me to live life and go explorer whats out there but im not like that ill date but not sleep around he told he couldn’t leave his new gf because she hasnt done anything worng pluse he likes how she dosent make him his whole world like i did i told that i could change but he said he didnt belive that because ive always been like that with him i got mad and told that i had a one nighter just because i was angery and he told its fine do what i have to do i also told i could live with out him he told me good show me honestly this break up has emotionally drained me to the point that ive hit rock bottom im so confused you tell that im an 80 and your new gf a 20 but he treats her like the 80 and me like the 20 im sick of all the bs i love him and care for him but is this a total lost cause idk know what to do anymore. even though it’s making me nuts i haven’t contacted him to ask if he’s seeing someone else. it has nothing to do with me because my ex goes from work to home subway there. my head was filled with thoughts and questions, mixed with different emotions. which is why i want you to use this time to explore your option as well., after months of texting back and forth, of him mostly blaming me for ruining something beautiful, but also wanting me to accept and be happy for him. he tried to come see me where i go out, but i kept my distance. or is it better leave her alone completely (maybe she wants that)? make some positive changes in your life during no contact. i will suggest you concentrate your efforts in moving on. i made plans with her father that after she comes home from work i will go there and wish her happy birthday. but, i’m somewhat holding to his word about us hanging out to watch the finale of our favorite show together, and won’t be for another few weeks. as for reversing the roles, you can just stop texting him for a while. i have a feeling he is txt’n some else at the moment. next thing i know he’s picking fights by bringing up things that he didn’t like about me when we dated and assuming my future will be. what makes it worse is if he does have the realisation he has made a mistake he will never admit it and will never come back thats his personality and i think thats what makes me sadder knowing he might regret it but still stay with this young girl as he would never go back 🙁. i’ve never loved someone from just looking at them. i asked him what he wants and he said he wants his own place……im so confused i dont want to be just giving him his cake and letting him eat it. if he does get back with you, it’ll not be a rebound.. the thing is… i sometimes feel that he gets excited talking to me, even “turned on” when we talk about stuff. i wish you happiness but i’ve moved on and you should too. i know every situation is different based on the individual, do you think it is better to keep trying to actively rekindle the relationship, or should i purposefully create space by restricting our contact, communication and the things i do for him? although they never had an intimate relationship with my best friend; i still can’t imagine sharing stories with my friend about a relationship with her ex. if she chooses the other guy, then you cut her form your life and move on. we even hugged goodbye and when he pulled away he was looking at my lips asking if it was a sore on my lip. then next day i visited her place and i said that i want be with you, but she said that it is too late and she told me that she is dating that other guy. the last thing you want is for your ex to think you are completely devastated from your break up. or how she says she wants to be friends and then will changed her mind and tell me she doesn’t like me and wants a complete break from me until she is ready, but then we will get in contact again a few days later like nothing happened. to give and take some final explanations and close that chapter. where he’s living is one of his baby mamas house. i love him and i don’t know if blocking him and not knowing if he’s trying to talk to me is more painful than if i unblock him and he never talks to me. but since applying the nc rule last night she still texts me and wants to know what i’ve been doing and when my days off are? i feel like my ex has second thoughts about us getting together he says there is still hope but i feel like there isn’t anymore, he dropped a bomb on me couple of days ago telling his best friend that he loved her, and she told him that she loved him back yet they can only be friends right now because she likes someone else, this is while i was trying to get back with him and he knew that i loved him. i burst into tears … i didn’t know why he was saying this if he didn’t want to worth through things , i didn’t respond all day the text came in the morning . if yes, how long does it need to be, is 30 days enough?.i am trying this time to stay silent and show my absence for atleast 2 months…. all this time that i’m gone he is seeing another woman who i think he really likes and she is one of the reasons he wanted time. it feels weird that she loves the other guy so fast and it’s feel more weird if she doesn’t have any feelings for me. us acting like strangers toward each other is killing me. when we were together i would always tell him he should see his kids and he would agree. he stalked her for the whole year we dated he texted her all the time.” but no we got into a text-fight and i was confused as why he was so angry, it was all innocent, and he told me that he didn’t like the guy but wouldn’t give me a reason why. he was head over heels for me and he contacted me a few days ago and told me he was thinking about me and always will but he seems very cold and distant with no emotion in his voice whatsoever but after he told me he was done then he says if i ever need anything hes hear for me always no matter what…. few months ago, his younger brother, who also married very young and had been with this wife for 8 years, got divorced. she’s very girly and bubbly and i’m darkish and not that girly. at one point she said that this guy is kind of a looser but he makes her happy and wants to give him a chance. after work i make another mistake i called my ex and said what happened and i said i have something that i want to give her (it is romantic book “the notebook” where you replaced some pages in own words. the last time was last night he wasnt drunk this time but this time i pulled away and said i cant do it and ran upto my bed, this morning he said hes in a relationship and it only happened because we were together for so long and i should know he is always horny and it meant nothing with no feelings involved, he now thinks its best for him only to come back when im in my bed if he comes back at all.? when her new bf or sumone is not letting her to miss me anymore…only her late night online whstapp freaks my mind badly . he added a ton of hot women on instagram and is openly flirting with them. tell him you need some space and time and you’ll appreciate it if he respects your decision. november and now, i was a crazy psycho ex… i broke all of the rules. if he does choose her, you should move on and remove him from your life completely. he moved this girl into the home that we shared within two weeks of dating her. give yourself a time limit for how long you are going to wait for her. he responds with an attitude and different behavior towards me. even if he does talk to you again, he’ll continue playing with your feelings. i also told him i didn’t want his gf to think i was trying to pull anything because i’m not *wink wink* and that i wasn’t judging him for anything, and wasn’t mad at him for just being honest with me about ending the relationship. so hopefully you can tell me what the hell is going on haha. we had a fun night there but i noticed my ex was laughing a little bit too much and tried to laugh out loud. he could have kept it with him and the next day he said he was just testing me if i was suicidal which is a bull shit. you decide how much time of your life are you willing to waste on someone. i found out was she started texting him out of the blue and they texting for a few months. he is also probably in a rebound relationship right now. again 🙂 so after 1 month of texting, 2/3 weeks of extensive texting every day/night (mostly him initiating) we finally went for a coffee. or is it more likely she will just remain being same sad and confused. she was an exhange student in another country and during this period of few months she said she doesn’t love me in the same way as she used to. and my ex officially broke up a year ago, but somehow couldn’t keep away from each other. i seriously could feel how much this girl loved me. we did still see each other on and of till about 4 months ago, until then he was just dating girls but nothing serious. we had a great time he even kissed me and told me he missed me and then a few days later i found out he had been talking to someone else over the nc period. she can’t let go of this feeling of emptiness even though she is a new relationship.’his response is” go away” leaving me wanting to solve the issue or wondering what just happen. hes said things that have hurt me i’ve forgiven him, more than once so i dont get why he cant let this one time go. if he doesn’t then continue building attraction with him and then ask him if he wants to get back together. i still have sum hopes n never wanaa giveup unless i get to know she is really happy with her bf/husband, you are the only hope/god/frnd for me now,i will do everything even its painfull to get her back,Plz answer this i searched aloot but never able to got answers which are regarding how to behave on whatsapp/social networking sites :1)how should i behave on whatsapp i mean i believe she unblocks me atlst once in a week to check my status n dp .– first 2 weeks he has been rubbing it in my face but i kept calm and did nc for 2 months (no signs of her after the first 2 weeks, nothing on fb, she is never seen with him etc). and is there anyway or hope that we would get back together? they both have even said they never considered eachother romantically until now that everyone is accusing them of having something more, they get along and understand eachother so well and he’s so moved on from me already i’m afraid i’ve lost him. when they broke up i was there with him comforting him and so on and she told me all his ex girlfriends flaws plus they are in a long distance relationship… i’ve been living with my ex boyfriend in a house for 3 months already together with my schoolmates. she thinks if garry and her start having sex, she will feel much closer to garry and perhaps forget you.’m thinking that there is not hope getting her back? (ming you that valentines day was a week before his birthday, which he found my work address and sent me flowers and we had an amazing valentines day. i am honestly very surprised that she acting this way.. he became my everything back then, wherein i didn’t know how to be happy if i was not with him. he responded a few days later saying he didn’t know what the answers all were and didn’t want to make promises he couldn’t keep but that we definitely need to be apart right now. and three weeks after your and your ex’s breakup? it broke my heart because this man was my first love, i gave him all of me. i asked him how it was going and he said okay, it’s been a while since i’ve dated anyone, invalidating the fact that what we did over break wasn’t dating. you will not be obsessing over them so much and you will be able to concentrate on your happiness more. if you try to break them up, they try harder to make it work. he took a risk by holding my hand for the first time during the movie. really trying to rub it in because i foolishly told him that i was unable to move on. this was due to her being in a foreign country, away from her really close friends (she had been here 2 years before i met her) and, after she moved cities to be with me, couldn’t find a job. i wanted him to feel that i was done chasing and exerting effort to get back. otherwise, he wouldn’t have started contact with her even though he knew that he is risking his current relationship by doing so. you've called him a bunch of different times, but every time is met with a voicemail, it could be a sign that your ex dating someone else. then he randomly freaked out on me one night because his new girl was mad because he had been talking to me and it was all my fault. we even hugged goodbye and when he pulled away he was looking at my lips asking if it was a sore on my lip. it took him half a day to reply to my next one but since then he started replying much faster. i guess with his health problem, he always demand constant attention and from the time i know him, he was barely single for 6 months. if anyone has suggestions as to what i should do, please let me know. he has chronic atopic dermatitis on his face and skin. i don’t know if this a rebound relationship even though he married her because he’s having trouble in the marriage and his now wife is emailing me stating that’s she confused and if i’m still contacting him…. ex and i have been broken up for about four months now. alas a mth ago he met a girl who he believed is a clone of his xgf. recently just found out that he has been seeing his ex who he dated for 5 months,they broke up when i came into the picture and from what the girl told me they didn’t speak for a full year until she contacted him trying to get him back in his life because she says she felt like i snatched him away from her which isn’t true because i didn’t even know she existed until a couple of months of me and him dating. well eventually down the road i was feeling smothered so i tried to get some distance. we were together for 4 years and we had an argument which resulted in him saying goodnight and goodbye to me to which i didnt reply, then i get this txt two days later, please help! he was in a relationship and that ended and then a week later we had a run in, oddly the same way we did two years ago, timing, place and all but i’m rambling, but i guess what i’m wondering is if him jot making direct eye contact but smiling or smirking constantly mean anything? either he can commit or you cut him off entirely from your life and move on. he finally contacted me about giving me my stuff back and he looked so miserable. i basically inflicted this pain on myself by taking my ex for granted and pushing her into this new guy arms. wanted me back but i was to proud to admit that i was mistaken and builded a wall and convinced myself that i had no feelings left. your e-mails everyday and web site has been helping me tremendously. he still tells me that he hopes we’ll end up together, that he isn’t in love with her, but that she is a part of his “process”. he was trying explain to me that it was a big deal, while me and a lot of other people don’t think so. i mailed him telling him that now it’ s the right time to try, otherwise he will lose me forever. well i don’t know how true is that because a week later that i walk away he got officially back with his ex girlfriend and the idiot doesn’t know that i know everything. after we broke up i basically did everything you shouldn’t do, i texted him and called him many many times for about a month until i finally realized that i needed to cut off contact and i deleted him off of all social media and stopped contacting him at all. guess, just from what has happened in the past, i have a feeling that he will date her for a couple of months and then come back to me again, but i cannot tell if this is a rebound or not. and my wife has just married for a year but before we get married i told here that i have an affair and i accidentally get the girl pregnant, but we still continue our married but the first 3 months my wife become jealous and everytime i come back to home after work she always argue with me that i cheated to her but she know how much i love her now she want to divorce are marriage she said to me that she didn’t have fellings to me anymore only sorrow what she feel to me and she have no more love to me he even ignore me in fb and skype she makes excuses to avoid are communication were in a long distance relationship because of our carrie sir kevin is still have chance to prevent our divorce and we will be happier the first time we know each other and the first 2 months that weve married. for the first 2 months after the breakup we were still seeing each other as we had no choice because we were in the same college in the same class so he put matters aside and we still had sex and did couple things. but you need to stop having sex with him until he commits. he confronted to me after his pre u , and he told me we should be together. think you shouldn’t be willing to forgive his cheating. i know that she have feelings for that another guy because he was right place when we were at that break and my girlfriend was at the time very sad and he told her she is so beautiful and other stuff. but i don’t know if that approach is going to work..n then her dad called me n started blackmailing that v will do police case, thanks to my sis who managed to talked with them ,v thought its over but after 2 days her dad complained to police , police called me once but i ignored the calls,then my phone was off, now v r no more in contact , after some days i started expressing my feelings that how much u cheated me, how much i loved u, u used me like this on whatsapp status n dp on my other numbers then she also changed her status that ” u r biggest mistake of my life & i am still paying for it ” ” you hv no right to judge me ” & blocked my other numbers too. i have little feeling that maybe she cries also because that she is with that other guy and she feels sorry for me. you were always there for her, and she didn’t consider your feelings..In january this year my wife changed positions in her work place and then all of a sudden within a week this co worker told her how he felt about her and she feel for him. he has been away for about a month and i felt his house needed some thorough cleaning. he initially didn’t like her but she had her eyes set on him and kept making her move, which made me feel insecure so i expressed my concern and so he talked to her and said he didn’t like her that way but i feel like that fueled her even more and she kept on pushing and making her moves on him till it made me really upset and insecure and really put strain in our relationship. i guess he wanted to hide his new relationship from you because deep inside, he doesn’t want you to move on. and my boyfriend were together for a year and a half and he just brakes up with me to get with this other girl. i have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for the past 3 and a half years and we broke up because he stole from me i then took up the opputinty to work on a ship and when for it 10 month at sea i still love my ex while being a sea i missed him lots. but if he’s a runner, then why would he contact me again.. idk if he wants to get me back or he wants me back im so counfucied we talked like for about 2 hours and he told me that he wouldn’t leave his gf that his just calling me to help me and then he told me that he was goi g to keep on calling me every once in a while i need help im afraid of getting more attached to him i need your help idkif he misses me and wants us to have another chance with me im counfucied help. it seems she is texting you just to see if you are there for her and once she realizes that you are, she feels satisfied and doesn’t respond to you anymore. for the first 2 months after the breakup we were still seeing each other as we had no choice because we were in the same college in the same class so he put matters aside and we still had sex and did couple things. i didn’t understand how that was possible, i always had him when i wanted it, he was always there leaving me roses, sending me cute texts… the day before i found out and busted him , he had been at my house asking me about moving in , he went to his house. did the no contact rule for a month and after him calling me and texting me here and there, i replied after he wrote that he doesn’t know why i’m ignoring him and that he assume that im cutting him completely out of my life and that it will the last time i will hear from him, so i waited 2 hours and replied that i been busy with work, therapy and i been taking sometime to myself.” he told me he don’t even know if he loves her. if he doesn’t, you should move on even if you both love each other. they would even get into text fights not talk for a few days and she would text back and apologize (which she would never do in the past) he told his friend he wants to move fast and even marry her. i came to the realisation that the time was not right for us and him breaking up with me has gave me the kick up the backside to get life back into gear. then i found he was cheating on me for about a week (i had a gut feeling) with a girl of 26 from his work. are doing great and you should keep up with your attitude. we had a great time he even kissed me and told me he missed me and then a few days later i found out he had been talking to someone else over the nc period. i wasn’t sure what i wanted and then we met and she said that she missed me much but she had decided to break-up. we sometimes chat and its very neutral from both sides because i’m not sure what to do because i know he is still dating this girl. im hurt that he cheated on me and made this side chick hes girl…. im now wondering if saying this means he wont contact me again 🙁. he is not prepared to stop chatting to this girl. if she does not let him talk or message you? he asked me for this advice, then mentioned that he heard i took a trip, and he seemed impressed by that and other things. wish with all my heart that she would want to be part of my life…but, she knows how i feel and it’s up to her now. i believe that is how it is meant to be. yet i know i care about this guy a lot, but since i know i spoke up for a reason and don’t appreciate being disrespected, i can’t figure out his place in my life. our tattooist told me he looked miserable and no where near as happy as i looked.’s hard to say if it’s a rebound since it has been 8 months. if their behavior resembles that of a person in a rebound relationship, you can be know for sure whether or not you have a chance at getting back together. we separated and came back together and was happy till another issue which separated us again. he responds with an attitude and different behavior towards me. i didn’t know that i take this situation so hard. but if you choose to reply, make sure you mention in the end that you both need some time and space right now. she recently started dating a guy and, via facebook, they were in a relationship after only ten days of knowing each other. it hurts so much to think that she is with that guy and it’s hard for me that i will see that guy this summer because we are working in the same hospital. is it unrealistic to think that i can get my husband back under these circumstances? if you still want him, apply no contact for 2 more weeks and get back in touch.. i don’t know why randomly he just stopped talking to me texting me. then one day i notice that she blocked me from facebook and i found out that she is in a relationship with that same guy she called him a friend. we talked and she said that i was someone special and meant something and that i still mean something to her. we loved each other and planed to get marry next year. its like a jekyl and hyde as how he texts me to how angry he seems to his parents hia dad just cant believe its the same person. it hurts so much also that the guy didn’t respect me and ask is it okay that they see each other because we were some kind of friends. guess the only thing you can do is give her time to figure it out herself. i am wondering if there is any change that we can get back togheter or at least be friends. do anything and everything you can do to make yourself happy. about 9 days later he initiated asking me if i hated him which i just responded with a simple no and continued the nc. i never seen her roaming anywhere,but what she do is only whatsapp & calling. he came and got into bed with me and we have been kissing and cuddling in bed. the meet up lasted for an hour with him wishing me well on my next relationship. well after her always being needy towards me, she gave up i guess and was so angry at me that she went off and let her friends convince her to start having sex and talking to this other guy. not that i can remember her saying any other reasons why she with me or why she is happy. he also mentioned that he hasn’t seen his other 2 kids. just before i leave to return to uni,I agreed to meet him, however this just ended up involving us going for a walk outside and me shouting at him saying “how could you do this? he also wrote something on his mum’s wall to get to me.. he ended up saying “i hate this babe i care about you and probably always will but i just can’t do this anymore” then a few days after that he asked me if i would want to do a friends with benefits which i did not agree to then i went into nc. dont want to see her with another guy and this hurts me. the next day he posted a pic of them kissing. i do noticed that lately, the communication is more there compared to me. also i am in no contact with him but he hasn’t contacted me except for messages claiming that it was a friend of his messing around with his phone when i received no messages him earlier that day.” he told me he don’t even know if he loves her..i knew he will never value me till i keep hovering around but due to my past experience i could never enter a no contact period, as i never want to lose this man forever…. implemented much of your advice so far and i’m pleased to say that i have made excellent progress with not only regards to my ex but myself. there a way to see if they were only with you because they were only physically attracted to you especially when they are saying the same things they said to you to their new partner. im now wondering if saying this means he wont contact me again 🙁. toward the end of my lift i happen to walk past female locker room entrance when a girl came out in front of me i stopped she looked familiar it was here friend. apparantly he also had an affair 4-5 years ago while i had 24 hour shifts at my old job. i gave up on him and began a new relationship with someone else. im much older, mayb i jus need to let him live out his youth? it’s her ex, there’s a chance that this relationship is not a rebound. have seen many other girls and i have thought that i still want my ex back. he’s now holding this against me, he says he can’t trust me. said ” i should have said this earlier but i respect your decision to pursue your dreams and goals that you want to achieve. he loved me that much, then why is it taking so long for him to break up with her? no matter how much better or worse you are than her, it doesn’t change the fact that she is currently dating a guy you used to care about (keyword: used to). reading a lot of different things last couple months i have started to think that i was just a rebound from the start because she would always say stuff about how she is really attracted to me but nothing else. dated someone off and on for 10 years through high school and college. im being strong and getting on with life with kids and being pregnant but still cant believe this is all happening. he has been dating this other girl for a year now (i saw it coming and warned him) and now i don’t know what to do. think you are putting her on a pedestal and what you think is love is just an obsession. he said its a waste of time since its a ldr and he wants to stay there and as i said he makes his own decision and never both to sit with me and discuss and now i know that he is with the same girl i suspected him with and i even had begged her to let him go but she had blocked me. all this time since i walked away i been focusing on myself, i feel much better, i been enjoying myself and open to meeting new people, i’m taking a vacation next week and i don’t regret walking away because its my time and its about me now. he said that he loves me more than anyone, he said that he’ll do anything for me but is in love with her too. he’s 30, bringing a child into this world but acting like a child himself. i started texting one girl, went out with her, but i just couldn’t kiss her cause i only saw my ex. and my ex dated 1 year and i broke up with him saying i don’t love him…right after the breakup i realized that i do but first i thought it was the missing that kept me thinking that…it has been 2 months and i decided to win him back, we met and he kissed me and told me that he still loves me but he doesn’t want to get hurt again. so in november she meets someone , and well they start dating . is i always used to say u r worst,u did everything bad with me, everything happens bcz of u ,my ex was better than u,i usd to blame her lott cz seriosly she not even meets me easily, i used to make her feel that dear m ur bf n v r in relation. or could it be that he earlier met this old friend while we were together? he has slept with 2 people since then and has his eye on a girl but not in a relationship yet. ex and i dated for a few months and became really close. i tweet the guy yesterday as he is going to see a movie i wanna see..but i dont know whether he is new bf or her upcoming husband,she is not keeping any status but used to change dp with happy faces, i cries every single day, i pray for her ,i am still crying while writing,i have no single frnd in my life cz i was so envolved in her, she was my day n night,she was my everything, its killing me that how she forgotten me easily,its all about 8 yrs she is everywhere for me,One incident also happnd that she used my route & by bus to go one station which was very weird,coz route to go stn was different in her ares but still choosen my bus which goes from my home road.’m going to send the “magic letter” but i’d like your opinion first, please. again, if you haven’t read the 5 step plan to get your ex back, click here to read it now. my ex sent me messages that he thought about me everyday, and also on that special day. i applied the no contact for 2 months but just recently i just gave him a birthday cake (because his birthday is near) thru a friend, and he told the friend not to do such things again and told her not to get involved. i’ve been on a roll turing myself around 180, making positive strides then this comes up. there is a good chance she cheated on you while she was in the relationship with you. ex was already married when she messed him up and abruptly stop contact after the dates. i decided i didn’t want to keep seeing him like before, and told him if we ever were going to end up together it was his turn to fight, even if i didn’t think he ever would. i am trying to move on with the help of a therapist and trying to get back to the old me. it seems the guy was the reason your ex left you..I have read your tips and such, but i’m not sure this is a rebound for her or if this is it. so then i found out about this girl (luckily i didn’t freak out) he didn’t tell me though, i noticed she left things in his room. i think you should try to accept the fact that he is being inconsiderate, unfaithful and he will probably never come back to you. my former ex thought it was over when no one officially said so she was with a guy for 2 months. texted him already but he dont reply knowing that he is awake and online. and even though you are second guessing the decision right now, you still know deep inside it was the right thing to do. situation is me and my ex boyfriend for more than a year broke up 4 months ago and he had her girlfriend a week after the break up. i am just so nervous but again i am so excited. i am hoping this is a sign that he is realising what he has lost. if still no reply, then you should consider moving on. and my wife has just married for a year but before we get married i told here that i have an affair and i accidentally get the girl pregnant, but we still continue our married but the first 3 months my wife become jealous and everytime i come back to home after work she always argue with me that i cheated to her but she know how much i love her now she want to divorce are marriage she said to me that she didn’t have fellings to me anymore only sorrow what she feel to me and she have no more love to me he even ignore me in fb and skype she makes excuses to avoid are communication were in a long distance relationship because of our carrie sir kevin is still have chance to prevent our divorce and we will be happier the first time we know each other and the first 2 months that weve married. the relationship was very good until he faced problems in his career, and got depressed for a while. you are confused because everyone seems to be telling you it’s a rebound relationship while your instincts tell you that your ex has moved on. the best thing to do in this case scenario is to move on. weeks later i find out he has a new girlfriend, and trying to cope with all of this is very hard because i’m emotional as it is being pregnant, the 2 have been together now for a month and i’m worried my chances are low, i don’t think it’s a rebound relationship, but i do know she’s not pushing him into anything he doesn’t want to do, and she’s aware of the second baby on the way, there is no way that i could follow with the no contact period because of the fact that we have a 3 year old daughter.’s me again and thank you very much for your answers. you have to remind him of financial stuff, just remind him and don’t talk about anything else. i didn’t understand how that was possible, i always had him when i wanted it, he was always there leaving me roses, sending me cute texts… the day before i found out and busted him , he had been at my house asking me about moving in , he went to his house..n i can’t msg her also coz she can complaint to her pshycho parents & they can do anything to me, ( i really have no idea whether she said atleast once to her parents that she also wants me or not) , i can’t even express my feelings anymore bcz of her blackmailings . returning his stuff is not a good reason to get back in touch in my opinion. ex broke up with me because we didnt talk a lot because i was really busy and when i did i got nervous and its been 6 months i tried to get her back once he was hot for a bit and then went completely cold and say no she is dating someone else now and im pretty sure she knows i still have feelings for her and were in grade 10 and i have two classes with her and i have to sit beside her cuz my classes have a seating plan so i dont know what to do about the nc rule please help. i think he might want to try again with you or maybe he is just looking to find a way to sleep with you. you contact your ex after the 30 day nc even if they’re still in that rebound relationship? that said, we still live together, a mutual decision not only because we don’t want to physically have to make the move, but also because we don’t want to separate. ( i was lying of course)… i waited a week and sent another and he said i’m not trying to be an a** but i’m dating someone right now and it’s going great and i’m great thanks. i was just someone she thought was better looking then the last guy that’s it. this all came out over christmas and i opened up about my past etc. also, don’t ever try to get to your ex through a friend. i don’t see how he is better besides being artist. we had a fight 3 weeks ago after going out on the town dancing and having sex. pkease give me some insight why or what this is indicating. i ended up finding out the reason why he was acting like this towards me since my pregnancy was because there was another women in the picture. i will deal with him about kids through his parents no need to see him. i know what happened to you sucked, but keep it in mind that it happened once, and if you get him back, it can happen again. i tried asking her to get together to catch up but she said she doesn’t think that’s a good idea yet because she’s currently happy with someone else..i dont know if i will be successful as i know he will message me casually in this period,,…. our friends asked me if i still love him i reply them “nope, im done with him”. my boyfriend felt that he still has feelings for her and that he loves her more than he loves me and that’s why he ended things with me. i have been following your good friend jason’s rewind advice. we had a great relationship and share so much history together. thanks for all the advice kevin and sorry i post so much, makes me look like i’m obssessed with my ex. there is no point in trying to figure out what’s going on in her head. i ended up meeting that person in the afternoon and we had a few drinks and watched a film at his house. am trying to get some help here on some issues i am having. i made all the mistakes and we were ‘together’ two months after the break up. so i was a little sad but i accepted what he wanted, and after that, we had sex… the day after that i found out that it is true that he has a new girlfriend and i asked him why did he lie to me, and why he didn’t tell me he was ready to move on, and he said it wasn’t the right time to tell me. if any two people are involved in this type of thing …maybe they arent mature enough for a relationship in the first place. all happened, then he left for 3 weeks’ vacation with his family. could you give me some insight into what you think it is? while we watched this movie, he only had on boxers and an undershirt and he held out his arm for me to cuddle with him while we watched. i really don’t know what the relationship is like because she doesn’t say anything about it to me. he kept all my friends and family as his facebook friends and only deleted me once he was sure i saw his new relationship status. how can she go for some guy who has no plan for his future and could move to another country just like that? did all the mistakes mentioned above, and even worse; i tried comitting suicide and let my ex boyfriend know about it. i asked him if i could kiss him and he said he didnt know if that was right…after that he kissed me. so it will be sort of like going back on your words). the weird thing was that i saw a dream about this. days after that i got no texts and i found out later on that during that weekend that we were supposed to meet like always, he went on vacation with his colleagues (and that girl he talked about) and they, not the company, paid for it. you should read the 5 step plan if you haven’t already. initially he was texting and calling me post-breakup but i told him i didn’t want to talk at all since i didn’t know if i was going to move. i wish i can tell you that you have a good chance, but i want you to be prepared for the worst. ex is the kind that you described as the angry ex in another post, however, he has anger management problems.. ignores your phone callsif you're finding that your ex isn't as responsive as he once was, it might be a sign that he's moved on. let her develop a friendship with you again and listen to her problems n dont place any negative spin on her relationship. be yourself and let him slowly see the changes you’ve made in your life. she loved the gift i got for her and me to wear. he would tell me he wanted a future with me, but he is incapable of a relationship right now. her mother send me today text message where she said something like ”congratulations and all the best for future” best regards she and her son (ex’s brother).

What if your ex boyfriend starts dating someone else

were quite private about our relationship on fb, only one picture, she posted on my wall once to ask if my phone had died, i’d posted on her birthday, no statuses about one another and not even “in a relationship” though all friends/family knew we were. next thing i know he’s picking fights by bringing up things that he didn’t like about me when we dated and assuming my future will be. and today he texted me and i told him to leave me alone, he asked me why and i said “because i’m tired of you playing mind games with me. i love him so much and any advice help would be greatly welcomed as my hormones are everywhere with being 6months pregnant never mind all this to deal with as well…. add to my previous reply , i would like to confess that i have unblocked him on fb today,,although i have not sent him a friend request…and i wont send him a friend request on fb till my no contact period is over that is for sure i think……. and when i texted her she refused texting me back for another 3 days and said she wanted to break up with me because she lost feelings on me(while waiting, i sent her a long email stating how i felt about her and i wanna know why she is not replying me). however, at this point, i’ll recommend you get in touch with clyde..My ex and i broke up officially in november (we had been having a rough patch for awhile). anyway he sent me a big bunch of flowers and the next week he dumped me over txt message saying it was hard for him to do this ect. so i messaged him asking him if he was okay and i’m around if he needed anything. we have gone through this once before but he came back. ex boyfriend and i were together for a year and 4 months and we were going through al ot and all of a sudden a boy told me that he was trying to talk to another girl so when i asked him about it he told me he wasn’t but then in a text message she was like oh i did give her my number and i do kind of like her a little so i try to deal with that and so many people were trying to talk to him about it and even i. these were for example doing the dishes etc… stuff like this. soo now today he told me i couldnt do something because he was talking to someone. she says she wishes i could still b the man iwas she she fell in love w me but doesnt think i can. a month ago i heard hat he was dating a lady that he had dated in the past. i think there is little hope, but only if you move out and stop being there for her all the time. we separated and came back together and was happy till another issue which separated us again. of course if something is genuinely wrong i’d talk to her, but i have just 2 more questions:1. and then as if destiny played its role and one day he just decieded to end the relation because his ex walked in to live with him. i only visits once in 6 months because of my busy schedule and i have never been a fan of visiting men i date. perhaps he was already dissatisfied and it had been on his mind for some time to breakup. he said “i still love you but this is something i want to do. you think its a rebound or is it possible that he might actually become serious about this second girl? perhaps talking to him will help you get closure, but i believe if you accept that he has moved on and concentrate on moving on yourself, you will realize that closure will come from inside you. noticed that after that day of making out, he started disappearing little by little…no text the whole day, then the day after that he just sent me a text that he has a lot of problems.– i know from others that they are having problems, i think they are not very intimate anymore (we were joking about something and he somehow admitted it), she is posting depressing statuses on her fb…. should contact him even if he doesn’t contact you. people say you need to move on from him but i really have, ive met someone who i really click with and the only thing i dont get is why he is copying me so much when he told me he doesnt want to talk yet. the rose is symbolic & a little thing only we know. i know i am single and allowed to be with whoever and this was a rebound trying to fill the hole my ex left. told him this morning that i wanted him to not come back. a few days later he breaks up with his girlfriend and has me come over and spend the night. i was angry when i found out because he told me before no contact that he just needed time and space that he wouldnt talk to anyone else and he still loved and cared about me. he hasn’t made any effort to contact me, shows no interest whatsoever and whenever we talk he tells me how happy he is alone. he has used this friendship idea to try and get us back on track after a rough patch but unfortunately we had to break off because of circumstances regarding my health. i have 10x more respect for my ex after what he did.. but after that all even i posted pictures to my fb account theres still no response from my ex boyfriend. it’s exactly what i’m going through right now. either ways, both of you will be able to close this chapter in your life. tried to mend things out within a day(bad mistake)but she never changed her mind of going back to her ex however she threatened to block my phone if i kept on texting her. one month ago i saw her eyes that she was sad and cried and she wished nice summer but after that she have been very cold. a week after that i asked him again if he wanted to grab a drink. i am just so nervous but again i am so excited. all your suggestions until now were very successfull 🙂 thank you so much for that!” so he said ok, and for confirmation i asked him “so you made up your mind, it’s her right? we started having a lot of issue’s after our son was born, long story short i kicked him out last november. i know that i can be better boyfriend but all the post break-up stuff i have made badly and all the mistakes i made are not good. despite of everything we went through, he accepted me to accept his decision. her best friend is also probably telling her about the fact that she spoke to you and it’s going to make you look like a stalker. he told me he has never felt this way about anyone before and we even spoke of moving in together and marriage before christmas. i want to prove that i am a woman of substance whom he can rely on anytime but i know that is what makes him take me for granted and give me the pain without bothering that he may lose me forever…. text him or send him the letter mentioned in the 5 step plan. trust is what’s keeping us apart and now he seems as if he found someone new worth moving on with even though they arent in a relationship. i had just seen my ex and my head was just messed up. you can either wait for him to break up with him or better yet, concentrate your efforts in moving on..then i came here read your all posts, felt better that i have some hopes,i changed my dp to normal one & normal status,but i feels she is moved on,she used to chat on whatsapp for late night with sumone till 2. ex gf broke up with me at the end of november and found out she was on match a month later. now after no contact i feel like he is scared he is losing me completely and lost control of the post breakup “competition” whereas i am not competing. it’s a long distance relationship which she didnt tell me about it until i asked her out to go out for a lunch with me for valentines day. i have a feeling she is and has been seeing someone else even toward the end of our relationship. he added a ton of hot women on instagram and is openly flirting with them. and so basically after that i told him that im happy that i can move on now that i know that we probably won’t be getting back together, and i told him that everything is all good because we’re both happy, and he said “right”.• i had so many flaws within the relationship and my mistakes ruined it. kevin ,my case is very different,v were in relation from almost 4 yrs in which we were best buddies before that 4 yrs means frm last 8 yrs v knws each other,v met on orkut,i hd gf that time, i used to share evry single thing abt my relation to her,then she started falling for me,she proposed me, i said no,cz i wanted 2 be her best frnd only n i was loyal wid my that another gf,still she wanted me,so every time she used to make me feel n total 13 times she proposed me,der was sum other rsn of family issue thats why also i never wanted to mess my best frndshp,then i had to ignore her bcz of her behavior,then she got bf in college,but unable to b hapy then she msged me to she want to get rid off that guy, i helped her,till time my another gf cheated me i was so depressed,in that time,my this gf started taking care of me n i falled for her,v came in relation,it was good untill she was carefull,Frm last yr everything started messing coz she unable to give me time & love due to job n i started expecting more cz v used to meet daily,talk daily n now i was crazy for her n day by day everything was stopped,she used to fear me alott coz i slaped her & abused her when i got to know her past relations which i got to know from her fb ids n yahoo chats,i was helpless to be overreated n i apologied for that mistakes,eveytime i used to talk rudely bcz of her no love n no timing policy,last year in one fight i called her home n her dad picked up the call, her dad got to know abt our relation,they checked her mobile n saw my abusive msgs for her family, so she told everything abt me,n from that time all messed,we used to talk about marriage also but from that day she lost all hopes of marriage n everything, she started giving me very less love,still i managed to get her back,in between of this last 1 yr her parents got 2 know 3-4 times that v r in relation agn,but sumhow she managed that time n sum days i used to make her fall me agn, now from last mnth again sumthing her parents got 2 know n she started ignoring me ,i waited 6 days n asked her rsn on call many times,but every time she refused n ignored me,then on 7th day i went to ask her near her office bus stop, she saw me n started saying go or i will inform my dad,i was shocked with her behavior, she refused to talk, i was clueless i said i will do sucide if u dont talk to me,listen me lets clear but she agn n agn said to go,she even called her mom, n grabbed her cell,n pulled out its battery,ppl started staring at us so i told her lets cross the road n i started moving but till time she taken the help of vehicle & left that place & i started searching where she gone , after some 35 mins i got call from her number & she said talk with my mom,yes she informed her mom that i came to meet her to force her, her mom abused me insulted me, her mom said isnt she told u that she is getting married …i was like what ? i really don’t know if she was serious about that. after a breakup, that intimacy is gone in a matter of few days and you are left feeling empty. and do you think this is just a phase or karma that he’s going through? i wonder is if i was his rebound girl and if so, if all the steps to getting him back work. is it the fact that you still love your ex boyfriend? know it’s scary that you don’t know what your life will be without him. he will continue playing with your emotions and keep dragging you along if you let him. dont want to see her with another guy and this hurts me. we had an amazing weekend, however today he changed completely again told me it’s not fair on me that he is talking to other girls and wants to end our friendship and never see me again. he already hates me by the sound of it, i am afraid i am pushing her and him closer together with this., i don’t think knowing the reasons for his actions will give you any closure. if you feel the need, get more help on getting over a breakup (google, books, therapist). first she was angry and emotional and right away she start to dating the other guy but still talked bad about girls who might like about me. i told her that i have seen other girls (mistake? have previously also done no contact for maximum 45 days but this time i feel so bad that only after 6 days i recontacted him. he didn’t invite her to a party he went to, he hasn’t introduced her to any of his friends like he did with me straight away. he messaged me saying happy birthday and asked if i wanted a present. after all this time i think she has realized that she didn’t feel that great of connection like she might of thought. my ex emailed me the other day saying he’s trapped and his new fiancé is pregnant and she’s screwed him over and he hates his job and asking for help from the people he emailed. it’s 2 months since i have not talked to my ex, and he has not contacted me either – i know he is still meeting the girl, but not treating her as a girlfriend or something like that. he was taking me on trips, giving me gifts, being my companion and friend and when i was unhappy with my relationship he was always there.’s probably a rebound, even if he met her while you were together.