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What I Learned Dating Married Men on Ashley Madison as a Single

feel i am in love with this married man, in the beginning he will call me often but those calls and texts have been little. affair with another woman's husband is painful, yet you can't let him go because you love him. you are so young, you have your life and an amazing man on the other side of this pain. i believe he married her, then turned her world upside down, just as he did mine. married men persuade you you’re their soulmate, and create this fake world…i will find the links soon and post them here! when i try to explain to my married man how i feel he does not get it, or pretends he does, but changes the subject.. we have got to realise any man that can constantly do this to their partners for a year, 3 years, 5 years and so on are pretty screwed up and we are not immune to their sh*tty behavior….!I read your stories of seeing your married man and wife on fb…ouch…. for every single one of us there is a new, bright and free future, with a man who will love us and for whom we will mean the world! when things got tough, when i made demands or needed explanations for poor behavior, they left and just moved on. there are no exceptions, i would definitely end up being hurt – so it was better to dump him immediately rather than wait months, maybe years (as many of you) and get deeply involved with him. married man contacted me today after days of silence, saying how much he misses me and doesnt know what to do. the married guy i chose to get myself involved with was an old high school friend. if someone sees me from the outside, they would see a confident, assertive and happy woman. i thought to myself — this man tells me he sleeps in different areas of the house with her, he’s not in love with her, they don’t sleep together, they barely talk, he’s only there because of his daughter, etc. the attached man has still not left almost 3 years on. i was approached by 2 other men being dignified i said i wasn’t interested, i’m a smart woman i take great pride in my appearance. he married his wife because she was from a rich family, same religion, state, everything. but you have to figure this out and put an end to the married man once and for all and move on with your life with your bf. i’m so grateful for the time we got, and that we were able to have our own world where his being married almost didn’t matter., i can’t express enough how important it is to read up on the possibility of your married man being a narc.’d like to thank all of you for giving me strength to continue to stick to my guns and let my married man go! the following few days he called me and said he’s sorry of his lied and he wanted to divorce his wife but many reasons that he can’t and his wife did not want to. he called it soul mismanagement, and his guidance was around understanding the structure and framework and regaining our integrity, working on our soul’s self care, and making a sacred covenant to your self to withhold these commitments to our self. and that’s what it boils down to, married men cannot relate to your emotions the way normal decent people can. married man always said i wish i can do this ,i wish i can do that with you. i know it feels like it but you have so many people in your life that love you. this led to me developing huge feelings for him and he me, only problem is he is married with a new baby too. i have been reading so many books to help get me through, along with talking to a counselor, my mother and a couple of really close (nonjudgmental) friends. you would be surprised how manipulative and persuading some men can be.!The write up above i’ve mentioned is why…none is real, on our side yes, not their side (but not really real for us – we don’t know what these am/mm really are…we see the fake person…the manipulative liar…the twister). have been dating a married man for the past almost 11 years. he’s still living happily with another woman, he’s doing fine without me, he doesn’t bother to show me his love, nothing matters anymore. on one hand it makes me feel less alone in loving a married man, on the other hand the pain that all your words are drenched in is so heart wrenching. looking back, i see that my married man and i reconnected only a year after my marriage ended 2 years ago. after he left, i heard nothing from him for two weeks but found out he had gotten married! but life got in the way, he had too many stresses and he couldn’t continue. i managed to ask for his number as he had mentioned previously a flat up for rent and i was looking at the time so used that as an excuse. i can’t even explain the hell you go through as ‘the other woman’. we still have opportunities unlike our married men stuck with their wives. there is a world outside of the circle in which your love for your married man is holding you captive and the door is there for all of us to walk out. were so many times that i said i was done with him, but somehow, i always went back. i always said i would never get involved with a married man. i think he loves the idea of a younger woman to control..natural and we share so many of the same interests and and and. ive been on the other side too – reality – with a different relationship of 3 years, where we lived together and the romance ends quicker when you dont retire to your separate homes at the end of the day. he is married and lives in the same building as i do. all in all, im dating someone new and moving very slow with this amazong new man. but the mask of deception fell off 33 days ago when he took his wife on a romantic weekend away to london. my so called married man insisted that he was separated from his wife but still lives in the same house as his wife and child and says he only does it for his daughter. i found out last saturday that my guy of 6 months was married. here is his response to you:Yes, most married men who maintain long term affairs are narcissists. it seriously is not worth it and you’re absolutely right … if a man truly loves you and wants only you, nothing can stand in his way. i will do my best to part in a peaceful way and keep good memories of the love i got to experience with this man.’re madly in love and want to be together, but he says he can’t decide what to do because the wedding is being arranged by his sister, and he has a 13 year old son (with another woman) who is close to his fiancee. i see this man as my soul mate and love of my life, but i’m laying here alone in bed crying and writing this. i came out a difficult marriage and my married man has been unhappy a very long time in his. true love means you can introduce the man you love to your family and friends. too deserve a happy and fulfilling life, with someone that is there 24/7 and who doesn’t sleep next to another woman plus lies, manipulates and makes you feel sad…. this man really loved you, wouldn’t he want what’s best for you and let you move on with your life? good outcomes have been my friends dad fell in love 20 years ago, was an affair but he left her mum when she turned 18 and married to his ‘soulmate’ (they are a wonderful couple and my friend loves her dads wife to bits) for 20 yrs, they are still as close as ever. he had asked if it bothered me that he was married and i said no, i was so caught up in what was going on i didn’t think twice. you’ll feel better about yourself and your life after ending the affair, and you’ll see the married man differently., even though this is a blog, your responses are so genuine and so human. so he claims that he can’t see my friend anymore and is moving in with this woman so his ex can’t use the affair attack (i did explain its rubbish and the courts would not be interested in the affair and who is seeing who).’ve been visiting this site almost every day while i was in a relationship with my married man. blocked him yesterday, our last conversation was normal, then i blocked him… today he was going crazy, calling me from different numbers, texting me… demanding an explanation, why he was blocked, what did he said…etc…. for all the crazy thinking we find ourselves having and the self loathing that comes, this is the addiction, the insane thinking, the attachment to the married man. affair with another woman’s husband is painful, yet you can’t let him go because you love him. understand that many of you are exactly where i was almost a year ago. tomorrow marks one month that i ended things with my married man. i started seeing my married man again after swearing off 10 days ago.’s a good man, i know that he really don’t want to hurt me and his family but it already happened. i was indeed busy but my problem is, the busier i am, the more i miss that man. so many times i tried to make my married man feel jealous by telling him how me and my husband had a romantic night but he was totally unperturbed, whereas i couldn’t tolerate that he goes close to his wife even for a day! when he took my old phone i had not reset it and there were some texts from a couple other guys i had dated while dating him… he became furious and asked that it just be me and him so i agreed. thought i’d say hello and thank you all as ever for your wonderful comments on breaking up with a married man. i was married for 12 years and have been divorced for 13. long-distance is not a problem -- we actually like it -- but he's still married after many years and that has become a problem for me. however , this impression that married men give you about how bad their marriage actually is, is blown up to sound worse than it probably is. because he could not muster the courage to do the right thing until now, he let me down so many times that i did not have much hope anymore. he was attached but not married then ( same person) and it was intense, an extremely comfortable connection but i broke it off after i learned they were expecting a baby. my ex-married man also said he would not have another baby, then changed his mind to lure me back in (it worked), and then said no again. no man that truly loved you would put you through this — never. i’m a married woman that is desperately trying to end thing with a very clingy man. if a man really loved you, would he put you through this? my married came over to visit on weekends or whatever time was available it was so wonderful feeling thst we belonged to each other. my ex-mm never came across as controlling to me, but when you are in love, many things are blinding. he was open that i was such a pure woman, unexposed to the badness in the world, and he would not promise any future in this relationship to confuse me.. i know one thing though, no man has ever treated me like this before. but i promise you, if you open yourself up to the possibility of learning who your married man actually is, you will begin to move forward. everything i read says to cut off all communication with the married man in order to heal, but how do i do that when we have a child together? felt the same with my guy but i even met him when i was married! the last two years i have had so many arguments about the situation with him, told him i want to be loved and made to feel special… he tells me he knows… he tells me he wants things to change too… i like to think after all these years i know him well, and i do feel sorry and sad for him too, i know we both want to be together, but it hasnt happened properly in 10 years… so my heart and head tell me i need to leave this situation as its affecting the person that i want to be…. when we are younger and unmarried, we are free to move onto another relationship if the one we are in doesn’t work out. he’s been married to her for 30 years and we been doing this for 7 years. he is a great father and a very caring man – i got to give him that. i can’t say i have never been attracted to another man in all these years. i knew he was married from the start and we met for work purposes a few times before anything happened., think of this his wife has no peace of mind, and married to a cheating scumbag, and you have freedom x. plus you are married so you don’t feel the full weight of being alone. i truly believe that when he justifies his actions, turns things around on me, calls her out for potentially dating someone else, he believes in his mind that he is right in doing so. we are all probs pretty lucky we’re not trapped with a self-centered sociopath who only cares about himself and manipulates others. m nt happy with this kinda arrangement where he has me as a filler n his wife as a permanent solution! anyone who is still involved with a married man, all i can say is end it now. he made it clear that we are both married and this is a distraction from current life. but i’m not carrying on being a secret, i deserve a man who can love me 100% of the time, as we all do. i really love this man for a few reasons: he helped me see the value in me, he taught me a lot about people, i learned a lot about myself, i learned about the complexities of life, and he taught me to be a good judge of character. when mc went to iraq he met a woman over there kept it from me and me from here. then, when that relationship ended unexpectedly, i got a job working with my married man, and my vulnerability let it start all over again. hope it helps you move forward in love and peace, and find a man who is available and willing to unite his life with yours. any woman reading this, you are not alone if you want to break up with a married man, we are here, we are a support group from different countries and we will and have helped each other more than we thought.’s been a few days since i left a post and i really thought the dynamic with my married man had changed.) and sometimes it takes a few attempts to get it right, but, please do not expect the married man to come running. he can say he loves me and he hasn’t felt like this in many years. i’m in almost a 2 year long affair and it’s been off and on so many times and we both can’t seem to let each other go completely..questioning his whereabouts and all along he is still living with his wife……i loved this man so much but i knew in my heart the truth. it feels like death how this man is hurting me. it hurts me because when thinking back, i reckon he’s never chosen me from the beginning, he could have a chance but he got married anyway and what he always said to me is he was sorry he couldn’t be with me 100% of his time, that he was not 100% mine although he loved me with all his hurt. but once, i used another account to look for his facebook updates and what i saw was his posts of their honeymoon trip to maldives with the hashtag #anywherewithwifeisbest, and another post that said “being with the one you love is the best thing in this world” – i broke down completely, who i am to this man? he still with his mistress when he had his relationship with me (if this true, he has 1 wife and 2 mistress – what an amazing man *crying*). now i’m sitting here at a wellness center in negril, jamaica doing everything to release this attachment to this man, praying, yoga, mineral baths, dancing, writing. you feel like he’s the only man for you because he told you that you’re the only woman he truly loves. i do not want any strong beautiful amazing woman to go through i have or them and anyone else in our position. so many of you have been saying about how your married men are back with their families and are happy and are having babies and forming stronger bonds with their spouses. you do… please don’t ever go back to this man. the romance isnt there anymore either… i feel the last few months for sure i have wanted to protect myself and started to hold back a lot more… i thought this would make him try harder to sort the situation out… but i asked him outright last week when will he be with me, he doesnt know. he was engaged at that time but not married yet, we both knew it’s not gonna work but the emotion between us was too strong we couldn’t hold back. going no contact is a great idea but we all handle things differently, so for me throwing breadcrumbs and hearing back, even 2 words once a day is helping me whilst i get my head straight(well, as straight as possible…i’m in utter shock at the moment it’s come to this and i realise he is a manipulative liar). everyone… after searching google, i came across this site on how to break up with a married man and started to read everyones comments. the other woman is a intimate partner secondary source who is used purely to provide fuel (emotional attention) to the narcissist and most other women are dirty little secrets. they’d rather keep on manipulating and circumventing the situation that’s working for them.

