What if your ex boyfriend is dating someone elseeverything was fine and got along and hung out a lot (nothing sexual) just friends. i told her that i could not be in a relationship with someone that did not have the same feelings as me. taylor hartman, is one of the most insightful personality tests in existence, and is made up of four personality colors, or driving core motives. i have the strongest feeling that this is the one guy for her the one she been looking for and wanting for very long time and it happens to already be someone important and special in her life and who been there long time already. the new guy/girl seems completely opposite of you and yet your ex seems committed to make this relationship work. even if he is with that girl, it’s probably a rebound and it won’t last long. i have tried everything possible to reconcile i have had no response i keep texting and calling no answer. stopped no contact at 30+ days using the magic letter, she texted me and told me that a lot has happened. i did some of the no no’s…ima human being who had his emotions seriously messed with…i have since cut all ties…going nc as they seem to be more serious and have been dating a few months now. she can’t let go of this feeling of emptiness even though she is a new relationship. didn’t have any pictures of his ex on his screen saver, and he told me he was over her but he still had pictures of his ex in laws which i found weird and made me think that he wasn’t over that relationship. i want him back because not all guys are open to dating single moms and i’ve fallen in love with him. this time, talk to him before getting back that you can’t do this on and off relationship and if he wants to get back together, he needs to be hundred percent sure he wants this. but, his gf just unfriended me on fb and called me crazy on twitter, so i’m wondering if he made me out to be crazy even though our conversation went relatively well, or if she’s just mad i went up to see him…or both. what if after couple weeks she still does not have any association with me. but there is a problem that started in our relationship, i was getting jelouse of his best friend who is a girl in high school and about to graduate, she is 18, and my ex is 22 and they known each other since childhood, he told me that i had nothing to worry about, he isn’t attracted to her and he called me an idiot because he only loved me. he finally contacted me about giving me my stuff back and he looked so miserable. there is hope you will get back together and yes, it’s probably a rebound. he also text me to ask how i was and wish my mum a happy birthday! he’s still with the new girlfriend, so he obviously isn’t interested in me anymore, right? she started dating another guy (totally opposite of me ) a couple of weeks after i cut all contact. i did not want to see him that this time even if he asked because i was still in pain because of what happened and the break up. wish with all my heart that she would want to be part of my life…but, she knows how i feel and it’s up to her now. of the most common indicators of this behavior is their social media profile (facebook, twitter etc. there’s a good chance she is not as happy with him as you are thinking in your mind. is what i plan on doing and i hope your right about the missing me part. of course, you should give her the time and space she needs to get over her ex and you will both need to start a new relationship that will not be a rebound., my name is mario, i recently was dumped by my girlfriend of 4 years. updating it postingnphotos and changing his profile photo with the one shes in it. i’m freaking out and want to just end this. if you have not completed no contact, do so before having another interaction with her. while we watched this movie, he only had on boxers and an undershirt and he held out his arm for me to cuddle with him while we watched. i got a “i’m seeing someone, we’re done talking, don’t ever talk to me again”. she started calling a couple weeks ago to ask random questions or if i’d bring my dog to her pet store. and my ex were dating a little over 2 years and about a week after she broke up with me , she already found another man. at that point i told him i needed my space and that i wouldn’t be going to his birthday party anymore when i came home for spring break because i didn’t want to be about his new girlfriend and since then we have talked maybe three times and at one point when i mentioned his new girlfriend, he said nothing about her in his response. however, over the course of the next 2 or so years, he was constantly doubting his decision. your ex has found a way to deal with the grief. and while you are still trying to understand what happened and pick up the shattered pieces of your life, your ex has started another relationship. that the change she still has feelings for me is bigger then the change she likes her other ex. i think i would still be open to give him another chance if his reason of cheating was his family wanted him to dump me and look for another girl who doesn’t have a kid. ladies, i've compiled the top 10 ex dating someone else signs to watch out for. the only thing you can understand and control is your actions. i immediately applied the no contact rule and she tried contacting me asking me how i am but i did not reply, but during this two weeks i found out that 3 days after the break up she started talking to an old friend from her country. i wasn’t just comfortable doing that at my house and i told him that, because i wanted him to feel that my parents’ house isn’t really the best place to do it.'s a question i get all the time from women that points out a common misunderstanding women have about men. then a week later i found out that he started seeing his ex, who cheated on him before we started seeing each other. i am in total shock because this is a man i have waited for, for 4 years. i think there is still hope and he probably still has feelings for you. and as i said earlier, social media is not an accurate reflection of relationship. i know it’s not really him that she loves so much as it is the fact that he makes her happy and he’s fun but she won’t listen to me. but i went out with my friends (mainly) had fun she found out and the other day she told me tht pushed her away, this was the same convo as the ear ring. i see that she changed her profile picture on fb and instagram to different pictures i took of her , when we was together . was really shaken up after our break, and didn’t know about the nc rule…after we broke up i texted him several times and i ended up called him profuseley apologizing and told him that i loved him (which i admittedly never did during our relationship). if she chooses the other guy, then you cut her form your life and move on. how is it technically considered a rebound if they never really said that you meant something. then at some point i was talking to him about moving in with one of my friends if she happens to get a house and that was when he proposed that we move in together and i asked him if he was sure he would want that and he said i think we should set up a separate bed in case, but i don’t think it will be a bad thing. i do love him and forgive him and see if there is a chance for us again. i know every situation is different based on the individual, do you think it is better to keep trying to actively rekindle the relationship, or should i purposefully create space by restricting our contact, communication and the things i do for him? however, the safety and security of our members is our top priority. also by saying that one of the times we hung out she just wanted to kiss me. about a week later, her older sister’s fiance’s friend from work was introduced to my ex and from what i heard from my brother who lives in that house with my ex’s sister, she has been going out with this guy like every other day, and doesn’t come home sometimes till after 2am. color code icon tells you that this member has taken the free color code personality test and wants to share his/her results with you.