- is really troubling, specially when she was treated badly by that man for years. i told him that it is now or never but he is reluctant. i know i could’ve said more or less at some points, but initially i was hoping by appearing non-threatening to his current relationship, it would be easier for me to work my way in. after dinner he, myself and his friends went to a bar for a little bit and at one point one of his friends approaches him and asks if we are getting back together. if both of them are on a rebound, the chances of relationship surviving are no more than if only one of them is on a rebound. also i have this deep urge to find out if she is actually his official girlfriend and remind him that he told me he didn’t want one of those. i’ve seen her on there multiple times in the past day, and i’m pretty sure it means her rebound is starting to fall apart. son is now 6 weeks old, and for the last 6 to 8 weeks, he has been telling e how unhappy he is, he still loves me, etc,etc,etc. for your articles they really make your reflect on things from a different perspective. because a rebound relationship is an attempt to reach the level of intimacy that only long-term relationships have. anout two weeks ago i asked him if he wanted to be in my life, if not he could get his stuff and go. we had a fight 3 weeks ago after going out on the town dancing and having sex. i just found out from him today that he’s seeing someone and was really surprised as i still think it’s so soon considering how serious our relationship was. should i just not answer her when she text when we can see next week?’his response is” go away” leaving me wanting to solve the issue or wondering what just happen. i know i will get over him one day but i don’t want to and the pain thinking about it is unbearable 🙁. it’s been a long time after the breakup and perhaps he is already over the breakup and has moved on. same pattern went on all winter break with him and we kept in touch via skype and calling and text when i went back to school and everything seemed to be going well and we were communicating a lot better. all this time since i walked away i been focusing on myself, i feel much better, i been enjoying myself and open to meeting new people, i’m taking a vacation next week and i don’t regret walking away because its my time and its about me now. nothing beats straightforward honesty, its less hassle all round and if you are both playing such games then what does that really say ? you are right, he is showing signs that he still has feelings for you. i cancelled the vacation with them and i told my ex that i was not happy with the way she handled things after the break up. but yet here she is all smiles and hearts and all these other pictures and stuff with the both of them and just of him. recently we had sex and he told me he loved me that night before it happened and again a few days later but because my schedule is so full and i never have anyone to watch my son, i cant spend time with him the with him the way that i would like to (well that was before) i recently put him in daycare however we had a conversation about a month ago and he was telling me how i just need to work on being more open or that we would always have problems and i completely understood and things were fine a few days later i wanted to talk to him and ask him about something (that i cant remember) but he mentioned that i usually asks things i should already know the answer to so i told him i wouldnt bother trying anymore because its hard to have rational conversation with him (which it is on occasion) anyway not thinking and only joking because i do like/love him a lot i said out of anger i guess that i only deal with him and his irrational attitude because his d**k is good and he responded by saying “wow,…u win” and ever since has been real distant, we made plans to hang out like a week later, he blew em off and told me its nothing and wont be nothing, i was upset so i didnt say anything for a like a week and then i hit him up several times and he didnt respond and when he eventually did he said “bitch stop writing me” and all i said was wow okay…. what makes it worse is if he does have the realisation he has made a mistake he will never admit it and will never come back thats his personality and i think thats what makes me sadder knowing he might regret it but still stay with this young girl as he would never go back 🙁. i started doin the no contact but it was short it was about 2 and a half weeks because she asked me to see her for our b- day and btw we had a very good time and she loved the gifts i got for her, after that we saw each other two more times later on in that week but idk if her relationship is a rebound because she liked this guy before we met and another thing is she said he’s a nice guy and always makes her laugh she ” loves him” now i don’t know what to do i really want to have her back and i am changing for the better cause she means so much to me. i will take the advice that i am given because whatever i am doing, is not working! i used to be happy and confident and funny when we first met then went to a dark place and thats all he sees anymore is the memory of the darkness. you are who you are, and unlike your ex, you will find someone who can appreciate that. soon as i agreed his behavior changed and he started pushing me away again. i have wanted him back this whole time and i know the reason we broke up was something that could be fixed. i’m very much in love with him & idk how life is gonna be with out him in me & my daughters life. think whether or not is he capable of doing it. i am just trying to get some advise or outlook or something from this. so my boyfriend of 3 and a half years and i broke up back in december because he found out that i had hooked up with another person when we were taking a break about 8 months prior to him finding out. he moved home in january, and than he started being distant… well, i decided to follow him one day and the girl that he was dating, showed up there to pick him up. he came back from vacation, he didn’t even explain why he didn’t text me that long…he didn’t even apologize. have been in a relationship with this girl for almost 14 months. he instead started treating me differently and would just send me general good morning quotations. i graduate this week from my school and my ex-girlfriend didn’t congratulate me so i was thinking is she mad because i didn’t answer her last text message or maybe she is moving on. i know you want him in your life, but unless he realizes he wants to commit, you can’t do anything. the problem is now he is in a new relationship after our break up (after 1 month). this was 2 weeks after bu and right at that time he met this new girl. well we stayed in contact while during that time and after a while i felt like we were kind of drifting apart and when i talked to him about it he said he wasn’t very good at staying in contact with anyone and that he didn’t want to lead me to think we we’re going to get back together. what is your take is on him telling me to move on now? during this time he has never denied me support, be it financial, familial or whatever.. now i have to be a bitch to tell him to make up his mind? he said both of them went into it not expecting anything serious, but the more they chatted the more they had in common. i told him i would text him on his birthday. i’m worried we wont talk because of this and he thinks we wont talk again until next year. promised me she wasn’t cheating, she just allowed herself to accept texts from another guy. he has slept with 2 people since then and has his eye on a girl but not in a relationship yet. i have read your 5 step plan and have been doing no contact and it’s weird it is not bothering me too terribly but i still wonder and sometimes think this is a sick test. i feel he has had a confidence boost with his new tattoo and car and wants to do better than me. she still wants me to be one of her best friends but she doesn’t want me for her boyfriend any more. does this strengthen the fact it could be a rebound? also i want to say in advance that english is not my native language. remember, this whole thing was to just try getting him back one more time. but this time, we barely text each other until the day came when we did stop talking. and my ex had an argument at the end of december, after which he disappeared and i haven’t contacted him either. im very close with his family and he told me everything just about it took a while because he dont express his feelings. knowing her, i think she is expecting that i’ll reach out to her on her b’day, as i’ve never let anything get in the way of it. feel like getting back together, albeit in a different sense where we both stand on our own feet. he seems to get all defensive when i go out and is scared i will meet someone. she said she is at someones house and she is gonna be there for the whole day. i was feeling good so i decided to call my ex and get my last stuff back (i know it’s not what you recommended).. i’m not sure whether this is a rebound or not and if i have a chance to get him back or not too? don’t think there is going to be anymore contact i’m sure that the last time she spoke to me will probably be it anyway and also i’m sure they will end up being together for long time and not have this as a rebound or something that will end in future. the best you can do is give it a try. well me and my ex were falling apart we werent tell eacher how we felt or help eacher and then i was trying to help him but he kept pushing me away for this other girl and now there dating and i really miss him and want him back but i dont want the relationship we had i want like the one when we first meet were we told each other everything and trusted each other and were happy and in love and when he didnt push me away for other people so what do i do because i think he hates me now too and he wont talk to me really and if he does its not always a good convo between us……. the next day she tagged him in a couple photos on her facebook.. i broke up with my boyfriend almost 4 years ago because i was very confused. my experience, rebounds usually end and are not meant to last. me and my ex fiance were together for nearly 10 years. ex-boyfriend of about a year broke up with me because he said he couldn’t handle being in a relationship at that time, (he has a lot of things happening in his life, a lot of sickness within the family, also being in year 12 and having end of school exams), i know we are young being 18 and in year 12, but our relationship felt mature, special and real. we had tickets to some events the following weeks which he cancelled without telling me 🙁 he stated yet more reasons – wanting more than one relationship, not wanting to settle down yet, wanting to be able to travel, not seeing us having a future together, not feeling the same way anymore, his heart not being in it anymore. he told me he would never leave me for another girl, that i was the most beautifulest and cutest girl he knows and then he says it to her. for your articles they really make your reflect on things from a different perspective. ex (22) broke up with me(25) little bit more than 2 month ago. i graduate in two months… had the ring custom made from jeweler out of colorado, and planned on asking her to marry me in september/october of this year. if not, you should try to contact him and build attraction. well i text him back saying im hungry im going out to eat and having a drink have fun have a great night. help kevin, u r the only hope now,i dont wana move on,i want to grow only with her, my age is 24 n her 23, we lives in india,today she enjoing her life allott by making me forever alone, i will never able to love agn anymore now, i will never marry any other girl, i also blocked her just for doing no contact but i dont think there is use anymore, plz be my god n help me, m ready to do every single step. we met and discussed a little for what happened, he told me that he missed me the days after our breakup but he couldn’t make the decision to call me. no contact again for another two weeks and send another text (or a letter, your call). it just means she is trying to avoid you for some reason, or perhaps she was expecting you to talk to her so she can reject you (and feel better about herself). i really want to send his mum a birthday card in a months time. i don’t have his new overseas number since we werent very friendly recently. he has been hurt in his past by past relationships where they have cheated and technically i did but i didn’t sleep with anyone. tell her you need to think about taking her back and that your talking to someone who is a nice friend. he is trying to bully and manipulate me via text. he says he loves me but he dates someone else. kk, you seem a bit obsessed (obsessively texting your bf and writing all these comments here) which is not healthy. her hand was so powerless and then we hug twice and she wished me nice summer. does she expect for a younger guy to really settle down? all your suggestions until now were very successfull 🙂 thank you so much for that! that was so heart breaking because he mentions he loves me almost every day i was there with him and when we talk and chat and he even promised me of marriages.. long story short about a week ago she moved out as she said she was confused and need space and said to me that she wanted to be alone the next day i found out this guy was staying there… i done all the opposite to what was need to be done i got angry upset, needy and begging all within a week. i asked him if he will do me a favour and meet up with me. so i was a little sad but i accepted what he wanted, and after that, we had sex… the day after that i found out that it is true that he has a new girlfriend and i asked him why did he lie to me, and why he didn’t tell me he was ready to move on, and he said it wasn’t the right time to tell me. i started the no contact but he had to come to the house to collect “his tv” . even tho his status says single and he still has my pics. however, he is always warm and open and there were times when we even talked for about an hour at a corner of the building’s third floor. however i heard from a friend that he isn’t seeing the second one anymore but they are close friends, but another friend told me they might still be together but he’s not sure. we had a great relationship and share so much history together. funnily enough i had being thinking about him and us getting back together before i found this out. even though your mind wants you to believe you didn’t, i know you did. unless you can put him before your religion, you should not get back together. ladies, i've compiled the top 10 ex dating someone else signs to watch out for., your advice has made me open up and realize alot. but i can’t really be sure if it’s a breakup since there was never actually an us. ex broke up with me because we didnt talk a lot because i was really busy and when i did i got nervous and its been 6 months i tried to get her back once he was hot for a bit and then went completely cold and say no she is dating someone else now and im pretty sure she knows i still have feelings for her and were in grade 10 and i have two classes with her and i have to sit beside her cuz my classes have a seating plan so i dont know what to do about the nc rule please help. about a week later, her older sister’s fiance’s friend from work was introduced to my ex and from what i heard from my brother who lives in that house with my ex’s sister, she has been going out with this guy like every other day, and doesn’t come home sometimes till after 2am. she had a mom who had cancer and i didn’t want my girl to go through the same prosess with me if it turned out to be cancer. that with his new gf, i noticed that he took her to rome (2013 winter) whereby in 2012 winter, i was there with him in paris. i have the strongest feeling that this is the one guy for her the one she been looking for and wanting for very long time and it happens to already be someone important and special in her life and who been there long time already. she started dating another guy (totally opposite of me ) a couple of weeks after i cut all contact. i happened to meet him on a night out and he stopped me to tell me how gorgeous i was and that was on my fb (he is not on fb so was on a friends page) he was txt after saying that i didn’t know what was going through his head. he’s sent a few horrible texts since and blamed me a few times and trying to reinforce he’s moved on but i’ve been ignoring him, no contact! reading this i know i made the right move and i’ll stick to it. i had been working on me always looking happy when i see him and now this. later on at around 9 he was at his families house and he called again and broke the news to me that he is going through what i’m going through right now. behaviour is crazy what is he playing at he was always into doing things with our kids, im just going with the flow but im confused by all this could seeing baby have made him question what he wants and ive basically put a wall up to protect me as ive changed more confident not stressed happy etc. great read, i am a bit upset at the moment and very confused as i have just found out my ex (still married) husband has now moved on about 2 months with another woman who is my complete opposite from the sounds of it. my virginity & i had his first baby, so i didn’t understand why he was doing this to us. i ended my new relationship and thought that my ex and i were going to work things out. in another conversation recently, he asked if i was seeing anyone. it is the most worst shock or punishment god must have given me for entering the no contact period. he also seems like he is going out of his way to rub this new relationship in my face (which frankly is really immature or a cry for attention) i know and everyone is assuring me that it is a rebound relationship. anyway 20mins later he said “right what we r going to do today is u get ready we go out for lunch and go buy baby camera monitor and baby stuff” i just agreed i was already ready so we went out to lunch to place we used to always go to, had a fun day laughing and joking being a normal family acting the way we always did. ex (22) broke up with me(25) little bit more than 2 month ago. boyfriend of 8 months broke up with me stating that he didn’t want a relationship right now and didn’t want a committment. but shall i text him once i feel great or is it a bad idea? he’s always had eyes for other girls and that’s caused trust issues for us. i have been contact with my ex few times after that and every single time she cries.’s been pretty hard for me with my ex, i left him back in december and found out i was pregnant with our second child, but even before that i still had feelings for him and i know he did too, well i tried to get our relationship back and everything seemed to be going good but then he started acting weird and not replying to my text messages as much. says she needs to focus on her career and her social life, as one of our biggest problems was not spending enough time with friends. the longer they’ve been in the new relationship, the less likely it is to be a rebound. anout two weeks ago i asked him if he wanted to be in my life, if not he could get his stuff and go. is my question though… how do i know if he is still thinking about me and that makes him doubt his rs or if he is just looking for a companion while he is going through this possible break up and only using me till he finds someone else? guess my question is, is there ever any hope for me? i burst into tears … i didn’t know why he was saying this if he didn’t want to worth through things , i didn’t respond all day the text came in the morning . the problem is that she broke up with me after this three months. the fact the break up happened so suddenly for me, and the attachment to the daughter make it difficult ? it was a lot of fun, but i kept my distance and suddenly he was very flirtatious, talking about our sexlife and how great i looked and so on. if you decide to move on, it’s worth giving him an ultimatum before doing that. he would also tell me things like i was different and he never had a relationship like this before. you want to find out your chances of getting your ex back? saw couple of times after this and everything was fine. we are still friends in facebook so maybe one day when i hopefully get beautiful girlfriend she thinks me. that with me she was not really happy and not care really compared to her being with her friend of her new man now who she would do anything for because she is truly happy with him and cares a lot about him. and my ex girlfriend were dating for 6 years before she broke up with me 2 weeks ago because of parents putting too much pressure on her. my reasons for thinking so is that we took time to develop our feelings for one another (that first month) and took things slowly, we had our problems but were very close. if you decide to comment read the comment guidelines before commenting. she tells him “if you leave or cheat on me i’ll cut you” and also “if you leave i kno where to find you and i will hunt you down. he is afraid if you think he has moved on, you might also try to move on. i think you should apply nc even with his texts (it’ll most likely have him thinking, especially if he regularly texts you “good morning” or “good night”). i feel that if he was really into her he wouldn’t be talking to me like that but then in the last few days she posted a love song for him on fb + some other sweet things. i don’t know if its a rebound relationship with her new guy, or what the deal is there. perhaps he was already dissatisfied and it had been on his mind for some time to breakup.? what if her mom was right that she is marrying but if its true why she will put such status on whatsapp? we begin, did you read my step by step guide on how to get your ex boyfriend back? i do think you will be able to make a better decision if you go through the no contact rule for 30 days. jan 19 when we went out, that’s the time his interest in me was really obvious. he’s now holding this against me, he says he can’t trust me. when we were together we would have so much fun and everything would be great, the second we weren’t together and he would text or call me he became mean and said he didnt feel anything. then just over 3 months ago he met this 19 year old girl ( he’s 27) and has been seeing her exclusive for 3 months they even did a 2 week trip to new zealand together… my question is should i be worried that this relationship is serious?.please please please tell me what is the right thing to do now …i ll try my best to stick to it. but then today a day after his dad told him he is text me asking how my eye is and what happened etc when i told him he text saying ffs and then asked if my boiler was fixed as it went on blink. the problem is now he is in a new relationship after our break up (after 1 month). as in she’s not even romantic with him and she don’t like kissing. let him know you need space and time and you will only be talking to him regarding the baby and nothing else. however, in 2006 ( when we were 16) during the school holidays, it was very difficult to reach him as he was always away due to his chess tournaments but i found out that he initiated flirting with my good friend who is very much prettier than me and he even asked her out for a date. she also said that she doesn’t feel anything for me but then contradicted herself by saying that she has been afraid to do anything with this guy because she still cares for me a lot and has a lot respect for me. forward 2 weeks and i text him after really thinking about what couldve been wrong and apologized and he told me that there are a lot of bitches that like wtf did i think and i said im sure there are but is the chemistry the same, he said better. i don’t know if she will ever contact me again or not. she would not answer my call or text messages on the day she sent the email. i wish it was easier to control my emotions , but it really does hurt that barely 3 weeks after we break up he is seeing someone else, when he told me he wasn’t apposed to eventually trying to work things out, but that the way things have been going we needed to break things off right now so we don’t resent each other . the fact she might compromise in a conventional relationship-can she? 4 minutes later “why do you not say “with my friend xyz” like it’s a ridiculous pet peeve but saying with a friend seems cold and distant. i am using this experience as an opportunity for growth and to change myself so i only have healthy relationships from here on. my friends tell me that she is a rebound and i’m confused. even if he does talk to you again, he’ll continue playing with your feelings. so the next time he calls to confess his love, don’t give him the satisfaction of letting him know that you still want him. apparently, due to our closeness, we know we both had feelings for each other but the problem is that no one between us dared to open about it. now almost a week after this fake break i tell her we should take a real break after seeing this website. i think the only way to find out is wait. or do i still have a chance given the history we have? i have not been suicidal but i sought out help for my internal battles and i pray if you ever feel that urge again, you do the same. his whole family are on my side and he is giving not just me and kids up but them as well…. i guess within the first month of this fling i guess you’d say, he has met the family, pretty sure she has met his, and she just seems really over me. but it seems strange to start a relationship almost immediately long distance. keep it short my ex and i were together and living together for 5 yrs. he could just simply reject me if he didnt want me. you have to decide if he doesn’t want to try to win you back, do you want to pursue him? she probably did love you and she still probably misses you sometimes. anyway during the fight he gave me bak my house keys and said erase him from my life. just get back in touch and let it be his idea to get back together. he said that it’s almost the same for him, that he feels anxious next to me but thought that it could be funny to maintain a cool relationship. he is not prepared to stop chatting to this girl. he became interested in someone else before leaving then ended up seeing her ( he says they are only friends who sleep together) and has been seeing her for almost 3 months at least. the guys with whom she is chatting is grabbing her from me, i can see that she is not sleeping also for chatting which never happened with me before,if its true, how she will miss me ? i heard that my ex’s courting someone for about 2 months. i want you to think really hard during this no contact period if you really want to be with him. (our friendship and relationship combined lasted for a little over 2 years) he fought for me for over a year, we were close friends and initially i didn’t feel for him they way he wanted me to, he told me he loved me before we started dating, he told me how much he wanted to be with me and once he even cried literally on my shoulder about it! you have to decide if he doesn’t want to try to win you back, do you want to pursue him? then i think: “i am turning him on and then he probably feels the urge to go see his gf”. my ex went for his tattoo monday and i was booked in tuesday. apologies i meant not making eye contact while we were talking but looking elsewhere and smiling. he also invited me to go spend time with his family the next day but then took it back because he didn’t want his family to ask a billion questions about why he’s hanging around me again so soon which is understandable.” so, you can see where the confusion is coming from right? if his new girlfriend doesn’t let him talk to you? this a rebound and if so how should i pursue it as i think in the last week i have made this situation worse by the how i have treated her. at first i would look past the distancing, but then i started getting frustrated and we would start fighting. you, i did end up sleeping with him 🙁 i know i shouldn’t have, would i still be able to do everything you said but if he tries again to stand firm and say no? he tried to visit me at home, bring flowers, letters etc. mutual friends have severed their ties to this man, get an untrustworthy feeling from him or understand him to be a jerk. ) then she started using whatsapp(yes i never let her to use whatsapp coz in fb only lots of ppl started proposing her, i always stayed away her from males bcz i never wanted to loose her anyhow, her past only used to force me to do all things but i never failed in giving love which is most imp), i somehow managed to get her new number of whatsapp & she was shocked by seeing that i got her new number also of whatsapp . i have seen a lot of egoistic people admit their mistake when they are unhappy and/or are in pain. he loved me that much, then why is it taking so long for him to break up with her? i and my ex broke up couple of weeks ago and i still don’t know the reason for that. it’s the most popular article on this website and i have seen this plan work time and time again. so i think i’ll apply the no contact rule, but what do you think about this other relationship? situation is such that few years back i was in a abusive alcholic relation and so one day i decided to put my foot down and enter a no contact period till he could respect me but sadly the worst happened..he has text again asking how my eye is today and if heating is fixed..but i dont know whether he is new bf or her upcoming husband,she is not keeping any status but used to change dp with happy faces, i cries every single day, i pray for her ,i am still crying while writing,i have no single frnd in my life cz i was so envolved in her, she was my day n night,she was my everything, its killing me that how she forgotten me easily,its all about 8 yrs she is everywhere for me,One incident also happnd that she used my route & by bus to go one station which was very weird,coz route to go stn was different in her ares but still choosen my bus which goes from my home road. i went over our place to talk and he told that he is still confused and he though he wants to he can’t try at this point to be with me with all his power, that he is not ready yet. now, you should have a pretty good idea about what to do and how to get your ex boyfriend back. plus all the the signs that your ex is suppose to show to determine if they are or not in rebound.. i don’t know if shes a rebound and if he’ll come crawling back or what. i just want to know if this is a rebound. we have could be perfect couple together if i have known all the things i know now that’s why it hurts much. i don’t want to be pushy if he honestly does not want to get back. we had a serious relationship where he met my family and i met some of his. i usually recommend people to give themselves a time limit, in most cases, 2-3 months, if things don’t work out by then, you should just move on.. he loved me coz im totally different from the girls he dated before and im really good to him. posted before but now im really confused, my ex broke up with me about 3 month ago, we were together 10 years we have been in regular contact until last week when i decided to go nc i knew she had been seeing another guy and i think that’s why i was dumped but reading on here he could of been her back up plan before we finished, she kept lying about him all the time then last thursday she sent a text telling me she was now seeing him , but a month ago she said he was a rebound a bit of fun , now her saying that makes me think its serious between them last sunday after spending the day with her which she organised , holding my hand kissing me etc he text and she said i have to see him to sort my feelings out, she spent the night at his, i was heartbroken i think she is in love with this guy and after reading on this site its like she hasn’t been emotionally involved for months but on the other hand dumpers in rebounds think there in love but this guy has been around to pick her up when we were going wrong , she sent a snapchat on friday then i had caller id withheld calls on my phone on sunday which she used to do if we fell out could be coincidence but that has never happened before im trying not to panic i have been no contact for a week but god i miss her so much even after how horrible she has been but im in panic mode , how can she stop loving me , how can she forget me , how can she move on , etc etc etc but this site says if she waited 3 months or more to move on she admitted seeing him after 3 months but has been seeing him longer , and this guy is the total opposite (more confusion) real player not nice to women multiple partners etc etc ,but she says he is gorgeous and in her text she said i was good looking great sense of humour ,big heart which i think is a ego boost for her cos why leave if im all that anyway im so hurt and confused some good feedback would be excellent cos im at rock bottom. am not sure whether you are still active on this site and reply to comments soon but i shall be waiting for your reply soon as after reading your section i think you can help. i think for you, it’s more about closing that chapter of your life rather than trying to get him back. i believe its something in between a rebound and a serious relationship partly because i think she may be expecting more than he is likely willing to give, she has a young child and i know my husband does not want to father anyone elses kids, also she is around half his age. i assumed that he was going to take me home before we went out with them but he asked me to go with him and apparently he had already told his friends that he was with me. it could be a midlife crisis or it could just be that he is just enjoying the honeymoon phase of his relationship and when things get sour, he will realize what he left. perhaps, he is really interested in his new girlfriend and he really wants his new relationship to work. decided that we can see other people if we want, she told me about one guy who has spoken for her and she asked is it okay for me, i didn’t take him as a threat. just because his social media profile shows he is happy doesn’t necessarily mean he is happy. he said he started feeling this way at the same time he started helping his housemate. i think there is still hope and he probably still has feelings for you. i decided to stop contacting him because our talks were confusing, one minute he said “you are my best friend” or “i love you” and the next minute he was saying that he still needed space and to be on his own. 4 months where she was dating both of us without the other knowing. she also had an ex of 5 years before me that she jumped from him immediately to me. i did nothing bad as gf at all and all i get is get dumped for some bizzare reason. maybe that was another rebound relationship but it turns out that t worked perfectly because it’s been two years now and he is still with her, knowing her parents, living with her in the same house, and all that serious stuff. it was as if the undeniability was a coping mechanism for me at the time to heal after the hurt that had been caused. then last friday i text asking to buy a cable off him and he ignored it, i text back saying i am just being friendly. and that involves following the 5 step plan listed here with a few adjustments that i mention below. i’ve been changing however for us, but yes it did seem like she gave up “fell out of love” this new guy is 23. i went 2 months nc after my gf broken up with me over a rubbish excuse. my ex was sad because she didn’t got what she wanted from me and she felt outsider in my life. your ex knows that you are checking their facebook and if they are constantly posting picture with their rebound then it’s a sign that they are in a rebound. one month ago i saw her eyes that she was sad and cried and she wished nice summer but after that she have been very cold. he always does this when he is angry/upset (even with friends) so i knew i would have to wait a couple of weeks for him to be back. i don’t know if he is looking for a rebound or just trying to get over me. even months down the road she would hit me randomly saying she misses me a lot and thinks of me a lot and misses us and what we had. i’ve had a couple of casual text conversations with her since so she’s not ignoring me. if so, then you must know there’s no way you can know for sure if her relationship is really perfect or it has some major flaws. i freaked out after i found out he was dating someone else within a week after we took a break. post: get your ex back after you cheated (even if you don’t deserve it). she clearly posted this message for her ex to see. even though the sex is great, she is still not at peace with herself. read the articles and i can say i probably made every mistake mention. she is cold towards you, you should do no contact for a while and let her initial honeymoon period get over. i said “i wish i could meet you once and explain everything to you. we talk she tells me she misses me an she doesn’t want to get back right now i just wanna know if she’s in a rebound or what cuz it’s hurting me inside an i wanna move on. my ex asked about this girl when we met after break up. she doesn’t know he has been seeing me also and is in love with him and i’m afraid he will become her boyfriend just because it’s the easiest and he then doesn’t have to take a look at himself. i know you recommend trying again within a few weeks but honestly i doubt i want to go through this again. so then i asked him “what do i do” he told me “just be patient” i had told him before that i will give him his time and that i don’t mind waiting for him but i don’t him to change his mind and stay with her. i know there’s a lot of hurt and internal conflict and misery here and my recent heartbreak certainly feels insignificant to many of these stories. (our friendship and relationship combined lasted for a little over 2 years) he fought for me for over a year, we were close friends and initially i didn’t feel for him they way he wanted me to, he told me he loved me before we started dating, he told me how much he wanted to be with me and once he even cried literally on my shoulder about it! his exact words were “i think it’s just the pregnancy. in between i saw some birthday pictures of him with his friend dancing and that friend is whom he went holidays with on his friend’s facebook. he thought that i hated him and i told him i didn’t i just wanted him to grow up and make up his mind, he flat out told me that he wants to date other people, i asked him if he was choosing her over me, he replied yes and i replied “ok good”. am furious and upset that he has had this other woman around my kids. this time, concentrate more on yourself and do things to make yourself feel better. if you try to break them up, they try harder to make it work. i’m happy with staying friends or dating again i just need to know so i can move forward. ex and i dated for a few months and became really close. i am still madly in love with him and i probably messed up on all of your steps because i seem like a crazy needy ex now. and i am just wondering if he still loves me and has feelings for me and misses me? i know his feelings are still there as i can see he is clinging on to me so much and i notice he puts up weird status’ now telling everyone he is super strong etc. kevin,me and ex have been together for 2 years and a couple of months. may-june i saw him adding a guy on his facebook.” that clearly means he’s seeing someone else but it’s not on facebook. but i have been doing well on not texting him unless it’s about our daughter. and this guy have been “talking” for 2 years and have dealt with a lot of communication issues that we’ve gotten past as well as at some points there was bad timing on my part.• tonight, i found out that he started going out with the girl he went on a discrete date with officially. so my parents tell me to just give up because this is the second time she broke up and if we get back together the 3rd time will also come. her best friend (girl) who is also a friend of mine and she told me that it is probably not true that she likes her other ex. but i am done now – this is a degree of disrespect i couldn’t even imagine and who knows what else i don’t know yet. ask for my stuff and to tell him he had a week to contact me about his otherwise i’d take it to mean bin it all. he tried to come see me where i go out, but i kept my distance.• i had so many flaws within the relationship and my mistakes ruined it. from this page of rules to that page of rules and back and forward. so the new guy i’m talking to keeps telling me that my ex is messaging him so i went to my ex’s work with the intention of giving him the chance to tell me whats going on before i blocked him. nothing new with the new girl, still no new signs of her on fb, still not showing up with her at events/meeting his friends etc. at the end of this term he became really close to a housemate who recently lost a relative, her boyfriend of 3 years wasn’t treating her right either so he helped her through her break up with him.” i know i shouldn’t called to her and i thought what i should to text so just think something not so serious. diversion tactics highly manipulative narcissists, sociopaths and psychopaths use to silence you. and yeah since they’ve broke up we’ve been hanging out, going out always… and he is the one who would always ask me out always. he said he loves me- but isn’t in love with me, and he wishes that he felt so strongly about me but doesn’t. even if he doesn’t contact him after two months using texts mentioned in this article. she is proving day by day she don’t want me but i don’t wanaa loose her, i want to show her i have changed n i wanaa give her every piece of happiness , please help what should i do ! he feels like he doesn’t have a reason that justifies breaking things off with her because i’ve had multiple chances and she hasn’t had the chance to try, but then he throws me through loos saying that he stills feels there’s something there with me and that he’s still attracted to me, but is now in a sticky and doesn’t know which is the right choice. the thing is, you said let his new relationship play out and then contact him but he still has half his life around mine. so confused as none of that was about kids and this comes from man who acts like he hates me to his parents im so confused could this be him trying to come back, could the grass not be greener with the girl who is 14yrs younger.. i don’t know why randomly he just stopped talking to me texting me. if he decides that he doesn’t want commit, you should cut contact with him and move on. but after that later she responded with longer message saying she decided it not healthy for her to e with me to much damage done to deal with and she been through this before but she thought it was different and she has moved on from it. for that year, we were not greatly in love , i still missed him though we were in the relationship and he felt the same, it went on and he was busy with his tournaments and again when his ex girl came into the picture he left me broken..And i remembered what my ex told me that he would give his resignation letter and he wont see her anymore. i listened and didn’t say much other than him getting the rest of his stuff from my apartment (we had lived together). i don’t know if i am just making excuses for him or if he is doing this to move on. we got along so well otherwise, made each other laugh hysterically and were very physical. i like the idea of you wowing him better than telling him over texts. no contact period is almost over but i fear i have made an awful mistake. your mind is trying to find something to be obsessed about. i have fought for him but given up and decided on making a friendship to get him to remember how we are together its just extremely difficult with a daughter and another girl maybe coming in the picture x. week i visited my ex (after 8 months) and he looked great! i blew up in the follow-up text messages and i probably will regret that but i am human and still in love with her. my mum said from day 1 that he will be back after his holiday. also, understand that even though your behavior wasn’t needy, the act of going to his house just so you don’t lose him was somewhat needy. i paid every single cents he spent on me since he is not working there and i do not feel right to use his money. i feel like he doesn’t want to be with me yet he doesn’t want me to be with anyone else. if you try to get him back, he will always have it at the back of his mind that he never got the chance to explore his options. 5 days ago i get a text from saying not to send things because her mother got into it with her. said if i act like this she will not talk to me. thanks for all the help and the emails each day they really have helped me through this tough time. but can i ask what should i do now knowing that he is into someone this new girl. and no, this is not just what she has told me. what i didn’t understand is his need for having to communicate that with me when he told me that he dont love me anymore. he said he loves me- but isn’t in love with me, and he wishes that he felt so strongly about me but doesn’t. he has said he is staying until he has money to get a rental flat then hes out. and so to forget about me, she started dating someone. kevin, im going to try to make this as short as possible. she told me so many times that she loves me with her whole heart and never felt this way about anyone and i would have to be the one to leave her cause she could never even think about it. me and my ex broke up almost 4 years ago and and he has “moved on” he tells me i also have a bf but he just got in contact with my sister and asked for me and then he asked to talked to me with the excuse of trying to help me move on he said he told his new gf of 1 year and 6 months that he wanted to talk to me and help me. time i see his face i fall in love again. i and my girlfriend were together almost three and half years and i was her first boyfriend. and then i asked him why would he choose a new girl over a girl that has stuck by his side for the longest, and he said that she respects him, i said i always respected him, and he said no i didn’t, and i told him that he didn’t always respect me either, and he told me that i was right. knowing her, i think she is expecting that i’ll reach out to her on her b’day, as i’ve never let anything get in the way of it. which left me to continue to message through via fb trying to apologize and figure out why he would just block me and get angry over a mistake of a text. he did not sit and discuss with me his plans., you can contact him after another couple of weeks, but if you don’t feel like going through it again, then you definitely shouldn’t contact him. after a while i agreed to her decision and we texted for a while and i wished her a beautiful life with him and so we agreed to stay friends but not close however she told me not to worry that she will not post anything on facebook regarding her new relationship because she is protecting my reputation and respect as well as hers. we haven’t talked for 3 years since 2012 so we were really just excited talking to each other again. the basis of the conversation went like this (sorry it’s going to be a bit of a read):Me: i’m not here to pull a beth, just so you know. sad thing is i know i was with a boy because he ran instead of communicating back to me. example, suppose your ex always says he/she wants someone with a career goal. but also said that he needed time for himself, yet, he spends all of it with her… i still love him, and want to be with him, but it feels like he is purposely trying to show me that he is moving on, that he doesn’t care about me anymore, or that he doesn’t miss me, doesn’t love me and that he is perfectly ok without me…. if that is the path that you felt driven towards, you really should get help to find out why you have such issues within yourself. and he feels like he can just walk in and out my life anytime because he knows ill always be their my “friends” tell me im dumb and he isnt going to change. we were anyways planning to break up in a month due to distance., just advice me if he messages me in this no contact period, should i answer him…i dont want to loose him ever…., my ex and i met on an online dating site a few months ago and through our emails, pictures and skype we got extremely close- he was very helpful and comforting when my mother passed away and we made plans to meet when i made my trip to the states, we spent a week together and had an amazing time, and once i returned i brought up my decision to move there permanently (it has been on my mind for a year before i met him) and he went from initially asking me to move in with him to it declining to the point where he said he may not even meet me at the airport- we agreed to be non exclusive to avoid excessive pressure though we still like each other, until a few days before my big move when he messages me out of the blue and asks me to never message or speak to him again. i asked to have lunch with me and i was polite and friendly and said that it was good thing that we broke up because i wasn’t best boyfriend but i also said that i was a little disappointed what he did but i wasn’t too sad about it. from moving the rebound relationship too fast, another common behavior that rebound relationships have is choosing someone they’d not go for normally. if he doesn’t then continue building attraction with him and then ask him if he wants to get back together. at the very start of our relationship (he was 29 – i am 5 years older) he needed space and went to therapy – one of the issues was he needed closure from his ex. he said i cant help him achieve his dreams and then we resolved the issue and we were working on coming back together till he found out there were 2 guys who i was friends with. he works with one of my good friends and he has told her that he has no clue why im ignoring him that he hopes im ok because i have health issues and he really concerned, he also said that he’s really hurt of me disappearing that way i did and that he really misses me a lot to the point he cant get me out of his head and that he has feelings for me. is your ex for a reason, and for that reason or any other, you two are not compatible, at least not at this point in time. here is what not to do when your ex starts dating someone else. i was in my friends car so my ex couldn’t hear me..no contact isnt an option because of kids and pregnancy as well as house. anyways sorry for the long message i am just so confused with his actions and needed to express them. could you please advise what should i do next in order to get him back? and the reason why is that her boyfriend started talking to her again. break up was rough till my dad sent him a harsh message and his anger on me increased. and if he doesn’t commit even at that time, you should move on. said if i act like this she will not talk to me. i am 30 but i have never been in a situation like this before. the only thing that i can guarantee you is that you did mean a great deal to her. he is a very honest person and said he started having feelings for someone else, but that he still loved me but it seemed like it was no longer “in love”, but then he explains that it’s possible to love to people and describes are love as a garden with many plants and what he feels for this new girl as a single planted seed. confusing fact, is that she still has me on her social media as “important life event”, despite the fact she s living and possibly is together with her x husband. during this period (3 months) we stayed in contact, but it was no longer intimate/ relationship like – he would just tell me how much he loved me whilst i would encourage him to move on with his life. she already went to visit the guy in another country. all of this was just as blindsiding as the breakup. had a wonderful time with my ex mom 🙂 my ex is still asking if i still come to visit, or talk to her etc… and hes still with his bad influence single mother gf, i just want to put this out there. i ended up meeting that person in the afternoon and we had a few drinks and watched a film at his house. i have been reading your emails and have been no contact since our last visit. done everything wrong, i really wish i had read your article a month ago. i started the no contact but he had to come to the house to collect “his tv” . he came back sunday very tired and seemed hungover (he did say hes been drinking a bit) again i expected to sleep whilst he spent time with kids..all this kept happeneing for almost 1 year……few days back i requested him to help me buy something and he agreed reluctantly…i was happy that we were meeting after one year,,and then the worst happened. don’t contact him unless you realize you can be happy in your life without him. husband and i have a 20 plus year relationship consisting of being best friends (with benefits), having a child, becoming a formal couple then married (9 years total/ 6 married). he was here i asked if he wanted to take his stuff and he said no he will get them another time and now he doesn’t want nothing to do with me. but i know that it’s over there’s nothing i can’t do but usually i think that everything is possible and i’m not a person who gives up but i have done so many mistakes in relationship and after that. i didn’t contact him since and he text me yesterday on my birthday telling me that he thinks about me all the time and that he is sorry for everything.. keep telling yourself the relationship didn’t mean anything to her and you were just a plaything for her. ex and i were attracted to each other from the first moments we met. it usually doesn’t have anything to do with how perfect their rebound is for them. he knows it’s a mistake but it’s a chance he wants to take! when i questioned this new girl he told me nothing was going on. if i had to guess, she loves you more in a romantic way while her ex is more of a “father of her child” sort of love.. my ex bf ask me if i could get him any job there so he could come with me he planned to get us wed before i leave even before, i heard from his mom that for 2 weeks he was pissed off cant think clearly, he started to hang out with his officemates that are bad for him, drinking alot going to bars (which he doesn’t like ) . i stopped contacting him because he’d told me that it’s hard to leave his girlfriend. i was thinking about sending her a quick message on there if i see her profile go back into full status. i came to this uni so we could be together as well. he’s from another town and is apparently pretty poplular. thanks for all the help and the emails each day they really have helped me through this tough time. i went to his house and asked him if she was the reason everything went sour for us and he said no, that they recently had crossed paths. he said no he was dating people but nothing serious. this time, when you ask him to meet, just say you want to catch up, instead of saying “talk about things”. for my english it’s not my native language and thanks your sites are very helpful. this all came out over christmas and i opened up about my past etc. is trying to rub it in your face that she has a boyfriend. i would blow his phone us constantly & he would just ignore me all night & day. i cancelled the vacation with them and i told my ex that i was not happy with the way she handled things after the break up.’s hard to tell what’s causing this confused behavior.

