What if your ex boyfriend is dating someone else
If your ex boyfriend is dating someone else
he is indirectly complimenting me sometimes, hinting to do fun things together. i the think the best course of action is to keep contact with him via text and ask him out again after a few weeks. think she is exhibiting some of the signs and she definitely still has feelings for you. i feel betrayed that he didn’t wait for me after saying he would, which is probably unreasonable. he’s told me so many times that he trusts me more than anyone in the world and loves that he feels like he can be completely open with me without feeling judged when he is used to always having to be “on”. it might satisfy your curiosity, but it won’t necessarily give you closure. hes said things that have hurt me i’ve forgiven him, more than once so i dont get why he cant let this one time go. it’s been a long time after the breakup and perhaps he is already over the breakup and has moved on. ex and i broke up when i just came back from overseas exchange program. so the next week i went and got the remaining things i had at his place she was there but he had her stay in the basement. so i decided to no contact her at all, and will first talk to a terapist within a week and a half about my past problems. again i wont rise to it but my mum said that if he carries on this week i should text him and say look i dont know what is going on i can see you keep watching me and i think after your holiday we should meet and talk. it’s a good thing that he is contacting you. late last night he starts following this guy and replies to a tweet about a movie. he did not sit and discuss with me his plans. but i was suspicious, so the other day as my way went past her building i checked for his bike – and it was there. so backstory is that my ex and i broke up 6 months ago because of long distance. if you want, you can tell him you need some time and space as well and leave it at that (it’s your decision since you’ve already established no contact and told him you are done. read this article to know how to apply no contact when you have kids. know that she is confused and needs help as she has been drinking heavily and smoking heaps but she tell her family she is happy with this new guy…. he said like he wanted us to but he said if we can get along until then and not argue. could this be a way for him testing water with me and hiding his feelings from everyone until he knows where he stands with me? when we talked i explained to him why i did it and how it was innocent it was just a ride home, and he told me how i disrespected him, and he told me that we were going to get back together but just not right now, he said he needed time to get his mind right. she asked me why i waited this long and i told her that i was scared. really want him to see and realise tt im the only genuine girl for him that cares a great deal. i think this has brought us to become friends again and ive blocked the guy that caused trouble by telling me that my ex is a no good idiot who is jealous and gave me up but dont want me to be with anyone else. so this guy was a friend of mine years back when we were in 1st yr in college. i’ve never loved someone from just looking at them. i’m very much in love with him & idk how life is gonna be with out him in me & my daughters life. husband and i have a 20 plus year relationship consisting of being best friends (with benefits), having a child, becoming a formal couple then married (9 years total/ 6 married). the relationship was very good until he faced problems in his career, and got depressed for a while. had recently posted a question and your response was to apply nc again for three weeks. the only reason shes with that guy is he is a good listener and friend. but there is nothing else you can do at this point. anyway he was coming to stay with kids when i weny into have baby, when he arrived i was in labour didnt realise but his mum came and we went in ambulance he stayed with our kids. he said that he loves me more than anyone, he said that he’ll do anything for me but is in love with her too. i first wrote in i gave little bit of story and what was happen between us, i seem to be having more trouble lately because after i saw her with someone else at her work when i stopped by to talk and give her a letter i ended up texting her next day saying wish you didn’t hate me and hope you read that letter and i know it probably wont mean anything but she said she don’t hate me and that it did mean something. he is searching for a deep love- and was hoping to find it with me but hasn’t. i text him this morning about sun beds and he replied straight away. weeks later i find out he has a new girlfriend, and trying to cope with all of this is very hard because i’m emotional as it is being pregnant, the 2 have been together now for a month and i’m worried my chances are low, i don’t think it’s a rebound relationship, but i do know she’s not pushing him into anything he doesn’t want to do, and she’s aware of the second baby on the way, there is no way that i could follow with the no contact period because of the fact that we have a 3 year old daughter. i wouldn’t have seen them if it weren’t for my friends as him and i are not friends on it right now. they spend lot of time together and they seem to be in love and she wished me good luck for future.. he arrives back at christmas last year, and seeing him still gives me butterflies, we frequently txt and talk on da phone. if after a few months, he doesn’t make a move, tell him that you are interested in rekindling the relationship. should i break the no contact after 30 days since that day or should wait until he is the one who find me first? i know there is a chance that he’ll become her boyfriend during that time, but imo it’s a risk you must take. so, life is going to be a roller coaster for you. i know that finding me was a mission because he didn’t know my surname. ever since then, i have been pestering him by call and texts for two weeks. now is the time i can text him but after yesterday i don’t know whether i should. you go to your ex and say straight up “im not going to play a lot of games, this is how it is. i dont understand his game, he dont want me but dont want me to move on or be with anyone else. i was ready to hang up after asking him but he then started being very nice, asking what i did that day and told me that he has feelings and a heart and isn’t emotionless. and i could still remember how much he put his heart to give me a surprise for the anniversary. he pushes my buttons deliberately to get a raise out of me and gloats about his new relationship, how she does the things i did not like to do with him. is, i have a lease until the end of the year. i’ll not recommend no contact since you two were never technically dating and you never really broke up. however i heard from a friend that he isn’t seeing the second one anymore but they are close friends, but another friend told me they might still be together but he’s not sure. well, that being said, he and this girl (who is/was my closest friend) have been spending so much time together, even while we were dating they were close and i was always jealous of them, but now that we’re not together anymore, they’re so close they could be sown together and it wouldn’t make a difference… she is always over his house and vise versa… (its been, 3 weeks since we have broken up… yes, still raw) but what hurts the most is that he told me he still loves me, he even said he still wanted me in his life, he still wanted to see me everyday and to still talk and be friends! he hasn’t replied the whole day, i know he has been very busy (he told me he would be even before we met up and that he wouldn’t have a day off for the next 2 weeks), but he always found the time. this way he can have her and you as well. but once you get used to living without him, you’ll realize you don’t need him to raise your daughter. and after they breakup with you, they start a relationship with someone who has no career and no life goals whatsoever. should i have no contact for a while and if so how long until i contact again. and a part of your mind will not believe me and keep you stuck in your negative state of mind. i don’t think she would have stayed with you if you didn’t mean anything to her. has usually been happy when she is around him before their step up in relationship term from friends to actually being more then that. she was amazed how i suddenly appeared there and nearly kissed me. if they’ve been in the relationship for a few months or less, then it’s probably a rebound and it will end soon. and so to forget about me, she started dating someone. but then today a day after his dad told him he is text me asking how my eye is and what happened etc when i told him he text saying ffs and then asked if my boiler was fixed as it went on blink. had been on a few dates in the mean time, had sex with one or two, but no relationships. i expected him to take 2 days to reply (he is the type of guy with strong emotions who prefers to cool down before reacting + he sometimes does it on purpose waiting for my reaction), but it’s been almost 3 days and still nothing. i feel like part of my is there where she is. (he also asked is i needed to see him today he seemed like he had other plans too). if she decides to go with her ex husband, then you’ll have to suck it up and accept it. when do you see it as it is and realize you have to just give it up. i already feel like i been lost her awhile ago, not going to be able to get her back since she said she moved on from it cause she been here before and it not worth it, that her relationship isn’t a rebound it going to be real mccoy, and that trying to follow these steps is just going to fail me. it felt like she is trying to show me that she is doing better. if he doesn’t, that means he was just using you, in which case, you are better off without him. what i’ve seen on her social media she post how amazing he is and the cool amazing things he does for her. i knew he was talking with this girl he met on the trip and i couldn’t handle it.. i’m confused if i should still hold on or should i just move on? as you can imagine i didn’t handle this very well, i did all the mistakes of begging and telling her i couldn’t live without her etc. know it might seem pathetic that i’m still trying after a year apart but that’s how much i love this man and the father of my child. he is actually my client and i am a senior executive in my company. one point he put a down payment on a wedding ring for her (he was in his mid 20’s at this time). so if you want to keep him, you better keep those attributes as well. i usually let him do his thing and be supportive. i did not respond to this and will not be contacting him even though i feel like i didn’t get a whole lot of closure as i didn’t speak with him face to face. when i questioned this new girl he told me nothing was going on. my text did not require a reply really, but he replied and he wrote quite a lot. he has been hurt in his past by past relationships where they have cheated and technically i did but i didn’t sleep with anyone. the only thing you can do is start dating yourself. were living together so it’s been difficult to do no contact. i want to thank you for all the time and effort you put into me and this relationship., this webpage did bring me hope and confidence in getting him back 😉 thank you! either your ex will move on and be in a happy relationship with her current boyfriend. have to give him some space and let him realize on his own what he’s missing. he is a very needy guy and very jealous guy. my only problem is yesterday my ex deleted my mother from facebook and deleted most pictures of me and him on there too. he has admitted that since being back, the person i am now and the state of the current relationship is like night and day compared to before (his words). all this to rub it in my face but i kept nc. this threw up all kinds of feelings as i explained i been chatting to somebody too.’m so glad you ignored him if he loves you he will beg for you . now about 2 in a half months later i’m back in the same position i was in a few months back because he is still messing with the same girl & doing the same things he had been doing. maybe he was really just busy and didn’t how to respond to your text. just before we broke up he said i would never be a doormat for someone its not fair. he wasn’t going to give me another chance and that isn’t going to change.? and last friday we had sex, again, yes it’s terrible, and he was texting me all weekend and i spent the whole day with him monday and then tuesday he acts like i don’t even exist like does he feel guilty for keep cheating on her with me? i just am super confused by his actions and whether he is doing all this because he is missing me too much. she doesn’t know that i know all of this. all we know, your boyfriend might have jumped into a new relationship before moving on. think you made the right decision by breaking up with him. does he still like me or is he in two minds of his own weather to move on with this girl or try with me., yes, part of it could be her being the “damsel in distress” but, before she told me that she’s found this guy, i was fairly happy. this time is different, right after our fight he immediately started dating someone else besides me in 3 1/2 years. i’ll recommend you try the 5 step plan once, and if it doesn’t work, move on. now this makes it the second time he unblocked me and has randomly contacted me as so. why would you want to be like your ex’s new girl when being you is so much more fun? i know we are not done with each other (otherwise i wouldn’t be here) and he wouldn’t hide her from me (or so i’m assuming). i felt bad and emailed him the next day, told him i didn’t mean to pressure him but that i thought we could work things out . he didn’t speak to me since then – no texts or email. it shows you that someone close to you can show you love and joy and the feeling of happiness that you might of had with in a relationship. are common responses when ur ex appears to be withholding their new relationship when secretly wanting to get back together. less than a month later he starts dating a new girl and she makes him block me out of his life from everything (his phone, twitter, facebook, everything). behaviour is crazy what is he playing at he was always into doing things with our kids, im just going with the flow but im confused by all this could seeing baby have made him question what he wants and ive basically put a wall up to protect me as ive changed more confident not stressed happy etc.’m sure that is what my current ex is realizing her self. i’m not sure if i should put my heart on my sleeve or try to play it cool. he didnt come see baby (i was out next day) he finally came on friday baby 3days old for 45mins. what is going on and what on earth do i do? i heard that my ex’s courting someone for about 2 months. take a deep breath, sort yourself out and go nc for a few months as he says. there is no way of knowing what was going on in her mind when she was in the relationship with you unless you invent a time machine, get a mad brain scientist, go back in time and get the scientist to analyze her thoughts and behavior. did all the mistakes mentioned above, and even worse; i tried comitting suicide and let my ex boyfriend know about it. and if he does, you should cut all contact with him and move on. i love him very dearly – i’m not sure if he truly knows this., but then he broke up with his girlfriend more than a month ago.” that clearly means he’s seeing someone else but it’s not on facebook. however, he has said several times since his trip to cuba that he has strong feelings for me and would be devastated if he lost me. it’s been about a month and i pretty sure they are dating i haven’t asked cause i am sure he wouldn’t want to tell me. he could just simply reject me if he didnt want me. there were days in my house where we had to sell off the scrap metal for food but i never felt bad about my life. he even suggested we meet up half an hour earlier (so we could be together longer before he goes to work), he took me to a nice place by the river, we joked a lot, he called me by a cute name… and when he brought me back he reached out for a hug in the car which really surprised me. he said things like he wanted to marry me one day and made me promise to never leave him. no contact but keep her added on snapchat —- view her public timeline snaps yay or nay during this time. break up was rough till my dad sent him a harsh message and his anger on me increased. some of our common friends told me that my ex is with her because he does’t want to be alone and he doesn’t want to remember me, and also he gets grumpy when hearing my name. and my boyfriend were together for 2 years and 7 months (and friends for 4 years before that) when he broke up with me, 5 weeks ago. situation is complicated,i have been together with him for 6 years,so he decided date someone else without me knowing,as we us women we like to dig information,i started asking him questions…. once i declined going to his new house for make out and he got so upset about it and refused to speak with me for 5 months. he came upstairs was sitting holding baby and talking to me i asked him his opinion on a baby monitor and he said hed buy it i jokingly said where u getting all the money he said his “personal life nothing to do with u. like how it happens after long periods of no association or someone being in a relationship. i politely said i had a different approach to dealing with these things but honestly it seemed like he didn’t care (he did say he’s glad that i’m better and hopes i’m recovering well). her response was that she missed me too but needed to get some things in her life straight. this site has placed a lot of perspective into my situation. i’ve offered to show my fb account, email, phone records, texts, even take a polygraph to prove ive been 100% faithful. we “touched” a little bit the conversation about us being naughty on the beach, i know it’s probably not a good idea to talk about sexual stuff but it was more in a joking way. it’s her ex, there’s a chance that this relationship is not a rebound. the fact that he managed to ‘fall in love’ with this woman who doesn’t even speak english and wants to marry her and buy a house with her hours after meeting her seems, frankly, insane. i now realise that nc is the best thing i can do as for some reason he is so angry but is blaming me. the thing is he was in a serious relationship that ended a year before he met me because he didn’t want to get married or have kids (she was 5 years older) i contacted him after 3 weeks and he was very friendly so i made the mistake of sending a txt a few days later saying asking did he want to meet up and have a chat about things he replied 24 hours later saying he knows it was hard to send the txt but he wants to be on his own for now that hes not ready for anything and he really likes me and he genuinely wants to be friends. allow yourself a moment or two alone for some loud screams, maybe some throwing of objects that won’t break, but if your ex starts dating someone else, you have no right to be openly mad about it. was wondering if there is a time limit or something to all this i know your suppose to strike before the move on but if you can’t even associate even the smallest simply conversation. well, that being said, he and this girl (who is/was my closest friend) have been spending so much time together, even while we were dating they were close and i was always jealous of them, but now that we’re not together anymore, they’re so close they could be sown together and it wouldn’t make a difference… she is always over his house and vise versa… (its been, 3 weeks since we have broken up… yes, still raw) but what hurts the most is that he told me he still loves me, he even said he still wanted me in his life, he still wanted to see me everyday and to still talk and be friends! know they’re still together and that his rich family is backing her business endeavor, as she was fired from her job shortly after shacking up with the man. his mom texted me yesterday and said she felt bad but that he called and told her he went sight seeing in nyc and she asked who he went with and he went on about some girl classmate he likes or something . she said what a wonderful guy i am…that she tells all her friends that…but still, she has made her mind up…she never wavers, even if she’s wrong…. no contact, if you’re still friends on facebook/have them on snapchat is it ok if they look at your posts?– he is looking for small contact when we are together, like grabbing my arm/leg jokingly, leaning closer to me etc but never really trying to kiss me or anything, but i respect that and i don’t think he will try anything as long as he is still with her even though they might be on the verge of breaking up. ex and i decided together to broke up because we didn’t feel like that this relationship was working anymore. if you have finished no contact already, then there’s no harm in contacting her on the anniversary. i realized he didnt make me happy completely and i still missed my ex. it can be a gut wrenching feeling to think about your ex boyfriend (who you still love with all your heart) in someone else’s arm. decided that we can see other people if we want, she told me about one guy who has spoken for her and she asked is it okay for me, i didn’t take him as a threat. i think that’s great and i wish you the best. don’t know what to do… my ex fiancé and i were together for nearly 10 years but broke up 9 months ago. people lose feelings and there is a good chance she cheated on you while she was in the relationship. im pretty sure the reason he split up with me was because he was scared to lose me as i kept saying i didnt know if i wanted to be with him. and i told him that i will not be his side chick and he said he knows and we keep having sex, twice monday, so a total of 5 times since they’ve been dating, they’ve been dating for 2 weeks now.