Red flags how to know when you re dating a loser

How to know when you're dating a loser

their spurious logic goes something like this: i didn’t do it, but even if i did, you deserved it. carver goes on to state, “if you have an individual activity, they demand that they accompany you, making you feel miserable during the entire activity. goldload more comments (325 replies)[–]obstacle_3 3171 points3172 points3173 points 2 years ago (383 children)this. don’t mean an occasional exaggeration about his golf handicap - or little “relationship-saving” fibs to the question, do i look fat in this? more comments (45 replies)load more comments (112 replies)[–]azumikkel 1087 points1088 points1089 points 2 years ago (79 children)he's the son they never had. his kids resented him to the point where he'd met only two of his 9 grandchildren. more subtle signs — certain personality quirks, his family dynamic and past relationships — also can clue you into whether a man’s more likely to cheat, even if he hasn’t yet. maybe these are impulse buys because he’s a prince. looking at what you're not doing that would be considered wrong and start looking at what you're not doing that might be considered right. goldload more comments (10 replies)[–]screwyourunicorn 1245 points1246 points1247 points 2 years ago (181 children)if he gets into the school system and spends countless hours looking through student pictures to find your name just so he can add you on skype, then he's probably crazy, trust me. goldload more comments (3 replies)load more comments (7 replies)load more comments (64 replies)[–]mr_other_guy 971 points972 points973 points 2 years ago (26 children)ya, just follow the flock of seagulls and run, run so far away. switch from manhattans to martinis could just be a desire to get out of a cocktail rut. These are a few things to watch out for in a relationship. gold[–][deleted] 82 points83 points84 points 2 years ago (2 children)should probably also let her know that you will absolutely not be murdering her after not raping her, and it won't hurt to show her the ditch where you certainly would never dump her lifeless body. goldload more comments (26 replies)[–]unholyreaver 478 points479 points480 points 2 years ago (14 children)yes but are you married? if they whine, complain, criticize, and torment–that’s how they’ll treat you in six months.[–]leakyconvair 44 points45 points46 points 2 years ago (5 children)female target acquired. - lifestylesπ rendered by pid 129366 on app-787 at 2017-03-20 19:03:03.[–]sonofaresiii 1064 points1065 points1066 points 2 years ago (40 children)communication is key. gold[–]imnotacrazyperson 894 points895 points896 points 2 years ago (111 children)had a guy get upset because i wore perfume to work once. my goodness, what an interesting article you wrote 🙂 readiing the whole post makes it so easy for me to click with it instantly and those signs look very familiar because they fit the profile of a frenemy of mine, a former flatmate from hell, who made my life a misery having her under my roof for a year and a half. goldload more comments (356 replies)load more comments (26 replies)load more comments (304 replies)[–]n3wport 598 points599 points600 points 2 years ago (55 children)a guy who can't admit to ever being wrong about anything, even little things. then he started walking in front on my store multiple times a day. the loser’s narcissism is, as hervey cleckley’s study of psychopathy concluded, absolute.” when involved with a psychopath, you may, unlike drew peterson’s misfortunate wives, escape alive.[…] a grown ass man read this: 20 pictures of baby pandas that will instantly make your day better read this: 31 women share the red flags to identify crazy men cataloged […]. gold[–]ffn 120 points121 points122 points 2 years ago (3 children)i know we used to be married, but i'm your dad now.  just to let you know that girls made a list too but it’s so long and boring.-texting me, then sending me a message on the dating site where we met, saying, "i just texted you" when you know you have the right number. the speed in which i noped the fuck out of that was unreal. · 834 comments without saying your age, what is something you remember from your childhood that a younger person would not understand? “all it means is that he’s giving you enough contact for you to believe he couldn’t possibly be with another woman. goldload more comments (92 replies)load more comments (10 replies)load more comments (158 replies)load more comments (1 reply)[–]chanticleer_ 656 points657 points658 points 2 years ago (18 children)that must make visiting home extremely weird for you. things you need to know before dating an outgoing introvert. goldload more comments (14 replies)load more comments (41 replies)load more comments (4 replies)load more comments (119 replies)[–]littleredeel 347 points348 points349 points 2 years ago (28 children)was still living with my parents at the time, broke up with this guy. gold[–]therobberbar0n 2043 points2044 points2045 points 2 years ago (26 children)does she know? goldload more comments (111 replies)load more comments (93 replies)[–]sparkycat99 480 points481 points482 points 2 years ago (35 children)refusal to take responsibility for anything that has ever gone wrong in their life. we frequented lots of dive bars and lots of times people were cool but it always seemed like one guy would get too drunk and a little cleavage worked like a beacon for him. goldload more comments (5 replies)[–]rubyroxxx 24 points25 points26 points 2 years ago (7 children)this is similar to my 'red flag'. my older brother takes it into his own hands and threatens adam, and things cool down for a while. if you encounter a man who gives any signs that he regards love as a game and you as a “prize” to be won, fold your cards and quickly leave the table. carver states that losers often begin with indirect violence—such as demonstratively hitting the wall with their fist or throwing objects—before they start pushing, punching or hitting their partners. goldload more comments (5 replies)load more comments (4 replies)load more comments (60 replies)[–]professorhydewhite 128 points129 points130 points 2 years ago (2 children)make sure to get really close to them so they can hear you clearly.  they say that the best indicator of future behavior is past behavior. i'm talking about a guy i might be seeing regularly getting pouty or feigning offence if he invites me somewhere last minute and i already have plans. “you can see emails to someone you don’t know” and then his cheating becomes obvious. gold[–]hkbundle 334 points335 points336 points 2 years ago (30 children)if mildly stalked means being called 67 times in a row and having the person showing up, unannounced, to your house, what is severely stalked? you don’t say ‘i love you’ enough, you don’t stand close enough, you don’t do enough for them after all their sacrifices, and your behavior always falls short of what is expected. for psychopaths, their fundamental callousness and capacity for evil stems from their absolute selfishness and inability to respect other individuals, as fellow human beings with independent needs and desires. did the story with the guy you were dating before him end? gold[–]pirkey 1704 points1705 points1706 points 2 years ago (41 children)this sounds like the romantic subplot to paul blart but without the happy ending. and thank you to the kind person who gifted me gold! goldload more comments (8 replies)load more comments (58 replies)[–][deleted] 39 points40 points41 points 2 years ago (3 children)when he started accusing me of having sex with my friends and wouldn't let me have anyone over when he wasn't at home. according to her friends, kathy savio felt overcome by rage, jealousy and anger when drew cheated on her with stacy.', he started screaming over the phone that he had expected me to bail and that he was so disappointed but he could have known since i was 'so pretty'. gold[–]elongatedsnail 1622 points1623 points1624 points 2 years ago (15 children)so when are you guys getting married? · 2301 comments mathematicians, what's the coolest thing about math you've ever learned? he calls all of his exes sluts, but keeps folders of naked pictures of them on his computer and boxes of pictures and panties and wants you to look at them."you murdered an entire family because they let your dog poo on their lawn? mom alters his medical records to make it look like he had trauma from a car accident and was never cleared (he was). we had set a date to see eachother but a week before i politely cancelled.” according to tracy’s and stacy’s families and friends, after seducing them, drew undermined both women’s self-confidence. gold[–]the__butt__pirate 622 points623 points624 points 2 years ago (20 children)works better than going around telling everyone that you have a thing. read a companion article, 31 women share the red flags to identify “crazy” men, here. we live in different cities now and i only get the yearly christmas email from him. do not know why he was there as she made it very clear to him she was grounded (we were in high-school at the time, still very young). initially, at least some of stacy’s family members and friends liked drew and considered him a good match for her. goldload more comments (16 replies)load more comments (41 replies)[–]futuresailor2014 58 points59 points60 points 2 years ago (1 child)i recently met a guy at my work that found me on facebook. goldload more comments (3 replies)load more comments (22 replies)[–]the__butt__pirate 3967 points3968 points3969 points 2 years ago (138 children)that dude is worse at handling baggage than delta airlines. to his wives and their families– which is to say, to anyone who had extensive intimate contact with him–drew exposed another, much more menacing side of his personality. they also engage in long-term relationships, however, to gain more lasting control over certain more promising targets. psychopath as self-proclaimed maverick: on losers who view themselves as leaders.