- is really troubling, specially when she was treated badly by that man for years. month after she talked to me for 2 hrs i listened she gave me lies and excuses and no explanation . but a couple of weeks back i discovered that she has been seeing another guy for the last 3 months. due to my problems i let my frustrations out on my ex. his truth is that he wants to be with you, or not. latest i was gonna wait to ask him if he still wanted to hang out was the day our show comes on, and until then just bide my time. what strikes me is that 5 months later their engagement fell through and he tried to reconnect with me. i called her about 2 weeks after this conversation, and she said that she wasnt ready and said she has to find herself and wants to be happy with herself. am trying to get some help here on some issues i am having.’s hard to say if it’s a rebound since it has been 8 months. i also told him i didn’t want his gf to think i was trying to pull anything because i’m not *wink wink* and that i wasn’t judging him for anything, and wasn’t mad at him for just being honest with me about ending the relationship. this sounded like it could be a rebound relationship especially considering how things developed between us over break but i can’t tell. it hurt so so so much and i really couldn’t believe he could do that to me full stop, let alone during a time that i was extremely vulnerable. he told me last week that he was still in love with me, had feelings for me, and that he really misses me. this might be true if you had been acting like a crazy, stalky ex who wouldn’t leave them alone. he said that my ex said “hi how you (insert friend name), are you with sabrina last march 13? if he just lost attraction, then this article is a good way to rebuild attraction with him. there is no point in meeting him or trying to get an answer out of him. i think the best thing you can do right now is start no contact. down i would love to reconnect with her again, but i know i do not deserve this kind of behavior. and humans build attachment to someone they are with for some time. you are the love of my life and i regret letting you go but i cant be man enough for you and i feel we had bought each other down and we are both two people in different worlds who magically collided past each other and fell in love. it’s hard to say if it’s a rebound. he has been avoiding me at all cost, and hiding the relationship very quietly which is very unlikely of him. should i approach him around that time and ask him if he’s still down? well he became relatively distant and conversations became few and far between. well after her always being needy towards me, she gave up i guess and was so angry at me that she went off and let her friends convince her to start having sex and talking to this other guy. i texted her on christmas and a few other times to tell her we should talk but she was defensive and not willing. if he got married, you should cut all contact with him and move on. i had no idea this was coming so i offered that we take a break if i still had a chance in the end. less you talk about your ex and this situation for. really just in his own mind - and not bad things. i think you should apply nc even with his texts (it’ll most likely have him thinking, especially if he regularly texts you “good morning” or “good night”). if anyone has suggestions as to what i should do, please let me know. i didn’t want to break up really, i was just confused and for the first time, we didn’t communicate well and just walked away from all our years and history. came across your site and am starting to follow the 5 steps and have recently began the 30 day nc period.'s a question i get all the time from women that points out a common misunderstanding women have about men. he finally contacted me about giving me my stuff back and he looked so miserable. i have been two weeks nc and i just wondering if my ex has really move on with his new girl and am i wasting my time. after that i stopped texting her and calling her, i don’t know if she misses me. but yet here she is all smiles and hearts and all these other pictures and stuff with the both of them and just of him. they would be random texts weeks or months later and once she came by my work and recently the call asking to come by. promised me she wasn’t cheating, she just allowed herself to accept texts from another guy. woman who has more than one child can tell you how different each child is from birth. i’ve seen her on there multiple times in the past day, and i’m pretty sure it means her rebound is starting to fall apart.. i don’t know if shes a rebound and if he’ll come crawling back or what. he’s 30, bringing a child into this world but acting like a child himself. i did not try to get him to explain anything yet and he has not texted me back. so my parents tell me to just give up because this is the second time she broke up and if we get back together the 3rd time will also come. i did it becuase i felt i had a lot of personal issues to deal with (family, etc. based on his previous response, i know it’s best to keep my distance, but maybe we can just be friends since i know he makes for a better friend. if at that time she still wants to work things out with her ex husband, then you should move on. you so much for your advice…i really think you are right. he thinks that we’re “too different” and stuff to make it work. if so, then you must know there’s no way you can know for sure if her relationship is really perfect or it has some major flaws. and is there anyway or hope that we would get back together? and what if the ex has read another website or talked to friends with a different set of such strategies. please advise because it would be a turning point for me.. long story short about a week ago she moved out as she said she was confused and need space and said to me that she wanted to be alone the next day i found out this guy was staying there… i done all the opposite to what was need to be done i got angry upset, needy and begging all within a week. i’ve been in nc for about a week but miss her and get major doubts that i could get her back because she tries to convince everybody she’s really happy with this new guy but gas only known his for two weeks. broke up almost 3 weeks ago and sadly i’ve done the text terrorism and showing my neediness towards him. she thinks that the new relationship, despite not being what she expected, is still giving her some level of comfort. it makes me think it is less about her and our relationship and more about something else. heard from his mom my ex is still asking about me, how i am etc thats a good sign right?’m currently at university and so live away from home where my boyfriend is. days after that i got no texts and i found out later on that during that weekend that we were supposed to meet like always, he went on vacation with his colleagues (and that girl he talked about) and they, not the company, paid for it. i did contact his new wife and explained to her that i was still in a relationship with her now husband during their entire engagement up until they were married. i also made a mistake when i started asking him to come back because everything seems like my fault. how likely is it that people get back together after breaking up, especially in my situation, where his mind and heart seem preoccupied with the infatuation with another woman? about 5 days after we broke up she told me she was already with this other guy. i’d be naive to say that just because it’s a rebound it won’t work, i’m aware it very well could, but in that just-less-than 2 month period since us breaking up and her getting this new guy she would contact me from time to time. don’t think there is going to be anymore contact i’m sure that the last time she spoke to me will probably be it anyway and also i’m sure they will end up being together for long time and not have this as a rebound or something that will end in future. i am just afraid that it will turn out just like me former ex before my current one i am talking about. i know you’ve invested 4 years but you should be glad that you eventually found out about this and now you can leave him behind and try to move on. later, while i was at therapy, he called me and told me he his girl found out that i wanted to see him and that she was upset (she didnt know anything! the fact she might compromise in a conventional relationship-can she? she would not answer my call or text messages on the day she sent the email. if i could get some answers in both these fronts? it’s possibly the best free guide on getting your ex back on the internet. if you want to pursue her more, do nc for another 2 weeks and try again. however, you can have a talk with him before doing so telling him that you think this is best course of action right now since you feel disrespected by the fact that he is with the other women at the same time he is with you. she also had an ex of 5 years before me that she jumped from him immediately to me. i know she’s seeing someone but her usual mo is to show her enthusiasm with the person she’s with all over social media. i’ll be honest kevin i don’t have many people to talk to about this issue so i appreciate the advice.
