My ex is dating someone else what should i dotried asking him to lunch or whatever after that, but he kept saying no. i have invested so much of my time in this relationship. granted the day after she work the breakup email she texted me “i didn’t mean to hurt you. i was so curious if he already has a relationship with the girl, and i had the chance to catch them on a double date with the two other colleagues. he hasn’t posted anything on facebook other than the relationship status change in a few weeks. all of this was just as blindsiding as the breakup. think she is exhibiting some of the signs and she definitely still has feelings for you. don’t have to wait for it to be over. i just want to know if this is a rebound. if you can’t seem to do it by yourself, you should seek professional help. called me one night in january almost in tears telling me about the new girl and how she hasn’t talked to him in a day because they got into an argument. rebound relationship is simply an attempt to fill a hole in your life that was left by an ex. she might olny see him 2 times in a whole months. told me that he remembered all the nice places we used to go like pancake houses and coffee bars. they fact that she hangouts and has sex with this other guy destroys me but i feel like she’s just trying to replace me. tyne, the first thing i’ll recommend you do is tell him you need some space and time and start no contact. i have a feeling he started seeing her while he was still talking/flirting with me because he was very reluctant to tell me that he was in relationship. also do you think she will go in a relationship with her other ex for a rebound or a permenant relationship? likely do you think the rebound of your ex and another will last if it started all within a week of them talking to each other? its been almost 3 months since we broke up and i am doing the no contact…. sent him a lengthy email saying i was sorry i messed up and that i hurt him, and that after we broke up i had done a lot of self-evaluation and i was sorry that i was so selfish and that i took him for granted. to the point where my ex said i was pushing him towards her cause i caused him stress and she didn’t. are 3 months into this mess, and while a part of me wants to think this is a temporary thing i need to just let him do and wait out, another part of me feels like i need to win him back quickly before he runs off for good. he didn’t contact me either, and i noticed that after the incident, he kept creating shout outs online that he’s happy and in love (without referring to any girl in particular) and the girl would give comments that weren’t too obvious that they’re already an item. i have heard she has been getting a lot of tattoos from him recently. because you were important to her and it’s hard to get over a relationship especially if you are in a rebound. you need to find a way to deal with your own grief and i don’t think obsessing over her relationship and her happiness is a good way to do so. he told me that he had started speaking to another girl from stupid facebook… so of course, i made sure to back off and leave him to it. also there are a lot of articles written about how your best friend is the perfect one for you and the popularity of girls ending up dating their best friends and it being the best thing they ever had, also things on how they are the perfect ones for you all this time but you only recognize it after so many years. since then i have found out that he started seeing her before we split (she didn’t know) and he has promised her the world, while also seeing me and telling me i was his soulmate.’m thinking that there is not hope getting her back? if she has been consistently cold, then i’ll recommend you do no contact for another 2-3 months. after she calls me out of blue and ask to come over and then does not talk to me two days after. the best you can do is give it a try. even if he does come back, he might hurt you again. your man dumped you, this is what you have to do. however, i’ve recently discovered that there most certainly is someone else in her life. we were tight as a couple, never fought once, same interests etc, the usual but we got strained through his work and i thought a break would be good. he was very good and supportive for a month, after which his efforts started lacking and would refuse to answer my questions. i saw him almost two weeks ago and because i’m sure he deleted my number and i his our form of contact would be facebook but i deactivated mine long ago so that i wouldn’t be tempted to talk to him. my ex emailed me the other day saying he’s trapped and his new fiancé is pregnant and she’s screwed him over and he hates his job and asking for help from the people he emailed. he will continue playing with your emotions and keep dragging you along if you let him. keep in touch with her for a few weeks before asking her out again. and if she doesn’t break up by the end of that time limit, you give her an ultimatum.! the night that i knocked round his house and he wouldn’t let me in because he had her upstairs. i broke every rule in the book, and look like a needy slop-tart. i took a girl out but never slept with this person. i met with her parents to talk about us after i found out and they were shocked to learn she was still seeing me. i guess the best course of action is to stay no contact and wait for him to contact you.. but have instituted a nc rule for myself to get over him. but it’s still significant if you two had a good connection. i was trying to figure out what was going and realize why my bf was tired. regardless of how happy your ex may seem to be, what you should realize is that the two of had a level of intimacy together that the new relationship still hasn't achieved. for what to do, you should just apply no contact, at least for 60 days. and you will never find her unless you learn to stop obsessing over. if she is still cold, you know you gave it a try and you can move on without any regrets. but it turned out that he moved from la and found a job in ny where i live when we both graduated. we both were working things out to be 100% for the relationship. why did she care how i learned about her engagement? hasn’t thrown it in my face and has been (apart from a little moody) ok and not tried to make me feel worse than i already do. he broke it off because he “fell out of love” with me. i just stared at him and the girl and didn’t make a scandal or confrontation. you for for your blog as i’m in a desperate situation as this has been going on for six months and i don’t know what to do. i think the best thing you can do right now is start no contact. you want to know if the no contact rule work, you