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Is Your Ex In a Rebound Relationship? Find Out With These Telltale

would she want to after all this time i’m sure that she would have gotten completely over me by now or if not she hasn’t way before. also he got kids on sunday was meant to spend full day with them instead showed up at his mums house 12. but every year just when i think yep im good and he is nowhere on my mind he will text me. he would tell me he wanted a future with me, but he is incapable of a relationship right now. although at the beginning of the relationship i went to uni and flirted with guys and kissed a girl. its like a jekyl and hyde as how he texts me to how angry he seems to his parents hia dad just cant believe its the same person. if he decides that he doesn’t want commit, you should cut contact with him and move on. and in the same day he texted if i was mad at him, he sent selfie videos of himself to a group chat with me and our best friend of songs that the three of us would sing together. make sure you read the checklist at the beginning of step 4 in the 5 step plan before ending no contact. he still has stuff at mine, after nearly 9 years, there is a lot! have wrote a letter i plan to give her witch explains the real reason for the breakup and my love for her. is there by any chance this new relationship of his could be an example of a rebound?. the thing is… i sometimes feel that he gets excited talking to me, even “turned on” when we talk about stuff. it felt like she is trying to show me that she is doing better. and i told him how it was wrong how he keeps having sex with me and he’s dating her. if he doesn’t reply, wait another month and try again. my ex and i were together for about 6-7 months when we broke up because i was going back to school 12 hours away and he didn’t want to do a long distance relationship. now, my question is: do i mention his gf/relationship at all or shall i just enjoy our time together? i guess i shouldn’t reply now for a few days… i am trying to re-build attraction not to be his text buddy. someone who will care about you and treat you the way you deserve to be treated. he said like he wanted us to but he said if we can get along until then and not argue. after schooling days, he stopped on all his medication as it was damaging his kidney and we were still meeting each other. im just hoping he is starting to miss us and what we had as baby is due in 8weeks time and the other kids are missing him so much. me and my friends got a ride home from a guy that my ex doesn’t like. this is a rebound and probably won’t last right? made the mistake of keeping in contact with him throughout his entire relationship with her, that lasted about 3 months. well no surprise as soon as i say ok and he talks me into it. did not know whether it is a rebound relationship (hopefully it is! it’s been two weeks i haven’t spoken to him and it’s my birthday this week. i don’t know if him and this girl are still together i’m afraid to ask. if it’s because of his family, then there’s nothing you can do about it unless he decides to go against his family and be with you. i am afraid that maybe it will push him closer to her because he is upset about me not talking to him anymore. we left each other at the station after he finished work and i got home..so this time i just want to remain silent n let my silence speak……bt what if he finds my absence a reason anough to get irritated and decide to leave me forever …it is all so heart breaking kevin…i really want to talk to him and tell him that i love him immensely and am waiting for him to come back, want to show him that i am the one who he can count on anytime as i shall always be there to hold him, so when he messages and i stop myself from replying i dont like doing this to him……can i make the no contact little less than 4 months and make it like two months……. i know his feelings are still there as i can see he is clinging on to me so much and i notice he puts up weird status’ now telling everyone he is super strong etc. you think there is a lot of hope now the true reason for leaving me has come out? if he wishes you, just give him a simple thank you. i mean i want him back but then i don’t know because this situation really hurts and i don’t know what goes on in a man’s head i’m just still a little confused. he would tell me he was dating other girls and one time he offered to give me another chance but i didn’t respond. took me to is family on his brother wedding day . does this mean that my current ex just easily cut me out of her life to just easily and quickly with no hesitation replace me with her new boyfriend her friend? correspond with you almost a year ago about my ex-boyfriend. months later he told me that he’s always i loved but couldn’t tell me because i had a boyfriend. was dating this lovely woman for a year and half, all around great honeymoon to foundation stages of a relationship. if you haven’t read the main 5 step plan to get your ex back, then you should. this year, 2014, he still wants to meet up with me. weekend we skyped for a few hours and everything was ok, he even asked me to come visit him next month and that he would take me camping. when i cut him out of my life something is missing, he pushes me to be a better person, and i hate not having my best friend. he thinks that we’re “too different” and stuff to make it work. now she seems like a cold person and acts like she is over me. i am in total shock because this is a man i have waited for, for 4 years. we also took a break to focus on some personal issues (work, life, etc). we are still friends in facebook so maybe one day when i hopefully get beautiful girlfriend she thinks me.’s truly a gut wrenching feeling to think of your ex with someone else, especially if you are still in love with them and want to get them back. yes, there is a chance that he might forget about you, but it’s a chance you have to take. i don’t know how serious it is, or how long its been going on. if she texts you during these two weeks, you can reply to her but keep it short. a month ago i heard hat he was dating a lady that he had dated in the past. as for them being the same person, like i said before, it doesn’t necessarily mean their relationship is perfect and doesn’t have any issues. he is probably confused about what he wants in life and you should not try to pressure him into something right now. i am worried he is only focused on the bad parts of our relationship and is ignoring all the wonderful times we had and how great we were as a couple. he begged me for my forgiveness & promised to be the man i need & want. when we talked i explained to him why i did it and how it was innocent it was just a ride home, and he told me how i disrespected him, and he told me that we were going to get back together but just not right now, he said he needed time to get his mind right. i told him about someone who had offered to set me up and he said i should go on the date. the reason was over texting to much and due to me assuming and being insecure or questioning things. my daughter said she felt put out when he just threw her in their face as well 🙁 he and his daughter had always been close, but she is disgusted in his behaviour. have since learned that she asked a friend of mine if she should tell me about the engagement before i heard it from someone else. please kevin i have waited almost a year now in hope but that that day seeing him with another was sooo painful that i almost lost my mind and hope but please please please my love was and is tooooo true and i know i still want to love him forever. and next month is my birthday, should i ask him out as the first text message of the reconnection? but i really think you should apply no contact for at least 3-4 months and think if you really see a future with him. he looked skinny and i asked if he even eats and he said sometimes. then how do i go about talking to him if he just keeps avoiding me and i can’t get through a friend. you are confident enough, you can bring up the topic of getting back together yourself. been in nc now for around 3 weeks, but i miss her and obviously her daughter who for 1. i dont know if this is a rebound relationship or something else. a few days later, while still debating on calling him, he texted me again, emphasizing that he has contacted me twice. i have little feeling that maybe she cries also because that she is with that other guy and she feels sorry for me. ex fiance got married two weeks after breaking off the engagement we have been togother for more then two years we had our problem. i have 10x more respect for my ex after what he did. i really don’t know if she was serious about that. without any signals, he decided to let me know that he is confused about us since he wants to just stay in london and not come back and get a ob there and since i am financially weak and will not be able to come there, he thinks its better to just call it of. he replied and he admitted of having sex with a girl whom i do not who she was till today and that how fun it was but he also told me that he felt guilty and will never do it with another person. kind of stupid because today i sent him around 7 long messages telling him that i was hurt that he got her along that day and that i would have never done that to him…i also told him that i know that he has moved on and i am going to try my best to noot rply to any message and my silence shall speak of my pain…n blah blah…i am not sure if he must have read all messages but i still sent. we being indians and he coming from a rich family, it meant so much for me and he even mentioned to his friends gf that he made mistakes before and she is the one whom i will be likely marrying with. i thought of talking to him at the first opportunity even if he does not want to hear. the next day he posted a pic of them kissing. but i don’t know if i should expect him to talk to me again or not. we still kept talking for a few weeks after and i confronted him about going to this concert with that grl he was talking to. i know now that i can be the great girlfriend that he always wanted and is hoping to get out of this new girl, and it kills me to see that this is going to happen. it was obvious he did because he took me out at the end of may for my bday and even kissed me and showed he cared. do you really think that he will be happier with you than he is with his new girlfriend? if it doesn’t work, you can close this chapter and try to move on. do you think there is a chance of us being together again or i should just try to move on with my life cause she was everything to me and i really want us to be back together again. the best thing to do in this case scenario is to move on. am ready to do no contact rule but since my case is very different . he lives up country but come to visit and stays. in september i sent my ex roses because we would have had our 5 year anniversary and my ex was very happy about that (even though his new partner hated it).. he told me 2 weeks ago that he still misses me thinks of me and it’s hard on him still and he is not over me.” he said ” you never know when she will be around and the s%#t would hit the fan if i called or text when she was around . however, you can have a talk with him before doing so telling him that you think this is best course of action right now since you feel disrespected by the fact that he is with the other women at the same time he is with you. did nc and he called and emailed me on the 21 day, he said he got worried, i responded as saying i am ok after two days through email, we started emailing again but the issue on us was not resolved, now he posted his new girl on his facebook, i dont know if its rebound or what, can i go no contact again? years on the other hand he has we broke up 2 years into our relationship when i was 20 i stayed harted broken but eventually got over it had fun stop talking to him because he had someone else march of 2012 we started talking again we feel back in love and gave it another try we been togathet 2 years know so in december he got a new job who payed him nice we were happy planing a trip being happy i would do everything for this man cook him lunch wash his clothes i would wake up a 2 in the morning to help get ready for work around february he started to push me away he told he was hanging around friends so i thought not much about it but he would always want be around them so i got mad and had a few arguments with him but then february 17 he brook up with me he told he need space so i applyed the nc rule but failed when he called me 3 days later he asked if i could cook for him for work so like a dummy i did because i really loved him we talk and we kept the cycle like this tell saturday when i saw him a restaurant with a girl i fallowed him to her house and confronted him we end up in a huge fight we kept contact after that though the next saturday he called me to tell he was dating her but that it was nothing serious not to woory that we were on a break wnd there was a high chance we be back together sunday i found out the girl slept with a friend of ours so i told he got mad at me and told me he wanted nothing to do with me he got over that and said he dumped her he tried inviting me to a concert 2 days later but my family and friends told me it was not a good idea so i didnt go we talked the next day and asked him if he wanted me back in his life ever and he told idk so we didnt talk for 2 days after that he was leaving on a business trip but i found it wasnt true he took that girl out of town so i called really mad and he told to leave his new gf alone that he liked her that she nice to him not clingy needy or crazy that she was a way better person then me after that he called back and ask if i was feeling okay i told its his life im let do what he wants spring break came and i had a break down and called him to leave the girl not through away our 4. i went nc to try and get him back and now he has moved on:( i tried to contact him in january after seeing him for the first time in 4 months and i text saying hope all is well, he responded saying i couldn’t be happier right now and i told him i was glad. his friends and family are not happy about his decision. (there are a ton more details but i’m leaving them out for the purpose of not making this too long). for past one year although he used to enter no contact but off and on he would message me back saying he misses me so i am very confused. but him telling me hes done he sounded pretty serious and cold and distant but then still offered to be there for me if i ever needed anything. we had a rocky beginning, and it took me a long time to be comfortable enough with him to call him my boyfriend, which he resented me for. of course, you should give her the time and space she needs to get over her ex and you will both need to start a new relationship that will not be a rebound., me and my ex boyfriend broke up for about 4 1/2 months now and i initiated the break up as he was neglecting me. she was either looking at him to see if he has been on there, or looking at me. it has always been his,dream to study abroad and i don’t think it had much to do by our break up. it is not the end of the world and even if they are with someone else. he had never in 8 years talked about the effects of his divorce . it was just a coincidence and not an act of god to punish you. it was our dream and goal and i regarded her as my life partner. push him to sombdy else arms because i was mean to him and not being a lady now he wants me to b the other women whats up with that is that ok?– dating 1 year, bu after huge fight (i felt neglected and said hurtful things), 2 weeks later he started dating a new girl (complete opposite of his type). at that point i told him i needed my space and that i wouldn’t be going to his birthday party anymore when i came home for spring break because i didn’t want to be about his new girlfriend and since then we have talked maybe three times and at one point when i mentioned his new girlfriend, he said nothing about her in his response. have just sent him a text that says that i will let the kids call him when they want but am changing my number that i am no longer available. he and this girl were friends while we were together… so idk if it’s a rebound or not. after work i make another mistake i called my ex and said what happened and i said i have something that i want to give her (it is romantic book “the notebook” where you replaced some pages in own words. in other words, it feels as if i am changing his mind and heart about me and our relationship. he said that i really hurt him and needed space which i didn’t really give as i missed him. it made me look stupid in the end for believing she actually meant things like missing me or thinking of me or wanting so see me when she did. we have had so much fun together since i have been home and now him and his girl friend are broken up. ex bf broke up with me back in nov we dated for 3 years. he already hates me by the sound of it, i am afraid i am pushing her and him closer together with this. i know he felt sad when he told me this. i did ask him to go for a coffee but he said i dont know right now it has shook him up seeing me as it brought all his feelings back. first she was angry and emotional and right away she start to dating the other guy but still talked bad about girls who might like about me. he replied back that he is no longer engaged, and that he is gonna leave the country soon for time alone. if you think you need more time, tell her so. only thing you can do to make him realize he made the wrong decision is by leaving him alone and start living your life to the fullest. i became happy and confident on my own and i think he sees that… i do feel like he is chasing me a bit now (before it was mostly me chasing him and arranging my life around him – not anymore! the day before his birthday weekend we spent the night together and had an amazing time, he tells me that his birthday was going to suck because he wasn’t going to see me and i stood quite because i knew something was up. if you’ve already deleted her number, then don’t sweat it. do want to be with him, but i am just tired if sharing with with her, and i am ready to find peace again, even if it’s without him. they are into the same things and they are always together mostly at his place i would assume just like she was with me. in fact, the reason his current relationship is not working is because he never got over you. however he has texted twice: to ask how i was doing and to ask a trivial question. is possible that he is just confused (even though i think it’s not probable). we were all good at the beginning but i realized that he has a high need of physical relationship like hugging , kissing and touching. guess there is nothing you can do unless he decides to stand up for himself and break up with her. if you have any questions or would like to share your story, please post a comment. is a good chance he is in a rebound and he will eventually break up. he’s 30, bringing a child into this world but acting like a child himself. if he stays in the relationship with his new girlfriend (who is not a rebound) for a long time, he will get more invested in that relationship and he will be less likely to come back to you. one of his cryptic messages was “you know our paths will cross again. i guess the best thing for you to do is to wait it out. in the morning when i woke up to go to work i almost threw up after i saw that dream, it was so realistic. until i found out about her we had been meeting about once a week and discussing our relationship, and he had hinted about me moving to texas with him after graduation (college) in 3 months. leaving your girl of six years for someone you barely know isnt ok either. the only thing you can do is start dating yourself. i have so much going for me now and the only thing missing is the love of my life. if he doesn’t break up in the next 4 weeks (or 2 weeks, you decide), give him an ultimatum. some of our common friends told me that my ex is with her because he does’t want to be alone and he doesn’t want to remember me, and also he gets grumpy when hearing my name. about the exciting new changes you’ve made in your life. time i see his face i fall in love again. be yourself and let him slowly see the changes you’ve made in your life. before we begin, i must warn you that your chances are very less and you should know that you might end up hurting yourself more. i’ll recommend you keep contacting her via text and slowly increase the frequency and length of the conversations you have with her. i asked if he was going to wait for my examinations to be over and he replied “i don’t know, see how”. tell him you need time and space to deal with the breakup and you can’t be his friend right now. i’ll not recommend no contact since you two were never technically dating and you never really broke up. but don’t sleep with him while he is with his girlfriend. he texted yet this person says he has a gf., friending her will allow you to see where she works, what she does with her free time, and all of her embarrassing pictures, but you don’t, and shouldn’t, need to know anything about this girl let alone intimate details about her life. i messaged him apologizing saying that it was the last thing i needed to do regarding him and he said that asking to meet up with him to gain closure is okay but not to give him any gifts. even tho his status says single and he still has my pics. we talked about the stress that he is still under, and seemed like he is tired of dealing with it. and if it is, there’s really nothing you can do unless she realizes that she made a mistake. today i sent him an email letting him know i can’t accept a cold friendship like this, “we deserve better and maybe we have a better shot at friendship later on, hugs”. he is proud for having her or maybe she has accommodated his needs better than what i did but i guess i have had lost the race. if you’re needy and insecure, any type of communication with him is going to make him lose attraction. he started crying and told me, that he would fight for me, but isn’t ready. to do if it’s not a rebound relationship and he has moved on? it’s going to be exactly like it has been for the past 16 months. i politely said i had a different approach to dealing with these things but honestly it seemed like he didn’t care (he did say he’s glad that i’m better and hopes i’m recovering well). soon as i agreed his behavior changed and he started pushing me away again. after getting to know each other we cuddled on the sofa and began to kiss. do you think there is hope for us at all? my name is patricia and i was with my ex for 10 months. i’m at a lost and i am so deeply in love with this girl, any advice would help. i asked him what he wants to do and he said “the only thing i’m worried about right now is making money. think the hard part will be playing it cool if he does say yeah and agrees to see me. i read your article on dis, i had been on a no contact unknowingly, cos i left for school but when i came back she sent me a message on social media apologizing for all the pain she caused me, and dat she wanted us to be just friends. you are not sure if you should contact her, you should do another month of no contact. and still getting upset if for some reason a friend mentiones me or ask about us. but when your mind starts wondering whether or not it’s a rebound, you can drive yourself crazy analyzing their behavior and obsessing over every little detail about their new relationship. all but mainly kevin,I recently ran into my ex and it was extremely awkward and now i’m wondering if e was interested and is waiting for me to initiate contact the way i’ve always done? is this a lost cause or can i possibly win him back? this is while he is still dating the other girl. anyway, about 3 months into the breakup she started dating a new guy and they are in a full on relationship, talking about marriage and so on. we were anyways planning to break up in a month due to distance. said she loved her ex boyfriend(african american)and he was coming to work in orman near dubai so that they can start afresh. i saw him almost two weeks ago and because i’m sure he deleted my number and i his our form of contact would be facebook but i deactivated mine long ago so that i wouldn’t be tempted to talk to him. even if he does come back, he might hurt you again. then again i ask myself how happy can he be if his wondering about me and cant get me out of his mind when supposedly his happy that he’s back with the love of his life.. i’m confused if i should still hold on or should i just move on?.Me: also, i’m not trying to get in the way of anything you’re trying to do (implying his new gf), i support you 100% and just want you to be happy. posted on his facebook wall whether or not he wants to move to australia with her next year when she wants to do her phd. and i told him how it was wrong how he keeps having sex with me and he’s dating her. my mum says he is being consistent with his decision to break up and after his holiday he will come back. we had a serious relationship where he met my family and i met some of his. dated someone off and on for 10 years through high school and college. he gave me a ring n i three it away and he is over upset about it as well. when he and i talked about it because i expressed my confusion about a lot of the things that happened over spring break, he said he was sorry about leading me on and that it wasn’t intentional and that it’s easy to fall back into a relationship like that. i just dont know if what has happened are signs to leave, or if him becoming a raging dick when we arent around each other means that the “no-contact” rule will make this worse…. however, over the course of the next 2 or so years, he was constantly doubting his decision. after cutting him out of my life again for a little over a month we began talking. he was so harsh on me and surprisingly after that 5 months of not talking with me, he reconciled with me for real. he replied and he admitted of having sex with a girl whom i do not who she was till today and that how fun it was but he also told me that he felt guilty and will never do it with another person. over the time i was away i’ve become a much stronger and happier person, but i also realise i want him back, wherever in the country we are. but it seems strange to start a relationship almost immediately long distance. your mind is stuck in a negative spiral and you need to get out of it. a day or so of not speaking, he contacts me to let me know that he had cut off all contact with this girl and that nothing has happened. its not like hes a sex maniac or something, i know him, he would only sleep with the girls that he really likes, i know, bcoz there were a few girls that tried to seduce him before but all failed. start making some positive changes in your life and try to keep yourself busy. i said sorry for everything i had done(second mistake). am not saying that you should start a serious relationship with someone else., you need to get out of this situation and find yourself another place. if we ever did get together ( not saying that there is any chance of that or it will happen in future) but wouldn’t she be thinking of him when she would be around me. just have been reading a lot of different things lately books and articles and was just wondering how people are getting with their exs after long periods of time. kevin, im going to try to make this as short as possible. recently we had sex and he told me he loved me that night before it happened and again a few days later but because my schedule is so full and i never have anyone to watch my son, i cant spend time with him the with him the way that i would like to (well that was before) i recently put him in daycare however we had a conversation about a month ago and he was telling me how i just need to work on being more open or that we would always have problems and i completely understood and things were fine a few days later i wanted to talk to him and ask him about something (that i cant remember) but he mentioned that i usually asks things i should already know the answer to so i told him i wouldnt bother trying anymore because its hard to have rational conversation with him (which it is on occasion) anyway not thinking and only joking because i do like/love him a lot i said out of anger i guess that i only deal with him and his irrational attitude because his d**k is good and he responded by saying “wow,…u win” and ever since has been real distant, we made plans to hang out like a week later, he blew em off and told me its nothing and wont be nothing, i was upset so i didnt say anything for a like a week and then i hit him up several times and he didnt respond and when he eventually did he said “bitch stop writing me” and all i said was wow okay…. and the more you lose hope the more you start analyzing their new relationship (and obsessing over them) trying to convince yourself it’s a rebound. i went over our place to talk and he told that he is still confused and he though he wants to he can’t try at this point to be with me with all his power, that he is not ready yet. i am not ready to contact him yet, definitely not for another 2 weeks or so if not later. but don’t do it unless you are absolutely ready to cut him off from your life if he chooses the other girl. two months later i find out he is dating one of his best friends in college who used to like him when we were together who he had said he wasn’t interested in. things started to change around the 6 months mark, he started backing off and becoming distant, so the roles changed and i became the clingy one (which was one of the most obvious reasons for the breakup) but he still comforted me with saying that he still loved me, that we wasn’t ever going anywhere, and that it would never happen… he convinced me that he was going to be there for me for a long time, so for obvious reasons i was completely and utterly shocked about him wanting to break up. in my eyes, i was very close with his mum and in a way i feel like the mature one to wish his mum happy birthday while he can’t even talk to my mum. i’ve already started nc for a few days, but i just want him to be happy and i don’t want to ruin his chances at happiness. is what being in love really means, because it’s not all sex and kisses. because he was really good to me and was there for me with my health issues and always made sure i was ok. also, before she started dating him were in contact quite a bit, but right after she started dating him she became very cold and distant and seemed to be trying to push me away. after i read this i kind of did my own thing, but we ended up seeing each other when i came home for winter break and i was under the impression that we were just going to hang out as friends since that seemed to be what he wanted at the time. does that mean he has already started seeing someone else? and if at any moment you feel suicidal, call suicide hotline. i did ask him to go for a coffee but he said i dont know right now it has shook him up seeing me as it brought all his feelings back. oh advice from my brother, i decided to send him a mix tape on valentine’s day saying i’m sorry and that i still loved him (i said this thru the music, not on paper).’m currently at university and so live away from home where my boyfriend is. there are things i know she really isn’t down with and some of them he has. once he is out of the house, you’ll be able to focus much better on yourself. however, once i did move he kinda stopped texting me. he’s been beyond childish and cruel throughout all this when i wanted to be civil and get my stuff back and his. i know she’s seeing someone but her usual mo is to show her enthusiasm with the person she’s with all over social media. i want her back and don’t know how to proceed and would like your help. another way to describe a rebound relationship is an attempt to avoid the pain of the breakup. i found this really upsetting but seemed unable to stop it. we “touched” a little bit the conversation about us being naughty on the beach, i know it’s probably not a good idea to talk about sexual stuff but it was more in a joking way. i’ll be honest kevin i don’t have many people to talk to about this issue so i appreciate the advice. of the examples of this social media behavior that i want to share came from one of my readers. i guess the best thing for you to do is to wait it out..i thought he was coming back around because of his words to me lately ( i miss you- not over you, etc) and our time apart. i am just saying that you should start learning to live without her in your life and start exploring the possibility of finding someone else. if you want to pursue her more, do nc for another 2 weeks and try again. if he contacts, just tell him that you can’t contact him for 4 months and you’ll appreciate it if he doesn’t contact you either. to do if it’s not a rebound relationship and he has moved on? really want him to see and realise tt im the only genuine girl for him that cares a great deal. he got me a really nice gift for christmas and we hungout a few days after christmas, we talked about getting back together. if it doesn’t, then you know it’s over for sure.’s quite possible that he is still angry at you or at least is holding some resentment towards you. but the real question is, do you really want to sabotage his new relationship so you could give it another try? if he wants to keep messaging him i will leave them be and unfollow him. garry is a temporary solution that is alleviating the pain, but he is not the cure. i didn’t want to get back together as it wasn’t practically possible to be in the same part of the country, and i didn’t want to be as miserable as i had been.. i just don’t know what to say, or if its even worth it. i tried doing the no contact rule and it worked for about 2 weeks, but i caved in and texted him and soon after we met up all the time because he lives really near me and i would find any excuse to meet him. if still nothing, you have the option of starting no contact and trying again or concentrate on moving on. have a feeling he just used that incident as an excuse to end the relationship. and you will have no security and stability if you decide to stay with him. what is really confusing me is that now he says he needs a bit of time just to work on himself and decide which side to fall on cause it seems as though both of us are willing to forgive his cheating ways but only if he chooses 1 of us. what should i do if he doesnt reply to my text? so finally i decided to leave then two days later he came back to begged me plead me everything but i liked someone else. he told me he has never felt this way about anyone before and we even spoke of moving in together and marriage before christmas. i think the best thing you can do is apply no contact and contact her after that. he said that he just wanted to move on with life and forget about the pain and forget about me. i ended up finding out the reason why he was acting like this towards me since my pregnancy was because there was another women in the picture. me and my ex were together for 5 years, we had a child and were quite happy. we broke up last april and even tho i was crushed and he said he still loved me but was too stressed out in our relationship always worrying about me (he was cheated on in his past) i did let him down on a few occasions but thru-out the breakup we continued to sleep together, hang out talk etc even tho he said he didnt want the commitment. regardless, you can try getting her back using the 5 step plan and if it doesn’t work, move on. however, he said if you were “in love” then i should have never let it go. now after no contact i feel like he is scared he is losing me completely and lost control of the post breakup “competition” whereas i am not competing. this, he has been surprisingly open to the idea of fixing things, though still wants a ‘break’. i’m happy with staying friends or dating again i just need to know so i can move forward. of the most common indicators of this behavior is their social media profile (facebook, twitter etc.? i dont want any misunderstandings between us and i want him to know that although i am silent but i love and wait for him till date…how to do that? he posted on his fb that certain decision in life you will make, you shall regret but cheerish the one who was there for you when you were down, i thought he finally did realize something but to my dismay when i initiated talking he just broke up with me and asked me to just move on. maybe his honeymoon phase is ending with this much younger girl? i never seen her roaming anywhere,but what she do is only whatsapp & calling. wouldn’t the only thing left to be is intimacy. i told him i didn’t want to ever be friends, i can’t be just friends with someone i am in love with. found out that after 4 weeks of being with this guy she decided she will move in with him and take her daughter with her. which is why i want you to use this time to explore your option as well. late last night he starts following this guy and replies to a tweet about a movie. i said okay, take your time and contact me whenever you get a chance. she tells him “if you leave or cheat on me i’ll cut you” and also “if you leave i kno where to find you and i will hunt you down. again 🙂 so after 1 month of texting, 2/3 weeks of extensive texting every day/night (mostly him initiating) we finally went for a coffee. i just don’t get how someone can be so heartless and vindictive. do i have hope or is he a lost cause. so in five months from our break up he’s got a new girl pregnant, made her his fiancé and now contacting me. idk what to do, i need to move on but i also have a child with this person. contact her after no contact period is over and until then just keep concentrating on yourself. the next day he called me three times but i didn’t answer and have no answering machine and i also got a text calling me scum and my mum lazy. less than a month later he starts dating a new girl and she makes him block me out of his life from everything (his phone, twitter, facebook, everything). she still has feelings for you even if the close friend might seem perfect for her, it’s probably not going to work out. very common sign of a rebound relationship is whether or not they are trying to rub in your face. and in august he and this new guy became a couple. and the guy listened to her about the break up etc…. until at one point i realise that i am madly in love with this guy. i think the only way to find out is wait. i think for you, it’s more about closing that chapter of your life rather than trying to get him back. birthday is next week but i don’t think i should say anything anyway but do you think it would make her mad or upset if i didn’t say anything. one the exam days, i wished him luck because i still love that guy and i was hoping he would reconcile with me. i the think the best course of action is to keep contact with him via text and ask him out again after a few weeks. i know he texts her every day to say he loves her and misses her and counts down the days until he sees her again. so i think i’ll apply the no contact rule, but what do you think about this other relationship? i paid every single cents he spent on me since he is not working there and i do not feel right to use his money. and it seems pretty serious because the guy is always at her house and i know he stays over. i guess the best thing for you to do is apply no contact. she knew she wanted to breakup with you but she didn’t expect to be so much miserable after the breakup. lot of times, the reason people break up is fixed and things change during the period they are far apart. i am wondering if there is any change that we can get back togheter or at least be friends. we broke up in december and now he’s dating this new girl. he will tell me “ok, thank you” and will go back to his new life. there is also something i have to return him, is it a good reason to initiate our contact again?.its just that i am so hurt and angry to whatever he has done that i react in pain and anger and he is so blind not to see my love behind it., this webpage did bring me hope and confidence in getting him back 😉 thank you! we talked for a bit and then he said ” i still love you, but the phone calls and texts make me uncomfortable . but again he said to get organised and wed go visit relatives with new baby, again another normal family day all smiles and happy he did leave an hour earlier as he was so tired. if she doesn’t respond or is cold towards you, then you should consider moving on. yeah anyways, i’ve come so far only to be brought down by this major obstacle. you are right, it’s hard to say if it’s a rebound. we began fighting about his distance and odd behaviors for the last two months where i would go through periods of not talking to him and then when the other ex boyfriend died at the end of november 2013 he immediately contacted me to be there for me. my mum said from day 1 that he will be back after his holiday. i guess with his health problem, he always demand constant attention and from the time i know him, he was barely single for 6 months. i sensed a bit of distance from her before i left and some when i returned. let me add to this that the week before she initially posted the picture of herself with her now-boyfriend i saw her at a nightclub making out with some guy that is not the guy she’s currently dating, and also looking over at me in between kisses (i was there with my sports team, she was there for a friend’s birthday and we knew by that point of the night that each other was in the club). we have now been in contact (via text) on a daily basis for over 10 days. he was very good and supportive for a month, after which his efforts started lacking and would refuse to answer my questions. have previously also done no contact for maximum 45 days but this time i feel so bad that only after 6 days i recontacted him. but i cannot tolerate all this misbehavior and how i just became a sex slave for him without any intimate love. so then i found out about this girl (luckily i didn’t freak out) he didn’t tell me though, i noticed she left things in his room. but that doesn’t help if she doesn’t miss me at all.’s a time limit you have to set for yourself. if you already did, then you should reply to him. the hardest part is we were each other’s first relationship, we talked about getting married and having children and our future together, his family are my second family and vice versa. she now lives in his house that looks just like the houses we were fixing to buy. the day before his birthday weekend we spent the night together and had an amazing time, he tells me that his birthday was going to suck because he wasn’t going to see me and i stood quite because i knew something was up. i explained that after 8 years this was like a divorce to me. for past one year although he used to enter no contact but off and on he would message me back saying he misses me so i am very confused. she’ll start talking about her day or how school is going and how she wants me to keep a look out for a job for her. his dad told him i have a medical problem with my eye thats serious and he wasnt bothered., so my boyfriend and i of a year broke up 4 1/2 weeks ago. 2 weeks passes without contact n out of the blues he texted me asking how i am and such, i tried playing cool and waited hours before replying to his simple messages but i now messed up. and this guy have been “talking” for 2 years and have dealt with a lot of communication issues that we’ve gotten past as well as at some points there was bad timing on my part. it’s exactly what i’m going through right now. if you decide to comment read the comment guidelines before commenting. i wanted to be able to ask her for her hand knowing that i could provide the type of lifestyle each of us want. a week after that i asked him again if he wanted to grab a drink. but hard bit was my youngest said to him “i miss you daddy will you come home when baby is born? don’t know if it’s a commitment issue or pure nerves, since just an hour before that he was complimenting me on my pictures and exclaiming how amazing and beautiful i am. if you feel like you must absolutely talk to her, then you can use one of the texts from the 5 step plan. i get a message from him asking again about my eye, saying kids looked smart and little one was showing him his new band. she chose not to talk about her problems and decided to bail instead of giving your relationship another chance. either ways, both of you will be able to close this chapter in your life. do i have hope or is he a lost cause. she wanted to send you a message that she is moving on. his last ex-girlfriend was there too…) i said hello after all that time with the prettiest smile i’ve got. she was asking me a lot about if i had bought a new car or moved in to a new apartment yet . she continues texting you, tell her you need space and time right now. i know you’ve invested 4 years but you should be glad that you eventually found out about this and now you can leave him behind and try to move on.” and so i told him that it feels like he used me for sex and he said it’s not going to happen again. the first few times nothing happened but the couple after that we ended up kissing which led to sex.’ve been talking to this girl i meet on fb. wall fell to the ground when she told me she will gather her things she has in my apartment, cut every type of contact for ever and she has someone new. how is it technically considered a rebound if they never really said that you meant something. apologies i meant not making eye contact while we were talking but looking elsewhere and smiling. the last text from her was “i don’t have anything to say to you at this point in time. and if she doesn’t break up by the end of that time limit, you give her an ultimatum..my sis saw her n asked her y ur here,she fears alott, she was on call that time with heavily makeup…so i alwys thinks that maybe she might felt that i will see her in same route,maybe she also miss me? he started to act weird and i saw texts that were inappropriate, he basically emotionally cheated on me. was too hurt but still till next two days i messaged him that i shall go away from his life now,,but i dont think he must have read my messages as he again started cutting my phone calls. even if he is with that girl, it’s probably a rebound and it won’t last long. it has nothing to do with me because my ex goes from work to home subway there. haven’t ever been as affected as bad as this. he would also tell me things like i was different and he never had a relationship like this before. but after his girlfriend found out he suddenly wants to commit to her and she forbids to have contact with me. you kevin for taking the time to give me some great advice i been kicking my self for missing up that day he cried on the phone i feel like i blow my last chance for good because he told he would never talk to me again because it hurt him to much what he did to me i belive that were all human in this world that were going to do some things were not proud we all make mistakes were not perfect. what are my next moves, i can’t find that anywhere, please help 🙁. i can hope is that it doesnt work out for obvious reasons im bitter. he is trying to bully and manipulate me via text. your mind is still going to continue thinking about it and probably stuck in the negative spiral. dont know kevin, i know he has some feelings for me in the back of his mind,,plz just advice what is the right way to make him respect me and value me in his life so that he comes back with full of love for me…thank u. i felt bad and emailed him the next day, told him i didn’t mean to pressure him but that i thought we could work things out . when he did find out i was moving to where he was, he again started texting me all the time saying that we should hangout when i do move up there. i stopped by before the cleaning started and when i got to his room, i found a card addressed to “my princess” with so many lovely handwritten words..n i can’t msg her also coz she can complaint to her pshycho parents & they can do anything to me, ( i really have no idea whether she said atleast once to her parents that she also wants me or not) , i can’t even express my feelings anymore bcz of her blackmailings . you kevin for taking the time to give me some great advice i been kicking my self for missing up that day he cried on the phone i feel like i blow my last chance for good because he told he would never talk to me again because it hurt him to much what he did to me i belive that were all human in this world that were going to do some things were not proud we all make mistakes were not perfect.– he went on holiday recently and since he came back he is giving me even more attention and basically spending his free time with me. he is acting extremely immature by tweeting negative things about you. it did help her run away from the emptiness in her life, but it didn’t fill it. i don’t think you were a rebound since he took 6 months after his last relationship to begin a relationship with you. i mailed him telling him that now it’ s the right time to try, otherwise he will lose me forever. i thought it would be a good idea if i sent the letter so it arrives after her b’day & a separate postcard with a simple b’day greeting. your ex started dating someone else within a week of breaking up, then it’s more likely to be a rebound. i told him i will respect his decision i just feel like i am in limbo and would like to know where we stand. this year, 2014, he still wants to meet up with me. he had already started liking someone else and is currently dating them. i replied back in morning saying eye is as good as it will get. perhaps, you should leave him alone and let him find out what he wants in life. although they never had an intimate relationship with my best friend; i still can’t imagine sharing stories with my friend about a relationship with her ex. sent him a text after almost 8 weeks of no contact following your directions of first text message. do you really think that he will be happier with you than he is with his new girlfriend? i met my ex march of last year and we broke up in september. i immediately applied the no contact rule and she tried contacting me asking me how i am but i did not reply, but during this two weeks i found out that 3 days after the break up she started talking to an old friend from her country. also he got kids on sunday was meant to spend full day with them instead showed up at his mums house 12., i love your website and now i rlly need some advice. i just am a very spiritualistic and optimistic person and feel that one day we will meet again. this time, talk to him before getting back that you can’t do this on and off relationship and if he wants to get back together, he needs to be hundred percent sure he wants this. his relationship is a rebound and it’ll probably end soon. what should i do, i really care about this girl alot to move to state where she’s from., men do return if they realize what they are missing. and my ex of 5 years (which is also my 9month old’s father) recently broke up end of may…. i know i’m supposed to be doing no contact (which i’m implementing right now), but he usually texts me “good night” and “good morning” even if we’re upset with one another. so he doesn’t follow either of us but retweeted the competition by searching me, looking at my tweets and retweeting not realising it comes up as a notification for me. however selfish it may sound, the only time you should reach out to your ex is when your life could not be better.!but he go out with someone else how do i get him back? the problem here is if he did not love he should not even had initiated all this when he found girls who can have sex with him and walk out. if she contacts you, tell her you need space and time and start no contact. i broke up with him i’m january this year and a week later he’d moved on to the type of woman he used to moan about and the complete opposite of me and i keep seeing them around my neck of the woods. also there are a lot of articles written about how your best friend is the perfect one for you and the popularity of girls ending up dating their best friends and it being the best thing they ever had, also things on how they are the perfect ones for you all this time but you only recognize it after so many years. 8pm that night he put up a picture of himself in the exact same way, saying he was tired and hungover.. it is a quote from a poem that is inspirational . i even asked if she was trying to make me jealous and put up my evidence in front of her (even friend of her didnt understand her behaviour). just wanted to comment on your suicide attempt, no one is ever worth anything that serious.’ve applyied nc rule for 30 days and got back to hear from him last week with some texts, last night i’ve asked him if he celebrated ( it was his bday) and he replied me today sending me the pics of a girl with the text “yeah, i’ve celebrated with her and had sex with her 5 times”. my head was filled with thoughts and questions, mixed with different emotions. my son never really got along with his father so there to be honest is no love lost there. i was angry when i found out because he told me before no contact that he just needed time and space that he wouldnt talk to anyone else and he still loved and cared about me. i will be attempting no contact after my birthday party he is throwing for me this week before he takes her on a mini trip for the weekend. she does nice things for me and calls/texts/facebooks sometimes and vice versa but then she will completely change and treat me like crap for several days in a row and ignores me until she responds to me again. my mum has always said that she felt he was jealous of me and that too much jealousy is what created him to act strange and break up. stay no contact for another 60 days and if you still want him back after that, contact him. and if at any moment you feel suicidal, call suicide hotline. he’s still with the new girlfriend, so he obviously isn’t interested in me anymore, right? reasons you totally have to move on from your ex today. will only be approved if they are pertaining to the article and add value to it. i felt like he basically said fuck his family, because all it seemed like he wanted to do was be with her i realized. we haven’t talked for 3 years since 2012 so we were really just excited talking to each other again.’s quite possible that he is still angry at you or at least is holding some resentment towards you. i am a bit shocked because i did not expect this. was no ways for me to understand his sudden change, so i did something really bad that i checked his email..And i belive, deep down in his heart, he still has feelings for me, he just forgot how sweet and how much we were in love when we were together. during are break up after she met this person she wont talk to me , she ignores me and mind you i run into her in the street ? he said if we got back together, then i would just be getting my way as usual, and that he was super busy at work and hadn’t really thought about us for the past few weeks, and he couldnt’ do the ups and downs anymore. why was he letting a young girl sleeping at his house if he loved me and didn’t want anything to happen? i don’t know if he still considers me to be his best friend though but whatever we’re friends. i am not ready to contact him yet, definitely not for another 2 weeks or so if not later. post: is there ever a good reason to get your ex back? if it doesn’t work then, you should move on.. he spends a lot of time with this new girl. he continuously let’s me down with payments, which is due to his financial issues associated with drug use. the breakup came totally out of the blue for me and all he was able to say was that he’s not sure anymore and that it has some family reasons (i haven’t got the same nationality as him and his parents want him to get a girl like that). just couldnt understand why he would give up our 3 years relationship over 3 weeks relationship when he barely even know this girl. i’m no psychologist but after coming out of a long term relationship and hurtful breakup with someone with npd, he seems to show a lot of the traits. i got a “i’m seeing someone, we’re done talking, don’t ever talk to me again”.’s a question about whether or not my ex is trying to rub it in my face: i haven’t actually heard from him, but as far as the whole social media aspect goes, he hasn’t said anything about this new girl until he posted a concert picture and tagged her in it. in the morning when i woke up to go to work i almost threw up after i saw that dream, it was so realistic. my love for him changed…i think i still love him and i wish he could admit what he did, or at least say he is sorry but he doesnt think he is doing anything wrong. he said he started feeling this way at the same time he started helping his housemate. i want to know if he is just using me or if there is something still there and i have to just be patient and show him who i am now. after getting to know each other we cuddled on the sofa and began to kiss. i want to share shortly my story and want to hear your opinion about it. have seen many other girls and i have thought that i still want my ex back. i don’t want to scare him by interviewing there but i really do hate t here and liked it there when i visited , plus either of these two awesome jobs would be really amazing for my career …. but i gave valid answers for everything i’ve done, but she is refusing to accept those. girl and i split after 6yrs on and off, we lived together for about a year but her jealousy pushed me to leave, so we get back together again and we carry on our reletiknship but she always accused me of seeing my ex ex, then we stopped talking for a whole month and i find out she has a new man in her life and she has been seeing him for a least three months. he was here i asked if he wanted to take his stuff and he said no he will get them another time and now he doesn’t want nothing to do with me. what i don’t know is should i unblock him and allow him to contact me and tell him the reason why i walked away when im ready, because im not yet. i expected him to take 2 days to reply (he is the type of guy with strong emotions who prefers to cool down before reacting + he sometimes does it on purpose waiting for my reaction), but it’s been almost 3 days and still nothing. it hurts so much letting go so beautiful girl but if i don’t quit everyone thinks i’m insane. he say’s that he still loves me and calls me baby when we talk to each other, he also told me when i broke up with him that nobody is going to love you like i do! kind of stupid because today i sent him around 7 long messages telling him that i was hurt that he got her along that day and that i would have never done that to him…i also told him that i know that he has moved on and i am going to try my best to noot rply to any message and my silence shall speak of my pain…n blah blah…i am not sure if he must have read all messages but i still sent. my i hastily asked my ex to try again and he said no and he doesnt think we can be friends either. or especially if there is a drug addiction which i suspect whether i should not let him have any contact at all with myself or the children either? obviously i want him back and he knows this yet he has said if he wasn’t in this new relationship with this girl he would try again but he is so he won’t. he came upstairs was sitting holding baby and talking to me i asked him his opinion on a baby monitor and he said hed buy it i jokingly said where u getting all the money he said his “personal life nothing to do with u. i confronted him about it n he denies her in every way n tells me she is just his friend he told me about. they were married for 10 years (he’s 36 now, no kids) and broke up because they didnt have a good relationship: he wanted kids and she didnt, she wasnt in love with him, she did her life (went on holidays with friends and not even contact him once while away, went out every day with friends instead of come home to eat dinner with him) and act like her roommate, etc etc. just make sure you don’t look needy, desperate or depressed on your social media profiles. my ex was everything to me he was my best friend. is there really a chance for us to be back again?-with a newborn the nc rule is hard to follow & ive already made some of the mistakes listed above 🙁 why is he able to be so moved on after 6 years and a beautiful baby? so that confirm my suspicions… he came back from his trip and after days i text him if he was ok, he said yes and that he saw somethings that he wanted to buy for me and how he was going to help with the vacation that i needed so much. we would have said that he feels nothing more than friendship for me and that his new relationship is something really good. my battery had died and when i charged it he had text me an hour before. guy seems to still have feelings for you but he is turned off by your needy behavior. broke up with my ex of 7+ years in january because i didn’t feel that he was spending enough time with me( i work evenings and he works days so i only have 2 evenings that we can hang out each week. i then went into nc for 38 days and sent him a message asking how his new year was so far and he responded with “please stop talking to me would be greatly appreciated i am with my girlfriend right now” i respected that and have been in nc since. but i started to think as well, what sort of future i can have with a man who does not hold responsibility for his actions and words and worst he can find replacement before walking out of me completely. he displayed all the signs ti want me back but i was aloof. i was thinking about waiting 95 days of nc and sending him a little message letting him know that i was thinking about him… what are your thoughts on my situation and what i should do from here? i was originally going to show up at his house and clear the air claiming i just want to be “friends” just to get my foot in the door and work my way in from there. that day he told me that he misses and thinks of me a lot but not in the way he thinks he should miss a gf and that he’s not over “us” but that he still thinks his decision was the right one otherwise he would have come back to me… but i think even if he thought the decision was wrong he wouldn’t just because of the consistency.

