Girl just wants to be friends after dating if you wouldn’t do it with your male friends, dont do it with her. man should not stick around and settle for friendship if he wants more. after i read your article i really feel a little easy and safer because i did exactly as you said . i had been dating this woman for close to 10 months (although she wouldn’t say dating for a while even though her own close friend told her in july we were not casually dating). told her idont need friends and cant be friends with you . just got that line “the bottom line is, we really do have a great friendship and that’s whats the best for us, i feel” my response was “ok, you wont get any argument out of me because theres nothing i can say or do to change your mind, this is what you want so all i can do is respect your decision. do we totally back out of friendships with guys we’re not interested in? if they don’t come around, then you can walk for good but i think some of these girls are just nervous and want a little time to get to know you better. tell her you are patient, but that for your own well-being, because you are not a martyr, you’ll only accept her friendship as a temporary situation and ask her to she honor your intentions to let you go completely if she sees no possibility of a romantic interest in the future. the thing i’ve noticed though is that they always take it pretty poorly, and after having two women in a row begin crying when i said “no” and then later (in long emails) confess that they actually did like me but weren’t ready for so much investment so fast, i’m beginning to think that the thing you should really do is just say that you’ll talk to them later and give them some space for a bit. so i told her that i’d prefer not to be friends, and explained that if i respect her wishes she should also be considerate of mine too. with strangers: how to know if a girl is interested before you ask her out.
Ask Dr. NerdLove: Does She Really Want To Be Just Friends when i told her that i can not be her friend, she blocked me on facebook and stopped talking to me since then! tell him you are saying this as a friend who truly wants him to be happy and you’re saying this all because you don’t want to be selfish with his time…. we don’t work together, but we do have some common work interests and she says that it would be mutually beneficial to be friends, though that sounded like an excuse when she said it. so its just started as a jock, started having the emotional feelings towards her and i gave her a quick walk across my city showing her how my city is, we went to a restaurant of my favourite and she really like it. don’t think it’s possible,at least imo to be in love with someone you haven’t even met. just say no, or say yes and then sleep with one of her friends. in that case, what i mean is that you should not treat her any differently than all the other friends. were very close and nice together, she was my best and closest friend and so do i, couldn’t understand why the heck she would refuse me romantically. i know it feels terrible, but women will spend their whole lives “being just friends” with a guy and thinking it’s all innocent– thinking they’re not hurting the guy, when in reality, it is painful for a guy just to be friend zoned when secretly he is pining away loving her., i remember receiving a letter saying, “we are not compatible, this is not going to work out”…i saw that woman months later, she said, “you never called back” and i said, “you told me to stay away”…she said, “i didn’t mean stay away forever”…., you should tell her that you don’t want to be friends because you could never see her as just a friend, but if she ever wants to try to be more than friends, you are always open to that. have been there for her this entire time as well as her daughter, but she is the one who pushed me away.