Red flags how to know your dating a loser

more comments (70 replies)[–]pumpkin214 47 points48 points49 points 2 years ago (5 children)when i would go out with my friends and get a million "omg i miss you i'm so sad and lonely i need you back here now texts" . goldload more comments (1 reply)[–]raije 248 points249 points250 points 2 years ago (27 children)or a hoarder? you will withdraw from friends and family, prompting them to become upset with you. he never hit them, even if kathy had to go to the emergency room to recover from his blows. it signals shallowness of emotions rather than strength of love. goldload more comments (7 replies)load more comments (38 replies)[–]juniperslats 802 points803 points804 points 2 years ago (115 children)i was dating a guy who may fit this criteria. my husband will never admit it, but i know it stroked his ego to get to play caveman and tell people to step off. goldload more comments (8 replies)load more comments (6 replies)[–]archer-saurus 432 points433 points434 points 2 years ago (4 children)"still counts". goldload more comments (1 reply)[–]pearadise 828 points829 points830 points 2 years ago (156 children)complimenting too much. i know it can be exciting to start talking with someone interesting to you, and i don't believe it's necessary to "play it cool", but some guys are obsessive in their communication and it's a huge red flag. as carver puts it, “the loser convinces you that you are never quite good enough. things you should try out in bed with your partner. studies reveal that 50%-60% of married men engage in extramarital sex at some time or another during their relationship (about 45%-55% of married women cheat). goldload more comments (2 replies)load more comments (59 replies)load more comments (13 replies)load more comments (11 replies)load more comments (10 replies)[–]thevoiceofthedevil 2000 points2001 points2002 points 2 years ago (76 children)that's not a red flag. Joseph Carver has put together a helpful and instructive list outlining the early symptoms of a dangerous relationship with a psychopath, or as he puts it…House calls with dr.[–]f-uck 1209 points1210 points1211 points 2 years ago (88 children)"i didn't mean that. if you're a guy and you catch one of your guy friends pulling some of this "red flag" borderline psycho shit, it's your responsibility to check that shit, confront your friend, and explain why it isn't okay.“we’re talking about the more selfishly motivated lie to maintain appearances or avoid an unpleasant reaction,” explains craig malkin, ph. · 75 comments redditors in an open marriage, how's that going for you? goldload more comments (4 replies)[–]lanna33 737 points738 points739 points 2 years ago (107 children)my friend is dating a guy (both in their 40's) does not invite her over to his house and she has never been in his car. my boyfriend has answered the phone a couple times telling him to fuck off. more comments (36 replies)load more comments (7 replies)load more comments (21 replies)load more comments (45 replies)[–]actionmannz 796 points797 points798 points 2 years ago (26 children)it's amazing how much "it's not like i'm going to rape you" sounds like "i might rape you. but sometimes when the situation is tame enough, it is difficult to find a way to turn them down and you get caught having to entertain this drunk dude having a conversation with you that you've got no interest in. goldload more comments (3 replies)load more comments (1 reply)load more comments (16 replies)load more comments (23 replies)[–]throwawaydecember 1409 points1410 points1411 points 2 years ago (43 children)"could the guy who used to bone my wife please pass the cranberry chutney. when the relationship naturally settles, ecstasy cools but intimacy deepens, and he may start jonesing for a new passion fix. lesson of anna karenina: vengeance is mine; i will repay.;dr you're probably crazy if you're 24 and still crushing on a girl from high school. i dont want you to think i am ignoring you. apparently, drew peterson flattered both his third and his fourth wives when they were still his girlfriends, which is to say, during courtship. gold[–]timetravelmishap 830 points831 points832 points 2 years ago (11 children)also he was bad at it.[…] a grown ass man read this: 20 pictures of baby pandas that will instantly make your day better read this: 31 women share the red flags to identify crazy men read this: 29 last known photos of people that will send chills down your […]. or he comes to bed dressed for antarctica when he once slept nude. that sorta happened to me except opposite, i'm the boy and the girl i was interested in (fiance now) was talking about where she wanted to go to college back then. you're lazy about checking the mail but i still love you >_>. they deluge their targets with flattery, promises and gifts at the beginning of the relationship. then during the second one i realized he should have already left according to his first story, and that he was now telling me he had to do bootcamp in iraq. gold[–]toastyghost 896 points897 points898 points 2 years ago (34 children)i don't trust anyone but that's only because most of you are shitheads. they lie to them to the point where they start doubting their knowledge of reality. gold[–]indiegamerrid 106 points107 points108 points 2 years ago (2 children)run denko. find out the top 14 clues that your guy will cheat on you. the psychopath invariably cycles back to his real, nasty self. gold[–]thisisaterribleidea 1003 points1004 points1005 points 2 years ago (31 children)"that guy has good taste" was the proper response here. pay close attention to how your partner treats you over time and in different circumstances. gold[–]breezyyb 334 points335 points336 points 2 years ago* (30 children)my husband is sober now. he used to talk to me and ask about boyfriends etc while i was walking around the mall on break. goldload more comments (18 replies)load more comments (11 replies)[–]fl35h 697 points698 points699 points 2 years ago* (179 children)i'll just leave this hilarious 2chan translation here.-she gave him my address (she and i exchanged packages in the mail. gold[–][deleted] 458 points459 points460 points 2 years ago (7 children)"i have no idea why she keeps calling me adam, officer. withdrawals or credit card charges you can’t account for. goldload more comments (4 replies)load more comments (12 replies)[–]lskennedy 2439 points2440 points2441 points 2 years ago (81 children)i'm 23 and crushing on a girl from high school still. gold[–]pegasuscoffee 1147 points1148 points1149 points 2 years ago (100 children)gah, i'm terrible about this.” drew peterson stalked his wife even when she was visiting with her sisters. gold[–]gamingsandwich 1706 points1707 points1708 points 2 years ago (4 children)they were alive when i put them there. read on for 14 cheating tip-offs in a man’s personality, background and behavior. gold[–][deleted] 936 points937 points938 points 2 years ago (58 children)my now husband used to enjoy me wearing clothes a little revealing because he liked looking at me and liked the "i got this one! goldload more comments (8 replies)load more comments (5373 replies)use of this site constitutes acceptance of our user agreement and privacy policy.[–]what_are_you_smoking 114 points115 points116 points 2 years ago (5 children)i'm waiting to find out he's been sleeping with her mother. he gave her money and gifts, not out of any real generosity but to keep her financially and emotionally dependent on him. they also narrow the range of their interests and activities, leading their partners to focus exclusively on them. goldload more comments (9 replies)load more comments (12 replies)load more comments (13 replies)load more comments (101 replies)[–]small_hat 369 points370 points371 points 2 years ago (48 children)that's fucking creepy. goldload more comments (39 replies)load more comments (72 replies)[–]imaginesomethinwitty 200 points201 points202 points 2 years ago (4 children)i was in a horribly emotionally abusive relationship for years, and if i could sum it all up into one red flag it would be:If everybody else thinks he's a fucking asshole, maybe it's not that they just don't know him like you do, maybe it's because he's a fucking asshole.” the period of sweetness leads the partners of losers to cling to the relationship in the misguided hope of finding what psychologist susan forward calls “the magic key” that will make the psychopath stay nice to them. he shows up at your job unannounced and you barely know him. it's best to let her know upfront, very clearly, that zero rape will be happening. eventually i just stopped replying but i don't know how to block numbers so that he can't text me anymore. gold[–]schizophrenicsanity 894 points895 points896 points 2 years ago (97 children)well, stop looking at what you're not doing and start looking at ..Permalinkembedsaveparentgive goldload more comments (25 replies)[–]imnotacrazyperson 554 points555 points556 points 2 years ago (17 children)that's really fucking creepy. signs you're dating a toxic person (matthew hussey, get the guy). i dont believe i ever gave him a reason to think that i had those kinds of feelings for him. the other purpose of the mean cycle is to allow the loser to say very nasty things about you or those you care about, again chipping away at your self-esteem and self-confidence.  as carver observes, “you hang on, hoping each mean-then-sweet cycle is the last one. if a guy refers to all of his exes as bitches, sluts, or whores i'm out.