might be interested in checking out preventing a breakup to see where you went wrong in saving your relationship. i’m sure it was only about couple months maybe before their friendship went more then that. more importantly, she went into the relationship too fast and never really got the time to get over you. he displayed all the signs ti want me back but i was aloof. and i am just wondering if he still loves me and has feelings for me and misses me? i even went to his house and waited for him. this has included talking about what we didn’t like about the relationship and things that hurt us that we never talked about before. he is a very honest person and said he started having feelings for someone else, but that he still loved me but it seemed like it was no longer “in love”, but then he explains that it’s possible to love to people and describes are love as a garden with many plants and what he feels for this new girl as a single planted seed. (there are a ton more details but i’m leaving them out for the purpose of not making this too long). about a week ago i saw a text from a guy on my gf’s phone and got disappointed that she was planning to hangout with him and when i asked to see all her other texts between them she said she deleted them because it would’ve made her feel uncomfortable if i saw it. i went back home for christmas and we spent a night together. she looks kind of similar to me, have the same similar personality, and they have been doing the same things that what we did. was this meant to happen was i just the last person she wasted time on before realizing she loves her friend more then a just a friend as someone she could have life with. foolishly, i contacted her a number of times over the course of the next 2 months. am just trying to figure out it it is worth to keep trying if after couple weeks of nc and i don’t get any response from her just to do another couple weeks of nc for the same effect of no association at all. all of their friends are pretty much throwing a parade for them online, and it’s killing me. i’m confused though because lately when talking about our daughter she has increased the length of our conversations by far. like i said they are the same exact person with everything. he wanted us to stay friends, but i told him that i needed time to work through the breakup before i could consider that.’s probably a rebound, even if he met her while you were together. i asked him if he still often goes to these places and he said “noo, its hard for me to go to these places with my new lover, because we (he and i) always went there”. if your decision is based on what are your chances if she doesn’t reply, then i’ll say you still have a chance and you should try again after a couple of weeks (preferably a month). i mostly recommend people to follow the 5 step plan once and if it doesn’t work move on. someone important can be one of the hardest things to deal with. i will recommend you unfriend her and stay complete no contact for a while. i thought everything was okay from here and that he had a moment of uncertainly due to the way i made him feel during our 3 month break. i’m in love with this guy and i don’t know what to do, the best thing is to move on but i love him too much to move on, he still asks me who i hang out with, and if i hanging out with guys, we’ve been together for 4 months and i need some great advice, please help me i’m in desperate need of help i don’t want to loose him and i feel like each day passes i’m loosing him! your ex will try to win you back based on their zodiac sign. it seems the guy was the reason your ex left you. i told her it wasn’t easy for me either. why would you want to be like your ex’s new girl when being you is so much more fun? he finally contacted me about giving me my stuff back and he looked so miserable. she tells me not to wait for her and she wants to continue seeing this guy..in hindsight i shouldn’t ever have responded to her and have been in no-contact for about a month now, even though she’s snapchatted me in that time (i didn’t respond). i know every situation is different based on the individual, do you think it is better to keep trying to actively rekindle the relationship, or should i purposefully create space by restricting our contact, communication and the things i do for him?) i already assume she has been completely over me for long time. do you think he will still care or think about me or should i stop worrying and move on?) and she still engages on my instagram with no communication outside of those “likes”. after i read this i kind of did my own thing, but we ended up seeing each other when i came home for winter break and i was under the impression that we were just going to hang out as friends since that seemed to be what he wanted at the time. the more you focus on their new relationship, the more misery and pain you will create for yourself. i’ve now binned his and as he’s so desperate to cling to mine, he can keep them. if it doesn’t, then you know it’s over for sure. she just wanted to do the exchange and leave, but she did mention the dating profile that i had re-activated. and if she did end up being single what reason would she even contact me not saying to get together or anything like that but just in general. i didn’t call her to talk or anything, just asked what was wrong, but got no response. she basically wanted a level of commitment i wasn’t comfortable giving at the time, i thought i wasn’t ready. please advise because it would be a turning point for me. day 8 nothing so called and left voicemail saying i’m binning your bits but still want mine. do yourself and your sanity a favor and unfollow your ex and his girlfriend on any social media channel. like this happend few times before in the past,but in day or two everything was okay. right now, your mental well being should be your top priority. i think you should apply nc even with his texts (it’ll most likely have him thinking, especially if he regularly texts you “good morning” or “good night”). in other words, it feels as if i am changing his mind and heart about me and our relationship. especially when you have a long time apart and she is already completely past and over you. you need to stop trying to rescue the “damsel in distress” and find someone who is happy and who can make you happy. i really thought she loved me, you shouldv’e seen the intensity she displayed many times in our arguments. my friend asked him if he’d ever consider getting back with me he said “i don’t want to say no, just because of all the good memories we’ve had together. i did not try to get him to explain anything yet and he has not texted me back. even though it puzzles