Dating a married man (wives, girlfriend, marriage, woman

marine/cop working long hours…so the work, wife and lover became to much for him to manage. years when i was with my ex, but when with my ex i said so many times i can’t carry on like this, i wanted commitment. take care of yourself and detach from your married man. depend on him for love and if you’re not married just trust in god and leave this man alone. these married men will continue to suffer in their marriages and even if they divorce, trust will always be an issue with them. many people think it doesn’t just happen but it does. he was having performance problems with her so i barely got it 1x/week for fear if she might want some he’d have to do it. i have many scars from an abusive relationship, physically and emotionally. it’s hard to believe that so many of us have the same similar story. i broke up with my married man for 2 months now., i like to read your writing about how to deal with the thoughts of the married man and his wife. i need to break up with my married man but cant bring myself to do it. after all, it’s not all about dating and affairs, is it?” “what if my married man’s excuses are actually valid? is utter rubbish and now i realise, a free man can be loved from head to toe inside out 24/7 so much more than the attached men! have been involved with a married man for almost 12 years. i kept asking a million questions to friends, so i could understand the man’s side of it. do t forget men are there when it’s easy when it start being hard and requiring real proof of love they leave us alone, because ” you are so strong, you are the stronger woman i have ever met it’s incredible” bullshit, they just want to take the guilt away and feel like we can endure anything that the wife can’t. the married men who refuse to let go of their marriage are the types that find too difficult to face their problems and to deal with reality so they need a fantasy to escape to. told me he was happily married he didn’t want to leave her. he is not prepared to start all over again with a younger woman with a young child. and when i said this time i mean one of many breakups we’ve had. in the end the other woman gets hurt,sad and feeling isolated. they love the attention, that another woman out there wants them, craves them, needs them and they love that relationship, i will let her have me when i want to let her have me. peace with the fact that nothing in life is permanent, you can’t hold on to him or anyone else or anything. too had a year long affair with a man here at work. i don’t think he can help it cause i know i’m not the only woman he’s had an affair with. that you are letting go of a man who doesn’t belong to you. of course making it easy for him and he was still married! if this man wanted to reach you, there would be absolutely nothing that would stop him, period. tonight i did speak with my married men and i was like a crazy women for a solid hour and i told him it was over and he begged me to give him one last chance & that he will do his best by me and he knows he has treated me badly and it’s going to stop. erin: is the married man i’ve been dating for 4 years just using me? you and i have more or less the same age, we have so many years to be happy. we are not dirty secrets, we are woman who deserve to be cherished and loved, dont ever settle for less than that.’m on this site because a couple months ago, i got involved with a different married man (yea, real bright). well one day out of the blue (i was doing well without him, i am the one who broke it off) he left a message on my vm that he was getting married. writing this to make sense out of the relationship i had with a married man to see if anyone agrees, or has also experienced, or thought the same way about this..why would you want to see a man like that?’s what one of my readers said about breaking up with the guy she was having an affair with:“i became involved with a married man after my divorce,” says kay on how to end your toxic love affair now – before it’s too late. look at us all, all of us in the same pain, they rarely chose the other woman..don’t imagine them, stop doing it (i used to do the same…so many times), you need to get busy, all the time, just keep yourself busy so your mind is busy, then you are tired go to bed sleep and it is the next day. that was 6 weeks ago and he has been round for sleepovers twice ( how can she put up with this) and yesterday he turned up after 11 days no contact (my choice) to tell me how much he loves me, how sorry he is for hurting me and i’ve told him not to come again and not to contact me again, i need more than crumbs of this man and his wife needs him to step up and be the man she thought she had married. we all want to be with our married men for one more time😔. i’m zooey i recently got involved with a married man when i’m also married we’ve been seeing each other for about 3 months until last week when he text me and said he valued his wife and jesus more and he is sorry. have been involved less then a year with a married man. after the christmas holiday, i told him i didn’t want to continue anymore and i managed to put a stop to it for a few months. should i tell her wife what a type of man she married to. these men lie and manipulate and by the time you realise, you’re in love with low self esteem as a result of competing with his wife. because i finally moved on from my married man at one point in life. i feel that i will never find a man and i will be alone forever. i didn’t even tell the mm i had feelings for him, i just knew that if i felt so strongly, i could not get married! thinking that the man will leave and you will get your happily ever after.’m astonished reading your stories about having an affair with a married man. i have been to therapy and am a very self reflective woman who believes we are all continually evolving. you went through so many hard situations that you deserve the best from now on! it’s so hard to think of all the beautiful memories we shared, yet knowing that none of it meant anything to him, which is why it’s also so hard to see him as even being human. want to end this affair because you know it’s wrong to cheat with another woman’s husband.) how did he expect us to live together and raise a child if he was married -no response. i’m married myself, 2 young kids, and ended my affair exactly 1 month ago today..my married man was three decades older than me he is 54 and i’m 27 and his wife was my pastor. it may sound a bit harsh to many because most of us are oblivious to, or in denial of, what a narc is capable of. then he told her he was married with 2 kids but we still all went out as friends.. long story short, a married man persued me, we have what you would refer to as an online romance/affair/fling there really is no words to it. hes just using you nothing more, lies lies lies, iv been there, if he really wanted you for real, he would leave his wife and all his commitments, , married men will say anything, to get you into bed, because in reality its all they are after, wise up girl, i did. now, she urges you to stop cheating with another woman’s husband. decided to make this comment because i’ve read so many posts about “the wife” being the problem (obstacle, barrier, etc. week before last i was going out of my mind about this guy and did read your post many times to real in my besottedness (is that a word? and therefore, a vulnerable woman is the perfect thing for them. when you sleep with your boss, you entangle your love life with your financial affairs — and the best thing to do after you stop dating a married man is to get financially independent! but it is helping to know i’m not the only one in this world who has made the selfish mistake of being with a married man, but i guess you can’t help who you fall in love with. i conjured up in my own mind that i could be the one that provided the love and relationship to him while he made money with this woman. though i have never expected, but we share the bed, we did not have intercourse as his dialogue was until and unless we get married we should not have that. the author: thank you for validating the love and the relationship even though it is taboo. but thats not enough we need to be the one and only woman in a relationship with a man. i know you have put great faith in mr tudor, the narcissistic sociopath, to explain away all our married men.’ve been reading several articles about breaking up from an affair with a married man….. i later went on facebook and found out he had been married 3 years now. amanda, when i was reading your story, i started crying! can’t speak for you natalia, but i wrote a very long letter to my married man as i wanted him to understand how painful my position was and how it was tearing me apart. to know he got in his own bed, without another woman naked too next to him that night just highlighted all that was wrong seeing someone attached. being in love with a married man has made me want to close myself off to all men but i feel in my heart there is someone out there for me. don’t beat yourself up on that, if married men didn’t withdraw the way they do, we wouldn’t need to be so over the top in our pursuit of them. am also married my marriage has been unhappy for the last two years and i know that’s not an excuse. i wish i could get him out of my life but it’s so hard…he said he will divorce his wife but he is still legally married to her till now…. he broke up with me so many times, one time he said i’m a flirt, another i’m lying to him about not sleeping with my husband (i was), he doesn’t trust me…. and it’s hard to move on from a married man unless you totally cut him out of your life. 15 years ago we were both unmarried, my then boyfriend kinda not really now husband was a heavy drinker. the next day i felt soo guilty and tried to stop it immediately as having an affair with a married man is a mistake and didn’t reply to him or even speak to him for a week, but he was very persuasive and convinced me to give this relationship a shot as there was nothing between him and his wife. also, texted a woman from an online game site a few years back. i know that this – not being with a him or any other man who is not mine – is the best best decision for me. did this with married man of 3 years and when i broke up with him i almost felt nothing ! because i’ve moved on from my married man once in life and was great then fell back years later when we worked together again. it can help to remind yourself of the reasons why it may be time to end the affair as you prepare to have the break up conversation with the married man. this man has been married for 24+ years and has had several affairs that i personally didn’t find out about until later. man has robbed me of my life the last 11 months. my married man still wants to be with me…but he doesn’t give me the same attention he used to…so im like why do you still wanna be here? i cannot believe how many women out there have gone/going through the same thing with married men! he was manipulative at times, controlling at times, selfish very often, and always turned things around on me. manipulating me to stay with him longer, and longer, and longer, for nearly 5 years. we both are married, i have a young child as well. felt the same with my married man but i even met him when i was married! a week went by and he texted me that he can’t live without me and that i’m truly the only woman that he loves. i am a smart woman…a business owner…i have raised 3 college graduates…i am no fool…but when it comes to this relationship i am lost! 4 days i’ve finally talked to my married man but from me texting him. but, hearing stories of woman that continue to see the married man, i just could never do. the man you are talking about seems very controlling and probably abusive. give an example, he one time questioned his wife if she was “seeing” anyone else after he found a message from another man on her phone. started seeing an attached man (almost 4 long years now) and i was chased and chased every time about 4 months down the line when i tried to end it. the truth of what’s behind our addiction to these men, which they “need” us to believe is “love”, is his lies, his deceit, his deflections, his manipulations, his gaslighting techniques, his word games, his silent treatments, his blame-shifting, his betrayals, his future-faking, his facade! because of many factors, they have many outside interests, and don’t share outside passions or interests. i’m afraid that every man i meet i will compare to my married man and i’m afraid i will push them away. now i see that no matter how good they are and how sweet and good man they are. yes he is the most incredible man i have ever met, but, he also isn’t the most honest either so that kind of cancels the good bit out! he was supposed to come over so many times so that we can talk and he could tell me his plans and what’s going on but each time, he delays and delays and ends up cancelling which kills me. i was in a 7 year long distance relationship with a married man and 7 years ago i broke it off. what type of man of father does that to their child?! he has actually stopped me dating in the past, now he understands, but of course he does, he is running out of lies to keep me! once you have stated your intentions to end the relationship, be firm about your decision by rejecting any excuses the married man may use and walking away if he tries to persuade you to change your mind. this man is not worth my time and yet here i am missing and wanting him. many of us have tried many times to break things off and don’t succeed at first, second, 3rd, 4th or even 5th time tries and the reason is because there’s an addiction that has to be broken through education and extreme help (therapy and prayers). you’re here because you want to be free of the guilt, shame, and self-loathing that accompanies cheating with another woman’s husband. have bonded with him so it will take time to detox from him that is exactly what you must do you are young do not waste your youthful years with this man he will never leave because he will not leave the money he has built why should he get the best of both worlds! am also dating a married man for one year 2 months. he says when i was ready to go further with us he wasn’t and when he was i already married. a friend of mine introduced us but she wasn’t aware he was married.“you will find that when you see the blessing in the darkness, many other blessings will also come to light – new support, new dreams to be fulfilled, new ways to connect to your divine inner guidance and god-given worth. i agree with you not all married man are monsters and intended to hurt us in the start but in the end we all get hurt and has to carry on with the guilt, shame, disappointment and bitterness for i don’t know how long.. we’re back dating each other (secretly of course) for the past year now. but you will managed, you can’t believe it now but you will. you are right…we have always been the 2nd option to the married men. have been seeing my married man for three years now. i know i have to end this affair with a married man and focus on my healing.

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then he told he will divorce his wife(he is married since 25 years with one son, and one daughter who has died at the age of 3, who also shares the same birth year as mine), but i don’t wanted to be a family breaker so i forbid him not to do so. about 2 years ago, i met an older man (60 – i am 43), and he pursued me like crazy. anyway this man that was pursuing me i finally gave in around may of this year and i’m embarrassed and ashamed to say we had online sex. now i’m like an obsessed, insane woman checking my phone every ten minutes for a message. maybe your prayers are being answered by finding this site and now it’s up to you to decide if you’re truly ready to see your entire relationship with the married man from a completely different perspective. i mean, i did a bad thing by knowingly getting involved with a married man in the first place. my married man, he is married to the one he loves, spending time with her, having a baby with her, building a life with her, everything is smooth. i counted how many times i tried leaving my ex-married man, and it is 7 on the dot. you so much…my relationship with my married man sends me on drinking binges almost every weekend…i need to stop before i damage some organs in my body…i just cant seem to figure him out…i cant tell if he’s happy or unhappy with his wife…but i feel he’s comfortable…. i have told my story before: married man and wife went through many iui to get pregnant (over 15 trys) never thought it would happen…and it finally did. not shared my feelings with him and only weeks earlier i knew i was in love with this man. had the same issue with my married man, i met him at work he was my boss, after six months he said he fell in love with me and the same with me, he was everything i wanted, he gave me attention, love and respect for 5 months and then started to change his behaviour. is the note i sent to my married man when breaking up. how do i leave the man that i am so in love with. phony relationship with married man also ended a week ago but we mutually agreed to move on and set each other free. your comments, i’ve been meaning to write here for a while, but the festive season and getting back to dating has got in the way! was married for 15 years (divorced four years ago) and don't remember ever having felt so right with anyone before. i have never been treated as badly by any man before in my life. i’d say let his wife have his sorry ass, she, poor woman, is stuck with him while you are free if you can just see it as freedom. if you abuse someone (and that means cheat on them, hit them, not talk to them, erode their self esteem and so many other different ways) and it happens once, maybe twice, it could be written off as an aberration caused by drinking, stress, medication or fatigue. am dating a married man, have been for 2 years next month. that letting go of an affair with another woman’s husband is painful, but you can put it behind you. though i think right now whatever you do you need to do it for you and not for you married man. the man accepts it, because he has to, he doesn’t have a choice, unless he leaves, but that is almost impossible by this point in your life. but it’s scarier to think about how living off the crumbs of your married man will destroy you. i worked out of town and went home to find my husband had another woman living in my house. we started and i get pregnant and he was happy as we were getting ready for our marriage i found out he was married in africa without kids. it will likely be up to you to end the relationship, as the married man may be content to string you along and continue to use the same excuses. but in saying this you seem to be conveniently forgetting that many women having affairs with mm are also cheating on their partners! Perhaps you are deep in a relationship with a married man and are trying to figure out how to break it off with him. in looking back, i understood that the two relationships prior to first meeting my married man in my twenties, both partners had betrayed me in our ‘committed’ relationships. i couldn’t go on vacations, couldn’t go to any gatherings or birthday parties because, “i’d look like a single woman”. have been involved with a married man for almost 12 years. when i met my mm he was so charming sweet and handsome my type lol anyway i never knew he was seeing anthor woman til one day i look through his mail while he in the shower i seen a woman name the mail but i had been with him 9m before seeing the woman’s name he had told me there were nobody else the way it looked to me there wasn’t anybody else but me but it all seemed a big old lie my betfriend finds him on fb married and having twins with his wife while i’m 5mths pregant with his baby boy i was alone during pregancy baby shower it was hard but i am strong i’m so hurt now 2016 its 4yrs over been with him i don’t know how to leave him i love him so but i need faith to move on hes in and out my life my son life his not supportive emotionally i just need a way to find the courage to move on to better. i became involved with a close friend who was a married man after i divorced. ways to support yourself financially is the best way to get over your affair with a married boss. this man was the love of my life, whether i was truly his or not, but it no longer matters to me, what i was or wasn’t to him. i was involved with a married man for nearly 5 years, so i know pain and suffering, and i know how hard it is to get away, but you have to start someplace and i’m doing my damndest to lead all of you in the right direction. when you talked about schemes to keep a married man. you again for writing this article about breaking up with a married man, and ty to everyone that wrote in and shared their story 🙂. anyone know how i can break away from this relationship with a married man as nicely as possible but he can still be part of my life because of work?"i am in a relationship with a married man, which is full of lies. it is hard, but seeing how there’s so many of us taking it one day at a time is such an amazing help. one month into he told me while we were laying in my bed that he was married but they have been separated for 14-16 years and gave a list of reasons that things didn’t work out. i feel bad knowing that i’m the other woman, but i just love him too much. i always thought it was cute and romantic, like a quest. example, you may begin by telling the married man you need to discuss your relationship and your unhappiness or discomfort with the situation. i’m going through the breakup process with this married man again because enough is enough. i love the part about breaking away from the man (although real men don’t treat ladies like this! if i only knew at the beginning that falling for this man was going to turn my world upside down! experience after being in a relationship with a married for 6 years left me more lonely. i met my married man i was married too- that was 7 years ago. one of my friend once told me, if a man doesn’t get serious with you after 3 months max, he never will. i’ve been a psychotic mess over my married man.’ve heard the i don’t want to leave my child so many times, i ended my 14 year relationship with my children’s father i was so unhappy. god will never open the door for you for what you truly deserve until you close the door with the married man. well, i have to own that i put myself here, but i too am involved with a married man. if this man is showing any signs at all of dysfunction, it’s simply not a good, healthy relationship for you. u just walk away from someone you call your soulmate and just go on living with another woman for the rest of your life…. 17 years same man and we have a child together as well that nobody knows as i am married now too. he just told me that he found out today that he will be going home (he’s from out of state) and when he returns after 20 days he will be staying elsewhere, i couldn’t believe how much this hurt me, i found out about his being married a week ago and thought i had just accepted that he was a no-go but figured that i would leave him on my own timeline, this sucks! did i realise i was about to fall in love with this man and him me. she has to hear this ex pull up outside her house 3 times a week to pick us his daughter, he refused to say goodbye claiming ‘i’d break down and i don’t want to cheat on my new woman’ – very rich coming from him as he forgot to end it with my friend before he decided to start with this other woman! i also want to tell all girls who date a married man that don’t hesitate until the minute comes. married man will go thru times sometimes a day or three without contact. have been seeing my married man for about a year now. you know this isn’t real love, and you know the married man won’t leave his wife for you. it doesn’t matter if you’ve been with this man for 3 months or 10 years, if you have been dealing with a narcissist, you need to start by being patient with yourself right now. if i can also suggest, read the comments (there may be many) because you might recognize yourself in many of the people. he has married three other people, but never wanted to fully be with you? have been in a 4 year affair this summer with a married man who is older than i am. it is so hard and painful to let go of the man i still believe to be my soulmate and the love of my life. i have just ended a 6 month relationship with a married man and i am sick and devastated. he tells me he wants to be with me, but he is married and has three children and this is the excuse i always get, the children… they are now teenagers, i feel guilty… i want to settle down and have normal things with someone who really wants to be with me… and as much as i know he wants me. i went through a rocky divorce and he was ‘there’ as a friend, but i never crossed the line, neither did i let him do that, because he was married. never imagined i would ever be with a married man, but in a blink of an eye, 4 years later and i am left feeling so utterly lost and alone. someone who has been over and is now happy after their affair with a married man. after our closeness he started to back off, hot and cold and this is when i started to get depressed and i started to make demands from him. a colleague who is actually a close friend of my am for about 10 yrs, managed to keep his job but needed somewhere new to stay, he came over and liked the room so i got that sorted too (there was no more rent from the am). she has no idea what kind of man she is married to…i think if she look at my proof it will prove what a dog he is…. accidentally found site and the comments on how to end a relationship with a married man. it’s early days (a few months) but i forgot what it was like having undivided attention of a true and single man who puts you first and can text and call anytime! i feel sad bc in the past year i’ve made some connections with friends at the gym but in order for me to separate i have to totally let everything associated with this man go. i’m just accepting the fact that i have to let my married man go…but it hurts like hell. i became involved with this man thinking it would be a brief fling. it’s been over seven weeks now since i last spoke to my married man that’s almost two months! you need to go no contact now because this man will destroy your life and steal your soul. the thing that has me really hurt right now is i saw the married man this week and the next day my son had surgery. i become involved with a married man who lives in the same building as i do. i thought i could manage it because it’s much different than the other situation; but i know heartbreak is inevitable. i had been with my mm for nine years myself, but i am married too so there was no question of leaving our spouses and kids, it was just that he completed me in a way my husband never could, and we were more of friends than lovers anyway.’s ‘happily married’ likes being married, doesn’t want to leave his wife and yet here we are. my beautiful married man whom i still sadly love so much. this time i’m fighting with everything, every prayer, every blog post, every woman who has or is in the same situation. he made so many promises and set so many dates of when this would take place and when that would take place. trying for the umpteenth time to break off a relationship of over 10 years with a married man. course your hearts hurt, of course you will have hard time sad days find your self crying and many other things but you gonna be alright. he has been to my home and job before, but to be honest, i do not believe he will come to either demanding what happened. i’ve read tons of articles about cheating married men and fact is they will always choose to stay in a comfortable situation, even if it’s not what they want, because it’s easier. wish i have your courageous and strength…you are a strong woman…. realised, i was smitten, and that i could love someone far more than the am man. i was married for the first 6, i had never cheated before in my life, and i found it impossible to be so in love with my married man and going through the motions with my husband. articleshow to tell if your date is marriedhow to get a man to leave his wifehow to get a man to marry youhow to get over a break up. i wish more people would read the narcissist website i posted so many times, but i also understand that everyone has to learn in their own way, my prayers are with you, asking for strength, light and guidance as you find your way out of the mess that he dragged you into. i must say, like most, i want to believe that the love with married man is special, that is was destiny that we met and we are made for each other because it is so special between us. but they are probably so entangled in their lies, control, and manipulations, just as we once were. to anyone that is starting an affair with a married man or considering it please run like hell. i truly believe this man loves me deeply, which is also why it’s so hard to let go because i can’t let go of the hope i hold onto that he might still come back some day. has been the best article so far i read about how to break up with a married man. sometimes learning how to break up with a married man involves a decision. i’m not going to get into the details of how i ended up loving someone who was married, because it’s not important at this point, but just know that i did not set out to be in this type of relationship. then i got married to my on again off again bf while he was in korea and had never indicated he wanted more. he’s capable of manipulating me in the best possible way and every single time i fall for his manipulation. truth is, while you’re getting the golden period, she’s being devalued (manipulated – see above); and when you’re being devalued, she’s (or a new source of supply) getting the golden period. i always knew he was married from the beginning, she was in a diferent country and he was alone you could say. its been 34 days since i ended a 2 year relationship with my married man. i felt in my gut that he was never separated but living as man and wife. you’re very strong, the thought of even going near my attached mans front door makes me feel ill, as he lives 70 miles away and i guess i’ve never had to face his reality (i’ve never been anywhere near where he lives) and like you, we haven’t been trying for a baby, but i’ve never fell pregnant so have spent the past 2 years having fertility checks, and now it’s time to make an appointment to plan a date…yet he hasn’t left? that married men may really be lonely, they may be decent people but the breakup is always messy and cruel and very damaging to us. she was so uncomfortable and hurt with the incident as she treats him as her good friend, and she hate dating mm. there is something intoxicating about a man in uniform and in power. his new wife didn’t even live with him after they were married, she only came home on weekends. long story short……he’s had a child, i was forced to abort mine cause he said he didn’t want anymore, he got married, my marriage is still rocky and i’m stuck lonely sad depressed and wanting to be loved. have been married for 6 years and having an affair for almost 5 with another married man from work. know it’s hard to think of your married men as anything less than great, but at least take the time to read the two blogs i’ve posted below and sincerely ask yourselves … “have mind games been played on me – from the beginning of the relationship up until right now? unfortunately, for many, they don’t get the lesson the first time, so they tend to keep repeating their dysfunctional behaviors. you isolate because there are not many you can confide in without being judged and you spend most of your time alone with him as it is difficult to be seen in public together. the affair continued because i had fallen in love with this man. i managed to go five months no contact and then when he messaged me i caved. after i left, my attached man started staying with me 2 nights a week, it was bliss as was usually the car and hotels before (gosh, who’d thought an intelligent level headed mid thirties girl would do such tacky things! he lied to me initially that he was a divorcee but i was caught by his wife after our 9 months of dating. so, in turn, his apologies were actually his way of manipulating me further.