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Christian C. helps you scrutinize your exhowever she now is dating this new guy 2 weeks after we broke up. i said sorry for everything i had done(second mistake). childcare is expensive, so we alternate schedules in order for one of us to stay with our daughter. also, don’t ever try to get to your ex through a friend. your website has been very insightful, helping me approach my breakup bewilderment in a more healthy and productive way. he maintained he loves me and misses me but needs to work on himself the and see what’s best for his future. it is a horrible time and i don’t see any light at the end of the tunnel., if he got married with her, i think it’s safe to say it’s more than just a rebound. but can i ask what should i do now knowing that he is into someone this new girl. you can use the checklist at the beginning of the step 4 in this article. i felt more luke i may have been a rebound from his last relationship. i sensed a bit of distance from her before i left and some when i returned. however, he said if you were “in love” then i should have never let it go. i feel like my ex has second thoughts about us getting together he says there is still hope but i feel like there isn’t anymore, he dropped a bomb on me couple of days ago telling his best friend that he loved her, and she told him that she loved him back yet they can only be friends right now because she likes someone else, this is while i was trying to get back with him and he knew that i loved him. if you get back together, there’s a good chance he will cheat again. does this strengthen the fact it could be a rebound? it doesn’t matter if you want to get back together or not. if i have to guess, he will be making all the moves and all you will have to do is play it cool and don’t be needy. it is the one she always wanted to be with and the one that makes her more happier then she ever was. tell her you need to think about taking her back and that your talking to someone who is a nice friend. guess, just from what has happened in the past, i have a feeling that he will date her for a couple of months and then come back to me again, but i cannot tell if this is a rebound or not. all of this was just as blindsiding as the breakup. i started texting one girl, went out with her, but i just couldn’t kiss her cause i only saw my ex. she recently started dating a guy and, via facebook, they were in a relationship after only ten days of knowing each other. all, you want to know the top ex dating someone else signs to look out, especially if you're still hung up on your ex guy right? also there are a lot of articles written about how your best friend is the perfect one for you and the popularity of girls ending up dating their best friends and it being the best thing they ever had, also things on how they are the perfect ones for you all this time but you only recognize it after so many years. i started doin the no contact but it was short it was about 2 and a half weeks because she asked me to see her for our b- day and btw we had a very good time and she loved the gifts i got for her, after that we saw each other two more times later on in that week but idk if her relationship is a rebound because she liked this guy before we met and another thing is she said he’s a nice guy and always makes her laugh she ” loves him” now i don’t know what to do i really want to have her back and i am changing for the better cause she means so much to me. they are into the same things and they are always together mostly at his place i would assume just like she was with me. you’ll be just wasting your time and causing yourself more hurt if you try to pursue him. have a different "love equation" from women:A strong connection does not necessarily equal any. done everything wrong, i really wish i had read your article a month ago. woman who has more than one child can tell you how different each child is from birth. she feels a little better when she is with garry, but she can’t shake the feeling that this relationship is not giving her the peace that she expected. i blew up in the follow-up text messages and i probably will regret that but i am human and still in love with her. it might satisfy your curiosity, but it won’t necessarily give you closure. he said if we got back together, then i would just be getting my way as usual, and that he was super busy at work and hadn’t really thought about us for the past few weeks, and he couldnt’ do the ups and downs anymore. networks usa, llc does not conduct background checks on the members or subscribers of this website. i ran into him at a bar, he was with friends, didn’t see his new girl with him at all. i know doing this is tough, but you've got to. during this period (3 months) we stayed in contact, but it was no longer intimate/ relationship like – he would just tell me how much he loved me whilst i would encourage him to move on with his life. know this because you two were in a serious relationship for significant amount of time. her response was that she missed me too but needed to get some things in her life straight. i caved and slept over a few days ago because he asked me if i wanted to. apparantly he also had an affair 4-5 years ago while i had 24 hour shifts at my old job. plus all the the signs that your ex is suppose to show to determine if they are or not in rebound. networks usa, llc is a wholly-owned subsidiary of spark networks, inc. 4 months where she was dating both of us without the other knowing. went on vacation february 20th and i was going to be on vacation till april 7th well my ex boyfriend of 3 years and 8 months ended it with march 4th and he told me not to come home but he would text and call me sometimes still and then on march 18th he told me that he was talking to someone else but not dating them then he told me that he would buy me my ticket to come home when ever and then i ask him if i could stay at the house still and he said yes and then i ask him if he was still going to be there he said yes and that he didn’t want me homeless or loose any of my belongs and then i ask him the next day the same thing and got the same answers from him and he said it was going to be different but he would still be there for me and help me out and be around for me and then he said april i am sorry about everything and what happen between us but we know it was coming and then on march 24th i text him and told him that i got my ticket and that i will home in 3 to 4 days and he text back april i know u know that i’v met someone else because people talk but i want to be honest and then i ask him i can still live in the house right because u said that and then he said she is moving in and then i ask where my stuff was and he said in the house still but i am going to put it in the shed if it ok and i told him my stuff wont fit in there. i want her back and don’t know how to proceed and would like your help. however, the safety and security of our members is our top priority. it just means she is trying to avoid you for some reason, or perhaps she was expecting you to talk to her so she can reject you (and feel better about herself). have read this article a lot trying to find something that was related to what was going on but i statred to see no connections..through my own investigation i found out she is seeing a 50 year old man now. he slowly started to disappear, but we maintained some sort of friendship for a little while after, and then it faded away. was always expressing distrust and insecurity over the situation he had with her, which i guess made me unattractive and i am regretting it now. seems harder now cause we didn’t just text for a day she called from the blue asking to come over and she seemed kind of happy to see me. but yet, here she is, rushing a relationship faster than a speeding bullet. the big difference is that i actually cared about my current ex more then i have for anyone i told her i actually felt love for her not lust like others. ex was in a ten year relationship with his ex, was married to her for five. my reasons for thinking so is that we took time to develop our feelings for one another (that first month) and took things slowly, we had our problems but were very close. i just feel i am worthless and that i spent six years with someone who couldnt care less about me. ex is the kind that you described as the angry ex in another post, however, he has anger management problems. the thing is, my boyfriend and i haven’t officially broken up in the sense of