… i need your advice… so my ex broke up with me 5 months ago we dated for 3 years since i was 16 we had some good & bad times in our relationship. i am a bit shocked because i did not expect this. got my gym membership and have friends who are offering to be my gym buddy so when the texting phase comes around and i use the thanking him for what he did line you mentioned could i slightly brag about my weight loss or just wow him if i get the chance to see him? also, for that night out that we had he told me that he wanted and thought of kissing me but he didn’t. it just means she is in a rebound and didn’t really have time to process her emotions. me for my english,But after i read all of this i can say that i’m a little wiser now. i know it sucks but you have to accept that he is a jerk for doing this to you. his facebook statustells youtalks about her to his friendspublic displays of affectiondoesn't answer your textshe's distanthe doesn't make time for youmakes it publiccancels on you. but i have no idea how i should aproach this. i told her that i have seen other girls (mistake? she thinks that the new relationship, despite not being what she expected, is still giving her some level of comfort.’d recommend you do no contact for a couple of weeks and then text her again. and also the girl is controlling my exbf decision not to resign from the company because his parents are asking him to apply to a diff. i will advise that you forget about him and move on. but you will find someone who will care about your happiness. he’s always had eyes for other girls and that’s caused trust issues for us. then i met this guy after few years and he was the perfect man for me. but i had to end it because during the later part of our relationship, he became very neglectful, kept secrets, sexting his exes. he will soon realize that this relationship is not going to fill the hole that he is feeling in his life and end it. i know it sucks that he is with someone else, but there is nothing you can do about it and you have to come in terms with that. and you will definitely meet someone who will treat you with the respect and love you deserve. help kevin, u r the only hope now,i dont wana move on,i want to grow only with her, my age is 24 n her 23, we lives in india,today she enjoing her life allott by making me forever alone, i will never able to love agn anymore now, i will never marry any other girl, i also blocked her just for doing no contact but i dont think there is use anymore, plz be my god n help me, m ready to do every single step. i believe that is how it is meant to be. he could have kept it with him and the next day he said he was just testing me if i was suicidal which is a bull shit. it may help to explain the inconsistency of his ‘feelings’ & the cheating. she was the confidant of his throughout our entire relationship and the downfall of it. before i was the one who always make the decisions now everything chanced maybe it’s what i deserved after cheating and other things. i am a very beautiful woman and i have been on eight dates trying to get over him. we had a fun night there but i noticed my ex was laughing a little bit too much and tried to laugh out loud. so then i asked him “what do i do” he told me “just be patient” i had told him before that i will give him his time and that i don’t mind waiting for him but i don’t him to change his mind and stay with her. the reason he acted mean is because he is mean. i listened and didn’t say much other than him getting the rest of his stuff from my apartment (we had lived together). i somehow pulled it back but she wasn’t as the same as she used to be(i asked her to start detaching from me like 2 weeks ago but never thought she would do it, which i think is the first mistake i have done). he is still in a relationship with her on fb but it seems like he is giving all his free time and attention to me so i guess things with her are dying. it makes me think it is less about her and our relationship and more about something else. we live in different states (me northwest she ‘s in the east) and fell in love – the first real love we both had. anyway weekend i met up with him(after going through all the classic mistakes) he agreed to stay friends and work on things and wouldn’t meet other girls whilst we are like this. after break-up this two months i have been so emotional and push her away from me and i was not at all rational and now i see what i should have done. he feels that the last 2 months he was forcing his love for me (didn’t seem that way). i wish it was easier to control my emotions , but it really does hurt that barely 3 weeks after we break up he is seeing someone else, when he told me he wasn’t apposed to eventually trying to work things out, but that the way things have been going we needed to break things off right now so we don’t resent each other . i have been following your good friend jason’s rewind advice. but he started talking to me about his work and the fact that we always spent so much time together and he felt panic. to get your ex back when he has moved on to a new girlfriend. kids have just come back from staying at his house, which i have found he had introduced our kids to her and had her stay at his house while my children were there. then apply no contact for another 2-3 weeks and then text him. plus you say how long she waited like if she did appropriate time length. correspond with you almost a year ago about my ex-boyfriend. thinking about these ludicrous situations is not going to help you in anyway right now. thought it was because of his friends,they don’t have girlfriends and because he is unemployed and kinda stressed because of that. thinking about your relationship with her in this way is just going to lower your self esteem it’s going to hurt your next relationship., me and my ex boyfriend broke up for about 4 1/2 months now and i initiated the break up as he was neglecting me. to get your ex back when he has moved on to a new girlfriend. the only difference is that different people deal with this grief differently. it’s going to be exactly like it has been for the past 16 months. we had some issues and she felt bad, because i didn’t show my feelings and i wasn’t sure what i felt and sometimes i was unkindly for her but she loved me very much. we laughed a little but he has gone quiet as i know he is getting ready for work..plz help kevin,i admit that i was over possesive for her,not only whatsapp but she recharged for calling pack,she also used to recharge within every 2 or single day, which indicates that she is really moved on & loving someone. he left town before we did for his 1st job. next day i heard my ex had asked from her friend that do i know that my ex is going to germany to meet her exchange student friends and that guy, most likely. let him know that you will wait for him until he makes his decision but you will not be a doormat or his backup., if he has a new girlfriend, and it’s not a rebound, then you have some serious trouble. i trust that he won’t find someone else but i’m also afraid that will. taking my ex and her new boyfriend out to dinner after i had spoken to them. he also told her that after his birthday he was confuse and didn’t know what he was going to do with me. she had a mom who had cancer and i didn’t want my girl to go through the same prosess with me if it turned out to be cancer. 5 days ago i get a text from saying not to send things because her mother got into it with her. months later he told me that he’s always i loved but couldn’t tell me because i had a boyfriend. hurts me is that the female colleague is a bit older than me, not the type who has simple needs and wants (he would often say that what he wanted in a girl is simplicity since he’s a simple guy), and is too convenient for him that i thought wouldn’t be a challenge to him at all unlike me who he pursued for 5 months (i didn’t like him at first so i would really ignore him). i think it is not anymore a rebound relationship maybe he is serious with her! do want to be with him, but i am just tired if sharing with with her, and i am ready to find peace again, even if it’s without him. long it’ll go on sort of depends on how fast he is able to sort out his feelings.. went few dates and messed up his mind and he called off the whole wedding thing. he has used this friendship idea to try and get us back on track after a rough patch but unfortunately we had to break off because of circumstances regarding my health..) have been dating on and off for the past 7 years. think the hard part will be playing it cool if he does say yeah and agrees to see me. i think he has moved on and he is committed. if not, you should try to contact him and build attraction. im going on a date with his mom, do you think its ok to keep in touch with her?” and when someone asks if you’ve heard about his new girlfriend you should shrug it off. i am hoping this is a sign that he is realising what he has lost. i graduate this week from my school and my ex-girlfriend didn’t congratulate me so i was thinking is she mad because i didn’t answer her last text message or maybe she is moving on. but i can’t really be sure if it’s a breakup since there was never actually an us. the only thing he would like to do is smoke marijuana but that’s it and ever since he started living there he tried different kinds of drugs. thanks for all the advice kevin and sorry i post so much, makes me look like i’m obssessed with my ex. or is it best to leave it alone and swoop in later on the chance things fall apart? this is a rebound and probably won’t last right? after her visit she hoped that she wouldnt make me more hurt by this…. while some people argue there isn’t a benefit to ‘talking about the relationship’, he’s actually expressed that he likes it and is truly very open and honest when we do sit down and talk. and we talked again, last friday and he told me that he just can’t break up with her because that’s mean, and i know it’s a rebound relationship like who gets a new girlfriend a week after you’ve been in a relationship with someone else for about 3 years? three weeks our break up, i heard from bf sister that new girl and my ex has something going on and i was ripped apart. tried to mend things out within a day(bad mistake)but she never changed her mind of going back to her ex however she threatened to block my phone if i kept on texting her. i love him and i don’t know if blocking him and not knowing if he’s trying to talk to me is more painful than if i unblock him and he never talks to me. cannot tell if this relationship is just a rebound, and i have a chance of a future with this indecisive person, or if i should just let go of the entire thing and move on.,yes its daily,i have no idea who is he/she but its killing me,she is still online but when v had relation she always used to sleep on 12 am or before only then what is this now, she used to recharge her number every 2 days means she is calling someone also,she blocked my emails ,contacts everything when i tried to send her old memories pics but insted replying she blocked me. they think that finding someone completely opposite will probably give them happiness. i had the feeling she might have an immaturity about her, her current state of mind could make her this way or bad experience from a previous relationship might make her treat her exes this way. i did not want to see him that this time even if he asked because i was still in pain because of what happened and the break up. after a while i agreed to her decision and we texted for a while and i wished her a beautiful life with him and so we agreed to stay friends but not close however she told me not to worry that she will not post anything on facebook regarding her new relationship because she is protecting my reputation and respect as well as hers. i asked if he was going to wait for my examinations to be over and he replied “i don’t know, see how”. he has been talking with a friend he’s had since childhood who is going through a divorce and i feel they have become emotionally connected on more than a friends basis.. its been almost two months and hes still with this grl i think, im not 100% sure, haven’t heard anything from him. unfortunately i may have screwed up on your rules because after finding out he was dating someone else i told him that i couldn’t talk to him because i still had feelings and wanted to do the whole “out of sight, out of mind” approach. yes, the other girl had more time to connect with him and he is probably avoiding you because he is committed to her. i text him and next thing he’s angry and blocks my number again. you are supposed to learn to live a happy life with or without your ex. post: should you contact your ex on valentine’s day? even the night after i saw her making out with that guy she texted to say she saw me last night and if i had a good night. they have been officially dating (well, on fb at least) for 1 month now and we have been nc for 6 weeks. and if she’s found a way to be happy (i am not saying she is), then it’s her right. for that year, we were not greatly in love , i still missed him though we were in the relationship and he felt the same, it went on and he was busy with his tournaments and again when his ex girl came into the picture he left me broken. he says he likes being around her cause she is not smarter than him, she listens to hat he says and doesn’t argue back like how things were in our old relationship, i almost feel bad for her. if you don’t trust him and you are not willing to listen to his advice and make sacrifice then he can’t help you. the day after i texted him she even came where i work (looked like an excuse to check me out + she came all dressed up). recently just found out that he has been seeing his ex who he dated for 5 months,they broke up when i came into the picture and from what the girl told me they didn’t speak for a full year until she contacted him trying to get him back in his life because she says she felt like i snatched him away from her which isn’t true because i didn’t even know she existed until a couple of months of me and him dating. if he is still the same after a month, then you should move on. after that i went to her and told her that i can’t do this no more and that i will be there for her if she misses us in any time given, but i can’t share her happiness now when she has new bf. everyone keeps telling me he will be back, he is stalking you now. i found out was she started texting him out of the blue and they texting for a few months. i told her i wasn’t going anywhere and that she was the love of my life and always will be but that some space would make things better. i had been working on me always looking happy when i see him and now this. i felt like my heart was breaking and i didnt know why, but i seduced him when he get back home (we were living together so i still have less than 3 days before he moves out from my house) and we had sex. i told him that it is now or never but he is reluctant. i lost my nerves and confronted the girl immediately on this mater and she denied. i saw comments on his instagram (bc he insisted i re-follow him) of people being shocked. 1 week after the break i made efforts to get him back, gave him the anniversary gift i was saving up for him. he then told me he couldnt meet for a coffee this week as he was swamped. it’s not because they want to play mind games, but simply because it’s human nature to try to be consistent with their decision. forgot to say earlier that the last time we spoke long on the phone (like two weeks ago) i told her that she is so beautiful and other praises and she didn’t say anything good about me and something she said like she have seen that i have changed but she haven’t changed and doesn’t want me back. she treats me like her own daughter, she loves me because i changed his son life in a good way…. then the next day she cries that she doesnt have any feelings towards me. in the websites there’s said that book it’s so powerful and you have to be sure that you want your ex back if you give it. i wish i didn’t because we didn’t try to solve the problems and i chose the easy way and decided to break up.]they were high school sweethearts when they went to college they lost their communication and things ended between them but every time they see each other the feeling is still there and every time they try to make a relationship out of it something always goes wrong and nothing happens. accepted the fact he is with a new girl, but still love him and want to have another chance together, but don’t know what to do? unfortunately i couldn’t understand his need for space and i freaked out. this sounded like it could be a rebound relationship especially considering how things developed between us over break but i can’t tell. i am excited to see him, angry, hurt and scared at the same time. so when i got home, he texted me and asked me where i was. he has told me that we will never see each other again ive to drop kids off at his parents where he will see them a couple of times a week then his parents will bring them back to me. what is going on and what on earth do i do? he said he didn’t want a relationship with anyone yet i am almost sure this girl is his girlfriend. we had sex too and he would still hold me and rub my belly. we got secretly married (no one still knows) and after a few months he lost his job and moved to another state. when he did find out i was moving to where he was, he again started texting me all the time saying that we should hangout when i do move up there. he’s still saying he wants make me the effort to keep me in his life and make us work as ‘friends’. if instead of trying to convince him to get back together and that you could change, you would’ve just played it cool, you would’ve increased your chances of getting back together. i came to this uni so we could be together as well. so this guy was a friend of mine years back when we were in 1st yr in college. also, does this sound like a rebound and what should i do at this point? she does not look rebound to me and my ex literally told me he really loves her and want to spend his life with her. i really can’t see a reason for him not replying to an innocent text 🙂. is what i plan on doing and i hope your right about the missing me part. we finished watching the movie and we ended up sleeping together and afterwards he got a text from his friends about going out to eat. after my ex and i decided that we can be friends we now joke around over texting and laugh and reminisce about old times. i’ve now binned his and as he’s so desperate to cling to mine, he can keep them. so in november she meets someone , and well they start dating . then again i ask myself how happy can he be if his wondering about me and cant get me out of his mind when supposedly his happy that he’s back with the love of his life. have wrote a letter i plan to give her witch explains the real reason for the breakup and my love for her. i’m just wondering if there’s any chance of us getting back together even as he has this new girlfriend. and after i started to see my current ex my old one was always saying she missed me and was sorry and other things. i have not been suicidal but i sought out help for my internal battles and i pray if you ever feel that urge again, you do the same.’s not a good idea to show up at his house. and my ex broke up with me saying that i didn’t respect him. kevin, i need help figuring out if my ex is in a rebound relationship and what i should do next. i know she has tried to insert new dude into areas of her life in replacement of me. sent him a text after almost 8 weeks of no contact following your directions of first text message. you ask him if he’ll break up with his girlfriend for you? when we were together i would always tell him he should see his kids and he would agree. should contact him even if he doesn’t contact you. but again he said to get organised and wed go visit relatives with new baby, again another normal family day all smiles and happy he did leave an hour earlier as he was so tired. i would blow his phone us constantly & he would just ignore me all night & day. he is probably confused about what he wants in life and you should not try to pressure him into something right now. it is sad for me that the other guy was in the same course with me and we became friends (english course :d) and without me they even know each other..my frnd saw her near one hospital so i worried n msged her by taking risk that what happend tell me i will help you, i am always der for u, but instead replying me she blocked me on gmail . then the next day she cries that she doesnt have any feelings towards me. was dating a guy for 5 months everything was going so well he was always showering me with compliments telling me how hot and such a good person i am and how lucky he was to have me. i just ended the 30 days of no contact and did exactly what you wrote in the 5 step plan. i can’t get over it cause she said he was like a brother but but he is not. it has always been his,dream to study abroad and i don’t think it had much to do by our break up. but only give him an ultimatum if you are ready to leave him. whenever she is with him, her mind is not thinking about the breakup and you. so i know for certain he is still checking up on me. he’ll try to keep himself in this situation for as long as he can. he is immature and completely confused about what he wants in life. he told me he was bad for me and i need someone better and to get him out my life. if not, then what you are feeling is probably jealousy coupled with loneliness instead of love. that was confusing to try and understand if so then why are you with someone. he came back sunday very tired and seemed hungover (he did say hes been drinking a bit) again i expected to sleep whilst he spent time with kids. intimately close to someone gives us a feeling of security and a boost to our self-esteem. day of the break up he yells at me hes going to his new gfs house which left me shocked. he is going to ignore you, cheat on you, disrespect you and then come back and ask for forgiveness. seems more of an obsession and finishing a story than love. comparing yourself to your ex’s new girlfriend is like a death sentence, and convincing yourself how much better you are than her is not exactly healthy either. week i saw my ex and her boyfriend walking and holding hands in a shopping mall near where i live. despite of everything we went through, he accepted me to accept his decision. i made a mistake and wanted him back and wanted to fight for our 9 years but his constant random messaging of i have moved on makes me think why bother. thank you kevin for getting me through such a hard time, my head is all over the place as i’m nervous about what the future holds for me and my ex but it looks promising. i know that they have talked together with ex-girlfriend that i graduate but it’s strange that she didn’t say anything. ended the txt/snapchat conversation after 30 min, i told her that i had a guest coming by to visit , and that i had to leave… wished her a great day. also says if your thinking of our ex at anytime its not important that you should not do it just learn to move on cause it’s not worth it to think or feel like you want them. im pretty sure that he still wants to be friends otherwise he would of just ignored me completely. know it always goes against as he did his best to avoid and unanswer all my calls.. but he is not going out if his way to see me.