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by coincidence i ended up bumping into her the day the day after i found out and she told me they have been talking since november my daughter was born nov 3 :=)so yeah…now hes denying everything hes told me about loving me stiil being an asshole and im just a mess…is he really gunna be with this girl i mean hey there relationship is about to make a year along with my daughter. i don’t want to scare him by interviewing there but i really do hate t here and liked it there when i visited , plus either of these two awesome jobs would be really amazing for my career …. then said that his job was very demanding with orders , he was wanting to retire in dec. his dad told him i have a medical problem with my eye thats serious and he wasnt bothered. is she just in a “rebound relationship” and is there any place for me to hope she will return to me?, continue to interact with her on snapchat even though she is clearly playing some weird mind game? is now in a relationship, he has moved overseas and i’m sure the girl has not gone with him. i know now that i can be the great girlfriend that he always wanted and is hoping to get out of this new girl, and it kills me to see that this is going to happen. i let my emotions get the best of me and i contacted the new girl telling her that my ex tried to see me in may (which is true). really don’t know what my next move should be ?” he said there is no future yet if he’s not making money. two days later he was already seeing another girl but he was telling me that maybe we could try again in the summer when i go home from college or later on when he is also in college and we will be able to see each other more. you sure you will be able to have a healthy and long term relationship with this guy? and i could still remember how much he put his heart to give me a surprise for the anniversary. i have just started my own business, and normally i would have shared this with him so that has made me miss him a bit more too. i barely saw him during the holidays as we were both busy, the w hen we came back to college he ended it, claiming he didn’t want to do long distance again (we would be next year and the year after). my family thinks that my ex still have feelings me and my brother said two days ago you can call her and ask what are their situation but she didn’t asnwer but she texted me ”you called me have you something to say? he knows it’s a mistake but it’s a chance he wants to take! i followed and joined two formats one of yours and one of ryan rivers. we would have said that he feels nothing more than friendship for me and that his new relationship is something really good. our friends asked me if i still love him i reply them “nope, im done with him”. the problem is a few times my now ex has ended up kissing me passionately but then next day says its because he was drunk and it will never happen again as he was just wanting sex. know there will be someone out there for me…but that doesn’t really help at the moment. i keeps seeing his friends on campus and they all ignore me and it’s hell, i want him back, i feel like we were soulmates 🙁 i don’t know what to do 🙁 the thing is, we agreed not to live together until after college (i’m 19 and he is 21) because we didn’t want to rush things, yet he’s now in a relationship with his housemate… and they’ll be long distance next year, and they’re already having sex?.So i (29years)have dated my ex girlfriend (31years)for almost 2 years. things you shouldn’t do when your ex starts dating someone else. need extreme help, i was dating this guy for over 7 years he has my high school sweetheart, my everything … we were supper close to each other but his mom try to get him away from me … he cheated on me once on the 3rd year and i forgave him. this break-up made me so weak and maybe it’s best that i don’t give her that book and don’t answer to her? but if she needs to do that, then she probably isn’t over you yet and is quite immature. i have never been introduced “formally” to his friends because he always said it wasn’t the best time because of our situation. kevin, is there a place here for me, since i am definetely the rebound victim of my ex… (that is, te guy she had the rebound with). all, you want to know the top ex dating someone else signs to look out, especially if you're still hung up on your ex guy right? he ended up kissing a girl while he was very drunk and told me he didn’t even know what was going on. if she doesn’t reply even at that time, then your chances are slim and i’ll recommend you try to move on. make some positive changes in your life during no contact. my ex is still dating the other guy & i haven’t heard from her. i could tell with the look on their faces that they never expected me to see them on the spot, yet i didn’t make a scene. advise is to move on and start dating someone else. start no contact and even if she contacts you, don’t answer her. because he was really good to me and was there for me with my health issues and always made sure i was ok. it could be a midlife crisis or it could just be that he is just enjoying the honeymoon phase of his relationship and when things get sour, he will realize what he left. how can she fall out of love with me after almost 5 years of feelings for each other that she can surprise me one day and want someone new? then next day i visited her place and i said that i want be with you, but she said that it is too late and she told me that she is dating that other guy. i did once admit my breaking up with him was probably a mistake but he was not keen on saying whether we could work something out. i know she is on vacation with her new boyfriend, and i dont want to be the crazy pushy ex boyfriend. perhaps there is someone better out there suited for you. if it was a “rebound” it’s been going on since she ended it and still going on. especially if you have been trying to contact him for a while. and does no contact really work for me even in this situation? i believe that it is a rebound relationship or at least i’m hoping it is. what is strange to me is that this new girl is very similar to me just younger, he even said to me when he meet her that she reminds him of me when i was her age. i know it’s really hard since it was your first relationship, but it’s something that almost everyone has to go through. i felt like my heart was breaking and i didnt know why, but i seduced him when he get back home (we were living together so i still have less than 3 days before he moves out from my house) and we had sex. then he told me that he is always with tath girl and he wants to break up with me! gf is dating one of her close male best friends. i even went to his house and waited for him. the example you gave of jane and gary i thought might be what is going on but i’m sure that’s not the case., clearly i missed him to start with which is why i checked his fb. that in some websites recommended to give ex if you want her back) she said not tonight and someday it’s okay. i wrote him all the desperate things on your list yesterday and he said he doesn’t want to talk to me anymore… do you think it’s serious with this girl and do i even have a chance to win him back? broke up almost 3 weeks ago and sadly i’ve done the text terrorism and showing my neediness towards him. on day 30, i looked at his social media sites, and i noticed that he looked so happy! thanks for all the free stuff, and thanks for te opportunity to share this. whatever her reasons for not being with you right now is her business and not yours., he’s recently started talking to this girl that he works with, and since then, he has changed his whole perspective on our relationship. texted him (because speaking to him i would not have been able to control myself) that the kids dont want to speak to him and they will need some space and time. a few days after when we planned to meet, he suddenly cancelled through text and was really cold to me. we broke up when i was about 8 months pregnant, but he would still come around like everything was cool, because even though he would be out doing who knows what he was very excited about being a dad at the time. i don’t know if you completed no contact, but if you did, you should stay in touch with her and try to rebuild the attraction slowly. and talking to her best friend is not a good idea. but this time, we barely text each other until the day came when we did stop talking. i was so curious if he already has a relationship with the girl, and i had the chance to catch them on a double date with the two other colleagues.? what if her mom was right that she is marrying but if its true why she will put such status on whatsapp? some people are extremely active on facebook and twitter while some people don’t usually post their personal life all over social media. the only thing he would like to do is smoke marijuana but that’s it and ever since he started living there he tried different kinds of drugs. think what do you expect from him in the relationship. and if you’ve already told him, you can give it to him. unexpected ways 18th century women paved the way for modern women. him and his friends told me that it really tore him up. after her visit she hoped that she wouldnt make me more hurt by this…..i knew he will never value me till i keep hovering around but due to my past experience i could never enter a no contact period, as i never want to lose this man forever…. kevin, so me and my ex-boyfriend had been dating for about 3 years, and we broke up a week after valentine’s day over something stupid that i did. everything sounds very negative about my ex but she is a nice girl. if it’s too hard for you to look at his facebook, you should remove him for a while, at least till the no contact period is over. and you feel like you’d do anything to get your ex boyfriend back. years, i am 32, she is 24 and she has a 3 year old daughter. kk, you seem a bit obsessed (obsessively texting your bf and writing all these comments here) which is not healthy. i knew i was healed from my previous relationship when we started dating and i thought he was on the same page as me. i made him tell me to get out of his life. and during no contact, i want you to think exactly what type of treatment you expect from him. did this because i want to continue my life and forget her. also, his gf is straight up attacking me online while trying to be passive about it. he actually texted me right after i posted that, just asking about a music festival i went to last weekend. we were tight as a couple, never fought once, same interests etc, the usual but we got strained through his work and i thought a break would be good. am furious and upset that he has had this other woman around my kids. i will suggest you concentrate your efforts in moving on. if it didn’t work, you have to accept your loss and move on. and after we spoke about that, he flirted with me and he even held my hand, examining it. said “i can tell you what ever you want me to, but that is not how i feel. so, at some point i called a face to face, where i tried fighting for us one last time- presented him with the timeline leading up to proposal- how could he propose after 2 months- and he had dedicated a lana del rey song to me just the other day- a song that made me want to just die- so we agreed to no more sad texts- but apparently it didnt stop because again i needed to have another convo with him to get my point across. not sure how the no contact thing works in this area when kids are involved and for them to have contact?’t that more of a general stipulation or stereotype for people who been in a more serious significant amount of time together. the thing is he was in a serious relationship that ended a year before he met me because he didn’t want to get married or have kids (she was 5 years older) i contacted him after 3 weeks and he was very friendly so i made the mistake of sending a txt a few days later saying asking did he want to meet up and have a chat about things he replied 24 hours later saying he knows it was hard to send the txt but he wants to be on his own for now that hes not ready for anything and he really likes me and he genuinely wants to be friends. post: is there ever a good reason to get your ex back? if she doesn’t contact you, then you should contact her. i’d love to help and see her and show i’ve changed, maybe this is a good opp to rekindle something as i have completely changed physically and mentally.– i know from others that they are having problems, i think they are not very intimate anymore (we were joking about something and he somehow admitted it), she is posting depressing statuses on her fb…. this way he can have her and you as well. i’ve been worried sick about her because this new guy is a smooth talking player who doesn’t really care who his girlfriend is as long as he has one but she seems to think she’s in love with him and she seems to be trying to replace me with him. i guess the best you can do is keep in touch with him and have fun conversations with him occasionally., this hasn’t stopped him from pursuing this woman down in cuba. he must have left the fiancée with his family because before that i saw them walking around at least three times., so my boyfriend and i of a year broke up 4 1/2 weeks ago. i said saying things like this doesn’t help if you don’t want to try to work things out with me, it just hurts me more . you think the game is up or shall i wait a few weeks and try make contact again? my mum says he is being consistent with his decision to break up and after his holiday he will come back. two months later i find out he is dating one of his best friends in college who used to like him when we were together who he had said he wasn’t interested in. is possible that he is just confused (even though i think it’s not probable). i last saw him it was the weekend after his birthday, he stood with me and i had intentions of confronting him about his birthday because my gut feeling told me he spent his birthday with his ex-girlfriend. should i contact her while she is in relationship with this guy after 1 month? know this because you two were in a serious relationship for significant amount of time. we were all good at the beginning but i realized that he has a high need of physical relationship like hugging , kissing and touching. i’ve never trusted these things before but your article actually seems pretty reliable so here i am. we really did love each other but honestly our break up reason is very confusing to both of us. got in an argument and he suddenly said he no longer wanted me and to stay out of his life. i did contact his new wife and explained to her that i was still in a relationship with her now husband during their entire engagement up until they were married.” and he replies with “i don’t care, if i got into a car with a girl that you don’t like it would be like world war 3”. this carefully designed test to find out your chances and if you qualify for the ebp basics e-course. when we go too long without talking he shows up to my family parties (he has been friends with my brother and sister for 13 years) and we end up speaking again. ex and i have been broken up for about four months now. im much older, mayb i jus need to let him live out his youth? should i have no contact for a while and if so how long until i contact again. i think that will increase your chances of securing a date. she said she is sorry and that she is just a close friend and my bf then also denied and he was very upset that i even suspected and asked her instead of waiting for him. i am totally in love with this man, but it looks like he doesn’t care at all..my sis saw her n asked her y ur here,she fears alott, she was on call that time with heavily makeup…so i alwys thinks that maybe she might felt that i will see her in same route,maybe she also miss me? the next day him, me and our best friend went to an open mic like old platonic times. i didnt reply …i am too hurt… four months is a long period. has been extremely vocal about wanting to be married for a few years now. this past christmas idk what had got into him but he came back to us. he said “i still love you but this is something i want to do. but it seems god punishment for me did not end. stopped no contact at 30+ days using the magic letter, she texted me and told me that a lot has happened. i think i did a good job already in realising the mistakes i’ve made. he also invited me to go spend time with his family the next day but then took it back because he didn’t want his family to ask a billion questions about why he’s hanging around me again so soon which is understandable. i am confident that those feelings will always be there with him when it comes to me… he just feels like im a distraction in his life because i take away his focus on important things…. the day after i texted him she even came where i work (looked like an excuse to check me out + she came all dressed up). no contact for another 3-4 weeks and text him again. anyway 20mins later he said “right what we r going to do today is u get ready we go out for lunch and go buy baby camera monitor and baby stuff” i just agreed i was already ready so we went out to lunch to place we used to always go to, had a fun day laughing and joking being a normal family acting the way we always did. he can’t even text me because she goes through his phone so we talk on facebook. even if you do get back together in the future, this breakup was necessary. in the last month we reconnected and my ex was showing clear signs he wants me back but he is seeing this 19 year old girl 7 years his junior, for 3 months, and. in his words he always told me “i can never be with a hood girl” as in a ghetto girl. he took a risk by holding my hand for the first time during the movie.’ve been talking to this girl i meet on fb..i was in shock, her mom started blackmailing me & i never wanted to face this to my family coz my parents are weak by health which my gf was knowing it,i cried alott, used to think agn n agn how this possible,after sum days i again forced myself to ask her coz it was driving me crazy,i tried to catch her many times, infact my one female frnd met her to discuss about how much i love her, my gf cried that time n said even i love him ,my frnd thought she will come back,my frnd after 4 days started calling but she ignored n msged her that i dont wana contact him, i dont wana talk with you n anyome then again i started to go near her office but due to her frnds group never able to meet but one day i able to meet her n i asked politely ki i wanaa talk she refused but i calmly asked then she said ok n then i started telling her how much imp she is for me,i cried very badly in front of her, i fallen in road while walking as i had no energy,but she didnt felt anything for me,i forcefully said her to hug me,she hugged me after lots of begging,she was getting angried only n agn n agn was saying that it is our last meeting & v wil talk but rarely & accept the fact that i am marrying,i asked her abt his husband she refused to talk anything she said i never told u bcz u were in exams n never wanted to give u tensions in exams but mom told you thats why accept the truth & forget me & leave me( i still dont have single proof that its true coz there are loads of things i have seen which indicates she was lieng maybe bcz of parents torture ? the kids being kids had lost the remote for it so i told him i had bought a universal one for him and i would give it to his mum when it arrives. and the next day i went to her house and there were a lot of our friends. you so much for your advice…i really think you are right. tell him he can’t fully commit to you, then you will cut him off from your life and move on. tell him you need some space and time and you’ll appreciate it if he respects your decision. so i know for certain he is still checking up on me..she got to know i am always onlinr then she blocked me by saying her sis got to know v again talking each other, then after sum days she changed her whatsapp status to sad one like killing herself with gun, i was started thinking what shd be happend,n worried so i went to see her agn near her office busstop , i was at long distance but she saw me then i tried to talk with her but she left that place by getting cab n after sum mins agn i got frm her mom n this time her mom very much angried . if you don’t trust him and you are not willing to listen to his advice and make sacrifice then he can’t help you. sometimes people say very mean things after a breakup just so their ex leaves them alone. he then mentioned that he hadn’t been able to eat since the morning before ( after i made him tell me to get out of his life . questions to ask a girl if you want to know who she really is. there’s no way you can know for sure if she still has feelings for you or she has completely forgotten about you. a few years ago, if you asked jane whether or not she would move this much fast in a relationship, she would’ve called you crazy. just before we broke up he said i would never be a doormat for someone its not fair. i want him back because not all guys are open to dating single moms and i’ve fallen in love with him. she always told me she would not date someone with kids. am sorry…i was wondering, do you think i should lose all hope on this? my i hastily asked my ex to try again and he said no and he doesnt think we can be friends either.” but no we got into a text-fight and i was confused as why he was so angry, it was all innocent, and he told me that he didn’t like the guy but wouldn’t give me a reason why. it can be a gut wrenching feeling to think about your ex boyfriend (who you still love with all your heart) in someone else’s arm. he seemed very excited that i started working out, he kind of seemed “proud”, he also used smileys a lot, like really a lot 😀 😀 he indirectly complimented me a few times saying that i am lucky because i have a nice body and therefore woulnd’t even need working out much and stuff. i felt more luke i may have been a rebound from his last relationship. when i asked her if she wanted me to walk away, she didn’t respond, she said now was not the right time to ask her about us, because she hated me for what i did. i was going to leave him be for a month then a weeks or so before coming test the waters with a few texts and mention id be in town for interviews if he’d like me to return some of his belongings . i followed and joined two formats one of yours and one of ryan rivers. and if she did end up being single what reason would she even contact me not saying to get together or anything like that but just in general. anyway, as of two days ago, i texted him for something. he said before he left that we’ll still see each other and exchange text messages. i didn’t want to break up really, i was just confused and for the first time, we didn’t communicate well and just walked away from all our years and history. if he doesn’t break up in the next 4 weeks (or 2 weeks, you decide), give him an ultimatum. i called and asked him if he had a girlfriend. the rose is symbolic & a little thing only we know. her mother send me today text message where she said something like ”congratulations and all the best for future” best regards she and her son (ex’s brother). i also know that my ex still cares and loves me somewhere in his heart. when we went to the theme park, he hugged me on my waist from the back which i think is really really sweet and i miss that so bad. during are break up after she met this person she wont talk to me , she ignores me and mind you i run into her in the street ? he will not leave her now; even though he has admitted that he wants to get back together in a few months and he has cheated on this girl with me… why won’t he just leave her now when it’s clear he still has feelings for me? he is apparently attending my family event in two weeks. former ex who is just married recently told me that she been thinking of me and misses me. i emailed her saying that i could bring her item to her one day the follow week and that i missed having her in my life. i made plans with her father that after she comes home from work i will go there and wish her happy birthday. right after break-up she said those things what were in my last messages to you (angry behavior) last contact was when i wished good for future her and she texted same for me. i came to the realisation that the time was not right for us and him breaking up with me has gave me the kick up the backside to get life back into gear. well me and my ex were falling apart we werent tell eacher how we felt or help eacher and then i was trying to help him but he kept pushing me away for this other girl and now there dating and i really miss him and want him back but i dont want the relationship we had i want like the one when we first meet were we told each other everything and trusted each other and were happy and in love and when he didnt push me away for other people so what do i do because i think he hates me now too and he wont talk to me really and if he does its not always a good convo between us……. the past 3 months, i have definitely been guilty of making all the ‘mistakes’ you mention in your article. i changed a lot about myself and my life… unfortunately he never contacted me during that time. i tweet the guy yesterday as he is going to see a movie i wanna see. it’s the most popular article on this website and i have seen this plan work time and time again. do you think there is a chance of us being together again or i should just try to move on with my life cause she was everything to me and i really want us to be back together again. it’s as if he never truly listens or care about how i feel,March 26, 2014, 1:36 pm. we supposed to see next week when she will return my last stuff for me. anyway – were together for a year when things started to get difficult between us, so i had to break the relationship off with him to give us both space to get ourselves back on track. i think you should try to accept the fact that he is being inconsiderate, unfaithful and he will probably never come back to you. is denying the girl because he doesn’t want to lose you. he also text me to ask how i was and wish my mum a happy birthday! (read why you should wait before getting your ex back). i texted her on christmas and a few other times to tell her we should talk but she was defensive and not willing. if she gets back together with you and she is thinking about that guy, you can deal with it at that time. that girl turned out to be his little sister’s best friend that she’s known since 2nd grade. i thought about him constantly through all the amazing experiences i had. anyways, talking to him made me go crazy and i ended up blowing up his phone which was a bad idea and he finally got angry and told me to leave me alone, he wants nothing to do with me, he gave me too many chances, hes seeing other girls. kinda feel like he’s talking to someone else anyway but because i know people don’t just get over people that quick i ant wrap my head around why he’s doing it when i’ve forgiven for saying stupid things as well. i am sending his mother a birthday card this week even though people have questioned my motives. when i cut him out of my life something is missing, he pushes me to be a better person, and i hate not having my best friend. bf and me have a nice stable rs for a yr till one fine day i was dumped over a new girl… who reminds him of his long ago xgf tt apparently still in his mind. today when i messaged him regarding some of his clothes he ignored me flat. next day i heard my ex had asked from her friend that do i know that my ex is going to germany to meet her exchange student friends and that guy, most likely. could you give me some insight into what you think it is? i was thinking maybe waiting until evening to reply and just say that i am on my way out and talk to you soon or something like this. i just let him do his thing because i think maybe this is the way for him to let his anger out that i was going away. he’ll try to keep himself in this situation for as long as he can. before she texted me i decided start no contact and follow 5 step plan. but you need to stop having sex with him until he commits. even though you feel like you will wait for him, you are not going to let it stop you from living your life. they fact that she hangouts and has sex with this other guy destroys me but i feel like she’s just trying to replace me. we broke up and about 2-3 weeks later i know he put himself up on a dating site. i am confident that those feelings will always be there with him when it comes to me… he just feels like im a distraction in his life because i take away his focus on important things…. but don’t be ashamed of yourself and don’t apologize for it..i was in shock, her mom started blackmailing me & i never wanted to face this to my family coz my parents are weak by health which my gf was knowing it,i cried alott, used to think agn n agn how this possible,after sum days i again forced myself to ask her coz it was driving me crazy,i tried to catch her many times, infact my one female frnd met her to discuss about how much i love her, my gf cried that time n said even i love him ,my frnd thought she will come back,my frnd after 4 days started calling but she ignored n msged her that i dont wana contact him, i dont wana talk with you n anyome then again i started to go near her office but due to her frnds group never able to meet but one day i able to meet her n i asked politely ki i wanaa talk she refused but i calmly asked then she said ok n then i started telling her how much imp she is for me,i cried very badly in front of her, i fallen in road while walking as i had no energy,but she didnt felt anything for me,i forcefully said her to hug me,she hugged me after lots of begging,she was getting angried only n agn n agn was saying that it is our last meeting & v wil talk but rarely & accept the fact that i am marrying,i asked her abt his husband she refused to talk anything she said i never told u bcz u were in exams n never wanted to give u tensions in exams but mom told you thats why accept the truth & forget me & leave me( i still dont have single proof that its true coz there are loads of things i have seen which indicates she was lieng maybe bcz of parents torture ? i don’t think either one of you is a rebound. what is really confusing me is that now he says he needs a bit of time just to work on himself and decide which side to fall on cause it seems as though both of us are willing to forgive his cheating ways but only if he chooses 1 of us. all you know that she is not a very understanding person, since she is not accepting your explanation for whatever happened. about 9 days later he initiated asking me if i hated him which i just responded with a simple no and continued the nc. just couldnt understand why he would give up our 3 years relationship over 3 weeks relationship when he barely even know this girl. we had just started college together and were both kind of on different pages in the relationship. i said before, you should remove her from all your social media.… i need your advice… so my ex broke up with me 5 months ago we dated for 3 years since i was 16 we had some good & bad times in our relationship. i couldn’t take it anymore, i blocked him out of my life. need some advice so me and my ex have been broken up for 3 months and just yesterday he told me he was with someone and before that we would keep in contact all the time but i was surprised when he said he was with someone else because it always seemed as if he would give me a chance he would compliment me and he would act sad saying if you have moved on i really don’t want to know the thing is, is that im in love with this guy and we’re i guess friends but im in love with him and i don’t want to give up on him i need help. he has been talking with a friend he’s had since childhood who is going through a divorce and i feel they have become emotionally connected on more than a friends basis., men do return if they realize what they are missing. she is proving day by day she don’t want me but i don’t wanaa loose her, i want to show her i have changed n i wanaa give her every piece of happiness , please help what should i do ! i am excited to see him, angry, hurt and scared at the same time. the only thing it’ll do is keep you in this obsessed state of mind. my new relationship was long distance and i could only fly to see my guy once a month. if things don’t work out, at least you can close this chapter and move on. soon, things will start to get better and you will be able to think more clearly about this whole situation. i stopped contacting him because he’d told me that it’s hard to leave his girlfriend. if it doesn’t work out, you’ll know it’s over and you will be able to move on. i’m sure she is in love with him besides the fact that’s how it looks. i always see him uploading new pictures of him and her, which is so unlike him. implemented much of your advice so far and i’m pleased to say that i have made excellent progress with not only regards to my ex but myself. i do noticed that lately, the communication is more there compared to me. i am currently going through a very strange ‘break up’ with my fiance of 4 years and there are some unique issues in our situation that are not really covered in your articles. i treated him unfairly and walked all over him, but i’m learning from the mistakes i have made and want to make things work because i love him unconditionally and i want us to be a family. hang out with him and if he talks about other girls, tell him you are not comfortable with such talks. but you do know what your life will be like with him. we had sex too and he would still hold me and rub my belly. i want really badly to get back together with him, now that i live in the same area as him but i don’t know if i messed up too much. i guess the best course of action is to stay no contact and wait for him to contact you. you can try the 5 step plan, but your chances are less. he is searching for a deep love- and was hoping to find it with me but hasn’t.. idk if he wants to get me back or he wants me back im so counfucied we talked like for about 2 hours and he told me that he wouldn’t leave his gf that his just calling me to help me and then he told me that he was goi g to keep on calling me every once in a while i need help im afraid of getting more attached to him i need your help idkif he misses me and wants us to have another chance with me im counfucied help. i then went into nc for 38 days and sent him a message asking how his new year was so far and he responded with “please stop talking to me would be greatly appreciated i am with my girlfriend right now” i respected that and have been in nc since. i said that my brothers baby make funny noise and maybe you wanted to hear it and i have nothing else. out of no where i get a text from him saying, i hope you had a great birthday. some people i know say she still likes her other ex a little bit. should i answer or even tell her that i know all of this? at first he said we couldn’t be together because he didn’t want to hurt me and he said i was still the love of his life. she blocked me on facebook immediately and i confronted her about it(bad mistake). it’s the kind of intimacy that is built with time and effort that a relationship requires. we chatted for some time and i asked her if she wants to go out for a coffee so we can catch up, she said she’ll see if she has any plans and she’ll give me a call i said no problem. practically that one year, i was just there as a thing and he has hurt me so much when his ex came into picture. i still love him from all my heart until i cried over to his mom for help because he does not want to listen to me at all. right after the break up, i went out with another guy but i realised that i really wanted to be with my ex again and i went back to him. he told me he was bad for me and i need someone better and to get him out my life. years, i am 32, she is 24 and she has a 3 year old daughter. do you think we will get back to together (i know it won’t happen over night, or even within the next month, but there is still hope right? but you do know what your life will be like with him. you are giving him an opportunity to keep dating a 19 year old girl and still have sex with you..we have kissed, sent numerous text, and talked behind her back for weeks now, but for some reason he doesn’t have the heart to kick her out. he texted me later on in the evening and then again 2 days later. was this meant to happen was i just the last person she wasted time on before realizing she loves her friend more then a just a friend as someone she could have life with. if you stay in contact with him, he’ll feel like that he has you and his new girlfriend both. he keeps telling me to be patient and he loves me, but honestly, i am starting to feel used at this point and i feel like he is just trying to prevent me from moving on. should i give her the letter where i explain the whole reason or respect the “no, contact”? so, i want to get this out of the way. he said that it’s almost the same for him, that he feels anxious next to me but thought that it could be funny to maintain a cool relationship. believe he does have feelings for this woman down in cuba, though i think it is mostly based on infatuation and his decisions and actions right now seem more emotionally based than rationally based. but now she has already cut the contact so i can’t explain the real reason for the breakup (i didn’t give her the hole truth for the breakup in desember). i couldn’t do because i didn’t want to mess my kids up (we have just had a major house move about 4 hrs away from where my ex and i lived) so couldn’t bring another new major change to them, obviously he could though. sent him a lengthy email saying i was sorry i messed up and that i hurt him, and that after we broke up i had done a lot of self-evaluation and i was sorry that i was so selfish and that i took him for granted. that’s why i get my doubts that maybe i am not doing everything right 😀 like he is making her more happy lately… if that makes sense? first thing that you need to do is stop contact with him. he said he didn’t want a relationship with anyone yet i am almost sure this girl is his girlfriend. most probably, you met him at a time in his life where he isn’t ready for something. if that is the path that you felt driven towards, you really should get help to find out why you have such issues within yourself. might try to convince yourself that the relationship didn’t mean anything to her and she was just playing with you. during the break we were still talking and texting and seeing each other. things were not going well with the distance , i moved to working night shift which made it even tougher for us to keep in touch , this led to arguing , but i think mostly because we really just miss being together., after that he stopped posting on fb about her (this was almost 3 weeks ago). or not you should try again is for you to decide during the no contact period. shes such a beautiful gal and we did have our more than our fair share of fights. about if he blocked my number… 🙁 just found that out today. no contact for another 3-4 weeks and text him again. so that confirm my suspicions… he came back from his trip and after days i text him if he was ok, he said yes and that he saw somethings that he wanted to buy for me and how he was going to help with the vacation that i needed so much. but i’m sure she thinks is really great which obviously she doesn’t see and probably couldn’t care about because they are best friends and they get along so perfect with and about everything even when physical intimacy was introduced and involved i sure she thinks that’s also perfect too. he changed his status to single write away on facebook. however, i’ve recently discovered that there most certainly is someone else in her life.• tonight, i found out that he started going out with the girl he went on a discrete date with officially. i had to make a hard decision again and i wrote her a text. what is there to possibly miss when you have had your best friend as your new boyfriend for some time and you love this guy. but i went out with my friends (mainly) had fun she found out and the other day she told me tht pushed her away, this was the same convo as the ear ring. i think her new relationship is most probably a rebound and you shouldn’t worry about it much. i feel there is a real change in me and that i have grown up and matured mentally, physically and spiritually. i’d be naive to say that just because it’s a rebound it won’t work, i’m aware it very well could, but in that just-less-than 2 month period since us breaking up and her getting this new guy she would contact me from time to time. And you feel like you’d do anything to get your ex boyfriend back. i asked him if he still often goes to these places and he said “noo, its hard for me to go to these places with my new lover, because we (he and i) always went there”. and my ex officially broke up a year ago, but somehow couldn’t keep away from each other. in my eyes, i was very close with his mum and in a way i feel like the mature one to wish his mum happy birthday while he can’t even talk to my mum. either she breaks up with the guy or you completely cut her from your life and move on. things were different since then, he was very sincere in working things out and shortly after that he left to uk for his studies. i can’t stand the thought of her being w this guy n just miss her. my exs friend had noticed this and told to her. about 3 wks back during the no contact period she texted me that she hasn’t done anything intimate with the person she’s seeing. during this conversation she told me “why be without someone who you don’t want to marry. kevin,i had read your all 5 steps but unfortunately i think its bit late for me,i am 23yrs of age and my ex is 22,we were together since 6 months from june2013 to dec13,but my possessiveness ruin our relation though i love her very very much,we were working together but break up cause me to leave the organisation which i was seeking from last 3years,after that i had tried to contact her in every possible from message to email,since last 4 months i was continuously text her because i thought time shouldn’t run away but she feel it very irritating and start to hate me more than she loved me,we were in great relationship but my few mistakes asked me to pay heavy price,but i really love her and she had also loved me alot,and i desperately want her back so please please help me out.’m also lost on if your dating a close friend someone who knows all about you and she knows about him. he messaged me saying happy birthday and asked if i wanted a present. she was amazed how i suddenly appeared there and nearly kissed me. know it’s scary that you don’t know what your life will be without him. my birthday will be coming up this week and last week when i visited my ex he asked me for my new address..I met his brother last week and we had a nice talk. all the signs look like to me she is moving on and is in love this guy and forgot me but it’s hard to accept after that how deeply she was in love with me and how much she missed me like 6 weeks ago (before break-up) and after that she doesn’t said even once that she missed me but she was angry for me but now she is nothing except cried the last time we saw almost two weeks ago. why not spend your time finding someone who can truly commit to you. no contact period is almost over but i fear i have made an awful mistake. i am more and more convinced that she is a rebound (no point explaining it all here) and i do believe i have a chance but i am not sure i want him back. now i have noticed he is back on a dating app and has put new pictures up. i know that she have feelings for that another guy because he was right place when we were at that break and my girlfriend was at the time very sad and he told her she is so beautiful and other stuff. remember, this whole thing was to just try getting him back one more time. rang and texted 5 times, i didn’t read them until today with another 5 messages on top of that. i’ll again revert you back to this comment and this comment. at the very start of our relationship (he was 29 – i am 5 years older) he needed space and went to therapy – one of the issues was he needed closure from his ex. it’s a case of gigs (grass is greener syndrome). if you want, you can tell him you need some time and space as well and leave it at that (it’s your decision since you’ve already established no contact and told him you are done. have read this article a lot trying to find something that was related to what was going on but i statred to see no connections. if he is still the same after a month, then you should move on. hardest thing i’ve ever had to deal with in my 30 years of life, without a doubt. she is totally opposite,of me and felt like i was slapped in the face. at first he said we couldn’t be together because he didn’t want to hurt me and he said i was still the love of his life. i know he did it because he cares but my ex will admit we have a strong connection, friendship and good sex but i think hes afraid of getting hurt again. this is the case, then you will have to let his rebound relationship run its course. well she claimed that her son wasn’t his and after a while she said it was and kept changing her mind and so she stuck to that her son was his. then we slowly started talking again thru text and phone. texted me saying that it’s probably best if we don’t talk anymore. i read your article on dis, i had been on a no contact unknowingly, cos i left for school but when i came back she sent me a message on social media apologizing for all the pain she caused me, and dat she wanted us to be just friends. i’m tying to work on things but this came up and it has been in my mind. i also made a mistake when i started asking him to come back because everything seems like my fault. if we start playing a lot of games its likely we will never get back together if we want to, so lets just take some time to think about it. missing someone is a huge part of the grief one goes through after a breakup. if you follow the 5 step plan, it probably won’t be ignored. doesn’t matter who has bigger boobs or a smaller waist, the one thing that is making you obsess over her is your ex, so don’t give him that satisfaction and forget about her! after saying he wants no contact he has been texting me. she didn’t ask much about my life but i was friendly and i shake hands when i was leaving. 8pm that night he put up a picture of himself in the exact same way, saying he was tired and hungover. it hurts so much to think that she is with that guy and it’s hard for me that i will see that guy this summer because we are working in the same hospital. left him alone for a week and tried to text him. this behaviour continued another two times, both of which i forgave. do you think this was a bad idea telling him my feelings? could this be a way for him testing water with me and hiding his feelings from everyone until he knows where he stands with me? this was 2 weeks after bu and right at that time he met this new girl. i said i respected his decision and when i asked if we could at least be friends he said ok., my name is mario, i recently was dumped by my girlfriend of 4 years. crazy as it is…i love and miss her…any thoughts or should i give up? but if he keeps on insisting, you should let him know that the kids don’t want to speak to him in a cordial tone and that you will appreciate it if he gives you some space and time right now. i am afraid that maybe it will push him closer to her because he is upset about me not talking to him anymore. but if you’re confident and happy, even if you start the communication, he’ll feel attracted to you again. thank you kevin for getting me through such a hard time, my head is all over the place as i’m nervous about what the future holds for me and my ex but it looks promising. kevin, so my ex broke up with me almost two months ago on my birthday. if she is still cold, you know you gave it a try and you can move on without any regrets.. this ex of mine, doesn’t want me to avoid him and he doesn’t seem to want me to move on from him. i explained that after 8 years this was like a divorce to me. one point he put a down payment on a wedding ring for her (he was in his mid 20’s at this time). which left me to continue to message through via fb trying to apologize and figure out why he would just block me and get angry over a mistake of a text. 4 months where she was dating both of us without the other knowing.. that my ex is the type of guy when being cornered or pressured will make bad decisions or worst stupid ones… i think the best way to deal is to let him do his thing… but does he ever snaps out of this? if there is a way i could just get some feed back it would be really great and helpful, because i don’t want to keep feeling like any day or two i am gone snap and lose it about all of this . he always hugs me tight when he comes and goes but all i get is a kiss on the cheek. if he still doesn’t contact you, you should try to move on. the fact the break up happened so suddenly for me, and the attachment to the daughter make it difficult ? so if you want to keep him, you better keep those attributes as well. so i wonder do i really want him back and if yes, is it a rebound that i have a shot? dont know kevin, i know he has some feelings for me in the back of his mind,,plz just advice what is the right way to make him respect me and value me in his life so that he comes back with full of love for me…thank u. shouldn’t tell him that you love him unless you signs from him that he is interested in you. gay pride is coming up soon just before his holiday and i know for a fact he will be there even though he hates going. yesterday i got a little drunk and planned a date with someone. do apologize for taking up and wasting your time lately. and you will definitely meet someone who will treat you with the respect and love you deserve. dated with my boyfriend 2,5 years, which half year we were engaged. i can make an educated guess from my experience, but it is still a guess. she posted up songs saying “i know these lyrics” and its songs about mising someone obv hidden meaning. it is a horrible time and i don’t see any light at the end of the tunnel. i ran into him at a bar, he was with friends, didn’t see his new girl with him at all. so in a way i feel i am moving on from that relationship and if we do get back together in the future that will be a brand spanking new relationship with all the experience of the past one. and he said he’s only known his new gf for 3 months and its probably not even going work out since he’s going to be gone for 3 months. , went to her house to sleepover , left her house picked me up for breakfast and then picked her up again… i know i said i wouldn’t forgive him but i miss him… this weekend i saw him and we had a perfect day, but yesterday he ignored me completely and this morning before him going to work he knocked on my window said he wanted to talk, that he would call me once he got to work , and he did, but then he told me he would call me in 30 mins and still hasn’t ……. my ex and i had been going out for almost 3 years before i broke up with him this past december right before new year’s eve. he came back and tried to surprise me but i didnt want anything to do with him. we have had so much fun together since i have been home and now him and his girl friend are broken up. or especially if there is a drug addiction which i suspect whether i should not let him have any contact at all with myself or the children either? shouldn’t affect much if you are not needy after no contact. confused why i’m getting told that i was important and i am misses more by a older ex then current one.. things with us were going so well recently but then a couple weeks ago, he went on a trip with his friends, and met a (gorgeous) girl who lives 3 hours away and i guess he got her number. i mean i want him back but then i don’t know because this situation really hurts and i don’t know what goes on in a man’s head i’m just still a little confused. wife started a new job 1 year ago and all was good as she said she found her dream job as time progressed she was always talking to me about a guy at work that she found really interesting but i let it go as she seemed pretty happy still with me… during this time i found a new job and had to do nightshift and she said she was not happy with the night shift but accepted it as i was think about our future and try to get ahead in life due to our finical difficulties. so it will be sort of like going back on your words). you can either wait for him to break up with him or better yet, concentrate your efforts in moving on. is there by any chance this new relationship of his could be an example of a rebound? you can use the checklist at the beginning of the step 4 in this article. funnily enough i had being thinking about him and us getting back together before i found this out. the problem was afterwards he was so insistent he didn’t want a relationship. at first i didn’t think anything would go on between them because of the type of girl she is. my ex was furious that i spoke to her parents and now refuses to speak to me. think that if he had really moved on he would tell me. later on throughout the movie he kissed me, i didn’t initiate. if you do get back together and the topic comes up you can tell him. took me to is family on his brother wedding day . got in an argument and he suddenly said he no longer wanted me and to stay out of his life. heard from his mom my ex is still asking about me, how i am etc thats a good sign right? just before christmas, something really bad happened to me involving another male taking advantage and of course i went to my boyfriend for support. and he said he’s only known his new gf for 3 months and its probably not even going work out since he’s going to be gone for 3 months. i didn’t want to get back together as it wasn’t practically possible to be in the same part of the country, and i didn’t want to be as miserable as i had been. he will be out by this week as im sure he will pass it., if he has a new girlfriend, and it’s not a rebound, then you have some serious trouble. how much time limit you give to yourself is completely up to you. i’ve started going to therapy to better myself and i’ve asked him to come with me, but unfortunately he has met someone else and is growing more attached to her by the day. we were very excited about it but also very nervous. what to do after that if she doesn’t break up with her rebound? she was really nice to me and i really love her a lot(i think i love her more than i loved anyone else). he took me to paris by surprise and after the trip. perhaps, you should leave him alone and let him find out what he wants in life. i just need a bit of extra time to let go of the past. now about 2 in a half months later i’m back in the same position i was in a few months back because he is still messing with the same girl & doing the same things he had been doing. i know it sucks but you have to accept that he is a jerk for doing this to you. basically, right now, he can have his cake and eat it too. i don’t know… finally we started talking a lot and this wasn’t good. this: 13 ways you know you’re dating a high quality woman. the bad thing is every time i see them i what to say some but it might ruin my chances of every getting back with him or us just been friends. the reason was over texting to much and due to me assuming and being insecure or questioning things. kevin,me and ex have been together for 2 years and a couple of months. it showed me the difference between being happy physical with someone and not really caring compared to actually caring for someone like my current ex who i would of done anything for. of all, what happened to your abusive boyfriend is not your fault. on mar 26 he suddenly messaged me, sharing his story regarding the issue he’s been facing at the office and he asked how my week went. later, while i was at therapy, he called me and told me he his girl found out that i wanted to see him and that she was upset (she didnt know anything! it’ll also give him some more time to miss you and maybe his rebound relationship will end till then. i don’t understand why he is not running back to me? ex boyfriend broke up with me because he has facing some issues with his job, so he decided that he “needed to focus on his career”, and doesn’t want a relationship right now. since you’ve already established contact and open communication, you should just take it slow, have fun and follow the blueprint in relationship rewind. which shows she is not over him and is most probably in a rebound. it makes me sad because he told me he doesn’t want anyone else and wants to focus on himself this year. i didn’t get upset or show jealousy just told her ok and to remember if she needs an ear i’m here for her. continued our relationship…all great…until…we had our first real fight about a lie he told me, we didn’t talk for 2 days, when we did talk (long story short – and after a lot of pulling teeth) he tells me he saw his ex during our fight and a lot of good and bad feelings came back. it is also my understanding that he is fresh out of a long term relationship so they may both be rebounding. i really want to show my ex the new improved me.. my ex and i have been separated for over 4 yrs. should i keep doing this then message her aftr 30days? after 30 days nc i sent him a text on a rainy day when i knew she was working and he was alone. after that, if you still want him back, get in touch with him..Anyway she finally tells me they are now a couple and removes me from her life (no fb, blocked my phone number). i am a very beautiful woman and i have been on eight dates trying to get over him..no contact isnt an option because of kids and pregnancy as well as house. can’t say for sure if he’ll trust you again and get back together. one the exam days, i wished him luck because i still love that guy and i was hoping he would reconcile with me. the morning after she posts up “off the see (boyfriends name here)” again this time with hearts. but now she has already cut the contact so i can’t explain the real reason for the breakup (i didn’t give her the hole truth for the breakup in desember). ex and i finally started talking after 5 months of nc and he is seeing someone else. however, in 2006 ( when we were 16) during the school holidays, it was very difficult to reach him as he was always away due to his chess tournaments but i found out that he initiated flirting with my good friend who is very much prettier than me and he even asked her out for a date. in fact, statistics show that 90% of the rebound relationship end in a breakup. said she loved her ex boyfriend(african american)and he was coming to work in orman near dubai so that they can start afresh. he also has this policy that he never goes back. so in a way i feel i am moving on from that relationship and if we do get back together in the future that will be a brand spanking new relationship with all the experience of the past one. we went out for bbq for lunch and then went back to his place and we ended up watching a movie. is trying to rub it in your face that she has a boyfriend. know it might seem pathetic that i’m still trying after a year apart but that’s how much i love this man and the father of my child. and i don’t think you should talk to him for at least 2-3 weeks after this. i think he might want to try again with you or maybe he is just looking to find a way to sleep with you. is is because she is tying to get over me or misses me, or does she actually hate me, or is this the kind of person she is now? do you really think he could have changed his mind within 6 months? my question is … do you think i can get my ex back ? we did long distance for 2 years, which was really rough but we made it. and my boyfriend were together for a year and a half and he just brakes up with me to get with this other girl. it’s an attempt to feel the same way you were feeling while you were in a relationship with your ex. your ex’s new girlfriend does not let him stay in contact with  you, and your ex boyfriend is agreeing to her, then this means that he has completely moved on and is heavily invested in his new girlfriend. i waited for him to calmed down and when i texted him he was already in love with the other girl. i really thought she loved me, you shouldv’e seen the intensity she displayed many times in our arguments. everything you are asking is based on the assumption that they have a great relationship together. what is your take is on him telling me to move on now? and i told him that i will not be his side chick and he said he knows and we keep having sex, twice monday, so a total of 5 times since they’ve been dating, they’ve been dating for 2 weeks now. only talk to him about the kids and your pregnancy. he told me last week that he was still in love with me, had feelings for me, and that he really misses me. the truth is, you can never know 100% if your ex has truly moved on or you still have a shot with them.