me a great deal when we made grand plans for a life together, have kids etc. i kept crying begging everything that he did when i left him. just broke up with my boyfriend of one year last night.. they want to take their new relationship slow and don’t want you to bother them. i just found out from him today that he’s seeing someone and was really surprised as i still think it’s so soon considering how serious our relationship was. i followed the no contact rule for over 30 days from which time she had tried to get in contact with me through fb. after we broke up, he found a girl and proposed to her with rings. seems harder now cause we didn’t just text for a day she called from the blue asking to come over and she seemed kind of happy to see me. he told me yesterday, that he could really use my help since he decided to see a psychologist now and work on this pathologic behavior and he claims he still loves me. a few years ago, if you asked jane whether or not she would move this much fast in a relationship, she would’ve called you crazy. but can i ask what should i do now knowing that he is into someone this new girl. thought it was because of his friends,they don’t have girlfriends and because he is unemployed and kinda stressed because of that. when i met him i was actually in a serious relationship (2. said at one point that when she happen to run into me earlier in month she wanted to say she misses me but i ignored her and that she thought i hated her so that why she ignored me at gym. she said she was wrong for emailing me when she broke things off but i was wrong for the things i said afterward. he changed his status to single write away on facebook. i met him two years ago when they were separated and he was just out sleeping around at the time. am sorry…i was wondering, do you think i should lose all hope on this? we started talking very briefly via texts a month ago and she’d respond to my texts but never initiated. of course, the fighting got worse because i wasn’t getting the answers i wanted and she wasn’t getting the answers she needed either. im now gonna apply the no contact rule, but is this a rebound. ( again not saying that there is any chance in heck that we will ever be anything ever again nor let alone if she ever will talk to me. i was the one who broke up with her and she took the break up very very hard and was emotionally devastated. she started calling a couple weeks ago to ask random questions or if i’d bring my dog to her pet store. 2 weeks passes without contact n out of the blues he texted me asking how i am and such, i tried playing cool and waited hours before replying to his simple messages but i now messed up. i didn’t get upset or show jealousy just told her ok and to remember if she needs an ear i’m here for her. to sum everything up, we have been on and off for about 2 years and during that rocky point of our relationship, i made the biggest mistake of my life.’s the fact that why did she lie multiple times to me let alone to my face about things.. keep telling yourself the relationship didn’t mean anything to her and you were just a plaything for her. he said he needs time, so you should give it to him. we live in different states (me northwest she ‘s in the east) and fell in love – the first real love we both had. so i decided to try and win him back, which he was aware of and allowed..And i remembered what my ex told me that he would give his resignation letter and he wont see her anymore. unfortunately for him, i’d binned all his stuff having given him months to collect and contacted him many times and then said i’d bin them. girl and i split after 6yrs on and off, we lived together for about a year but her jealousy pushed me to leave, so we get back together again and we carry on our reletiknship but she always accused me of seeing my ex ex, then we stopped talking for a whole month and i find out she has a new man in her life and she has been seeing him for a least three months. she just said that she wasn’t happy and that she wanted to be married.’s a question about whether or not my ex is trying to rub it in my face: i haven’t actually heard from him, but as far as the whole social media aspect goes, he hasn’t said anything about this new girl until he posted a concert picture and tagged her in it. it was really hard to hear her lash out and distort me and our relationship to say the least. it’s not like i can do the “no contact” because we have a daughter together so it makes it really difficult. we had an amazing months after and i could tell how in love we were. he’s even said that he feels closer to me every time we talk, even when it’s hard. we work out at the same gym and luckily i have not run into him yet., i don’t think knowing the reasons for his actions will give you any closure. but when your mind starts wondering whether or not it’s a rebound, you can drive yourself crazy analyzing their behavior and obsessing over every little detail about their new relationship. also have to take care more of myself because honestly i was so and still devastated of what happened. i have never been introduced “formally” to his friends because he always said it wasn’t the best time because of our situation. if she doesn’t contact you, then you should contact her. you decide to pursue him, you should be prepared to handle his hot and cold behavior and not react to it. or the fact you have same interest in spiritual beliefs and he takes you to shows and flashy events dealing with art because that’s what he does he does tattoos and he makes paintings for her. so i shouldn’t try to contact him once the thirty days are up? three weeks our break up, i heard from bf sister that new girl and my ex has something going on and i was ripped apart. new girl knows he just got out of a long relationship and when she asked him if he was on a rebound apparently he said he wasn’t. he will dump her because he see’s multiple people and grow bored with her. the longer they’ve been in the new relationship, the less likely it is to be a rebound. they do everything a couple would do together but she just keeps saying she isn’t dating. well after the exchange she texted me on my way home saying thanks. younger than me and she said she wants kids and to get married. she was either looking at him to see if he has been on there, or looking at me. this time, don’t let your mood swings affect your decision. ex fiance got married two weeks after breaking off the engagement we have been togother for more then two years we had our problem. i was trying to get her to get back after that but she was saying she cant and she doesnt want to mainly tht she doesnt believe me. you are who you are, and unlike your ex, you