– first 2 weeks he has been rubbing it in my face but i kept calm and did nc for 2 months (no signs of her after the first 2 weeks, nothing on fb, she is never seen with him etc). he seems to get all defensive when i go out and is scared i will meet someone. i am a few days into applying the nc rule now… would it work in this situation? if you don’t get him back by that time, cut contact from him and move on. and then he emailed me saying since i had always been there for him i deserved to know he had gotten a sports scholarship for college and we started talkin again, it made me realize that i didn’t lose my feelings for him, he still made my heart ache, but then we started fighting again after he told me he loved me because i didn’t know what to feel, i blocked his number because i am sick of fighting with him, now i just don’t know if that was the right idea. he lives up country but come to visit and stays. the past few days he has been putting up attention seeking status’ and writing where he is going to be like he is waiting for me to turn up. like the no contact rule is going to screw me over here, more i don’t say anything more she going to be liking the new guy a lot more then me. (we are in college) he ended up getting with the girl he kissed, but claims to not have had feelings for her when the incident happened..he told his mum about moving out and she said he didnt look overly happy and i had said the same he looked somewhat sad, but i think that may have been wishful thinking on our parts. four days later i get a text from him saying ‘i have feelings for someone else’ i texted back just saying what? was too hurt but still till next two days i messaged him that i shall go away from his life now,,but i dont think he must have read my messages as he again started cutting my phone calls. i wanted to know if this guy is just a rebound or she has really moved on to another guy cause i really to love her to death. ex was in a ten year relationship with his ex, was married to her for five. people say she is only with him cause he provides the material things and takes her to these amazing places because she is really young and he is 14 years older and had a thing for her for years..so this time i just want to remain silent n let my silence speak……bt what if he finds my absence a reason anough to get irritated and decide to leave me forever …it is all so heart breaking kevin…i really want to talk to him and tell him that i love him immensely and am waiting for him to come back, want to show him that i am the one who he can count on anytime as i shall always be there to hold him, so when he messages and i stop myself from replying i dont like doing this to him……can i make the no contact little less than 4 months and make it like two months……. the first few times nothing happened but the couple after that we ended up kissing which led to sex. then last friday i text asking to buy a cable off him and he ignored it, i text back saying i am just being friendly. she got herself a boyfriend but they’re not official yet, she told me about him the day that we were breaking up that she has been talking to him for almost 3days already. there is no point in meeting him or trying to get an answer out of him. he also said that he wouldn’t give up on me and didn’t, he was very persistant i might add (and initially immensely clingy) and i ended up falling for him, (i struggled with depression and he was the one to pull me out of it, i know this sounds cliché but he was my rock) he incessantly promised me that we would be together for a long time, he always talked about wanting to get married and having kids and was really excited about it. however i did the no contact thing even erased his number. i told her that i could not be in a relationship with someone that did not have the same feelings as me. and when they get in touch with each other, they realize that there is a good chance their relationship might work better this time, and they give it another go. but also said that he needed time for himself, yet, he spends all of it with her… i still love him, and want to be with him, but it feels like he is purposely trying to show me that he is moving on, that he doesn’t care about me anymore, or that he doesn’t miss me, doesn’t love me and that he is perfectly ok without me…. i don’t know if he is looking for a rebound or just trying to get over me. my new relationship was long distance and i could only fly to see my guy once a month. took time before we got into sex, i took her on multiple dates. the next day he said it shouldn’t have happened and won’t happen again and he’s sorry for givin me false hope and called it a day. when she left i told her i missed her laugh and she said she missed me. if he still doesn’t want to commit, you should try to move on. i arranged for a cleaning outfit but spoke to his pa to be in the house. so i text with advice from my mum to tell him i would like to know whether we could start a fresh or just stay friends and he has ignored me. i keep understanding his situation on why he did it, i forgiven him i told that. broking up he said to me that he’s a different person now than when we met. then at some point i was talking to him about moving in with one of my friends if she happens to get a house and that was when he proposed that we move in together and i asked him if he was sure he would want that and he said i think we should set up a separate bed in case, but i don’t think it will be a bad thing. then starting around november/december she started acting much differently, such as a complete personality change, loss of interest in hobbies/interests, heavy drinking/staying out until early mornings, constant anger,lies and hatred towards me for no reason. the last 6 months have been long distance , because he moved for grad school. due to my problems i let my frustrations out on my ex. an ex from 3 years ago messages me and i wasn’t exactly forthcoming in being in a relationship. she told me that i she broke up with her boyfriend because he was ignoring her. if that’s the case, could this make the relationship more or less successful?-with a newborn the nc rule is hard to follow & ive already made some of the mistakes listed above 🙁 why is he able to be so moved on after 6 years and a beautiful baby? situation is such that few years back i was in a abusive alcholic relation and so one day i decided to put my foot down and enter a no contact period till he could respect me but sadly the worst happened. now after letting me down with payments, shouting at me and hanging up continuously, i didn’t know what else to do other than to block contact with him. unless he used his little brother’s account and saw my status or his mom told him that our college friend and i are talking :). yes my ex is on my mind a lot but i am not pining and watching my phone anymore. didnt respond to my text message after nc so i added her on snapchat to which she accepted. on reflection we also realised that we didn’t have that much in common, so i guess our relationship was built mainly on attraction which i know isn’t ideal, but we still made it work for a while. at first i didn’t think anything would go on between them because of the type of girl she is. and the truth is before, i’ve done all the mistakes said in 5 steps to get your ex back. he has chronic atopic dermatitis on his face and skin. so i told my ex that but he said hes over me and just wants to be friends.. he ended up saying “i hate this babe i care about you and probably always will but i just can’t do this anymore” then a few days after that he asked me if i would want to do a friends with benefits which i did not agree to then i went into nc.” and so i told him that it feels like he used me for sex and he said it’s not going to happen again. my ex send me message that i was right when i said to my bf tht it was unfair that he decided all alone to end our relationship. i am very active on this website and i’ll probably reply to you within 24 hours. gay pride is coming up soon just before his holiday and i know for a fact he will be there even though he hates going. i texted later to my ex that i ate with him and i’m happy for you that you have man who threat you good and hopefully you are doing great now and in the future. he said no he was dating people but nothing serious. an ex from 3 years ago messages me and i wasn’t exactly forthcoming in being in a relationship. he seemed very excited that i started working out, he kind of seemed “proud”, he also used smileys a lot, like really a lot 😀 😀 he indirectly complimented me a few times saying that i am lucky because i have a nice body and therefore woulnd’t even need working out much and stuff. i was so clueless as to why he stopped texting me like he used to. kevin, i know from reading this what you will think, but he is a good person deep down; affectionate, caring, funny and loving, however this dark side is extremely overwhelming. he changed his contact number and told all my friends not to give his new number to me. then one of my friends boyfriends called harrassing me and wen i let my ex know he got mad and told the guy to leave me alone and referred to me as his girl. and i had told him about this guy that i was dating for 2 months n that he had already gone with another girl. a way i want him back but another part of me is thinking if it would make the both of us happy. the fact that that i screwed up last time, how is it going to affect this time? i got emotional and walked past them and i said “is it possible” or something like that. later implemented the “appreciation” texts and he actually apologized for not being around (for everyone who is reading these articles and are still skeptic, believe me it works). her reasoning for not wanting to be in the relationship anymore is that she didn’t have time and she felt that she was missing out on life from being in a serious relationship. however he has not texted me since before work the day after he spent the night.. untill one evenning i text him and told him that i still love him, then i realize that he started avoidng me now. my bff suggests being aggressive about it, but i rather follow your advice from last message and let it be his idea., after that he stopped posting on fb about her (this was almost 3 weeks ago). the problem with that is he might end up engaged etc. broke up with my ex two years ago but we had a long story with ups and downs for about 4 years. it is the one she always wanted to be with and the one that makes her more happier then she ever was. i just feel i am worthless and that i spent six years with someone who couldnt care less about me. two months later he’s still with her and sent me several texts simply saying i have moved on. don’t have any regrets from my former ex who is married now. after saying he wants no contact he has been texting me. when i found out about the other girl i asked him about it and said i was confused because he had just saw me and kissed me and things felt so right. we were very excited about it but also very nervous. only talk to him about the kids and your pregnancy. i said that my brothers baby make funny noise and maybe you wanted to hear it and i have nothing else. to the point where my ex said i was pushing him towards her cause i caused him stress and she didn’t. and if you found out all these things after the breakup, then you should not tell her you know all this. if after that, you still want to give it one last try, contact her. all we know, your boyfriend might have jumped into a new relationship before moving on. should i say that is the start of the 30 days or start it at a later date? i asked him about how long it had been since he started seeing this girl and he said it was a few weeks before from the time he told me and when i asked why he didn’t tell me sooner he said it wouldn’t have been worth mentioning if it was only a few dates. this wouldn’t be a rebound if they decide to take it to a more than friends level and so is there anything i can do to bring him back? i had asked him on the phone who he sees his future with and he said that he sees a better and longer future with me. my name is patricia and i was with my ex for 10 months. a surprise to me as i told her my intensions are to be with her, not entertaining prospects during the break. just left you a comment on another page but wanted to write this one here since this is the topic.” i know i shouldn’t called to her and i thought what i should to text so just think something not so serious. basically, right now, he can have his cake and eat it too. someone who is not even compatible with their life goal. i asked to have lunch with me and i was polite and friendly and said that it was good thing that we broke up because i wasn’t best boyfriend but i also said that i was a little disappointed what he did but i wasn’t too sad about it. all i need to do is to wake him up. she loved the gift i got for her and me to wear. he will soon realize that this relationship is not going to fill the hole that he is feeling in his life and end it. and then as if destiny played its role and one day he just decieded to end the relation because his ex walked in to live with him. i agree and time away from him has really helped me but i’m concerned that if i go 30 days with no contact, he’ll foget me., but then he broke up with his girlfriend more than a month ago. that with his new gf, i noticed that he took her to rome (2013 winter) whereby in 2012 winter, i was there with him in paris. it took him ages to reply but then he said it was nice seeing me too, after all this time. however he has not texted me since before work the day after he spent the night. and then his birthday weekend was coming which he had plans to party out of town. i don’t know who i have spent almost 7 years of my life with and it freaks me out. i broke up with my boyfriend about four weeks ago and he contacted me saying he’ll give me a week to decide if we should get back together, but when the day came and i made up my mind on wanting to be with him, he said we should just be friends. but when he was with me, he would call his mom to let him borrow the truck and do whatever it took to see his kids. but, i have a lot of time invested in this, and i just want to know if you think this i the girl for him? i understand he is getting the good feeling being with her that was lacking for a long time in our marriage. he also wrote something on his mum’s wall to get to me. i have been trying a lot to just focus on myself and not think of her and what’s she is doing in her life now or who she is doing things with or has been for how long. he said he was supposed to see someone but he put that off to give me a first chance. after about 6 more months , he realised that things we’re not going to change as i resisted giving it a chance as i hid us from my family so he gave me an ultimatum. she was doing this usually six days a week (weird because she was never into a lot of drinking ), and then she started sleeping over at “guy friends” houses. apart from what’s recently happened, we both agreed we were happy and he even text to say i’m pleased to have spent them years with you, we had good times. this is the case, then you will have to let his rebound relationship run its course.
What if your ex is dating someone else yes, the other girl had more time to connect with him and he is probably avoiding you because he is committed to her. or say for some strange reason she actually does contact me sometime here and wants to talk or hangout and say some small chance in heck that we do this on regular basis we just talk more and what stops her from constantly thinking of him as more of a friend., say your ex is in a rebound relationship now and you start to do no contact. i am just afraid that it will turn out just like me former ex before my current one i am talking about. then i text his friend asking if it was too soon for him still. even if she does, she is breaching his privacy, which means less attraction points for her. i tried doing the no contact rule and it worked for about 2 weeks, but i caved in and texted him and soon after we met up all the time because he lives really near me and i would find any excuse to meet him. saw couple of times after this and everything was fine. i will be attempting no contact after my birthday party he is throwing for me this week before he takes her on a mini trip for the weekend. but thing is, he says he doesn’t love me anymore and doesn’t care about me anymore. there are a bunch of articles out there on how to be more then just friends with a girl you have always had feelings for or how to be physical intimate with your friend. if it doesn’t work, you can close this chapter and try to move on. guess there is nothing you can do unless he decides to stand up for himself and break up with her. in fact, statistics show that 90% of the rebound relationship end in a breakup. i did once admit my breaking up with him was probably a mistake but he was not keen on saying whether we could work something out. i now realise that nc is the best thing i can do as for some reason he is so angry but is blaming me. no contact again for another two weeks and send another text (or a letter, your call). i couldn’t do because i didn’t want to mess my kids up (we have just had a major house move about 4 hrs away from where my ex and i lived) so couldn’t bring another new major change to them, obviously he could though. my situation is me and my boyfriend were dating for 3 years. while others are not able to get out of the grief and their minds become obsessed with their ex. , went to her house to sleepover , left her house picked me up for breakfast and then picked her up again… i know i said i wouldn’t forgive him but i miss him… this weekend i saw him and we had a perfect day, but yesterday he ignored me completely and this morning before him going to work he knocked on my window said he wanted to talk, that he would call me once he got to work , and he did, but then he told me he would call me in 30 mins and still hasn’t ……. heck noooooo, if she’s in a relantionship and having sex with some whatever, move on, leave, get yourself a nicer one, there are better ones believe me, let her keep on rebounding for the rest of her life then. your last comment, i am little unsure if you applied no contact. he said he was dating someone and i want prepared for that. but, his gf just unfriended me on fb and called me crazy on twitter, so i’m wondering if he made me out to be crazy even though our conversation went relatively well, or if she’s just mad i went up to see him…or both. it took him half a day to reply to my next one but since then he started replying much faster. since you’ve already established contact and open communication, you should just take it slow, have fun and follow the blueprint in relationship rewind. even though you feel like you will wait for him, you are not going to let it stop you from living your life. me and my friends got a ride home from a guy that my ex doesn’t like. we have a baby together, so we are forced to talk to each other so the no contact rule is pretty much impossible. also that it is the easiest and quickest way to get over someone that you use to be in a relationship with because you are spending so much time with that new person like close good friend that it takes your mind off your ex and makes you realize that someone else has always had feelings for you and you might have always had feelings for them but never acted on them until now that this was the chance to act on those pent up feelings plus is shows her how incompatible she was with you .’s been pretty hard for me with my ex, i left him back in december and found out i was pregnant with our second child, but even before that i still had feelings for him and i know he did too, well i tried to get our relationship back and everything seemed to be going good but then he started acting weird and not replying to my text messages as much. i didn’t say anything because i was expecting him to talk about it first since he’s the one who first showed interest in me. what if he cheated with his new girlfriend on me ( but i didn’t know he had a girlfriend). was dating a guy for 5 months everything was going so well he was always showering me with compliments telling me how hot and such a good person i am and how lucky he was to have me. ever since she’s been dating this guy she’s been posting pics on various social media and adding comments indicating that they are in love and he’s dreamy blah blah blah… also, she blocked me on fb when they started dating and then unblocked me. remember when you said there isn’t going to be a friendship like we had? tried to move on, but couldn’t, i was with this other guy and still missing my ex 🙁. he texted me later on in the evening and then again 2 days later. want to try and forget about your ex, and you don’t need to be constantly reminded that he is dating someone else when pictures of the two of them show up with lovey dovey captions like “love him,” or “my boo. his friends and family are not happy about his decision., to build attraction slowly using text messages, as mentioned in this guide. i was looking at his fb, which i know i shouldnt be, and i accidently liked a post someone posted on his wall, because i was scrolling with my finger on my iphone. she is so nice and beautiful person and it’s very hard to forgot everything.’s hard to say if his new relationship is a rebound since he had crush on the girl for a long time. she is the complete opposite of me and his type in general (very young, childish, dependent). also, 2 common friends told me (they don’t know we are back in contact) that he is not into this girl of his and that they got the impression he is with her just for the sake of it, but he doesn’t seem to have feelings for her (which i always thought). she still wants to be some kind of friends with me, we said that we wish nothing but good each other and i wished all the best for her and the other guy. then he started reminiscing on our past and my smile, but then the tone changed and he told me that i should move on, that i don’t want to be with him and years later i would thank him. he will not leave her now; even though he has admitted that he wants to get back together in a few months and he has cheated on this girl with me… why won’t he just leave her now when it’s clear he still has feelings for me? i thought he was starting to yell at me but instead he started bawling and said” do you know what the worst time of my life was? even has placed his picture with her as a profile picture. (they are very messed up over this and don’t really want to speak to him either) thank you again for all your help i really appreciate it, and i do agree that the original breakup was necessary. he wants to use this lame excuse to hide the fact that he has already cheated on you emotionally. it’ll also give him some more time to miss you and maybe his rebound relationship will end till then. anyway he sent me a big bunch of flowers and the next week he dumped me over txt message saying it was hard for him to do this ect. i am now working out every day, i see clearly all my mistakes and i feel happy most of the time. also do you think she will go in a relationship with her other ex for a rebound or a permenant relationship? should i do at this point, considering all i’ve done and if i am unable to physically create space or make ‘no contact’. stop talking to him for 2 months and think real hard if you want to be with someone who cheated on you. it hurts so much letting go so beautiful girl but if i don’t quit everyone thinks i’m insane. he maintained he loves me and misses me but needs to work on himself the and see what’s best for his future. i am just wondering is this a rebound relationship or not because i am just so confused? so we were working things out and all but then he starts talking to his co worker&now they are in a relationship. why was she in love with me for three years if we never had a connection? you think there is a lot of hope now the true reason for leaving me has come out? i got emotional and walked past them and i said “is it possible” or something like that. then he recently married this other but continues to contact me. but one thing after another happened, i got depression and his family left him, alot of pressure was added to the relationship so it ended, we have been broken up for 14 months now. when i looked at the info about it online, his pic was right there. even though it puzzles me a great deal when we made grand plans for a life together, have kids etc. never got a response from the email/don’t know if he even read it. first month of dating they were already confessing their love on twitter, posting song lyrics to each other and now i’m confused if this is really love or just a rebound and that i should just go nc to wait it out but at the same time heal. no contact again and this time when he contacts you, don’t answer till the end of no contact. when we went to the theme park, he hugged me on my waist from the back which i think is really really sweet and i miss that so bad. but we were madly in love and our wedding were supposed t take place in a month, so he got married t this girl he hardly know and he posted got married in his facebook wall maybe he is in a rebound but he got marriedg. i hope you could help me out, my ex bf and i had a great relationship for 4 years, he is my clyde and i was his bonnie my partner in crime. once he is out of the house, you’ll be able to focus much better on yourself. he said he cannot afford to be self fish by calling me there but he also knew how important he is in my life. and if he does, you should cut all contact with him and move on. he also told her that after his birthday he was confuse and didn’t know what he was going to do with me. as you have already seen, it doesn’t help you get your ex back. i pleaded for her to come back after i found out they had sex but to no avail. he took me to paris by surprise and after the trip. year relationship he told no that he wanted to be with her because it was something new and exciting and he just to do something different i cried and told why being like this do you even care about he told yes so after that we didnt talk tell 5 days later he told he was happy with his new gf alwayz rubbing it in my face to just leave him alone so i did i did the nc rule for 8 days he was texting during those days i didnt text back then he called 3 times i didnt call back then i broke on saturday i called him and asked why he called me he told because he wanted to place a restraining order on me i was in shock since i did do anything to him found his new gf wants it not him so i could stay away for good he was rude to me when she was around but as sokn as she left he called back to tell that he was sorry and if was okay with everything i saw as a joke like really weres your balls at he would never let tell him what to dobwhen we were dating or who to even talk to he told me that we couldnt stay friends becsuse his new gf doesn’t like me and she called that same day to tell things to she was mad that me and my ex still text and talk so my ex told to delete