Breathless: Dating Is Impossible when You're Still in Love with Your Ex

i’m just wondering what i need to do to get him to see that he still loves me, he has told me he still cares about me but he is just confused about what to do. unless you can put him before your religion, you should not get back together. you want to find out your chances of getting your ex back? and what if the ex has read another website or talked to friends with a different set of such strategies. i made all the mistakes and we were ‘together’ two months after the break up. if he does get back with you, it’ll not be a rebound. i find out again that he went back to this girl and they were spending time again. if she does not let him talk or message you? and when he was leaving we kept kissing like if we missed eachother so much. he ended up kissing a girl while he was very drunk and told me he didn’t even know what was going on. he still cant explain it properly and is giving me bad excuses as to why. (ironically his new girlfriend is in it too) he posted a video of the song we played together when we first met as played on by trombones. long it’ll go on sort of depends on how fast he is able to sort out his feelings. you will miss your ex as you go through the grief process. this is fairly uncommon and it could mean two things. after 2 days he wrote on fb how happy he was, 2 more days he posted a love song for her, within 10 days from meeting her (he works double shifts so they only met like a few times i would say) they were already official on fb. maybe he was really just busy and didn’t how to respond to your text. we didn’t talk much after that then all of a sudden, 3 days later, i call her and she says she wants to get close to someone else; the guy she’s been texting. if i have to guess, he will be making all the moves and all you will have to do is play it cool and don’t be needy. i felt like he basically said fuck his family, because all it seemed like he wanted to do was be with her i realized. if i could get some answers in both these fronts? if still no reply, then you should consider moving on. in his words he always told me “i can never be with a hood girl” as in a ghetto girl. and yeah since they’ve broke up we’ve been hanging out, going out always… and he is the one who would always ask me out always. she said, “if you really wanted to marry me, you would have found a way. the love of my life and i broke up over a year ago because i found out he was doing drugs and lied to me about it so i broke up with him immediately and threw him out. so the next week i went and got the remaining things i had at his place she was there but he had her stay in the basement. in most cases, people have someone lined up before they breakup just so they don’t have to be single. your happy with each other so all is left is the sex am i wrong? i let my emotions get the best of me and i contacted the new girl telling her that my ex tried to see me in may (which is true). was her rebound guy… now she is in new relationship… she broke my heart in 10000 peaces… and now 4 months later im still in shit and she is in love with him…. remember, there will always be a part of you that will wish he fixes his issues and you can get back with him. this however, isn’t very far, just about 2 hours on the train. it’s good that you are doing nc and improving yourself. contact him after that using one of the methods in this article..he told his mum about moving out and she said he didnt look overly happy and i had said the same he looked somewhat sad, but i think that may have been wishful thinking on our parts. he also said that it’s possible to be friends again but friendships take a while to build up and wont happen overnight, he also adopted the attitude that if we become friends great if not then oh well. he told me yesterday, that he could really use my help since he decided to see a psychologist now and work on this pathologic behavior and he claims he still loves me. mom really likes me and calls me often and ask me to visit her and i do so. i knew he was talking with this girl he met on the trip and i couldn’t handle it. (read why you should wait before getting your ex back). been 3months since my ex and i broke up, and now shes seeing another guy. we started talking very briefly via texts a month ago and she’d respond to my texts but never initiated. she posted up songs saying “i know these lyrics” and its songs about mising someone obv hidden meaning. because there is a chance that he might not come back at all. the past few days he has been putting up attention seeking status’ and writing where he is going to be like he is waiting for me to turn up. the last year, things had been hard and unhappy in the relationship (particularly caused by financial issues). it is the most worst shock or punishment god must have given me for entering the no contact period. i have definitely changed a lot since our breakup and realized the mistakes i made in our relationship and i have been doing great on working on myself…. during this time he has never denied me support, be it financial, familial or whatever. finally told him that if he left her, i would give him another chance and he said thats exactly what he was going to do. if it didn’t work, you have to accept your loss and move on. said ” i should have said this earlier but i respect your decision to pursue your dreams and goals that you want to achieve. i’m in love with this guy and i don’t know what to do, the best thing is to move on but i love him too much to move on, he still asks me who i hang out with, and if i hanging out with guys, we’ve been together for 4 months and i need some great advice, please help me i’m in desperate need of help i don’t want to loose him and i feel like each day passes i’m loosing him! but don’t do it unless you are absolutely ready to cut him off from your life if he chooses the other girl., i found out that my ex bf started sleeping with one girl from work couple of days after our break up. she just wanted to do the exchange and leave, but she did mention the dating profile that i had re-activated. the reason he acted mean is because he is mean. says she needs to focus on her career and her social life, as one of our biggest problems was not spending enough time with friends. i havent contacted him since after i saw the picture and i will not do it… so i will follow your advice. i really want to show my ex the new improved me. me send me an email telling me how it isn’t problem with me,but him. we talked for a bit and then he said ” i still love you, but the phone calls and texts make me uncomfortable . i also think he is now with his housemate… he posted some photos on fb of them together and hid them from me. about maybe 3 or 4 months ago she text me randomly saying she misses what we had but i found out a month ago that she is engaged and now she is married and i never knew about it only cause i saw her facebook saying she was engaged and now it says married. it made me feel bad because he didn’t tell me anything about the vacation, and he said money was a big problem to him that time during the first time i asked what his problem was. i am using this experience as an opportunity for growth and to change myself so i only have healthy relationships from here on. it was extremely intense and we fell deep in love together. read this article to learn about no contact with kids. there is a chance that he will come back if his relationship doesn’t work out. hadn’t seen this so when he rang to speak to the kids i didn’t answer because i thought i should implement nc. i want to prove that i am a woman of substance whom he can rely on anytime but i know that is what makes him take me for granted and give me the pain without bothering that he may lose me forever…. next thing i see is that she changes her facebook profile pic to the one of her and the new guy. but don’t sleep with him while he is with his girlfriend. have some problems with my ex she left me because of my behaviour indeed we were in relationship for 4 years or more and i use to scold her for some reasons but i use to scold her because i use to care for her although a thing is that after we broke up she didnt want me and said she wants to br alone and she also said she also loves me and does take care of me but doesnt want relationship due to my behaviour and attitude i really love her and want her back as we also had the intimate part in our relationship as she use to help me now what i do to get her back please help. think you made the right decision by breaking up with him. we just one issue which is not having enough time to be together, and we’re already lucky if we get to spend 2 hours of dating in a day. have been right so far this whole time so i can see that before she made official choice for herself to end things she had already moved on and past me with simplest of ease even if she said she missed me or thought of me which i don’t see a true since she had already started seeing him more and more. ps prom is in two weeeks and he will probably take her not me. any case, i ended up telling him that i wanted no more contact and i was moving on with my life because i feel like he has had long enough and i am tired of waiting and hurting. as for reversing the roles, you can just stop texting him for a while. let him know if he is not willing to give you what you want and what you deserve, you must leave him. kevin, do you think i still have a chance to win her back from her ex boyfriend? we being indians and he coming from a rich family, it meant so much for me and he even mentioned to his friends gf that he made mistakes before and she is the one whom i will be likely marrying with. he also said that it’s possible to be friends again but friendships take a while to build up and wont happen overnight, he also adopted the attitude that if we become friends great if not then oh well. i just ended the 30 days of no contact and did exactly what you wrote in the 5 step plan. we had been dating for 3 years and when he broke up, he listed reasons like he wanted freedom, to be stress-free and he felt that the feelings faded. our tattooist told me he looked miserable and no where near as happy as i looked. what i don’t know is should i unblock him and allow him to contact me and tell him the reason why i walked away when im ready, because im not yet. this time i am going for the next no contact period. point i am trying to get to is after reading all these articles and comments and what not i still do not feel that there is any chance i can get her back not even with all the advise here, and especially since i feel that maybe she has been with this guy longer then i know about which makes me sick and really anger. but yet, here she is, rushing a relationship faster than a speeding bullet. in the last month we reconnected and my ex was showing clear signs he wants me back but he is seeing this 19 year old girl 7 years his junior, for 3 months, and. if he wishes you, just give him a simple thank you. i just am a very spiritualistic and optimistic person and feel that one day we will meet again. after 2 days he wrote on fb how happy he was, 2 more days he posted a love song for her, within 10 days from meeting her (he works double shifts so they only met like a few times i would say) they were already official on fb. if she ends the relationship, she will have to face all the pain and emptiness alone and she doesn’t think she is ready to do it yet. she tells me not to wait for her and she wants to continue seeing this guy. i waited for him to calmed down and when i texted him he was already in love with the other girl. i am pretty sure she will answer me if i ask a random question from her. is this a clear sign that i was never really anything to my current ex? and the truth is before, i’ve done all the mistakes said in 5 steps to get your ex back. all the signs look like to me she is moving on and is in love this guy and forgot me but it’s hard to accept after that how deeply she was in love with me and how much she missed me like 6 weeks ago (before break-up) and after that she doesn’t said even once that she missed me but she was angry for me but now she is nothing except cried the last time we saw almost two weeks ago. i was also working towards my final examination and the pressure was very overwhelming. we broke up last april and even tho i was crushed and he said he still loved me but was too stressed out in our relationship always worrying about me (he was cheated on in his past) i did let him down on a few occasions but thru-out the breakup we continued to sleep together, hang out talk etc even tho he said he didnt want the commitment. we met and discussed a little for what happened, he told me that he missed me the days after our breakup but he couldn’t make the decision to call me. tyne, the first thing i’ll recommend you do is tell him you need some space and time and start no contact. im just hoping he is starting to miss us and what we had as baby is due in 8weeks time and the other kids are missing him so much. he said he was dating someone and i want prepared for that..i dont know if i will be successful as i know he will message me casually in this period,,…. all happened, then he left for 3 weeks’ vacation with his family. take a deep breath, sort yourself out and go nc for a few months as he says. he confronted to me after his pre u , and he told me we should be together. i had to make a hard decision again and i wrote her a text. one of his friends said he saw me and left cuz he didn’t want me to be uncomfortable. her family likes me very much and my also but my father took too much part helping we back together and think it was huge mistake he sent couple of text messages for her and one was angry because of that she is dating that other immediately when we break-up. well since he told me that he didn’t give me that attention that he was giving me before the text was less, but he was calling me more and when we saw each other he was more loving and attentive to my needs in anything that i needed which had me confused. i think you still have hope, but don’t let this hope turn into an obsession (which happens far too often in such cases). today i was eating lunch in my hospital restaurant and that ex’s new guy was eating there also. we were very close and when you’re close with someone they can hurt you. also, 2 common friends told me (they don’t know we are back in contact) that he is not into this girl of his and that they got the impression he is with her just for the sake of it, but he doesn’t seem to have feelings for her (which i always thought)., if you're still hung up on your ex, you're gonna wanna know if he's dating someone else right? to make your ex boyfriend breakup with his new girlfriend. and the thought of it just being a rebound relationship is very comforting. i was getting text that said “borreedd what u doin ? i want him to realize that he made the wrong decision. i was too serious for him and wanted to marry him…despite all i still want to marry him and spend my life loving him,,,i have forgiven his faults. i was too serious for him and wanted to marry him…despite all i still want to marry him and spend my life loving him,,,i have forgiven his faults. i noticed on fb this girl put in a relationship the same day id wrote him the letter. years on the other hand he has we broke up 2 years into our relationship when i was 20 i stayed harted broken but eventually got over it had fun stop talking to him because he had someone else march of 2012 we started talking again we feel back in love and gave it another try we been togathet 2 years know so in december he got a new job who payed him nice we were happy planing a trip being happy i would do everything for this man cook him lunch wash his clothes i would wake up a 2 in the morning to help get ready for work around february he started to push me away he told he was hanging around friends so i thought not much about it but he would always want be around them so i got mad and had a few arguments with him but then february 17 he brook up with me he told he need space so i applyed the nc rule but failed when he called me 3 days later he asked if i could cook for him for work so like a dummy i did because i really loved him we talk and we kept the cycle like this tell saturday when i saw him a restaurant with a girl i fallowed him to her house and confronted him we end up in a huge fight we kept contact after that though the next saturday he called me to tell he was dating her but that it was nothing serious not to woory that we were on a break wnd there was a high chance we be back together sunday i found out the girl slept with a friend of ours so i told he got mad at me and told me he wanted nothing to do with me he got over that and said he dumped her he tried inviting me to a concert 2 days later but my family and friends told me it was not a good idea so i didnt go we talked the next day and asked him if he wanted me back in his life ever and he told idk so we didnt talk for 2 days after that he was leaving on a business trip but i found it wasnt true he took that girl out of town so i called really mad and he told to leave his new gf alone that he liked her that she nice to him not clingy needy or crazy that she was a way better person then me after that he called back and ask if i was feeling okay i told its his life im let do what he wants spring break came and i had a break down and called him to leave the girl not through away our 4. however, it doesn’t change your strategy and you should still follow the plan if you want to increase your chances of getting her back. im playing it all very cool and always positive and upbeat even though everything is bad but im generally positive anyway ao its not an act im putting on. i think that’s great and i wish you the best. right after the day he told me his choice, he started the relationship with that girl. that day, i saw on his facebook he changed his relationship status with the new girl. found out that after 4 weeks of being with this guy she decided she will move in with him and take her daughter with her. i am still madly in love with him and i probably messed up on all of your steps because i seem like a crazy needy ex now. if he meant what he said, then he will break up with her and reach out to you. i told him i didn’t want to ever be friends, i can’t be just friends with someone i am in love with. after awhile he put distance between us and all the old “we are not in a relationship” attitude came back. last june he came home from a mission trip and said he need time to think. they both have even said they never considered eachother romantically until now that everyone is accusing them of having something more, they get along and understand eachother so well and he’s so moved on from me already i’m afraid i’ve lost him. we later talked in the car where she told me that she was seeing someone but is torn between me and this other guy because i’m a great guy. kevin, do you think i still have a chance to win her back from her ex boyfriend? granted the day after she work the breakup email she texted me “i didn’t mean to hurt you. accepted the fact he is with a new girl, but still love him and want to have another chance together, but don’t know what to do? i know what happened to you sucked, but keep it in mind that it happened once, and if you get him back, it can happen again. no contact, if you’re still friends on facebook/have them on snapchat is it ok if they look at your posts? is a good chance he is in a rebound and he will eventually break up. i asked him what he wants to do and he said “the only thing i’m worried about right now is making money. just dont know if this is a sign him contacting me again last night? name is matthew keller, and last december i had a bad breakup with my ex-boyfriend, spencer. have to give him some space and let him realize on his own what he’s missing. he texted me to meet up with him the other night because he needed someone to talk to. until i found out about her we had been meeting about once a week and discussing our relationship, and he had hinted about me moving to texas with him after graduation (college) in 3 months. broke up with him through a pretty harsh text but did not expect him to actually go along with it while he was home on christmas break. if she loves me she doesn’t act like this but i know that she enjoys this situation. your website has been very insightful, helping me approach my breakup bewilderment in a more healthy and productive way. if still no reply, then you should consider moving on. he called me by the pet name when we were friends, rather than when we were dating. it took him ages to reply but then he said it was nice seeing me too, after all this time. she recently reached out on email just thanking and asking if i was doing well. i think he has moved on and he is committed. can only get over him if you stop contact with him. how is nc rule gonna work when in between i need to remind him on financial stuff (he owe the bank thru me). an hour after posting this he retweets something i retweeted.’s possible that he never got over his ex in which case it’s probably not a rebound. he became interested in someone else before leaving then ended up seeing her ( he says they are only friends who sleep together) and has been seeing her for almost 3 months at least., you can’t make him breakup with his new girlfriend. he has been dating her for about 4 months now and it appears that a lot of the time he just picked up their relationship where ours left off but i don’t know. the girl is controlling which is sort of a red flag for most guys. it wasn’t really the case that i saw him with someone else and then i missed him. so let’s just assume that you are right and she is happy. also i want to say in advance that english is not my native language. i am pretty heartbroken, and feel that i should move on with my life. he kinda looked like he missed me the way he looked at me according to my friends, i didn’t look at him. he is still we that girl for the last two years and their relationship became serious from the first months. if i had this feelings for her everything have gone different but it’s too late like my ex said after break-up :/ after break-up i said that i don’t want that they see each other and she got angry and said i thought that one day we can be together but not anymore. he finally contacted me about giving me my stuff back and he looked so miserable. that day he told me that he misses and thinks of me a lot but not in the way he thinks he should miss a gf and that he’s not over “us” but that he still thinks his decision was the right one otherwise he would have come back to me… but i think even if he thought the decision was wrong he wouldn’t just because of the consistency. the love of my life and i broke up over a year ago because i found out he was doing drugs and lied to me about it so i broke up with him immediately and threw him out. well since he told me that he didn’t give me that attention that he was giving me before the text was less, but he was calling me more and when we saw each other he was more loving and attentive to my needs in anything that i needed which had me confused. but him contacting you can mean a of things and over analyzing it is not going to help. i love the fact that you are a man and yet you are helping women understand the mind of a man and also i was wondering if you have a e book out or something of the like? i did all the things that was written in your no contact period like hang out with friends, have a vacation, spa, focus to something like work and so many. about the only thing she has said in past is she misses me but never that i meant something or still do or was important. can’t say for sure if he’ll come back. broke up with my ex 3 months ago because he started flirting/texting with this grl he works with. then i went to look a game on the television. she said when i was on my trip she holed up at home, didn’t hang out with anyone and envisioned herself in the future, realizing i’m not the person she should be with. been in nc now for around 3 weeks, but i miss her and obviously her daughter who for 1. new boyfriend is one of her close best friends who has had feelings for her for long time more then just friends. don’t know what to do… my ex fiancé and i were together for nearly 10 years but broke up 9 months ago., my ex boyfriend dumped me after 4 years, i started a nocontact for 2 weeks then he contacted me, he told me that he ws with someone else but still in love with me, and he wanted me back. four days later i was told by a mutual friend that he was also seeing someone else and had been doing so 2-3 times a week for 2 months! this was going on for about 3 months so i decided to finally give in&give him another chance. he still wants me in his life and has arranged to call me to catch up later in the week. just wanted to comment on your suicide attempt, no one is ever worth anything that serious. im pretty sure the reason he split up with me was because he was scared to lose me as i kept saying i didnt know if i wanted to be with him. but we didnt talk or anything like that until one day i started texting her. the other end of the spectrum, there are exes who will try to hide their new relationship from you. can’t say if she will decide to be friends with him if they broke up. however, he is always warm and open and there were times when we even talked for about an hour at a corner of the building’s third floor. for my ex, after 5 and a bit months she’s still been simultaneously hiding her relationship (ie, “it’s not official”) and rubbing it in my face (all kinds of tweets, photos of parties with him/things we used to do, etc). i have been reading your emails and have been no contact since our last visit.” and he replies with “i don’t care, if i got into a car with a girl that you don’t like it would be like world war 3”..so she used to say that i will die n you will be happy forever means she wanted me to be happy n if i showed her that i moved on then maybe she will like it coz i always blamed her for every single thing,today i realized how much wrong i did . is it a rebound when your dating close friend you both alrwdy know everything and get along great. you have to give him just enough time to miss you, but not enough to completely forget about you. texted him (because speaking to him i would not have been able to control myself) that the kids dont want to speak to him and they will need some space and time. he has said he is staying until he has money to get a rental flat then hes out. if you can’t seem to do it by yourself, you should seek professional help. however, it is undeniable that my decisions to try fix things and act kind and caring towards him has been bringing him closer back to me. sometimes i would stop talking to him for a week to see if he cared and did he would call and text me also he would get mad if i didnt tell him where i was at and with who . just texted me ”thanks for your message, i wish nothing but good and good luck for your life”. the next day he said it shouldn’t have happened and won’t happen again and he’s sorry for givin me false hope and called it a day. he then told me he couldnt meet for a coffee this week as he was swamped. i am devastated all over again i love this man so much and we have been through so much together. so we started dating for another 3 to 4 months again and now she broke up with me again a week ago. before he left we went out for a drink and that i could give him his belongings back. he wasn’t going to give me another chance and that isn’t going to change. the thing is, my boyfriend and i haven’t officially broken up in the sense of verbally confirming it, however after numerous arguments over the telephone and him continuously hanging to the telephone on me, i decided to block contact with him and not allow text/ phone call communication. i made a huge mistake in a moment of stress, and now i am full of regret. which is also contradictory because one of the issues with me was i “didn’t know what i wanted in life. he got a new picture with his new girl captioned “life companion”. and that is not a quality you should look for in a life partner. i reckon your the one with the problem not the kids. especially if the relationship with the ex was so messed up as is in your case. (i had his birthday gift that i needed to give him which i had been saving) he said no, after a little bit of persuasion he said maybe and he will think about it. he will be out by this week as im sure he will pass it. i don’t understand why she would miss me if you are happy with your friend. he asked me if everything is really good, and i said, “yeah, i just wanted you to tell me the truth and you did. in the meantime though, before we rediscovered each other, she got married and had 2 boys with a guy she eventually broke up with. he is going to ignore you, cheat on you, disrespect you and then come back and ask for forgiveness. when we were discussing this i asked if we were still friends at least? that is weird why she can’t just say all the best for you also but just stop contact me. if he just lost attraction, then this article is a good way to rebuild attraction with him. need to stay, as i was really worried that if she didn’t have someone there to look out for her, she wouldn’t get better. this time, take things slowly and build attraction before confessing your love. just because they have hope that if they go for someone completely different, they’ll find happiness. there were days in my house where we had to sell off the scrap metal for food but i never felt bad about my life. before he left we went out for a drink and that i could give him his belongings back. i’m confused and i’m sure he is too. let him know you need space and time and you will only be talking to him regarding the baby and nothing else., you can contact him after another couple of weeks, but if you don’t feel like going through it again, then you definitely shouldn’t contact him. she thinks perhaps it’s because she is not as close to garry as she was with you. i am not sure i would be able to forgive him this and trust him and be all confident he wouldn’t do it again. start building attraction and if you think he is attracted to you enough, ask him if he wants to get back together. wise kevin, i need a short advice again 🙂 i have followed all your guides and all the advice you have given me and they were all very helpful and things are progressing very well. i know it seems like the plan is meant to be about playing mind games, but if you notice, a huge part of the plan (step 2) is about self realization and self-improvement. can’t say for sure if he’ll trust you again and get back together. i have make some mistakes and i know that she deserves better treatment. even if you want to get back together, initiate no contact for at least 60 days. i had just seen my ex and my head was just messed up. can only get over him if you stop contact with him. it will be better to just cut your losses and try to move on..i know i have already lost my chance as he has moved on and is very happy with another but please please please tell me is there still a hope. new girl knows he just got out of a long relationship and when she asked him if he was on a rebound apparently he said he wasn’t. i thought he was starting to yell at me but instead he started bawling and said” do you know what the worst time of my life was? what i didn’t understand is his need for having to communicate that with me when he told me that he dont love me anymore. i love the fact that you are a man and yet you are helping women understand the mind of a man and also i was wondering if you have a e book out or something of the like?, you can’t make him breakup with his new girlfriend. she still is seeing her friend and looks so much more happier then she was before. during no contact, you will realize whether or not you should get him back in your life. i joined the college he is at last year and the first 3 months (first term) was great, so so so good. my battery had died and when i charged it he had text me an hour before. and my ex were dating a little over 2 years and about a week after she broke up with me , she already found another man. i think this has brought us to become friends again and ive blocked the guy that caused trouble by telling me that my ex is a no good idiot who is jealous and gave me up but dont want me to be with anyone else. yes, there is a chance that he might forget about you, but it’s a chance you have to take. and i finally told him what i felt about that picture and how i don’t hate him i just wish him the best and not to worry i wasn’t going to send him anymore messages. advise is to move on and start dating someone else. most confusing thing is that he text me out of the blue. And you feel like you’d do anything to get your ex boyfriend back. i’m not sure if i’m at “deaths door” or “indifference”?. but the problem is, another guy came into the picture and so my ex boyfriend during that time thought that i broke up with him because of the new guy, which was not true. kevin ,my case is very different,v were in relation from almost 4 yrs in which we were best buddies before that 4 yrs means frm last 8 yrs v knws each other,v met on orkut,i hd gf that time, i used to share evry single thing abt my relation to her,then she started falling for me,she proposed me, i said no,cz i wanted 2 be her best frnd only n i was loyal wid my that another gf,still she wanted me,so every time she used to make me feel n total 13 times she proposed me,der was sum other rsn of family issue thats why also i never wanted to mess my best frndshp,then i had to ignore her bcz of her behavior,then she got bf in college,but unable to b hapy then she msged me to she want to get rid off that guy, i helped her,till time my another gf cheated me i was so depressed,in that time,my this gf started taking care of me n i falled for her,v came in relation,it was good untill she was carefull,Frm last yr everything started messing coz she unable to give me time & love due to job n i started expecting more cz v used to meet daily,talk daily n now i was crazy for her n day by day everything was stopped,she used to fear me alott coz i slaped her & abused her when i got to know her past relations which i got to know from her fb ids n yahoo chats,i was helpless to be overreated n i apologied for that mistakes,eveytime i used to talk rudely bcz of her no love n no timing policy,last year in one fight i called her home n her dad picked up the call, her dad got to know abt our relation,they checked her mobile n saw my abusive msgs for her family, so she told everything abt me,n from that time all messed,we used to talk about marriage also but from that day she lost all hopes of marriage n everything, she started giving me very less love,still i managed to get her back,in between of this last 1 yr her parents got 2 know 3-4 times that v r in relation agn,but sumhow she managed that time n sum days i used to make her fall me agn, now from last mnth again sumthing her parents got 2 know n she started ignoring me ,i waited 6 days n asked her rsn on call many times,but every time she refused n ignored me,then on 7th day i went to ask her near her office bus stop, she saw me n started saying go or i will inform my dad,i was shocked with her behavior, she refused to talk, i was clueless i said i will do sucide if u dont talk to me,listen me lets clear but she agn n agn said to go,she even called her mom, n grabbed her cell,n pulled out its battery,ppl started staring at us so i told her lets cross the road n i started moving but till time she taken the help of vehicle & left that place & i started searching where she gone , after some 35 mins i got call from her number & she said talk with my mom,yes she informed her mom that i came to meet her to force her, her mom abused me insulted me, her mom said isnt she told u that she is getting married …i was like what ? seems harder now cause we didn’t just text for a day she called from the blue asking to come over and she seemed kind of happy to see me. i don’t understand how he could just have met someone else already especially as he works like crazy and his parents hadn’t even been aware that we had broken up until i told them. but it’s still significant if you two had a good connection. didn’t reply to this, however is this a response that he does still care and he really was just confused? im now gonna apply the no contact rule, but is this a rebound. for a few months he was great, but i never demanded he say i am his girlfriend. i just wanted your opinion my ex has started to do some strange behaviour. i don’t know what my ex see this guy i think i’m better looking and smarter than him but i know he seem like more manly than me and he is two years older. he’s been sleeping with loads of other women when they were still together, he’s left her alone while their son was born (to get back with her later) and now he’s only spending time with his son maybe once every two months, not really showing any interest, yet playing the victim in front of everyone. if she is still cold, then i’ll suggest you give up hope and move on. every photo he puts up of himself he looks miserable and i feel he is waiting for me to call or text. this is so long i just wanted to make sure everything was there.? i have no idea what is truth n what is lies, but when v had relation she never told abt marriage & but it is also true that she chats 24hrs these days even though she gets tired from office works,if its bf i can get her back with ur help coz i have seen her true love before , you know her love forced me to accept 14th proposal. you decide to pursue him, you should be prepared to handle his hot and cold behavior and not react to it. but if he replies and you get your answer and are ok with it, then i guess it’s good. if he decides he wants you again, don’t be so quick in taking him back. even though, she usually waits three months before sleeping with someone she is dating, she makes an exception in garry’s case; simply because she thinks that sleeping with him will make her forget about you. when first time i saw her i was like your all different she agreed she is into things she was not into before but all of a sudden? is i always used to say u r worst,u did everything bad with me, everything happens bcz of u ,my ex was better than u,i usd to blame her lott cz seriosly she not even meets me easily, i used to make her feel that dear m ur bf n v r in relation. but i don’t know if i should expect him to talk to me again or not. she doesn’t respond (which is unlikely in your case), then it’s your decision whether to pursue her more or move on. it’s hard to tell his reason for breaking up though. she said she does not see us getting back, not meant to be, etc… i brought up lies that she said, and instead of apologizing she yelled “dont you ever call me again” and sent me a text that said “have a nice life!– he is looking for small contact when we are together, like grabbing my arm/leg jokingly, leaning closer to me etc but never really trying to kiss me or anything, but i respect that and i don’t think he will try anything as long as he is still with her even though they might be on the verge of breaking up. and think really hard if you want to get back with him. she started seeing someone pretty much immediately, not sure if she left me for him or what. and he feels like he can just walk in and out my life anytime because he knows ill always be their my “friends” tell me im dumb and he isnt going to change. was (am) basically just the complete opposite of his ex wife. and you will have no security and stability if you decide to stay with him. kevin so me and this boy was bestfriends we been talking for about 2 1/2 years we went together for 10 months but we broke up because i believed what other people told me over him and we argued about him trying to talk to other girls. and read the 5 step plan, if you didn’t read it already. in fact, if you are already friends with your ex’s new girlfriend on facebook, you should de-friend her or adjust your settings so she doesn’t continuously pop up on your news feed. give him some time, and if he doesn’t contact you, you should contact him and ask him if he cheated on you. you think the game is up or shall i wait a few weeks and try make contact again? can’t believe that they’ve moved on so fast, so you consult your friend, search the internet and everyone seems to say the same thing. all you have to do is follow the 5 step plan to get your ex back and you will most probably have him back in your arms. i said it was ok for him to take his time and if he wanted to be single for a while i was ok with it, but when i asked if we’d get back together in the future he said probably not. rebound relationship is simply an attempt to fill a hole in your life that was left by an ex.. i’m not sure whether this is a rebound or not and if i have a chance to get him back or not too? if i go nc he will not be able to blame me for anything. it hurt but i feel like he is playing games. soo now today he told me i couldnt do something because he was talking to someone. if you’ve been keeping tabs on her (via mutual friends or checking her emails or facebook), then you are not really following the no contact rule. i will advise that you forget about him and move on. also a few days ago she told me she still liked me bus she misses the old me and she will back with me if i be the old one maybe (i think i said this before). but then he said he likes her and wouldn’t be with her if he didn’t. ex broke up with me back in december because he wanted time to focus on himself and his activities. he is now dating his ex girlfriend from 11 yrs ago who cheated on him more than worse..she got to know i am always onlinr then she blocked me by saying her sis got to know v again talking each other, then after sum days she changed her whatsapp status to sad one like killing herself with gun, i was started thinking what shd be happend,n worried so i went to see her agn near her office busstop , i was at long distance but she saw me then i tried to talk with her but she left that place by getting cab n after sum mins agn i got frm her mom n this time her mom very much angried . i know you feel like that somehow if he understand how you feel and he listens to what you have to say, he will come back; but in my opinion, he won’t. after discussing about it for a while i admitted to him (on the phone…) that i had never friendly feelings for him and that i want him to be more for me. my point now is i want to get him back. the whole mess blew my mind and i was somewhat disrespectful to her and at times harsh while away from me. ex an i have been together almost 10 yrs have 3 wonderful boys together well she broke up with me in june but we stayed in the same house till october she went back to her moms an i got my own place we both have the kids 50% of the time. i also didn’t want to cut him out of my life as i guess i still had feelings for him. but i know that it’s over there’s nothing i can’t do but usually i think that everything is possible and i’m not a person who gives up but i have done so many mistakes in relationship and after that. i took a girl out but never slept with this person. i met my ex march of last year and we broke up in september. he told me the girl he was dating is now his girlfriend and he didn’t think it was a good idea for me to contact him ever again. every photo he puts up of himself he looks miserable and i feel he is waiting for me to call or text. i started to change those bad habits, but the result was not significant yet. i asked why he cried if he didn’t want to be with me and he said bc he still loves me and that it’s sad that it’s over but it’s time to move on and we’re not going to be together. finally told him that if he left her, i would give him another chance and he said thats exactly what he was going to do. everything we had planned is now on pause, we were planning on moving in together anytime soon now but i guess that’s all behind us now. kevin told you what to do, but obviously you are not ready/willing to listen. most confusing thing is that he text me out of the blue. it has turned out that it is her new girl who has demanded that she has to cut the contact. i heard through mutual friends that she already had dinner with his family ( something we never did together) . i think it’s because we were such good friends before we started dating. i messaged him apologizing saying that it was the last thing i needed to do regarding him and he said that asking to meet up with him to gain closure is okay but not to give him any gifts. she was totally devastated because of this and asked who will be there for her then? i never asked him to do this, it came from him. some people keep someone lined up for dating before breaking up just so they don’t have to be single for longer than a few days. i still have sum hopes n never wanaa giveup unless i get to know she is really happy with her bf/husband, you are the only hope/god/frnd for me now,i will do everything even its painfull to get her back,Plz answer this i searched aloot but never able to got answers which are regarding how to behave on whatsapp/social networking sites :1)how should i behave on whatsapp i mean i believe she unblocks me atlst once in a week to check my status n dp . a few days beforevalentine’s day i texted him (sad, i know, but i didn’t text him so i wouldn’t be single for vday haha). and think really hard if you want to get back with him. did nc and he called and emailed me on the 21 day, he said he got worried, i responded as saying i am ok after two days through email, we started emailing again but the issue on us was not resolved, now he posted his new girl on his facebook, i dont know if its rebound or what, can i go no contact again? he came and got into bed with me and we have been kissing and cuddling in bed. he’s still with his rebound nearly five months later so if the man i love is still going strong with her, i don’t want his belongings left here forever. they would even get into text fights not talk for a few days and she would text back and apologize (which she would never do in the past) he told his friend he wants to move fast and even marry her. if he contacts, just tell him that you can’t contact him for 4 months and you’ll appreciate it if he doesn’t contact you either. story short, my ex girlfriend dumped me randomly (stopped having sex with me about a month before) so maybe no so randomly. i text him and next thing he’s angry and blocks my number again. if i had this feelings for her everything have gone different but it’s too late like my ex said after break-up :/ after break-up i said that i don’t want that they see each other and she got angry and said i thought that one day we can be together but not anymore. is now in a relationship, he has moved overseas and i’m sure the girl has not gone with him. where he’s living is one of his baby mamas house. this time is different, right after our fight he immediately started dating someone else besides me in 3 1/2 years. we begin, did you read my step by step guide on how to get your ex boyfriend back? read this article that said rebound relationships are actually good for you. until at one point i realise that i am madly in love with this guy. did this because i want to continue my life and forget her. went through similar situation my partner at the time left me basically to be with someone else he recently phoned saying he wanted to marry me at the same time he was trying to get rid of her it hurt me i couldn’t stop brining it up but lately i have stoped begging him or calling him for i shouldn’t have to be brave i also joined the gym which help . we said we should take a break to miss each other for some time, we missed each other soo much after 3 days, but we said that we can’t do this for next month, so we broke up saying we should stay only best friends. ex was already married when she messed him up and abruptly stop contact after the dates. if you get back together, there’s a good chance he will cheat again. if you think he is attracted to you enough and have been warm to you for a while now (without being cold to you), then you can. could not bear with it and i tried to get him back by all the wrong ways (just realized it after visiting your webpage :'( ) for month and a half: texting a lot, calling few times, sending him a long letter… he replied me he wants to be alone with the “it’s not you, it’s me” excuse then ignored all my later messages. i wished her a happy birthday the other day, and the conversation was small. he had told me before with his other baby mama that he couldn’t stand her when she was pregnant and that he hated her.. untill one evenning i text him and told him that i still love him, then i realize that he started avoidng me now. if you’ve already read it, here are a few more articles that i highly recommend you read. she is of different religion like his ex gf and she was practically hanging over him. i explain in the article, her relationship is probably a rebound and she isn’t as happy with her life as she seems to be in social media, which is why i recommend you stay away from her online profiles. i have so much going for me now and the only thing missing is the love of my life. there’s a good chance she is not as happy with him as you are thinking in your mind. i have invested so much of my time in this relationship. this time he showed no sign of real kindness or heart towards me. he had an ex that he knew her and her family (best friends with the brothers) for 11 years now. i feel like he doesn’t want to be with me yet he doesn’t want me to be with anyone else. i changed a lot about myself and my life… unfortunately he never contacted me during that time. i tried talking to her the other day on the phone asking her to please just stop with all the negativity towards me and gave her my honest opinion as her friend that she is drinking too much and that i’m upset she is letting guys use her, i think that really made her mad because she is back to ignoring me again. things were moving forward slowly and a month ago we went to a concert together, which he initiated an where he actually told someone i was his girlfriend.’ve been together for a year (1 year and 15 days to be exact). have been with my, well now my ex, for 3 years. i hitted his limit and he created new facebook account and added his family and relatives only. he never really got over his ex and never really got closure. but him telling me hes done he sounded pretty serious and cold and distant but then still offered to be there for me if i ever needed anything. remember “anything could happen” stay happy stay strong and dont let your ex rule your life no matter how much you love them. he made out with me for the first time at his old house and he will hold my back and say that there is no feelings but he still makes out. here i was planning to spend my life with this woman, and now its nothing. he said i cant help him achieve his dreams and then we resolved the issue and we were working on coming back together till he found out there were 2 guys who i was friends with. so i am taking my time to decide this first and then i will go from there. we were dating and seeing each other for roughly 5-6 months. he is proud for having her or maybe she has accommodated his needs better than what i did but i guess i have had lost the race. if you do get back together and the topic comes up you can tell him. while i do believe creating space and time is productive, i’m in a situation where the ‘no contact’ period is impossible. otherwise, he wouldn’t have started contact with her even though he knew that he is risking his current relationship by doing so. it was pretty much out of the blue since we were celebrating and the next week he told me he needed space, time…he continued to tell me he loved me and that he wasn’t going to leave, he just needed space. maybe 4 or 5 days later he texted saying he heard two songs the night before ( our songs) and that he hoped i was finding things to smile about . but the next day when i got on facebook i check his page n i see he had uploaded a picture of him and his girlfriend on the night he didnt reply back to me. about 5 days after we broke up she told me she was already with this other guy. she broke up with me, saying that she needs to get her life together and is terribly sorry for using me in this way, but my feeling is that the real reason is that i’ve really done a bad job in handling and embracing all this complicated stuff with her ex. why would he have sex with me if he really loves that girl? my ex emailed me the other day saying he’s trapped and his new fiancé is pregnant and she’s screwed him over and he hates his job and asking for help from the people he emailed. her relationship and her level of happiness isn’t really going to get you any results. ( again not saying that there is any chance in heck that we will ever be anything ever again nor let alone if she ever will talk to me. she saying she misses me and thinks of me at random times just like my former ex and i don’t want to see that all this time she is having best relationship ever with her best friend and find out they are engaged then married. after awhile he put distance between us and all the old “we are not in a relationship” attitude came back. it’s hard to tell his reason for breaking up though. i had lost him before to a ex gf when i trusted him almost 100%. but i cannot tolerate all this misbehavior and how i just became a sex slave for him without any intimate love. but after his girlfriend found out he suddenly wants to commit to her and she forbids to have contact with me. so this makes me even wonder what does he really feel about her? i was beginning to accept this but then 4 days after he broke up with me he changed his status on facebook to ‘in an open relationship’! you are looking for a time to reach out to your ex, as soon as he starts dating someone else is most definitely not that time. is he already so invested in this new girl that he’s trying to completely take me out of his life? then she texted me two hours later: i guess i just called you by accident. three weeks of further no contact, i contacted my ex and we resolved all the issues and answered all questions regarding our breakup. for my english it’s not my native language and thanks your sites are very helpful. you know after you told not to do the nc rule yah i broke it yeasterday not on purpose though my ex end up calling me at six in the morningon his mom cell phone crying that he made a mistake and the he left his 80 for his 20 and that he missed me and loved me after that he told he would call me back later i felt on top of the world thinking my ex wanted me back in his life he called me later that day but it went south he told he didnt deserve such a great girl like me that it wasnt fair to me if we got back togather because he already slept with his new gf he told he wanted me to live life and go explorer whats out there but im not like that ill date but not sleep around he told he couldn’t leave his new gf because she hasnt done anything worng pluse he likes how she dosent make him his whole world like i did i told that i could change but he said he didnt belive that because ive always been like that with him i got mad and told that i had a one nighter just because i was angery and he told its fine do what i have to do i also told i could live with out him he told me good show me honestly this break up has emotionally drained me to the point that ive hit rock bottom im so confused you tell that im an 80 and your new gf a 20 but he treats her like the 80 and me like the 20 im sick of all the bs i love him and care for him but is this a total lost cause idk know what to do anymore. me and my ex split about 6 weeks ago and i asked her several times especially when she became more distant and easily angered toward me. but i have been doing well on not texting him unless it’s about our daughter. it’s a case of gigs (grass is greener syndrome). he told me the girl he was dating is now his girlfriend and he didn’t think it was a good idea for me to contact him ever again. i wasn’t just comfortable doing that at my house and i told him that, because i wanted him to feel that my parents’ house isn’t really the best place to do it. what if he has no response to my no contact after 60 days or something, should i keep on no contact? we began fighting about his distance and odd behaviors for the last two months where i would go through periods of not talking to him and then when the other ex boyfriend died at the end of november 2013 he immediately contacted me to be there for me. me and my ex were together for 5 years, we had a child and were quite happy. so in five months from our break up he’s got a new girl pregnant, made her his fiancé and now contacting me. please advise because it would be a turning point for me. not showing love, putting other people’s opinions in front of his, lying, being too clingy, terrible awful breakup that took over two months and therapy. and my boyfriend dated for almost two years, we would go through rough patches and good patches, but after we took a break for the first time it changed, we were really happy after the break for about two months, but then after that it was horrible, he didn’t like my parents and they didn’t like him, soon it was pretty constant fighting and i always got blamed, about six months after our first break he completly stopped talking to me, the last text i got said hey :)! in the websites there’s said that book it’s so powerful and you have to be sure that you want your ex back if you give it. met online, and i’ve been trying to meet someone new on there. my boyfriend felt that he still has feelings for her and that he loves her more than he loves me and that’s why he ended things with me. if things don’t work out, at least you can close this chapter and move on. if she contacts you, tell her you need space and time and start no contact. i am pushing myself not to text or call and to be honest i deleted his number anyway. i said your welcome and then immediately he replied “lets meet up when i come back from my holiday…” now this brought on shock, nervousness, horror, happiness and excitement all at once.” so, you can see where the confusion is coming from right? afterall i couldnt be with this girl because i felt so bad. she is so income with him already and i know he is with her since he just been waiting for this to happen for years and now he has it. so the next time he calls to confess his love, don’t give him the satisfaction of letting him know that you still want him., i am beginning to wonder if i was the rebound? if not, then start no contact and decide whether you want to continue trying to get him back or move on. if you’ve already read it, here are a few more articles that i highly recommend you read. do you still advise no contact or something else as not sure if he wants me back or he just doesn’t want anybody else to have me? i had applied for my license in the state he is in and had recently applied for jobs, after he pressed it , a few weeks before “the talk”. once i declined going to his new house for make out and he got so upset about it and refused to speak with me for 5 months. i wanted to know if this guy is just a rebound or she has really moved on to another guy cause i really to love her to death.. is pride that effective or is he just being a douche? and his new girlfriend have now been together for three months and already signed a lease together for may. all this to rub it in my face but i kept nc. he has copied my hairstyle to the point its exactly the same! (note: if your ex boyfriend is refusing to talk to you read how to get your ex back when he won’t talk to you? yet i noticed something strange: he borrowed my laptop to do social networking stuff, checked on his photos and showed one to me, mentioning a female co-worker of his out of the blue. he is indirectly complimenting me sometimes, hinting to do fun things together. i became happy and confident on my own and i think he sees that… i do feel like he is chasing me a bit now (before it was mostly me chasing him and arranging my life around him – not anymore! he’s converted in bad tattoos, lives in his moms basement and has no job or car. the last 6 months have been long distance , because he moved for grad school. if they already connect on deep level then i’m sure she feels the sexual physical part is complete too. keep it short my ex and i were together and living together for 5 yrs.” i’ve been busting my back-side trying to get through school so that i could make her my life partner. he had told me before with his other baby mama that he couldn’t stand her when she was pregnant and that he hated her. then i text his friend asking if it was too soon for him still. i have make some mistakes and i know that she deserves better treatment. and my ex bf broke up in january after 2 and a half years (we kept in touch until mid feb, which was painful for both of us…me calling him to talk and sort things out and he avoiding, or him calling me in the middle of the night drunk because i was his closest person. he went to play some pool but he learnt that i had a boyfriend through our conversation. but i must be on his mind for him to be makinig these conscious decisions to post and remove my mum. mom really likes me and calls me often and ask me to visit her and i do so. i don’t even know if he still have feelings for me because he always talks to me about his crushes, how much he adore her crush and how much he feel great whenever he see his crush. i found this really upsetting but seemed unable to stop it. if he doesn’t break up with his girlfriend even after that, you might have to eventually give him an ultimatum. months after the break up, he started contacting me throuqh fb telling me that he was happy with his new gurl (his classmate) and everythng i was sad to hear that honestly but i tried to keep a good face on ths even when it hurts. he did something amazing for her birthday recently and now he has another shot at showing her how amazing he is with the upcoming holidays. makes me think he is having a hard think and is scared it wont work out well. i really love my boyfriend and i want to get him back. do i just nc permanently and leave alone for good and let her do her own life? i am not sure if my problem is for this section of your site…. my mum has always said that she felt he was jealous of me and that too much jealousy is what created him to act strange and break up. now, they seem to be connected at the hip and he told me to move on, let this go and if we come back to each other then we know it’s meant to be. and read the 5 step plan, if you didn’t read it already. am not sure whether you are still active on this site and reply to comments soon but i shall be waiting for your reply soon as after reading your section i think you can help. i’m worried we wont talk because of this and he thinks we wont talk again until next year. the trip was a getaway from our hectic lives and he wanted to find out if i will be ready to marry him in 6 months. he sacrificed his love for me so i could get better again as i was going through depression and in his eyes he felt he was causing it. nothing new with the new girl, still no new signs of her on fb, still not showing up with her at events/meeting his friends etc. he says that he wants to stay optimistic when it comes to us, but is still seeing this girl and then he encourages me to see someone to but i don’t want anyone else. and there is always the hearts and happy face stuff attracted to pictures of them together and she post other reference that deal with them and the things they do and he also has the same on his social media pictures of them together smiling happy saying she is love of his life and other things. really love this man, but i don’t understand sometimes he will ask me to go for movies. the new guy/girl seems completely opposite of you and yet your ex seems committed to make this relationship work. boyfriend of two years broke up with me about 6 months ago after 3 months of drifting apart (me being super clingy and him pushing me away). and if you’ve already told him, you can give it to him. finally, a week after that i found out through facebook that he is with another woman. he didn’t jump into the relationship right away and he is letting her decide who he talks to, i’d say that he is pretty serious about his relationship. i didn’t know that i take this situation so hard. i am pretty mad at him for doing me one day and her the next. however i know him pretty well, and i know he is very stubborn. broke up with my ex two months ago after i found him flirting with another girl and trying to hide it. so he doesn’t follow either of us but retweeted the competition by searching me, looking at my tweets and retweeting not realising it comes up as a notification for me. i started to change those bad habits, but the result was not significant yet.