verbally confirming it, however after numerous arguments over the telephone and him continuously hanging to the telephone on me, i decided to block contact with him and not allow text/ phone call communication. but all that is not going to help you with your current state of mind. contact him after that using one of the methods in this article. we talked about the stress that he is still under, and seemed like he is tired of dealing with it. i’m not sure if i’m at “deaths door” or “indifference”? she thinks if garry and her start having sex, she will feel much closer to garry and perhaps forget you., after months of texting back and forth, of him mostly blaming me for ruining something beautiful, but also wanting me to accept and be happy for him. boyfriend of two years broke up with me about 6 months ago after 3 months of drifting apart (me being super clingy and him pushing me away). while i do believe creating space and time is productive, i’m in a situation where the ‘no contact’ period is impossible., my ex boyfriend dumped me after 4 years, i started a nocontact for 2 weeks then he contacted me, he told me that he ws with someone else but still in love with me, and he wanted me back. know it's hard to do this when you still have. i guess the best course of action is to stay no contact and wait for him to contact you. we kept it secret because we thought that if her parents found out they would be constantly watching us and would make it very difficult. i and my ex broke up couple of weeks ago and i still don’t know the reason for that. especially when you have a long time apart and she is already completely past and over you. if you decide to comment read the comment guidelines before commenting. have been together off and on many times,Recently we just broke up and now he's dating. how can he go from ‘come visit me next month’ to ‘hey i replaced you’ within the short amount of only 4 days? i somehow pulled it back but she wasn’t as the same as she used to be(i asked her to start detaching from me like 2 weeks ago but never thought she would do it, which i think is the first mistake i have done). i’m confused and i’m sure he is too. example, suppose your ex always says he/she wants someone with a career goal. he started crying and told me, that he would fight for me, but isn’t ready. if they breakup, and she contacts you, you can talk to her but don’t show neediness and ask her to get back with you immediately. and talking to her best friend is not a good idea. but i am done now – this is a degree of disrespect i couldn’t even imagine and who knows what else i don’t know yet. we were together for 4 years and we had an argument which resulted in him saying goodnight and goodbye to me to which i didnt reply, then i get this txt two days later, please help! i heard through mutual friends that she already had dinner with his family ( something we never did together) . what should i do if he doesnt reply to my text?” i’ve been busting my back-side trying to get through school so that i could make her my life partner. i went back home for christmas and we spent a night together. i assumed that he was going to take me home before we went out with them but he asked me to go with him and apparently he had already told his friends that he was with me. me and my ex fiance were together for nearly 10 years. my ex send me message that i was right when i said to my bf tht it was unfair that he decided all alone to end our relationship. if you’ve already deleted her number, then don’t sweat it. if their behavior resembles that of a person in a rebound relationship, you can be know for sure whether or not you have a chance at getting back together. however, he has said several times since his trip to cuba that he has strong feelings for me and would be devastated if he lost me. (technically speaking, the rebound already ended and this time, you will be starting a normal relationship and taking it slow). or how she says she wants to be friends and then will changed her mind and tell me she doesn’t like me and wants a complete break from me until she is ready, but then we will get in contact again a few days later like nothing happened. she still has feelings for you even if the close friend might seem perfect for her, it’s probably not going to work out. a few years ago, if you asked jane whether or not she would move this much fast in a relationship, she would’ve called you crazy.. but he is not going out if his way to see me. if you're still unsure, try asking someone who knows you well, such as a parent or sibling..I met his brother last week and we had a nice talk. and my gf were in a relationship for a year and a half, we had a beautiful relationship but last month was rough, we didn’t have much time for each other and we didn’t talk soo much. it’s an attempt to feel the same way you were feeling while you were in a relationship with your ex. she does nice things for me and calls/texts/facebooks sometimes and vice versa but then she will completely change and treat me like crap for several days in a row and ignores me until she responds to me again. i tried talking to her the other day on the phone asking her to please just stop with all the negativity towards me and gave her my honest opinion as her friend that she is drinking too much and that i’m upset she is letting guys use her, i think that really made her mad because she is back to ignoring me again. when i asked her if she wanted me to walk away, she didn’t respond, she said now was not the right time to ask her about us, because she hated me for what i did. good man who is the right person and wants to be. i can’t get over it cause she said he was like a brother but but he is not.’s hard to tell what’s causing this confused behavior. this time, don’t let your mood swings affect your decision. guess my question is, is there ever any hope for me? we finished watching the movie and we ended up sleeping together and afterwards he got a text from his friends about going out to eat. soon, things will start to get better and you will be able to think more clearly about this whole situation. a guy isn't interested in a relationship,And he's doing something like seeing other women, here's. there’s no way you can know for sure if she still has feelings for you or she has completely forgotten about you. my ex is still dating the other guy & i haven’t heard from her. i don’t know how serious it is, or how long its been going on. it is difficult to choose from the four options given, but there is usually one that fits better than the rest, or at least one that you could see yourself as more so than the others. then how do i go about talking to him if he just keeps avoiding me and i can’t get through a friend. right now, your mental well being should be your top priority. made things worse for me is that i saw him, two his colleagues and the girl in our own hometown. i know there’s a lot of hurt and internal conflict and misery here and my recent heartbreak certainly feels insignificant to many of these stories. your mind is still going to continue thinking about it and probably stuck in the negative spiral. we got along so well otherwise, made each other laugh hysterically and were very physical. i have implicated no contact but what should i think of this? in another conversation recently, he asked if i was seeing anyone. my question is … do you think i can get my ex back ? your ex started dating someone else within a week of breaking up, then it’s more likely to be a rebound. in addition, this new girl doesn’t really seem like all the other girls he’s dated before me (i was also different from his usual type which makes me wonder if i was the rebound but he was single for more than a year when we met, so i don’t know) and she’s not friends with any of his friends and vise versa though i don’t know if that has anything to do with it. he was frank about not being comfortable with committing to a girl because of his responsibilities regarding his family (he’s the breadwinner) and serving his community. what i’m confused about is four days later he had moved on to a new girl and they’re currently dating. networks usa, llc does not conduct background checks on the members or subscribers of this website. and my ex of 5 years (which is also my 9month old’s father) recently broke up end of may…. then just over 3 months ago he met this 19 year old girl ( he’s 27) and has been seeing her exclusive for 3 months they even did a 2 week trip to new zealand together… my question is should i be worried that this relationship is serious? the things your ex has done and said to let you. my question, if this is a rebound is better to not interfere or to keep in touch with her during? i can make an educated guess from my experience, but it is still a guess. i heard about this no contact rule and i did it for one month. i miss just texting you funny pics and you sending me funny videos (he giggled), and when we broke up a month ago, i was thinking about things, and i wasn’t upset about losing the relationship, i just didn’t want the friendship to end. if she doesn’t reply even at that time, then your chances are slim and i’ll recommend you try to move on. it seems she is texting you just to see if you are there for her and once she realizes that you are, she feels satisfied and doesn’t respond to you anymore. i said that it would be best to move out (90% of the stuff here is mine…it’s much easier for her to move and i really want her to miss me) but she doesn’t want too. and my ex girlfriend were dating for 6 years before she broke up with me 2 weeks ago because of parents putting too much pressure on her.