his #and he would do the same and never bother me again this just happen yeasterday its been a month since we broke up and its been a month since he dated her but she has rapoed around her finger so tight there moving so fast to hd always spending all his free time with her he sleeps over her house in the two weeks they been seeeinv eachother he told it feels like when we were frist dating it broke my heart i really love and care for my ex so much we been through alot togather we always had eachothers back he was my bestfriend my partner in crim and i miss him dearly everything about him but he happy he tells me with his new relationship idk what to do anymore i feel like im going crazy like its all a bad dream and i just want wake up from my heartache and into his arms. we were together for 3 years and then his ex started contacting him again saying she still has feeling for him my boyfriend decided to talk to her behind my back to say that it was over between them and she should stop. she started calling a couple weeks ago to ask random questions or if i’d bring my dog to her pet store. neither of us have had a new relationship in this time. i made him tell me to get out of his life. stop talking to him for 2 months and think real hard if you want to be with someone who cheated on you.’s what i keep telling myself especially since this girl does not live here but apparently has come down to visit (southern state and she’s from new york). he looked skinny and i asked if he even eats and he said sometimes. i thought of talking to him at the first opportunity even if he does not want to hear. from someone you said to my face was like a brother to now saying ” i got a good one” with happy faces to ” i love you” with hearts a smiles. if thats the case, im very confident to give him new experience if we r back together. push him to sombdy else arms because i was mean to him and not being a lady now he wants me to b the other women whats up with that is that ok? that’s why i think she moved on and over as quick as she has already and to the next guy she feels she has better connection with. is there really a chance for us to be back again? i know it sucks but you need to become learn to be happy in your life without him before you try to get him back. in fact, the reason his current relationship is not working is because he never got over you. i failed a lot because i became so needy and asked many times does she have any feelings and does she miss me…. if he still doesn’t contact you, you should try to move on. had recently posted a question and your response was to apply nc again for three weeks. our aim here is to help you become a happier and more confident person. i wasn’t sure what i wanted and then we met and she said that she missed me much but she had decided to break-up. but think of it this way, he did you a favor by ending it right now rather than ending it after 3 more years. she always said she wanted someone who has some goals in life. he still cant explain it properly and is giving me bad excuses as to why. i miss just texting you funny pics and you sending me funny videos (he giggled), and when we broke up a month ago, i was thinking about things, and i wasn’t upset about losing the relationship, i just didn’t want the friendship to end. if it’s a 2-3 month thing then it’s not really a rebound it’s just a relationship. if you show any weakness or neediness, it’s going to work against you.? mmmmm” i only got them in morning so text saying i was sleeping and he replied right away with “lol” anyway after that he went back to no contact and was even nasty straight to point about me to his dad. you want to ask a question about your relationship or breakup, head over to the boards. my problem is i love this man, he is my other pea in my pod. it’s possibly the best free guide on getting your ex back on the internet. will only be approved if they are pertaining to the article and add value to it. you want him to think your life is better than ever! kind of makes you think those are more relatable to them then anything else. i thought it would be a good idea if i sent the letter so it arrives after her b’day & a separate postcard with a simple b’day greeting. he left town before we did for his 1st job. he went to play some pool but he learnt that i had a boyfriend through our conversation. he also mentioned that he hasn’t seen his other 2 kids. partner of 6 years broke up with me 2 weeks ago,mew have some issues due to my illness he finds it hard to cope.. it is a quote from a poem that is inspirational . i know she doesnt love this guy im way better looking she always said he was ugly. but after a week and a half two very close friends of his met in a car accident and were in a critical state. i do recommend a letter in the 5 step plan, but if you are trying to get him back from his new girlfriend, text messages are the way to go.. i cant txt him, because his gf keepa on snooping around his phone and even the one who’s replying to his messages and acting that she is my ex (she done this with my ex mom and she wasnt happy about it)..there r lods of things she did before to express her love. we were together for 3 years and then his ex started contacting him again saying she still has feeling for him my boyfriend decided to talk to her behind my back to say that it was over between them and she should stop. situation is me and my ex boyfriend for more than a year broke up 4 months ago and he had her girlfriend a week after the break up. no contact but keep her added on snapchat —- view her public timeline snaps yay or nay during this time. i think that will increase your chances of securing a date. im very close with his family and he told me everything just about it took a while because he dont express his feelings. media is not an accurate description of how people actually feel. i don’t know what my ex see this guy i think i’m better looking and smarter than him but i know he seem like more manly than me and he is two years older. it hurt but i feel like he is playing games. just because his social media profile shows he is happy doesn’t necessarily mean he is happy. this girl has been his friend since they were around 4 years old, and he had a crush on her when he was younger before he met me. if it doesn’t work out, you’ll know it’s over and you will be able to move on. we have been long distance for about 9 of those years. he is afraid if you think he has moved on, you might also try to move on. after that i stopped texting her and calling her, i don’t know if she misses me. please kevin i have waited almost a year now in hope but that that day seeing him with another was sooo painful that i almost lost my mind and hope but please please please my love was and is tooooo true and i know i still want to love him forever..The next day i felt that my lifepower was so drained. we sometimes chat and its very neutral from both sides because i’m not sure what to do because i know he is still dating this girl. i know it’s really hard since it was your first relationship, but it’s something that almost everyone has to go through. we were very close and when you’re close with someone they can hurt you. that’s why i get my doubts that maybe i am not doing everything right 😀 like he is making her more happy lately… if that makes sense? my story is my partner and i were together for 7. just dont know if this is a sign him contacting me again last night? isn’t it possible that she did have a meaningful relationship with you and after the breakup she just found someone more compatible than you? if she is not cold towards you and you have already done no contact, then you can stay in touch with her. to make your ex boyfriend breakup with his new girlfriend. i also think he is now with his housemate… he posted some photos on fb of them together and hid them from me. two weeks after break up, she hooked up with a guy who looks exactly like me, has same interests, watches same tv series, listens to same music etc. are doing great and you should keep up with your attitude. decreasing your self worth and self esteem in the process and putting an unnecessary roadblock for yourself in moving on and finding the right girl for you. your “sneaky signs your ex still loves you (even if they say they don’t)”. i asked her to tell me that she doesn’t love me anymore, because after that i could move on knowing that there is nothing to left but she couldn’t say that. they spend lot of time together and they seem to be in love and she wished me good luck for future. you want to ask a question about your relationship or breakup, head over to the boards. did not know whether it is a rebound relationship (hopefully it is!. i broke up with my boyfriend almost 4 years ago because i was very confused. i recently noticed she added this guy on facebook and also saw that he is at least 5 years older than her which is also very unusual. he begged me for my forgiveness & promised to be the man i need & want. i ended my new relationship and thought that my ex and i were going to work things out. ex and i are broken up for about a month now. the next day, he doesn’t really talk to me, i’m thinking “ok, he’s still mad it’s cool he will get over it. we have been together in a four year relationship, long distance but at the same time he said he was angry and the situation changed.? i have looked at his facebook and he still has photo albums up with me in them., clearly i missed him to start with which is why i checked his fb. we broke up when i was about 8 months pregnant, but he would still come around like everything was cool, because even though he would be out doing who knows what he was very excited about being a dad at the time. hang out with him and if he talks about other girls, tell him you are not comfortable with such talks.. this has happened before but i went back to him. my only problem is yesterday my ex deleted my mother from facebook and deleted most pictures of me and him on there too. went to marriage counselling but every time she was asked not to contact him and start to work on our marriage she would just lie to the therapist and me and done what she wanted. i would hope it’s not because she is trying to work things out with her friend. i told him even though he said he said we shouldn’t talk anymore that i still care about him and will always have an open ear if he needs someone to listen. my ex girlfriend and i have been separated for just over 5 months. i thought about him constantly through all the amazing experiences i had. he pushes my buttons deliberately to get a raise out of me and gloats about his new relationship, how she does the things i did not like to do with him. he was frank about not being comfortable with committing to a girl because of his responsibilities regarding his family (he’s the breadwinner) and serving his community. so far i dont think her new reltation is a rebound reltn. we loved each other and planed to get marry next year. he told me that he understand and he asked me if we aren’t go to hang out anymore. but he broke up saying i’m his soulmate and he still hopes we’ll end up together. that same break he took me out to see a movie and we held hands throughout the whole thing and after we went back to his place and he showed me his baby pictures and a few family photos, something he had never done before. i was also working towards my final examination and the pressure was very overwhelming. my work situation is super great … and i have even been out meeting other women , just to get my mind right ( if that make any sence ? well i was wrong after 6 months of dating he tells me that he still loves his ex-girlfriend and that i helped him heal the pain he had and that he got in contact with her. my point now is i want to get him back. in addition, you might also want to read this article on what to do if your ex is in another relationship. she was totally devastated because of this and asked who will be there for her then? is there any chance at all of not only getting him back- but getting him to develop these feelings? he always hugs me tight when he comes and goes but all i get is a kiss on the cheek. yesterday i was at the gym which is quite near where me ex lives. day she is the loving partner the next she has done the complete reversal on me. seems like she likes excitement and guys who are hard to get. i’m a bit confused as what she is doing..please please please tell me what is the right thing to do now …i ll try my best to stick to it. i heard about this no contact rule and i did it for one month. you know after you told not to do the nc rule yah i broke it yeasterday not on purpose though my ex end up calling me at six in the morningon his mom cell phone crying that he made a mistake and the he left his 80 for his 20 and that he missed me and loved me after that he told he would call me back later i felt on top of the world thinking my ex wanted me back in his life he called me later that day but it went south he told he didnt deserve such a great girl like me that it wasnt fair to me if we got back togather because he already slept with his new gf he told he wanted me to live life and go explorer whats out there but im not like that ill date but not sleep around he told he couldn’t leave his new gf because she hasnt done anything worng pluse he likes how she dosent make him his whole world like i did i told that i could change but he said he didnt belive that because ive always been like that with him i got mad and told that i had a one nighter just because i was angery and he told its fine do what i have to do i also told i could live with out him he told me good show me honestly this break up has emotionally drained me to the point that ive hit rock bottom im so confused you tell that im an 80 and your new gf a 20 but he treats her like the 80 and me like the 20 im sick of all the bs i love him and care for him but is this a total lost cause idk know what to do anymore. even though it’s making me nuts i haven’t contacted him to ask if he’s seeing someone else. it has nothing to do with me because my ex goes from work to home subway there. my head was filled with thoughts and questions, mixed with different emotions. which is why i want you to use this time to explore your option as well., after months of texting back and forth, of him mostly blaming me for ruining something beautiful, but also wanting me to accept and be happy for him. he tried to come see me where i go out, but i kept my distance. or is it better leave her alone completely (maybe she wants that)? make some positive changes in your life during no contact. i will suggest you concentrate your efforts in moving on. i made plans with her father that after she comes home from work i will go there and wish her happy birthday. but, i’m somewhat holding to his word about us hanging out to watch the finale of our favorite show together, and won’t be for another few weeks. as for reversing the roles, you can just stop texting him for a while. i have a feeling he is txt’n some else at the moment. next thing i know he’s picking fights by bringing up things that he didn’t like about me when we dated and assuming my future will be. what makes it worse is if he does have the realisation he has made a mistake he will never admit it and will never come back thats his personality and i think thats what makes me sadder knowing he might regret it but still stay with this young girl as he would never go back 🙁. i’ve never loved someone from just looking at them. i asked him what he wants and he said he wants his own place……im so confused i dont want to be just giving him his cake and letting him eat it. if he does get back with you, it’ll not be a rebound.. the thing is… i sometimes feel that he gets excited talking to me, even “turned on” when we talk about stuff. i wish you happiness but i’ve moved on and you should too. i know every situation is different based on the individual, do you think it is better to keep trying to actively rekindle the relationship, or should i purposefully create space by restricting our contact, communication and the things i do for him? although they never had an intimate relationship with my best friend; i still can’t imagine sharing stories with my friend about a relationship with her ex. if she chooses the other guy, then you cut her form your life and move on. we even hugged goodbye and when he pulled away he was looking at my lips asking if it was a sore on my lip. then next day i visited her place and i said that i want be with you, but she said that it is too late and she told me that she is dating that other guy. the last thing you want is for your ex to think you are completely devastated from your break up. or how she says she wants to be friends and then will changed her mind and tell me she doesn’t like me and wants a complete break from me until she is ready, but then we will get in contact again a few days later like nothing happened. to give and take some final explanations and close that chapter. where he’s living is one of his baby mamas house. i love him and i don’t know if blocking him and not knowing if he’s trying to talk to me is more painful than if i unblock him and he never talks to me. but since applying the nc rule last night she still texts me and wants to know what i’ve been doing and when my days off are? i feel like my ex has second thoughts about us getting together he says there is still hope but i feel like there isn’t anymore, he dropped a bomb on me couple of days ago telling his best friend that he loved her, and she told him that she loved him back yet they can only be friends right now because she likes someone else, this is while i was trying to get back with him and he knew that i loved him. i burst into tears … i didn’t know why he was saying this if he didn’t want to worth through things , i didn’t respond all day the text came in the morning . if yes, how long does it need to be, is 30 days enough?.i am trying this time to stay silent and show my absence for atleast 2 months…. all this time that i’m gone he is seeing another woman who i think he really likes and she is one of the reasons he wanted time. it feels weird that she loves the other guy so fast and it’s feel more weird if she doesn’t have any feelings for me. us acting like strangers toward each other is killing me. when we were together i would always tell him he should see his kids and he would agree. he stalked her for the whole year we dated he texted her all the time.” but no we got into a text-fight and i was confused as why he was so angry, it was all innocent, and he told me that he didn’t like the guy but wouldn’t give me a reason why. he was head over heels for me and he contacted me a few days ago and told me he was thinking about me and always will but he seems very cold and distant with no emotion in his voice whatsoever but after he told me he was done then he says if i ever need anything hes hear for me always no matter what…. few months ago, his younger brother, who also married very young and had been with this wife for 8 years, got divorced. she’s very girly and bubbly and i’m darkish and not that girly. at one point she said that this guy is kind of a looser but he makes her happy and wants to give him a chance. after work i make another mistake i called my ex and said what happened and i said i have something that i want to give her (it is romantic book “the notebook” where you replaced some pages in own words. the last time was last night he wasnt drunk this time but this time i pulled away and said i cant do it and ran upto my bed, this morning he said hes in a relationship and it only happened because we were together for so long and i should know he is always horny and it meant nothing with no feelings involved, he now thinks its best for him only to come back when im in my bed if he comes back at all.? when her new bf or sumone is not letting her to miss me anymore…only her late night online whstapp freaks my mind badly . he added a ton of hot women on instagram and is openly flirting with them. tell him you need some space and time and you’ll appreciate it if he respects your decision. november and now, i was a crazy psycho ex… i broke all of the rules. if he does choose her, you should move on and remove him from your life completely. he moved this girl into the home that we shared within two weeks of dating her. give yourself a time limit for how long you are going to wait for her. he responds with an attitude and different behavior towards me. even if he does talk to you again, he’ll continue playing with your feelings. i also told him i didn’t want his gf to think i was trying to pull anything because i’m not *wink wink* and that i wasn’t judging him for anything, and wasn’t mad at him for just being honest with me about ending the relationship. so hopefully you can tell me what the hell is going on haha. we had a fun night there but i noticed my ex was laughing a little bit too much and tried to laugh out loud. he could have kept it with him and the next day he said he was just testing me if i was suicidal which is a bull shit. you decide how much time of your life are you willing to waste on someone. i found out was she started texting him out of the blue and they texting for a few months. he is also probably in a rebound relationship right now. again 🙂 so after 1 month of texting, 2/3 weeks of extensive texting every day/night (mostly him initiating) we finally went for a coffee. or is it more likely she will just remain being same sad and confused. she was an exhange student in another country and during this period of few months she said she doesn’t love me in the same way as she used to. and my ex officially broke up a year ago, but somehow couldn’t keep away from each other. i seriously could feel how much this girl loved me. we did still see each other on and of till about 4 months ago, until then he was just dating girls but nothing serious. we had a great time he even kissed me and told me he missed me and then a few days later i found out he had been talking to someone else over the nc period. she can’t let go of this feeling of emptiness even though she is a new relationship.’his response is” go away” leaving me wanting to solve the issue or wondering what just happen. hes said things that have hurt me i’ve forgiven him, more than once so i dont get why he cant let this one time go. if he doesn’t then continue building attraction with him and then ask him if he wants to get back together. i still have sum hopes n never wanaa giveup unless i get to know she is really happy with her bf/husband, you are the only hope/god/frnd for me now,i will do everything even its painfull to get her back,Plz answer this i searched aloot but never able to got answers which are regarding how to behave on whatsapp/social networking sites :1)how should i behave on whatsapp i mean i believe she unblocks me atlst once in a week to check my status n dp .