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i can’t believe how much time and energy i wasted on this man. and soon enough i know and i believe we will be with the man we deserve! do something else tomorrow, anything fun, cancel the married man! they have observed us and know what most ,not all woman are like when in love. in march, i met a man or so i thought.’t think for one minute that your married men love you because they don’t. i’ve heard many a people say ‘they’re all the same, we all have the same stories. have gone back on my word , all the comments i have made, my married man has been in contact with me, he asked me if i would let him stay with me for the night, as his wife is away for a few, days, and haven’t had the chance to do this very often in the 5 years, so stupidity, i said yes, we arranged that he would come when she had rung him , which would have been about 11.. these are not the actions of a man that cares, he holds on for someone to lean on, but at this very moment he is happily at home with his daughters and partners, and will never ever admit it. i broke up with my married man exactly a week ago. any one has the same feeling about their married men, or had, and can help somehow i will be happy to hear. they’re happily married now and my friend is glad she stayed with him…but it was a long road! lastly, something i realized in myself and many of the ladies on here is that we miss our married men even more because of what they have now.. i have been seeing this married man for 2 years now, i am also married with two kids and a very good husband. my ex married man has no children and says he doesnt sleep with his wife bla bla. i can’t speak for all married men, but it seems to me that they enjoy having a woman that “needs them” emotionally and physically. found this site so helpful, i was involved with a man who had another woman. i believe that my married man was with me only coz he was alone in this city.. so after his wife and kids keep treating me i decided to break it off with this married man but he cried and begged me not to leave him this continued until the last couple of weeks ago when his wife showed up to my job and then they came to my house…it hurts so bad but the sad thing is that i really miss him but at the same time i can’t stand him. you said you don’t miss your married man and it’s not regret, but if isn’t that, then what is it?, i have been involved with my married man since 6 months and have cut off communication since 3 days. you will be proud of yourself that you had the courage and dignity to stop dating a married man, and you will start readying yourself for a healthy new relationship. are so many beautiful and nice things in our lives, we just have to see and enjoy them again…step by step. my engagement ended a year ago then i reengaged with my married man months later. most woman who are in relationships with married man or involved go through a lot of psychological pain and suffering, low selfesteem. if u are single dont you ever date a married man. while my mm says this woman at work doesn’t know, she does and she looks at me like i am poop every time i see her.. cried myself to sleep too many nights cos he was perfect. i text back saying thank you so much, you have really cheered me up and this is the first saturday i have woken up happy in many many years. my ex-married man, did the exact same thing to me after nearly 5 years. i don’t know why i married him my heart has been elsewhere all this time. i know you’ve given me many reasons to be happy when i’m with you, but the guilt i feel after our encounters has become insurmountable to me. i was in a scary ‘relationship’ and suffered many hardships with my bf at the time whom i’d only been with a few years. it quickly became clear we were going to have an affair — texting all the time, sexual innuendos, going away together… i knew he was married – 30 years – and had a daughter. not every person is a good human being and there are lots of nasty people out in this world, who are just nasty and not necessarily have a personality disorder. i think that is the best advice i have gotten from many women on this site. i was in this awful situation for a year, but spent more years turning other men down and even leaving my fiance for the married man i got involved with. you keep your married man as your contact, i can assure you that tomorrow, or in a week or two, even three, you will feel an irresistible urge to initiate contact, or worse, he contacts you first which will make it even harder for you to keep silent. then he got married and i was so upset but he still loved me a lot and tried to maintain the relationship and we loved each other even more. i know that he is my center and not a man especially a married one who lies to me. be 21 this year 2016 i met my married man when i was 17 he is now 29. i married, was happy for 24 of 27 years, and then discovered my ex was cheating, and our marriage was over. the married ones who do get back with us will do so temporarily because they miss us or we coerce them to, but the same pattern will play out. btw, i met him on one of the dating sites., what you says almost explains my married man’s behavior. how many people do you know who post happy, loving photos while being unhappy or flat out miserable? story goes like this i live in europe and i met a man in my church , before we started our relationship i asked him are you married he said no. jenny thank u for your compassion… its comforting to know someone else has been through this dating a married man that really understands because when your in this type of situation you feel so alone and isolated. you imagine what it’s like to actually live with a manipulative liar that cheats so so easily? why have you decided that aiming beneath the bar of common self-respect is better than saying no to a sexual relationship under the auspice of unattainable ‘romantic’ mirage? i can’t believe how much time and energy i wasted on this man. i am married too and my marriage is very very troubled..Like liz’s married man using his daughter, my attached man has never been able to do that as he left his first wife and 2/3 yr old, so he has always used his business – his business he should have dropped when he realised he wanted me 3 years ago (so he said). love him dearly, we won’t live together for sometime as its not right yet, i’ve said he needs time out, i need to continue my life with him dating. sent me a picture of him in the car (the last text i sent him was very romantic but he did like he did not read it or something) i did not answer, he texted “have a great evening! i can’t believe that this is the man who used to put his nose close to mine so that he could breath the same air that i was breathing. on one hand, i want to let go, to forget my married man, to just sweep away all the memories, but on the other hand, im also afraid to let it go. back now, after 6 months of being away from the married narc (mn), i see clearly where he played mind games on me during the entire 4. i did find out he was still married eventually and was shocked and gutted but it was too late. i am so thankful i came across this page on how to break up with a married man, i relate to every single one of you and you have given me so much, saved me. and the pressure to perform womanhood — even if you aren't a woman. i contacted him (i was married, ready to file for divorce), we met and i told him i didn’t want to see him again because i needed to figure out my own life.'ve been dating a married man for almost 6 months now and am in love with him. we’re both married and i find it’s harder to break up with him coz we’ve been living together for 3 years now abroad. i wish i could tell every woman that is doing this to stop. they’ve been happily married for about 6 years and their daughter adorable. am currently involve with a married man for a year now. have met and known many couples this has happened to. i have gotten into trouble at work for my absenteeism since the official mark of the end of the relationship between my married man and i. the married man that if he doesn’t leave you alone, you’ll tell his wife! but i got a call from a guy i was dating that i left alone. but i just cannot accept a relationship where a man’s heart is torn in two.’s been one month since the married man ended it with me and i haven’t contacted him since, neither has he. but after reading so many posts, and seeing how eerily similar many of our experiences are, i can’t help but wonder if what you say is true. if even a smidgen of it was real and true and heaven sent, a man who’s sincerely in love with you would’ve never allowed you to be put in a position where you’re having to wait for him to leave another woman. your marriage ended and now you are in a dead end relationship with your married man. we’ve been through what you have, and are living examples of a woman’s innate ability to rise above difficult circumstances. she hooks on to him(fucking him with her gf while he is still married to wife #1. there are many other short blogs by this author and it would do you a world of good to educate yourself on what you’re truly dealing with. vulnerable and lonely, i was shocked that this very good looking man wanted to hang out with me and seemed genuinely interested in the work i was doing. was involved in an affair for nearly 5 years with a man i knew for 10 years before. or maybe deep down you secretly enjoy the secrecy and lies, dishonesty and pain of having an affair with a married man. the pain is unbearable, and we will all be miserable without a chance to meet “the one” until we let the married man go. takes strength and courage to let go – but you can learn how to get over a married man! i promise you, you’ll begin to get reacquainted with the woman you have been missing for so long. i don’t deserve to be second or lower priority to a man. he ensnared me in the worst way imaginable and i’m just to the point where i really don’t care if i meet anyone ever again, and if i do, i will handle myself in a completely different manner than what i’ve done before. i had forgiven myself for the past relationship because we met on a dating site and he assured me multiple times that he was single! i finally ended it with my married man and it is hard. i also said to him that if he truly didn’t care about her being with anyone else (he told me on many occasions that he didn’t), why did it bother him enough to question her. i think we have low self esteem, and we have to build each other up, as women, so that we can find strength in one another and not another man. met my married man a few years ago, we clicked i knew he was married from the start, nothing was to happen until 4 years later. to hav this man in ur life u decided to settle for the crumbs! stay strong, surround your self with good people and don’t give up and don’t go back, i have gone back so many times, and then you have to start all over again. you have to be realistic bc expecting a married man to stop having sex with his wife is impossible. married man and i keep getting back together…idk y honestly…why are we so afraid to let go? he’s been married 11 out of 16 and me 14 out of 16. my married man was cheating or trying to cheat on me. i was one of those who swore to never ever get involved with a married man, that it could never happen to me because i knew exactly what i wanted out of my life. i’m stunned by the similarity- it’s as if these men have all read the same manual, isn’t it? i can see that some of the narcissistic traits matched my mm, so many didn’t. will manage to think less and less about it, the truth is you will never get answers and never know what is the truth. it’s the happiness you derive becoz the guy dumped you to get married to the other girl and when he says he misses you u think you are the priority in his life and you mean the world to him. so we have no contact for a few weeks, he neither phones me (never does, i phone him when he is ‘free’ so i’m not on his phone bill bet many can relate to that! i am a married woman having an affair with a married man. blocked my married lover, but of course he came to my house, i was so angry, how dare he compromise me, invade my life? can relate, but my married man never hid me…his wife knows me, so do his kids…this is a toxic relationship. if you have a baby with this man, it will be very hard to cut contact with him, especially since he and his wife both have acknowledged the fact. i asked him about it and he said that it’s because he gets very occupied as his line of work can be very demanding at times. i never thought i would see a married man but i fell for him and i wasn’t even looking for anyone at the time it was a complete surprise and i couldn’t resist him. it is hard for me to leave him now after two months, i cannot even imagine how it could feel after years of my invested emotions and commitment to a man who doesnt really care about any of that. missing someone while you can’t do anything about it, especially when that someone has left you to choose another woman – his wife. the married man may have detached from you emotionally but that’s because their brain is wired differently to ours.. the one post that hit home very hard and made me gulp and feel tearful was 'in love with a married man' – it's amazing how one page essay compiled of simple, clear and concise paragraphs say so much. everything you described is my married man and our situation to a tee.’m just wanting some advise on how you handle working with your married man still… mine is my boss and we have been together for 15 months he is so very manipulative i’m not aloud to wear certain things not aloud to talk to other males he makes me feel if i do that kind of stuff i am the wrong kind of person and his love for me fades when he sees it so i try hard to do everything right…i am also married for 4 years with a young daughter i don’t know how i got myself into this situation but i know i have to stop it now as my mm has told me he and his wife are going to try for another baby and it devastates me a free everything he says to me how much he loves me and if he could he would marry me right now if he could but he will never leave because of his son, i have said we are stopping this when he sayers trying for another baby with his wife i will not put myself through that i have to draw the line somewhere or i will have no self respect, it hurts that when i gave him this ultimatum he either doesn’t try for another baby and keep me or loose me and try for another baby, he has chosen the latter and it kills me! i’ve met my married man, my soulmate, the love of my life more than four years ago. i am no longer that happy, vivacious and innocent young woman he met. are so many others, but these are a good starting place. remember that breaking up with a married man will be painful and sad, but it’s better for you in the long run. but it was with a married man which means there isn’t a person in my life that i’ve been able to talk it through with, and i’m still going through absolute hell. likewise, if you think he will be happy if you have an abortion and its not what you want, you will hate him and yourself for putting yourself through that for a man who walked away and never looked back. was married to two men who ran around on me. not too many nice guys here and i’m not getting any younger either. man came to your life and treated you with cheating and lying. i cannot believe how badly a man who professed to love you can behave. i believe she fell for a charming man, who made her feel like the greatest woman on this earth, just like he did me. is not an excuse for them and no woman should stay in a relationship like this. have a 5 week old baby girl from my married man. i had said the same things to him so many times, that it was almost starting to lose its meaning. my ex-married man came across as confident, comfortable in his skin, charismatic, and made me feel like i was the only person in the room. and in that dream, he tried to send me some kind of…links, and when i clicked on those links, all i could see was how he proposed sweetly to his wife, how they got married, how they are happy together.