it got to the point she wouldn’t come back to the apartment if i was home. i have read your 5 step plan and have been doing no contact and it’s weird it is not bothering me too terribly but i still wonder and sometimes think this is a sick test. in other words, it feels as if i am changing his mind and heart about me and our relationship. he's not in the right place in his life to. to sum everything up, we have been on and off for about 2 years and during that rocky point of our relationship, i made the biggest mistake of my life. i believe that it is a rebound relationship or at least i’m hoping it is. if there is a way i could just get some feed back it would be really great and helpful, because i don’t want to keep feeling like any day or two i am gone snap and lose it about all of this . me for my english,But after i read all of this i can say that i’m a little wiser now. so hopefully you can tell me what the hell is going on haha. let him know if he is not willing to give you what you want and what you deserve, you must leave him. he say’s that he still loves me and calls me baby when we talk to each other, he also told me when i broke up with him that nobody is going to love you like i do! then starting around november/december she started acting much differently, such as a complete personality change, loss of interest in hobbies/interests, heavy drinking/staying out until early mornings, constant anger,lies and hatred towards me for no reason. my birthday will be coming up this week and last week when i visited my ex he asked me for my new address.’m so glad you ignored him if he loves you he will beg for you . does she expect for a younger guy to really settle down? i know it sucks but you need to become learn to be happy in your life without him before you try to get him back. and is there any hope that we can get back together? why not spend your time finding someone who can truly commit to you. you will find his own way to his "emotional truth". after all this time i think she has realized that she didn’t feel that great of connection like she might of thought. of the examples of this social media behavior that i want to share came from one of my readers. either your ex will move on and be in a happy relationship with her current boyfriend. have some problems with my ex she left me because of my behaviour indeed we were in relationship for 4 years or more and i use to scold her for some reasons but i use to scold her because i use to care for her although a thing is that after we broke up she didnt want me and said she wants to br alone and she also said she also loves me and does take care of me but doesnt want relationship due to my behaviour and attitude i really love her and want her back as we also had the intimate part in our relationship as she use to help me now what i do to get her back please help. i was in there getting pretty heavy lift in, i was kind of feeling good had nice sweat going. obviously i want him back and he knows this yet he has said if he wasn’t in this new relationship with this girl he would try again but he is so he won’t. i only visits once in 6 months because of my busy schedule and i have never been a fan of visiting men i date. i want you to think really hard during this no contact period if you really want to be with him. she wanted to send you a message that she is moving on. i’ll recommend you keep contacting her via text and slowly increase the frequency and length of the conversations you have with her. the only thing that i can guarantee you is that you did mean a great deal to her. even months down the road she would hit me randomly saying she misses me a lot and thinks of me a lot and misses us and what we had. but i had to end it because during the later part of our relationship, he became very neglectful, kept secrets, sexting his exes.’d recommend you do no contact for a couple of weeks and then text her again. it if you're going to find your way to a new and. her being ‘official’ 9 weeks after a breakup shows me that they clearly were dating for at least 1 month, which means she wasn’t grieving long at all (maximum a month). so far i dont think her new reltation is a rebound reltn. also, understand that even though your behavior wasn’t needy, the act of going to his house just so you don’t lose him was somewhat needy. have i lost her forever or is this just a rebound relationship? he will continue playing with your emotions and keep dragging you along if you let him. on the other hand, if their relationship has been going on for over a year, then you can safely assume that the relationship is serious for them and it’s probably not a rebound. you contact your ex after the 30 day nc even if they’re still in that rebound relationship? and i don’t think you should talk to him for at least 2-3 weeks after this. i know he’s seeing a woman he met -and rejected when we were together, he minimized it and asked me to not tell him if i’m dating. the color code is based on your natural, innate personality type. things were moving forward slowly and a month ago we went to a concert together, which he initiated an where he actually told someone i was his girlfriend. four days later i get a text from him saying ‘i have feelings for someone else’ i texted back just saying what? company which was his plan before when we were still together.’m thinking that there is not hope getting her back? i don’t understand why he is not running back to me? at first i would look past the distancing, but then i started getting frustrated and we would start fighting. i know it’s painful and i’m sorry you are in this situation, but i want you to know that everything will get better with time. is this new girl a rebound and if so what are my next steps. but i gave valid answers for everything i’ve done, but she is refusing to accept those. will only be approved if they are pertaining to the article and add value to it. 2 weeks ago, i found out he is dating somebody else because of their pictures together on fb(gf tagged him). dated with my boyfriend 2,5 years, which half year we were engaged. is at (not focused on getting back with you) and. after i read this i kind of did my own thing, but we ended up seeing each other when i came home for winter break and i was under the impression that we were just going to hang out as friends since that seemed to be what he wanted at the time. her best friend is also probably telling her about the fact that she spoke to you and it’s going to make you look like a stalker. you decide how much time of your life are you willing to waste on someone. now after letting me down with payments, shouting at me and hanging up continuously, i didn’t know what else to do other than to block contact with him. some people are extremely active on facebook and twitter while some people don’t usually post their personal life all over social media..and i texted her a couple days later just to let her know her know i was sending her kids gift cards for their birthdays she didn’t get mad she just said ok. i said “i wish i could meet you once and explain everything to you. some people keep someone lined up for dating before breaking up just so they don’t have to be single for longer than a few days. and during no contact, i want you to think exactly what type of treatment you expect from him. even though the sex is great, she is still not at peace with herself. they are exactly the same person personality wise, spiritually, ideology, and belief wise. i don’t know what to do next, or how to answer? don't want to date a man that's in this place. you feel like you have