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How to get your ex back when he has moved on to a new girlfriend

how can he go from ‘come visit me next month’ to ‘hey i replaced you’ within the short amount of only 4 days? since then i have found out that he started seeing her before we split (she didn’t know) and he has promised her the world, while also seeing me and telling me i was his soulmate. his exact words were “i think it’s just the pregnancy.’m just hoping that she’ll see me for me…but i know she can’t do that unless i’m not there to be missed.’s entirely possible he cheated on you and was lying to you when he asked you to visit him. feel like i have failed in both mine and your life and that i could have done better but at least i tried the best i could while under the influence of other people. i can’t work out why for the life of me but i still love this man, in my heart he was/is my soulmate and one true love and i want him back :/. the guys with whom she is chatting is grabbing her from me, i can see that she is not sleeping also for chatting which never happened with me before,if its true, how she will miss me ? but in about 1 month’s time he is going to a new school which means new friends, new classmates and new girl friends. i can’t work out why for the life of me but i still love this man, in my heart he was/is my soulmate and one true love and i want him back :/. he moved this girl into the home that we shared within two weeks of dating her. he and this girl were friends while we were together… so idk if it’s a rebound or not. kids have just come back from staying at his house, which i have found he had introduced our kids to her and had her stay at his house while my children were there. and then i asked him why would he choose a new girl over a girl that has stuck by his side for the longest, and he said that she respects him, i said i always respected him, and he said no i didn’t, and i told him that he didn’t always respect me either, and he told me that i was right. let him know that you can’t be friends with him and if he chooses her, then you can’t see him again. he said that he just wanted to move on with life and forget about the pain and forget about me. part of me thinks he is trying to illicit a response from me. they would be random texts weeks or months later and once she came by my work and recently the call asking to come by. in addition, this new girl doesn’t really seem like all the other girls he’s dated before me (i was also different from his usual type which makes me wonder if i was the rebound but he was single for more than a year when we met, so i don’t know) and she’s not friends with any of his friends and vise versa though i don’t know if that has anything to do with it. i asked him what he wants and he said he wants his own place……im so confused i dont want to be just giving him his cake and letting him eat it. i asked him why and he said he was seeing someone, a girl that is opposite of me. it’s hard to say if it’s a rebound. everyone keeps telling me he will be back, he is stalking you now. i’m freaking out and want to just end this. but we didnt talk or anything like that until one day i started texting her. i was feeling good so i decided to call my ex and get my last stuff back (i know it’s not what you recommended). our plan was that i would move out there after getting some work exp here (we both had just graduated). i am not sure if my problem is for this section of your site…. i feel i would have to tell him if we get back together. i feel he has had a confidence boost with his new tattoo and car and wants to do better than me. is the reason why most of the rebound relationships seem to move so fast. and then his birthday weekend was coming which he had plans to party out of town. dated this guy for 2 months, and during the first month i let him know i like him too by kissing him back. broke up with my ex 3 months ago because he started flirting/texting with this grl he works with. and my boyfriend were together for 2 years and 7 months (and friends for 4 years before that) when he broke up with me, 5 weeks ago. as in she’s not even romantic with him and she don’t like kissing. also, for that night out that we had he told me that he wanted and thought of kissing me but he didn’t. so i think he is scared to tell me he made a mistake and has to stay consistent. need extreme help, i was dating this guy for over 7 years he has my high school sweetheart, my everything … we were supper close to each other but his mom try to get him away from me … he cheated on me once on the 3rd year and i forgave him. thanks for all your help kevin but i think some relationships would be more painful to put back together. do you think this was a bad idea telling him my feelings?. just wait till his new relationship blows up because if his girlfriend continues acting like this, it will eventually end. she is still empty and she can only be at peace with herself when she decides to face the breakup pain. i’ve been so emotional since he said it and idk if it was out of anger or that maybe hes mad still about what i said its been a few days since that conversation and i’m just curious as to whether or not i just move on or let him cool down and then try to talk to him again because i dont understand why the chemistry is so much better with them why even invest 2 years or any time? if he agrees to come meet you, and if you’ve made positive changes in your life until now, then hopefully, he’ll start thinking about getting back together. if she has been consistently cold, then i’ll recommend you do no contact for another 2-3 months. i did see some pictures of him and his new lover in the living room though. if thats the case, im very confident to give him new experience if we r back together. i don’t know if he doesn’t want to know anything about me. flowers, letters everything but its seem like its too late, which were her exact words. he can’t even text me because she goes through his phone so we talk on facebook. dated this guy for a year and we were happy till we started having issues. so long story short me and my ex for 2 years broke up 3 weeks ago after valentines day. so i wonder do i really want him back and if yes, is it a rebound that i have a shot? it’s not like i can do the “no contact” because we have a daughter together so it makes it really difficult. i thought we did have good connection she seemed happy but not really sure now but that don’t really mean anything anymore at this point. that being with someone for like a year or so is when they have better chance of working things out in “long time apart”. but think of it this way, he did you a favor by ending it right now rather than ending it after 3 more years..but then i did not know what kind of texts to send. people say you need to move on from him but i really have, ive met someone who i really click with and the only thing i dont get is why he is copying me so much when he told me he doesnt want to talk yet. i found long distance very difficult as we had previously been living together. and i had told him about this guy that i was dating for 2 months n that he had already gone with another girl. the following day i receive an email from her explaining she didn’t feel comfortable talking about it in person, but a month after she broke up with me she started seeing someone and they were going to marry in the fall. i wouldn’t have seen them if it weren’t for my friends as him and i are not friends on it right now. the new guy is more muscular and more manlier and more charismatic than me but somehow i know that he isn’t my ex style. i did not know what to expect and i said i am sorry to, i believe things were so intense and he thinks i made him as a laughing stock then. he was always against this showing of affection on fb because he found it immature. i also didn’t want to cut him out of my life as i guess i still had feelings for him. only way you can analyze your past relationship right now is just by memories and conjecture.” he is only 4, my 10yr old said dad didnt said anything just hugged 4yr old. you will have very serious trust issues in the future and i don’t see him admitting to his mistake and proving to you that he is willing to change. girlfriend of 2 years recently broke up with with an email message at exactly the 2 year mark of our relationship. he didn’t invite her to a party he went to, he hasn’t introduced her to any of his friends like he did with me straight away. he responded a few days later saying he didn’t know what the answers all were and didn’t want to make promises he couldn’t keep but that we definitely need to be apart right now. even if you do get back together in the future, this breakup was necessary. it hurts so much also that the guy didn’t respect me and ask is it okay that they see each other because we were some kind of friends. any case, i ended up telling him that i wanted no more contact and i was moving on with my life because i feel like he has had long enough and i am tired of waiting and hurting. let it be and move on, with your ex’s girlfriend out of the picture. it broke my heart because this man was my first love, i gave him all of me. i asked why he cried if he didn’t want to be with me and he said bc he still loves me and that it’s sad that it’s over but it’s time to move on and we’re not going to be together. she is the complete opposite of me and his type in general (very young, childish, dependent). turns out he met this girl through tinder (rolling eyes) and said “she is amazing, we hit it off perfectly and it feels like we’ve known each other for years. earlier this month he posted on his tumblr reminiscing about our relationship. i had lost him before to a ex gf when i trusted him almost 100%. he didn’t respond, but then the next day he randomly messaged me and said that yes we can still be friends. he had an ex that he knew her and her family (best friends with the brothers) for 11 years now. i trust that he won’t find someone else but i’m also afraid that will. if you stay in contact with him, he’ll feel like that he has you and his new girlfriend both. i will deal with him about kids through his parents no need to see him. they do everything a couple would do together but she just keeps saying she isn’t dating. after about 6 more months , he realised that things we’re not going to change as i resisted giving it a chance as i hid us from my family so he gave me an ultimatum. i did ask her about the guy she was seeing the one who is her friend. he saw me today and he was walking his girlfriend to class and i was walking alone. in that time he met another girl and was hanging with her for a couple months and then in december started dating this other girl (his ex from high school) and they have been together for 2 months now or so. i’m not trying to come off as needy at all, but how can i even get her to meet up with me when i know she’s willing to but maybe her new bf is tying her down? i became more needy after i finished university because i had too much free time and i wasn’t able to handle it. please help i dont know whether to ignore or reply i love him so dearly and have tried everything to make it work including changing as a person to try and be accepted by him and his family/friends. he seems really happy but i wonder if its a rebound. this is so long i just wanted to make sure everything was there. she is complete different than me… the opposite in all possible ways. like everyone else, my hear shattered to pieces for the very first time. he is a dark person as well, just like me. updating it postingnphotos and changing his profile photo with the one shes in it. well no surprise as soon as i say ok and he talks me into it. got my gym membership and have friends who are offering to be my gym buddy so when the texting phase comes around and i use the thanking him for what he did line you mentioned could i slightly brag about my weight loss or just wow him if i get the chance to see him? if he asks me something by msging me in the mean while,,should i reply? his texts started kind of neutral, but are now more and more positive. i’m always make it through in mostly things what i wanted but in this kind of situation i made myself needy person. we used to talk day and night through texts and fb chats. told him this morning that i wanted him to not come back. is how your boyfriend keeps secrets from you based on his zodiac sign. texted me the other day a picture of something that made her think of me. saying that he felt i was cold to him when we were texting or having a date (i had self-reflection after the break up that i should have did better on this, though it is my personality). read the articles and i can say i probably made every mistake mention. also, seems like they didn’t do anything special for v-day, women’s day etc like he did with me and we started dating around the same time of the year. right after the day he told me his choice, he started the relationship with that girl. maybe 4 or 5 days later he texted saying he heard two songs the night before ( our songs) and that he hoped i was finding things to smile about . i am honestly very surprised that she acting this way. crazy thoughts rush through my mind like is he catfishing me? just broke up with my boyfriend of one year last night..n msged me once that i dont want to c u agn, dont interfer in my life or she will complaint to there family again,i have no idea what to do now. and if his response is the same as before, then i think it’ll be best if you move on. apply limited contact and make a lot of positive changes in your life. i don’t have his new overseas number since we werent very friendly recently. kevin, so me and my ex-boyfriend had been dating for about 3 years, and we broke up a week after valentine’s day over something stupid that i did.’m going to send the “magic letter” but i’d like your opinion first, please. she told me that i she broke up with her boyfriend because he was ignoring her. her hand was so powerless and then we hug twice and she wished me nice summer..he has text again asking how my eye is today and if heating is fixed. he started shouting at me and gathered up what was left of his things called me for everything and then left. she says she wishes i didn’t do this to the relationship. just make sure you don’t look needy, desperate or depressed on your social media profiles. i don’t want to go into the reasons why i think like this. we used to talk day and night through texts and fb chats. we did long distance for 2 years, which was really rough but we made it. could not bear with it and i tried to get him back by all the wrong ways (just realized it after visiting your webpage :'( ) for month and a half: texting a lot, calling few times, sending him a long letter… he replied me he wants to be alone with the “it’s not you, it’s me” excuse then ignored all my later messages. if you decide to move on, it’s worth giving him an ultimatum before doing that. even if he ignores it, it’s probably because he needs more space and time and you should give it to him instead of forcing the friendship on him. but only give him an ultimatum if you are ready to leave him. he can do that but he doesn’t want to listen or discuss deeply… and i have so many things inside. is there any chance at all of not only getting him back- but getting him to develop these feelings? in between i saw some birthday pictures of him with his friend dancing and that friend is whom he went holidays with on his friend’s facebook. if not before, i expected a text from him really early in the morning before or after his work out, but nothing. i expressed my desire to wait until i graduate and can provide a little more stability for our family.– he went on holiday recently and since he came back he is giving me even more attention and basically spending his free time with me. he hasn’t replied the whole day, i know he has been very busy (he told me he would be even before we met up and that he wouldn’t have a day off for the next 2 weeks), but he always found the time.’s hard to say if his new relationship is a rebound since he had crush on the girl for a long time. but i still don’t know if he’s really over me. i am sorry to say this, but you really have no chance of getting him back unless they both breakup. now i have noticed he is back on a dating app and has put new pictures up. we have been long distance for about 9 of those years. i have been two weeks nc and i just wondering if my ex has really move on with his new girl and am i wasting my time. because you were important to her and it’s hard to get over a relationship especially if you are in a rebound. then she texted me two hours later: i guess i just called you by accident. does he still like me or is he in two minds of his own weather to move on with this girl or try with me. i started thinking that he is not spending all that time for our mutual friend, since they are not so close friends, and that he did all this for me. seems more of an obsession and finishing a story than love. his last ex-girlfriend was there too…) i said hello after all that time with the prettiest smile i’ve got. ex and i broke up a long time ago (two years ago).,yes its daily,i have no idea who is he/she but its killing me,she is still online but when v had relation she always used to sleep on 12 am or before only then what is this now, she used to recharge her number every 2 days means she is calling someone also,she blocked my emails ,contacts everything when i tried to send her old memories pics but insted replying she blocked me. her being ‘official’ 9 weeks after a breakup shows me that they clearly were dating for at least 1 month, which means she wasn’t grieving long at all (maximum a month). he slowly started to disappear, but we maintained some sort of friendship for a little while after, and then it faded away. perhaps, he is really interested in his new girlfriend and he really wants his new relationship to work. we carry on through phone calls for the next week. (he also asked is i needed to see him today he seemed like he had other plans too). i was devastated, she was younger and more beautiful than i am. i always see him uploading new pictures of him and her, which is so unlike him. the next day him, me and our best friend went to an open mic like old platonic times. he is just going to continue this behavior and keep you hanging by a thread if you let him. he has copied my hairstyle to the point its exactly the same! we supposed to see next week when she will return my last stuff for me..its just that i am so hurt and angry to whatever he has done that i react in pain and anger and he is so blind not to see my love behind it. if the ex is or has been in relationship since it ended why would the want to get back with their ex let alone associate with them after all that time. this means you can’t get mad when he begins to start dating someone else. got a call from my ex the other night at like 10 she asked if i was doing anything and if she could come over. finally, the last time he came back to tell me he had made a huge mistake involved me asking him to call the girl in my presence, whereby we spoke and i found out they slept together. now is the time i can text him but after yesterday i don’t know whether i should. on day 30, i looked at his social media sites, and i noticed that he looked so happy! i can get other women but i just don’t want anyone else. as you have already seen, it doesn’t help you get your ex back. if she doesn’t contact you and you still want her after a couple of months, you can try giving her a call and see how she responds. i wonder if the extreme level of intimacy and commitment to her within hours of meeting her fits the ‘rebound relationship’ definition from your article. is this a lost cause or can i possibly win him back? so now i’m on day 50 of nc and he has been with this new girl for 3 months now. told me that there was nobody else, and at first i believed her. well she claimed that her son wasn’t his and after a while she said it was and kept changing her mind and so she stuck to that her son was his. it feels weird that she loves the other guy so fast and it’s feel more weird if she doesn’t have any feelings for me. if his new girlfriend doesn’t let him talk to you? i texted later to my ex that i ate with him and i’m happy for you that you have man who threat you good and hopefully you are doing great now and in the future..So i (29years)have dated my ex girlfriend (31years)for almost 2 years. don’t know if it’s a commitment issue or pure nerves, since just an hour before that he was complimenting me on my pictures and exclaiming how amazing and beautiful i am. she is so infatuated by everything about him and they have been close friends for years. so this makes me even wonder what does he really feel about her? question is, do you think there is still a chance even if she doesn’t want a boyfriend now? i reckon your the one with the problem not the kids. i see that she changed her profile picture on fb and instagram to different pictures i took of her , when we was together . instead of asking to meet up to give him the gift, you can just ask to catch up for a coffee or use one of the venues relationship rewind suggests. addition she is emotional and good hearted person so i don’t think she is playing any mind games. i couldn’t control myself and i said to him that i was disappointed that he didn’t ask me permission to see my ex but in the end i said all the best for you. i made a great impact on my ex he was proud of me, and told people i changed his live for the better, because he had a dark past. if not, then start no contact and decide whether you want to continue trying to get him back or move on. that in some websites recommended to give ex if you want her back) she said not tonight and someday it’s okay. i am very unsure what to do because i feel as if our spark is still there. i showed up telling him i’m not trying to “pull a beth” (his other crazy ex who we battled together and had fun doing so even though she borderline stalked him) and that i genuinely just wanted to be friends with him. this has been a non physical, normal flatmate arrangement and we get on, what i think, really well. also, seems like they didn’t do anything special for v-day, women’s day etc like he did with me and we started dating around the same time of the year. yesterday i was at the gym which is quite near where me ex lives. she hugged me and started crying, she hugged me for around 10 seconds and told me:”i can’t do this, i feel like i’m cheating on him. he was going out and having fun the whole time and never made any effort to contact me (except sending me a “happy bday” message). he said it would be best if we cut down on the talking and we did until i texted to ask him about money he owed me. i guess, i was right because when he broke up with me two days ago, he said that he wasn’t ready to take the next step with me of moving in together, and didn’t want to make that commitment to me because he was scared and not ready for it. the relationship my main issue i couldn’t deal with was due to religion. before she texted me i decided start no contact and follow 5 step plan. he chose the girl who is confident, happy, and secure. if you don’t get him back by that time, cut contact from him and move on. he even suggested we meet up half an hour earlier (so we could be together longer before he goes to work), he took me to a nice place by the river, we joked a lot, he called me by a cute name… and when he brought me back he reached out for a hug in the car which really surprised me., it’s hard to say if he wants to get back together, but there is definitely a chance and it’s definitely worth trying to get back with him. i know you want him in your life, but unless he realizes he wants to commit, you can’t do anything. whenever i get out and curse him he begs me to stop pushing him far away than he is already. but he said “no, i don’t need space,” i want to keep texting and talking to you. do yourself and your sanity a favor and unfollow your ex and his girlfriend on any social media channel. right now, your mental well being should be your top priority. if he still doesn’t want to commit, you should try to move on. he said that my ex said “hi how you (insert friend name), are you with sabrina last march 13? recently, especially since him and his new girlfriend broke up, i have started to miss him again a lot. and during my no contact period my ex was also happy and enjoying with his friends and with the new girl ive heard he’s dating based on his posted pictures on fb. things were not going well with the distance , i moved to working night shift which made it even tougher for us to keep in touch , this led to arguing , but i think mostly because we really just miss being together..n then her dad called me n started blackmailing that v will do police case, thanks to my sis who managed to talked with them ,v thought its over but after 2 days her dad complained to police , police called me once but i ignored the calls,then my phone was off, now v r no more in contact , after some days i started expressing my feelings that how much u cheated me, how much i loved u, u used me like this on whatsapp status n dp on my other numbers then she also changed her status that ” u r biggest mistake of my life & i am still paying for it ” ” you hv no right to judge me ” & blocked my other numbers too. if yes, how long does it need to be, is 30 days enough?) then his birthday weekend came and he didn’t even bother to text me once, not even drunk when he always texts me drunk without missing a beat..my frnd saw her near one hospital so i worried n msged her by taking risk that what happend tell me i will help you, i am always der for u, but instead replying me she blocked me on gmail . couple days ago she sent me a bunch of books to read while i’m gone this summer, but then the next day she goes back to being really hateful and rude towards me and acting very spiteful. he feels like he doesn’t have a reason that justifies breaking things off with her because i’ve had multiple chances and she hasn’t had the chance to try, but then he throws me through loos saying that he stills feels there’s something there with me and that he’s still attracted to me, but is now in a sticky and doesn’t know which is the right choice. he also seems like he is going out of his way to rub this new relationship in my face (which frankly is really immature or a cry for attention) i know and everyone is assuring me that it is a rebound relationship. my daughter said she felt put out when he just threw her in their face as well 🙁 he and his daughter had always been close, but she is disgusted in his behaviour. i do love him and forgive him and see if there is a chance for us again. she already went to visit the guy in another country. ex boyfriend and i were together for a year and 4 months and we were going through al ot and all of a sudden a boy told me that he was trying to talk to another girl so when i asked him about it he told me he wasn’t but then in a text message she was like oh i did give her my number and i do kind of like her a little so i try to deal with that and so many people were trying to talk to him about it and even i. he texted yet this person says he has a gf. after break-up this two months i have been so emotional and push her away from me and i was not at all rational and now i see what i should have done. have just sent him a text that says that i will let the kids call him when they want but am changing my number that i am no longer available. however i did the no contact thing even erased his number. ex-boyfriend of about a year broke up with me because he said he couldn’t handle being in a relationship at that time, (he has a lot of things happening in his life, a lot of sickness within the family, also being in year 12 and having end of school exams), i know we are young being 18 and in year 12, but our relationship felt mature, special and real. obviously, i was upset and i told him that i felt unimportant to him because of what he said and he expressed that that wasn’t true and that i was important to him and he didn’t want to lose me and he would do what he needed to do (within reason) to make me happy. he works with one of my good friends and he has told her that he has no clue why im ignoring him that he hopes im ok because i have health issues and he really concerned, he also said that he’s really hurt of me disappearing that way i did and that he really misses me a lot to the point he cant get me out of his head and that he has feelings for me. my ex was everything to me he was my best friend., to build attraction slowly using text messages, as mentioned in this guide. he has been dating her for about 4 months now and it appears that a lot of the time he just picked up their relationship where ours left off but i don’t know. we met up to exchange possessions a week after we broke up, i read him a letter of apology that i’dwritten and reminded him of some good memories, he left me crying alone ona. we left each other at the station after he finished work and i got home.’ve been doing the nc with him for a week now, but within that period i accidentally bumped into him but i didn’t expect him to show up in the area right then and there. it is sad for me that the other guy was in the same course with me and we became friends (english course :d) and without me they even know each other. i’ve noticed my confidence has exceeded what it was before i even met my ex. he said he hadn’t loved me for months and he liked this new girl who lives 2 hours away on the train. he can do that but he doesn’t want to listen or discuss deeply… and i have so many things inside. but if he replies and you get your answer and are ok with it, then i guess it’s good. my situation is me and my boyfriend were dating for 3 years. if he agrees to come meet you, and if you’ve made positive changes in your life until now, then hopefully, he’ll start thinking about getting back together. i know he did it because he cares but my ex will admit we have a strong connection, friendship and good sex but i think hes afraid of getting hurt again. ex girlfriend of just under 2 years broke up with me in march because she said she couldnt be in a romantic relationship anymore, not just with me, but anyone. not sure how the no contact thing works in this area when kids are involved and for them to have contact? great read, i am a bit upset at the moment and very confused as i have just found out my ex (still married) husband has now moved on about 2 months with another woman who is my complete opposite from the sounds of it. i do however know that he is seeing someone else. i am not sure i would be able to forgive him this and trust him and be all confident he wouldn’t do it again. then i went to look a game on the television. what should i do if he asks for a pic before we meet? an hour after posting this he retweets something i retweeted. if your ex is going out of their way to show you they are happy in their relationship and everything’s going great, then it’s probably a rebound and they are not doing that great in reality. the kids honestly do not want anything to do with his new girlfriend. if he doesn’t, that means he was just using you, in which case, you are better off without him. this time i know my ex hasn’t forget about me. he has also said him being in the house with me is confusing him as when he is here he wants to be intimate with me? but if you’re confident and happy, even if you start the communication, he’ll feel attracted to you again. if you let him go and he comes back, you will have him 100%. and today he texted me and i told him to leave me alone, he asked me why and i said “because i’m tired of you playing mind games with me. november and now, i was a crazy psycho ex… i broke all of the rules. the relationship my main issue i couldn’t deal with was due to religion. then on sunday i had some really bad news and rang him to see if he could watch my daughter and he was round like a flash even though he was out with the boys watching the football and we were still not on speaking terms. if he doesn’t reply, wait another month and try again. i don’t understand if that means i should just move on or just try be patient with him. he said he hadn’t loved me for months and he liked this new girl who lives 2 hours away on the train. hopefully, his relationship will be over before you go back. also i have this deep urge to find out if she is actually his official girlfriend and remind him that he told me he didn’t want one of those. you for for your blog as i’m in a desperate situation as this has been going on for six months and i don’t know what to do. i had asked him on the phone who he sees his future with and he said that he sees a better and longer future with me. see what your saying on stop with the having hope and stop thinking of her. replied as mentioned and now a text comes out of the blue from nc about working on a project together. the breakup came totally out of the blue for me and all he was able to say was that he’s not sure anymore and that it has some family reasons (i haven’t got the same nationality as him and his parents want him to get a girl like that). should i say that is the start of the 30 days or start it at a later date? if they found someone they mash up with better and everything in general about that person is better. his new girlfriend is controlling and jealous and i think his relationship will soon end. we have either been together or acting like we were together without the title and not seeing others except for my relationship for 3 1/2 years. my ex is still dating the other guy & i haven’t heard from her. it makes me sad because he told me he doesn’t want anyone else and wants to focus on himself this year. i was pretty insensitive about it becuase his parents had been going through a divorce, and i was having my own family issues, and i guess i broke up with him when he needed me most. so my boyfriend of 3 and a half years and i broke up back in december because he found out that i had hooked up with another person when we were taking a break about 8 months prior to him finding out. im pretty sure from what ive read here that ive only pushed her further into his arms., just advice me if he messages me in this no contact period, should i answer him…i dont want to loose him ever…. were together for seven years and have a six year old and our baby turns 3 months this month. i said that it would be best to move out (90% of the stuff here is mine…it’s much easier for her to move and i really want her to miss me) but she doesn’t want too. now that i wanna work on the relationship and have gotten rid of all my anger issues he doesn’t wanna work on it. if you’re needy and insecure, any type of communication with him is going to make him lose attraction. oh advice from my brother, i decided to send him a mix tape on valentine’s day saying i’m sorry and that i still loved him (i said this thru the music, not on paper). really love this man, but i don’t understand sometimes he will ask me to go for movies. and the guy listened to her about the break up etc…. she told me that she had crushed on a german guy when she was an exchange student in sweden. he’s told me so many times that he trusts me more than anyone in the world and loves that he feels like he can be completely open with me without feeling judged when he is used to always having to be “on”. they don’t want you to start dating someone else because they are not over you and are hoping you will wait for them to come back. so go read that guide first and then come back to this page for advice pertaining to your situation. then i found he was cheating on me for about a week (i had a gut feeling) with a girl of 26 from his work. on their 1st date she did the same things with him as she was doing with me, they went to same places, she talks to him exactly the same etc. it sucks to be painted in negative light by everyone in her life because they only knew one side and that they would tell her to bail he not good enough or he just the same as all the rest. he was taking me on trips, giving me gifts, being my companion and friend and when i was unhappy with my relationship he was always there. months ago we had break three weeks and we supposed think what to do, because everyday life was little bit painful. i think he wont message me now, but what if he does message a casual hi to me in these four months…please guide me as i dont want to loose this man. literally 2 weeks of being broken up and he pulls this. so now i’m on day 50 of nc and he has been with this new girl for 3 months now. but that doesn’t help if she doesn’t miss me at all. i called and asked him if he had a girlfriend. you so much for your response…it’s just so hard to understand how someone can tell you those things right in your face and lie. we had tickets to some events the following weeks which he cancelled without telling me 🙁 he stated yet more reasons – wanting more than one relationship, not wanting to settle down yet, wanting to be able to travel, not seeing us having a future together, not feeling the same way anymore, his heart not being in it anymore. on the other hand, if their relationship has been going on for over a year, then you can safely assume that the relationship is serious for them and it’s probably not a rebound. i am sorry to say this, but you really have no chance of getting him back unless they both breakup. initially he was texting and calling me post-breakup but i told him i didn’t want to talk at all since i didn’t know if i was going to move.! she was his “best friend” for a long time and she lives an hour away too. he is young and confused about what he wants in life. if she loves me she doesn’t act like this but i know that she enjoys this situation. i mean, a part of me does wonder was it me that caused him to run, or is he a natural runner? weeks, she’d called three times texted a couple, i decided to call on the way to work. i still have feelings for this guy, and he just got into a relationship with another guy and it’s tearing me apart. after that i disappeared from her house for 2 weeks then i came back. if you have not completed no contact, do so before having another interaction with her. think that if he had really moved on he would tell me. right to do now is to start no contact again. he had never in 8 years talked about the effects of his divorce . his whole family are on my side and he is giving not just me and kids up but them as well…. give her some time and space and meanwhile try to make some positive changes in your life. i love him and i know he has felt the same way about me, too, he is just still trying to figure out what he wants. and eventually, you’ll have to gather your strength and ask him to choose. let him know that you can’t be friends with him and if he chooses her, then you can’t see him again.. he became my everything back then, wherein i didn’t know how to be happy if i was not with him.. he loved me coz im totally different from the girls he dated before and im really good to him. first thing that you need to do is stop contact with him. then said that his job was very demanding with orders , he was wanting to retire in dec. i know you feel like that somehow if he understand how you feel and he listens to what you have to say, he will come back; but in my opinion, he won’t. he would usually start crying and telling me he didn’t want me to let go and make promises of how he’d be better etc. i know receiving a rose on her b’day will bring a smile to her face but it is so predictable, from me. have i lost her forever or is this just a rebound relationship? (they are very messed up over this and don’t really want to speak to him either) thank you again for all your help i really appreciate it, and i do agree that the original breakup was necessary. he stopped answering my phone calls, texts, emails, blocked me on facebook and even ran out of a bar upon seeing me. i have been contact with my ex few times after that and every single time she cries. he would live again the beautiful part of us but not the difficult times. keep doing the snapchat thing and text her again after a couple of weeks. two weeks later he texts me this long thing about clearing up stuff, telling me he didn’t cheat on me, and how he pursued a relationship with the grl he was talking to and blamed me on why we broke up and said he still wanted to be friends. im playing it all very cool and always positive and upbeat even though everything is bad but im generally positive anyway ao its not an act im putting on. i joined the college he is at last year and the first 3 months (first term) was great, so so so good. two weeks later he texts me this long thing about clearing up stuff, telling me he didn’t cheat on me, and how he pursued a relationship with the grl he was talking to and blamed me on why we broke up and said he still wanted to be friends. especially when you have a long time apart and she is already completely past and over you. thanks for all your help kevin but i think some relationships would be more painful to put back together. well i don’t know how true is that because a week later that i walk away he got officially back with his ex girlfriend and the idiot doesn’t know that i know everything. i was thinking maybe waiting until evening to reply and just say that i am on my way out and talk to you soon or something like this. i don’t know if i am just making excuses for him or if he is doing this to move on. he also hangs out with her in full view when he is the kind of person to keep his business to himself. he got me a really nice gift for christmas and we hungout a few days after christmas, we talked about getting back together. and im too scared to write him that letter, especially when he’s with someone else. he came back and tried to surprise me but i didnt want anything to do with him. i am very active on this website and i’ll probably reply to you within 24 hours. he has also said him being in the house with me is confusing him as when he is here he wants to be intimate with me? he thought that i hated him and i told him i didn’t i just wanted him to grow up and make up his mind, he flat out told me that he wants to date other people, i asked him if he was choosing her over me, he replied yes and i replied “ok good”. on the other hand, if they waited an appropriate amount of time (like three to four months) before entering the new relationship, it’s less likely to be a rebound. reach out to your ex when you want to know what’s going on in his life, and want to reveal what’s going on in yours, and when he has a new girlfriend that’s probably not the case.! she was his “best friend” for a long time and she lives an hour away too. i’m more homey, enjoy doing things as a couple, want to get married, have kids, be a good wife and mom, etc. of all: i wouldn’t dare to show up here if i wasn’t absolutely sure that her ex (the one before me and the father of her child) is an absolute jerk. i didn’t contact him since and he text me yesterday on my birthday telling me that he thinks about me all the time and that he is sorry for everything. i did some of the no no’s…ima human being who had his emotions seriously messed with…i have since cut all ties…going nc as they seem to be more serious and have been dating a few months now. what if after couple weeks she still does not have any association with me. should i give her the letter where i explain the whole reason or respect the “no, contact”? but shall i text him once i feel great or is it a bad idea? i’ve been in nc for about a week but miss her and get major doubts that i could get her back because she tries to convince everybody she’s really happy with this new guy but gas only known his for two weeks. i read everything above, but he wouldn’t have volunteered the information about this new girl to me without me asking and he didn’t seem too keen on telling me about her. and in the same day he texted if i was mad at him, he sent selfie videos of himself to a group chat with me and our best friend of songs that the three of us would sing together. so me and my boyfriend had a misunderstanding at a time when he was grieving. am against the idea of giving gifts to an ex unless you are on the verge of getting back together. but once you get used to living without him, you’ll realize you don’t need him to raise your daughter. like we were at a party together and after i’d left she texted me to say she was upset and had no-one to talk to. i told him that the gift was specifically chosen for him and he said that we can talk about it. i have definitely changed a lot since our breakup and realized the mistakes i made in our relationship and i have been doing great on working on myself…. right after the break up, i went out with another guy but i realised that i really wanted to be with my ex again and i went back to him. (referring to him obviously) saying that so quick even if you had a thing for him and he obviously was just over the top feelings for you when you were “friends” she never said that to me that quick. i really want to send his mum a birthday card in a months time. i know he felt sad when he told me this. i happened to meet him on a night out and he stopped me to tell me how gorgeous i was and that was on my fb (he is not on fb so was on a friends page) he was txt after saying that i didn’t know what was going through his head. i read your article about the no contact rule and the 5 step plan. the new guy is more muscular and more manlier and more charismatic than me but somehow i know that he isn’t my ex style. this threw up all kinds of feelings as i explained i been chatting to somebody too. i don’t see how he is better then me. (note: if your ex boyfriend is refusing to talk to you read how to get your ex back when he won’t talk to you? it has turned out that it is her new girl who has demanded that she has to cut the contact. how is nc rule gonna work when in between i need to remind him on financial stuff (he owe the bank thru me). but, i have a lot of time invested in this, and i just want to know if you think this i the girl for him? then one day i notice that she blocked me from facebook and i found out that she is in a relationship with that same guy she called him a friend. she is not one to live her life over facebook so i found this odd. i resisted the urge to stop walking and be approachable so i pretended to be talking to someone on my mobile phone and ignored him as i kept walking. we met up to exchange possessions a week after we broke up, i read him a letter of apology that i’dwritten and reminded him of some good memories, he left me crying alone ona. if he starts calling you constantly, let him know you need some space and time to deal with the breakup. should i just not answer her when she text when we can see next week? anyways sorry for the long message i am just so confused with his actions and needed to express them. i began to want a way out when i found out he was hanging out with a girl behind my back, but nothing sexual happening, he said he just didnt want me to know…. she is totally opposite,of me and felt like i was slapped in the face.” he is only 4, my 10yr old said dad didnt said anything just hugged 4yr old.” he said there is no future yet if he’s not making money. if it is then if it doesn’t work out won’t it just mean they will still be the same way they are now but just say they are not together. we really did love each other but honestly our break up reason is very confusing to both of us. all you can do is learn from your mistakes you made and carry on with your life..all this kept happeneing for almost 1 year……few days back i requested him to help me buy something and he agreed reluctantly…i was happy that we were meeting after one year,,and then the worst happened. i love him so much and any advice help would be greatly welcomed as my hormones are everywhere with being 6months pregnant never mind all this to deal with as well…. because i always feel i need to have intimate relationship with the man i am going to marry and not anyone else. he has told me that we will never see each other again ive to drop kids off at his parents where he will see them a couple of times a week then his parents will bring them back to me..then i came here read your all posts, felt better that i have some hopes,i changed my dp to normal one & normal status,but i feels she is moved on,she used to chat on whatsapp for late night with sumone till 2. kevin great read and i think it’s helpful so here’s my situation, me and my because broke up nd became friends with benefits we were great he was like a brother friend to me and very mature, he left me for a new girl pretty, light skin, therfore leaving me with insecurity he said his heart wasn’t with me anymore, and i want him back wat do i do, move on or stay hoping. he was trying explain to me that it was a big deal, while me and a lot of other people don’t think so. up with me for someone else we did have not sex in 6 moths he says i’m bored never go out and the new guy he like to go out the opposite of me is that a rebound ? is he really over me or has he moved on? our plan was that i would move out there after getting some work exp here (we both had just graduated). of all, what happened to your abusive boyfriend is not your fault. if you really think it’s going to upset me if it’s a girl i don’t care”..to my surprise he came there with his new girl firend,,it was so painful for me because right infront of my eyes both of them were sharing and talking things which we both used to say and do when together…i was very hurt but i didnt react infront of them…but when i came back home i tore all his cards, decided to throw away all the clothes he gifted me and i blocked him on my fb and in the night i told him so, i even told him that i was hurt that he got her along…to this he replied that she was a simple friend who accompanies him whereever she goes and in such a case he thinks he shouldnt have helped me in the first place…. what strikes me is that 5 months later their engagement fell through and he tried to reconnect with me. the nc thing but he texted about something from awhile back. hadn’t seen this so when he rang to speak to the kids i didn’t answer because i thought i should implement nc. so me and my boyfriend had a misunderstanding at a time when he was grieving. before i was the one who always make the decisions now everything chanced maybe it’s what i deserved after cheating and other things. me being a religious person made it hard for me to give way to this and i am not sure as to why i even let it go in the end. idk what to do so this my issue i been with my boyfriend since we were 17 years old i never ever been with anyone but him for 4. but hard bit was my youngest said to him “i miss you daddy will you come home when baby is born? she is happy i told her and even more mad than i am: she forced him to quit his job, which she helped him get. we had a close relationship and i had a good relationship with his family. i had applied for my license in the state he is in and had recently applied for jobs, after he pressed it , a few weeks before “the talk”. think what you plan to do is the only thing you can do. she dated this guy alex for two years before me. towards the end she said something like we have unfinished business and that we even have like imaginary kids, i agreed.. give him call while he is at work or something. you are confident enough, you can bring up the topic of getting back together yourself. this time, don’t let your mood swings affect your decision. don’t know what to really do about any of this. i feel that if he was really into her he wouldn’t be talking to me like that but then in the last few days she posted a love song for him on fb + some other sweet things. and i was thinking the fudge, were separating and u have someone already and you’re telling not to cry? me and my ex have now been in contact for almost a month, texting almost every day, especially in the last couple of weeks we have been chatting for hours throughout the day and especially in the evening. i caved and slept over a few days ago because he asked me if i wanted to. said at one point that when she happen to run into me earlier in month she wanted to say she misses me but i ignored her and that she thought i hated her so that why she ignored me at gym. jan 19 when we went out, that’s the time his interest in me was really obvious.. he arrives back at christmas last year, and seeing him still gives me butterflies, we frequently txt and talk on da phone. he told me that everyone was surprised and that his mom missed me. left him alone for a week and tried to text him., if he got married with her, i think it’s safe to say it’s more than just a rebound. i am sending his mother a birthday card this week even though people have questioned my motives. if you are looking for closure, you should apply no contact indefinitely. i just am super confused by his actions and whether he is doing all this because he is missing me too much. my ex was sad because she didn’t got what she wanted from me and she felt outsider in my life. she started seeing an old boyfriend within a month of being home. i went 2 months nc after my gf broken up with me over a rubbish excuse. i met him exactly a year later when he was still sleeping around with women, and they weren’t officially divorced yet. i am now working out every day, i see clearly all my mistakes and i feel happy most of the time. i have wanted him back this whole time and i know the reason we broke up was something that could be fixed. we haven’t really contacted each other after i visited him, only played some games online without talking. i’ve noticed my confidence has exceeded what it was before i even met my ex. so i got angry about that and said that if she loves me, then i wished that they are not seeing each other. if their new relationship has been going on for a few weeks, you can’t say for sure if it will end in a few months or it will continue for years. and the next day i went to her house and there were a lot of our friends. so confused as none of that was about kids and this comes from man who acts like he hates me to his parents im so confused could this be him trying to come back, could the grass not be greener with the girl who is 14yrs younger. so i messaged him asking him if he was okay and i’m around if he needed anything. then on sunday i had some really bad news and rang him to see if he could watch my daughter and he was round like a flash even though he was out with the boys watching the football and we were still not on speaking terms. saying that he felt i was cold to him when we were texting or having a date (i had self-reflection after the break up that i should have did better on this, though it is my personality). i tried talking to my sister about this she said i was just being used because she would say she misses me but never say why and it always happen out of blue maybe once a month and then back to nothing. a few weeks after, he and his colleagues went on vacation again (he also paid for his share) and i saw their photos online that he was always beside that female colleague. i think you should stop talking for a while and let him continue with his girlfriend. earlier few months ago she said that i could best father for her children and if she met someone she is afraid that cheat him with me. really trying to rub it in because i foolishly told him that i was unable to move on. that it went to something serious physically and general relationship wise. also by saying that one of the times we hung out she just wanted to kiss me. the weird thing is she hasn’t unfriended or blocked me yet on facebook and i feel with all this anger/hatred she has towards me she would have done this already. so i text her and ask if she has moved on and that i thought we were at least going to talk.– dating 1 year, bu after huge fight (i felt neglected and said hurtful things), 2 weeks later he started dating a new girl (complete opposite of his type). i said your welcome and then immediately he replied “lets meet up when i come back from my holiday…” now this brought on shock, nervousness, horror, happiness and excitement all at once. she was the confidant of his throughout our entire relationship and the downfall of it. if they were, he wouldn’t scream at her and call her a psychopath. i think the best thing you can do right now is start no contact. i gave up on him and began a new relationship with someone else. you know your ex better than anyone, so you are the best judge if they are doing it to rub it in your face or not. but i know the cause of his unhappiness is us not being together. things are getting worse then before i at one point i was able to not think of her as much but since last i saw her is when she asked to come over and since then she has just been so much more happy with him then she ever was with me. the reason for this is because that day i was just speechless of what happened but i was really happy deep inside. in the back of my mind, i wish he could come back someday to tell me he is sorry. if she goes into a relationship with her ex, then it’s probably not a rebound. you are giving him an opportunity to keep dating a 19 year old girl and still have sex with you.. this has annnoyed me as he used to be suuch a good dad and would spend hours with kids now after not seeing them for a week only spends 4hours with them to go with gf! are 3 months into this mess, and while a part of me wants to think this is a temporary thing i need to just let him do and wait out, another part of me feels like i need to win him back quickly before he runs off for good. said “i can tell you what ever you want me to, but that is not how i feel. do you still advise no contact or something else as not sure if he wants me back or he just doesn’t want anybody else to have me? likely do you think the rebound of your ex and another will last if it started all within a week of them talking to each other? i am more and more convinced that she is a rebound (no point explaining it all here) and i do believe i have a chance but i am not sure i want him back. all the times she said she misses me or thinking of me a lot i know we’re not true because she has been with her best friend turned boyfriend for sometime. son is now 6 weeks old, and for the last 6 to 8 weeks, he has been telling e how unhappy he is, he still loves me, etc,etc,etc. have a feeling he just used that incident as an excuse to end the relationship. he is staying in house (well sleeping on couch some nights) but still seeing this girl and sometimes staying over at her house took her away for a romantic weekend etc.’s been hard on me, the breakup, since, as in a rebound, things tend to move fast and i was really crazy about the lady so from my side all the quick steps at least felt genuine, although i should have been wiser and read the signs.