– first 2 weeks he has been rubbing it in my face but i kept calm and did nc for 2 months (no signs of her after the first 2 weeks, nothing on fb, she is never seen with him etc). and is there anyway or hope that we would get back together? they both have even said they never considered eachother romantically until now that everyone is accusing them of having something more, they get along and understand eachother so well and he’s so moved on from me already i’m afraid i’ve lost him. when they broke up i was there with him comforting him and so on and she told me all his ex girlfriends flaws plus they are in a long distance relationship… i’ve been living with my ex boyfriend in a house for 3 months already together with my schoolmates. she thinks if garry and her start having sex, she will feel much closer to garry and perhaps forget you.’m thinking that there is not hope getting her back? (ming you that valentines day was a week before his birthday, which he found my work address and sent me flowers and we had an amazing valentines day. i am honestly very surprised that she acting this way.. he became my everything back then, wherein i didn’t know how to be happy if i was not with him. he responded a few days later saying he didn’t know what the answers all were and didn’t want to make promises he couldn’t keep but that we definitely need to be apart right now. and three weeks after your and your ex’s breakup? it broke my heart because this man was my first love, i gave him all of me. i asked him how it was going and he said okay, it’s been a while since i’ve dated anyone, invalidating the fact that what we did over break wasn’t dating. you will not be obsessing over them so much and you will be able to concentrate on your happiness more. if you try to break them up, they try harder to make it work. he took a risk by holding my hand for the first time during the movie. really trying to rub it in because i foolishly told him that i was unable to move on. this was due to her being in a foreign country, away from her really close friends (she had been here 2 years before i met her) and, after she moved cities to be with me, couldn’t find a job. i wanted him to feel that i was done chasing and exerting effort to get back. otherwise, he wouldn’t have started contact with her even though he knew that he is risking his current relationship by doing so. you've called him a bunch of different times, but every time is met with a voicemail, it could be a sign that your ex dating someone else. then he randomly freaked out on me one night because his new girl was mad because he had been talking to me and it was all my fault. we even hugged goodbye and when he pulled away he was looking at my lips asking if it was a sore on my lip. it took him half a day to reply to my next one but since then he started replying much faster. i guess with his health problem, he always demand constant attention and from the time i know him, he was barely single for 6 months. if anyone has suggestions as to what i should do, please let me know. he has chronic atopic dermatitis on his face and skin. i don’t know if this a rebound relationship even though he married her because he’s having trouble in the marriage and his now wife is emailing me stating that’s she confused and if i’m still contacting him…. ex and i have been broken up for about four months now. alas a mth ago he met a girl who he believed is a clone of his xgf. recently just found out that he has been seeing his ex who he dated for 5 months,they broke up when i came into the picture and from what the girl told me they didn’t speak for a full year until she contacted him trying to get him back in his life because she says she felt like i snatched him away from her which isn’t true because i didn’t even know she existed until a couple of months of me and him dating. well eventually down the road i was feeling smothered so i tried to get some distance. we were together for 4 years and we had an argument which resulted in him saying goodnight and goodbye to me to which i didnt reply, then i get this txt two days later, please help! he was in a relationship and that ended and then a week later we had a run in, oddly the same way we did two years ago, timing, place and all but i’m rambling, but i guess what i’m wondering is if him jot making direct eye contact but smiling or smirking constantly mean anything? either he can commit or you cut him off entirely from your life and move on. he finally contacted me about giving me my stuff back and he looked so miserable. i basically inflicted this pain on myself by taking my ex for granted and pushing her into this new guy arms. wanted me back but i was to proud to admit that i was mistaken and builded a wall and convinced myself that i had no feelings left. your e-mails everyday and web site has been helping me tremendously. he still tells me that he hopes we’ll end up together, that he isn’t in love with her, but that she is a part of his “process”. he was trying explain to me that it was a big deal, while me and a lot of other people don’t think so. i mailed him telling him that now it’ s the right time to try, otherwise he will lose me forever. well i don’t know how true is that because a week later that i walk away he got officially back with his ex girlfriend and the idiot doesn’t know that i know everything. after we broke up i basically did everything you shouldn’t do, i texted him and called him many many times for about a month until i finally realized that i needed to cut off contact and i deleted him off of all social media and stopped contacting him at all. guess, just from what has happened in the past, i have a feeling that he will date her for a couple of months and then come back to me again, but i cannot tell if this is a rebound or not. and my wife has just married for a year but before we get married i told here that i have an affair and i accidentally get the girl pregnant, but we still continue our married but the first 3 months my wife become jealous and everytime i come back to home after work she always argue with me that i cheated to her but she know how much i love her now she want to divorce are marriage she said to me that she didn’t have fellings to me anymore only sorrow what she feel to me and she have no more love to me he even ignore me in fb and skype she makes excuses to avoid are communication were in a long distance relationship because of our carrie sir kevin is still have chance to prevent our divorce and we will be happier the first time we know each other and the first 2 months that weve married. for the first 2 months after the breakup we were still seeing each other as we had no choice because we were in the same college in the same class so he put matters aside and we still had sex and did couple things. but you need to stop having sex with him until he commits. he confronted to me after his pre u , and he told me we should be together. think you shouldn’t be willing to forgive his cheating. i know that she have feelings for that another guy because he was right place when we were at that break and my girlfriend was at the time very sad and he told her she is so beautiful and other stuff. but i don’t know if that approach is going to work..n then her dad called me n started blackmailing that v will do police case, thanks to my sis who managed to talked with them ,v thought its over but after 2 days her dad complained to police , police called me once but i ignored the calls,then my phone was off, now v r no more in contact , after some days i started expressing my feelings that how much u cheated me, how much i loved u, u used me like this on whatsapp status n dp on my other numbers then she also changed her status that ” u r biggest mistake of my life & i am still paying for it ” ” you hv no right to judge me ” & blocked my other numbers too. i have little feeling that maybe she cries also because that she is with that other guy and she feels sorry for me. you were always there for her, and she didn’t consider your feelings..In january this year my wife changed positions in her work place and then all of a sudden within a week this co worker told her how he felt about her and she feel for him. he has been away for about a month and i felt his house needed some thorough cleaning. he initially didn’t like her but she had her eyes set on him and kept making her move, which made me feel insecure so i expressed my concern and so he talked to her and said he didn’t like her that way but i feel like that fueled her even more and she kept on pushing and making her moves on him till it made me really upset and insecure and really put strain in our relationship. i guess he wanted to hide his new relationship from you because deep inside, he doesn’t want you to move on. and my boyfriend were together for a year and a half and he just brakes up with me to get with this other girl. i have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for the past 3 and a half years and we broke up because he stole from me i then took up the opputinty to work on a ship and when for it 10 month at sea i still love my ex while being a sea i missed him lots. but if he’s a runner, then why would he contact me again.. idk if he wants to get me back or he wants me back im so counfucied we talked like for about 2 hours and he told me that he wouldn’t leave his gf that his just calling me to help me and then he told me that he was goi g to keep on calling me every once in a while i need help im afraid of getting more attached to him i need your help idkif he misses me and wants us to have another chance with me im counfucied help. it seems she is texting you just to see if you are there for her and once she realizes that you are, she feels satisfied and doesn’t respond to you anymore. for the first 2 months after the breakup we were still seeing each other as we had no choice because we were in the same college in the same class so he put matters aside and we still had sex and did couple things. i didn’t understand how that was possible, i always had him when i wanted it, he was always there leaving me roses, sending me cute texts… the day before i found out and busted him , he had been at my house asking me about moving in , he went to his house. did the no contact rule for a month and after him calling me and texting me here and there, i replied after he wrote that he doesn’t know why i’m ignoring him and that he assume that im cutting him completely out of my life and that it will the last time i will hear from him, so i waited 2 hours and replied that i been busy with work, therapy and i been taking sometime to myself.” he told me he don’t even know if he loves her. if he doesn’t, you should move on even if you both love each other. they would even get into text fights not talk for a few days and she would text back and apologize (which she would never do in the past) he told his friend he wants to move fast and even marry her. i came to the realisation that the time was not right for us and him breaking up with me has gave me the kick up the backside to get life back into gear. then i found he was cheating on me for about a week (i had a gut feeling) with a girl of 26 from his work. are doing great and you should keep up with your attitude. we had a great time he even kissed me and told me he missed me and then a few days later i found out he had been talking to someone else over the nc period. i wasn’t sure what i wanted and then we met and she said that she missed me much but she had decided to break-up. we sometimes chat and its very neutral from both sides because i’m not sure what to do because i know he is still dating this girl. im hurt that he cheated on me and made this side chick hes girl…. im now wondering if saying this means he wont contact me again 🙁. he is not prepared to stop chatting to this girl. if she does not let him talk or message you? he asked me for this advice, then mentioned that he heard i took a trip, and he seemed impressed by that and other things. wish with all my heart that she would want to be part of my life…but, she knows how i feel and it’s up to her now. i believe that is how it is meant to be. yet i know i care about this guy a lot, but since i know i spoke up for a reason and don’t appreciate being disrespected, i can’t figure out his place in my life. our tattooist told me he looked miserable and no where near as happy as i looked.’s hard to say if it’s a rebound since it has been 8 months. if their behavior resembles that of a person in a rebound relationship, you can be know for sure whether or not you have a chance at getting back together. we separated and came back together and was happy till another issue which separated us again. he responds with an attitude and different behavior towards me. i didn’t know that i take this situation so hard. but if you choose to reply, make sure you mention in the end that you both need some time and space right now. she recently started dating a guy and, via facebook, they were in a relationship after only ten days of knowing each other. it hurts so much to think that she is with that guy and it’s hard for me that i will see that guy this summer because we are working in the same hospital. is it unrealistic to think that i can get my husband back under these circumstances? if you still want him, apply no contact for 2 more weeks and get back in touch.. i don’t know why randomly he just stopped talking to me texting me. then one day i notice that she blocked me from facebook and i found out that she is in a relationship with that same guy she called him a friend. we talked and she said that i was someone special and meant something and that i still mean something to her. we loved each other and planed to get marry next year. its like a jekyl and hyde as how he texts me to how angry he seems to his parents hia dad just cant believe its the same person. it hurts so much also that the guy didn’t respect me and ask is it okay that they see each other because we were some kind of friends. guess the only thing you can do is give her time to figure it out herself. i am wondering if there is any change that we can get back togheter or at least be friends. do anything and everything you can do to make yourself happy. about 9 days later he initiated asking me if i hated him which i just responded with a simple no and continued the nc. i never seen her roaming anywhere,but what she do is only whatsapp & calling. he came and got into bed with me and we have been kissing and cuddling in bed. the meet up lasted for an hour with him wishing me well on my next relationship. well after her always being needy towards me, she gave up i guess and was so angry at me that she went off and let her friends convince her to start having sex and talking to this other guy. not that i can remember her saying any other reasons why she with me or why she is happy. he also mentioned that he hasn’t seen his other 2 kids. just before i leave to return to uni,I agreed to meet him, however this just ended up involving us going for a walk outside and me shouting at him saying “how could you do this? he also wrote something on his mum’s wall to get to me.. he ended up saying “i hate this babe i care about you and probably always will but i just can’t do this anymore” then a few days after that he asked me if i would want to do a friends with benefits which i did not agree to then i went into nc. dont want to see her with another guy and this hurts me. the next day he posted a pic of them kissing. i do noticed that lately, the communication is more there compared to me. also i am in no contact with him but he hasn’t contacted me except for messages claiming that it was a friend of his messing around with his phone when i received no messages him earlier that day.” he told me he don’t even know if he loves her..i knew he will never value me till i keep hovering around but due to my past experience i could never enter a no contact period, as i never want to lose this man forever…. implemented much of your advice so far and i’m pleased to say that i have made excellent progress with not only regards to my ex but myself. there a way to see if they were only with you because they were only physically attracted to you especially when they are saying the same things they said to you to their new partner. im now wondering if saying this means he wont contact me again 🙁. toward the end of my lift i happen to walk past female locker room entrance when a girl came out in front of me i stopped she looked familiar it was here friend. apparantly he also had an affair 4-5 years ago while i had 24 hour shifts at my old job. i gave up on him and began a new relationship with someone else. im much older, mayb i jus need to let him live out his youth? it’s her ex, there’s a chance that this relationship is not a rebound. have seen many other girls and i have thought that i still want my ex back. he’s now holding this against me, he says he can’t trust me. said ” i should have said this earlier but i respect your decision to pursue your dreams and goals that you want to achieve. he loved me that much, then why is it taking so long for him to break up with her? no matter how much better or worse you are than her, it doesn’t change the fact that she is currently dating a guy you used to care about (keyword: used to). reading a lot of different things last couple months i have started to think that i was just a rebound from the start because she would always say stuff about how she is really attracted to me but nothing else. dated someone off and on for 10 years through high school and college. im being strong and getting on with life with kids and being pregnant but still cant believe this is all happening. he has been dating this other girl for a year now (i saw it coming and warned him) and now i don’t know what to do. think you are putting her on a pedestal and what you think is love is just an obsession. he said its a waste of time since its a ldr and he wants to stay there and as i said he makes his own decision and never both to sit with me and discuss and now i know that he is with the same girl i suspected him with and i even had begged her to let him go but she had blocked me. all this time since i walked away i been focusing on myself, i feel much better, i been enjoying myself and open to meeting new people, i’m taking a vacation next week and i don’t regret walking away because its my time and its about me now. he said that he loves me more than anyone, he said that he’ll do anything for me but is in love with her too. he’s 30, bringing a child into this world but acting like a child himself. i started texting one girl, went out with her, but i just couldn’t kiss her cause i only saw my ex. and my ex dated 1 year and i broke up with him saying i don’t love him…right after the breakup i realized that i do but first i thought it was the missing that kept me thinking that…it has been 2 months and i decided to win him back, we met and he kissed me and told me that he still loves me but he doesn’t want to get hurt again. so in november she meets someone , and well they start dating . is i always used to say u r worst,u did everything bad with me, everything happens bcz of u ,my ex was better than u,i usd to blame her lott cz seriosly she not even meets me easily, i used to make her feel that dear m ur bf n v r in relation. or could it be that he earlier met this old friend while we were together? he has slept with 2 people since then and has his eye on a girl but not in a relationship yet. ex and i dated for a few months and became really close. i tweet the guy yesterday as he is going to see a movie i wanna see..but i dont know whether he is new bf or her upcoming husband,she is not keeping any status but used to change dp with happy faces, i cries every single day, i pray for her ,i am still crying while writing,i have no single frnd in my life cz i was so envolved in her, she was my day n night,she was my everything, its killing me that how she forgotten me easily,its all about 8 yrs she is everywhere for me,One incident also happnd that she used my route & by bus to go one station which was very weird,coz route to go stn was different in her ares but still choosen my bus which goes from my home road.’m going to send the “magic letter” but i’d like your opinion first, please. again, if you haven’t read the 5 step plan to get your ex back, click here to read it now. my ex sent me messages that he thought about me everyday, and also on that special day. i applied the no contact for 2 months but just recently i just gave him a birthday cake (because his birthday is near) thru a friend, and he told the friend not to do such things again and told her not to get involved. i’ve been on a roll turing myself around 180, making positive strides then this comes up. there is a good chance she cheated on you while she was in the relationship with you. ex was already married when she messed him up and abruptly stop contact after the dates. i decided i didn’t want to keep seeing him like before, and told him if we ever were going to end up together it was his turn to fight, even if i didn’t think he ever would. i am trying to move on with the help of a therapist and trying to get back to the old me. it seems the guy was the reason your ex left you..I have read your tips and such, but i’m not sure this is a rebound for her or if this is it. so then i found out about this girl (luckily i didn’t freak out) he didn’t tell me though, i noticed she left things in his room. i think you should try to accept the fact that he is being inconsiderate, unfaithful and he will probably never come back to you. my former ex thought it was over when no one officially said so she was with a guy for 2 months. texted him already but he dont reply knowing that he is awake and online. and even though you are second guessing the decision right now, you still know deep inside it was the right thing to do. situation is me and my ex boyfriend for more than a year broke up 4 months ago and he had her girlfriend a week after the break up. i am just so nervous but again i am so excited. i am hoping this is a sign that he is realising what he has lost. if still no reply, then you should consider moving on. and my wife has just married for a year but before we get married i told here that i have an affair and i accidentally get the girl pregnant, but we still continue our married but the first 3 months my wife become jealous and everytime i come back to home after work she always argue with me that i cheated to her but she know how much i love her now she want to divorce are marriage she said to me that she didn’t have fellings to me anymore only sorrow what she feel to me and she have no more love to me he even ignore me in fb and skype she makes excuses to avoid are communication were in a long distance relationship because of our carrie sir kevin is still have chance to prevent our divorce and we will be happier the first time we know each other and the first 2 months that weve married. the relationship was very good until he faced problems in his career, and got depressed for a while. you are confused because everyone seems to be telling you it’s a rebound relationship while your instincts tell you that your ex has moved on. the best thing to do in this case scenario is to move on. weeks later i find out he has a new girlfriend, and trying to cope with all of this is very hard because i’m emotional as it is being pregnant, the 2 have been together now for a month and i’m worried my chances are low, i don’t think it’s a rebound relationship, but i do know she’s not pushing him into anything he doesn’t want to do, and she’s aware of the second baby on the way, there is no way that i could follow with the no contact period because of the fact that we have a 3 year old daughter.’s me again and thank you very much for your answers. you have to remind him of financial stuff, just remind him and don’t talk about anything else. i didn’t understand how that was possible, i always had him when i wanted it, he was always there leaving me roses, sending me cute texts… the day before i found out and busted him , he had been at my house asking me about moving in , he went to his house..n i can’t msg her also coz she can complaint to her pshycho parents & they can do anything to me, ( i really have no idea whether she said atleast once to her parents that she also wants me or not) , i can’t even express my feelings anymore bcz of her blackmailings . returning his stuff is not a good reason to get back in touch in my opinion. ex broke up with me because we didnt talk a lot because i was really busy and when i did i got nervous and its been 6 months i tried to get her back once he was hot for a bit and then went completely cold and say no she is dating someone else now and im pretty sure she knows i still have feelings for her and were in grade 10 and i have two classes with her and i have to sit beside her cuz my classes have a seating plan so i dont know what to do about the nc rule please help. i think he might want to try again with you or maybe he is just looking to find a way to sleep with you. you contact your ex after the 30 day nc even if they’re still in that rebound relationship? that said, we still live together, a mutual decision not only because we don’t want to physically have to make the move, but also because we don’t want to separate. ( i was lying of course)… i waited a week and sent another and he said i’m not trying to be an a** but i’m dating someone right now and it’s going great and i’m great thanks. i was just someone she thought was better looking then the last guy that’s it. this all came out over christmas and i