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Red flags how to know if you're dating a loser

you may be verbally abused, cursed, and threatened over something minor. goldload more comments (3 replies)[–]tomdm 116 points117 points118 points 2 years ago (8 children)man that face, it's all i need to remind myself of how creepy that story is.“those are all ways of disconnecting and saying, i’m unavailable,” says dr.-customs called me after intercepting more packages from him, they contained blood. he messaged me asking me to hang out, and if i didn't reply within 5 mins, he'd message me saying something like, "wooow, really?” drew peterson worked as a detective not only in his job on the police force, but also in his dealings with his wife. after four very fun dates he suddenly became distant, seemed down and we stopped dating.[–]counters14 62 points63 points64 points 2 years ago (4 children)that feeling of seeing some sleazy drunk overtly hitting on your girlfriend and being able to walk up and put your arm around her is inexplicably fulfilling. mom always told me to watch out for guys who got off on hurting animals, because they're the kind of guy to beat up their own kids.!After only two weeks of knowing this guy i was pretty shocked and very glad he showed his true colors thats fast. gold[–]apparently_im_insane 61 points62 points63 points 2 years ago (11 children)they had no backbone, they wouldn't have survived out in the wild on their own anyway. interesting that these psychopaths all claim that their (murdered) wives were “crazy,” “had issues,” were “depressed,” – “well, she was on medication…” and “just wandered off…” the suggestion of craziness in (missing! an example: he showed up at her house, and repeatedly called her 67 times in a row.[–]giroro24 598 points599 points600 points 2 years ago* (39 children)"you're not as good as my mom at sex. gold[–]crispypudding 1144 points1145 points1146 points 2 years ago (21 children)could the guy that banged my daughter and is probably banging my wife while i'm on business trips please move out. gold[–]rakshala 2294 points2295 points2296 points 2 years ago (363 children)for all i know he is a redditor, and clearly i must still interact with him so i'll try to keep this vague. one day, i come home and there is a box of roses on my bed. goldload more comments (34 replies)load more comments (15 replies)[–]g_rapelemonade 511 points512 points513 points 2 years ago (96 children)if we just started texting and hanging out and he starts calling me 'babe','honey','sweetheart' or anything like that. according to their families and friends, stacy and tracy constantly jumped through more and more hoops, while drew lifted the bar higher and higher. goldload more comments (26 replies)[–][deleted] 446 points447 points448 points 2 years ago (46 children)when i broke up with him and he said "no". but the intensity and perseverance with which he pursued her blinded her from seeing the same warning signals in their relationship. goldload more comments (5 replies)[–]bubblegum-bitch 2960 points2961 points2962 points 2 years ago (414 children)when guys talk about a future with me on first or second dates. seeking professional advice are inappropriate for this subreddit and will be removed. goldload more comments (7 replies)load more comments (47 replies)[–]chitterchittersqueak 155 points156 points157 points 2 years ago (24 children)if he treats animals, servers and/or children unkindly. now that you've realized it you can pass into the next plane of existence.[–]rakshala 1746 points1747 points1748 points 2 years ago (331 children)we lived with my parents when i divorced him. more comments (6 replies)load more comments (5 replies)[–]clintrenee 453 points454 points455 points 2 years ago (14 children)that's so hot. the manner in which they treat someone relates strictly to that person’s perceived use value. gold[–][deleted] 1468 points1469 points1470 points 2 years ago (99 children)"you fucked up, don't text me again". losers generally prefer flings and short-term affairs, which provide constant new thrills. i don't care if other guys check her out, i think she's gorgeous too, i just get to call her my girlfriend. a [serious] post tag to designate your post as a serious, on-topic-only thread. losers isolate their partners from their friends, colleagues and families. men give off signals that they'll be unfaithful, relationship experts say. lesson of anna karenina: vengeance is mine; i will repay., or seeking, any identifying personal information, real or fake, will result in a ban without a prior warning." "you're always too busy" "you never want to see me" and other such whiney nonsense. EDIT: We can just change this to red flags in general,. goldload more comments (132 replies)[–][deleted] 83 points84 points85 points 2 years ago (3 children)i had been chatting with a guy a couple of years back. i think he had a rough childhood and my family was more of the plastic smiles glued to your faces at thanksgiving kind of family. gold[–][deleted] 163 points164 points165 points 2 years ago (33 children)on the flip side, if someone is constantly busy, they probably don't like you. he was actually proud of this and unaware that he had behaved like the typical asshole character in any number of 80s teen movies. grandfather refused to go to rehab and abused his body until he died in his 60s.” pretty soon, you’ll be the dirt he walks on, on his way to conquering other temporary queens. there are basic conditions for how human beings should treat one another that everyone has the right to expect from their partner. find out the top 14 clues that your guy will cheat on you.[…] “the most important self-defense against psychopathic seducers consists of recognizing the initial warning signals so that you can escape the relationship early on, hopefully before you’re seriously harmed. she didn't seem to think this was a red flag though. therapist will tell you that past cheating behavior indicates an unfaithful future. he asked over and over again and then started saying " it's not like i'm going to rape you" he said this over and over and i got the fuck out and left. goldload more comments (11 replies)load more comments (8 replies)load more comments (19 replies)[–]elan_alan 735 points736 points737 points 2 years ago* (52 children)it's funny., i’d suggest you get a really good lawyer, who points to the abuse as well as to your ex’s unemployment. more comments (25 replies)[–][deleted] 563 points564 points565 points 2 years ago (70 children)a guy i was casually dating was giving me a lift back to my car after a night hanging with some friends. it’s very important to get away from a loser at the slightest hint of violence, including verbal aggression, since abuse usually increases in frequency and severity over time. you’ll receive gifts, a variety of promises, and be showered with their attention and nice gestures. carver states, “as mentioned, mentally healthy individuals are consistent in their personality and their behavior. had some fucked up theory that happy women in relationships don't wear perfume since it's something we use to attract men. when people are useful to them they treat them (superficially) well. always found an excuse to come over, even after i've repeatedly told him no. my gf's ex used to not let her wear certain shirts in public for the same reason. who don’t feel remorse or guilt when they do something wrong are prime candidates for cheating, lin explains. he says i am a bad mother, i have problems, i’m mad and punishes me for going to work and leaving my son with my mum (because he is unemployed and so can only contribute the bare minimum to our son) we were never married but we obviously have the same rights to our son.[…] read this: 9 ways to cope when you realize you’re the other woman read this: 25 relationship red flags read this: 3 ways open marriages have become more mainstream read this: 31 women share the red flags to identify ‘crazy’ men […]. goldload more comments (1 reply)load more comments (76 replies)[–]marketing_madam 1518 points1519 points1520 points 2 years ago (78 children)making fun of and laughing at a very sweet mentally retarded man who approached me at our cafe table to tell me he thought i was beautiful. find out the top 14 clues that your guy will cheat on you. abusive boyfriends often break down and cry, they plead, they promise to change, and they offer marriage/trips/gifts when you threaten ending the relationship… once back in the grasp of the loser, escape will be three times as difficult the next time. suddenly, the next day they become sweet, doing all those little things they did when you started dating. carver observes, “the loser cycles from mean to sweet and back again. more comments (7 replies)load more comments (41 replies)load more comments (24 replies)[–]unstoppable-force 588 points589 points590 points 2 years ago (25 children)m night shyamalan twist: it was really your parents sending the flowers. during the course of their marriages to drew peterson, at least two of his wives reported losing their self-confidence as a result of his emotional and physical abuse. come home that night from a friend's house and he is there. goldload more comments (9 replies)load more comments (108 replies)[–]lyndbergh 2457 points2458 points2459 points 2 years ago (406 children)when he wouldn't let me wear shorts because "noone should able able to see that but me".