Get him back or move on? Christian C. helps you scrutinize your ex

hope that you can give your opinion in the last message. feel like any type of texting will be ignored, or seen as me trying to get him back. he was going out and having fun the whole time and never made any effort to contact me (except sending me a “happy bday” message). i have implicated no contact but what should i think of this? wise kevin, i need a short advice again 🙂 i have followed all your guides and all the advice you have given me and they were all very helpful and things are progressing very well. now this makes it the second time he unblocked me and has randomly contacted me as so. and still getting upset if for some reason a friend mentiones me or ask about us. i’ve been ignoring all his gf’s remarks online and acting like i don’t even notice them, but i think she’s trying to up the odds by posting all this lovey crap about him knowing i’ll see it, though he has yet to say anything about the relationship specifically. all, when if you were dating someone else, would you answer the phone?.i know i have already lost my chance as he has moved on and is very happy with another but please please please tell me is there still a hope. meant considering everything you have said till now about what happened, in my opinion and experience, i think she will reply when you contact her. remember “anything could happen” stay happy stay strong and dont let your ex rule your life no matter how much you love them. so when i got home, he texted me and asked me where i was. but there is a problem that started in our relationship, i was getting jelouse of his best friend who is a girl in high school and about to graduate, she is 18, and my ex is 22 and they known each other since childhood, he told me that i had nothing to worry about, he isn’t attracted to her and he called me an idiot because he only loved me. by september of this year, things seemed to be getting better, but in november, he went to cuba for a week and came back telling me he met someone he was madly in love with and wished to end things with me. she told you not to stop texting her, let her know that you need some space before starting contact. but then he said he likes her and wouldn’t be with her if he didn’t. we have been fighting our way through the struggles of raising a child while attending college and working. if i already, after the break-up , went all desperate texts/phone calls followed by 21 days nc. tried to move on, but couldn’t, i was with this other guy and still missing my ex 🙁. recently he told me he has met somebody online and is considering meeting. he also has this policy that he never goes back. again, if you haven’t read the 5 step plan to get your ex back, click here to read it now. know it always goes against as he did his best to avoid and unanswer all my calls. was always expressing distrust and insecurity over the situation he had with her, which i guess made me unattractive and i am regretting it now. you need to get help for anger and then after this contact her and say a simple. we had some issues and she felt bad, because i didn’t show my feelings and i wasn’t sure what i felt and sometimes i was unkindly for her but she loved me very much. when they broke up i was there with him comforting him and so on and she told me all his ex girlfriends flaws plus they are in a long distance relationship… i’ve been living with my ex boyfriend in a house for 3 months already together with my schoolmates. shouldn’t tell him that you love him unless you signs from him that he is interested in you. he told me that he has feelings for me and he misses me. and then he emailed me saying since i had always been there for him i deserved to know he had gotten a sports scholarship for college and we started talkin again, it made me realize that i didn’t lose my feelings for him, he still made my heart ache, but then we started fighting again after he told me he loved me because i didn’t know what to feel, i blocked his number because i am sick of fighting with him, now i just don’t know if that was the right idea. keep doing the snapchat thing and text her again after a couple of weeks. there is also something i have to return him, is it a good reason to initiate our contact again? but about a year ago he got depressed with his life and we broke up that was 10 months ago now. she is just a little girl and if that’s what he wants right now then be it. what if he cheated with his new girlfriend on me ( but i didn’t know he had a girlfriend). i asked him why and he said he was seeing someone, a girl that is opposite of me. was with this guy for 6 months and for the most part everything was great, but after a while the type of dates he wanted was not really what i wanted. she feels a little better when she is with garry, but she can’t shake the feeling that this relationship is not giving her the peace that she expected. i took her to the parc, to some nice places… and so this time i asked her out. but the next day when i got on facebook i check his page n i see he had uploaded a picture of him and his girlfriend on the night he didnt reply back to me. im so crushed i miss her so much i truly love her w all my heart and would b different if i had another chance. months ago we had break three weeks and we supposed think what to do, because everyday life was little bit painful. she does not look rebound to me and my ex literally told me he really loves her and want to spend his life with her. hope you have had a lovely day and have a lovely holiday next week. this is assuming that you followed the step 3 in the 5 step plan(the no contact rule and working on yourself). ex and i were attracted to each other from the first moments we met. all this time that i’m gone he is seeing another woman who i think he really likes and she is one of the reasons he wanted time. the things that have happen since things ended like the random text sayin miss me or thinking and the few times she has come to see me since it ended. i know you recommend trying again within a few weeks but honestly i doubt i want to go through this again. but i still don’t know if he’s really over me. he chose the girl who is confident, happy, and secure. i wrote him all the desperate things on your list yesterday and he said he doesn’t want to talk to me anymore… do you think it’s serious with this girl and do i even have a chance to win him back? wanted me back but i was to proud to admit that i was mistaken and builded a wall and convinced myself that i had no feelings left. (i sounded needy, way too rollercoaster-y and sometimes angry and desperate big time)would this possibly still work? all what i remember what my ex had said, that he is confused that he has feelings for two girls, he said he knows its hard for me that he is with that girl, and he has said that he remember good memories of us. even if she does, she is breaching his privacy, which means less attraction points for her. my problem is i love this man, he is my other pea in my pod. am i being delusional thinking his new relationship will most likely not last? also said is was easier when they were just homies but yet here she is just amazed and happy with him. he is cold every time you contact him, then it’s very hard to change his mind. my ex went for his tattoo monday and i was booked in tuesday. i feel like part of my is there where she is. think you should just stay calm and let her make her decision. this time, concentrate more on yourself and do things to make yourself feel better. i might have done things that she didn’t like since i am from a different culture. it’s just a weird situation being from a small town and having someone mistreat you so badly. i want really badly to get back together with him, now that i live in the same area as him but i don’t know if i messed up too much. listening to what kevin has said in this article and others, has really showed me a lot. i forgot, the last time we talked which was days ago, his last message was about telling me i should enjoy life and he sends goodluck to my studies since i’m about to graduate really soon. and my now ex had been with each other for about 1. apply limited contact and make a lot of positive changes in your life. but when he was with me, he would call his mom to let him borrow the truck and do whatever it took to see his kids. i am 30 but i have never been in a situation like this before. i don’t know if he doesn’t want to know anything about me. the next day he called me three times but i didn’t answer and have no answering machine and i also got a text calling me scum and my mum lazy. were together for seven years and have a six year old and our baby turns 3 months this month. he didnt come see baby (i was out next day) he finally came on friday baby 3days old for 45mins. or is it better leave her alone completely (maybe she wants that)? i don’t know… finally we started talking a lot and this wasn’t good. is denying the girl because he doesn’t want to lose you. the next day he told me he spent the night on the beach and cleared his head. it’s getting harder and harder for me to be so close to him and not be able to kiss him. i know he’s seeing a woman he met -and rejected when we were together, he minimized it and asked me to not tell him if i’m dating. there is hope you will get back together and yes, it’s probably a rebound.. is pride that effective or is he just being a douche? this has included talking about what we didn’t like about the relationship and things that hurt us that we never talked about before. heard that his gf is bad mouthing him on facebook, posting a status “if you cant love me etc” and inserting his picture down below. nc is a risk, but it will give him time to miss you and think about what he wants in his life. nc is a risk, but it will give him time to miss you and think about what he wants in his life. i said i know your with him (her friend that she is now dating) and you seem happy i’m not going to make problems for you. i decided to let him be a child bitter and petty and move on and be happy, then realised he has my passport and i go away in a few weeks!) how to react on facebook though i belive she have created fb a/c this time again which is not tracable. i agree and time away from him has really helped me but i’m concerned that if i go 30 days with no contact, he’ll foget me. but today i made the desicion to break up with my boyfriend now and go for him full time. would i know when the honeymoon phase is over to contact again? that was so heart breaking because he mentions he loves me almost every day i was there with him and when we talk and chat and he even promised me of marriages. my story is my partner and i were together for 7. after that i disappeared from her house for 2 weeks then i came back.”‘s then one message about him wondering why i randomly cut him out and if we could talk about why i’m mad at him. i don’t even know if he still have feelings for me because he always talks to me about his crushes, how much he adore her crush and how much he feel great whenever he see his crush. i started thinking that he is not spending all that time for our mutual friend, since they are not so close friends, and that he did all this for me. he is just going to continue this behavior and keep you hanging by a thread if you let him. he goes quite now every time i look at phone and says “is that him”. it is not the end of the world and even if they are with someone else. and so basically after that i told him that im happy that i can move on now that i know that we probably won’t be getting back together, and i told him that everything is all good because we’re both happy, and he said “right”. the best thing for you to do is no contact, at least for 2-3 months. is he really over me or has he moved on? so, life is going to be a roller coaster for you. he made out with me for the first time at his old house and he will hold my back and say that there is no feelings but he still makes out. she asked me why i waited this long and i told her that i was scared. he was hiding it from me and denying, until i told him that i know and said i would not contact him if that’s his choice. today i was eating lunch in my hospital restaurant and that ex’s new guy was eating there also. it hurt so so so much and i really couldn’t believe he could do that to me full stop, let alone during a time that i was extremely vulnerable. had been with my ex for ten years she broke up with me 6 weeks ago she said she felt different but still loved me i had suspicions she was cheating because she started to lie a lot it she is now with this guy but denies it. because of that, i told him i understand him because i also have responsibilities that take a lot of my time (being a breadwinner and a single mom) i can’t have sex with him if he can’t commit. think you shouldn’t be willing to forgive his cheating.? i dont want any misunderstandings between us and i want him to know that although i am silent but i love and wait for him till date…how to do that? i asked her to tell me that she doesn’t love me anymore, because after that i could move on knowing that there is nothing to left but she couldn’t say that. i told him that i was happy he met someone else, that he no longer needs to be sad since his longingness for a relationship has been fulfilled. addition she is emotional and good hearted person so i don’t think she is playing any mind games. & my boyfriend had been together for a year, we were very much in love & happy, & then i ended up getting pregnant. this point, most people realize that this new relationship will not bring them the peace and happiness they were hoping it would. i was in there getting pretty heavy lift in, i was kind of feeling good had nice sweat going. like everyone else, my hear shattered to pieces for the very first time. i didn’t write the letter and moved straight to the text message contact..so she used to say that i will die n you will be happy forever means she wanted me to be happy n if i showed her that i moved on then maybe she will like it coz i always blamed her for every single thing,today i realized how much wrong i did . he’s says and his profile does he is not looking for anything serious but wants to date. the other hand, yes, life without him will be scary at first. he feels that the last 2 months he was forcing his love for me (didn’t seem that way). i really can’t see a reason for him not replying to an innocent text 🙂. 2 weeks ago, i found out he is dating somebody else because of their pictures together on fb(gf tagged him). pkease give me some insight why or what this is indicating. but in about 1 month’s time he is going to a new school which means new friends, new classmates and new girl friends. then i met this guy after few years and he was the perfect man for me. without any signals, he decided to let me know that he is confused about us since he wants to just stay in london and not come back and get a ob there and since i am financially weak and will not be able to come there, he thinks its better to just call it of. if you decide to comment read the comment guidelines before commenting. you ever want to make things work with him, you should work on your communication skills before getting back in touch with him. broke up and he started dating his co worker, after 3days of the break up. i hate to say it, but this is what i feel. but one thing after another happened, i got depression and his family left him, alot of pressure was added to the relationship so it ended, we have been broken up for 14 months now. these were for example doing the dishes etc… stuff like this. if your decision is based on what are your chances if she doesn’t reply, then i’ll say you still have a chance and you should try again after a couple of weeks (preferably a month). within 3 months she went from “i love you and want to marry you” then this guy comes along and in one night she was telling me i ruined her life and am a horrible person. should i approach him around that time and ask him if he’s still down? we have could be perfect couple together if i have known all the things i know now that’s why it hurts much. or is it just something you say to be nice? you have to remind him of financial stuff, just remind him and don’t talk about anything else. he started to act weird and i saw texts that were inappropriate, he basically emotionally cheated on me. he told me he thinks all this is just a phase and that it’s probably karma too. my ex asked about this girl when we met after break up. he will tell me “ok, thank you” and will go back to his new life..so it is difficult for me to accept that she is same girl who used to force me for marriage,so plz guide me ,what shd i do ? say to do another couple weeks of nc and try to text her again. and if his response is the same as before, then i think it’ll be best if you move on. she said that she doesn’t want me back and she is happy to moving on., continue to interact with her on snapchat even though she is clearly playing some weird mind game? ps prom is in two weeeks and he will probably take her not me. i also called her (she agreed that i could call her) and i talked like i was doing great (i am sort of) and she said she didn’t have any feelings for her other ex anymore. she didn’t ask much about my life but i was friendly and i shake hands when i was leaving. i think he is trying to hold on to me still. after cutting him out of my life again for a little over a month we began talking. until you let him go from your heart, you will never make the space for the right person. after all, you know your ex and your situation better than anyone else. we carry on through phone calls for the next week. years, perhaps that’s why it’s hard for you to let him go even though he disrespected you. i just need a bit of extra time to let go of the past. he says he loves me but he dates someone else. and my ex had an argument at the end of december, after which he disappeared and i haven’t contacted him either. don’t know what to do before she left she told me she loved me and cared for me but i don’t know if its true as she has moved on with this new guy as he knew everything i did wrong in our relationship and is trying to do everything to make her happy. we started having a lot of issue’s after our son was born, long story short i kicked him out last november. lots of crying, her telling me “i’m doing this for me. what matters more is what you say in your text and how you your attitude towards him is. i don’t understand how he can feel one way and then completely different the day after. you, i did end up sleeping with him 🙁 i know i shouldn’t have, would i still be able to do everything you said but if he tries again to stand firm and say no? for a few months he was great, but i never demanded he say i am his girlfriend. but i found out that he was already dating this new girl before i even came back home. went on vacation february 20th and i was going to be on vacation till april 7th well my ex boyfriend of 3 years and 8 months ended it with march 4th and he told me not to come home but he would text and call me sometimes still and then on march 18th he told me that he was talking to someone else but not dating them then he told me that he would buy me my ticket to come home when ever and then i ask him if i could stay at the house still and he said yes and then i ask him if he was still going to be there he said yes and that he didn’t want me homeless or loose any of my belongs and then i ask him the next day the same thing and got the same answers from him and he said it was going to be different but he would still be there for me and help me out and be around for me and then he said april i am sorry about everything and what happen between us but we know it was coming and then on march 24th i text him and told him that i got my ticket and that i will home in 3 to 4 days and he text back april i know u know that i’v met someone else because people talk but i want to be honest and then i ask him i can still live in the house right because u said that and then he said she is moving in and then i ask where my stuff was and he said in the house still but i am going to put it in the shed if it ok and i told him my stuff wont fit in there. how likely is it that people get back together after breaking up, especially in my situation, where his mind and heart seem preoccupied with the infatuation with another woman? has sent me a txt like this before and we have got back together. i’m just wondering if there’s any chance of us getting back together even as he has this new girlfriend. you ask him if he’ll break up with his girlfriend for you? in some cases, your ex will find a type of person they don’t usually go for. because you’re friends with her on facebook does not mean you should stalk her like your life depends on it. she and i text alot becuase of the time difference and work. and humans build attachment to someone they are with for some time. i lost my nerves and confronted the girl immediately on this mater and she denied. and my ex broke up with me saying that i didn’t respect him. year relationship he told no that he wanted to be with her because it was something new and exciting and he just to do something different i cried and told why being like this do you even care about he told yes so after that we didnt talk tell 5 days later he told he was happy with his new gf alwayz rubbing it in my face to just leave him alone so i did i did the nc rule for 8 days he was texting during those days i didnt text back then he called 3 times i didnt call back then i broke on saturday i called him and asked why he called me he told because he wanted to place a restraining order on me i was in shock since i did do anything to him found his new gf wants it not him so i could stay away for good he was rude to me when she was around but as sokn as she left he called back to tell that he was sorry and if was okay with everything i saw as a joke like really weres your balls at he would never let tell him what to dobwhen we were dating or who to even talk to he told me that we couldnt stay friends becsuse his new gf doesn’t like me and she called that same day to tell things to she was mad that me and my ex still text and talk so my ex told to delete his #and he would do the same and never bother me again this just happen yeasterday its been a month since we broke up and its been a month since he dated her but she has rapoed around her finger so tight there moving so fast to hd always spending all his free time with her he sleeps over her house in the two weeks they been seeeinv eachother he told it feels like when we were frist dating it broke my heart i really love and care for my ex so much we been through alot togather we always had eachothers back he was my bestfriend my partner in crim and i miss him dearly everything about him but he happy he tells me with his new relationship idk what to do anymore i feel like im going crazy like its all a bad dream and i just want wake up from my heartache and into his arms. i don’t know what to do next, or how to answer? my question, if this is a rebound is better to not interfere or to keep in touch with her during? another is he can make time with her even on weekends, unlike with me before. it just made me miss her all over again recently that’s why i do the stupid things like look on her websites but of course it only makes things worse seeing them together and seeing comments like he’s amazing and hearts around his name and other types of post that relate to him. if he is cold, then you should start no contact again. kevin, so my ex broke up with me almost two months ago on my birthday. happened just today, my exbf contact one of our common friend in college. continued our relationship…all great…until…we had our first real fight about a lie he told me, we didn’t talk for 2 days, when we did talk (long story short – and after a lot of pulling teeth) he tells me he saw his ex during our fight and a lot of good and bad feelings came back. then a week later i found out that he started seeing his ex, who cheated on him before we started seeing each other. name is matthew keller, and last december i had a bad breakup with my ex-boyfriend, spencer. he made it known that he started to go on dates with someone, even wearing the clothes that i got him (maybe guys are different, but i know i would’ve thrown or given that away). i believe its something in between a rebound and a serious relationship partly because i think she may be expecting more than he is likely willing to give, she has a young child and i know my husband does not want to father anyone elses kids, also she is around half his age. you can help me with this, because i’d like to know if the nc rule is still applicable to my situation or it’s already too late. i found long distance very difficult as we had previously been living together. i don’t understand how he can feel one way and then completely different the day after..Anyway she finally tells me they are now a couple and removes me from her life (no fb, blocked my phone number). if still no reply, then you should consider moving on. the next month she was saying she didn’t know what she wanted, she was spending time with this guy, but was texting me everyday (she was telling him i was still chasing her). and next month is my birthday, should i ask him out as the first text message of the reconnection? he was hiding it from me and denying, until i told him that i know and said i would not contact him if that’s his choice. he started shouting at me and gathered up what was left of his things called me for everything and then left. however, it doesn’t change your strategy and you should still follow the plan if you want to increase your chances of getting her back. i broke up in a period in life where i was depressed caused by economics, lack of work and waiting for some biopsy-result from the hospital. and if he can’t commit, then you’ll have to cut contact with him and move on. returning his stuff is not a good reason to get back in touch in my opinion. he stopped answering my phone calls, texts, emails, blocked me on facebook and even ran out of a bar upon seeing me. i know i am single and allowed to be with whoever and this was a rebound trying to fill the hole my ex left. if she is not, then after a while, you should decrease the frequency back to once a week. i could tell by her voice she was telling the truth so i now go back in no contact to see what is going to happen. we have a baby together, so we are forced to talk to each other so the no contact rule is pretty much impossible. this article, i’ll lay out some signs that will help you understand the rebound behavior and figure out on your own whether or not they’ve moved on. & my boyfriend had been together for a year, we were very much in love & happy, & then i ended up getting pregnant. i had no idea this was coming so i offered that we take a break if i still had a chance in the end. then one of my friends boyfriends called harrassing me and wen i let my ex know he got mad and told the guy to leave me alone and referred to me as his girl. love her, but you need to work on your anger. i’ve been so emotional since he said it and idk if it was out of anger or that maybe hes mad still about what i said its been a few days since that conversation and i’m just curious as to whether or not i just move on or let him cool down and then try to talk to him again because i dont understand why the chemistry is so much better with them why even invest 2 years or any time? things started to change around the 6 months mark, he started backing off and becoming distant, so the roles changed and i became the clingy one (which was one of the most obvious reasons for the breakup) but he still comforted me with saying that he still loved me, that we wasn’t ever going anywhere, and that it would never happen… he convinced me that he was going to be there for me for a long time, so for obvious reasons i was completely and utterly shocked about him wanting to break up. if they breakup, and she contacts you, you can talk to her but don’t show neediness and ask her to get back with you immediately. if he stays in the relationship with his new girlfriend (who is not a rebound) for a long time, he will get more invested in that relationship and he will be less likely to come back to you. yeah anyways, i’ve come so far only to be brought down by this major obstacle. i like to give still a summary and i like to hear is it any change get her back..plz help kevin,i admit that i was over possesive for her,not only whatsapp but she recharged for calling pack,she also used to recharge within every 2 or single day, which indicates that she is really moved on & loving someone. (ironically his new girlfriend is in it too) he posted a video of the song we played together when we first met as played on by trombones. there is a good chance she cheated on you while she was in the relationship with you. i like to give still a summary and i like to hear is it any change get her back. i miss him so much and want him back but it seems to be too late. they have been officially dating (well, on fb at least) for 1 month now and we have been nc for 6 weeks. ex phoned me on saturday was quite sharp with me and saying he had moved on etc whem it didnt make sense for him to say it so i said i had moved on and it was all aboit kids for me (his parents were with me and heard everything as he was on speaker) he said he didnt want to be in same room as me etc. but it seems god punishment for me did not end. if you let him go and he comes back, you will have him 100%. foolishly, i contacted her a number of times over the course of the next 2 months. everytime i seem to move forward he does something that makes me think he is still caring about me and is struggling to get over me. bf and me have a nice stable rs for a yr till one fine day i was dumped over a new girl… who reminds him of his long ago xgf tt apparently still in his mind. she blocked me on facebook immediately and i confronted her about it(bad mistake). my friends all seem to think she has been manipulating my attention by doing things like this, as she only gets in touch when it suits her like when she’s been upset etc. and as i said earlier, social media is not an accurate reflection of relationship. he saw me from a distance, and made the effort to not only wave, but to come up to me. we broke up she started seeing this guy at the park right after we broke up an now he’s sleeping over her mothers house while my kids are there. was with my ex boyfriend for about a year, and we just recently broke up about 2 weeks ago. is it unrealistic to think that i can get my husband back under these circumstances? how do i know he is not just using me because he feels lonely or something? then i think: “i am turning him on and then he probably feels the urge to go see his gf”. well i was wrong after 6 months of dating he tells me that he still loves his ex-girlfriend and that i helped him heal the pain he had and that he got in contact with her. think what you plan to do is the only thing you can do. like this happend few times before in the past,but in day or two everything was okay. you and her were not together for very long time, it’s hard to say if her new relationship is a rebound. was with my ex for 3 years and we broke up. then he text me saying this is exactly why i left you “go away” good bye” being mean saying mean names ect. he broke up with me cuz i hurt him about things that he’s exaggerated about and jumping to conclusions and a lot of miscommunication. i feel i would have to tell him if we get back together. have been with my, well now my ex, for 3 years.? when her new bf or sumone is not letting her to miss me anymore…only her late night online whstapp freaks my mind badly . i took her to the parc, to some nice places… and so this time i asked her out. to sum everything up, we have been on and off for about 2 years and during that rocky point of our relationship, i made the biggest mistake of my life. im almost 40 and at my age i’m not looking for the love of my life, i”m looking for someone who can understand me and accept me for who i am and he did. on mar 26 he suddenly messaged me, sharing his story regarding the issue he’s been facing at the office and he asked how my week went. well right before his birthday his ex-girlfriend decided that she wants him back, but he didn’t tell me.? and last friday we had sex, again, yes it’s terrible, and he was texting me all weekend and i spent the whole day with him monday and then tuesday he acts like i don’t even exist like does he feel guilty for keep cheating on her with me? i like the idea of you wowing him better than telling him over texts. about a week ago i saw a text from a guy on my gf’s phone and got disappointed that she was planning to hangout with him and when i asked to see all her other texts between them she said she deleted them because it would’ve made her feel uncomfortable if i saw it.. this ex of mine, doesn’t want me to avoid him and he doesn’t seem to want me to move on from him. ex and i have been broken up for around four months, dated for 3, and knew each other for a year before that. perhaps talking to him will help you get closure, but i believe if you accept that he has moved on and concentrate on moving on yourself, you will realize that closure will come from inside you. that is weird why she can’t just say all the best for you also but just stop contact me. how do i know he is not just using me because he feels lonely or something? you are the love of my life and i regret letting you go but i cant be man enough for you and i feel we had bought each other down and we are both two people in different worlds who magically collided past each other and fell in love. we kept it secret because we thought that if her parents found out they would be constantly watching us and would make it very difficult. your ex seems happy and their new relationship seems to be going perfectly. but if he keeps on insisting, you should let him know that the kids don’t want to speak to him in a cordial tone and that you will appreciate it if he gives you some space and time right now. know it is a rebound relationship but my fear is,he is an ex boyfriend. i guess the best thing for you to do is apply no contact. after schooling days, he stopped on all his medication as it was damaging his kidney and we were still meeting each other. regardless of that, your best course of action is to follow the 5 step plan. the last time was last night he wasnt drunk this time but this time i pulled away and said i cant do it and ran upto my bed, this morning he said hes in a relationship and it only happened because we were together for so long and i should know he is always horny and it meant nothing with no feelings involved, he now thinks its best for him only to come back when im in my bed if he comes back at all. i called her about 2 weeks after this conversation, and she said that she wasnt ready and said she has to find herself and wants to be happy with herself. she has definitely rushed things with this guy (they’ve been together now for about a month) are “in a relationship” on facebook and she’s being very over-the-top with her openness on social media about him in general. he then mentioned that he hadn’t been able to eat since the morning before ( after i made him tell me to get out of his life . ex phoned me on saturday was quite sharp with me and saying he had moved on etc whem it didnt make sense for him to say it so i said i had moved on and it was all aboit kids for me (his parents were with me and heard everything as he was on speaker) he said he didnt want to be in same room as me etc. about if he blocked my number… 🙁 just found that out today. you need to stop trying to rescue the “damsel in distress” and find someone who is happy and who can make you happy. should i break the no contact after 30 days since that day or should wait until he is the one who find me first? and then the day after that he came to my place and stayed the night, and we made breakfast together the next day. i also made it clear to the guy on the first month that we were dating that i can spend time with him late at night only if he’s already my boyfriend or we’re with friends (if we’re not yet a couple). the break up was very clean and mutual: i knew i was suffering and thought maybe we could work it out, but we talked it through and realised there was no fix. we still kept talking for a few weeks after and i confronted him about going to this concert with that grl he was talking to. although at the beginning of the relationship i went to uni and flirted with guys and kissed a girl. but after a week and a half two very close friends of his met in a car accident and were in a critical state. because i always feel i need to have intimate relationship with the man i am going to marry and not anyone else. i couldn’t believe it and i made a lot of the mistakes you talked about like calling her all the time and begging and stuff. i think he wont message me now, but what if he does message a casual hi to me in these four months…please guide me as i dont want to loose this man. i asked him if he will do me a favour and meet up with me. perhaps his new girlfriend is not just a rebound but someone serious. it’s a long distance relationship which she didnt tell me about it until i asked her out to go out for a lunch with me for valentines day. if you try to interfere or try to convince him to breakup, then you are only going to make him want to stay in the relationship. why would he have sex with me if he really loves that girl? rang and texted 5 times, i didn’t read them until today with another 5 messages on top of that. i guess i shouldn’t reply now for a few days… i am trying to re-build attraction not to be his text buddy. i ended up showing up at his house…to what ended up being a better outcome than expected. i found out my ex was in a new relationship i was still struggling with the breakup. were living together so it’s been difficult to do no contact. not saying this will happen not even by a long shot or anything. hope you have had a lovely day and have a lovely holiday next week. i know we are not done with each other (otherwise i wouldn’t be here) and he wouldn’t hide her from me (or so i’m assuming). we were “seeing” each other for the first month, but that was totally exclusive, like we’d stay round each other’s places, met each other’s friends, and would gradually get more intimate, and then after making it “official” we were together for the last 2 months, meeting each other’s parents, all the things a boyfriend/girlfriend normally do. don’t beat yourself for not going through with it this time. somehow i feel that this is some kind of revenge but there is something more in their relationship. i noticed on fb this girl put in a relationship the same day id wrote him the letter. but he started talking to me about his work and the fact that we always spent so much time together and he felt panic. my virginity & i had his first baby, so i didn’t understand why he was doing this to us.! the night that i knocked round his house and he wouldn’t let me in because he had her upstairs. i assume it’s a rebound as everyone has said to me it is and his own cousins where shocked it happened and so soon and having read your page. sometimes i would stop talking to him for a week to see if he cared and did he would call and text me also he would get mad if i didnt tell him where i was at and with who . we were dating and seeing each other for roughly 5-6 months. he seems really happy but i wonder if its a rebound. few weeks later she told me she needs to focus on her everyday life and provide a happiness for her kids, and that we cant continue together. well my ex kept begging me but i would just ignore him&he would text me nonstop call me nonstop. i went nc to try and get him back and now he has moved on:( i tried to contact him in january after seeing him for the first time in 4 months and i text saying hope all is well, he responded saying i couldn’t be happier right now and i told him i was glad. out of no where she started to sleep out alot at her friends house which is a girl who she works with. at the end of this term he became really close to a housemate who recently lost a relative, her boyfriend of 3 years wasn’t treating her right either so he helped her through her break up with him. (i had his birthday gift that i needed to give him which i had been saving) he said no, after a little bit of persuasion he said maybe and he will think about it. this is while he is still dating the other girl. he came home and we had a talk, he brought him my stuff over (i almost lived at his house three or four times a week) he told me i looked beautiful all the time and touched my face, pretty much acting like if he cared. i think the best thing you can do is apply no contact and contact her after that. kevin great read and i think it’s helpful so here’s my situation, me and my because broke up nd became friends with benefits we were great he was like a brother friend to me and very mature, he left me for a new girl pretty, light skin, therfore leaving me with insecurity he said his heart wasn’t with me anymore, and i want him back wat do i do, move on or stay hoping. he is living with this young girl for 4weeks now. we eventually broke up because i asked him for a little space (i asked him twice for space) because i was going through a medical crises and but i never told him about this crises. a second right after that my ex came out and i was like oh boy here we go. if it’s too hard for you to look at his facebook, you should remove him for a while, at least till the no contact period is over. i have a feeling he is txt’n some else at the moment. i found out that he is now in a relationship with a girl from the band, and they started to date just 10 days after our break up. this is the first time she has agreed to go out (as friends) for over a year. maybe there are things that would have to change and we can have a rational discussion about whether such changes are possible, given our situations”. i don’t visit him so i will never know. i wish you happiness but i’ve moved on and you should too. the only thing that should matter to you right now is to get out of this negative spiral you are stuck in and try to enjoy your life. that’s why it makes me worried that this is the same thing happening with my current ex. kevin so me and this boy was bestfriends we been talking for about 2 1/2 years we went together for 10 months but we broke up because i believed what other people told me over him and we argued about him trying to talk to other girls. guess what i am planning to get out of this is your advice/opinion on the matter… do you think what he told me was just stories to protect my feelings? how are you planning to get out of this state of mind leave her behind? then we slowly started talking again thru text and phone. the reason is simple, text messages are private and she is less likely to find out about them. it’s getting harder and harder for me to be so close to him and not be able to kiss him. and do you think this is just a phase or karma that he’s going through? i barely saw him during the holidays as we were both busy, the w hen we came back to college he ended it, claiming he didn’t want to do long distance again (we would be next year and the year after). anyway he was coming to stay with kids when i weny into have baby, when he arrived i was in labour didnt realise but his mum came and we went in ambulance he stayed with our kids. the kids being kids had lost the remote for it so i told him i had bought a universal one for him and i would give it to his mum when it arrives. i felt like she looked at me like she still hates me and like i said she is in a relationship now from what i can tell. over the time i was away i’ve become a much stronger and happier person, but i also realise i want him back, wherever in the country we are. makes me think he is having a hard think and is scared it wont work out well. i was just so happy he came round and talked to me my feelings got the better of me but since then we are talking everyday but just as friends as he is interested in another girl but wouldn’t get in a relationship with her because of us always fighting :s i don’t mind if i have to wait because to me he was the one, we were planning on getting married but then through the stressful times i caught him sending pictures to a girl so kicked him out, he fought for me for a bit but i was to angry but once i calmed down it was to late and he preferred friends. this is the first time i’ve ever done anything like this, i feel helpless. the next day she tagged him in a couple photos on her facebook., my ex and i met on an online dating site a few months ago and through our emails, pictures and skype we got extremely close- he was very helpful and comforting when my mother passed away and we made plans to meet when i made my trip to the states, we spent a week together and had an amazing time, and once i returned i brought up my decision to move there permanently (it has been on my mind for a year before i met him) and he went from initially asking me to move in with him to it declining to the point where he said he may not even meet me at the airport- we agreed to be non exclusive to avoid excessive pressure though we still like each other, until a few days before my big move when he messages me out of the blue and asks me to never message or speak to him again. it’s been two weeks i haven’t spoken to him and it’s my birthday this week. i have fought for him but given up and decided on making a friendship to get him to remember how we are together its just extremely difficult with a daughter and another girl maybe coming in the picture x. i slept over at his house on wednesday; we went to a county fair together on saturday; and he asked me out to lunch on sunday..My ex and i broke up officially in november (we had been having a rough patch for awhile). i get a message from him asking again about my eye, saying kids looked smart and little one was showing him his new band. crazy thoughts rush through my mind like is he catfishing me? i also know that my ex still cares and loves me somewhere in his heart. even if your relationship had problems, she chose to leave you instead of working on them. you have to make an effort to go out there and make yourself happier. we got secretly married (no one still knows) and after a few months he lost his job and moved to another state. and his new girlfriend have now been together for three months and already signed a lease together for may. i do show him that i appreciate his efforts by thanking him, talking to him on the phone often (but i’ve never called him), and kissing him. i know that no one likes his new girlfriend and wants us back together but i’m not sure how to get him back… he was my first love and first boyfriend. i am pushing myself not to text or call and to be honest i deleted his number anyway. but i must be on his mind for him to be makinig these conscious decisions to post and remove my mum. and if it is, there’s really nothing you can do unless she realizes that she made a mistake. i went to his house and asked him if she was the reason everything went sour for us and he said no, that they recently had crossed paths. when we finally meet up at a neutral place on valentines day she was cold and distant. now when i got the ride from him i didn’t know that my ex still didn’t like him. i’m always make it through in mostly things what i wanted but in this kind of situation i made myself needy person. i used to be happy and confident and funny when we first met then went to a dark place and thats all he sees anymore is the memory of the darkness. and of course she’s now got a new guy now so it doesn’t matter; if she’s happy then good for her, that’s all i want for her anyway, before now and in the future. ex boyfriend started a new relationship while he was still in a relationship with me i knew we had problems and, i found out about him being engaged, but he continued to contact me/flirt with me and visit me. add to my previous reply , i would like to confess that i have unblocked him on fb today,,although i have not sent him a friend request…and i wont send him a friend request on fb till my no contact period is over that is for sure i think……. and my boyfriend dated for almost two years, we would go through rough patches and good patches, but after we took a break for the first time it changed, we were really happy after the break for about two months, but then after that it was horrible, he didn’t like my parents and they didn’t like him, soon it was pretty constant fighting and i always got blamed, about six months after our first break he completly stopped talking to me, the last text i got said hey :)! so come sunday he arrived at his parents i was there and he was like a different person he stayed full day talking to me (never mentioned saturday phone call) made me tea and laughing then as he was leaving he said just cause we had a good day dont take it wrong way i just said he wasnt to get wrong idea. week i saw my ex and her boyfriend walking and holding hands in a shopping mall near where i live. you are trapping yourself in negativity about the relationship and yourself and i will suggest you seek professional help at this point. i didnt reply …i am too hurt… four months is a long period. i was always this was more then just a friendship from first time hearing about him. on the other hand, if you are not already friends with your ex’s new fling, absolutely do not friend her! it’s 2 months since i have not talked to my ex, and he has not contacted me either – i know he is still meeting the girl, but not treating her as a girlfriend or something like that. my son never really got along with his father so there to be honest is no love lost there. you have to give him just enough time to miss you, but not enough to completely forget about you. a few days later he breaks up with his girlfriend and has me come over and spend the night.. went few dates and messed up his mind and he called off the whole wedding thing. neither of us have had a new relationship in this time. he moved home in january, and than he started being distant… well, i decided to follow him one day and the girl that he was dating, showed up there to pick him up. reason it’s a rebound is because she is not completely over for you. i still had feelings for her , even if we fought a lot. it doesn’t matter if you want to get back together or not. i really love my boyfriend and i want to get him back.’s me again and thank you very much for your answers. then contact her using one of the methods in this article. i’m not sure if i’m at “deaths door” or “indifference”? i see her everyday so the nc rule is not possible. this wouldn’t be a rebound if they decide to take it to a more than friends level and so is there anything i can do to bring him back? now, my question is: do i mention his gf/relationship at all or shall i just enjoy our time together? not showing love, putting other people’s opinions in front of his, lying, being too clingy, terrible awful breakup that took over two months and therapy. trust is what’s keeping us apart and now he seems as if he found someone new worth moving on with even though they arent in a relationship. what should i do, i really care about this girl alot to move to state where she’s from. he said that i really hurt him and needed space which i didn’t really give as i missed him. stay no contact for another 60 days and if you still want him back after that, contact him. im pretty sure that he still wants to be friends otherwise he would of just ignored me completely. my friend asked him if he’d ever consider getting back with me he said “i don’t want to say no, just because of all the good memories we’ve had together. after a bout 8 month at sea i find out he is dating someone else i though i was okay with it but when i finish the contract and returned home and started working at my old job where both my ex and his new girlfriend work i feel very sad and heart broken i love him and wish to be back with him he has been dating this girl nearly three month now what should i do.” i tried calling him because i wanted to get some closure…but he texted back “please enough is enough. i do recommend a letter in the 5 step plan, but if you are trying to get him back from his new girlfriend, text messages are the way to go. a therapist can help a lot if you are unable to let go of obsessive thoughts. i go i sit what ever i see he is in my mind what happened to him? he also said that he wouldn’t give up on me and didn’t, he was very persistant i might add (and initially immensely clingy) and i ended up falling for him, (i struggled with depression and he was the one to pull me out of it, i know this sounds cliché but he was my rock) he incessantly promised me that we would be together for a long time, he always talked about wanting to get married and having kids and was really excited about it. well, kissing your ex when you know you are starting seeing somone is not ok. she just glanced at me really quick and it looked like it was a disapproved look, like really this guy. he is cold every time you contact him, then it’s very hard to change his mind. and when he was leaving we kept kissing like if we missed eachother so much. seems i have a cycle where i miss him after 5 months. after discussing about it for a while i admitted to him (on the phone…) that i had never friendly feelings for him and that i want him to be more for me. it wasn’t really the case that i saw him with someone else and then i missed him. im almost 40 and at my age i’m not looking for the love of my life, i”m looking for someone who can understand me and accept me for who i am and he did.. but the problem is, another guy came into the picture and so my ex boyfriend during that time thought that i broke up with him because of the new guy, which was not true. he got a new picture with his new girl captioned “life companion”. i have tried everything possible to reconcile i have had no response i keep texting and calling no answer. he never really got over his ex and never really got closure. well he told me to stop crying and to come to his house later so we could talk. he has been dating this other girl for a year now (i saw it coming and warned him) and now i don’t know what to do. we have a almost 2 year old daughter together so this always makes things more difficult. the other hand, if he does choose you, then you should understand that the reason he chose you is because of the new and improved you. here are a few key facts about my situation right now:• my ex and i were best friends before we started going out, but i wasn’t honest with myself and didn’t love him for the first two months of it. this is assuming that you followed the step 3 in the 5 step plan(the no contact rule and working on yourself). forgot to say earlier that the last time we spoke long on the phone (like two weeks ago) i told her that she is so beautiful and other praises and she didn’t say anything good about me and something she said like she have seen that i have changed but she haven’t changed and doesn’t want me back. she was staying at his house on the nights that i would watch our daughter. deep questions to ask your boyfriend tonight that will immediately bring you two closer. what matters more is what you say in your text and how you your attitude towards him is. because he said that he thought he wasted my time for ten months and that he selfishly kept me in his life all this time because i made him feel better. practically that one year, i was just there as a thing and he has hurt me so much when his ex came into picture. i don’t know is he my ex type but i must say he is some kind of alpha male but he didn’t smile so much than me and maybe isn’t so alive person.. its been almost two months and hes still with this grl i think, im not 100% sure, haven’t heard anything from him. i don’t know if him and this girl are still together i’m afraid to ask. ) then she started using whatsapp(yes i never let her to use whatsapp coz in fb only lots of ppl started proposing her, i always stayed away her from males bcz i never wanted to loose her anyhow, her past only used to force me to do all things but i never failed in giving love which is most imp), i somehow managed to get her new number of whatsapp & she was shocked by seeing that i got her new number also of whatsapp . its like he’s trying to tell me that he wants me to be his girlfriend. figure out exactly what you want and when you contact him again, let him know what you need and expect. i feel betrayed that he didn’t wait for me after saying he would, which is probably unreasonable. but don’t be ashamed of yourself and don’t apologize for it. you think its a rebound or is it possible that he might actually become serious about this second girl? And while you are still trying to understand what happened and pick up the shattered pieces of your lif — Comments PageEx dating someone else signs aren't easy to pick up. know he doesnt want to see me because i am his weakness and he cant be around me without wanting to be more with me so hes trying to move on with someone else and not see me or be my friend….. i had left him alone and he contacted my best friend asking how i was doing and that he wanted to be friends cause he cared about me still our breakup related to my actions and mistakes that pushed him way over the edge. made things worse for me is that i saw him, two his colleagues and the girl in our own hometown. like i said they are the same exact person with everything. later implemented the “appreciation” texts and he actually apologized for not being around (for everyone who is reading these articles and are still skeptic, believe me it works). he changed his contact number and told all my friends not to give his new number to me. i went back home for christmas and we spent a night together. i couldn’t control myself and i said to him that i was disappointed that he didn’t ask me permission to see my ex but in the end i said all the best for you. when you contact him after nc is over, both of you will hopefully be a lot clear on what you want in life and you can discuss it before getting back together. i didn’t say anything because i was expecting him to talk about it first since he’s the one who first showed interest in me. dated this guy for a year and we were happy till we started having issues. broke up with my ex two years ago but we had a long story with ups and downs for about 4 years. saying he wants to see me but it’s working on keeping better boundaries with women; he would rather talk about the good; he still wants to have a picnic with my kids; and is available for a walk or coffee when i’m ready. i feel there is a real change in me and that i have grown up and matured mentally, physically and spiritually. especially if you have been trying to contact him for a while. i dont understand his game, he dont want me but dont want me to move on or be with anyone else. this time he showed no sign of real kindness or heart towards me. he says that he wants to stay optimistic when it comes to us, but is still seeing this girl and then he encourages me to see someone to but i don’t want anyone else. was really shaken up after our break, and didn’t know about the nc rule…after we broke up i texted him several times and i ended up called him profuseley apologizing and told him that i loved him (which i admittedly never did during our relationship). it will be better to just cut your losses and try to move on.. my ex and i have been separated for over 4 yrs. we eventually broke up because i asked him for a little space (i asked him twice for space) because i was going through a medical crises and but i never told him about this crises. i don’t know if he still considers me to be his best friend though but whatever we’re friends. now she seems like a cold person and acts like she is over me..And i belive, deep down in his heart, he still has feelings for me, he just forgot how sweet and how much we were in love when we were together. let him move out, in fact, even encourage him to get his own place. ex and i finally started talking after 5 months of nc and he is seeing someone else. as you can imagine i didn’t handle this very well, i did all the mistakes of begging and telling her i couldn’t live without her etc. he would live again the beautiful part of us but not the difficult times. know he doesnt want to see me because i am his weakness and he cant be around me without wanting to be more with me so hes trying to move on with someone else and not see me or be my friend…. do you think if you understand her behavior and what’s going on in her mind, you will suddenly start feeling better? you have established good communication with him via text messages and established that you are no longer a needy and clingy person, you should try to set up a meet. i was getting text that said “borreedd what u doin ? before i knew it, they were engaged within one month of dating. (technically speaking, the rebound already ended and this time, you will be starting a normal relationship and taking it slow). we talk as friends, and it is very casual, no flirting or anything. i’ve never trusted these things before but your article actually seems pretty reliable so here i am..and i texted her a couple days later just to let her know her know i was sending her kids gift cards for their birthdays she didn’t get mad she just said ok. i replied back in morning saying eye is as good as it will get. need some advice so me and my ex have been broken up for 3 months and just yesterday he told me he was with someone and before that we would keep in contact all the time but i was surprised when he said he was with someone else because it always seemed as if he would give me a chance he would compliment me and he would act sad saying if you have moved on i really don’t want to know the thing is, is that im in love with this guy and we’re i guess friends but im in love with him and i don’t want to give up on him i need help.]they were high school sweethearts when they went to college they lost their communication and things ended between them but every time they see each other the feeling is still there and every time they try to make a relationship out of it something always goes wrong and nothing happens. i don’t know if it’s somebody from this country or from somewhere else but, she hasn’t started going out (yet) and although i really want to ask her who/where this bloke is/from…i don’t want it to kill me anymore than it is. the other hand, yes, life without him will be scary at first. even if he doesn’t contact him after two months using texts mentioned in this article. i understand he is getting the good feeling being with her that was lacking for a long time in our marriage. last june he came home from a mission trip and said he need time to think. if you think he is attracted to you enough and have been warm to you for a while now (without being cold to you), then you can. almost 2 months of nc i contacted him using your text suggestions.– been slowly building attraction, then flirting a lot, reminiscing our good times, went for coffee a few times, he took me to the cinema a few days ago then yesterday we watched a film at my place. dont know what to make of this txt from my partner that just broke up with me two nights ago.