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he always treated me well, totall gentle man but as time passed. though the married man may promise to leave his wife and start a new life with you, he may continue to leave you hanging or string you along until you become tired of his empty words.. i'm exhausted from this, utterly utterly exhausted (it's funny as thought this earlier before buying the book…and in the book…tudor mentions when you realise he's a narcissist or has some of the many traits, you'll suddenly feel exhausted! do you handle it when u know ur married man is still having sex with his wife? my married man has 3 children, one of whom is autistic. there are an awful lot of woman out there, who very much dislike the other woman. but, you have to remember that when you date married men, you will get hurt. you must love him, otherwise you wouldn’t be sleeping with him because you know he’s another woman’s husband. hard thing was and i read this somewhere about affairs…the married man is far more concerned about his friends finding out and their feelings than their mistresses! he is married and he either needs to work things out with his wife and fix their marriage or end it. i told him that he is a liar, cheater and manipulator. my married man has a daughter from a previous marriage and she decided she wanted to live with her mom full time because she doesn’t like to be at mm home due to her not liking his wife. a girl who is dating a married man, relationships, 22 replies. because he isn’t leaving…i used to say he ‘can’t’ leave, but it’s a choice, however it may mess things up in many ways for a while.. these are not the actions of a man that cares, he holds on for someone to lean on, but at this very moment he is happily at home with his daughters and partners, and will never ever admit it. i had found out, he never forgot me and because of the dynamics dated many who had similar traits as i. have gone back and forth to this man for so many times because i can’t stand the pain of being away from him. real love doesn’t make you feel the worst pain ever, and it doesn’t change you for the worse like many of us have/did through our experiences. broke up with my married man of a bit more than 2 years. one day the married man meets someone (you, us) that jump starts his whole life again! married men only want sex and the only place you can go with him is the bedroom. love this man – i can’t seem to be able to let go.’m greatful that you ladies are sharing your stories, and experiences with these married men. thank you so much for your comment and i sincerely hope you can break away from the man who’s holding you hostage. married man was older (50’s) and i really think a lot of the older married men are having affairs and their wives know (not all and some to a a certain extent) but they turn their heads the other way, until it becomes more serious! whatever this married man says, it’s at best an illusion and at worse, blatant lies. when people talk about our married men as a drug, it’s the truth. he also told me so many lies like he wasn’t sleeping with his wife but i found out she had a miscarriage two weeks ago. here’s how to break up with a married man and heal your broken heart, plus encouragement from a woman who broke up with an unavailable husband that she was cheating with. in islam it’s allowed to marry more than one the thought of having another woman aside from me is killing me inside. what started out as innocent flirting turned out to be a “love story” i have no doubt in my mind that this man truly cares for me i mean after all i am the mother of his child. now i am mourning the end of my marriage and a bad breakup all while working with this man who is now going on a family vacation 🙁. and being the pathetic human being i am i called . have been on the “married man” train off and on with the same guy for many years. my friend once referred to my married man as a narcissist and i completely disagreed with her..you seem so weak and i have been there severely, get a life without this married man, wean yourself off him gradually meet people for lunch and other activities and gradually stop explaining yourself! there was nothing that he wouldn’t do for me and i never, ever felt like the other woman.. towards beginning of our affair we both were ok with the fact that we are married and cant leave our families but we still want to b together. please please do not believe the man you’re involved with. when he told me that, i realized how devastating that would be if i had bumped into them, i don’t know if he really understood that initially, as he knows many people and many friends in his business,so he was covered. i saw him and had a huge crush on him but found out he was married so i forgot all about him. here, you’ll learn how to break up with a married man – and even more importantly, you’ll discover ways to let go of someone you love. i know i’ve become the “other woman”, “the mistress” and even though he tells me differently, i know that as long as i’m in the picture i’m essentially breaking up a family and it’s killing me.. i’m not a stupid person, far from it really actually very intelligent and i actually find he is kind of dumb in many ways and he would not be the type of man i would ever usually go or fall for. the many posts i’ve read on this site, as well as what’s happened to me personally, it’s clear that there have been numerous lies told, promises broken, silent treatments given, guilt-shaming, blame-shifting, false or vague explanations, etc. so it’s not like you can’t be in an affair with a decent man, but most often they never break up with you in a decent way, relationships end all the time but it’s only with married men that they are so long drawn out, torturous and exhausting. it is scary how all our stories are the same…i have read so many posts here, and the foundations, evolution (of the story and us becoming ghosts of ourselves) and the end, when we end up being like we never existed, this is so cringing. was already jaded about married men on site because i met a guy i went on a date on and the next day, he refused to give me his last name. i thought he was a widower when i met him, he failed to tell me he had remarried immediately after his wife passed away. this man has made me cut all contact with my husband( my husband left me, but soon after realized all his mistakes and was trying evergthing to come back to me), he made me put my life on hold for him, has kept me bound indoors…. be prepared to face the reality that breaking up with a married man is difficult and painful – but the best thing you could do for yourself. in fact, she is dating a married guy who happens to be a friend of mine. how can married men do this so easily and we can’t?. and i am young, recently married to my childhood sweetheart. i remember ur advice abt leavin the pathetic old married man whom m datin n i did exactly the same! years because he is the property manager of the building i live in and he never wore his wedding ring throughout those years and i only started hanging out with him the past three months outside of the building..learnt later he was married with a 2 years old, but we fell in love and i never let go. the married man who used to have his wife’s undivided attention might have to realize that he can no longer be the center of her universe and the relationship might become more of a struggle. accidentally found site and the comments on how to end a relationship with a married man. i like many, never…ever thought i would be with a mm because like others i detested women who could do that. my married man is also trying for a baby, so i can understand how that feels. married man is lonely and feels rejected at some level, how can you not? i have spent so many days with him, gave myself to him. am with a married man for coming 18 months and am trying to get out of this relationship. it does not matter what i'm reading about…so many traits and stories are him, and what he has done and said to me and his gf (we are both played) and now i reckon the poor ex wife…no wonder she's a little crackers, i feel sometimes i may join her! heck, it’s even hell on earth with what you go through with a married man. this is one of the best tips on how to break up with a married man: cut off all contact and leave him alone. now i am wondering-does the fact that your married man was a narc make you all feel better, or worse? i know that feeling all too well, as i went back to my married man twice. tried many times but still end up being normal again to him. my married man is also my boss and the highs and lows are dreadful. however it does not seem so easy for them to keep a woman feeling loved, desired and happy. i want to believe it with all of my heart, but after reading how so many were treated, after years of waiting, i had to let go. matter how many years you have been loving this mm, as long as he is not divorcing, nothing will end good. after you start to come through the grief, you will be grateful to no longer be trapped in the hell of searching for articles on how to break up with a married man. i knew that if a man claimed to love me as much as he did, he would not let me be alone when i was going through one of the most difficult things in my life. belief now is that the married man i fell in love with, and whom i believed fell in love with me, loves absolutely no one but himself. everything you have written, we both know them, that the married man is not worth, that he’s not ours, that he’s not ever coming back, but we keep missing them. we broken up so many times and got back together but now its really over. my married man hid the fact that he was married when we met. there it all started… i knew he was married with one child.. anyone one can give you a big fat ring and be romantic and act like your best friend and take care of you…especially when you’re their fun beautiful non moaning bit on the side…we’re a dream to men…. he’s been married to the same woman for the past almost 18 years they have four children together. dating a married man is something i looked down on others for doing and now look at me. try to keep your voice calm and controlled, as getting emotionally may signal to the married man that he can try to comfort you and avoid the break up conversation. i felt so alone until i found this site and all of you, and i’m truly grateful you shared your stories even though it makes me sad to know so many other women are experiencing such pain. have broke up and got back together so many times, i cannot even keep count, but now i see how others are treated and then dumped and i do not want to waste my time anymore. i won’t be taking revenge, as i dont wish to drop to his level, and as you said, its not worth it for a married man, there are plenty more single men in the sea, but im not going looking, as im going to have me time, lots of things i want to do, but always put off because of him, and thank you. michelle i just wanted to say that i am in your same position for over 2 years, yes i fell inlove with a married man like you he caught my heart and he always wanted me to stay and never give up and of course i never give up for him for almost 2 years and then the time passes i always hurt and get jealous with his wife i need his attention but he always with her wife he also told me that he is never happy in his marriage but he cannot leave his wife maybe that’s all the married man can’t do, so i decided to let go of him and i tell him that i give up on our relationship but he insisting his self to me he goes on my work place but i told him to stay away and don’t ever come back i don’t know what i feel but something your heart will put you on the right decision if your tired of all the things, yes i forgive him and i wish i will forget him soon just be strong to tell him that i deserve a man that will love me. we fell in love, we are alike in so many ways. always thought i’d end up with my am, i mean, like many, we have spent almost 4 years (and 3 years too long! my married man did the exact thing to me in the end. how do i leave the man that i am so in love with. have been dating my married boss for 3 years until his wife came to my house and all hell broke loose, i’ve left my job because she promised to kick me out if she finds me in the office and so pity my so called boyfriend is a coward he can’t stand up and be a man. i had given my entire heart, mind, body, soul and spirit to this man and after shedding gallons upon gallons of tears and feeling the most excruciating heartbreak in my life, at 52 years old, the time had come. i don’t speak to my married man and neither did he. never in a million years would i have ever believed my ex-married man was a narcissist, but when you start to read of similarities between your married man and others, and then read about who and what narcissists are, it’s almost impossible to deny the truth. my mm basically doesnt want to do this anymore bc we are both married.’ve been with a married man for the past 5 years. he is the kindest, gentlest man i’ve ever met. i wanted to put him and every man like him in his place. i ended my relationship with my married man after two years. many people tell me not to say anything to his wife, but i did to give me some peace. i am leaving mine so i know it is complicated but you need to make things straight, for yourself, your husband and the married man. ive worn out and let the sadness go in, i accept the fact that im abandoned by my married man and i just live another day. i had never thought that i can drift away from my marriage as my husband loves me so much and so do i, i always thought there was no room for anyone else but i fell for this man. i’d rather be me and walk away/him ignore me than the woman doing his washing, cooking, childcare, working flat out on the business (he’s a bully when it comes to that after all his business stories, i can see why the ex wife went mad in the end) then returning home to clean and iron his clothes…. met a woman in a coffee shop this morning, and we started talking and lo and behold she also had broken off an affair with a married man, what are the chances? no matter how much you hope and regardless what your married man tells you. i do think men manage to just drop one thing to move on to the next more easily than us, but i also think it comes back like a boomerang to the them one day, while we took longer to heal but we will heal in the long term. the least we deserve is to be broken up with in a kind manner. i even researched about woman moving in with their new partners into their ex ‘marital’ homes to be mature about it, and some women were great, saying it’s now their home and their memories and just bricks and mortar…. he’s everything you’ve ever wanted, you belong together…but he is another woman’s husband. i am only two weeks post breakup, still grieving, and unlike many, we did exchange a few emails back and forth, because for me, cold turkey was not the way to my healing and i have known this person for over thirty five years, always felt a strong soul connection and friendship foundation. the few of us who have read this website never, ever, wanted to believe this was who our married men were, hell sometimes i still find myself questioning if it’s true, but that’s only during my down times. you told me that these married men are not really happy but they are.) she helps him get divorced, deals with 3 kids and 2 baby mamas…and eventually married him. my children figured out he was married (damn social media).. he been married 3 times and cheated on all three wife…how his present wife not see this is beyond me…. about a 16 year long affair with possibly a child with him, he wasn’t married when it started, he is military, he honestly is the only man i’ve ever allowed my heart to love. (and men in our position going through the same thing – applies to both, i’m certainly no man hater, funny enough i’ve very close male friends who i totally respect and are like brothers to me and i mostly work with men who are wonderful, it’s a handful of men and women that ruin things) so…. he’s still fucking baby mama 2 for years during all that…there are many more before i show up. we lost contact, he remarried and a few years later, had a child at 50, with his present wife. i’m close to his mates and his dad is aware of our affair and just told him no more babies but he is a man so didn’t cautian him or tell him he is wrong. he was after something more sinister and wrong and he lured you into his fantasy just like all the other married men on this site. this woman took the man i loved his traits and rules his life. The problem is I'veAsk erin: is the married man i’ve been dating for 4 years just using me? i still miss my married man too much, i think about him almost all day, it makes me tired and stuck.. i have been married for 16 years and i met this guy at work who was also married for i think 3 years back then with one child. how do you get through a breakup up with a married man, its for the best i know but my heart hurts. i hope every woman or man reading this can gain the strength to finally come to a point where you decide you deserve more. i have been involved with a married man for a little over 4 years now and am married myself.