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goldload more comments (7 replies)[–]bipolarpolarbear 110 points111 points112 points 2 years ago (7 children)i love these threads, they always make me feel so normal. lol" and later "i'm sorry baby, you're to good for me. i was watching "border patrol" and saw him arriving at sydney airport and being detained by police before being deported. stacy knew enough about how drew treated his previous wife to see that he was a philanderer and potentially dangerous. is why people with anxiety are the best people to fall in love with. night, in the course of packing lunch for my children, i received a series of communication from a guy i had just started talking to. if everyone you encounter is an asshole, you're probably the asshole. it was so uncomfortable, my boss had to tell him to stop because it was freaking out customers haha. goldload more comments (43 replies)[–]cvwrassler 2541 points2542 points2543 points 2 years ago (195 children)til that i am not crazy. gold[–]miowaratomokato 143 points144 points145 points 2 years ago (9 children)why do i feel like i'm reading an episode of regular show? goldload more comments (65 replies)[–]wassupwassup 63 points64 points65 points 2 years ago (16 children)texts me "what u doing" every single hour, none of which i ever reply to. read a companion article, 31 women share the red flags to identify “crazy” men, here. carver states that, for instance, losers “constantly correct your slight mistakes, making you feel ‘on guard’, unintelligent, and leaving you with the feeling that you are always doing something wrong… this gradual chipping away at your confidence and self-esteem allows them to later treat you badly–as though you deserved it. goldload more comments (6 replies)load more comments (4 replies)load more comments (29 replies)load more comments (3 replies)load more comments (99 replies)[–]pursnickety 1424 points1425 points1426 points 2 years ago (205 children)every time you dress nicely to go out he becomes really insecure and begs you not to go, calls you a whore or convinces himself that you're going to cheat on him. perhaps your husband now keeps his cell phone in his pocket when he once dropped it on the counter. gold[–][deleted] 1011 points1012 points1013 points 2 years ago (134 children)yeah, man, reading this makes me feel normal. i tell him he broke into my dad's house and that i'm going to call the police, he threatens suicide. goldload more comments (27 replies)[–]historyisaweapon 468 points469 points470 points 2 years ago (43 children)just a good side point.“if a guy is organizing his life to spend less time with his partner, it doesn’t really matter whether he has met someone,” malkin says. while her emotional response was perfectly understandable under the circumstances, drew depicted kathy to others as “insane” to justify his mistreatment of her. “but really he’s taking another girl out for a date,” she says. gold[–]anydentity 658 points659 points660 points 2 years ago (9 children)it's ok, she changed it from 9 years to "10" years so that'll throw him off. over time, the meanness cycle escalates in severity and increases in duration. and if he finds your facebook, becomes friends with your friends to get your phone number and messages you every few hours, you can bet he's crazy.! now, what would you want to hear if you were her? gold[–]0verstim 136 points137 points138 points 2 years ago (5 children)my wife is all official. as a guy, i couldn't imagine any girl thinking, "oh, you went through this much trouble to find me on skype, how sweet.“check your computer’s browser history once in a while to see where he’s been,” advises dr. however, during that time the loser has not forgotten how he or she basically feels about the opposite sex. “people with narcissistic personality traits feel that they’re entitled to more things than other people,” says dennis lin, m. of my exes used to call me her anti-wingman because i apparently had a knack for swooping in at just the right time. turns out not a single one of his exes cheated on him and several of them were fairly intelligent. until she let slip one evening that he had withdrawn ,000 out of god knows where in the past 4 months to fuel his gambling habit. gold[–]whoop_there_she_is 628 points629 points630 points 2 years ago (31 children)see also: "the death of the romantic comedy: thank god it's over". goldload more comments (3 replies)load more comments (6 replies)[–]kafke 80 points81 points82 points 2 years ago (11 children)this was the ending i expected. we have a small child together and now he is unable to ruin me psychologically, isolate me, threaten me, make me fear for my life, abuse me, bully me directly he has now taken to ‘abusing me’ with the legal system. had an ex break up with me because i gave a male friend a side hug. goldload more comments (9 replies)load more comments (66 replies)[–]buttfucker101 1249 points1250 points1251 points 2 years ago (154 children)i've never understood that. women reveal what it was like to have sex with a large or small penis. posts by subject:Do you have ideas or feedback for askreddit? sometimes they opt for more subtle manipulation, such as by covertly turning the victim against her own family and friends (and vice versa). gold[–]datingthrowaway34569 733 points734 points735 points 2 years ago (54 children)after the date with mr. women believe that the more a man calls or texts, the less likely that he’s cheating. starters, there are the classic signs:A sudden drop off in sex. women who have been in a threeway explain what it felt like being the third wheel. no matter how promiscuous they actually are, they focus their energies on their most desirable targets. in the amount of traffic /r/askreddit receives daily/monthly? i showed them how much i cared about their school. they also can’t treat those they’re intimately involved with well for long. gold[–]the__butt__pirate 39 points40 points41 points 2 years ago (0 children)medium. but, sometimes great things can come out of the most rash decisions. but his stalking made her feel on edge about any kind of activity or pursuit that was external to their relationship. gold[–]cheesechimp 3463 points3464 points3465 points 2 years agox2 (76 children)the only proper response to this is to look him straight in the eye and tell him "i like shorts!: i need to mention that he was the only guy at the bar wearing a salmon colored izod shirt. the idea behind this is to prevent you from having fun or interests other than those which they totally control. gold[–]rass4life 91 points92 points93 points 2 years ago (9 children)nobody's touching my sql-server, i can tell you that! carver notes, “the loser never, repeat never, takes personal responsibility for their behavior–it’s always the fault of someone else. gold[–]setallthezippersfree 153 points154 points155 points 2 years ago (1 child)oh my gosh. here's to a long, happy marriage for the two of you. i didn't really have a plan for after high school. he proceeded to ask me how many other "dates" i had planned for the rest of the day, how many messages i got per week, and how many visitors go to my page. men give off signals that they'll be unfaithful, relationship experts say. goldload more comments (7 replies)load more comments (68 replies)[–]khoskamr 1334 points1335 points1336 points 2 years ago (70 children)met a guy on an online dating website. to breakup with your boyfriend: four signs that the relationship is over! consequently, as carver observes, “in an effort to keep you under control while in public, ‘the loser’ will lash out at you, call you names, or say cruel or embarrassing things about you in private or in front of people… if you stay with the loser too long, you’ll soon find yourself politely smiling, saying nothing, and holding on to their arm when in public. goldload more comments (9 replies)[–][deleted] 73 points74 points75 points 2 years ago (22 children)at least now he knows it's awkward.., assistant professor of psychiatry at albert einstein college of medicine and director of the psycho-sexual medicine program at beth israel medical center in new york city. i just don't want my date to feel insecure about herself. find out the top 14 clues that your guy will cheat on you. such behavior signals a distance that’s “always a breeding ground for infidelity. the loser may have two distinct reputations–a group of individuals who will give you glowing reports and a group that will warn you that they are serious trouble. goldload more comments (35 replies)[–]september79 2376 points2377 points2378 points 2 years ago* (283 children)i was with a bunch of friends at a bar getting drunk and towards the end of the night everyone left except one of their friends i had just met that night.