to see this through, then. unless he used his little brother’s account and saw my status or his mom told him that our college friend and i are talking :). day she is the loving partner the next she has done the complete reversal on me. the color code teaches you the real motives behind your actions and how to better relate to other personality types. he came home and we had a talk, he brought him my stuff over (i almost lived at his house three or four times a week) he told me i looked beautiful all the time and touched my face, pretty much acting like if he cared. much to my demise, he changed his profile to one of him and a new girl. i already feel like i been lost her awhile ago, not going to be able to get her back since she said she moved on from it cause she been here before and it not worth it, that her relationship isn’t a rebound it going to be real mccoy, and that trying to follow these steps is just going to fail me. i tried asking her to get together to catch up but she said she doesn’t think that’s a good idea yet because she’s currently happy with someone else. but i found out that he was already dating this new girl before i even came back home. just because they have hope that if they go for someone completely different, they’ll find happiness. i took a girl out but never slept with this person..And i remembered what my ex told me that he would give his resignation letter and he wont see her anymore. if he is cold, then you should start no contact again. this carefully designed test to find out your chances and if you qualify for the ebp basics e-course. there are things i know she really isn’t down with and some of them he has. what is going on and what on earth do i do? of all, which couple discusses big life decision on their facebook wall? then we stopped contact with each other and he meets this new girl like 3 months later and they start hanging out and eventually get together and become “official. i usually let him do his thing and be supportive. he has been away for about a month and i felt his house needed some thorough cleaning. he dumped me over spring break, on text because he got mad at me that i forgot to do something. from this page of rules to that page of rules and back and forward. soon enough, she will realize her relationship with garry for what it is. just get back in touch and let it be his idea to get back together. you for for your blog as i’m in a desperate situation as this has been going on for six months and i don’t know what to do. think whether or not is he capable of doing it. they can give clarity on areas of your personality that you may not notice. but after that later she responded with longer message saying she decided it not healthy for her to e with me to much damage done to deal with and she been through this before but she thought it was different and she has moved on from it. i slept over at his house on wednesday; we went to a county fair together on saturday; and he asked me out to lunch on sunday. he hasn’t made any effort to contact me, shows no interest whatsoever and whenever we talk he tells me how happy he is alone. boyfriend of 8 months broke up with me stating that he didn’t want a relationship right now and didn’t want a committment. think she is exhibiting some of the signs and she definitely still has feelings for you. ex fiance got married two weeks after breaking off the engagement we have been togother for more then two years we had our problem. she clearly posted this message for her ex to see. i can’t see 7 months as being significant time or the other person think that either. while others are not able to get out of the grief and their minds become obsessed with their ex. after that, if you still want him back, get in touch with him. my ex is still dating the other guy & i haven’t heard from her. the basis of the conversation went like this (sorry it’s going to be a bit of a read):Me: i’m not here to pull a beth, just so you know. i made a great impact on my ex he was proud of me, and told people i changed his live for the better, because he had a dark past. i was in my friends car so my ex couldn’t hear me. a second right after that my ex came out and i was like oh boy here we go. or is it more likely she will just remain being same sad and confused. took time before we got into sex, i took her on multiple dates. way of holding onto you for his own comfort and. she is cold towards you, you should do no contact for a while and let her initial honeymoon period get over. they do everything a couple would do together but she just keeps saying she isn’t dating. the problem with that is he might end up engaged etc. after that i went to her and told her that i can’t do this no more and that i will be there for her if she misses us in any time given, but i can’t share her happiness now when she has new bf., he’s recently started talking to this girl that he works with, and since then, he has changed his whole perspective on our relationship., you need to get out of this situation and find yourself another place. i thought it would be a good idea if i sent the letter so it arrives after her b’day & a separate postcard with a simple b’day greeting. said at one point that when she happen to run into me earlier in month she wanted to say she misses me but i ignored her and that she thought i hated her so that why she ignored me at gym. there are a bunch of articles out there on how to be more then just friends with a girl you have always had feelings for or how to be physical intimate with your friend. im so crushed i miss her so much i truly love her w all my heart and would b different if i had another chance..Me: also, i’m not trying to get in the way of anything you’re trying to do (implying his new gf), i support you 100% and just want you to be happy. few weeks later she told me she needs to focus on her everyday life and provide a happiness for her kids, and that we cant continue together. she recently reached out on email just thanking and asking if i was doing well. i am devastated all over again i love this man so much and we have been through so much together. so i told my ex that but he said hes over me and just wants to be friends. while some people argue there isn’t a benefit to ‘talking about the relationship’, he’s actually expressed that he likes it and is truly very open and honest when we do sit down and talk. know it's hard to do this when you still have. i don’t know if it’s somebody from this country or from somewhere else but, she hasn’t started going out (yet) and although i really want to ask her who/where this bloke is/from…i don’t want it to kill me anymore than it is. your last comment, i am little unsure if you applied no contact. the color code teaches you the real motives behind your actions and how to better relate to other personality types. (there are a ton more details but i’m leaving them out for the purpose of not making this too long). they think that finding someone completely opposite will probably give them happiness. i just want to know if this is a rebound. so in five months from our break up he’s got a new girl pregnant, made her his fiancé and now contacting me. you are right, it’s hard to say if it’s a rebound. we had a rocky beginning, and it took me a long time to be comfortable enough with him to call him my boyfriend, which he resented me for. you feel like you have to see this through, then. all but mainly kevin,I recently ran into my ex and it was extremely awkward and now i’m wondering if e was interested and is waiting for me to initiate contact the way i’ve always done? just before i leave to return to uni,I agreed to meet him, however this just ended up involving us going for a walk outside and me shouting at him saying “how could you do this? that said, we still live together, a mutual decision not only because we don’t want to physically have to make the move, but also because we don’t want to separate. you were always there for her, and she didn’t consider your feelings. i havent contacted him since after i saw the picture and i will not do it… so i will follow your advice.