will find someone who can appreciate that. that being with someone for like a year or so is when they have better chance of working things out in “long time apart”. i was devastated, she was younger and more beautiful than i am. at the time, i was stressed about helping family so i got a better job. we had been dating for 3 years and when he broke up, he listed reasons like he wanted freedom, to be stress-free and he felt that the feelings faded. the fact that he seems perfect for her that she is so much more happier then she has been for long time. it went ok, we were friendly but i acted a little aloof on my part. when do you see it as it is and realize you have to just give it up. anyway weekend i met up with him(after going through all the classic mistakes) he agreed to stay friends and work on things and wouldn’t meet other girls whilst we are like this. i knew from the start this was never a rebound.. they know it’s a rebound and they want to get back together with you someday. then he recently married this other but continues to contact me. unless he used his little brother’s account and saw my status or his mom told him that our college friend and i are talking :). he also hangs out with her in full view when he is the kind of person to keep his business to himself. anyway, about 3 months into the breakup she started dating a new guy and they are in a full on relationship, talking about marriage and so on. when she was here last time a month ago right about now she said she still had the letter i wrote her at the beginning of when things were bout to end. i think i have grown a lot and learned a lot from the breakup, and am ready to start a new relationship with him. but if he’s a runner, then why would he contact me again. i tried talking to my sister about this she said i was just being used because she would say she misses me but never say why and it always happen out of blue maybe once a month and then back to nothing. then he told me that he is always with tath girl and he wants to break up with me! i guess he wanted to hide his new relationship from you because deep inside, he doesn’t want you to move on. if you show any weakness or neediness, it’s going to work against you. have i lost her forever or is this just a rebound relationship? give yourself a time limit for how long you are going to wait for her.. we were living together and constantly planning our future together. when we were together we would have so much fun and everything would be great, the second we weren’t together and he would text or call me he became mean and said he didnt feel anything. then contact her using one of the methods in this article. he also text me to ask how i was and wish my mum a happy birthday! weeks after i called her, she re-acticated her facebook , put “in a relationship”. and friends of mine say that i just have to work on myself right now (parents told me that too) and see how it goes after a few weeks or a month. either just being ignored or whatever so you do nc for another time period. i had no idea this was coming so i offered that we take a break if i still had a chance in the end. as for them being the same person, like i said before, it doesn’t necessarily mean their relationship is perfect and doesn’t have any issues. i’m more homey, enjoy doing things as a couple, want to get married, have kids, be a good wife and mom, etc. was dating this lovely woman for a year and half, all around great honeymoon to foundation stages of a relationship. he saw me today and he was walking his girlfriend to class and i was walking alone. came across your site and am starting to follow the 5 steps and have recently began the 30 day nc period. we chatted for some time and i asked her if she wants to go out for a coffee so we can catch up, she said she’ll see if she has any plans and she’ll give me a call i said no problem.
What A Sex Dream About Your Ex Dating Someone Else Means. my ex bf ask me if i could get him any job there so he could come with me he planned to get us wed before i leave even before, i heard from his mom that for 2 weeks he was pissed off cant think clearly, he started to hang out with his officemates that are bad for him, drinking alot going to bars (which he doesn’t like ) . a huge part of me says no girl in her right mind will pack up and leave her family and friends to come to a small town in the south, but of course things happen. it was pretty much out of the blue since we were celebrating and the next week he told me he needed space, time…he continued to tell me he loved me and that he wasn’t going to leave, he just needed space. he meant the world to me, but i took him for granted. in the first couple days of the breakup i made the mistake of begging him to work through our issues instead of breaking up with me, and i told him i would always be there for him..she still hasn’t made a pic of them her profile pic on facebook. like i said, this girl seems to have a track record for going in too deep and too fast which is why guys come and go when it comes to her, do you think this means it’s likely to end quick? then apply no contact for another 2-3 weeks and then text him. to get your ex back (when they’re dating others) — susan winter. i don’t understand why she would miss me if you are happy with your friend. he continuously let’s me down with payments, which is due to his financial issues associated with drug use. i add that i would try and take an interest in her things, like reality tv, because i loved her and wanted to be interested in her likes. i’ve seen her on there multiple times in the past day, and i’m pretty sure it means her rebound is starting to fall apart. your partner is trying to move on with their life and as much as it hurts for you to know that, you also have to focus on your own happiness. needless to say i was really confused by all of it.) he said you are either gonna be my friend or nothing at all! if she gets back together with you and she is thinking about that guy, you can deal with it at that time. she really does seem to enjoy every moment being around him and what they do. soon, things will start to get better and you will be able to think more clearly about this whole situation. i am very unsure what to do because i feel as if our spark is still there. she wanted to send you a message that she is moving on., i dont want to lag stuff on and start something. give her some time and space and meanwhile try to make some positive changes in your life. also that it is the easiest and quickest way to get over someone that you use to be in a relationship with because you are spending so much time with that new person like close good friend that it takes your mind off your ex and