Red Flags: How to Identify a Psychopathic Bond

gold[–]anumati 374 points375 points376 points 2 years ago (35 children)nah think.: (online dating site message) "just making sure you are getting my messages. the cycle starts when they are intentionally hurtful and mean. gold[–]waskingwokeupgiraffe 3097 points3098 points3099 points 2 years ago (49 children)you know that won't get your restraining order removed. men give off tons of hints that they’re inclined to cheat, relationship experts say. then, while picking up the scattered items that spilled out of your purse that he threw across the room, asks if he can eat the candy he found. “they always see things as power struggles – you’re a winner or a loser,” he says. if you speak to a member of the opposite sex, you receive twenty questions about how you know them. one of the things that might attract you to the loser is how quickly he or she says ‘i love you’ or wants to marry or commit to you. plus, join the fun and conversation on google+, facebook, twitter, and pinterest. gold[–]adamh95 2905 points2906 points2907 points 2 years ago (74 children)i feel icky reading this, time to change my name. find out the top 14 clues that your guy will cheat on you. goldload more comments (79 replies)load more comments (18 replies)load more comments (73 replies)load more comments (9 replies)[–]stefaniey 716 points717 points718 points 2 years ago (365 children)okay i'm going to straight up beg for details on this one.[–]imnotacrazyperson 220 points221 points222 points 2 years ago (9 children)same here, big red flag for me. goldload more comments (63 replies)[–]jesyka42 181 points182 points183 points 2 years ago (18 children)once i was dating this guy, n, who ended up being abusive. needless to say, if you read women who love psychopaths you see that in reality, most female victims of psychopaths are decent, caring and empathetic women."i love how you dab your face with that napkin, so elegant! goldload more comments (55 replies)[–]lovelylaitlyo 3346 points3347 points3348 points 2 years ago (411 children)i usually lurk, but had to come out of hiding to share.  “if you disobey their desires or demands, or violate one of their rules, they feel they are entitled to punish you in any manner they see fit. if they were consistently mean or violent, psychopaths wouldn’t be able to hold on to their partners."so you make art out of snot and toenail clippings?-the police blocked him from entry to the country and i didn't think any more about it until about a year later. something like that can be really destructive, and it's amazing that your husband was able to kick the habit.” further reading;  red flags: how to identify a psychopathic bond   here […].“the guy checks his mail and forgets to close the window of this different account,” batshaw says. gold[–]did_it_right 381 points382 points383 points 2 years ago (13 children)if i were your parents, the police would have been called long before he had the opportunity to walk around the house naked with my 9 year old daughter present. gold[–]stevod5 575 points576 points577 points 2 years ago (61 children)you may want to add a few dead bolts to your front door. goldload more comments (7 replies)[–]goodmournin 450 points451 points452 points 2 years ago* (50 children)stage 20 clinger status. after 3 dates he suddenly asks, out of nowhere, "how does it feel that i won you over? goldload more comments (9 replies)load more comments (14 replies)[–]sunshinemeow 59 points60 points61 points 2 years ago (7 children)first date with a guy and he nonchalantly tells me that he raped a guy once to get revenge on him for something. i told him i had a boyfriend and that i wasn't interested. the hyde side represents his true identity, which becomes increasingly dominant over time. living with an alcoholic is the worst fucking nightmare that i wouldn't wish upon my worst enemy.  psychopaths need to maintain control of everything in their lives, especially their romantic relationships.: i didn't have my car because my cousin was driving and the rest of the next hour or so was him sending me screenshots of our of past conversations explaining how i was the liar and said i'd come hang out after i told him that i didn't think we should hang out anymore. psychopaths can’t tolerate any real assertion of independence from others. however the 3 years we were together before he went to rehab were the worst, most heartbreaking years of my life. gold[–]theholysynergy 182 points183 points184 points 2 years ago (5 children)stolen valor. eventually, she feels too insecure to leave the abusive relationship. carver observes that, “instead of experiencing the warmth and comfort of love, you will be constantly on edge, tense when talking to others (they might say something that you’ll have to explain later), and fearful that you’ll see someone you’ll have to greet in public. there was a lull in conversation, and n pulled me to the kitchen freaking out about how i was listening to the dude pee so i could calculate how big his dick was, and how obviously i was cheating on him. goldload more comments (48 replies)load more comments (143 replies)[–]lemon-filled 66 points67 points68 points 2 years ago (6 children)a huge red flag is a guy who never takes responsibility. gold[–]lurklurklurkpost 536 points537 points538 points 2 years ago (9 children)"get out of my way, shorts kid! he wore them every day, until they became too ragged to wear." she was surprised at first cause she was so used to her controlling ex that practically made her wear t-shirts everywhere. to me, this is a red flag (married or girlfriend).” in the case of drew peterson, even thought crime, or the intention to leave him, was punishable with (probably) murder. you encounter a man who is aroused primarily by the circumstances surrounding your relationship—especially the perverse and forbidden ones—rather than by you, yourself, run. more comments (2 replies)load more comments (13 replies)load more comments (23 replies)[–]dormetheus 1806 points1807 points1808 points 2 years ago (66 children)it's not "like" i'm going to rape you. adam killed you one day after school and you just haven't accepted it. i dated him briefly and felt really betrayed when i realized he was saying that shit about me too. goldload more comments (24 replies)load more comments (45 replies)[–]daisy_st 1976 points1977 points1978 points 2 years ago (98 children)after a few dates we were kissing goodbye then he rubs his boner against my leg, proceeds to cum in his pants and tells our mutual friends i took his virginity. carver notes, “as the relationship continues, your friends and family will see what the loser is doing to you. but unless you end the relationship in its earliest stages, you’re not likely to escape unharmed. after months of this technique, they begin telling you how lucky you are to have them–somebody who tolerates someone so inadequate and worthless as you. gold[–]getawayfrommyfood 2487 points2488 points2489 points 2 years ago* (140 children)the last guy i had a flirtationship with was talking to me about where he wants to go to college and when i told him where i want to go he did the same thing, suggesting different places for me to go. goldload more comments (1 reply)load more comments (10 replies)load more comments (153 replies)[–]hazyglint 31 points32 points33 points 2 years ago (1 child)i wouldn't call that mild. sadly this didn't actually strike me as crazy/posessive until after the relationship ended. gold[–]cmhd35[🍰] 919 points920 points921 points 2 years ago (33 children)could the guy who is currently boning my daughter, please pass the salt to the guy who used to bone my daughter. goldload more comments (18 replies)[–]princesssluggy 125 points126 points127 points 2 years ago (10 children)"do you find celebrities 'hot'? the more i see entries from other people the more i can identify with what they’ve been through. and he flipped out saying "omg if it's such a chore then don't come out" followed by "you're probably stalling to fuck your ex" and then some other statements." good, now compliment her shoes so she'll know you like the whole package. commentssharetop 200 commentsshow 500sorted by: besttopnewcontroversialoldrandomq&alive (beta)[–]leeloobond 1317 points1318 points1319 points 2 years ago (82 children)when he claims to have ptsd from afghanistan, has nightmares so real he chokes you in his sleep, is violently racist towards anyone vaguely middle eastern looking, yet it turns out he never made it past week two of basic training.  psychopaths tend to be pleasant and charming, at least superficially, at the beginning of a relationship. ive got about a million zubats to kill soon and your rat doesn't even fly![–]rimjobs_for_everyone 723 points724 points725 points 2 years ago (38 children)wasabi bra, the romantic happy ending every girl would love![–]mrdenko 1301 points1302 points1303 points 2 years ago (16 children)uhhh, well this is awkward. gold[–]stevod5 192 points193 points194 points 2 years ago (14 children)yeah, it sounds like moving to a different continent was the only way to go lol. gold[–]sbarto 1230 points1231 points1232 points 2 years ago (24 children)maybe he was a never-nude. men give off signals that they'll be unfaithful, relationship experts say. men just love the beginnings of relationships, when it’s all champagne, roses and stolen weekends of white-hot sex.

  • Will He Cheat? 14 Red Flags You Can't Ignore |

    or, better yet, refuse to engage with him at all. goldload more comments (5 replies)load more comments (8 replies)load more comments (39 replies)load more comments (210 replies)[–]newintownbtw 440 points441 points442 points 2 years ago* (34 children)three out of four conversions with the guy, he's mentioning that his mom abandoned him when he was six. was supposed to be looking for a job, but he was on dating sites instead, she says. 7 years and a restraining order later, i still get flowers and letters sent to my parents house occasionally.’m glad that my article helped and you saw that flatmate for what she is. goldload more comments (14 replies)load more comments (10 replies)load more comments (41 replies)load more comments (93 replies)[–]detroitvinyl 1388 points1389 points1390 points 2 years ago (132 children)save yourself a lot of pain and heartache, if he wakes up in the morning and starts drinking, then continues to drink all day, run far away and don't turn back. find out the top 14 clues that your guy will cheat on you. yet when they wanted to leave him to escape the misery and abuse, he resorted to violence, threats, bribes and, when none of these strategies worked, (probably) murder.-calling me before the time we said we would chat, then texting to tell me you called and got my voice mail. gold[–]meta_perspective 2217 points2218 points2219 points 2 years ago* (22 children)i wonder if tsa can give delta any larger-than-3oz-tubes of cream for that burn! more red flags, according to relationship experts: a new “business” cell phone and more private texting and calls. goldload more comments (15 replies)[–]surpassing_disasters 31 points32 points33 points 2 years ago* (9 children)when a guy goes from 0-60 in less time than it takes for me to make a sandwich. gold[–]screwyourunicorn 519 points520 points521 points 2 years ago (56 children)moved to a different continent, i'm safe! you’re in the same house but not really together. gold[–]xilefian 26 points27 points28 points 2 years ago (0 children)you should probably call the police over this one, it will be his "seriously, stop" wake up call and it could change his life for the better. as carver goes on to explain, “the loser operates in such a damaging way that you find yourself doing ‘crazy’ things in self-defense… you become paranoid as well–being careful what you wear and say… while we think we are ‘going crazy’–it’s important to remember that there is no such thing as ‘normal behavior’ in a combat situation. this is another method of destroying your self-esteem and confidence. with his own look, and very concerned about how you feel about the looks of other men. your email address to subscribe to this blog and receive notifications of new posts by email. goldload more comments (4 replies)load more comments (53 replies)load more comments (95 replies)[+][deleted] 2 years ago (80 children)[deleted].