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it is all different for everyone, but as sharon always said, please realise than most those married men if not all are narcissist and the only thing their want is their own happiness. there are many other short blogs by this author and it would do you a world of good to educate yourself on what you’re truly dealing with. have had so many gifts from my relationship and the ending of it, yes it has been soul breaking, but i have kept searching for where the meaning is in all this and am finding answers and it does help with the pain and grief., he started pulling back, saying doesn’t want to text so much any more, and has friended some very pretty younger woman on facebook. i am not sure that my married man is a narcissist, i get confused because so many of the traits do not match what he is. i really want a man of my own and i want to get married. you may have believed these excuses when you first became involved with the married man, over time you may get tired of hearing these excuses and be frustrated that the married man seems incapable of leaving his spouse, even when he claims to be unhappy or unfulfilled. after all, our relationship didn’t start out by my looking for a married man and i wasn’t stepping on anyone’s toes by getting involved with him., please if your in a relationship with a married reconsider and leave the relationship nothing good will come out of it. maybe you are not in love with your husband, but eventually, you would see the other man for who he is too. married men who have affairs will offer very similar excuses as to why they are cheating on their spouse and why they cannot leave their spouse. a man with child characteristics will never have what it takes to move mountains for anyone. using “i” statements will show you are being accountable for your decision and are expressing your feelings without blaming or accusing the married man.. we spoke and he cleared a few misunderstandings about work and then he started getting all romantic, after the sex he just upped and was ready to leave without even satisfying any of my needs. little did i know then he had proposed to this other woman. i’ve been dating a married man for the past three months. have written before how my married man and his wife are expecting. i hope you break free from the married men you’re involved with, because those relationships don’t go anywhere. initially, i liked this man because of his voice, his spanish accent, then i thought it was hot he had a phd, intelligence is a turn on but once i got to know him, he was just as messed up as the rest of us. of course i can’t say all mm are bad, honestly there are so cases whereby they will divorce their wife and have a new relationship with the one they love, i would say there are not many such cases. when we are older and married, we are bound to that relationship legally and everything we have worked so hard for our entire life can go poof, or we lose half of it…so we stay and numb ourselves into believing this is the way it will be. we see the perfect man (most the time) who makes us feel amazing. i am married as well, and realize that i have to deal with that and move on or work on it. think about your life, your husband’s and that man. anyway, you will be blown away by what you learn about your married man and yourself. i am in love with a man that doesn’t love me. we have had many fights, many situations where we could have torn apart. and it seems easier for married men to move on. nobody knows he’s married they just know i have a “boo” i think i’ve falling in love with him and i don’t know what to do . i don’t even want to talk to another man right now. its hard as a single mother with no affection and you meet a great guy only to find out he’s married. you are not a masochist, you are a human being and a woman at that. truly hope that every woman who is on this site will be open to visiting hg’s website. you deserve a man to mess up your lipstick not mascara. i, along with many others, have been witness to how cold and aloof she was towards my affair partner, as well as towards others, and how their relationship was just really odd at best. loving and leaving a married man can drive you crazy and make you do and say things that are not the real you. prayer for you is that you find the strength and courage you need to stop dating this married man, to stop being the other woman. i pray you reconnect with god, with your husband, and with the you who deserves so much more than being the other woman. the longer you keep cheating with another woman’s husband, the worse and more degraded you will feel…. can talk to many people who have experienced similar situations on my blog. i hope that everyone on here is willing to at least read some of the articles that hg has written, and i’m sure they’ll see the similarities between their married men and a narcissist. the lies, deception and constant disappointment of having an affair with a married man was awful..was a nasty a**hole who makes every excuse under the sun to have an affair that also manipulates us too. this endless cycle of making up and breaking up is the most dreadful and soul destroying aspect of an affair with a married man. i just ended a 4 year relationship with my best friend and love, we are both married to other people. it’s madness but it’s a madness only a woman in an affair with a married man can understand. because they are a married man having an affair they are narcissistic? i walked on water, and basked in sunlight for so many years. i have worked with a married man who pursued me quite hard and confessed his feelings for me once he learned i was going through a divorce. you start to realize that you as a woman want more, you need more affection, not just what he gives you when he can.. he is a best friend of a family member of mine and he is married with a baby, i on the other hand should know better as am six years older than him, and have teens and am single, my choice split from the kids dad a year and half ago, never the right relationship for either of us. everything i read says to cut off all communication with the married man in order to heal, but how do i do that when we have a child together? after many sleepless nights, feeling horrendous, i was really good and didn’t contact him (yes i keep checking my email but at least didn’t reach out! i am married and our marriage has issues but i have been living in denial. I met a wonderful man four years ago who wound up asking me out. from everything i have been reading (and thank you for sending the links because i am taking them to heart), i just can’t deny that he has too many similarities to one. 5 years there have been so many times where i’ve been hopelessly depressed and i’d go out with my friends have drinks and meet men almost like rebelling against him. just just from what you’ve said in your message alone, i can almost guarantee your married man is one, just as mine was, and everyone else’s is. you hate yourself for sleeping with another woman’s husband, and you also tell yourself that you can’t break up with this married man because you love him. no matter how common it is to fall in love with and date a married man, it is degrading, dishonest, and disappointing. you may feel it is time to end the relationship due to frustration with his inability to leave his wife, guilt due to his constant lying to you and to his family, or anger at being “the other woman”. aren’t proud of dating a married man, and you know it’s destroying your spirit and soul. of course you still hurt, you are a normal woman and people hurt from getting played in the way we get played. one really starts off wanting to wreck their married man’s family life or even their own. it’s a pattern with all of us who have been attached to a married man. reason a married man can end an affair so easily is because his first allegiance is to his wife. i have a whole wonderful life to live without this married man! having other people in similar situations who can relate to you is definitely comforting and it gives me courage to let go of this man. me when i say this, no man who truly loved you would stay married if he found the love of his life elsewhere. been in affair for 5 yrs, and iv just ended it , his reply was i want your cunt, well says it all doesn’t, it, no i love you, please dont leave, for him it was just sex , as in the 5 yrs he never ever bought me anything, took me out, no birthday cards nothing, and the stupid fool i was i let it happen, because i loved him, of course he said the usual things that he lived in a sexless marriage, that he hated her, but never said he would leave her, they still had their holdays together, and there is no children, since i ended it its, over a week now haven’t heard a word since, and i never will contact him, what a waste of soul destroying 5yrs, never ever will i become involved, with a married man again, and the stress is unbelievable, if my children ever found out that i had been involved with a married man they would disown me , as their father had affair, which broke up my marriage, well onwards and upwards, is all im going to do, there is someone, free out in the big wide world, and if i dont find him, im going to enjoy my stress free life. the attached man (he is not married but been with his gf a good 12 years, they have a business child and mortgage together) helped me escape my violent crazy ex about 11 months after we got together. still try to move on but if i only knew why my married man dumped me, maybe help me to stop thinking about him., give yourself a chance, i’ve been dating for many years before, and got nowhere, but had fun, lovely times and memories and spend normal weekends with these guys. i wanted to text him so many times before and never did but yesterday i was weak. but, thinking of it further, could never be with him–distrust issues and would always be the other woman no matter what. it’s not just married men, it’s all men who don’t know how to behave decently and empathically and do the right thing , however uncomfortable it may feel to do it. anyway, 2 months ago he lost his job as many did where i worked. if you can learn what you’re looking for, you’re one step closer to knowing how to break up with a married man. many of us have, it is tough, it hurts every day, but this is doable. he has been married for 8 years but no children, every time he mentioned about his wife he was sad and always portrayed that there was nothing between them. i am sorry to have loved a man who wasnt mine, or who will never be. he started to demand, to know everything and cannot even go out without his permission. choose you above all else, and it will change everything- your relationships with your self, kids, your married man will feel it, your family, friends , your colleagues, everyone. basically, it was fun, he was romantic and he took me out of my day to day. i never chased him; i liked him, but since he was married i never would’ve made a move on him. many victims i’ve heard from move forward into healthier relationships and marriages that last the rest of their lifetimes. you fell prey to this man because you were broken. you actually spend you time chasing the am/mm (mine with his gf for 12 yrs so i say attached man), wanting their constant approval, apologising lots if you feel you’ve pushed them etcetc. i almost want to get her back because in a way i feel she stole my man, the one i loved so much. how does a decent man say, “i can’t discuss this now, maybe next week” and “i can’t love you the way you want, but (but? nobody knows the extent of our relationship he and i have said it many times that outside people who know just don’t understand don’t understand how we feel about one another. tell you true, if i had a girlfriend who was running around with a married man. this is first with a married man but i also had to overcome many breakups before, and when i look back, they have all gone into the past. my married man even came to a wedding with his partner in my city, and low and behold, the wedding was held at my athletic club a km from my house! it’s not a race but it will make a huge difference and it will effect how you manage the post-break up feelings. stay strong, relax and meditate if you can, exercise, find a hobby and focus on yourself because even if you were with this man you need your own life. the narcissist website, the bit about being in love with a married man, the 3 last sentences sum it up and are something like ‘my wife knows nothing about her, she thinks she knows all about my wife, neither of them know what i am’ – and that’s the core of it! i just want to to be that strong woman i always wanted to be and me leaving him is part of going on that path. although i am hurting i know that this would be my first and last time messing with a man that is in a relationship -married or not. just like with anything, it’s a matter of how many times your heart and brain can take a beating before you are done. is married with adult children, and i am married with children myself. been in an affair with a married man for 2 and half years., i try to hate him more each day & only think abt the times wen i was alone n he was havin a nice romantic night with his wife! working with this married man, looking after a young girl and facing the emotional abuse of my ex. i know it’s hard for some to believe their married man is the one, but that’ll change with time. i am a beautiful, vibrant woman who has so much to give to people who deserve it. he confessed – told me he was supposed to meet another woman but that it was cancelled. you deserve a man to be with you all the time and not just some secret get a way. i hope this helps another woman and i’m open for encouraging words from some of you. it would not be malicious intent if there were a modicum of honesty to tell your so or have the character traits to settle for so little with a married person. he married 3 times and cheated on all 3 wives…he not a winner. but i would rather be on my own and have the possibility of meeting someone who is devoted to me, than stay with a married man who doesn’t have what it takes to give me the life i deserve. how many of these married men do you think have done that? i want to be “the woman”, not the other woman. this may not be the most effective tip on how to stop dating a married man, but it may help you find compassion for his wife and strength to leave him. i’m married and have a good to great marriage and have been seeing this mm in hopes we could be together because he stalked me so i thought he really did want us together! dont think i will ever fall in love again with a single guy and definitely not with a mrried man anymore! but i am crying everyday, and many days i wish i would just sleep forever and not have to deal with anything of that.. ladies, plz plz plz tell me how do i end things with my married man? he will continue cheating on her and he will do to the next woman as he has done with you. and he had been married for a long time now n it lacked spice n spark.! words have been used forever to manipulate women wether the men are married or single. caved and started having this affair with the married man two years ago. with all the technology out there, i am in my 50s, and can’t call the man who i write to everyday, and am in love with? what hooked me hard one time was seeing my married man cry because he said he couldn’t leave wife and family and wanted to provide for me as the love of his life, but couldn’t as he felt bad abandoning innocent people. i had the exact same breakup convo with my married man. you are a wonderful human being, make sure you stay strong, one day at a time, one step at a time. i do not understand how he ended up like this and feel so lost and yet, i know i have to walk away from this man, who remove the circumstances is truly my soulmate. through as many as you can and make note of the narcissist website sharon has mentioned, seems you’re already dealing with one! my married man broke up with me on valentine’s day so imagine how im feeling. i’m going to shut the new married man situation now before i get hurt or hurt anyone else more. we cuddled for an hour on the sofa, on a sunday, like most the weekend when i’m usually alone, i had a lovely young man, in fact good looking and fit!

Dating a woman who has been emotionally abused

21 reasons you should never have an affair with a married man

lost my love when i was 63 after 2 1/2 year intense emotional affair with a married man. happy to have found a platform where i can be honest about my situation, i too am in a relationship with a married man,im now realising that i am not happy, although he gives me everything i want,he is currently paying my rented apartment ,i have a job that seems to be promising but im scared to break up with him because i do not make enough to support myself, this is a confession that i fell for a guy and got comfortable with material gain, i know i have a good head on my shoulders ,i shouldnt be in this situation. just told my married man that i can no longer do this. he says he doesn’t love her or she doesn’t understand him, but the truth is that he is committed to her because he wants to stay married to her. a real man, in real love would not cause the kind of heartache and pain we have all felt. nothing in life is worth ending your own, especially your married man. i would like to say one more thing if, a married man, is so unhappy with his marriage, and tells you he loves you, its total lies, if hes so unhappy, and hes so in love with you he would leave, get real, its just plain sex, thats what they love, and if it wasn’t you it will be someone else, once a cheat always a cheat, girls dont lose any sleep, because they won’t over you . my friends would never dream of being with a married man or letting themselves get into my situation so it makes talking to them very difficult..im happy but the other said still have pain cos he is married.! i think at the time he was panicking about losing me for some reason and at that time had not perfected the manipulation. later in 2016 i contacted my married man, i had never really got over him and just needed to speak with him. he wants you to keep dating him even though he’s married and even though he won’t leave his wife. i’ve fallen so deep for this man that i dont want to be with anybody but him. you need to see yourself like the strong woman you are, you have a nice job, people listen to you, try to see who you are for others. did a little digging and found out that guy was married. we could’t resist the love for each other so we continued and fell even deeper in love when he got married and after he got married. two months ago my 7 year relationship with my live in boyfriend ended and what do i do…i start texting my married man! he plays in a band as an outside hobby, and is commited to many paid performances. i never would have thought or considered being with a married man. the reason we are in a mess emotionally is because we are in relationships with married men, not necessarily because they are narcissists. going through a similar situation…my question is…do these married men ever get caught? that you deserve better than an affair with a married man. he has not matured into a man even though he’s 38 and most likely, never will. like you are some woman who understands every bit of his foolish acts that you will be there waiting for him. married man no longer talking to me or texts me back. but for this man, there is never enough love, never enough attention, never enough adulation, never enough sex. they are the ones who end up stuck in their unhappiness while we can break free and do have the choice to be happy again, with or without a man in our lives. you hear the hate which they talk about the side chick or the other woman. i dreamt of him and me being in 2 totally different worlds, it’s like the death – alive, the human being – ghost kind of world, but somehow we managed to talk to each other, and communicated to each other. a narcissists (please read poster ‘sharon’ and what she has to say over many threads and replies, a few below this one) will seek your attention in anyway they can and manipulate you. remember that when you’re dating a married man, you see the ideal and perfect guy., these men are all the same and use the same tools to manipulate and make us fall in love. so both these married men want 2 women in their lives. i don’t feel like being branded as ‘ the home wrecker’ and ‘the other woman’. well after 3 plus years of having this man be apart of my life, i decided enough is enough and walked away. while my story started slightly different, the communication and breakups with my married man were the same as you. i go out all the time to try to meet men but it’s hard to find the chemistry and all of the things i like in a man. he got married for the wrong reasons and i told him. i have moved behind the initial phases of recovery, in the sense that i am not in blinding grief, i am living my life, and i have lost the urge to call or message my married man. i’ve been having a affair with a married man for 7 years! why should anyone have to do so much work to keep a married man? laura, i knew my ex-married man for 10 years before ever getting involved.. he is married and is happy so why the hell does he want to torture me like this? he told me he wants to work on his marriage but is on a dating site and i found out he’s seeing other women. of my age, i have talked to so many people (around same age) that do not have any intimacy in their marriages. i read my married man’s love horoscope everyday wondering how he’s getting along with his wife or whether he had another woman when he had me. i am working on myself, but it’s hard to pull yourself up after the beating your dignity and self worth has taken being on a roller coaster for so many years. in fact, i dont wish to live with my mm or another man if i dont have to. his apparent passion et al is manufactured to draw fuel (emotional attention) from you. if he’s on a dating site and married, that should be your first sign that he’s a creep. see the pain that loving another woman’s husband causes. i can so relate to what you wrote about chasing your married man and demanding answers, hoping to jog his conscience into recognizing how badly he is behaving to another living breathing human being who he actually claimed to love. i told him that i will start dating other men and as soon as i find someone we will end it. found the strength i needed to end a secret love affair i was having with a married man., i don’t say this to give you “hope” that your married man will come back, i say it because, chances are he very well could at some point. any of you have read my posts in regard to the narcissist website then you’ll know that i sincerely believe many of the married men we’re entangled with are full blown narcissists. i’m tired of being the woman he uses for masturbation. so i tried dating websites and had a few hook ups while still seeing him but nothing i did worked, no one compared and i’ve continued seeing him. i know this is a horrible thing that i have done and i feel guilty all the time but right now i’m glad i ended this affair with a married man and i’m just trying to gather courage to stay on this path. Here's how to break up with a married man and heal your broken heart, plus encouragement from a woman who broke up with an unavailable husband that she was cheating with. a few months ago, a married man came to me (let’s call him david). i don’t know how deeply involved you are with this man, but keep in mind that the more time you stay with him, the harder it will be to let go., we were messaging up to 11, then he stopped answering, and noticed he wasnt looking at my messages, and then noticed he had un installed the app, as i kept sending messages, i haven’t heard a word since, absolutely nothing, i even said just message me, to let me know what has happened, for peace of mind, but nothing, iv been strong with the no contact rule, but stupid me , went back on my word, i just cannot believe a man can do such a thing, in so hurt, and have spent most of the day crying, how cruel, can a person be, i feel he has just played me, for the fool that i am, my feelings at the minute is also anger, to tell his wife , as i have pictures etc, to prove everything, but whats the point its obvious, its his revenge, for me ending it in the first place, so now i can see what a weak narssic man he is, hasn’t got the guts to say sorry but iv changed my mind, well iv definitely made up my mind no more married men they are the pits, if i had stayed strong, i wouldn’t be having this hurt and humiliation, and the trouble is most of them get away with it. women get exhausted and lose themselves in motherhood and can’t meet the demands the husbands make on top of all that they do and men get frustrated and feel neglected. i went to all the performances and he never hid me from anyone. you should reply to jessica on this post, she is contemplating having an abortion for a mm, at least she should see that its not easy and how a man just moves on. i’ve met a couple of men i liked who were single, but they turned out to be players who want to be with many women. there is another woman who told me she’s been having an affair with him for a couple years. i know how every one of you feel when you are in love with someone who is in a relationship/married, and you don’t know how to escape it because the love you feel for them is just too strong. broke down and cried once today, but every time i go to do it again i have to keep reminding myself of how many lies i have told over the years. am also guilty of loving a married man and i am being very stupid and i need serious help. have had a relationship with my married man for 4 yrs and it just ended yesterday when he told me his wife is pregnant. i am usually confident, and since i met him, i feel so unworthy that i am losing all my confidence and becoming needy, demanding, someone i never was. am at the moment is married to a muslim man who is married. i discovered they were married shortly after he became my boss. i recently broke things off with a married man last week. he wanted to leave her at this time i sat him down and said no way can you do that, she needs you to be the man she think you are and you need to be able to look in the mirror at the end of each day. four years of seeing my married man we stopped talking in the first week of july. i know because of this experience i will never, in my life, have another affair and i will never again fall prey to someone as conning and manipulative as the ex-mn. years ago and like you, then and now, my work suffers, i get ill, and now i don’t see the am and don’t know what to say to him anymore as i feel incredibly used (see my initial post ‘forever waiting’ and many replies to people) i’m exhausted from the mental and sometimes physical impact. i had made so many positive changes and he couldn’t make any. they had been married for about ten years when i met him. don’t let this married man ruin that, and you still deserve the best just because of this bad decision. had the exact same reaction when i read the many posts on this site. i don’t know how many times my married man says but what if i leave and it doesn’t work out …. i pray everyday that god brings me someone who loves me enough to put me first, because god knows, i put the man i love first. i am sorry to read so many women are still going through this on top of the new ones being sucked into it daily. don’t be like me and so many other women on this site who have given in time and time again because we get suckered back in by breaking nc. i couldn’t go on vacations, couldn’t go to any gatherings or birthday parties because, “i’d look like a single woman”. married man told me today he can’t and won’t leave his daughter. i am all for womanhood, and in no way possible did this woman deserve to be cheated on by her husband. to be with the man that you should be with. you find strength and courage to stop dating this married man. i love this man and i know he loves me. you are not alone, we are so many, left the same way, like if all we lived never happened and never happened…but the best thing you can do, is live for yourself and not let yourself be his puppet even when he doesnt want you in his life anymore. maybe he is and maybe he isn’t, these married men don’t really let on how they feel about you.’ve often wondered (throughout my life) why it was that i attracted so many negative people into my life; and now, i know why. am 24 years old and have been dealing with a married man would be 3 years in october. i work with the married man and he is in “love” with his wife and will always be even though she has cheated on him twice and will always forgive her. mm is not really romantic, he doesn’t tell me he loves me everyday, but i am always seeking for affection, love. as much as i’m baffled with my attached man (i’m ‘forever waiting’, please excuse my spelling and general errors, its so hard to type on a mobile!’ve been in a relationship with a married man for nearly 2 years and i’m devastated right now.ñol: romper con un hombre casado, italiano: rompere con un uomo sposato, русский: расстаться с женатым мужчиной, português: terminar com um homem casado, deutsch: sich von einem verheirateten mann trennen, français: rompre avec un homme marié, bahasa indonesia: mengakhiri hubungan dengan pria beristri. married man is not free to love you the way you were created to be loved. even if my married man was single, there are probably some items on the “bad” list that would keep you from being truly happy together, but you still can’t get over him. saw a video my married man shared on instagram, he was at concert.’ve tried so many times to leave him before, but i can’t stand the thought of not only having him as my lover, but also as my best friend. the only way you can begin self-care is by removing the married man from your life. keep faith that this situation will turn around the blessing of god will manifest in your life. i have skimmed many websites but i just can’t see many of these qualities in my married man? i found a message on his phone from another woman, calling him handsome. been together for 23 years but married 17 years…we live in the same building…half of my neighbor knows he cheats for years…why she stay is the million question. i know that this should be the end but i can not seem to stop thinking about him, his promise to never leave me, his promise to never go anywhere all of those times that he said he loved me so deeply that it would actually make him cry and this is not a man who takes his feelings lightly. are all human and we all need love and intimacy and to feel good about ourselves. you know what you have in common with every other woman who gets tangled up in a relationship with a married man? i finally ended it for real, i had broke it off with him so many times but this time it’s real. he tried so many tactics to see me again, be my friend and i flipped out.’ve never felt more connected to a man then i do with him. you can also take up stress-management techniques like yoga or meditation. honestly, i did not really have a support system, so i hope you can do better than me, but i went to london many times to see the only real friend i had, and i decided to make new memories (i went with him in so many capital of europe, i was scared of going back, but i decided to make new memories in those places to make sure i would not be scared of living again). i’ve been sneaking around with this married man, ignoring my own husband who loves me more then anyone in this world. i just need to let him go but what is killing me is letting go of wanting revenge, not the man. they fall into a pattern of being “friends” or “roommates” my married man was even moved into his own bedroom by his “wife”. there was a time when i would never have believed that my married man could hurt me. i do love him and he has said the same to me; and we have so many things in common. i told him not to do this to another woman, but i don’t think that matters to him. my friends used to be adamant he would come back, saying he’ll never find anyone like you who wants him. my parents wont accept me n this man wont leave his family for me, this he made clear from day 1! too, like all of you am involved with a married man. i think it is a brilliant idea to get pregnant again, i feel it’s one of the best ways to get over a married man. stop calling him “my married man” he’s not yours. perhaps it is not quite the same for the younger married men who either enjoy the chase, or those who are dominated by their high level of testosterone or the ones who are just missing the spark when drowning under responsibilities of raising children.