makes you realize that someone else has always had feelings for you and you might have always had feelings for them but never acted on them until now that this was the chance to act on those pent up feelings plus is shows her how incompatible she was with you . a few weeks after, he and his colleagues went on vacation again (he also paid for his share) and i saw their photos online that he was always beside that female colleague. ask for my stuff and to tell him he had a week to contact me about his otherwise i’d take it to mean bin it all. told me that there was nobody else, and at first i believed her. but like i said before, you need to learn from your mistake and stop putting yourself in a position where he can hurt you again. flowers, letters everything but its seem like its too late, which were her exact words. texted me the other day a picture of something that made her think of me. her being ‘official’ 9 weeks after a breakup shows me that they clearly were dating for at least 1 month, which means she wasn’t grieving long at all (maximum a month). start building attraction and if you think he is attracted to you enough, ask him if he wants to get back together. we had our ups and downs like the typical relationship. there’s a good chance she is not as happy with him as you are thinking in your mind. neither of us respond because at the time we honestly didn’t know. anyway, as of two days ago, i texted him for something., in most cases, when you tell your ex you want to get back, they will most probably put their defense up (especially if they were the one who broke up). apologies i meant not making eye contact while we were talking but looking elsewhere and smiling. this sounded like it could be a rebound relationship especially considering how things developed between us over break but i can’t tell.. i cant txt him, because his gf keepa on snooping around his phone and even the one who’s replying to his messages and acting that she is my ex (she done this with my ex mom and she wasnt happy about it).. but he is not going out if his way to see me. he asked me for this advice, then mentioned that he heard i took a trip, and he seemed impressed by that and other things. im going on a date with his mom, do you think its ok to keep in touch with her? start no contact and even if she contacts you, don’t answer her. but say you end up being right about her being in a rebound relationship with her friend. how are you planning to get out of this state of mind leave her behind? he tried to visit me at home, bring flowers, letters etc. meanwhile, i will keep working on my current goals and changes. i’m relatively sure he’s deleted my number and being that i’m not active should i activate again? i was pretty insensitive about it becuase his parents had been going through a divorce, and i was having my own family issues, and i guess i broke up with him when he needed me most. she’s with her new guy for 2 days now, and she seems happy for now. but yet here she is all smiles and hearts and all these other pictures and stuff with the both of them and just of him. she also updated her fb with new picture of them. we broke up but we were still kind of trying to figure things out. obviously, i was upset and i told him that i felt unimportant to him because of what he said and he expressed that that wasn’t true and that i was important to him and he didn’t want to lose me and he would do what he needed to do (within reason) to make me happy. and during no contact, i want you to think exactly what type of treatment you expect from him. idk how she can completely move on so fast its almost unfathomable, like she has no conscience. he stalked her for the whole year we dated he texted her all the time. by text: 2 reasons why it happened and what to do to bounce back. if still nothing, you have the option of starting no contact and trying again or concentrate on moving on. i was thinking about sending her a quick message on there if i see her profile go back into full status. we still talk to each other even after he requested the break as we use to talk to each other everyday. so i said i want to break up with you the following day. what to do after that if she doesn’t break up with her rebound? that girl turned out to be his little sister’s best friend that she’s known since 2nd grade. i just felt like it was good to end the txt / snapchat thing on a good positive note. she contacts me again saying that i still had something of hers at my place. but you will find someone who will care about your happiness. i am worried he is only focused on the bad parts of our relationship and is ignoring all the wonderful times we had and how great we were as a couple. and in august he and this new guy became a couple. i just want us to have a real, honest chance to be happy together without all the lies. he say’s that he still loves me and calls me baby when we talk to each other, he also told me when i broke up with him that nobody is going to love you like i do! i know i now need to apply the nc rule but i’m sos ared he’s gonna meet one of these girls and move on. until you let him go from your heart, you will never make the space for the right person. need to stay, as i was really worried that if she didn’t have someone there to look out for her, she wouldn’t get better. even though, she usually waits three months before sleeping with someone she is dating, she makes an exception in garry’s case; simply because she thinks that sleeping with him will make her forget about you. after a while we talked on the phone and she told me that she did not have the same feelings for me anymore. and does no contact really work for me even in this situation? ever since she’s been dating this guy she’s been posting pics on various social media and adding comments indicating that they are in love and he’s dreamy blah blah blah… also, she blocked me on fb when they started dating and then unblocked me. she’ll start talking about her day or how school is going and how she wants me to keep a look out for a job for her. it hurt so so so much and i really couldn’t believe he could do that to me full stop, let alone during a time that i was extremely vulnerable. guess, just from what has happened in the past, i have a feeling that he will date her for a couple of months and then come back to me again, but i cannot tell if this is a rebound or not. and for that you’ll have to let him go. she has an old friend garry who comforts her, she finds herself attracted to him. but since applying the nc rule last night she still texts me and wants to know what i’ve been doing and when my days off are? done everything wrong, i really wish i had read your article a month ago. think