[–]thebattleofevermore[s] 1744 points1745 points1746 points 2 years ago (219 children)that has happened to me. your thoughts/responses to the question can go in the comments section. incredibly amazing and completely unexplainable events from recorded human history. to be less hyperbolic, complimenting when compliments are really not due or appropriate. it turns out her mom actually asked her to stop going out with "loser" after which she started dating my friend. carver elaborates, “the loser is so self-involved and self-worshiping that the feelings and opinions of others are considered worthless… the loser is extremely hostile toward criticism and often reacts with anger or rage when their behavior is questioned. what is a red flag to me is a life long trend of this and no self reflection. goldload more comments (27 replies)load more comments (77 replies)[–][deleted] 2554 points2555 points2556 points 2 years ago (333 children)when he shows up at your job unannounced and you barely know him. i didn’t see any post from you in reply to toni’s comment. when he didn’t outright deny the domestic abuse, drew peterson blamed it on each of his wives for provoking it. break and tell him if he doesn't leave, i'm calling the cops. goldload more comments (96 replies)[–]eratoast 59 points60 points61 points 2 years ago (14 children)he offers to pay for your nose job or boob job for your birthday. These are what I see as 'Red Flags' that you might be dating a LOSER. i used to reply but he would say really weird things and call me baby even though we just met. this includes failed relationships, failed classes, financial mismanagement, car accidents, work issues, etc. a person who’s uncaring and unethical towards others will most likely also be that way to you when you no longer serve his interests. gold[–]sarabada 833 points834 points835 points 2 years ago (58 children)both crazy and an asshole. if they are cheap–you’ll never receive anything once the honeymoon is over. gold[–]shiroshippo 2039 points2040 points2041 points 2 years ago (325 children)he didn't call them crazy, but i knew a guy who said all his past girlfriends were stupid sluts. once we were hanging out with his guy friends in my apartment and one of them went to the bathroom. most important self-defense against psychopathic seducers consists of recognizing the initial warning signals so that you can escape the relationship early on, hopefully before you’re seriously harmed. he sleeps in my bed when i sleep out (i sleep at my current boyfriend's house every night). while they both entered the relationship with drew feeling desirable, in love and valued, by the end they were overpowered and intimidated by him. i tell him that while i am flattered, i dont have the same feelings. we weren't that close as friends, never hung out alone.: we can just change this to red flags in general, doesn't have to be that's he's crazy! if you encounter a man who behaves in a despicable manner towards any other woman, no matter what he says about her, examine his behavior carefully since that’s how he’ll eventually treat you and, needless to say, run. gold[–]rinnhart 448 points449 points450 points 2 years ago (3 children)downright polite, really., i acknowledge some people are eager and even socially awkward, but there are a lot of guys out there who don't seem to understand any concept of boundaries, don't respect when i say i'm available, etc.'ve seen countless posts about crazy women, but what are some red flags for crazy men? this boy was 27 years old and is the epitome of pathetic loser. those who exert power cruelly over the powerless red flag for me.-i start getting calls from customs because he's apparently sending me jewellery without paying the right amount of tax on it. that’s why those involved with a psychopath, following the initial stage when he praises everything they do and say, come to realize that their feelings, needs and opinions don’t matter to him. i got a little turned around as it was an area i wasn't that familiar with and the one way streets were throwing me off. they may do so through overt criticism and by following them around when they meet with others, as drew did to stacy. knew this guy, we'll call him adam, in middle school, but became friends around our freshman year. he explained he "took down", as he called it, the guy i was dating earlier by feeding him lies about me just dating him out of pity, so that his self-confidence would be crushed and he would stop dating me. more comments (9 replies)load more comments (92 replies)[–][deleted] 1542 points1543 points1544 points 2 years ago (118 children)if a guy constantly shit talks other women or his exgirlfriends, i get concerned. the punch line to most of the jokes are just the word […].[–]general_tictac 390 points391 points392 points 2 years ago (125 children)i've never done any of these things, never had a relationship. to his buddies, drew peterson appeared to be an easy-going, nice guy. pulled over but at first refused to let me leave. we both were unemployed at the same time and desperate. when it smells like shit everywhere you go, better check under your own shoe. gold[–]captaindoctor007 151 points152 points153 points 2 years ago (12 children)i like that she killed them because they let her dog poo on their lawn. was watching "border patrol" and saw him arriving at sydney airport and being detained by police before being deported. goldload more comments (4 replies)[–][deleted] 111 points112 points113 points 2 years ago (0 children)you know, suddenly i don't feel so bad about myself. more comments (29 replies)[–]datingthrowaway34569 2894 points2895 points2896 points 2 years ago* (158 children)i was once dating a guy who was a bit shy and very sweet, but lacked self-confidence. goldload more comments (14 replies)[–][deleted] 240 points241 points242 points 2 years ago (25 children)oh this is almost 1/3 of my life story. whole "asking repeatedly after you said no" thing is way fucked up but then "it's not like i'm going to rape you hahaha" i would have bailed too. i told him i knew what happened and we stated dating again.
  • 31 Women Share The Red Flags To Identify “Crazy” Men | Thought

    , there was no chance there was going to be a second date. · 717 comments what personality trait is someone normally proud of but really shouldn't be? as carver states, “the loser tells stories of violence, aggression, being insensitive to others, rejecting others, etc… they brag about their temper and outbursts because they don’t see anything wrong with violence and actually take pride in the ‘i don’t take nothing from nobody’ attitude… listen to these stories — they tell you how you will eventually be treated and what’s coming your way. goldload more comments (11 replies)load more comments (18 replies)[–]xazier 204 points205 points206 points 2 years ago (21 children)sounds like a winner. he always goes to her house or meets him at the restaurant. as we’ve seen, drew peterson escalated the abuse of his partners. men give off signals that they'll be unfaithful, relationship experts say. gold[–]sxtxixtxcxh 80 points81 points82 points 2 years ago (0 children)look at rico suave over here. before i could even say 'let's meet up the weel after! gold[–]soycrates 1630 points1631 points1632 points 2 years ago (158 children)you'd be surprised at how this is actually possible. dudes if a girl never makes any effort to see you she's just not that into you, sorry. ordered two shots of jameson, took both, and walked away. by red flags and cerebral correlates « psychopathy101 on august 21, 2011 2:30 am. goldload more comments (1 reply)[–]arteyu 65 points66 points67 points 2 years ago (3 children)what happened afterwards? more comments (122 replies)[–]speednuts 2937 points2938 points2939 points 2 years ago (90 children)itt: totally legitimate behavior in a romantic comedy. trust me, living with her is torture enough where she turned people against me with her jekyll and hyde personality and worse, trying to drive me insane using her mind games. gold[–]xandeinerseitex 327 points328 points329 points 2 years ago (11 children)haha, exactly. mean, really the whole thing is just messed up, but i swear my heart froze too when i read that. i suggest therapy and he says he's over it, but when i reschedule a date, i get a three page email from him about trust and abandonment. fight fire with fire, the legal route of course because you don’t want to lose custody of your child. and he flipped out saying “omg if it’s such a chore then don’t come out” followed by “you’re probably stalling to fuck your ex” and then some other statements. goldload more comments (14 replies)[–]spraliish 26 points27 points28 points 2 years ago* (8 children)ex boyfriend. he elaborates, “normal, healthy individuals require a long process to develop a relationship because there is so much at stake… the rapid warm-up is always a sign of shallow emotions which later cause the loser to detach from you as quickly as they committed. once they have secured their chosen partners in their grasp, they put them down to erode their self-esteem. goldload more comments (26 replies)[–][deleted] 288 points289 points290 points 2 years ago (9 children)oh holy jesus.: "so where do you want to go when we meet? gold[–]jdm713 427 points428 points429 points 2 years ago (6 children)i was going to ask did he ride a segway? just never thought i'd get the ultimate dealbreaker less than 20 minutes into the date like that. goldload more comments (6 replies)load more comments (34 replies)load more comments (177 replies)load more comments (113 replies)[+][deleted] 2 years ago* (111 children)[deleted]. long story short, police had to be involved and restraining order filed. gold[–]anu26 349 points350 points351 points 2 years ago (8 children)after they have their baby! it is probably a bit of an asshole thing to do, but watching the look on his face morph from pervasive dirtbag to slightly confused to clearly defeated in three seconds is so satisfying. gold[–][deleted] 608 points609 points610 points 2 years ago (36 children)it's not like "i'm" going to rape you. similarly, if he abused his previous partners, he’s very likely to abuse the next ones as well. i'm in highschool, i'm not changing my plans for my future because of a guy i vaguely like."you want to cut out my spleen and make earrings out of it?