The reason why men marry some women and not others -

these are cowards , if they truly don’t or can’t leave their wives get a prostitute and quite ruining good decent emotional woman’s lives. dump that married man and live your life and find your own happiness with a guy for whom you will be a center of his universe. anybody ever thought maybe the reason why these married men become distant is because they’re seeing other women? married men develop a staggering degree of detachment to you and your pain, and they do not budge from their comfort zone to give you even a smidgeon of relief. you’ll find several readers who are honest and strong enough to share what it’s like to date and break up with a man who is married. relationships with married men are so painful, even if it starts off seemingly innocuous and fun and both parties “agree to the terms. advice sometimes we have to learn big lessons in our life and it sounds like you have, good for you for recognising this, i am super used by the amount of men who prey and are looking for a fling probably says more about their own personal character, sometimes us woman are to blame because we so desperately want to hear the words from a living man we become blindfolded and let him in so easily, they really don’t have to try very hard? it’s not necessarily the woman he’s married to. we had this shared blog, and i wrote him so many times, i sent him offline messages. i’m now on my first full day of zero contact with my married mam. you’re a strong woman and i believe in you! the way these married men love you is just not enough. i found out that if a man really wants to be with me then they would move mountains. think about how you were before the married man and during the affair. and this is the problem with us women, we are empaths and caring people, we may go in thinking we want what the man wants and that we can handle it, but we can’t., chasing and having sex with people you know are married or you are the married person in pursuit of the liaison the why is a huge question to ask yourself.'ve been dating a married man for almost 6 months now and am in love with him.'ve been dating a married man for almost 6 months now and am in love with him. he’s been with his wife for 23 years but married to her 16., it was incredibly hard for me too, to believe such negative thoughts about a man i had given every ounce of my heart and soul to. let us know how you get on…make those demands…give him a deadline and in the meantime stop trying for a baby because your child deserves 2 parents or at least a father who is not in denial. at times, i still find it shocking how everything turned out and i may never fully understand how any human being can cause so much anguish in another person’s life. i’m a married woman having an affair with a married man. i was going to end it when he told me he was married and gave me his sob story. married guy i chose to get myself involved with was an old high school friend. started seeing each other 8 months ago, it was always to be sex and he said he couldn’t make me any promises that was the mantra of our relationship. left a beautiful wife and child, got divorced, and married the gal he was running with. i miss my married man so much it hurts, the worst pain ever, yet he can laugh and joke like we never existed – we go to the same gym. i cannot get over the disbelief of how much a man can change, how he can just cut you dead and go on with his life, and you start questioning all the things that you ever shared together. i’m not even sure i can truly recover enough from this to ever be with another man but i can be on my own and with my kids no problem. but this one more time never really end, and thus starts the dynamics of breaking up and getting back together again which is the the hallmark of affairs with a married men and so detrimental to our self worth and peace of mind. he only cared for me as long as i was in his safety bubble of narcissism, those little gifts were in his safety net of not getting financially caught, he did the max he could to keep me nearby, interested, romanced, somehow that made him feel like the macho man. i met him on a dating site and we become couple after a month plus. as much as they say they love you, no man who truly loved a woman would put her through hell like this. if you think for once that that man doesn’t think about you you are very mistaken.’m a little love sick over him but know he is a nervous about us so is still on the dating site, and tbh he does need someone a little younger and that is all i’ve gone about – his age. told my married man before that i knew he didn’t love me – mainly to see how he would react or say – he said well the sex is the best that i’ve ever had and i ain’t stopping it now. do not go back… the problem (married man) cannot also be the solution. i wasn’t this woman who could separate my feelings this way. i have been seeing a married man for 9 months and no one knows. recently after a 2 year relationship broke off a relationship with a married man. i had a talk with my bf who is married with kids that i decided to do the right thing and breaking him up. to break up with a married man and heal your heart. but im still sad, im sad because i will never get to be with my soulmate- my married man, the one who my heart skips a beat for. if you are anxious or uncertain about whether or not it is the right decision to break up with the married man, it may help to make a list of the reasons why the relationship is not working. once you have the baby, the grip this man has on your psyche will lessen., it literally kills you they will manage to live without you even after to have done so much for them. am praying i can end my relationship with my married boyfriend. are my thoughts too, we have husbands that love us & i know if he ever found out about my married man i would lose it all and cause so much hurt in the process to my kids, my husband. to ensure you are understood clearly by the married man, focus on “i” statements, such as: “i feel that you are not committed to our relationship and i am not comfortable being the other woman,” or “i think we should end our affair. feel sane finally, after reading this post……i can’t cope physically pr mentally anymore with the rollercoaster that is my ‘fake’ relationship with my married bf…. when i am upset or need support and i am not all fun and laughs and romance, he treats me with silence.) i tried so many times to cut off with him, so many times i told him its over n we wud spend days without being in contact, but i realized that i m stuck in a swamp, the more i try to get out of it, the more i sink deep inside! even though i sleep over at his home and sometimes we vacation together, i want him to say i will put you before any other woman.! i am new here and involved with a married man, but hopefully not longer. but my husband hadn’t touched me for many years even though i begged him to please get help, to no avail. what a dream after being tangled up in a pointless love triangle for so many years. didnt say anything – except that we did the right thing and that he wouldnt stand a chance with me as long as he is married, as i deserve so much better than just being an affair. i am married with three young kids and have been seeing amarried man on and off for 5 years. see we affair partners make waves, we want changes, we make demands and have expectations. they don’t see us as human beings, and they sure as hell don’t treat us like humans. i’ve invested 3 years of my life falling more and more in love with this man.. i am amazed by the amount of women that are experiencing married men situations. suddenly, having to deal with his less-than-mediocre married life has become less bearable than having to deal with a whiney side object. i was vulnerable because i had not gotten over my divorce and jumped straight into this toxic relationship with my married man. of course he had no idea that i had been seeing a married man. i know he loves me, he’s cried so many times about the situation, but i believe if you really genuinely love someone you’ll do almost anything to be with them…marrying someone else is going to guarantee we’ll never be together. please protect your hearts ladies…married men are quick to steal our hearts and leave us in ruins! i can almost scream at the top of my lungs because so many of the women on this site, are in denial and completely brainwashed and just don’t want to believe what i’ve been saying for months is true. yes, they can play happy families and happy married couples – but the fact they had you ladies means there was something wrong in their marriages, something was missing there and you were providing them with what was missing. i am married with a wonderful husband and 2 beautiful kids. i’m sure most of us can relate to when we were not even close to being in a position to thinking about another man, let alone going out with one!, im in a relationship with a married man for almost 6 years now a have a son with him and our son he is 3 years old , we are working at the same place so he decided to move in with me and now i really want to break up with him coz it doesn’t assist me anymore plz help me to out of this mess. he was crying and saying am the one he loves because for years he has not gone to africa to see this wife ,yes he cares for me and our child but i can’t live with some man who lied to me, almost getting married to me and he still cheat on me with other women on facebook and all. just confused, i dont know if he needs time to think or if its another woman. i have been noticing all of his lies, his manipulations and his disappearing acts on weekends, holidays and leave. came across this website while seeking help how to break free of a mess i found myslef in… im 27, and i have started to fall for a married man who works in the same company. he loves his wife and has stated it many times. just last week, when we were together someone texted him, a woman. just know how you as a woman would treat a man that you truly believed was the one… more than likely we wouldn’t let them just walk away. i changed my attitude towards him we got closer , i let him move in my room lol, we just got super cool & i thought to myself like this too good to be true, he has a great career, not bad looking to be 42, tells me he has a daughter , & a house in texas, i said if u not married your gay, he denied being married for another month or 2, finally wen were were drunk coming from brunch heading home to cook for our friends i got it out of him, he married❗️ it’s my fault cus i should’ve broke it off then (i’ve never dated a married man), but he was like my only person who supported my decisions, & i just felt like he has my best interest in things, didn’t break it off so we lived together for 6 months whom he was here working, motivated me to get back in school, work etc got me back on track, but i’ve been feeling depressed since he left 3weeks ago❗️ i’m getting better but we are fading away, i know i deserve better & today i plan to just loose all contact, we said we were going to text & talk everyday but he slipping up! i’m supposed to go on a vacation with my married man next weekend.’t accept this married man’s phone calls, text messages, facebook popups, emails, facetime prompts, tweets, blog comments, or notes at work. do things you couldnt while you were seeing the married man.! i am just 20 and u got involved with a married guy who was working with me. i’ve been single since i was born abd never been involved with a man until my married man. i have started dating again and although i feel lost and odd, after 3 years of being alone, it’s nice to say i’m off out tonight on a 2nd date with a single (younger too! your man became distant as soon as he slept with you, it’s horrendous behavior but i guess it’s common enough. i know my married man loved me truly and during the time together, i couldnt complain any bit about how he treated me, we were in love head over heel. the moment you feel your married man is dicking you around, break up with them. may you see how valuable and worthwhile you are, and know that you deserve to be loved by a man who is 100% committed and available to you. i have discovered on this website that we are so many some days we are better than others, but right now what is important is to not go back and get strenght back..hes quite elder to me, father of a kid & married for over 10 yrs now. married man feels like to meet the most beautiful, perfect man for you. it’s amazing how they can be so manipulative to get their way.’m curious how long you have been in no contact and how you ended things permanently? i’m 19 years old and i am involved with a married man. yes, i miss the married man but i miss the man i used to know. he’s a facade: you know enough about him to give you some insight into his personality and life, but you’re not involved with the real man. i always made fun of women who dated a married men.: cheating husbandshow to break upleaving a man you loveletting go of someone you lovelong term affairstoxic relationships. i come on and read the stories every time i feel down about him, it makes me realize that there isn’t such thing as a loving, special or fairytale ending when you are involved with a married man. i don’t like the fact they are still married and i feel he still my be involved with her.. i’ve been dating this guy for over ten months now but we just broke up, he lives with his baby mama and they have a one year old daughter but he made me understand he is about to separate from her and that they stayed together because she got pregnant but that i should be patient for the baby to grow up a little . getting involved with a married man has taught me so many valuable lessons; however, i will never do it again. so i’m the other woman and i’m being cheated on.’ve been involved with a married man for almost 10 months. i will see him in a few weeks at a competition that we are both part of, and i only hope my team destroys his, and maybe he will realize it’s not cool to leave a wake of broken hearts when he, like me, just needs to man up and fix or end his marriage. when a married man says ” i feel stronger for you than my wife” but does nothing to prove that please! that said, i’m going to post this link:And hopefully it will bring insight to many of you looking for help and/or wondering why. i learned through my situation that the married man can learn to make his way back in even when you think it’s done forever, so it’s something to prepare for in order to not fail. we would share stories (he was cheating before with other women), and he would even give me advice on my failed romances. thus, if you are with a man who cheats on his wife for years, he is abusing his wife and thus he is disordered in some way. we may hate the wife because we are in competition with her for her husband, but believe me she is just an ordinary woman like us with dreams and aspirations and faith in this man she is actually unfortunate to be married to. married man texted me right away after we met and we texted everyday since. if you’re anything like me, i use to think, “god, this can’t be who my married man is because he was “always” so loving and good to me”. but yes, most of these married men are thinking about you and are unhappy.’s been 3 days since i’ve talked to my married man. i do believe there is truth to what your married man and my married man have told us, i also think we need to remember that they have not honored their commitment of “for better or for worse”. this man wasn’t able to give you this attention all the time because he was married, but i am sure that there is another man for you that does. i think it was just, like all the rest of these attached and married men, they deny a normal life at home but it’s exactly what they have, and why we get pathetic little breadcrumbs. my reader kay broke up with the married man she was having the affair with, she experienced deep grief and heartache. the potential in reflecting on your own marriage and deciding if you can love that man again. a lot of it, and it’s up to you to manage how much i can handle at once. are helping married men cheat on their wives…what if we were in the wives place…i most certainly would not be able to handle it…. isn’t it astounding how this scenario has so many common features, behaviours, and patterns throughout most if not all of the mm relationships ? however, i wouldn’t be where i am today without my many prayers to god being answered in little ways and i know one day with all the hard work i put into finally caring for myself, i will be given what i truly deserve in this life and that is a real true love all my own, even if it’s just from me to myself. you can’t because you’ve made future plans with this man, he’s promised you so many wonderful things, he gives you a love like you’ve never known in your life … but, and this is the biggest and worst but ever … none of it is real. how many of us grew up with strong morals, faith, happiness, and are also the last people in the world anyone would ever suspect would be in this situation?, the workplace, as well as church and online dating are some of the most popular places narcissists like to target and entrap their victims. maybe there is a chance that your married man isn’t a narcissist, but based on what we’ve all been through on here, i doubt it. have tried to end it so many times with my married man, even during the time things were great.