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i broke up in a period in life where i was depressed caused by economics, lack of work and waiting for some biopsy-result from the hospital. i was looking at his fb, which i know i shouldnt be, and i accidently liked a post someone posted on his wall, because i was scrolling with my finger on my iphone. company which was his plan before when we were still together..n msged me once that i dont want to c u agn, dont interfer in my life or she will complaint to there family again,i have no idea what to do now. i know it’s not really him that she loves so much as it is the fact that he makes her happy and he’s fun but she won’t listen to me. i met my ex i was 18 years and he was 22. three weeks of further no contact, i contacted my ex and we resolved all the issues and answered all questions regarding our breakup.’ve applyied nc rule for 30 days and got back to hear from him last week with some texts, last night i’ve asked him if he celebrated ( it was his bday) and he replied me today sending me the pics of a girl with the text “yeah, i’ve celebrated with her and had sex with her 5 times”.. he started on a dating site 4 days afte the break up and told me so. this past christmas idk what had got into him but he came back to us. to know the truth isn’t even for the purpose of rekindling anything, but just for a sense of closure. unfortunately for him, i’d binned all his stuff having given him months to collect and contacted him many times and then said i’d bin them. i did it becuase i felt i had a lot of personal issues to deal with (family, etc. guy seems to be the exact opposite of someone she would usually date. know it is a rebound relationship but my fear is,he is an ex boyfriend. the other hand, it could be that your ex waited months before entering the new relationship and it could still be a rebound depending if they never really got over you..The next day i felt that my lifepower was so drained. well after the exchange she texted me on my way home saying thanks. it was just a coincidence and not an act of god to punish you. apparently, due to our closeness, we know we both had feelings for each other but the problem is that no one between us dared to open about it. well he told me to stop crying and to come to his house later so we could talk. he keeps telling me to be patient and he loves me, but honestly, i am starting to feel used at this point and i feel like he is just trying to prevent me from moving on. don’t beat yourself for not going through with it this time. when he told me he wanted to break up, he also told me he still loved me, he kept telling me it wasn’t my fault he just needed time to himself, to put himself first and explained that he wasn’t able to do that if we were together because he always put me first… i was, to say the least, an emotional wreck, and so couple of days later i went to his house to talk to him and we ended up talking for a couple of hours, i kept saying “so, thats it, i’ve lost you forever, i’m never going to be with you again…” and his response was “i never said that was going to happen, just for now i can’t be with you, i never said i didn’t love you. she might feel that she is in love with garry because garry provides her with comfort and an escape from the pain that she desires deeply. down i would love to reconnect with her again, but i know i do not deserve this kind of behavior. soon enough, she will realize her relationship with garry for what it is. he said he cannot afford to be self fish by calling me there but he also knew how important he is in my life. i told him i would text him on his birthday. the next day, he doesn’t really talk to me, i’m thinking “ok, he’s still mad it’s cool he will get over it.” he said ” you never know when she will be around and the s%#t would hit the fan if i called or text when she was around . he always does this when he is angry/upset (even with friends) so i knew i would have to wait a couple of weeks for him to be back. there is a chance that he will come back if his relationship doesn’t work out. so backstory is that my ex and i broke up 6 months ago because of long distance. i know it sucks that he is with someone else, but there is nothing you can do about it and you have to come in terms with that. his new girlfriend is controlling and jealous and i think his relationship will soon end. i even asked if she was trying to make me jealous and put up my evidence in front of her (even friend of her didnt understand her behaviour). i failed a lot because i became so needy and asked many times does she have any feelings and does she miss me…. wouldn’t she be missing him a lot and the way they were together as more then friends. if not before, i expected a text from him really early in the morning before or after his work out, but nothing. really don’t know what my next move should be ? what should i do if he asks for a pic before we meet? i’ve offered to show my fb account, email, phone records, texts, even take a polygraph to prove ive been 100% faithful. telling she cant adjust with me as i am 11 months younger to her and now she is in a relation with a new guy whom her parents will also like and she loves him alot and will marry him, and she also told me doesnt love me any more and dont expect her again. he tells this girl how much he loves her and she is sending him rental flats all the time as she is moving in with him and hes telling her to arrange viewings. he wants to use this lame excuse to hide the fact that he has already cheated on you emotionally. if he got married, you should cut all contact with him and move on. and my ex bf broke up in january after 2 and a half years (we kept in touch until mid feb, which was painful for both of us…me calling him to talk and sort things out and he avoiding, or him calling me in the middle of the night drunk because i was his closest person. i know receiving a rose on her b’day will bring a smile to her face but it is so predictable, from me. forward 2 weeks and i text him after really thinking about what couldve been wrong and apologized and he told me that there are a lot of bitches that like wtf did i think and i said im sure there are but is the chemistry the same, he said better. rebound relationship don’t work out because the person in a rebound is not emotionally available to start a healthy relationship. shes in virginia now and the new guy is in jamaica which i find weird for a new relationship to work she is coming back in august tho, could this be a rebound? i miss him so much and want him back but it seems to be too late. then he said his personal life was a mess but when i asked why he wouldn’t tell me, but at the same time he said he was seeing other girls. earlier few months ago she said that i could best father for her children and if she met someone she is afraid that cheat him with me. unfortunately i may have screwed up on your rules because after finding out he was dating someone else i told him that i couldn’t talk to him because i still had feelings and wanted to do the whole “out of sight, out of mind” approach. if you have any questions or would like to share your story, please post a comment. she said that she doesn’t want me back and she is happy to moving on. so i think he is scared to tell me he made a mistake and has to stay consistent..i am trying this time to stay silent and show my absence for atleast 2 months…. of all, which couple discusses big life decision on their facebook wall? you for doing such a great job i have always liked reading through your advices and they have helped me clear up some questions. the problem here is if he did not love he should not even had initiated all this when he found girls who can have sex with him and walk out. latest i was gonna wait to ask him if he still wanted to hang out was the day our show comes on, and until then just bide my time. and i am just wondering if i should tell him how i feel about him still or would it make it worst? right after break-up she said those things what were in my last messages to you (angry behavior) last contact was when i wished good for future her and she texted same for me. although, from what you said, he is still not fully over you. even if you want to get back together, initiate no contact for at least 60 days. she told me that she had crushed on a german guy when she was an exchange student in sweden. were living together, looking at a bigger house, talking about having kids and she was always dropping hints about being married one day (what she didn’t realise was i had planned to ask her to be my wife as a surprise xmas gift). however, i knew he loved me, he texts me , and we do work it out. you need to find a way to deal with your own grief and i don’t think obsessing over her relationship and her happiness is a good way to do so. so i am taking my time to decide this first and then i will go from there. question is, do you think there is still a chance even if she doesn’t want a boyfriend now? i’ve started going to therapy to better myself and i’ve asked him to come with me, but unfortunately he has met someone else and is growing more attached to her by the day. i just wanted your opinion my ex has started to do some strange behaviour. read this article to know how to apply no contact when you have kids.. he said he is still attracted to me and still would be for a long time. you should read the 5 step plan if you haven’t already. you want to find out your chances of getting your ex back? ex and i broke up approx 4 and 1/2 months ago, we were together for over 5 years. then about a 4-6 weeks ago he tells me that he has started seeing someone else and he said he didn’t know how serious it was but he didn’t want me to be blindsided if we didn’t hang out as much. i found out that he is now in a relationship with a girl from the band, and they started to date just 10 days after our break up. don’t quiet understand when you say if she don’t respond which is unlikely in my case. if you try to get him back, he will always have it at the back of his mind that he never got the chance to explore his options. a way i want him back but another part of me is thinking if it would make the both of us happy. day 8 nothing so called and left voicemail saying i’m binning your bits but still want mine. tell him he can’t fully commit to you, then you will cut him off from your life and move on. we had a long distance relationship for about a year after we met online.!but he go out with someone else how do i get him back? you ever want to make things work with him, you should work on your communication skills before getting back in touch with him. now, they seem to be connected at the hip and he told me to move on, let this go and if we come back to each other then we know it’s meant to be. the other hand, if he does choose you, then you should understand that the reason he chose you is because of the new and improved you. you want to ask a question about your relationship or breakup, head over to the boards. and when he came home he was being really distant so i asked if we could talk… and it turned out that he had been talking to her and that he all of a sudden didn’t see a future with me. and then the day after that he came to my place and stayed the night, and we made breakfast together the next day.. i just don’t know what to say, or if its even worth it..to my surprise he came there with his new girl firend,,it was so painful for me because right infront of my eyes both of them were sharing and talking things which we both used to say and do when together…i was very hurt but i didnt react infront of them…but when i came back home i tore all his cards, decided to throw away all the clothes he gifted me and i blocked him on my fb and in the night i told him so, i even told him that i was hurt that he got her along…to this he replied that she was a simple friend who accompanies him whereever she goes and in such a case he thinks he shouldnt have helped me in the first place…. and while you are still trying to understand what happened and pick up the shattered pieces of your life, your ex has started another relationship. alas a mth ago he met a girl who he believed is a clone of his xgf. today when i messaged him regarding some of his clothes he ignored me flat. he posted on his fb that certain decision in life you will make, you shall regret but cheerish the one who was there for you when you were down, i thought he finally did realize something but to my dismay when i initiated talking he just broke up with me and asked me to just move on. we laughed a little but he has gone quiet as i know he is getting ready for work. im being strong and getting on with life with kids and being pregnant but still cant believe this is all happening. since we were texting but none of us again dared to open up about the recent hangout. if he meant what he said, then he will break up with her and reach out to you. things were different since then, he was very sincere in working things out and shortly after that he left to uk for his studies. we used to still text, but like about a week or two ago, she got mad and said either to stop talking to her or me. so another month goes by and while on facebook i see she is tagged in a pic in a hugging pose with another guy. i have just started my own business, and normally i would have shared this with him so that has made me miss him a bit more too. situation is complicated,i have been together with him for 6 years,so he decided date someone else without me knowing,as we us women we like to dig information,i started asking him questions…. the bad thing is every time i see them i what to say some but it might ruin my chances of every getting back with him or us just been friends. ex broke up with me 10 weeks ago (we dated for 2. it was really hard to hear her lash out and distort me and our relationship to say the least.’m looking for places…she does need to miss me but, in all honesty, i don’t she any hope in her coming back to me. he asked me if everything is really good, and i said, “yeah, i just wanted you to tell me the truth and you did. we broke up in december and now he’s dating this new girl. its now been 5 months our break up, i’m still hurting and trying to go forward in life but my ex is still in my heart and doesn’t go away. already know when she gives you an opportunity and you make her feel like she wasted her time it’s over and there isn’t going to be another chance. and my now ex had been with each other for about 1. however, once i did move he kinda stopped texting me. i met her a day before we broke up and she said “i miss you so much” and hugged me hugely. i knew i was healed from my previous relationship when we started dating and i thought he was on the same page as me. if you try to interfere or try to convince him to breakup, then you are only going to make him want to stay in the relationship. dont know if this is any good advice but i’m going to stay strong and i am not going to use this guy i like as a pawn in me and my ex’s relationship. but all that is not going to help you with your current state of mind. i told him that the gift was specifically chosen for him and he said that we can talk about it. the big difference is that i actually cared about my current ex more then i have for anyone i told her i actually felt love for her not lust like others. when we go too long without talking he shows up to my family parties (he has been friends with my brother and sister for 13 years) and we end up speaking again. and the reason why is that her boyfriend started talking to her again. i last saw him it was the weekend after his birthday, he stood with me and i had intentions of confronting him about his birthday because my gut feeling told me he spent his birthday with his ex-girlfriend. we haven’t communicated since valentine’s day and it’s been a month since they’ve started dating and almost 4 months since we broke up.? i have no idea what is truth n what is lies, but when v had relation she never told abt marriage & but it is also true that she chats 24hrs these days even though she gets tired from office works,if its bf i can get her back with ur help coz i have seen her true love before , you know her love forced me to accept 14th proposal. 10 days later he initiated again saying stuff like “i still think about you all the time and i miss the times we used to have and i wish i still had you but i screwed everything up” then we talked some but then i find out that he has a new girlfriend just a week and a half later. and my gf were in a relationship for a year and a half, we had a beautiful relationship but last month was rough, we didn’t have much time for each other and we didn’t talk soo much. read this article to learn about no contact with kids. i hate to say it, but this is what i feel. if things don’t work out by that time, give up on him and move on. she is just a little girl and if that’s what he wants right now then be it. so clearly it is not a rebound not was it ever. i can’t see 7 months as being significant time or the other person think that either. she said when he was stressed she would get stressed and then he would get mad cause she didn’t express what was wrong with her that’s when she said he yelled at her. the morning after she posts up “off the see (boyfriends name here)” again this time with hearts. i’m not sure if i should put my heart on my sleeve or try to play it cool. i want to know if he is just using me or if there is something still there and i have to just be patient and show him who i am now. made the mistake of getting upset and voicing to him that he will not be seeing his children again (i suspect this woman is on drugs and he made no defence that she was not) when i saw him today he looked like a shell of a man not like someone who was in a happy place to say the least, he was thin, gaunt and looked like he has been through the ringer and possibly on drugs himself i suspect. if instead of trying to convince him to get back together and that you could change, you would’ve just played it cool, you would’ve increased your chances of getting back together. am ready to do no contact rule but since my case is very different . she is so nice and beautiful person and it’s very hard to forgot everything. then yesterday i found out that he put my stuff in a empty apartment building in back of my house and that she moved in yesterday and her kids she already painted both rooms yesterday for her kids and then my brother called my ex boyfriend 2 days ago and he told my ex boyfriend either he is with me or not and he said to my brother that i was staking him and that he told me that it was over and that he keep telling me and that and that i am stupid because i can’t get it threw my head and then he said to my brother he moved on and he hopes this relationship works and that he don’t want any drama and he doesn’t want me to show up at the house at all but he told my brother that i am a friend and that he cares about me and what happens to me and that he loves me and he told my brother that he was not happy in the relationship with me and him and then he said that he met the new girlfriend a couple of days after i went on vacation and that he liked her and then he told my brother that i was going to live in the house and she was going to live in the house and my ex boyfriend said that won’t work so he told my brother that i am out and his new girlfriend was in and i am still on vacation at this rate with no house to go home to and he told my brother also that he wanted to end it with me a while back but didn’t know how to because he didn’t want to hurt my feelings and that is why he did it now because i am around family and he wants me to stay with family. i was thinking about waiting 95 days of nc and sending him a little message letting him know that i was thinking about him… what are your thoughts on my situation and what i should do from here? the hardest part is we were each other’s first relationship, we talked about getting married and having children and our future together, his family are my second family and vice versa. i still have feelings for this guy, and he just got into a relationship with another guy and it’s tearing me apart. the reason for this is because that day i was just speechless of what happened but i was really happy deep inside. he was head over heels for me and he contacted me a few days ago and told me he was thinking about me and always will but he seems very cold and distant with no emotion in his voice whatsoever but after he told me he was done then he says if i ever need anything hes hear for me always no matter what…. what i am trying to say is that no matter what happens, your course of action right now should be the same, i. he is living with this young girl for 4weeks now. we were completely in love but this must have changed his mind right away. now, you should have a pretty good idea about what to do and how to get your ex boyfriend back. i was just so happy he came round and talked to me my feelings got the better of me but since then we are talking everyday but just as friends as he is interested in another girl but wouldn’t get in a relationship with her because of us always fighting :s i don’t mind if i have to wait because to me he was the one, we were planning on getting married but then through the stressful times i caught him sending pictures to a girl so kicked him out, he fought for me for a bit but i was to angry but once i calmed down it was to late and he preferred friends. you for doing such a great job i have always liked reading through your advices and they have helped me clear up some questions. what i’m confused about is four days later he had moved on to a new girl and they’re currently dating. the following day he began to act distant yet again, saying things we moving too fast. in the first couple days of the breakup i made the mistake of begging him to work through our issues instead of breaking up with me, and i told him i would always be there for him. being closer to her friend then she usual was and if it didn’t work why would she even think of me. i met my ex i was 18 years and he was 22. i keeps seeing his friends on campus and they all ignore me and it’s hell, i want him back, i feel like we were soulmates 🙁 i don’t know what to do 🙁 the thing is, we agreed not to live together until after college (i’m 19 and he is 21) because we didn’t want to rush things, yet he’s now in a relationship with his housemate… and they’ll be long distance next year, and they’re already having sex? cut all contact with him and move on with your life., it’s normal for an ex to act this way. only thing you can do to make him realize he made the wrong decision is by leaving him alone and start living your life to the fullest. it was obvious he did because he took me out at the end of may for my bday and even kissed me and showed he cared. well right before his birthday his ex-girlfriend decided that she wants him back, but he didn’t tell me. ex girlfriend of just under 2 years broke up with me in march because she said she couldnt be in a romantic relationship anymore, not just with me, but anyone. he goes quite now every time i look at phone and says “is that him”. if he wants to keep messaging him i will leave them be and unfollow him. its like he’s trying to tell me that he wants me to be his girlfriend. i have tried just to be short and friendly but all i get is she reads my text then never replys just ignoring it or replys once hours later and that’s it. didn’t reply to this, however is this a response that he does still care and he really was just confused? she said she misses the old me where she fell in love with in the first place and that if i become the old one again, she wil get back with me maybe. he tells this girl how much he loves her and she is sending him rental flats all the time as she is moving in with him and hes telling her to arrange viewings. him and his friends told me that it really tore him up. me and my ex broke up almost 4 years ago and and he has “moved on” he tells me i also have a bf but he just got in contact with my sister and asked for me and then he asked to talked to me with the excuse of trying to help me move on he said he told his new gf of 1 year and 6 months that he wanted to talk to me and help me. since we were texting but none of us again dared to open up about the recent hangout. i bombarded her with texts and calls for the first couple of days. were living together, looking at a bigger house, talking about having kids and she was always dropping hints about being married one day (what she didn’t realise was i had planned to ask her to be my wife as a surprise xmas gift). i’m just wondering what i need to do to get him to see that he still loves me, he has told me he still cares about me but he is just confused about what to do. i didn’t write the letter and moved straight to the text message contact. he came and met my family and i pawned my jewels and was doing 3 part time jobs to save some money and pay him visit in uk. use this time to improve yourself even more and become more confident. so i text with advice from my mum to tell him i would like to know whether we could start a fresh or just stay friends and he has ignored me. the weird thing was that i saw a dream about this. i told him that i was happy he met someone else, that he no longer needs to be sad since his longingness for a relationship has been fulfilled. he was so harsh on me and surprisingly after that 5 months of not talking with me, he reconciled with me for real. if it were to break down between them and she contacted me what would you suggest i do? i can tell you from my experience that she is not as happy in the relationship as you think she is and she does miss you and probably still has a place in her heart for you. it felt like we’ve made a mistake and he was talking about all the memories we had. he says he likes being around her cause she is not smarter than him, she listens to hat he says and doesn’t argue back like how things were in our old relationship, i almost feel bad for her. my questions are, is he rebounding with the new girl? his texts started kind of neutral, but are now more and more positive. i am a few days into applying the nc rule now… would it work in this situation? as if im saying or doing something wrong by texting. however she now is dating this new guy 2 weeks after we broke up. everything was fine and got along and hung out a lot (nothing sexual) just friends. i said saying things like this doesn’t help if you don’t want to try to work things out with me, it just hurts me more . this break-up made me so weak and maybe it’s best that i don’t give her that book and don’t answer to her? she said she is sorry and that she is just a close friend and my bf then also denied and he was very upset that i even suspected and asked her instead of waiting for him. this time, when you ask him to meet, just say you want to catch up, instead of saying “talk about things”. we have either been together or acting like we were together without the title and not seeing others except for my relationship for 3 1/2 years. let him move out, in fact, even encourage him to get his own place. i know that i can be better boyfriend but all the post break-up stuff i have made badly and all the mistakes i made are not good. she is 35 im 28 she saw that i had grown up a lot since i was 18 and was immediately attracted to me. your ex has found a way to deal with the grief. i got tired of him eating his cake and started a huge fight where he said he was finally ready to let go. the reason is simple, text messages are private and she is less likely to find out about them. forgot that she had mentioned that it’s crazy how next month would have been a year since we started. you will have very serious trust issues in the future and i don’t see him admitting to his mistake and proving to you that he is willing to change. i never asked him to do this, it came from him. but the real question is, do you really want to sabotage his new relationship so you could give it another try? he dumped me over spring break, on text because he got mad at me that i forgot to do something. it’s a good thing that he is contacting you. what we had is in the past, and things are different for me now. if it doesn’t work then, you should move on. if he asks me something by msging me in the mean while,,should i reply? wall fell to the ground when she told me she will gather her things she has in my apartment, cut every type of contact for ever and she has someone new. he told me that this came all out of a sudden he meet her en she liked hem and vica versa..I have read your tips and such, but i’m not sure this is a rebound for her or if this is it. i want him to realize that he made the wrong decision. i just don’t understand if my being a single mom was really an issue, since he told me from the start he accepts me for who i am (unless his family’s totally against the idea), or he’s just a pathetic flirt. no contact again and this time when he contacts you, don’t answer till the end of no contact. you need to stop thinking about the past and start thinking of your future. the problem is a few times my now ex has ended up kissing me passionately but then next day says its because he was drunk and it will never happen again as he was just wanting sex.) then his birthday weekend came and he didn’t even bother to text me once, not even drunk when he always texts me drunk without missing a beat. my exs friend had noticed this and told to her. guess what i am planning to get out of this is your advice/opinion on the matter… do you think what he told me was just stories to protect my feelings? here are a few key facts about my situation right now:• my ex and i were best friends before we started going out, but i wasn’t honest with myself and didn’t love him for the first two months of it. (ming you that valentines day was a week before his birthday, which he found my work address and sent me flowers and we had an amazing valentines day. and even though you are second guessing the decision right now, you still know deep inside it was the right thing to do. when i found out about the other girl i asked him about it and said i was confused because he had just saw me and kissed me and things felt so right. the only thing you can understand and control is your actions. i don’t want to think that because he is someone i’ve always considered to be a very honest person … i’m just really unsure now … it thought we’d be able to work things out … but now i don’t know. there is a very good chance he might never come back to you (although, i really hope he realizes what he’s missing and comes back). the problem was afterwards he was so insistent he didn’t want a relationship. came across your site and am starting to follow the 5 steps and have recently began the 30 day nc period.” so he said ok, and for confirmation i asked him “so you made up your mind, it’s her right? am against the idea of giving gifts to an ex unless you are on the verge of getting back together. but every year just when i think yep im good and he is nowhere on my mind he will text me. somehow i feel that this is some kind of revenge but there is something more in their relationship. decided today to be nosey and look at my ex’s facebook. i go i sit what ever i see he is in my mind i could see him everywhere missing his smile question start questioning myself what happened to him? he sacrificed his love for me so i could get better again as i was going through depression and in his eyes he felt he was causing it. even though we dated for almost 3 years, we never experienced going through a rut or anything. well i text him back saying im hungry im going out to eat and having a drink have fun have a great night. that mean she is on to the next right even with the random they saying they miss you and what not.. the next time we texted he said it was a mistake kissing me and that he thought about it and realized he doesn’t love me anymore he has a new girlfriend now and i’m miserable. i know that no one likes his new girlfriend and wants us back together but i’m not sure how to get him back… he was my first love and first boyfriend. childcare is expensive, so we alternate schedules in order for one of us to stay with our daughter. 10 days later he initiated again saying stuff like “i still think about you all the time and i miss the times we used to have and i wish i still had you but i screwed everything up” then we talked some but then i find out that he has a new girlfriend just a week and a half later. i still love him from all my heart until i cried over to his mom for help because he does not want to listen to me at all. now i have texted him since wednesday and he has been very rude to me and says leave me alone, i’m seeing other girls, but yesterday i called him after receiving 20 blocked calls. made the mistake of getting upset and voicing to him that he will not be seeing his children again (i suspect this woman is on drugs and he made no defence that she was not) when i saw him today he looked like a shell of a man not like someone who was in a happy place to say the least, he was thin, gaunt and looked like he has been through the ringer and possibly on drugs himself i suspect. i know that they have talked together with ex-girlfriend that i graduate but it’s strange that she didn’t say anything. much to my demise, he changed his profile to one of him and a new girl. later on at around 9 he was at his families house and he called again and broke the news to me that he is going through what i’m going through right now. guy seems to still have feelings for you but he is turned off by your needy behavior. i did not try to get him to explain anything yet and he has not texted me back. he is still we that girl for the last two years and their relationship became serious from the first months. i told him i will respect his decision i just feel like i am in limbo and would like to know where we stand. regardless of his reasons, start no contact for a month. since then i returned to uni and he continuously called/ text me letting me know how sorry he was and that he’d do anything to show me no matter how long it takes. maybe his honeymoon phase is ending with this much younger girl? idk what to do so this my issue i been with my boyfriend since we were 17 years old i never ever been with anyone but him for 4. super sexual songs that will make you drop your panties immediately…with lyrics! ( i was lying of course)… i waited a week and sent another and he said i’m not trying to be an a** but i’m dating someone right now and it’s going great and i’m great thanks. and my ex dated 1 year and i broke up with him saying i don’t love him…right after the breakup i realized that i do but first i thought it was the missing that kept me thinking that…it has been 2 months and i decided to win him back, we met and he kissed me and told me that he still loves me but he doesn’t want to get hurt again., he seems very confused about the situation which has resulted in his feelings and behaviour changing almost daily. i became more needy after i finished university because i had too much free time and i wasn’t able to handle it. so obviously this means she is 100% over me already and very happy in new relationship with her close friend right? my ex broke up with me six weeks ago, because he got scared of how committed our relationship was. but this guy was a rebound because he helped me stop thinking about me&my ex whenever i was with him. as if im saying or doing something wrong by texting. all you have to do is follow the 5 step plan to get your ex back and you will most probably have him back in your arms. later that night he text me saying hey i think its still too soon to talk on a friends basis, im sorry i hope you understand. she still can’t let go of the empty feeling when she is alone. i texted a few minutes later and still have no response. this carefully designed test to find out your chances and if you qualify for the ebp basics e-course. and that involves following the 5 step plan listed here with a few adjustments that i mention below. this girl has been his friend since they were around 4 years old, and he had a crush on her when he was younger before he met me. what makes it worse is when he first arrived i was friendly and nice but his face was like fizz even before i told him. sometimes people say very mean things after a breakup just so their ex leaves them alone. after my ex and i decided that we can be friends we now joke around over texting and laugh and reminisce about old times. during this time i admit that i was completely in-denial about the fact that i was still in love with him. he texted me a little over a week ago to say he say my fb status and that it is becoming one of his favorites . if he didn’t cheat on a physical level i am sure he cheated emotionally. it got to the point she wouldn’t come back to the apartment if i was home. unfortunately for him, i’d binned all his stuff having given him months to collect and contacted him many times and then said i’d bin them. everytime i seem to move forward he does something that makes me think he is still caring about me and is struggling to get over me. in that time he met another girl and was hanging with her for a couple months and then in december started dating this other girl (his ex from high school) and they have been together for 2 months now or so. however, i knew he loved me, he texts me , and we do work it out. his mom texted me yesterday and said she felt bad but that he called and told her he went sight seeing in nyc and she asked who he went with and he went on about some girl classmate he likes or something . boyfriend is in the military and stationed overseas, we have been together for two years and i just got back home from visiting him over christmas and new years. and i finally told him what i felt about that picture and how i don’t hate him i just wish him the best and not to worry i wasn’t going to send him anymore messages. still keep in touch with his mom, he always ask me to her (how i am, do i still go to there house). i know he doesn’t want to hurt her but that’s just the kind of person he is, i don’t know what to do to show him that he still loves me. you have established good communication with him via text messages and established that you are no longer a needy and clingy person, you should try to set up a meet. based on his previous response, i know it’s best to keep my distance, but maybe we can just be friends since i know he makes for a better friend. she and i text alot becuase of the time difference and work. didnt respond to my text message after nc so i added her on snapchat to which she accepted. but there is nothing else you can do at this point.. the next time we texted he said it was a mistake kissing me and that he thought about it and realized he doesn’t love me anymore he has a new girlfriend now and i’m miserable. i am totally in love with this man, but it looks like he doesn’t care at all. to give and take some final explanations and close that chapter. see the thing is aftr the break up i bought her roses it didnt work she just wanted space so i jus didnt see her but we still communicated via text.– been slowly building attraction, then flirting a lot, reminiscing our good times, went for coffee a few times, he took me to the cinema a few days ago then yesterday we watched a film at my place. hope that you can give your opinion in the last message. she’s known him for a while as he’s from the town where she lives, they were in high school together (we both study at university which is a 3 hour drive from her hometown, he still lives there). she also gets help with her problems in the next weeks. yesterday i got a little drunk and planned a date with someone. i don’t know is he my ex type but i must say he is some kind of alpha male but he didn’t smile so much than me and maybe isn’t so alive person. idk what to do, i need to move on but i also have a child with this person. did the no contact rule for a month and after him calling me and texting me here and there, i replied after he wrote that he doesn’t know why i’m ignoring him and that he assume that im cutting him completely out of my life and that it will the last time i will hear from him, so i waited 2 hours and replied that i been busy with work, therapy and i been taking sometime to myself. right to do now is to start no contact again. when he told me he wanted to break up, he also told me he still loved me, he kept telling me it wasn’t my fault he just needed time to himself, to put himself first and explained that he wasn’t able to do that if we were together because he always put me first… i was, to say the least, an emotional wreck, and so couple of days later i went to his house to talk to him and we ended up talking for a couple of hours, i kept saying “so, thats it, i’ve lost you forever, i’m never going to be with you again…” and his response was “i never said that was going to happen, just for now i can’t be with you, i never said i didn’t love you. this time, take things slowly and build attraction before confessing your love. me and my ex boyfriend had been 2yrs more together and we just broke up for almost 3 months but in that 2months we still contact and see each other and many things happened before i decided to do the no contact rule. i was so clueless as to why he stopped texting me like he used to. i knew from the start this was never a rebound. he said its a waste of time since its a ldr and he wants to stay there and as i said he makes his own decision and never both to sit with me and discuss and now i know that he is with the same girl i suspected him with and i even had begged her to let him go but she had blocked me. i got tired of him eating his cake and started a huge fight where he said he was finally ready to let go. and eventually, you’ll have to gather your strength and ask him to choose. and we talked again, last friday and he told me that he just can’t break up with her because that’s mean, and i know it’s a rebound relationship like who gets a new girlfriend a week after you’ve been in a relationship with someone else for about 3 years? during xmas my ex messaged me and he said that he thought about me, more than i would imagine (wtf, how would he know?.there r lods of things she did before to express her love. it was extremely intense and we fell deep in love together. i do love him and i do want things to be re-patched up, but i want to know if this is something i should just give up on and push through the pain or try to rekindle… i do truly love being around him and being with him, we connect in ways i havent before. all i wish for you is to be happy and find that place you were looking for that i could not fill. i did nothing bad as gf at all and all i get is get dumped for some bizzare reason. i know it’s painful and i’m sorry you are in this situation, but i want you to know that everything will get better with time. he was being very dramatic and said he was going to stay single for a long time and didn’t know if he’d ever get married, etc. your ex’s new girlfriend does not let him stay in contact with  you, and your ex boyfriend is agreeing to her, then this means that he has completely moved on and is heavily invested in his new girlfriend. the kids honestly do not want anything to do with his new girlfriend. what if he has no response to my no contact after 60 days or something, should i keep on no contact? maybe that was another rebound relationship but it turns out that t worked perfectly because it’s been two years now and he is still with her, knowing her parents, living with her in the same house, and all that serious stuff. i think i would still be open to give him another chance if his reason of cheating was his family wanted him to dump me and look for another girl who doesn’t have a kid. he is apparently attending my family event in two weeks. he has been avoiding me at all cost, and hiding the relationship very quietly which is very unlikely of him. that the change she still has feelings for me is bigger then the change she likes her other ex. will only be approved if they are pertaining to the article and add value to it. just texted me ”thanks for your message, i wish nothing but good and good luck for your life”. except for the part where he said “maybe some day i’ll be back, but for now just be happy for me. out of no where she started to sleep out alot at her friends house which is a girl who she works with. she texted next day to see if i’d bring the dog into her store. he is still in a relationship with her on fb but it seems like he is giving all his free time and attention to me so i guess things with her are dying. even the whole thing with her dating her friend maybe even still. me being a religious person made it hard for me to give way to this and i am not sure as to why i even let it go in the end. i did not know what to expect and i said i am sorry to, i believe things were so intense and he thinks i made him as a laughing stock then. i mostly recommend people to follow the 5 step plan once and if it doesn’t work move on. family is very big for me and i know it is for him too. later that night he text me saying hey i think its still too soon to talk on a friends basis, im sorry i hope you understand.”‘s then one message about him wondering why i randomly cut him out and if we could talk about why i’m mad at him. and you feel like you’d do anything to get your ex boyfriend back. she still wants to be some kind of friends with me, we said that we wish nothing but good each other and i wished all the best for her and the other guy. i text him this morning about sun beds and he replied straight away. was supposed to go back to her in a month but my doctor advised me to stay another month.? mmmmm” i only got them in morning so text saying i was sleeping and he replied right away with “lol” anyway after that he went back to no contact and was even nasty straight to point about me to his dad. she feels that perhaps this guy can make all her pain and the emptiness go away. she was an exhange student in another country and during this period of few months she said she doesn’t love me in the same way as she used to. some cases, your ex will choose someone who is completely opposite of you in every possible way.. this has annnoyed me as he used to be suuch a good dad and would spend hours with kids now after not seeing them for a week only spends 4hours with them to go with gf! texted her how she was doing after her appointment with her terapist bus she said it is tomorrow. was no ways for me to understand his sudden change, so i did something really bad that i checked his email. me and my ex have now been in contact for almost a month, texting almost every day, especially in the last couple of weeks we have been chatting for hours throughout the day and especially in the evening., it’s normal for an ex to act this way. before we begin, i must warn you that your chances are very less and you should know that you might end up hurting yourself more. i don’t want to think that because he is someone i’ve always considered to be a very honest person … i’m just really unsure now … it thought we’d be able to work things out … but now i don’t know. started to play online games with my ex again since last month and we had fun and he said “thanks for the nice memories:)”. because there is a chance that he might not come back at all. do you think we will get back to together (i know it won’t happen over night, or even within the next month, but there is still hope right? its not like hes a sex maniac or something, i know him, he would only sleep with the girls that he really likes, i know, bcoz there were a few girls that tried to seduce him before but all failed. but him contacting you can mean a of things and over analyzing it is not going to help. if he does choose her, you should move on and remove him from your life completely. if not, then give him a time limit (say 6 months), if he doesn’t try during that time, then you concentrate on moving on. the next month she was saying she didn’t know what she wanted, she was spending time with this guy, but was texting me everyday (she was telling him i was still chasing her). anyway during the fight he gave me bak my house keys and said erase him from my life. if at that time she still wants to work things out with her ex husband, then you should move on. there is a very good chance he might never come back to you (although, i really hope he realizes what he’s missing and comes back). he is staying in house (well sleeping on couch some nights) but still seeing this girl and sometimes staying over at her house took her away for a romantic weekend etc. all i need to do is to wake him up. afterall i couldnt be with this girl because i felt so bad. so go read that guide first and then come back to this page for advice pertaining to your situation. my text did not require a reply really, but he replied and he wrote quite a lot. and is there any hope that we can get back together? he never acknowledged being engaged to this other women, he was shocked i found out and asked me how i found out. again i wont rise to it but my mum said that if he carries on this week i should text him and say look i dont know what is going on i can see you keep watching me and i think after your holiday we should meet and talk., i found out that my ex bf started sleeping with one girl from work couple of days after our break up. now when i got the ride from him i didn’t know that my ex still didn’t like him. he texted me a little over a week ago to say he say my fb status and that it is becoming one of his favorites . so come sunday he arrived at his parents i was there and he was like a different person he stayed full day talking to me (never mentioned saturday phone call) made me tea and laughing then as he was leaving he said just cause we had a good day dont take it wrong way i just said he wasnt to get wrong idea. then he text me saying this is exactly why i left you “go away” good bye” being mean saying mean names ect. dont know if this is any good advice but i’m going to stay strong and i am not going to use this guy i like as a pawn in me and my ex’s relationship. is it the fact that you still love your ex boyfriend? if not, then give him a time limit (say 6 months), if he doesn’t try during that time, then you concentrate on moving on. am i being delusional thinking his new relationship will most likely not last? he came and met my family and i pawned my jewels and was doing 3 part time jobs to save some money and pay him visit in uk. month after she talked to me for 2 hrs i listened she gave me lies and excuses and no explanation . was supposed to go back to her in a month but my doctor advised me to stay another month. really want him back, i do believe we can work on our relationship better and have a great future if we have good communication. after 30 days nc i sent him a text on a rainy day when i knew she was working and he was alone. wanted to say stop exaggerating about the unhealthy part because we were both really happy she just got upset and felt that way when she had an attitude and i didn’t want to talk for day or two, it was to give each person space, not like i was such that bad person she makes me out to be. everything sounds very negative about my ex but she is a nice girl. he is young and confused about what he wants in life. i and my girlfriend were together almost three and half years and i was her first boyfriend. kevin told you what to do, but obviously you are not ready/willing to listen. he said even though he missed me, we should never go backwards. we talk as friends, and it is very casual, no flirting or anything. the fact that he seems perfect for her that she is so much more happier then she has been for long time. i encouraged it because we have a big age difference. i treated him unfairly and walked all over him, but i’m learning from the mistakes i have made and want to make things work because i love him unconditionally and i want us to be a family. out of no where i get a text from him saying, i hope you had a great birthday. i forgot, the last time we talked which was days ago, his last message was about telling me i should enjoy life and he sends goodluck to my studies since i’m about to graduate really soon. but a couple of weeks back i discovered that she has been seeing another guy for the last 3 months. she is of different religion like his ex gf and she was practically hanging over him. i was going to leave him be for a month then a weeks or so before coming test the waters with a few texts and mention id be in town for interviews if he’d like me to return some of his belongings .) how to react on facebook though i belive she have created fb a/c this time again which is not tracable. but i started to think as well, what sort of future i can have with a man who does not hold responsibility for his actions and words and worst he can find replacement before walking out of me completely. start making some positive changes in your life and try to keep yourself busy. attempts like moving in together after only 5 weeks of dating; meeting garry’s parents and asking garry to meet her parents; planning to move overseas with garry. if she doesn’t respond or is cold towards you, then you should consider moving on., in most cases, when you tell your ex you want to get back, they will most probably put their defense up (especially if they were the one who broke up). is my question though… how do i know if he is still thinking about me and that makes him doubt his rs or if he is just looking for a companion while he is going through this possible break up and only using me till he finds someone else? she has said in past she misses me or thinks or me but never has said why or what about. didn’t have any pictures of his ex on his screen saver, and he told me he was over her but he still had pictures of his ex in laws which i found weird and made me think that he wasn’t over that relationship. my family thinks that my ex still have feelings me and my brother said two days ago you can call her and ask what are their situation but she didn’t asnwer but she texted me ”you called me have you something to say? i wish i can tell you that you have a good chance, but i want you to be prepared for the worst. broke up with my ex two months ago after i found him flirting with another girl and trying to hide it. am just trying to figure out it it is worth to keep trying if after couple weeks of nc and i don’t get any response from her just to do another couple weeks of nc for the same effect of no association at all. post: get your ex back after you cheated (even if you don’t deserve it). family is very big for me and i know it is for him too. then we stopped contact with each other and he meets this new girl like 3 months later and they start hanging out and eventually get together and become “official. someone close who you already know and you are already happy being around them before you started a relation ship with them. yes my ex is on my mind a lot but i am not pining and watching my phone anymore. he had already started liking someone else and is currently dating them. it’s an attempt to have the same level of intimacy that you had with your ex, with someone else. you’ll be just wasting your time and causing yourself more hurt if you try to pursue him. whatever it is that has you beaming like a light bulb, you have every right to let your ex know about it, but calling him after you’ve just discovered he has a new object of love in his life, won’t shed any light on either of you. seems i have a cycle where i miss him after 5 months. ex boyfriend broke up with me because he has facing some issues with his job, so he decided that he “needed to focus on his career”, and doesn’t want a relationship right now. i ask what his name was just cause i was curious and she won’t tell me anything and is very secretive about it..through my own investigation i found out she is seeing a 50 year old man now. people go into a rebound deliberately and choose someone completely incompatible with them because they know it’s a rebound. the nc thing but he texted about something from awhile back. i do however know that he is seeing someone else. if after a few months, he doesn’t make a move, tell him that you are interested in rekindling the relationship. almost 2 months of nc i contacted him using your text suggestions..we have kissed, sent numerous text, and talked behind her back for weeks now, but for some reason he doesn’t have the heart to kick her out. he is acting extremely immature by tweeting negative things about you. i know he doesn’t want to hurt her but that’s just the kind of person he is, i don’t know what to do to show him that he still loves me. even has placed his picture with her as a profile picture. but like i said before, you need to learn from your mistake and stop putting yourself in a position where he can hurt you again. really want him back, i do believe we can work on our relationship better and have a great future if we have good communication. recently he told me he has met somebody online and is considering meeting. i don’t understand if that means i should just move on or just try be patient with him. thanks for the advice i decided to cut contact with him, but let him know i was done and this is how he replied “i told you i needed time and space for a while but i understand if you dont care to wait. this carefully designed test to find out your chances and if you qualify for the ebp basics e-course. i think he is gonna send me a card or something. for that you have to make some positive changes in your life during no contact. if it doesn’t work, you can close this chapter and try to move on. and if he can’t commit, then you’ll have to cut contact with him and move on. well he became relatively distant and conversations became few and far between..so it is difficult for me to accept that she is same girl who used to force me for marriage,so plz guide me ,what shd i do ? they are exactly the same person personality wise, spiritually, ideology, and belief wise. if he doesn’t break up with his girlfriend even after that, you might have to eventually give him an ultimatum. he told me he thinks all this is just a phase and that it’s probably karma too. one of his cryptic messages was “you know our paths will cross again. like i said, this girl seems to have a track record for going in too deep and too fast which is why guys come and go when it comes to her, do you think this means it’s likely to end quick? her family likes me very much and my also but my father took too much part helping we back together and think it was huge mistake he sent couple of text messages for her and one was angry because of that she is dating that other immediately when we break-up. why can’t she let new dude organically become part of her life rather than inserting him into contexts i previously occupied? if i go nc he will not be able to blame me for anything. we have now been in contact (via text) on a daily basis for over 10 days. perhaps his new girlfriend is not just a rebound but someone serious. this might be true if you had been acting like a crazy, stalky ex who wouldn’t leave them alone. kinda feel like he’s talking to someone else anyway but because i know people don’t just get over people that quick i ant wrap my head around why he’s doing it when i’ve forgiven for saying stupid things as well. so the new guy i’m talking to keeps telling me that my ex is messaging him so i went to my ex’s work with the intention of giving him the chance to tell me whats going on before i blocked him. ex boyfriend and i have been dating for 1 year and 5 months. me and my ex were together for 8 months, and i have been in nc for over 6 weeks since the breakup. dude is a recovering alcoholic with domestic charges in his past. so i got angry about that and said that if she loves me, then i wished that they are not seeing each other. he was always against this showing of affection on fb because he found it immature. i have seen a lot of egoistic people admit their mistake when they are unhappy and/or are in pain. thanks for the advice i decided to cut contact with him, but let him know i was done and this is how he replied “i told you i needed time and space for a while but i understand if you dont care to wait. she chose not to talk about her problems and decided to bail instead of giving your relationship another chance. you are right, he is showing signs that he still has feelings for you. ex and i broke up a long time ago (two years ago). was just in a relationship that moved way to fast thing is i still have strong feelings for her we been apart for 11 days when she left me i did the whole multiple pathetic text i told her a few days ago that i’ll stop texting altogether she told me not to stop texting her just not as much and that she still cares about me we just moved to fast i’ve pretty much made myself the door mat last night i erased her number from my phone to remove the temptation to get a hold of her i’d like to know if by doing this and not talking to her if it’s possible she could miss me things are complex because i guess you could say that i’m a rebound she just got out of a 6 year marage and is in the middle of a divorce she told me from the beginning that she doesn’t want to move fast but she kinda made it that way she kinda smothered me tho i enjoyed it made me feel loved is it possible to get back after i’ve made myself look a fool. the only thing you can control is your actions and your decisions. i think you still have hope, but don’t let this hope turn into an obsession (which happens far too often in such cases). may like him because hes exciting but the glamour wears off. a few days after when we planned to meet, he suddenly cancelled through text and was really cold to me. is this new girl a rebound and if so what are my next steps. instead of asking to meet up to give him the gift, you can just ask to catch up for a coffee or use one of the venues relationship rewind suggests. but he posts pictures and quotes about being with his girlfriend and he posts pics on instagram with her too (i don’t have an insta, i only know this from a friend). what we had is in the past, and things are different for me now. i broke up with my ex and found out later on two weeks after our relationship that he was dating someone else. broke up with my ex of 7+ years in january because i didn’t feel that he was spending enough time with me( i work evenings and he works days so i only have 2 evenings that we can hang out each week. months after the break up, he started contacting me throuqh fb telling me that he was happy with his new gurl (his classmate) and everythng i was sad to hear that honestly but i tried to keep a good face on ths even when it hurts. what makes it worse is when he first arrived i was friendly and nice but his face was like fizz even before i told him., i love your website and now i rlly need some advice. don’t contact him unless you realize you can be happy in your life without him.