“they’re more likely to cheat because they feel they don’t have to play by the rules,” says lin. you can't lie to me, you're going to cheat on me. in addition, since psychopaths don’t find anything wrong with their harmful behavior, they’re likely to boast about it. he is eating food from the fridge and tells me he is part of our family now and you can't kick family out of the house.’ve read various articles on your site which have been really interesting and informative. goldload more comments (30 replies)load more comments (46 replies)[–]rakshala 4039 points4040 points4041 points 2 years ago (860 children)he still lives with -my- parents 10 years after i divorced him. guys talk about a future with me on first or second dates.” which is exactly what drew peterson  (and others like him) did after seducing each of his partners. it’s interspersed with increasingly fewer “nice” moments, which trap the victim in her own wishful thinking. “then, if he wants to go out with the guys,’” you’ll say ok. it's funny how life turns out, i'm not saying you follow the guy. more comments (33 replies)load more comments (48 replies)[–]thisgirlwithredhair 316 points317 points318 points 2 years ago (27 children)it should have been a big giant red flag when we would text and he would get so furious and call me terrible names and stuff and then a few days later text me like none of it had happened. in the long run, there’s nothing anybody can do to please a psychopath. we only ever really texted, though we did see each other every once in a while, because i was away at school. those smear campaigns always play upon misogynist stereotypes of women straight out of the movie fatal attraction or similarly disordered examples. find out the top 14 clues that your guy will cheat on you. although some psychopaths may consistently maintain the mask of charm in superficial interactions with their buddies, colleagues and acquaintances, their real controlling, selfish and aggressive natures tend to show through in extended intimate contact. gold[–]jsellout 1129 points1130 points1131 points 2 years ago (34 children)i'm 27 and i like dinner. if you encounter a man who does a bait and switch to gain your trust only to violate his promises or raise the bar higher and higher, run. goldload more comments (11 replies)load more comments (18 replies)load more comments (101 replies)[–]bubbly_beer 1235 points1236 points1237 points 2 years ago (66 children)if he doesn't trust anyone and tries to separate you from your close friends and family. men give off signals that they'll be unfaithful, relationship experts say. but your husband is probably keeping something from you, he says. men give off signals that they'll be unfaithful, relationship experts say. i'm glad i stuck with him though, we are really happy now & the journey made us stronger. find out the top 14 clues that your guy will cheat on you. sudden shower of gifts, flowers, jewelry — and it’s not your birthday.-on the "one year anniversary" of our phone "conversation", he sends me a floral arrangement, via interflora, that's as tall as me with 18 red and white roses (white for my youth and purity, pfft. admittedly things just happen - and some situations are out of our control. goldload more comments (5 replies)load more comments (10 replies)[–]deeeej 105 points106 points107 points 2 years ago (8 children)(´・ω・`). asked me to make a minimum payment on his credit card statement. goldload more comments (34 replies)load more comments (31 replies)[–]yambercork 3486 points3487 points3488 points 2 years ago* (535 children)repost. then you'd be stuck with a stupid dentist degree making tons of cash!" he threatens to shoot anyone who comes over, including your family, best friend, etc. gold[–]better_nurf_irelia 56 points57 points58 points 2 years ago (1 child)oh my god. he used to make calls and send texts while you were around. any intimate relationship with a psychopath is a gamble where you risk losing everything and from which you have nothing to gain.
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    • Ladies, what is your "He is probably crazy" red flag? : AskReddit

      bought the same guy a drink at the bar a month apart because he was on his way to the middle east or some shit, i'm not even a fan of the military, he was alone and i figured he could use a drink before leaving. goldload more comments (34 replies)[–]howispellit 152 points153 points154 points 2 years ago (14 children)i was meeting someone for coffee from an online dating site, and i mentioned that he was the first guy i've ever met via an online dating website. escorts reveal what their first day at “work” was like. i told him i knew what happened and we stated dating again.) women is still so readily accepted by our culture – oh, but men are always presumed to be sane. gold[–]icebear518 84 points85 points86 points 2 years ago (5 children)i thought you were dating a-ko. stacy’s growing insecurity also placed her under drew’s power to determine how she felt about herself. he started coming in my store every time i worked and made up excuses to be there and talk to me. men give off signals that they'll be unfaithful, relationship experts say. you think your post has disappeared, see spam or an inappropriate post, please do not hesitate to contact the mods, we're happy to help. in the end, they all saw the relationship as seriously damaging for stacy. find out the top 14 clues that your guy will cheat on you. gold[–]salahdin 738 points739 points740 points 2 years ago (23 children)yeah but what if it hadn't worked out? i know we haven't gone on a date yet, but i think we will.)submitted 2 years ago * by thebattleofevermorei've seen countless posts about crazy women, but what are some red flags for crazy men? when a man feels that he has me '' figured'' out, or can tell me what type of person i am after one date. “the loser,” carver notes, “has very shallow emotions and connections with others. gold[–]socraticmethhead 2512 points2513 points2514 points 2 years ago (356 children)ah, the "taylor swift" phenomenon. rest assured that your behavior will return to normal if you detach from the loser before permanent psychological damage is done.[–]roxxer 524 points525 points526 points 2 years ago (30 children)sounds like he was just trying to use you.(calls me at home while he's out of town for work)him: 'who's there? as carver notes, “the loser panics at the idea of breaking up–unless it’s totally their idea–then you’re dropped like a hot rock. the next week he tried to break into my car when i was leaving work.: r (my friend) and c (his friend who's dating r). and justice: as you make your bed so you must lie in it. you seem really sweet and that's a real turn on. paid all the bills, and my parents helped me because i couldn't support us. just as how people behaved in the past tells a lot about how they’ll behave in the future, so how they treat others functions as a pretty good indicator of how you’ll eventually be treated. i then said "i guess pre med and i'll figure it out on the way". but i was young and now i see how much of a ridiculous red flag it was and how dangerous things could have gotten if we'd gotten into a more serious, in-person relationship. say for instance he invites you somewhere last minute and you decline because you're busy. goldload more comments (6 replies)[–]lovesbigwords 251 points252 points253 points 2 years ago (26 children)first date. i was like "of course, you look great in that. gold[–][deleted] 295 points296 points297 points 2 years ago (45 children)when i broke up with my boyfriend my mom told me point-blank "you're never going to find someone as good as him again". goldload more comments (21 replies)load more comments (58 replies)[–][deleted] 513 points514 points515 points 2 years ago (29 children)my girlfriends sister was dating a guy for about a month and all of us thought he was a great guy.. this might seem more odd, but do you suspect anything would be going on with him and your mom? goldload more comments (2 replies)load more comments (22 replies)load more comments (27 replies)load more comments (8 replies)load more comments (60 replies)[–]s_lang 539 points540 points541 points 2 years ago* (278 children)a friend of mine was being mildly stalked by some guy for a loong while. more comments (76 replies)[–]repulsia 679 points680 points681 points 2 years ago* (78 children)-spoke to him once on the phone..8k · 8968 comments ex-cult members of reddit, how were you introduced to the cult and how did you manage to escape?” drew peterson and other dangerous seducers wouldn’t get any partners, much less attractive young women, if they showed their true colors from the very beginning. during the ‘honeymoon phase’ of a relationship, you will be treated like a king or queen.: i don't want you having people over when i'm not there. agrees to leave, after professing how he wants to "touch my body" and how he loves me so. gold[–]ronover 321 points322 points323 points 2 years ago (44 children)it's not like i'm going to "rape" you. gold[–]yambercork 1385 points1386 points1387 points 2 years ago (11 children)in a way, it is kind of convenient. goldload more comments (1 reply)load more comments (19 replies)load more comments (11 replies)load more comments (9 replies)[–]infiniteblink 729 points730 points731 points 2 years ago (103 children)damn. goldload more comments (11 replies)load more comments (22 replies)load more comments (64 replies)[–]thisgirlwithredhair 105 points106 points107 points 2 years ago (7 children)and too much self-deprecation, as if you're too good for them. such men are aggressive in their work and relationships, says new york city psychotherapist michael batshaw, author of 51 things you should know before getting engaged (trade paper press). it is a very messy case and continues to batter me down and harass me with various unfounded reports to the police, social services and the like. his interviews show that he felt entitled to mistreat each of his wives as he pleased. gold[–]dowork91 54 points55 points56 points 2 years ago (11 children)glad to hear that., i think that you’re right that there are still sexist or misogynist cultural attitudes. but they get very angry when the tables are turned and their partners leave them. gold[–]skubasteevo 2684 points2685 points2686 points 2 years ago (56 children)good thing you were vague, now he'll never know if you are talking about him or one of the other 10,000 men that live with their ex-wife's parents. men give off signals that they'll be unfaithful, relationship experts say. goldload more comments (13 replies)load more comments (101 replies)[–]xazier 973 points974 points975 points 2 years ago (63 children)this thread makes me feel great. “any one sign won’t tell you that your man is cheating,” says los angeles family therapist and psychologist leslie seppinni, psy. only time she talked to me about my relationship with him is when she came over to scold me about not being a good girlfriend and breaking up with him. i don't know the details so i have no clue if she told him her address, but still weird. they will notice a change in your personality or your withdrawal. he then claimed to have the right for his "first time" as a reward.” in addition to paying attention to what others say, trust your own intuition and powers of observation. “it’s been said that when dating, the way an individual treats a waitress or other neutral person of the opposite sex is the way they will treat you in six months. i understand if you want to compliment me, but every other sentence and i start to think, "maybe this guys a little wierd" and it just gets worse the longer it goes on. at 28, lets his parents make all of his decisions/won't do anything without consuting his parents first.  which is why, as carver observes, “the loser will check up on you and keep track of where you are and who you are with. if you don’t answer their phone call, you are ask where you were, what were you doing, who you were talking to, etc. · 3747 comments only using a quote from it, what's your favorite videogame? one or both his parents were routinely unfaithful, your man may be more inclined to cheat – especially if his father was the skirt-chaser. however, he believed that they didn’t have the right to object to his mistreatment or to leave him as a result of it. you're "not allowed" to wear anything that shows your legs because you're "too pale" and "no one wants to see that. · 1414 comments what's a film that is hated by critics that you absolutely love?