what do you expect from him in the relationship. if she doesn’t reply even at that time, then your chances are slim and i’ll recommend you try to move on..I met his brother last week and we had a nice talk. i wasn’t just comfortable doing that at my house and i told him that, because i wanted him to feel that my parents’ house isn’t really the best place to do it. he called me by the pet name when we were friends, rather than when we were dating. when we straightened things out he said that he thinks its best and he doesn’t want to be in a relationship now. he would give off hints that he wanted me back and well we did but since or offical break up which has been 4 months now hes been in and out so many relationships i figured he was using her as a rebound he would pur her names he use to call me and it bothered me enough to yell at him will cruel and our of line words but you’ve made me wake up and realize alot so i know whats best thank you. it seems like she doesn’t care about me at all now. i did not respond to this and will not be contacting him even though i feel like i didn’t get a whole lot of closure as i didn’t speak with him face to face. why was he letting a young girl sleeping at his house if he loved me and didn’t want anything to happen? it’s an attempt to feel the same way you were feeling while you were in a relationship with your ex. towards the end of the conversation there was a lot of touching. both sides hated our hearts being together and it made us very unhappy and i pointed the blame at you and you pointed the blame at me it was a big loop going round and round. i explain in the article, her relationship is probably a rebound and she isn’t as happy with her life as she seems to be in social media, which is why i recommend you stay away from her online profiles. not even trying to reconcile the year we built and move forward constructively working things out. ex and i broke up approx 4 and 1/2 months ago, we were together for over 5 years. your e-mails everyday and web site has been helping me tremendously. and it seems pretty serious because the guy is always at her house and i know he stays over. it showed me the difference between being happy physical with someone and not really caring compared to actually caring for someone like my current ex who i would of done anything for. i feel i want to reply as positive as i can on how i’m doing. i, though i honestly want to she her happy, want her to see me as the one guy that was always there for her…. of all, which couple discusses big life decision on their facebook wall? maybe there are things that would have to change and we can have a rational discussion about whether such changes are possible, given our situations”. before you decide to get back with him, you should make it absolutely clear that he wants the same things as you. & relationshipslovewhat must i do if my ex is dating someone else? birthday is next week but i don’t think i should say anything anyway but do you think it would make her mad or upset if i didn’t say anything. i’m a bit confused as what she is doing. should i just not contact at all until she does? shes in virginia now and the new guy is in jamaica which i find weird for a new relationship to work she is coming back in august tho, could this be a rebound? i wonder is if i was his rebound girl and if so, if all the steps to getting him back work. she said she is at someones house and she is gonna be there for the whole day. i asked her what she wanted and she said she didn’t know, that i had no idea what was going on inside her. unlike the past few weeks, he didn’t avoid me as i was going to where he was (since that was the only way i should take to go home) that’s why he was able to look at me as i was “talking on the phone”.. he started on a dating site 4 days afte the break up and told me so. what should i do now after my no contact period to him? in fact, try to move on completely during these 2-3 months. the only conflict we ever had involved her successive social activities that she’d commit to on short notice. someone who is not even compatible with their life goal. i confronted him and he lied about it, telling me it was a recent thing and he never cheated. i tried talking to her the other day on the phone asking her to please just stop with all the negativity towards me and gave her my honest opinion as her friend that she is drinking too much and that i’m upset she is letting guys use her, i think that really made her mad because she is back to ignoring me again. the break up was very clean and mutual: i knew i was suffering and thought maybe we could work it out, but we talked it through and realised there was no fix. and of course she’s now got a new guy now so it doesn’t matter; if she’s happy then good for her, that’s all i want for her anyway, before now and in the future. well down the road i split up with her because i thought it was best. shouldn’t affect much if you are not needy after no contact. bf dumped me 5 days ago telling me that he wants to be alone. i’m not sure if i’m at “deaths door” or “indifference”? anyways i moved out of our shared apartment back to my hometown for a month, before we both decided we should be friends and roommates(so we both could save money up easily in order to move into our own separate apartments). do nc for a month and get back in touch. if i already, after the break-up , went all desperate texts/phone calls followed by 21 days nc. like he didn’t want to work things out but he didn’t wanna let go either. and he knows about that part and he will try to appeal to that part. when you contact him after nc is over, both of you will hopefully be a lot clear on what you want in life and you can discuss it before getting back together. it’s the kind of intimacy that is built with time and effort that a relationship requires. (technically speaking, the rebound already ended and this time, you will be starting a normal relationship and taking it slow). this means you can’t get mad when he begins to start dating someone else. i will take the advice that i am given because whatever i am doing, is not working!, after the 3 months, are conversations became more involved and i started to open up to him and reconnect again and things were getting better. i don’t know if its a rebound relationship with her new guy, or what the deal is there. yet i know i care about this guy a lot, but since i know i spoke up for a reason and don’t appreciate being disrespected, i can’t figure out his place in my life. i have the strongest feeling that this is the one guy for her the one she been looking for and wanting for very long time and it happens to already be someone important and special in her