way of holding onto you for his own comfort and. i didn’t get upset or show jealousy just told her ok and to remember if she needs an ear i’m here for her. we were “seeing” each other for the first month, but that was totally exclusive, like we’d stay round each other’s places, met each other’s friends, and would gradually get more intimate, and then after making it “official” we were together for the last 2 months, meeting each other’s parents, all the things a boyfriend/girlfriend normally do. i was always this was more then just a friendship from first time hearing about him., i don’t think knowing the reasons for his actions will give you any closure. And while you are still trying to understand what happened and pick up the shattered pieces of your lif — Comments PageEx dating someone else signs aren't easy to pick up. like how it happens after long periods of no association or someone being in a relationship. it was our dream and goal and i regarded her as my life partner. they were married for 10 years (he’s 36 now, no kids) and broke up because they didnt have a good relationship: he wanted kids and she didnt, she wasnt in love with him, she did her life (went on holidays with friends and not even contact him once while away, went out every day with friends instead of come home to eat dinner with him) and act like her roommate, etc etc. part of me thinks he is trying to illicit a response from me. the following day he began to act distant yet again, saying things we moving too fast. now i have texted him since wednesday and he has been very rude to me and says leave me alone, i’m seeing other girls, but yesterday i called him after receiving 20 blocked calls. he was in a relationship and that ended and then a week later we had a run in, oddly the same way we did two years ago, timing, place and all but i’m rambling, but i guess what i’m wondering is if him jot making direct eye contact but smiling or smirking constantly mean anything? but you will find someone who will care about your happiness. is, i have a lease until the end of the year. she probably did love you and she still probably misses you sometimes. i couldn’t believe it and i made a lot of the mistakes you talked about like calling her all the time and begging and stuff. went to marriage counselling but every time she was asked not to contact him and start to work on our marriage she would just lie to the therapist and me and done what she wanted., if you're still hung up on your ex, you're gonna wanna know if he's dating someone else right? what i am trying to say is that no matter what happens, your course of action right now should be the same, i. if she is still cold, you know you gave it a try and you can move on without any regrets. isn’t it possible that she did have a meaningful relationship with you and after the breakup she just found someone more compatible than you? we were completely in love but this must have changed his mind right away. she doesn’t know that i know all of this. then about a 4-6 weeks ago he tells me that he has started seeing someone else and he said he didn’t know how serious it was but he didn’t want me to be blindsided if we didn’t hang out as much. post: should you contact your ex on valentine’s day? we had a long distance relationship for about a year after we met online. my friends all seem to think she has been manipulating my attention by doing things like this, as she only gets in touch when it suits her like when she’s been upset etc. she said she is at someones house and she is gonna be there for the whole day. have a different "love equation" from women:A strong connection does not necessarily equal any. i know he texts her every day to say he loves her and misses her and counts down the days until he sees her again. she now lives in his house that looks just like the houses we were fixing to buy. i dont know if this is a rebound relationship or something else. i think you should stop talking for a while and let him continue with his girlfriend.. keep telling yourself the relationship didn’t mean anything to her and you were just a plaything for her. but when a guy is unavailable,He has a fear of getting deeper into a relationship. i have invested so much of my time in this relationship. they fact that she hangouts and has sex with this other guy destroys me but i feel like she’s just trying to replace me. if you are looking for closure, you should apply no contact indefinitely. my ex and i had been going out for almost 3 years before i broke up with him this past december right before new year’s eve. thinking about these ludicrous situations is not going to help you in anyway right now. we haven’t communicated since valentine’s day and it’s been a month since they’ve started dating and almost 4 months since we broke up. it may help to explain the inconsistency of his ‘feelings’ & the cheating. it just means she is in a rebound and didn’t really have time to process her emotions. we had just started college together and were both kind of on different pages in the relationship. the only difference is that different people deal with this grief differently. do you think there is hope for us at all? two months later he’s still with her and sent me several texts simply saying i have moved on.’m going to send the “magic letter” but i’d like your opinion first, please. if he starts calling you constantly, let him know you need some space and time to deal with the breakup. knowing her, i think she is expecting that i’ll reach out to her on her b’day, as i’ve never let anything get in the way of it. but we were madly in love and our wedding were supposed t take place in a month, so he got married t this girl he hardly know and he posted got married in his facebook wall maybe he is in a rebound but he got marriedg. he displayed all the signs ti want me back but i was aloof.. he told me 2 weeks ago that he still misses me thinks of me and it’s hard on him still and he is not over me. i was so curious if he already has a relationship with the girl, and i had the chance to catch them on a double date with the two other colleagues. i met him exactly a year later when he was still sleeping around with women, and they weren’t officially divorced yet. she is not one to live her life over facebook so i found this odd. don’t have any regrets from my former ex who is married now. she is 35 im 28 she saw that i had grown up a lot since i was 18 and was immediately attracted to me. is the reason why most of the rebound relationships seem to move so fast. as for them being the same person, like i said before, it doesn’t necessarily mean their relationship is perfect and doesn’t have any issues. she said when he was stressed she would get stressed and then he would get mad cause she didn’t express what was wrong with her that’s when she said he yelled at her. she started seeing an old boyfriend within a month of being home. i’m a bit confused as what she is doing. had been on a few dates in the mean time, had sex with one or two, but no relationships. tell him you need time and space to deal with the breakup and you can’t be his friend right now. i think her new relationship is most probably a rebound and you shouldn’t worry about it much. i told him even though he said he said we shouldn’t talk anymore that i still care about him and will always have an open ear if he needs someone to listen. your hands, and you're wondering what you can do after. we had been dating for 3 years and when he broke up, he listed reasons like he wanted freedom, to be stress-free and he felt that the feelings faded. in september i sent my ex roses because we would have had our 5 year anniversary and my ex was very happy about that (even though his new partner hated it). after a breakup, that intimacy is gone in a matter of few days and you are left feeling empty. i am trying to move on with the help of a therapist and trying to get back to the old me. i asked him about how long it had been since he started seeing this girl and he said it was a few weeks before from the time he told me and when i asked why he didn’t tell me sooner he said it wouldn’t have been worth mentioning if it was only a few dates. then he told me that he is always with tath girl and he wants to break up with me! cannot tell if this relationship is just a rebound, and i have a chance of a future with this indecisive person, or if i should just let go of the entire thing and move on. i know there is a chance that he’ll become her boyfriend during that time, but imo it’s a risk you must take. if their new relationship has been going on for a few weeks, you can’t say for sure if it will end in a few months or it will continue for years. after a bout 8 month at sea i find out he is dating someone else i though i was okay with it but when i finish the contract and returned home and started working at my old job where both my ex and his new girlfriend work i feel very sad and heart broken i love him and wish to be back with him he has been dating this girl nearly three month now what should i do. she doesn’t know he has been seeing me also and is in love with him and i’m afraid he will become her