    • The Biggest Online Dating Red Flags - Techlicious

      zero muffins were involved and it wasn't a touching conversation.  in some ways, however, this statement isn’t far removed from the truth. same goes if he’s suddenly calling and texting you frequently. reserve the right to remove content or restrict users' posting privileges as necessary if it is deemed detrimental to the subreddit or to the experience of others. they’re hints that he has pulled away from you and is moving toward someone else. their victims often describe them, in retrospect, as janus figures (since they’re two-faced) or as jekyll and hyde personalities (since they switch from nice to mean). goldload more comments (18 replies)load more comments (133 replies)[–][deleted] 1251 points1252 points1253 points 2 years ago (112 children)comparing me to his mother constantly. “if he or she hits you, twists your arm, pulls your hair, kicks you, shoves you, or breaks your personal property even once, drop them,” carver advises. his assertion that he pampered stacy by indulging her obsession with plastic surgery rings false. is exactly what not to do if someone breaks up with you in real life. after driving down two streets and not locating my car, he angrily pulled over and told me to just get out. don’t know if he is a ‘psychopath’ but the more i read articles like this one the more it rings true. interesting that these psychopaths know how to exploit old, vestigial sexist attitudes in the general public. we called the cops, but with no proof of it really being adam, nothing was really done. post asking for advice should be generic and not specific to your situation alone.” in his estimation, how a loser treats people who aren’t immediately useful to him reveals how he’ll treat you once your use has expired..Permalinkembedsaveload more comments (3 replies)[–][deleted] 713 points714 points715 points 2 years ago (84 children)if he starts calling you denko. waitresses, clerks, or other neutral individuals will be treated badly. gold[–]therealtoast 528 points529 points530 points 2 years ago (18 children)they're behind you as you read this. red for blood and 18 because that was my age, he was a lot older. they do everything possible to undermine their confidence, reduce their sociability, narrow the range of their interests and eliminate all positive human contact from their lives. as we recall, drew peterson bought his wife a motorcycle and expensive jewelry even during the period of time when he was criticizing her, throwing her up against the wall, isolating her from her loved ones, accusing her of infidelity and calling her pejorative names. typically, in less than a few weeks of dating you’ll hear that you’re the love of their life, they want to be with you forever, and they want to marry you. he claimed (quite proudly) that he had told her mother that "loser" was a sex maniac. by this point in time, my sister (9 years old) has called me three times complaining that he walks around the house naked. goldload more comments (8 replies)[–]koyaanisgoatse 128 points129 points130 points 2 years ago (12 children)also see: the audiobook version. and justice: as you make your bed so you must lie in it. goldload more comments (23 replies)load more comments (28 replies)load more comments (46 replies)load more comments (273 replies)[–]ninja-iris 628 points629 points630 points 2 years ago (132 children)-talks alot about the friendzone. he said this as if he was proud of it and i should be impressed.! the girl i like won’t respond to my emails (´・ω・`). drew peterson didn’t mind cheating on his wives and abandoning them for other women. now close with a nice line to let her know you're a man with attention to detail. i'm getting a lot of replies along the lines of 'but if you're always flaking that's frustrating". by way of contrast, genuinely nice people treat others well regardless of their perceived utility. clingy /needy after one date, or worse, feels that you owe him all your time after just some texts. so how do you know if he’s likely to step out on you? has also begun having the habit to show up outside my house with his car and stay there for hours. he refers to all his past girlfriends as being crazy. “the loser has a tremendous sense of entitlement, the attitude that they have a perfectly logical right to do whatever they desire,” carver continues. goldload more comments (28 replies)[–]imnotnancy 3590 points3591 points3592 points 2 years ago (1014 children)when he refers to all his past girlfriends as being crazy.[–][deleted] 503 points504 points505 points 2 years ago (10 children)that's a hilarious typo.. not only does it get uncomfortable, but if they're seriously acting like that, especially if you don't know them well, it either seems like they don't value themselves or they're buttering you up (like complements). mom takes me to "dinner" where she spends 4 hours telling me i don't love her son enough, followed by an hour of begging me to marry him and give him a child and her grand kids. when they get bored with one partner or find a replacement, they can leave her on the spur of the moment, heartlessly, often without even bothering to offer an explanation. probably why i generally have healthy relationships and relatively amicable breakups. to them, children are possessions and in case of divorce, weapons against their ex’s. be particularly attuned to how he responds when you express different needs or opinions. must post a clear and direct question in the title.  as carver observes, “the loser feels your friends and family might influence you or offer negative opinions about their behavior… eventually, rather than face the verbal punishment, interrogation, and abuse, you’ll develop the feeling that it’s better not to talk to family and friends. gold[–][deleted] 1068 points1069 points1070 points 2 years ago* (71 children)just threat them as people and be casual. he said he knew where i lived and that he was coming to steal me away. she hasn't made me dinner since i was a preteen but she baked this guy muffins. men give off signals that they'll be unfaithful, relationship experts say. in the wild, predators isolate their prey from the rest of the herd to better attack and devour it. “if you’re happy, you won’t question him,” dr. more comments (3 replies)[–]kittyvonstroke 450 points451 points452 points 2 years ago* (82 children)takes everything personally. more healthy food for thought – check out our posts on health bistro and lifescript tv videos on youtube. “more than one instance of infidelity is a really bad sign,” malkin says. got dead flowers in my mailbox once and was completely creeped the fuck out, i can't imagine going through the mess you've been through though! got a job, ex got a job, i started really not liking living with my parents but i think he liked my family. by way of contrast, her friends’ and family’s claim that he criticized her to the point that she felt compelled to make constant “improvements” in her physical appearance sounds much more plausible. and the alien logo are registered trademarks of reddit inc. they mistreat them to the point where they’re overcome with rage. gold[–]i_am_jesuschrist_ama 441 points442 points443 points 2 years ago (16 children)"hi, my name is dave. through such behavior, losers show their targets that they’re capable of doing the same thing to them. one of the reasons i left was because he resisted my attempts to leave. carver advises,  “if you find yourself dating a man who treats you like a queen and other females like dirt–hit the road. in these special sections is created on behalf of our sponsors.-he continued to send me messages, that he loved me, forgave me for involving police, that he didn't mind that i had a boyfriend (who i was with before i even knew this nutter existed) because my bf would understand that he and i were meant to be together, we were meant to be because we had the same blood type. they were the ones who were “on edge” and “disturbed,” not him. goldload more comments (31 replies)[–]lolbrby2k 206 points207 points208 points 2 years ago (16 children)the worst is when the girl/guy breaks up with their partner in a movie and the person refuses to accept it and will stop at nothing to "win them back", including: harassing or even fighting the persons new bf/gf, stalking his or her ex and their family, posing as another person in order to get close to their ex, showing up to their wedding and trying to ruin it, showing up at their ex's workplace and professing their undying love for them in a grand, over the top way, etc.. he continued saying he saw a future with me but now it was all ruined!