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when he realized i was no longer playing by his set of rules (manipulations), he discarded me out of the blue.?I believe the ultimate lesson here is to love yourself more and more so that will not tolerate to be with an unavailable unfaithful man. i too knew my married man before the affair started and had a close friendship with him. and i don’t know maybe i feel sorry for her that she would have to put up with a man like that. would you have stayed the other woman for the rest of your life, not having any real life of your own, while he would have ? neighbor has been and still cheating on his wife…in face throughout their relationship…they been married over 17 years but together over 23 years…since dec 18 i have been talking to my other neighbors, and to realized it is a common knowledge he’s a cheater…. you still struggling to break up with your married man? you ask, “how can a man live in a world of no love? i am dating a married man and when i am asked if i am seeing anyone, i say no, he gets angry. the silent treatment on emails a trick of narcissistic married man?’s very strong of you to stop the physical relationship, something i tried many times. i have been seeing a married man for about 10 years. you all i pray god almighty give us the grace to move on with our lives and give us the man made for us amen. these married men, they never choose us, they give up on us the moments we need them the most. he always insisted its me he wanted his life with, and no matter how many outs i tried to give him, he always assured me of his love and that the last thing he wanted was to watch me and my love walk away. he is still married and mad right now at me because i’m giving the silent treatment. i told him that i am sorry and that i apologise to him and i apologise to god for having any contact with him knowing full well he is married and that i am not ending all contact for us both to get on with our lives. the woman says she is not interested in sex anymore. it’s as if you were describing my situation though in my case there are children involved and my married man is very involved in their lives. if you think the married man in your life isn’t a narc, think again. leaving my married man was tough (we were supposed to meet in dubai, i never took the flight, we never spoke again and he was due to pay half my ticket but never did, and i don’t even have much money and got screwed) i guess now he is all happy with his wife and kid, and what can i do. i am 38 years old im married but my husband is gay thou he is in denying it to me all the time. don’t even want write much about this married man anymore. i’ve tried breaking up with my married man (whom i happen to work for which makes it infinitely worse) for months.'ve been dating a married man for almost 6 months now and am in love with him. whatever you decide, please don’t do it for the married man. the married man ended it…im okay with the decision…i was about to end also…. we both know the pain these man have caused, just as much as everyone on this thread, but the more people like you and i who are willing to come together and help each other, is the most empowering and rewarding thing we can ever do. i have a strong connection with my man and don’t know how to give up my best friend. i mean we don’t live a life together nor anything else outside of work because he is married but to put it plainly, it is based on secrets. i already feel lonely but i’d rather be alone and healthy with myself than lonely in a really sick, unhealthy relationship with a married man.’ve been seeing an married man who works at my company for almost 2years. so, are most married men who maintain long term affairs narcissists? am so mad… found out (through some social media investigations) that my married man dated a young 23 year old for 7 years until she was 30. you for sharing your stories about being involved with a married man. as i tell him hes married and his reply is i know but what can i do, i answer i cant tell you what to do you have your own mind then the conversation ends. mine is only 5 months and doesn’t share feelings much except how i made him feel like a man again in his “sexless” 2nd marriage of 36 years. the catch is, if he reaches out to you, he knows that you are demanding more -and he doesn’t want to give you more. hopefully someone reading my story will get some comfort knowing that they are not alone and that these married men are very clever in how they operate. we loved the highs, but the lows (times without the married man), which was most of the time, destroyed us. have been there, so i will tell you this: if you truly want to cut ties with this married man, delete his number (do not memorize it first), block him and delete him on all social network accounts. am dating, in fact i have fallen in love with total opposite man…. it will be extremely overwhelming at first, but it will give you answers to questions you may find yourself asking, if you choose to stay with your married man. and then last night – i was out with friends and the married guy showed up. lot of people can say all the negative things they want about getting involved with married men/women, but in the end, i believe we all (hopefully) learn valuable lessons. i believe, to the very core of me, he has destroyed many lives. you think your situation is unique and that he’s different than other married men, but they’re not..and i am sure all of us before we met them, we were happy human beings with life in front of us being enthusiastic about many things. hate myself so much for getting involved with a married man…i feel like i cant let him go…idk y…smh…he and his wife paint such a pretty picture of there lives on social media…makes me always wonder why he cheats the way he does…i also wonder does she have a clue? everyone on this site can ignore the fact that their married men are narcissists, but it’s time for all of us to stop being in denial. last thing my coffee partner said, was not to idealize the relationship, or the married man. have been nc with my married man since almost 2 months. you want to know how to stop dating a married man, try telling yourself that he doesn’t love you the way he loves his wife — even if he tells you he doesn’t love his wife! i am an intelligent, clever woman struggling with the fact that i have allowed myself to get in this situation., i took the decision today that i have to leave my married man, i just don’t know how, i search for help and here i am… i really want to be with him one more time, smell his chest and hug him soooo hard. initially he used to force me to get married to him anyhow, but i knew as per law that is illegal, so i never agreed. i have been left many times in tears and stay home bc i went back to school. i definitely think that not all married men are just using us but they start sinking under the weight of when fantasy turns to reality. i too see my married man not every day but at least twice a month…we live in the same building. he is still in the whole relationship routine and i’m not sure how other women get to spend so many weekends with their married men but i guess all our circumstances are different. he looks another woman straight in the eye and lies. healer i spoke to tied everything back to our relationship with our self and our souls, when our choices are lacking integrity or hurting and taking from others, our actions will inevitably block our path to wholeness because we have betrayed ourselves, and left a crack in our integrity with our choice to be with the married man. so somehow the grip this man had on my psyche dimmed, i had so much more to think of. he has manipulated (brainwashed) you into believing every single lie he’s told and it will only get worse with time. share with you your pains too and i think you are a very strong woman. it’s not specifically about breaking up with a married man or getting over an affair with another woman’s husband, but it will help you move forward in your life. u deserve,things you like to do,body you like to have, languages you like to learn and so many other habits that can help you.’m with a married man for more than a year now and he has been marrie for a year and a half.’s like when you’ve played a game too many times and you lose interest, completely. there is so much that doesn’t add up and although he worse 7 days a week he always has done as his job was only ever temporary and he has a huge mortgage and business bills to pay – he made out for almost 4 years he worked non stop to leave but he’s working non stop to pay his bills, he is a business man and he is working hard now for lack of salary not for me! see i’m in a loveless sexless marriage and the man i’m in love with is newly married as well. many of us have gone through a form of ptsd because the addiction is so strong. many things she didnt know about him, or he never thought to share. i knew if that man truly loved me, the way he always claimed to, the silent treatment would’ve never taken place. my husband was a cheater so why would i do that to another woman? i’m 40 and have been with this 46 year old married man for 2 1/2 years. i think the way he talked about getting married was so nonchalant that i sort of didn’t believe him. i often thought it was cute, like a romantic quest. and he gonna pay for all the pain you feel now but you don’t have to even think of that miserable man. october 2014 i started having an affair with a man who is basically married (living with his long-term partner). in march 2016 i started dating a great guy and, after a final night, i also managed to stop the friends with benefits relationship. hg tudor also has many, many books (on amazon) describing in full detail what a narcissist is all about. know what true love is, and you also know that if the married man really loved you…he’d be with you every night.’ve also been reading another website that calls the manipulation part as creating the soulmate effect. unless they come home to us every night and we are the only woman in their life, we are not their priority. off to the supermarket we’d go to grab food for the next 2 evenings of ‘us’- we even have our own nickname which i’m sure many do! you have still life in front of you and you know he has kept you away from lively situation many times.’m so tired at the moment from losing my job to money to family worries etc that i’m not even putting my point across, except please stop seeing him, join local friendship clubs, find a hobby where you’re with people, get yourself on a dating website for ‘casual’ dating. Though the married man may promise to leave his wife and start a new life with you, he. i could never look for this man in no one else because he is unique. i was in a relationship with a married man for nearly 2 years and we were in love head over heels. married men just move on so quickly, as if nothing ever happened. recently ended things with my married man of 5 yrs, as well. it is not that difficult to sweep a woman off her feet, men are smart and know that very well. my married man is my colleague and we work together in the same ward, thank god he is not my boss. for months i believed me and my married man would end up together and we would be happy but the more i read these comments it’s unrealistic and delusional.’d also like to add i know a few exceptions, but the most recent didn’t work out so well and my poor dear friend i’ve known 35 years since nursery had an awful time recently to the point she doesn’t want to go near another man. at the same token later on i told my married man i was spending time at my son’s house beach for three weeks he mentioned he wants to spend time with me there. i just want you to be open to the possibility that this man is not the man you thought he was and that’s the reason why he doesn’t care. and if the man is worth it, the most we should do is give them a second chance if we have both agreed to change the unhealthy patterns and behaviors. with all the evident…she still stay…as far as i know when his wife at work, he fool around with many women…. you're dating a married man and you don't like it. i tried to be accommodating to him and his busy schedule. the website i gave you will tell you many times over and over again, what going back to him will do for you and for him. like you all, i am a smart woman doing something so stupid. i’m stuck with this black soul of man who is not only married, but treats me like a slut..It took me 6 years to realize i evolved my life around a married man who did and still does love but couldn’t give me a healthy relationship. also get you regarding living with someone, this is why i wonder if i’ve been doing this for so long…but i also know i want a full time relationship with this man which would result in us living together, and i certainly don’t want past issues and problems with partners to stop me maybe experiencing a happy relationship. you ever stop to realize, how many other lives your affecting, hurting, destroying? a man who can’t keep his word or promises when he married someone, he will never change and you will always stay the side chick you will never be more than that to him. why do seemingly happily married cheat on their wives-im just going by pictures i see on fb…. it’s not romantic, sexy, or charming to help a married man cheat on his wife.…i had totally forgotten how really feeling like a princess felt – this was it, a man all to myself.. i wud tel him how much my husband luvs me, stories of our weddin, dating & honeymoon, wud deliberately post my pics with husband on social network, so that he sees them n feels jealous. and i know that looking for validation from a married man after he decides to break from you) is optimism at best and stupidity at worst., i have been seeing a married man for about 8 mths and now 2 mths pregnant. if the conditions in the marriage are shaky, then the spouse is vulnerable to another human being meeting the needs they have been missing. advice…please please – do not leave your husband for this disgusting old married man. been dating a married man to my full knowledge for a few months now. myself is involved with a married man for 3 and half years now trust me you made the right decision lonely weekends holidays i wish i had your courage to walk away i tried several times and he sucks me right back in yes we have great sex and hes very loyal to me in ways like texts all day long phone calls visits every month i was married 2 times and both failed so maybe im afraid of full commitment or just settle for someones crumbs but if i had to do it all over i would of never got involved with a married man he lives 2 hrs away from me and im a catch for my age and the same age as you just turned 47 this past week and feel the same way you do honey if he lied to you about the marriage hes a fraud and you mentioned you paid for everything hell no a man who cheats can at least treat you because all we are to them is there dessert best wishes to u be strong im gonna let loose soon new year and new phone number always helps. my married man of 3 years used to say the same to me! i did ask and he messaged, he said that he felt he had lost the only human that he respects the opinions of, the only adult contact that means something to him and those few weeks he felt like he’d lost a limb and i will never ever know where he was (think he meant in his head). unfortunately, for many of us, it’s not as easy to do. sue, i can sense you’re an intelligent woman, please read the blog, starting with his first article beginning august of 2015., as i’ve said, it’s been 10 months since i’ve spoken to the married man, yet i stay on this site because it’s crucial for me to help those of you either in the fog still, or just coming out. i know i will never get involved with a married man again and i know what i deserve now. i’ve tried to break it off with my married man. really, i’ve never met a man who cares so much for his kids. do have respect for my married man in the fact that he did not play mind game with me. from my experience, my married man ended things with me twice and that feeling of being let go and abandoned is absolutely awful. of course i thought it was different, like many, but at least now i feel less alone. i left my married man very soon, because i knew what was going to happen, because i learned from you all.

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i started about 18 years ago when i was involved with someone myself (not married – just living together) for 7 years. though it can be emotionally trying to break up with a married man when you still have feelings for him, it is important that you prepare yourself for the break up conversation and that you express your desire to end the relationship as clearly and effectively as possible. one day i agreed to go out with him for drinks in the evening as i had finally gotten divorced and that eve after tooo many cocktails we ended up kissing and then having sex. am also in love with a married man and i don’t know what to do. i completely understand his thought process and i know this is the type of man he is, but as i told him, i can’t just keep waiting indefinitely.’s been really helpful to read your experiences, they’ve given me strength to stick to my guns and cut ties with the man i’m in love with. we are in dysfunctional relationships but not every married man having an affair is promising their left arm to someone. in january 2016, i finally managed to put an end to sleeping with the married guy. a few weeks after this happened, another married man (let’s call him fred) came to me (i don’t know what the hell it is that i do that attracts married men and i wish i did so i would stop doing it! i was all alone that night, i tried callin this man but he was with his wife that night so obviously didnt answer. i have my ex-married man blocked, but sometimes unblock him so to see if he has is last online status shown. after not seeing the married man for about 10 years (i broke it off) i started seeing him again because my partner passed away. love yourself and you will learn and understand that you’re more than a man who wants you because he’s not confident enough or man enough because of his problems since childhood. things with my married man and i were simply just physical. i haven’t had news from my married man since a month. am currently dating a married man and i need to cut off all tires with him after reading all these mails it so true the only way is to block him so you have no tires at all with him his promises i cannot deal with any more i deserve so much more than this really i do thanks for all the emails on this website made me decide its not worth waiting. he tells me he is not happy at home and the only reason why he is staying married is because of his kids. so many of us pass years in this fog, getting more and more involved until it just tips us over the edge. she believes that married men are weak, that they don’t have the strength to choose you even if their heart wants to, for whatever reason. he done many things for his wife which i only found out last week. this is the second time i reconnected with my married man, the first was 35 years ago. told my married man when breaking up with him – that i deserve so f***ing much more than he is able to give me. and the last girl he dated, he slept with her just a few days before he got married. i worked with a married man for yrs and became involved.! i don’t need any man or any person to treat me like that.! of course my guy said he never did but honestly i would not want to be married to a man like him if you think about it. no one knows about me, even though i saw his son many times on facetime. that i’m not enough i feel so stupid… he tells me the only reason he’s doing it is because he wants a sibling for his son his son will always come first because he will not loose him he’s not doing it for his wife but i’m not studip and i’ve said this to his face i don’t believe that bs reason, any way back to the advise i’m just trying to figure out how will i survived doing no contacts but having to see him at work everyday also people at work kind of know about us and i’m worried about them laughing at me typical stupid woman gets used, he gets to walk around being the big boss the one that gets what he wants and i’m the stupid laughable woman that put myself in this situation. just broke up with a married man after 3 months and he was my business partner too. i need to forgive myself because i was such an idiot to love a man like him, but i believe time makes things work. you for being here, and sharing how difficult it is to stop dating a married man. its been 2 days i sent my married man the breakup mail & i was feeling so relaxed & free that day, he replied saying u have gone mad n u cant stop me from loving you.'ve been dating a married man for almost 6 months now and am in love with him. how could a man live in a world with no love, or intimacy? i know many are scared that they won’t connect with someone like they did their married men, and even i have that fear sometimes, but i have faith and believe it will happen. why do you leave the door open for the married man? lost my kitty and my dog in the same year, and like you, i realized this man could not be there for me in any capacity. i was resentful at happy families too, or i look at every married guy like a cheater, i am thinking “he is cheating for sure”. tomorrow marks one month since i ended things with my married man and while i do miss him so much every day, i am doing better than i thought. over an affair with a married man won’t happen overnight.’ve put off having children because i am so deeply involved with this other man and so afraid to lose him. i know i love this man but i can’t leave my husband now, and my family will completely disown me. my readers are discussing how difficult, painful, and destructive it is to keep hanging on to an affair with a married man. he was my manager at work and due to the nature of the business he was in i had met and spoken to his wife and kids many times. i’m not sure what hurts worse blowing me off after 10 years in this relationship where i have given this man everything from my heart to my mind to my body in a five minute phone call or the fact that he would rather stay with a woman that he’s told me on several occasions that he loves her but doesn’t like her. today marks two weeks since i ended things with my married man and today is truly the worst day of my life. the thing is, this man, he was engaged when we met. we shared some many things in common and he opened to me about his past and i opened to him for the first time in my life..There is no future with a married man wishing all the time. my cousin had an affair with a guy who was much older and married for 20 years, 1 child, her teen twins…she fell pregnant and he still didn’t leave his wife…9 mths pregnant she sits outside his house in her car until he left for good…it worked. i am 38 years old im married but my husband is gay thou he is in denying it to me all the time. have been together for 4 month and then i cut it, now one and half months have passed from my break up with the married man. he is another woman’s husband; he stood in front of his family and friends and vowed to love her forever. the guy who will truly love you one day will make you feel like the best woman in the world, not make you lose yourself and cry harder than ever. i put my foot down and said hats it i’m telling her -you’re my man. your mm won’t cut ties as he is still using you mentally, just like my attached man. during the time i knew him and when i was single, i held myself back from dating other people because i never felt a connection like the one i had with him. they stay married because they have built a life together and it would totally be a mess if they split up. i know that sharon and many other women gave me much needed strength, and i am so grateful for that. have deleted him from my life,Kelly, leave the married man now. it’s been over a month since my married man decided to cut contacts with me.’s so ironic that for almost 24 years i was saving myself for the right person, and of all people, i had to relinquish it to a married man. i tell myself a thousand times that i don’t want to be the other woman. dated a married guy for 9years…with him promising me marriage etc. i am also confident in the fact that the day i come across a good man, i will appreciate him.’s so insanely crazy how these married men have caused so much damage without us even knowing it at the time? can relate to your story on so many levels, it’s like all these married men give us the same lines and we still continue to be suckers for them. left him because i said i no longer wanted to be with a married man. i’ve left married man many times but the longest was 4 days. to single men, there are thousands and many nice ones. it’s a huge mistake – destructive emotionally, spiritually, physically, socially – to have an affair with another woman’s husband. was scared of dating, and he has gone ‘cold’ since, not in a horrible way, but he is a little confused as i’ve turned him down for 6 years, i feel like a besotted teenager and except for checking my phone still to see if the am has been online checking for messages from me – i’ve not given him one thought really as this young guy has captured my attention and heart. need to find some way to get out…this man is only thinking of himself…no phone, friends go some where even living in the street is better then the situation ur in… you left home at 18, do u have family members? yes, he works loads, but, he find a few hours for football matches during the season and i’m sorry but nothing is stopping him see his friends maybe every other saturday evening for a few hours (he manages the local pub for a few hours many times a week, he claims his escape and so he talks to people as he doesn’t talk to his gf he has a child with and works with 10 hours a day (! however, he was married and although it is a loveless, sexless marriage it worked. am a well educated woman as well, i don’t think you have to be smart to avoid a married man, i think we have to love ourselves more. i am at day 5 of nc and it is probably the hardest day thus far…but i do see glimmers in the mirror of the woman i once was…strong, confident, at ease, calm,peaceful (because i am not waiting to hear from him every second of my life anymore) i have begun to look at my role in this relationship and found that i have been looking for someone to fix me…so i am learning to fix me and be there for myself first! i know that he’s married i know that he’s comfortable and i know that he would never leave his kids but i also know that i was not the first affair he’s had on his wife but why stay and be unhappy and lie for the rest of your life instead of telling the truth and being happy and if he’s really chosen to make this decision to stay with his wife or his wife to stay with him how do i get over this hurts how do i begin to heal after 10 years of loving the same man? you thought your affair with this man wouldn’t turn out this way. created you to be a partner for a man who wants to spend his life with you, and who treats you with love and respect. just a note, my mm has told me many times in the past that he and his wife had gone to counseling years before we got together, but they eventually stopped going after they both felt like it didn’t do either one of them any good. i told my married man that i wanted to be there and he got mad.’s impossible to have a healthy relationship with a married man. the other thing that helps with staying away is that we won’t have the chance to let someone walk into our lives who will be free to love us unconditionally unless we stay free from married man…texts included. i never realised that having an affair with a married man can be such a similar experience, whatever the circumstances and whoever may be involved. the comments below about breaking up with a married man. then, i learned on this site many others went through the same thing..funny enough, i called an ex colleague who lives in germany who i haven’t talked to in months, ended up letting her know about my mm.. going into this i knew he was married and i knew it was wrong and i expressed that to. changed my job and he said it won’t change anything between us but no more communication, nothing i could meet him maybe every two months for an hour,He made an excuse that he’s busy all the time and i was the one always understanding, till almost one month ago we had a plan to meet each other but he said he has something to do and try to manage time to be with me also, anyway it didn’t happened again and i was upset this time when he asked i said i canceled my medical appointment because i wanted to be with you and then he stopped talking to me! i have been with a married man for the last 12 months. i know he (being what is considered a greater narcissist) knew exactly what he was going to do and how he was going to manipulate me into turning my own world upside down. there are so many things this man gave to me that i absolutely want in a relationship and i know i deserve, but because of that, i also know now that i will never settle for less than being someone’s number one! i feel especially heartfelt for those of you who had a married man who treated you like a princess because it makes it harder to move on versus someone who is a complete jerk. the bottom line is you’re being abused (emotionally brainwashed and manipulated) and so is she. my married man couldn’t bear it if i so much as scratched myself or bumped my head but now i think he won’t even blink if i drop dead at his feet. yes, i miss him and yes i get lonely but i keep coming back to this site and reading about the pain and heartbreak and i don’t want that anymore…i wish you great happiness with the right man. he gets jealous if i even talk to another man at work but he can flirt and talk to any women he wants to and i shouldn’t comment. what does he need to inform you about the weather when we have so many media outlets that can keep you informed. off all contact with him, for he is another woman’s husband. the main reason why i blocked my married man from my phone is because i knew that i was deserving of a relationship that was not secretive and based on lies. it’s very comforting to know that i am not the only one going through this, as for the longest time i felt so alone and felt like such an awful person for being involved with a married man. my biggest fear has been that i won’t meet someone who i connect with in the same capacity because i, as well as many others, feel our married men are/were our best friends and soulmates., never fall in love with a married man… this is just a game to them… learn to play the game…. like most of you, i too was having an affair with a married man. somehow i remembered i got married, had children and told him he had the wrong house. i have been involved with a married man for almost 9 years. and no married man deserves to be given all the love that comes from a good, beautiful, caring woman, especially if it’s not his wife. i would end up spending years of my life with a man who in reality is never going to leave. i’m in a much better place now (time is a good healer, i’m in the ‘shock’ stage, not the shock of not being with him, but all the lies, manipulation and at some points nastiness to get what he wanted over the years…. i spoke to my married man after 10 days of no contact. we spend so many days and nights together which makes so hard for me to let go. time flies and as a woman we don’t have so much waiting time for mm. it’s his manipulation tactic to try and draw me back in, and i see right through it. he is having his cake and eating it too, enjoying both the married life (with his wife) and the single life (with you). struck a cord in my heart because he reminded me what it was like to actually be the only woman, even for that evening, that was a part of him…no wife or gf at home. i quit looking at my married man’s wife’s account because it’s all fake. i’m waiting until i feel the time is right to tell them what i’ve been doing… or perhaps one day one of these men will catch me with the other man and the problem will sort itself out. he said he has get a lawyer to divorce his wife but on the other hand i keep seeing his wife fb putting the married status. i dressed up for this man like never before, bought lingerie, talked about interesting topics, followed politics, etc. married man was a very decent person, he was so good to me for eight years that words would fail me if i tried to describe it. i am a strong, resilient 51 year old woman, but this situation has brought me to my knees, literally. i originally posted a couple months back when i was feeling sad and lonely due to a change in my married man’s behavior. if a man truly loved you, he wouldn’t put you through this!. the universe gave us many signs during our friendship, but we ignored them and carried on. recently i’ve had some very honest conversations with my friends about dating married men, and i’ve realized that affairs are more common than i realize. men are human lol, they can and probably do have feelings for us but remember: more than likely there was someone before you and will be after you. this point, i honestly can’t say whether this man truly loved me or not, but i can say without hesitation and doubt that i do love myself and i am getting stronger by the day. i never, ever thought i would end up with him because he was married, but i knew if i had such strong feelings for him, i could not be with my boyfriend any longer. i am in the same boat i meet a man 18months ago at the time i didn’t know he was married has time went by he told me he is a carer for his wife and nothing more and now he’s doing slot more stuff with her and i need out but can’t do it i have no will power am getting very depressed x., a few more things to add and hopefully you’ll consider … the loving words a mm tells you is a form of manipulation and brainwashing and this is why it’s so damn difficult to cut ties from him. marries man said he wants to grow his children that’s why he stays (lame excuse really).