opened up about my past etc. also, don’t ever try to get to your ex through a friend. i don’t see how he is better besides being artist. we had a fight 3 weeks ago after going out on the town dancing and having sex. pkease give me some insight why or what this is indicating. i ended up finding out the reason why he was acting like this towards me since my pregnancy was because there was another women in the picture. i will deal with him about kids through his parents no need to see him. i know what happened to you sucked, but keep it in mind that it happened once, and if you get him back, it can happen again. i tried asking her to get together to catch up but she said she doesn’t think that’s a good idea yet because she’s currently happy with someone else..i dont know if i will be successful as i know he will message me casually in this period,,…. our friends asked me if i still love him i reply them “nope, im done with him”. my boyfriend felt that he still has feelings for her and that he loves her more than he loves me and that’s why he ended things with me. i have been following your good friend jason’s rewind advice. we had a great relationship and share so much history together. thanks for all the advice kevin and sorry i post so much, makes me look like i’m obssessed with my ex. there is no point in trying to figure out what’s going on in her head. i ended up meeting that person in the afternoon and we had a few drinks and watched a film at his house. am trying to get some help here on some issues i am having. i made all the mistakes and we were ‘together’ two months after the break up. so i was a little sad but i accepted what he wanted, and after that, we had sex… the day after that i found out that it is true that he has a new girlfriend and i asked him why did he lie to me, and why he didn’t tell me he was ready to move on, and he said it wasn’t the right time to tell me. if any two people are involved in this type of thing …maybe they arent mature enough for a relationship in the first place. all happened, then he left for 3 weeks’ vacation with his family. could you give me some insight into what you think it is? while we watched this movie, he only had on boxers and an undershirt and he held out his arm for me to cuddle with him while we watched. i really don’t know what the relationship is like because she doesn’t say anything about it to me. he kept all my friends and family as his facebook friends and only deleted me once he was sure i saw his new relationship status. how can she go for some guy who has no plan for his future and could move to another country just like that? did all the mistakes mentioned above, and even worse; i tried comitting suicide and let my ex boyfriend know about it. i asked him if i could kiss him and he said he didnt know if that was right…after that he kissed me. so it will be sort of like going back on your words). the weird thing was that i saw a dream about this. days after that i got no texts and i found out later on that during that weekend that we were supposed to meet like always, he went on vacation with his colleagues (and that girl he talked about) and they, not the company, paid for it. you should read the 5 step plan if you haven’t already. initially he was texting and calling me post-breakup but i told him i didn’t want to talk at all since i didn’t know if i was going to move. i wish i can tell you that you have a good chance, but i want you to be prepared for the worst. ex is the kind that you described as the angry ex in another post, however, he has anger management problems.. ignores your phone callsif you're finding that your ex isn't as responsive as he once was, it might be a sign that he's moved on. let her develop a friendship with you again and listen to her problems n dont place any negative spin on her relationship. be yourself and let him slowly see the changes you’ve made in your life. she loved the gift i got for her and me to wear. he would tell me he wanted a future with me, but he is incapable of a relationship right now. her mother send me today text message where she said something like ”congratulations and all the best for future” best regards she and her son (ex’s brother).
What if your ex boyfriend starts dating someone else
were quite private about our relationship on fb, only one picture, she posted on my wall once to ask if my phone had died, i’d posted on her birthday, no statuses about one another and not even “in a relationship” though all friends/family knew we were. next thing i know he’s picking fights by bringing up things that he didn’t like about me when we dated and assuming my future will be. and today he texted me and i told him to leave me alone, he asked me why and i said “because i’m tired of you playing mind games with me. i love him so much and any advice help would be greatly welcomed as my hormones are everywhere with being 6months pregnant never mind all this to deal with as well…. add to my previous reply , i would like to confess that i have unblocked him on fb today,,although i have not sent him a friend request…and i wont send him a friend request on fb till my no contact period is over that is for sure i think……. and when i texted her she refused texting me back for another 3 days and said she wanted to break up with me because she lost feelings on me(while waiting, i sent her a long email stating how i felt about her and i wanna know why she is not replying me). however, at this point, i’ll recommend you get in touch with clyde..My ex and i broke up officially in november (we had been having a rough patch for awhile). anyway he sent me a big bunch of flowers and the next week he dumped me over txt message saying it was hard for him to do this ect. so i messaged him asking him if he was okay and i’m around if he needed anything. we have gone through this once before but he came back. ex boyfriend and i were together for a year and 4 months and we were going through al ot and all of a sudden a boy told me that he was trying to talk to another girl so when i asked him about it he told me he wasn’t but then in a text message she was like oh i did give her my number and i do kind of like her a little so i try to deal with that and so many people were trying to talk to him about it and even i. these were for example doing the dishes etc… stuff like this. soo now today he told me i couldnt do something because he was talking to someone. she says she wishes i could still b the man iwas she she fell in love w me but doesnt think i can. a month ago i heard hat he was dating a lady that he had dated in the past. i think there is little hope, but only if you move out and stop being there for her all the time. we separated and came back together and was happy till another issue which separated us again. of course if something is genuinely wrong i’d talk to her, but i have just 2 more questions:1. and then as if destiny played its role and one day he just decieded to end the relation because his ex walked in to live with him. i only visits once in 6 months because of my busy schedule and i have never been a fan of visiting men i date. perhaps he was already dissatisfied and it had been on his mind for some time to breakup. he said “i still love you but this is something i want to do. you think its a rebound or is it possible that he might actually become serious about this second girl? perhaps talking to him will help you get closure, but i believe if you accept that he has moved on and concentrate on moving on yourself, you will realize that closure will come from inside you. noticed that after that day of making out, he started disappearing little by little…no text the whole day, then the day after that he just sent me a text that he has a lot of problems.– i know from others that they are having problems, i think they are not very intimate anymore (we were joking about something and he somehow admitted it), she is posting depressing statuses on her fb…. should contact him even if he doesn’t contact you. people say you need to move on from him but i really have, ive met someone who i really click with and the only thing i dont get is why he is copying me so much when he told me he doesnt want to talk yet. the rose is symbolic & a little thing only we know. i know i am single and allowed to be with whoever and this was a rebound trying to fill the hole my ex left. told him this morning that i wanted him to not come back. a few days later he breaks up with his girlfriend and has me come over and spend the night. i was angry when i found out because he told me before no contact that he just needed time and space that he wouldnt talk to anyone else and he still loved and cared about me. he hasn’t made any effort to contact me, shows no interest whatsoever and whenever we talk he tells me how happy he is alone. he has used this friendship idea to try and get us back on track after a rough patch but unfortunately we had to break off because of circumstances regarding my health. i have 10x more respect for my ex after what he did.. but after that all even i posted pictures to my fb account theres still no response from my ex boyfriend. it’s exactly what i’m going through right now. either ways, both of you will be able to close this chapter in your life. tried to mend things out within a day(bad mistake)but she never changed her mind of going back to her ex however she threatened to block my phone if i kept on texting her. one month ago i saw her eyes that she was sad and cried and she wished nice summer but after that she have been very cold. a week after that i asked him again if he wanted to grab a drink. i am just so nervous but again i am so excited. all your suggestions until now were very successfull 🙂 thank you so much for that!” so he said ok, and for confirmation i asked him “so you made up your mind, it’s her right? we started having a lot of issue’s after our son was born, long story short i kicked him out last november. i know that i can be better boyfriend but all the post break-up stuff i have made badly and all the mistakes i made are not good. despite of everything we went through, he accepted me to accept his decision. her best friend is also probably telling her about the fact that she spoke to you and it’s going to make you look like a stalker. he told me he has never felt this way about anyone before and we even spoke of moving in together and marriage before christmas. i want to prove that i am a woman of substance whom he can rely on anytime but i know that is what makes him take me for granted and give me the pain without bothering that he may lose me forever…. text him or send him the letter mentioned in the 5 step plan. trust is what’s keeping us apart and now he seems as if he found someone new worth moving on with even though they arent in a relationship. i had just seen my ex and my head was just messed up. you can either wait for him to break up with him or better yet, concentrate your efforts in moving on..then i came here read your all posts, felt better that i have some hopes,i changed my dp to normal one & normal status,but i feels she is moved on,she used to chat on whatsapp for late night with sumone till 2. ex gf broke up with me at the end of november and found out she was on match a month later. now after no contact i feel like he is scared he is losing me completely and lost control of the post breakup “competition” whereas i am not competing. it’s a long distance relationship which she didnt tell me about it until i asked her out to go out for a lunch with me for valentines day. i have a feeling she is and has been seeing someone else even toward the end of our relationship. he added a ton of hot women on instagram and is openly flirting with them. and so basically after that i told him that im happy that i can move on now that i know that we probably won’t be getting back together, and i told him that everything is all good because we’re both happy, and he said “right”.• i had so many flaws within the relationship and my mistakes ruined it. kevin ,my case is very different,v were in relation from almost 4 yrs in which we were best buddies before that 4 yrs means frm last 8 yrs v knws each other,v met on orkut,i hd gf that time, i used to share evry single thing abt my relation to her,then she started falling for me,she proposed me, i said no,cz i wanted 2 be her best frnd only n i was loyal wid my that another gf,still she wanted me,so every time she used to make me feel n total 13 times she proposed me,der was sum other rsn of family issue thats why also i never wanted to mess my best frndshp,then i had to ignore her bcz of her behavior,then she got bf in college,but unable to b hapy then she msged me to she want to get rid off that guy, i helped her,till time my another gf cheated me i was so depressed,in that time,my this gf started taking care of me n i falled for her,v came in relation,it was good untill she was carefull,Frm last yr everything started messing coz she unable to give me time & love due to job n i started expecting more cz v used to meet daily,talk daily n now i was crazy for her n day by day everything was stopped,she used to fear me alott coz i slaped her & abused her when i got to know her past relations which i got to know from her fb ids n yahoo chats,i was helpless to be overreated n i apologied for that mistakes,eveytime i used to talk rudely bcz of her no love n no timing policy,last year in one fight i called her home n her dad picked up the call, her dad got to know abt our relation,they checked her mobile n saw my abusive msgs for her family, so she told everything abt me,n from that time all messed,we used to talk about marriage also but from that day she lost all hopes of marriage n everything, she started giving me very less love,still i managed to get her back,in between of this last 1 yr her parents got 2 know 3-4 times that v r in relation agn,but sumhow she managed that time n sum days i used to make her fall me agn, now from last mnth again sumthing her parents got 2 know n she started ignoring me ,i waited 6 days n asked her rsn on call many times,but every time she refused n ignored me,then on 7th day i went to ask her near her office bus stop, she saw me n started saying go or i will inform my dad,i was shocked with her behavior, she refused to talk, i was clueless i said i will do sucide if u dont talk to me,listen me lets clear but she agn n agn said to go,she even called her mom, n grabbed her cell,n pulled out its battery,ppl started staring at us so i told her lets cross the road n i started moving but till time she taken the help of vehicle & left that place & i started searching where she gone , after some 35 mins i got call from her number & she said talk with my mom,yes she informed her mom that i came to meet her to force her, her mom abused me insulted me, her mom said isnt she told u that she is getting married …i was like what ? i really don’t know if she was serious about that. after a breakup, that intimacy is gone in a matter of few days and you are left feeling empty. and do you think this is just a phase or karma that he’s going through? i wonder is if i was his rebound girl and if so, if all the steps to getting him back work. is it the fact that you still love your ex boyfriend? know it’s scary that you don’t know what your life will be without him. he will continue playing with your emotions and keep dragging you along if you let him. dont want to see her with another guy and this hurts me. we had an amazing weekend, however today he changed completely again told me it’s not fair on me that he is talking to other girls and wants to end our friendship and never see me again. he already hates me by the sound of it, i am afraid i am pushing her and him closer together with this., i don’t think knowing the reasons for his actions will give you any closure. if you feel the need, get more help on getting over a breakup (google, books, therapist). first she was angry and emotional and right away she start to dating the other guy but still talked bad about girls who might like about me. i told her that i have seen other girls (mistake? have previously also done no contact for maximum 45 days but this time i feel so bad that only after 6 days i recontacted him. he didn’t invite her to a party he went to, he hasn’t introduced her to any of his friends like he did with me straight away. he messaged me saying happy birthday and asked if i wanted a present. after all this time i think she has realized that she didn’t feel that great of connection like she might of thought. my ex emailed me the other day saying he’s trapped and his new fiancé is pregnant and she’s screwed him over and he hates his job and asking for help from the people he emailed. it’s 2 months since i have not talked to my ex, and he has not contacted me either – i know he is still meeting the girl, but not treating her as a girlfriend or something like that. he was taking me on trips, giving me gifts, being my companion and friend and when i was unhappy with my relationship he was always there.’s probably a rebound, even if he met her while you were together.- is really troubling, specially when she was treated badly by that man for years. i told him that it is now or never but he is reluctant. i know i could’ve said more or less at some points, but initially i was hoping by appearing non-threatening to his current relationship, it would be easier for me to work my way in. after dinner he, myself and his friends went to a bar for a little bit and at one point one of his friends approaches him and asks if we are getting back together. if both of them are on a rebound, the chances of relationship surviving are no more than if only one of them is on a rebound. also i have this deep urge to find out if she is actually his official girlfriend and remind him that he told me he didn’t want one of those. i’ve seen her on there multiple times in the past day, and i’m pretty sure it means her rebound is starting to fall apart. son is now 6 weeks old, and for the last 6 to 8 weeks, he has been telling e how unhappy he is, he still loves me, etc,etc,etc. for your articles they really make your reflect on things from a different perspective. because a rebound relationship is an attempt to reach the level of intimacy that only long-term relationships have. anout two weeks ago i asked him if he wanted to be in my life, if not he could get his stuff and go. we had a fight 3 weeks ago after going out on the town dancing and having sex. i just found out from him today that he’s seeing someone and was really surprised as i still think it’s so soon considering how serious our relationship was. should i just not answer her when she text when we can see next week?’his response is” go away” leaving me wanting to solve the issue or wondering what just happen. i know i will get over him one day but i don’t want to and the pain thinking about it is unbearable 🙁. it’s been a long time after the breakup and perhaps he is already over the breakup and has moved on. same pattern went on all winter break with him and we kept in touch via skype and calling and text when i went back to school and everything seemed to be going well and we were communicating a lot better. all this time since i walked away i been focusing on myself, i feel much better, i been enjoying myself and open to meeting new people, i’m taking a vacation next week and i don’t regret walking away because its my time and its about me now. nothing beats straightforward honesty, its less hassle all round and if you are both playing such games then what does that really say ? you are right, he is showing signs that he still has feelings for you. i cancelled the vacation with them and i told my ex that i was not happy with the way she handled things after the break up. but yet here she is all smiles and hearts and all these other pictures and stuff with the both of them and just of him. recently we had sex and he told me he loved me that night before it happened and again a few days later but because my schedule is so full and i never have anyone to watch my son, i cant spend time with him the with him the way that i would like to (well that was before) i recently put him in daycare however we had a conversation about a month ago and he was telling me how i just need to work on being more open or that we would always have problems and i completely understood and things were fine a few days later i wanted to talk to him and ask him about something (that i cant remember) but he mentioned that i usually asks things i should already know the answer to so i told him i wouldnt bother trying anymore because its hard to have rational conversation with him (which it is on occasion) anyway not thinking and only joking because i do like/love him a lot i said out of anger i guess that i only deal with him and his irrational attitude because his d**k is good and he responded by saying “wow,…u win” and ever since has been real distant, we made plans to hang out like a week later, he blew em off and told me its nothing and wont be nothing, i was upset so i didnt say anything for a like a week and then i hit him up several times and he didnt respond and when he eventually did he said “bitch stop writing me” and all i said was wow okay…. what makes it worse is if he does have the realisation he has made a mistake he will never admit it and will never come back thats his personality and i think thats what makes me sadder knowing he might regret it but still stay with this young girl as he would never go back 🙁. i started doin the no contact but it was short it was about 2 and a half weeks because she asked me to see her for our b- day and btw we had a very good time and she loved the gifts i got for her, after that we saw each other two more times later on in that week but idk if her relationship is a rebound because she liked this guy before we met and another thing is she said he’s a nice guy and always makes her laugh she ” loves him” now i don’t know what to do i really want to have her back and i am changing for the better cause she means so much to me. i will take the advice that i am given because whatever i am doing, is not working! i used to be happy and confident and funny when we first met then went to a dark place and thats all he sees anymore is the memory of the darkness. you are who you are, and unlike your ex, you will find someone who can appreciate that. soon as i agreed his behavior changed and he started pushing me away again. i have wanted him back this whole time and i know the reason we broke up was something that could be fixed. i’m very much in love with him & idk how life is gonna be with out him in me & my daughters life. think whether or not is he capable of doing it. i am just trying to get some advise or outlook or something from this. so my boyfriend of 3 and a half years and i broke up back in december because he found out that i had hooked up with another person when we were taking a break about 8 months prior to him finding out. he moved home in january, and than he started being distant… well, i decided to follow him one day and the girl that he was dating, showed up there to pick him up. he came back from vacation, he didn’t even explain why he didn’t text me that long…he didn’t even apologize. have been in a relationship with this girl for almost 14 months. he instead started treating me differently and would just send me general good morning quotations. i graduate this week from my school and my ex-girlfriend didn’t congratulate me so i was thinking is she mad because i didn’t answer her last text message or maybe she is moving on. i know you want him in your life, but unless he realizes he wants to commit, you can’t do anything. the problem is now he is in a new relationship after our break up (after 1 month). this was 2 weeks after bu and right at that time he met this new girl. well we stayed in contact while during that time and after a while i felt like we were kind of drifting apart and when i talked to him about it he said he wasn’t very good at staying in contact with anyone and that he didn’t want to lead me to think we we’re going to get back together. what is your take is on him telling me to move on now? during this time he has never denied me support, be it financial, familial or whatever.. now i have to be a bitch to tell him