boyfriend just because it’s the easiest and he then doesn’t have to take a look at himself. she said she does not see us getting back, not meant to be, etc… i brought up lies that she said, and instead of apologizing she yelled “dont you ever call me again” and sent me a text that said “have a nice life! we chatted for some time and i asked her if she wants to go out for a coffee so we can catch up, she said she’ll see if she has any plans and she’ll give me a call i said no problem. weeks, she’d called three times texted a couple, i decided to call on the way to work. it if you're going to find your way to a new and. she saying she misses me and thinks of me at random times just like my former ex and i don’t want to see that all this time she is having best relationship ever with her best friend and find out they are engaged then married. i do think you will be able to make a better decision if you go through the no contact rule for 30 days. if she decides to go with her ex husband, then you’ll have to suck it up and accept it. and if you found out all these things after the breakup, then you should not tell her you know all this. you know your ex better than anyone, so you are the best judge if they are doing it to rub it in your face or not. three weeks our break up, i heard from bf sister that new girl and my ex has something going on and i was ripped apart., in most cases, when you tell your ex you want to get back, they will most probably put their defense up (especially if they were the one who broke up). he was being very dramatic and said he was going to stay single for a long time and didn’t know if he’d ever get married, etc. hurts me is that the female colleague is a bit older than me, not the type who has simple needs and wants (he would often say that what he wanted in a girl is simplicity since he’s a simple guy), and is too convenient for him that i thought wouldn’t be a challenge to him at all unlike me who he pursued for 5 months (i didn’t like him at first so i would really ignore him). regardless of that, your best course of action is to follow the 5 step plan. give her some time and space and meanwhile try to make some positive changes in your life. i confronted him about it n he denies her in every way n tells me she is just his friend he told me about. i assume it’s a rebound as everyone has said to me it is and his own cousins where shocked it happened and so soon and having read your page. should i contact her while she is in relationship with this guy after 1 month? the fact that he managed to ‘fall in love’ with this woman who doesn’t even speak english and wants to marry her and buy a house with her hours after meeting her seems, frankly, insane. my friends tell me that she is a rebound and i’m confused. literally 2 weeks of being broken up and he pulls this. it sucks to be painted in negative light by everyone in her life because they only knew one side and that they would tell her to bail he not good enough or he just the same as all the rest. why was she in love with me for three years if we never had a connection? he is a dark person as well, just like me. this is fairly uncommon and it could mean two things. if he decides he wants you again, don’t be so quick in taking him back. i encouraged it because we have a big age difference. your ex seems happy and their new relationship seems to be going perfectly. i made a mistake and wanted him back and wanted to fight for our 9 years but his constant random messaging of i have moved on makes me think why bother. he’s from another town and is apparently pretty poplular. even if he does come back, he might hurt you again. because he said that he thought he wasted my time for ten months and that he selfishly kept me in his life all this time because i made him feel better. its now been 5 months our break up, i’m still hurting and trying to go forward in life but my ex is still in my heart and doesn’t go away. since then i have found out that he started seeing her before we split (she didn’t know) and he has promised her the world, while also seeing me and telling me i was his soulmate. i know i’m supposed to be doing no contact (which i’m implementing right now), but he usually texts me “good night” and “good morning” even if we’re upset with one another. but if he’s a runner, then why would he contact me again. she was doing this usually six days a week (weird because she was never into a lot of drinking ), and then she started sleeping over at “guy friends” houses. is at (not focused on getting back with you) and. don't want to date a man that's in this place. like i said they are the same exact person with everything. first month of dating they were already confessing their love on twitter, posting song lyrics to each other and now i’m confused if this is really love or just a rebound and that i should just go nc to wait it out but at the same time heal. she’s known him for a while as he’s from the town where she lives, they were in high school together (we both study at university which is a 3 hour drive from her hometown, he still lives there). in addition, you might also want to read this article on what to do if your ex is in another relationship. texted him already but he dont reply knowing that he is awake and online. i don’t want to be pushy if he honestly does not want to get back. this point, most people realize that this new relationship will not bring them the peace and happiness they were hoping it would. i just found out from him today that he’s seeing someone and was really surprised as i still think it’s so soon considering how serious our relationship was. a guy isn't interested in a relationship,And he's doing something like seeing other women, here's. foolishly, i contacted her a number of times over the course of the next 2 months. i decided i didn’t want to keep seeing him like before, and told him if we ever were going to end up together it was his turn to fight, even if i didn’t think he ever would. like i said, this girl seems to have a track record for going in too deep and too fast which is why guys come and go when it comes to her, do you think this means it’s likely to end quick? but today i made the desicion to break up with my boyfriend now and go for him full time. think you should just stay calm and let her make her decision.’ve been doing the nc with him for a week now, but within that period i accidentally bumped into him but i didn’t expect him to show up in the area right then and there. gf is dating one of her close male best friends. which shows she is not over him and is most probably in a rebound. i asked him if he still often goes to these places and he said “noo, its hard for me to go to these places with my new lover, because we (he and i) always went there”. kevin,i had read your all 5 steps but unfortunately i think its bit late for me,i am 23yrs of age and my ex is 22,we were together since 6 months from june2013 to dec13,but my possessiveness ruin our relation though i love her very very much,we were working together but break up cause me to leave the organisation which i was seeking from last 3years,after that i had tried to contact her in every possible from message to email,since last 4 months i was continuously text her because i thought time shouldn’t run away but she feel it very irritating and start to hate me more than she loved me,we were in great relationship but my few mistakes asked me to pay heavy price,but i really love her and she had also loved me alot,and i desperately want her back so please please help me out. never got a response from the email/don’t know if he even read it. me and my ex boyfriend had been 2yrs more together and we just broke up for almost 3 months but in that 2months we still contact and see each other and many things happened before i decided to do the no contact rule. meant considering everything you have said till now about what happened, in my opinion and experience, i think she will reply when you contact her. text him or send him the letter mentioned in the 5 step plan. weekend we skyped for a few hours and everything was ok, he even asked me to come visit him next month and that he would take me camping. if your ex is going out of their way to show you they are happy in their relationship and everything’s going great, then it’s probably a rebound and they are not doing that great in reality. his truth is that he wants to be with you, or not. and if she did end up being single what reason would she even contact me not saying to get together or anything like that but just in general. i want to share shortly my story and want to hear your opinion about it.