life and who been there long time already. wouldn’t the only thing left to be is intimacy. also when she broke up with me she told me her father bought her a one way ticket to her country and i found out that wasn’t true either and that she bought the ticket her self a week earlier.’m also lost on if your dating a close friend someone who knows all about you and she knows about him. new relationship will eventually suffer as your ex is not yet over the past one they had with you. i don’t know if you completed no contact, but if you did, you should stay in touch with her and try to rebuild the attraction slowly. if you follow the 5 step plan, it probably won’t be ignored. later on throughout the movie he kissed me, i didn’t initiate. just stay in touch and wait till her relationship falls apart. the only thing that i can guarantee you is that you did mean a great deal to her. take a step back for a second and look at how much obsessed you are becoming. since i “cut off contact” i did contact him a few times, but mostly tried to present myself as confident and “over him” which i was for a while. i think it is not anymore a rebound relationship maybe he is serious with her! like how it happens after long periods of no association or someone being in a relationship. then we stopped contact with each other and he meets this new girl like 3 months later and they start hanging out and eventually get together and become “official. but there were a lot of problems throughout our relationship. mean to do nc for certain amount of time then try to attempt to associate with her but for nothing. they are in a rebound, you still have to apply the no contact rule and follow the 5-step plan. i am devastated all over again i love this man so much and we have been through so much together. does care for me…but has made her mind up and can only look at me as a friend and flatmate. if he didn’t cheat on a physical level i am sure he cheated emotionally. i am pretty heartbroken, and feel that i should move on with my life. and my ex of 5 years (which is also my 9month old’s father) recently broke up end of may…. so yesterday i noticed her profile was back up, but all the pics and info were gone.’m more concerned on what our supposedly “relationship” was actually or apprently wasn’t. then when i instituted a no contact rule, after about 2 weeks he was begging to be back with me. she said she does not see us getting back, not meant to be, etc… i brought up lies that she said, and instead of apologizing she yelled “dont you ever call me again” and sent me a text that said “have a nice life! this was due to her being in a foreign country, away from her really close friends (she had been here 2 years before i met her) and, after she moved cities to be with me, couldn’t find a job. how likely is it that people get back together after breaking up, especially in my situation, where his mind and heart seem preoccupied with the infatuation with another woman? she would not answer my call or text messages on the day she sent the email. if i could get some answers in both these fronts? i bombarded her with texts and calls for the first couple of days. even if they're dating someone else, your ex is probably still thinking of you. from moving the rebound relationship too fast, another common behavior that rebound relationships have is choosing someone they’d not go for normally. i do show him that i appreciate his efforts by thanking him, talking to him on the phone often (but i’ve never called him), and kissing him. do you agree with what my friends have said in regards to a slightly manipulative behaviour from her? i feel good, i’m happy with going with the flow, spending time with friends etc. i said before, you should remove her from all your social media. though i handle the break up gracefully, it feels like he will never come around. is, i have a lease until the end of the year. i’d be naive to say that just because it’s a rebound it won’t work, i’m aware it very well could, but in that just-less-than 2 month period since us breaking up and her getting this new guy she would contact me from time to time., say your ex is in a rebound relationship now and you start to do no contact. anyway – were together for a year when things started to get difficult between us, so i had to break the relationship off with him to give us both space to get ourselves back on track.. before i was so blind and so desperate that i couldn’t think straight i would beg for chances. then he started reminiscing on our past and my smile, but then the tone changed and he told me that i should move on, that i don’t want to be with him and years later i would thank him. up with me for someone else we did have not sex in 6 moths he says i’m bored never go out and the new guy he like to go out the opposite of me is that a rebound ? i would always feel like i was hurting her when i wasn’t meaning too. know they’re still together and that his rich family is backing her business endeavor, as she was fired from her job shortly after shacking up with the man. it seems innocent enough until you look at her social media. thanks for all the free stuff, and thanks for te opportunity to share this. she would even come to my work just to see me for couple minutes. some people keep someone lined up for dating before breaking up just so they don’t have to be single for longer than a few days. i basically inflicted this pain on myself by taking my ex for granted and pushing her into this new guy arms. apparantly he also had an affair 4-5 years ago while i had 24 hour shifts at my old job. if that’s the case, could this make the relationship more or less successful? things that happen when you fall in love with your life instead of a person. and pathetic as i apparantly am, i still want him back. until i saw the picture i wanted him back but now i had to go no contact at all…how can i talk to him after he let me find out the truth in such a horrible way? what is going on and what on earth do i do? in september i sent my ex roses because we would have had our 5 year anniversary and my ex was very happy about that (even though his new partner hated it). my friends tell me that she is a rebound and i’m confused. she makes pathetic attempts to move the relationship faster hoping that she can gain the same level of intimacy that comes from long-term relationship. anyways, talking to him made me go crazy and i ended up blowing up his phone which was a bad idea and he finally got angry and told me to leave me alone, he wants nothing to do with me, he gave me too many chances, hes seeing other girls. is this new girl a rebound and if so what are my next steps. that said, we still live together, a mutual