to make up his mind? he said both of them went into it not expecting anything serious, but the more they chatted the more they had in common. i told him i would text him on his birthday. i’m worried we wont talk because of this and he thinks we wont talk again until next year. promised me she wasn’t cheating, she just allowed herself to accept texts from another guy. he has slept with 2 people since then and has his eye on a girl but not in a relationship yet. i have read your 5 step plan and have been doing no contact and it’s weird it is not bothering me too terribly but i still wonder and sometimes think this is a sick test. i feel he has had a confidence boost with his new tattoo and car and wants to do better than me. she still wants me to be one of her best friends but she doesn’t want me for her boyfriend any more. does this strengthen the fact it could be a rebound? also i want to say in advance that english is not my native language. remember, this whole thing was to just try getting him back one more time. but this time, we barely text each other until the day came when we did stop talking. and my ex had an argument at the end of december, after which he disappeared and i haven’t contacted him either. im very close with his family and he told me everything just about it took a while because he dont express his feelings. knowing her, i think she is expecting that i’ll reach out to her on her b’day, as i’ve never let anything get in the way of it. feel like getting back together, albeit in a different sense where we both stand on our own feet. he seems to get all defensive when i go out and is scared i will meet someone. she said she is at someones house and she is gonna be there for the whole day. i was feeling good so i decided to call my ex and get my last stuff back (i know it’s not what you recommended).. i’m not sure whether this is a rebound or not and if i have a chance to get him back or not too? don’t think there is going to be anymore contact i’m sure that the last time she spoke to me will probably be it anyway and also i’m sure they will end up being together for long time and not have this as a rebound or something that will end in future. the best you can do is give it a try. well me and my ex were falling apart we werent tell eacher how we felt or help eacher and then i was trying to help him but he kept pushing me away for this other girl and now there dating and i really miss him and want him back but i dont want the relationship we had i want like the one when we first meet were we told each other everything and trusted each other and were happy and in love and when he didnt push me away for other people so what do i do because i think he hates me now too and he wont talk to me really and if he does its not always a good convo between us……. the next day she tagged him in a couple photos on her facebook.. i broke up with my boyfriend almost 4 years ago because i was very confused. my experience, rebounds usually end and are not meant to last. me and my ex fiance were together for nearly 10 years. ex-boyfriend of about a year broke up with me because he said he couldn’t handle being in a relationship at that time, (he has a lot of things happening in his life, a lot of sickness within the family, also being in year 12 and having end of school exams), i know we are young being 18 and in year 12, but our relationship felt mature, special and real. we had tickets to some events the following weeks which he cancelled without telling me 🙁 he stated yet more reasons – wanting more than one relationship, not wanting to settle down yet, wanting to be able to travel, not seeing us having a future together, not feeling the same way anymore, his heart not being in it anymore. he told me he would never leave me for another girl, that i was the most beautifulest and cutest girl he knows and then he says it to her. for your articles they really make your reflect on things from a different perspective. ex (22) broke up with me(25) little bit more than 2 month ago. i graduate in two months… had the ring custom made from jeweler out of colorado, and planned on asking her to marry me in september/october of this year. if not, you should try to contact him and build attraction. well i text him back saying im hungry im going out to eat and having a drink have fun have a great night. help kevin, u r the only hope now,i dont wana move on,i want to grow only with her, my age is 24 n her 23, we lives in india,today she enjoing her life allott by making me forever alone, i will never able to love agn anymore now, i will never marry any other girl, i also blocked her just for doing no contact but i dont think there is use anymore, plz be my god n help me, m ready to do every single step. we met and discussed a little for what happened, he told me that he missed me the days after our breakup but he couldn’t make the decision to call me. no contact again for another two weeks and send another text (or a letter, your call). it just means she is trying to avoid you for some reason, or perhaps she was expecting you to talk to her so she can reject you (and feel better about herself). i really want to send his mum a birthday card in a months time. i don’t have his new overseas number since we werent very friendly recently. he has been hurt in his past by past relationships where they have cheated and technically i did but i didn’t sleep with anyone. tell her you need to think about taking her back and that your talking to someone who is a nice friend. he is trying to bully and manipulate me via text. he says he loves me but he dates someone else. kk, you seem a bit obsessed (obsessively texting your bf and writing all these comments here) which is not healthy. her hand was so powerless and then we hug twice and she wished me nice summer. does she expect for a younger guy to really settle down? all your suggestions until now were very successfull 🙂 thank you so much for that! that was so heart breaking because he mentions he loves me almost every day i was there with him and when we talk and chat and he even promised me of marriages.. long story short about a week ago she moved out as she said she was confused and need space and said to me that she wanted to be alone the next day i found out this guy was staying there… i done all the opposite to what was need to be done i got angry upset, needy and begging all within a week. i asked him if he will do me a favour and meet up with me. so i was a little sad but i accepted what he wanted, and after that, we had sex… the day after that i found out that it is true that he has a new girlfriend and i asked him why did he lie to me, and why he didn’t tell me he was ready to move on, and he said it wasn’t the right time to tell me. i started the no contact but he had to come to the house to collect “his tv” . even tho his status says single and he still has my pics. however, he is always warm and open and there were times when we even talked for about an hour at a corner of the building’s third floor. however i heard from a friend that he isn’t seeing the second one anymore but they are close friends, but another friend told me they might still be together but he’s not sure. we had a great relationship and share so much history together. funnily enough i had being thinking about him and us getting back together before i found this out. even though your mind wants you to believe you didn’t, i know you did. unless you can put him before your religion, you should not get back together. ladies, i've compiled the top 10 ex dating someone else signs to watch out for., your advice has made me open up and realize alot. but i can’t really be sure if it’s a breakup since there was never actually an us. ex broke up with me because we didnt talk a lot because i was really busy and when i did i got nervous and its been 6 months i tried to get her back once he was hot for a bit and then went completely cold and say no she is dating someone else now and im pretty sure she knows i still have feelings for her and were in grade 10 and i have two classes with her and i have to sit beside her cuz my classes have a seating plan so i dont know what to do about the nc rule please help. about a week later, her older sister’s fiance’s friend from work was introduced to my ex and from what i heard from my brother who lives in that house with my ex’s sister, she has been going out with this guy like every other day, and doesn’t come home sometimes till after 2am. she had a mom who had cancer and i didn’t want my girl to go through the same prosess with me if it turned out to be cancer. that with his new gf, i noticed that he took her to rome (2013 winter) whereby in 2012 winter, i was there with him in paris. i have the strongest feeling that this is the one guy for her the one she been looking for and wanting for very long time and it happens to already be someone important and special in her life and who been there long time already. she started dating another guy (totally opposite of me ) a couple of weeks after i cut all contact. i happened to meet him on a night out and he stopped me to tell me how gorgeous i was and that was on my fb (he is not on fb so was on a friends page) he was txt after saying that i didn’t know what was going through his head. he’s sent a few horrible texts since and blamed me a few times and trying to reinforce he’s moved on but i’ve been ignoring him, no contact! reading this i know i made the right move and i’ll stick to it. i had been working on me always looking happy when i see him and now this. later on at around 9 he was at his families house and he called again and broke the news to me that he is going through what i’m going through right now. behaviour is crazy what is he playing at he was always into doing things with our kids, im just going with the flow but im confused by all this could seeing baby have made him question what he wants and ive basically put a wall up to protect me as ive changed more confident not stressed happy etc. great read, i am a bit upset at the moment and very confused as i have just found out my ex (still married) husband has now moved on about 2 months with another woman who is my complete opposite from the sounds of it. my virginity & i had his first baby, so i didn’t understand why he was doing this to us. i ended my new relationship and thought that my ex and i were going to work things out. in another conversation recently, he asked if i was seeing anyone. it is the most worst shock or punishment god must have given me for entering the no contact period. he also seems like he is going out of his way to rub this new relationship in my face (which frankly is really immature or a cry for attention) i know and everyone is assuring me that it is a rebound relationship. anyway 20mins later he said “right what we r going to do today is u get ready we go out for lunch and go buy baby camera monitor and baby stuff” i just agreed i was already ready so we went out to lunch to place we used to always go to, had a fun day laughing and joking being a normal family acting the way we always did. ex (22) broke up with me(25) little bit more than 2 month ago. boyfriend of 8 months broke up with me stating that he didn’t want a relationship right now and didn’t want a committment. but shall i text him once i feel great or is it a bad idea? he’s always had eyes for other girls and that’s caused trust issues for us. i have been contact with my ex few times after that and every single time she cries.’s been pretty hard for me with my ex, i left him back in december and found out i was pregnant with our second child, but even before that i still had feelings for him and i know he did too, well i tried to get our relationship back and everything seemed to be going good but then he started acting weird and not replying to my text messages as much. says she needs to focus on her career and her social life, as one of our biggest problems was not spending enough time with friends. the longer they’ve been in the new relationship, the less likely it is to be a rebound. anout two weeks ago i asked him if he wanted to be in my life, if not he could get his stuff and go. is my question though… how do i know if he is still thinking about me and that makes him doubt his rs or if he is just looking for a companion while he is going through this possible break up and only using me till he finds someone else? guess my question is, is there ever any hope for me? i burst into tears … i didn’t know why he was saying this if he didn’t want to worth through things , i didn’t respond all day the text came in the morning . the problem is that she broke up with me after this three months. the fact the break up happened so suddenly for me, and the attachment to the daughter make it difficult ? it was a lot of fun, but i kept my distance and suddenly he was very flirtatious, talking about our sexlife and how great i looked and so on. if you decide to move on, it’s worth giving him an ultimatum before doing that. he would also tell me things like i was different and he never had a relationship like this before. you want to find out your chances of getting your ex back? saw couple of times after this and everything was fine. we are still friends in facebook so maybe one day when i hopefully get beautiful girlfriend she thinks me. that with me she was not really happy and not care really compared to her being with her friend of her new man now who she would do anything for because she is truly happy with him and cares a lot about him. and my ex girlfriend were dating for 6 years before she broke up with me 2 weeks ago because of parents putting too much pressure on her. my reasons for thinking so is that we took time to develop our feelings for one another (that first month) and took things slowly, we had our problems but were very close. if you decide to comment read the comment guidelines before commenting. she tells him “if you leave or cheat on me i’ll cut you” and also “if you leave i kno where to find you and i will hunt you down. he is afraid if you think he has moved on, you might also try to move on. i think you should apply nc even with his texts (it’ll most likely have him thinking, especially if he regularly texts you “good morning” or “good night”). i feel that if he was really into her he wouldn’t be talking to me like that but then in the last few days she posted a love song for him on fb + some other sweet things. i don’t know if its a rebound relationship with her new guy, or what the deal is there. perhaps he was already dissatisfied and it had been on his mind for some time to breakup.? what if her mom was right that she is marrying but if its true why she will put such status on whatsapp? we begin, did you read my step by step guide on how to get your ex boyfriend back? i do think you will be able to make a better decision if you go through the no contact rule for 30 days. jan 19 when we went out, that’s the time his interest in me was really obvious. he’s now holding this against me, he says he can’t trust me. when we were together we would have so much fun and everything would be great, the second we weren’t together and he would text or call me he became mean and said he didnt feel anything. then just over 3 months ago he met this 19 year old girl ( he’s 27) and has been seeing her exclusive for 3 months they even did a 2 week trip to new zealand together… my question is should i be worried that this relationship is serious?.please please please tell me what is the right thing to do now …i ll try my best to stick to it. but then today a day after his dad told him he is text me asking how my eye is and what happened etc when i told him he text saying ffs and then asked if my boiler was fixed as it went on blink. the problem is now he is in a new relationship after our break up (after 1 month). as in she’s not even romantic with him and she don’t like kissing. let him know you need space and time and you will only be talking to him regarding the baby and nothing else. however, in 2006 ( when we were 16) during the school holidays, it was very difficult to reach him as he was always away due to his chess tournaments but i found out that he initiated flirting with my good friend who is very much prettier than me and he even asked her out for a date. she also said that she doesn’t feel anything for me but then contradicted herself by saying that she has been afraid to do anything with this guy because she still cares for me a lot and has a lot respect for me. forward 2 weeks and i text him after really thinking about what couldve been wrong and apologized and he told me that there are a lot of bitches that like wtf did i think and i said im sure there are but is the chemistry the same, he said better. i don’t know if she will ever contact me again or not. she would not answer my call or text messages on the day she sent the email. i wish it was easier to control my emotions , but it really does hurt that barely 3 weeks after we break up he is seeing someone else, when he told me he wasn’t apposed to eventually trying to work things out, but that the way things have been going we needed to break things off right now so we don’t resent each other . the fact she might compromise in a conventional relationship-can she? 4 minutes later “why do you not say “with my friend xyz” like it’s a ridiculous pet peeve but saying with a friend seems cold and distant. i am using this experience as an opportunity for growth and to change myself so i only have healthy relationships from here on. my friends tell me that she is a rebound and i’m confused. even if he does talk to you again, he’ll continue playing with your feelings. so the next time he calls to confess his love, don’t give him the satisfaction of letting him know that you still want him. apparently, due to our closeness, we know we both had feelings for each other but the problem is that no one between us dared to open about it. now almost a week after this fake break i tell her we should take a real break after seeing this website. i think the only way to find out is wait. or do i still have a chance given the history we have? i have not been suicidal but i sought out help for my internal battles and i pray if you ever feel that urge again, you do the same. his whole family are on my side and he is giving not just me and kids up but them as well…. i guess within the first month of this fling i guess you’d say, he has met the family, pretty sure she has met his, and she just seems really over me. but it seems strange to start a relationship almost immediately long distance. keep it short my ex and i were together and living together for 5 yrs. he could just simply reject me if he didnt want me. you have to decide if he doesn’t want to try to win you back, do you want to pursue him? she probably did love you and she still probably misses you sometimes. anyway during the fight he gave me bak my house keys and said erase him from my life. just get back in touch and let it be his idea to get back together. he said that it’s almost the same for him, that he feels anxious next to me but thought that it could be funny to maintain a cool relationship. he is not prepared to stop chatting to this girl. he became interested in someone else before leaving then ended up seeing her ( he says they are only friends who sleep together) and has been seeing her for almost 3 months at least. the guys with whom she is chatting is grabbing her from me, i can see that she is not sleeping also for chatting which never happened with me before,if its true, how she will miss me ? i heard that my ex’s courting someone for about 2 months. i want you to think really hard during this no contact period if you really want to be with him. (our friendship and relationship combined lasted for a little over 2 years) he fought for me for over a year, we were close friends and initially i didn’t feel for him they way he wanted me to, he told me he loved me before we started dating, he told me how much he wanted to be with me and once he even cried literally on my shoulder about it! you have to decide if he doesn’t want to try to win you back, do you want to pursue him? then i think: “i am turning him on and then he probably feels the urge to go see his gf”. my ex went for his tattoo monday and i was booked in tuesday. apologies i meant not making eye contact while we were talking but looking elsewhere and smiling. he also invited me to go spend time with his family the next day but then took it back because he didn’t want his family to ask a billion questions about why he’s hanging around me again so soon which is understandable.” so, you can see where the confusion is coming from right? if his new girlfriend doesn’t let him talk to you? this a rebound and if so how should i pursue it as i think in the last week i have made this situation worse by the how i have treated her. at first i would look past the distancing, but then i started getting frustrated and we would start fighting. you, i did end up sleeping with him 🙁 i know i shouldn’t have, would i still be able to do everything you said but if he tries again to stand firm and say no? he tried to visit me at home, bring flowers, letters etc. mutual friends have severed their ties to this man, get an untrustworthy feeling from him or understand him to be a jerk. ) then she started using whatsapp(yes i never let her to use whatsapp coz in fb only lots of ppl started proposing her, i always stayed away her from males bcz i never wanted to loose her anyhow, her past only used to force me to do all things but i never failed in giving love which is most imp), i somehow managed to get her new number of whatsapp & she was shocked by seeing that i got her new number also of whatsapp . i have seen a lot of egoistic people admit their mistake when they are unhappy and/or are in pain. he loved me that much, then why is it taking so long for him to break up with her? i and my ex broke up couple of weeks ago and i still don’t know the reason for that. it’s the most popular article on this website and i have seen this plan work time and time again. so i think i’ll apply the no contact rule, but what do you think about this other relationship? situation is such that few years back i was in a abusive alcholic relation and so one day i decided to put my foot down and enter a no contact period till he could respect me but sadly the worst happened..he has text again asking how my eye is today and if heating is fixed..but i dont know whether he is new bf or her upcoming husband,she is not keeping any status but used to change dp with happy faces, i cries every single day, i pray for her ,i am still crying while writing,i have no single frnd in my life cz i was so envolved in her, she was my day n night,she was my everything, its killing me that how she forgotten me easily,its all about 8 yrs she is everywhere for me,One incident also happnd that she used my route & by bus to go one station which was very weird,coz route to go stn was different in her ares but still choosen my bus which goes from my home road. i went over our place to talk and he told that he is still confused and he though he wants to he can’t try at this point to be with me with all his power, that he is not ready yet. now, you should have a pretty good idea about what to do and how to get your ex boyfriend back. plus all the the signs that your ex is suppose to show to determine if they are or not in rebound.. i don’t know if shes a rebound and if he’ll come crawling back or what. i just want to know if this is a rebound. we have could be perfect couple together if i have known all the things i know now that’s why it hurts much. i don’t want to be pushy if he honestly does not want to get back. we had a serious relationship where he met my family and i met some of his. i usually recommend people to give themselves a time limit, in most cases, 2-3 months, if things don’t work out by then, you should just move on.. he loved me coz im totally different from the girls he dated before and im really good to him. posted before but now im really confused, my ex broke up with me about 3 month ago, we were together 10 years we have been in regular contact until last week when i decided to go nc i knew she had been seeing another guy and i think that’s why i was dumped but reading on here he