. my ex married man left his work like 2 yrs ago cause he didnt want to continue there and my dum quite the job too. no man is worth it (nothing in life is either). met a wonderful man four years ago who wound up asking me out. he still denies it today that they live as man and wife but when i ask to see the divorce papers that were signed a few months ago he refuses and he refuses for me to meet his son. i agree that the married men are not happy, which is why they wander. this man who is in front of me is a stranger and is nothing and no one to me anymore. spending quality time with family and friends, away from the married man, can help you gain perspective on the relationship and remind yourself that you have other meaningful relationships in your life besides the affair. so all this bs of them leaving us alone no contact is just a way for them to emotionally manipulate us. i know, chances are, many of you don’t think the narcissist applies to you or your relationship (i was there … i know how you feel), but please just read the link below because it may just save you many years of unnecessary heartache and deep (usually incurable) pain. i’ve asked him so many times to just “break up with me” but he never does – and this keeps me hooked and in love with him. as someone who is/also dated a married man with 2 kids i can totally relate. this man did not have the guts to marry the girl he says he loved. he knows it and you would think a decent human being would not want to hurt you that way. i wish i had never participated in this lie to myself and to another woman. i used to go on this roundabout with my married man also, the jealousy and the hurt and the wife sticking to him all the time.’re dating a married man because of something that’s missing and broken inside of you. i always took pride in my relationship because my husband is an awesome man. i hope you find the courage in you to block this man from your life and open yourself up to the potential of meeting someone who will be available to you, and will treat you like how you should be treated. stumbled across this page last night on my way home from work and it has been so helpful to read everyone else’s stories and to not know that i am the only woman who had an affair with a married man. and in another section here, from sharon…if married men wanted to leave they would, no ifs and no buts and no blaming the kids/money/business and so on. i always see him as such a good person, he never promised me anything, he said i should go many times because he loved me and did not want to hurt me. i was obesessed and almost crazy during the months that passed, chasing him, nagging and demanding answers and explanations from him, acting out. i first found this site, i thought the exact same way, but i did convince myself my relationship with a married man was different, unique, not like all the stories i had read all over the internet. and yes, there are jerks and assclowns, and there are nice decent men who just happen to married. and even if life may not be romance and roses, it doesn’t really give you an excuse to stray. ive been there and we tried many times to break up but didnt work until his wife found out about us the 2nd time. my married man ended it with me a month ago. is so true, because even though we want to be with our married men full-time, we all know deep down, he would eventually do the same thing to us too! we have gone nc many times , last one lasted 3 months. ladies why do we find these relationships so intoxicating and give so much of ourselves and our loyalty to a man that not only does not deserve it but also probably doesn’t have much concept of it! and your purpose is definitely not to satisfy some man who isn’t willing to change his life for you right now, no questions asked. and make you end up feeling sub human and less than, to be treated like this. don’t do it to capture him, don’t keep it expecting anything more than man feeling cornered into a decision., if there’s anything i can say that will help, it’s to tell you to stop looking for love from a man who cannot and will not give it to you, the way he’s promised to do so many times. how long does it take to get over a married man? this married man likes having his wife at home and you as an extra perk on the side. you need to go no contact now because this man will destroy your life and steal your soul. the harder it’ll be to break up with this married man and heal your broken heart. it’s been horrific, i don’t live near family or many friends, he has it all, promised me the world and delivered nothing. but they are so many people around, he is just one out of so many you can meet, work, friendships, support.’s married, which might add chemistry and excitement to your affair. we were in close contact even though many miles apart. just feel so stupid but i’m not strong enough to let go of this married man… he treats me like crap and i know it. my married man broke up with me four times in the last two years, although he doesn’t really call it break up. it was definitely hard for my married man to get me entangled in this mess. how many of us are actually professionals trained to make that label? prioritizing your career and your well being over the needs of the married man can help you to feel empowered and stable on your own. the married man i’ve been having an affair with – it’s been 16 years and a child together although he wasn’t married then. had a affair with a married man for the past 3 years. i was dating a man for 5 months and only after breaking things off with him (something didn’t feel right) did i find out he was married.. i am married, no kids, have an extremely loving husband but still i fell for this married man at work whos quite elder to me. the absolute turn about that a married man can affect, focussing totally on his family and leaving you wondering whether you ever even existed, is staggering. years with a man i had known from work and became extremely good friends with, for the first 10 years previous to our relationship beginning. there’s something wrong about that sentence because no princess would be kept in the dark and be given such pain by a man. looking back i would have never married him in the first place. all i can say is he was engaged, could have not got married to be with you and yet he did not. ;d ) – this poor other woman in his life deserves better herself. dating a mm is just so frustrating and exciting at the same time right? it’s just been me to pull away from him because of my married man.’ve bought the caravan he and i were looking at buying, they got a new dog, she’s posting on his business page about their romantic trip to paris. you are deep in a relationship with a married man and are trying to figure out how to break it off with him. you need to decide that you deserve more out of a relationship, and that a better man is waiting for you. searching for what your life is missing – and it’s not a married man. i told him he’s married, we live in the same building and i kind know his wife. last month my married man’s wife found a text from me. married man told me everytime we split up he was so depressed he didn’t want to go on, he started trying to find a way to make more money, so he could leave, but i can’t be a part of that. somehow, these married men tend to know how to do that to us and yet, the price is so high. when i was suffering and lonely one day, i really wanted to call my married man but never could, he didn’t use a cell except on rare occasions, and i thought to myself ‘ how insane is this? am with him for one year 2 months and initially i didn’t even know he is married until i met his wife personally in the airport when we were back from a trip.’s been over a month now that my married man ended it and i haven’t reached out. it’s been four months broken up from my nine year relationship with a married man. what i did till i knew how to live without my married man. that you’re not in love with the real man. i don’t think it’s unusual that you’ve endured many arguments and silences. years but i already felt like i’ve known my married man for years. my mm was all the good qualities you can hope for in a man multiplied by a million. always knew being with a married man would be heartbreaking and i was right. i can take a wild guess and say that at least 95% of you on this site are empathic and you’ve been exploited and manipulated. in those 4 months, i was doing counseling with my husband, when he decided he didnt want to go to counseling anymore and got verbally and emotionally abusive, i ran back to this man. many on this website, we understand very well what you are going through. you, i live 8 hours from parents, brothers too, friends dotted around and manage to keep myself busy enough and usually have a flatmate here 3 days a week (my ex-am friend and my colleague funny enough, without his bit of rent, i’d have lost my home too…. i never wanted to be the other woman and i struggled for 4 years with this. “what would you be, without the thought that (married man) is happy without you while you are suffering? i don’t know why i keep sleeping with a man who do not love me. is a key component of narcissism because sex/romance/love are powerful tools to gain fuel from you. i want you to get strong and be the woman you’re meant to be. i have been seeing my married man for over two years now as well and have talked to him every single day. i’m writing because i’m also dating a married man for two years. my story is a little different where a married man took advantage of me. welcome your thoughts on how to break up with a married man. not to him or any other man who’s not mine. this is just one blog hg tudor has from an archive of many and i just felt like it was a good place for you to start. 15 months seems like a short time compared with some, at the same time, 15 months too many. now i think, it’s so easy for him to seduce and manipulate me because he is my boss. my married man and i have had the greatest time together. had been dating for eight months when i met chris. i always judged women who had affairs with married men, and i know people who have never been in this situation who would say i deserve what i’m getting. when we start making demands, the affair becomes yet another struggle they cannot cope with because that is the type of men they are. with my married man almost a year and a half. i have not read all the comments here but seeing that there are so many makes me feel less alone. i now think that any man who can straight up lie to his woman at home is bad news. i took myself off the dating website to give myself a break, but did see my date after 2 weeks on saturday night and again we stayed up until the early hours and had a lovely time. i had an affair for 6 years with this married man i met from work. i think of him everyday i won’t lie, but really i feel so much of a stronger woman that i can move on without him and refocus on me. i may actually see the married man tonight at a party with mutual friends and i have vowed to myself not to allow his presence to alter my mood and even entertain the idea of sleeping with him. be aware though, all of our situations are different and sometimes the married man will come begging you back (hoovering) immediately or like in most cases, they give you the silent treatment for however long they feel like it. am has wasted the most important years of my life, i can never forgive him, my chances of having children are running low at 38 yrs old and i could have spent the past 3 years dating to find the right partner rather than him manipulating me. the last time we spoke he mentioned he was married and had one child. you need to look at taking care of yourself and your child with this man. still don’t know if this is is 2nd wife or 1st wife remarried. i was his friend and coworker, and was even happily dating. swear we’re all dating the same married man…they give us all the love and affection in the beginning…but later on they start to treat us like crap…why is that? be aware that not everything you read in these articles are going to be exactly what your married man does; however, i guarantee a huge chunk of it does. i can be the strong woman i always wanted to be and i will never let anyone treat me as badly as he did. think the married man is so happy to feel again that you become his focus! laurie can you please write an article on why married men cheat…does he really love his wife if he continues to have affairs? she probably is an awesome person, who is unfortunately married to a dick who should be thankful for what he has, but has probably already headed out to find the next poor gal to enjoy the hours of 3:30-5pm with. i have been with my husband for over half my life, married 22. this point, the married man may try to persuade you to change your mind or use excuses he has used in the past. we have no plans to get married; we don't even plan to move to one coast or the other. he says to me i ask too many questions (when i ask what he is doing on weekends etc).. you will manage i promise but you have to do one thing everyday to leave that nightmare. my ex husband and i decided to call it quits after 7 years of being together and 1 being married (he was my high school sweetheart).“to anyone who is still involved with a married man, all i can say is end it now,” she says. it’s been 11 days since i heard from him and the last email from that time said “thank you for being with me and being a sexy beautiful woman…” hate feeling like at this age i am being used…even though i thought i could handle it. a year later married man resurfaces ( there was rare but occasional contact, openly during my marriage) and we decide to meet. i too feel worthless, guess i’m looking for love from a man who only loves me for sex. have been dating a married man for a year now. used to feel like i was the exception with my married man. i was with my married man 2 years and a half.. i try to b strong, everyday i think of ending it with the married man, but when i see his pic on watsapp, i get carried away n numb! single one of us, whether you choose to believe it or not, had major emotional mind games played on us (some still being played), and manipulations that go well beyond normal.

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