could of been her back up plan before we finished, she kept lying about him all the time then last thursday she sent a text telling me she was now seeing him , but a month ago she said he was a rebound a bit of fun , now her saying that makes me think its serious between them last sunday after spending the day with her which she organised , holding my hand kissing me etc he text and she said i have to see him to sort my feelings out, she spent the night at his, i was heartbroken i think she is in love with this guy and after reading on this site its like she hasn’t been emotionally involved for months but on the other hand dumpers in rebounds think there in love but this guy has been around to pick her up when we were going wrong , she sent a snapchat on friday then i had caller id withheld calls on my phone on sunday which she used to do if we fell out could be coincidence but that has never happened before im trying not to panic i have been no contact for a week but god i miss her so much even after how horrible she has been but im in panic mode , how can she stop loving me , how can she forget me , how can she move on , etc etc etc but this site says if she waited 3 months or more to move on she admitted seeing him after 3 months but has been seeing him longer , and this guy is the total opposite (more confusion) real player not nice to women multiple partners etc etc ,but she says he is gorgeous and in her text she said i was good looking great sense of humour ,big heart which i think is a ego boost for her cos why leave if im all that anyway im so hurt and confused some good feedback would be excellent cos im at rock bottom. am not sure whether you are still active on this site and reply to comments soon but i shall be waiting for your reply soon as after reading your section i think you can help. i think for you, it’s more about closing that chapter of your life rather than trying to get him back. i believe its something in between a rebound and a serious relationship partly because i think she may be expecting more than he is likely willing to give, she has a young child and i know my husband does not want to father anyone elses kids, also she is around half his age. i assumed that he was going to take me home before we went out with them but he asked me to go with him and apparently he had already told his friends that he was with me. it could be a midlife crisis or it could just be that he is just enjoying the honeymoon phase of his relationship and when things get sour, he will realize what he left. perhaps, he is really interested in his new girlfriend and he really wants his new relationship to work. decided that we can see other people if we want, she told me about one guy who has spoken for her and she asked is it okay for me, i didn’t take him as a threat. just because his social media profile shows he is happy doesn’t necessarily mean he is happy. he said he started feeling this way at the same time he started helping his housemate. i think there is still hope and he probably still has feelings for you. i decided to stop contacting him because our talks were confusing, one minute he said “you are my best friend” or “i love you” and the next minute he was saying that he still needed space and to be on his own. 4 months where she was dating both of us without the other knowing. she also had an ex of 5 years before me that she jumped from him immediately to me. i did nothing bad as gf at all and all i get is get dumped for some bizzare reason. maybe that was another rebound relationship but it turns out that t worked perfectly because it’s been two years now and he is still with her, knowing her parents, living with her in the same house, and all that serious stuff. it was as if the undeniability was a coping mechanism for me at the time to heal after the hurt that had been caused. then last friday i text asking to buy a cable off him and he ignored it, i text back saying i am just being friendly. and that involves following the 5 step plan listed here with a few adjustments that i mention below. i’ve been changing however for us, but yes it did seem like she gave up “fell out of love” this new guy is 23. i went 2 months nc after my gf broken up with me over a rubbish excuse. my ex was sad because she didn’t got what she wanted from me and she felt outsider in my life. your ex knows that you are checking their facebook and if they are constantly posting picture with their rebound then it’s a sign that they are in a rebound. one month ago i saw her eyes that she was sad and cried and she wished nice summer but after that she have been very cold. he always does this when he is angry/upset (even with friends) so i knew i would have to wait a couple of weeks for him to be back. i don’t know if he is looking for a rebound or just trying to get over me. even months down the road she would hit me randomly saying she misses me a lot and thinks of me a lot and misses us and what we had. i’ve had a couple of casual text conversations with her since so she’s not ignoring me. if so, then you must know there’s no way you can know for sure if her relationship is really perfect or it has some major flaws. i freaked out after i found out he was dating someone else within a week after we took a break. post: get your ex back after you cheated (even if you don’t deserve it). she clearly posted this message for her ex to see. even though the sex is great, she is still not at peace with herself. read the articles and i can say i probably made every mistake mention. she is cold towards you, you should do no contact for a while and let her initial honeymoon period get over. i said “i wish i could meet you once and explain everything to you. we talk she tells me she misses me an she doesn’t want to get back right now i just wanna know if she’s in a rebound or what cuz it’s hurting me inside an i wanna move on. my ex asked about this girl when we met after break up. she doesn’t know he has been seeing me also and is in love with him and i’m afraid he will become her boyfriend just because it’s the easiest and he then doesn’t have to take a look at himself. i know you recommend trying again within a few weeks but honestly i doubt i want to go through this again. so then i asked him “what do i do” he told me “just be patient” i had told him before that i will give him his time and that i don’t mind waiting for him but i don’t him to change his mind and stay with her. i know there’s a lot of hurt and internal conflict and misery here and my recent heartbreak certainly feels insignificant to many of these stories. (our friendship and relationship combined lasted for a little over 2 years) he fought for me for over a year, we were close friends and initially i didn’t feel for him they way he wanted me to, he told me he loved me before we started dating, he told me how much he wanted to be with me and once he even cried literally on my shoulder about it! his exact words were “i think it’s just the pregnancy. in between i saw some birthday pictures of him with his friend dancing and that friend is whom he went holidays with on his friend’s facebook. he thought that i hated him and i told him i didn’t i just wanted him to grow up and make up his mind, he flat out told me that he wants to date other people, i asked him if he was choosing her over me, he replied yes and i replied “ok good”. am furious and upset that he has had this other woman around my kids. this time, concentrate more on yourself and do things to make yourself feel better. if you try to break them up, they try harder to make it work. i’m happy with staying friends or dating again i just need to know so i can move forward. ex and i dated for a few months and became really close. i am still madly in love with him and i probably messed up on all of your steps because i seem like a crazy needy ex now. and i am just wondering if he still loves me and has feelings for me and misses me? i know his feelings are still there as i can see he is clinging on to me so much and i notice he puts up weird status’ now telling everyone he is super strong etc. kevin,me and ex have been together for 2 years and a couple of months. may-june i saw him adding a guy on his facebook.” that clearly means he’s seeing someone else but it’s not on facebook. but i have been doing well on not texting him unless it’s about our daughter. and this guy have been “talking” for 2 years and have dealt with a lot of communication issues that we’ve gotten past as well as at some points there was bad timing on my part.• tonight, i found out that he started going out with the girl he went on a discrete date with officially. so my parents tell me to just give up because this is the second time she broke up and if we get back together the 3rd time will also come. her best friend (girl) who is also a friend of mine and she told me that it is probably not true that she likes her other ex. but i am done now – this is a degree of disrespect i couldn’t even imagine and who knows what else i don’t know yet. ask for my stuff and to tell him he had a week to contact me about his otherwise i’d take it to mean bin it all. he tried to come see me where i go out, but i kept my distance.• i had so many flaws within the relationship and my mistakes ruined it. from this page of rules to that page of rules and back and forward. so the new guy i’m talking to keeps telling me that my ex is messaging him so i went to my ex’s work with the intention of giving him the chance to tell me whats going on before i blocked him. nothing new with the new girl, still no new signs of her on fb, still not showing up with her at events/meeting his friends etc. at the end of this term he became really close to a housemate who recently lost a relative, her boyfriend of 3 years wasn’t treating her right either so he helped her through her break up with him.” i know i shouldn’t called to her and i thought what i should to text so just think something not so serious. diversion tactics highly manipulative narcissists, sociopaths and psychopaths use to silence you. and yeah since they’ve broke up we’ve been hanging out, going out always… and he is the one who would always ask me out always. he said he loves me- but isn’t in love with me, and he wishes that he felt so strongly about me but doesn’t. even if he doesn’t contact him after two months using texts mentioned in this article. she is proving day by day she don’t want me but i don’t wanaa loose her, i want to show her i have changed n i wanaa give her every piece of happiness , please help what should i do ! he feels like he doesn’t have a reason that justifies breaking things off with her because i’ve had multiple chances and she hasn’t had the chance to try, but then he throws me through loos saying that he stills feels there’s something there with me and that he’s still attracted to me, but is now in a sticky and doesn’t know which is the right choice. the thing is, you said let his new relationship play out and then contact him but he still has half his life around mine. so confused as none of that was about kids and this comes from man who acts like he hates me to his parents im so confused could this be him trying to come back, could the grass not be greener with the girl who is 14yrs younger.. i don’t know why randomly he just stopped talking to me texting me. if he decides that he doesn’t want commit, you should cut contact with him and move on. but after that later she responded with longer message saying she decided it not healthy for her to e with me to much damage done to deal with and she been through this before but she thought it was different and she has moved on from it. for that year, we were not greatly in love , i still missed him though we were in the relationship and he felt the same, it went on and he was busy with his tournaments and again when his ex girl came into the picture he left me broken..And i remembered what my ex told me that he would give his resignation letter and he wont see her anymore. i listened and didn’t say much other than him getting the rest of his stuff from my apartment (we had lived together). i don’t know if i am just making excuses for him or if he is doing this to move on. we got along so well otherwise, made each other laugh hysterically and were very physical. i like the idea of you wowing him better than telling him over texts. no contact period is almost over but i fear i have made an awful mistake. your mind is trying to find something to be obsessed about. i have fought for him but given up and decided on making a friendship to get him to remember how we are together its just extremely difficult with a daughter and another girl maybe coming in the picture x. week i visited my ex (after 8 months) and he looked great! i blew up in the follow-up text messages and i probably will regret that but i am human and still in love with her. my mum said from day 1 that he will be back after his holiday. also, understand that even though your behavior wasn’t needy, the act of going to his house just so you don’t lose him was somewhat needy. i paid every single cents he spent on me since he is not working there and i do not feel right to use his money. i feel like he doesn’t want to be with me yet he doesn’t want me to be with anyone else. if you try to get him back, he will always have it at the back of his mind that he never got the chance to explore his options. 5 days ago i get a text from saying not to send things because her mother got into it with her. said if i act like this she will not talk to me. thanks for all the help and the emails each day they really have helped me through this tough time. but can i ask what should i do now knowing that he is into someone this new girl. and no, this is not just what she has told me. what i didn’t understand is his need for having to communicate that with me when he told me that he dont love me anymore. he said he loves me- but isn’t in love with me, and he wishes that he felt so strongly about me but doesn’t. he has said he is staying until he has money to get a rental flat then hes out. and so to forget about me, she started dating someone. kevin, im going to try to make this as short as possible. she told me so many times that she loves me with her whole heart and never felt this way about anyone and i would have to be the one to leave her cause she could never even think about it. me and my ex broke up almost 4 years ago and and he has “moved on” he tells me i also have a bf but he just got in contact with my sister and asked for me and then he asked to talked to me with the excuse of trying to help me move on he said he told his new gf of 1 year and 6 months that he wanted to talk to me and help me. time i see his face i fall in love again. i and my girlfriend were together almost three and half years and i was her first boyfriend. and then i asked him why would he choose a new girl over a girl that has stuck by his side for the longest, and he said that she respects him, i said i always respected him, and he said no i didn’t, and i told him that he didn’t always respect me either, and he told me that i was right. knowing her, i think she is expecting that i’ll reach out to her on her b’day, as i’ve never let anything get in the way of it. which left me to continue to message through via fb trying to apologize and figure out why he would just block me and get angry over a mistake of a text. he did not sit and discuss with me his plans., you can contact him after another couple of weeks, but if you don’t feel like going through it again, then you definitely shouldn’t contact him. after a while i agreed to her decision and we texted for a while and i wished her a beautiful life with him and so we agreed to stay friends but not close however she told me not to worry that she will not post anything on facebook regarding her new relationship because she is protecting my reputation and respect as well as hers. we haven’t talked for 3 years since 2012 so we were really just excited talking to each other again. the basis of the conversation went like this (sorry it’s going to be a bit of a read):Me: i’m not here to pull a beth, just so you know. sad thing is i know i was with a boy because he ran instead of communicating back to me. example, suppose your ex always says he/she wants someone with a career goal. but also said that he needed time for himself, yet, he spends all of it with her… i still love him, and want to be with him, but it feels like he is purposely trying to show me that he is moving on, that he doesn’t care about me anymore, or that he doesn’t miss me, doesn’t love me and that he is perfectly ok without me…. if that is the path that you felt driven towards, you really should get help to find out why you have such issues within yourself. and he feels like he can just walk in and out my life anytime because he knows ill always be their my “friends” tell me im dumb and he isnt going to change. we were anyways planning to break up in a month due to distance., just advice me if he messages me in this no contact period, should i answer him…i dont want to loose him ever…., my ex and i met on an online dating site a few months ago and through our emails, pictures and skype we got extremely close- he was very helpful and comforting when my mother passed away and we made plans to meet when i made my trip to the states, we spent a week together and had an amazing time, and once i returned i brought up my decision to move there permanently (it has been on my mind for a year before i met him) and he went from initially asking me to move in with him to it declining to the point where he said he may not even meet me at the airport- we agreed to be non exclusive to avoid excessive pressure though we still like each other, until a few days before my big move when he messages me out of the blue and asks me to never message or speak to him again. i asked to have lunch with me and i was polite and friendly and said that it was good thing that we broke up because i wasn’t best boyfriend but i also said that i was a little disappointed what he did but i wasn’t too sad about it. from moving the rebound relationship too fast, another common behavior that rebound relationships have is choosing someone they’d not go for normally. if he doesn’t then continue building attraction with him and then ask him if he wants to get back together. at the very start of our relationship (he was 29 – i am 5 years older) he needed space and went to therapy – one of the issues was he needed closure from his ex. he said i cant help him achieve his dreams and then we resolved the issue and we were working on coming back together till he found out there were 2 guys who i was friends with. he works with one of my good friends and he has told her that he has no clue why im ignoring him that he hopes im ok because i have health issues and he really concerned, he also said that he’s really hurt of me disappearing that way i did and that he really misses me a lot to the point he cant get me out of his head and that he has feelings for me. is your ex for a reason, and for that reason or any other, you two are not compatible, at least not at this point in time. here is what not to do when your ex starts dating someone else. i was in my friends car so my ex couldn’t hear me..no contact isnt an option because of kids and pregnancy as well as house. anyways sorry for the long message i am just so confused with his actions and needed to express them. could you please advise what should i do next in order to get him back? and the reason why is that her boyfriend started talking to her again. break up was rough till my dad sent him a harsh message and his anger on me increased. and if he doesn’t commit even at that time, you should move on. said if i act like this she will not talk to me. i am 30 but i have never been in a situation like this before. the only thing that i can guarantee you is that you did mean a great deal to her. he is a very honest person and said he started having feelings for someone else, but that he still loved me but it seemed like it was no longer “in love”, but then he explains that it’s possible to love to people and describes are love as a garden with many plants and what he feels for this new girl as a single planted seed. confusing fact, is that she still has me on her social media as “important life event”, despite the fact she s living and possibly is together with her x husband. during this period (3 months) we stayed in contact, but it was no longer intimate/ relationship like – he would just tell me how much he loved me whilst i would encourage him to move on with his life. she already went to visit the guy in another country. all of this was just as blindsiding as the breakup. had a wonderful time with my ex mom 🙂 my ex is still asking if i still come to visit, or talk to her etc… and hes still with his bad influence single mother gf, i just want to put this out there. i ended up meeting that person in the afternoon and we had a few drinks and watched a film at his house. i have been reading your emails and have been no contact since our last visit. done everything wrong, i really wish i had read your article a month ago. i started the no contact but he had to come to the house to collect “his tv” . he came back sunday very tired and seemed hungover (he did say hes been drinking a bit) again i expected to sleep whilst he spent time with kids..all this kept happeneing for almost 1 year……few days back i requested him to help me buy something and he agreed reluctantly…i was happy that we were meeting after one year,,and then the worst happened. don’t contact him unless you realize you can be happy in your life without him. husband and i have a 20 plus year relationship consisting of being best friends (with benefits), having a child, becoming a formal couple then married (9 years total/ 6 married). he was here i asked if he wanted to take his stuff and he said no he will get them another time and now he doesn’t want nothing to do with me. but i know that it’s over there’s nothing i can’t do but usually i think that everything is possible and i’m not a person who gives up but i have done so many mistakes in relationship and after that. i didn’t contact him since and he text me yesterday on my birthday telling me that he thinks about me all the time and that he is sorry for everything.. keep telling yourself the relationship didn’t mean anything to her and you were just a plaything for her. ex and i were attracted to each other from the first moments we met. it usually doesn’t have anything to do with how perfect their rebound is for them. he knows it’s a mistake but it’s a chance he wants to take! when i questioned this new girl he told me nothing was going on. if i had to guess, she loves you more in a romantic way while her ex is more of a “father of her child” sort of love.. my ex bf ask me if i could get him any job there so he could come with me he planned to get us wed before i leave even before, i heard from his mom that for 2 weeks he was pissed off cant think clearly, he started to hang out with his officemates that are bad for him, drinking alot going to bars (which he doesn’t like ) . i stopped contacting him because he’d told me that it’s hard to leave his girlfriend. i was thinking about sending her a quick message on there if i see her profile go back into full status. i came to this uni so we could be together as well. he’s from another town and is apparently pretty poplular. thanks for all the help and the emails each day they really have helped me through this tough time. i went to his house and asked him if she was the reason everything went sour for us and he said no, that they recently had crossed paths. he said no he was dating people but nothing serious. this time, when you ask him to meet, just say you want to catch up, instead of saying “talk about things”. for my english it’s not my native language and thanks your sites are very helpful. this all came out over christmas and i opened up about my past etc. is trying to rub it in your face that she has a boyfriend. i would blow his phone us constantly & he would just ignore me all night & day. i cancelled the vacation with them and i told my ex that i was not happy with the way she handled things after the break up.’s hard to tell what’s causing this confused behavior.