decision not only because we don’t want to physically have to make the move, but also because we don’t want to separate. before i knew it, they were engaged within one month of dating. was her rebound guy… now she is in new relationship… she broke my heart in 10000 peaces… and now 4 months later im still in shit and she is in love with him…. that’s why you need to cut contact with him. im pretty sure from what ive read here that ive only pushed her further into his arms. have no choice but to do the no-contact rule i suppose? but he believes that he and i can remain best friends. now i have texted him since wednesday and he has been very rude to me and says leave me alone, i’m seeing other girls, but yesterday i called him after receiving 20 blocked calls. she thinks if garry and her start having sex, she will feel much closer to garry and perhaps forget you. he can be very stubborn at times and has a policy of “not going back”. kevin,i had read your all 5 steps but unfortunately i think its bit late for me,i am 23yrs of age and my ex is 22,we were together since 6 months from june2013 to dec13,but my possessiveness ruin our relation though i love her very very much,we were working together but break up cause me to leave the organisation which i was seeking from last 3years,after that i had tried to contact her in every possible from message to email,since last 4 months i was continuously text her because i thought time shouldn’t run away but she feel it very irritating and start to hate me more than she loved me,we were in great relationship but my few mistakes asked me to pay heavy price,but i really love her and she had also loved me alot,and i desperately want her back so please please help me out. so, at some point i called a face to face, where i tried fighting for us one last time- presented him with the timeline leading up to proposal- how could he propose after 2 months- and he had dedicated a lana del rey song to me just the other day- a song that made me want to just die- so we agreed to no more sad texts- but apparently it didnt stop because again i needed to have another convo with him to get my point across.
in the meantime though, before we rediscovered each other, she got married and had 2 boys with a guy she eventually broke up with. it made me look stupid in the end for believing she actually meant things like missing me or thinking of me or wanting so see me when she did. however, you can have a talk with him before doing so telling him that you think this is best course of action right now since you feel disrespected by the fact that he is with the other women at the same time he is with you. replied as mentioned and now a text comes out of the blue from nc about working on a project together. ever since then, i have been pestering him by call and texts for two weeks. want to try and forget about your ex, and you don’t need to be constantly reminded that he is dating someone else when pictures of the two of them show up with lovey dovey captions like “love him,” or “my boo. all the times she said she misses me or thinking of me a lot i know we’re not true because she has been with her best friend turned boyfriend for sometime. he told me that everyone was surprised and that his mom missed me. if she ends the relationship, she will have to face all the pain and emptiness alone and she doesn’t think she is ready to do it yet.’s not a good idea to show up at his house. don’t think there’s a hidden meaning to it. i don’t see how he is better besides being artist. i’ve been worried sick about her because this new guy is a smooth talking player who doesn’t really care who his girlfriend is as long as he has one but she seems to think she’s in love with him and she seems to be trying to replace me with him. there is hope you will get back together and yes, it’s probably a rebound. so let’s just assume that you are right and she is happy. i basically had to reason with her to get her to talk to me. i don’t think you should hold it against him the way he handled the breakup and what he did after the breakup. if it doesn’t work, you can close this chapter and try to move on. i called her that night to confirm us catching up and she said she wanted to call me later that evening as she was still busy., friending her will allow you to see where she works, what she does with her free time, and all of her embarrassing pictures, but you don’t, and shouldn’t, need to know anything about this girl let alone intimate details about her life. she has been very moody and has spent a lot of time in her room…. text him or send him the letter mentioned in the 5 step plan. guy seems to be the exact opposite of someone she would usually date. after that i stopped texting her and calling her, i don’t know if she misses me. the only thing you can control is your actions and your decisions. i am pretty sure she will break up with that guy eventually. i screamed so loud and yelled as loud as i could bursting into tears. need to mention that after she called it quits, we continued to live together as flatmates (and have done for two years). he’s still with his rebound nearly five months later so if the man i love is still going strong with her, i don’t want his belongings left here forever. i asked him if i could kiss him and he said he didnt know if that was right…after that he kissed me. we have gone through this once before but he came back. i did not want to see him that this time even if he asked because i was still in pain because of what happened and the break up. she also said that she doesn’t feel anything for me but then contradicted herself by saying that she has been afraid to do anything with this guy because she still cares for me a lot and has a lot respect for me. with all the talking and attempts on both sides to ‘fix things’, we now have a stronger and deeper connection than we had before (a mutual opinion). she did not reply to that message but i sent her another message saying “i was pretty drunk yesterday and let me know when i can talk to you”. this, he has been surprisingly open to the idea of fixing things, though still wants a ‘break’. she broke up with me, saying that she needs to get her life together and is terribly sorry for using me in this way, but my feeling is that the real reason is that i’ve really done a bad job in handling and embracing all this complicated stuff with her ex. its funny to think, he cannot see my posts because i have my profile on private. literally 30 mins after i said something to her about it. she texted next day to see if i’d bring the dog into her store. it is a horrible time and i don’t see any light at the end of the tunnel. 4 months where she was dating both of us without the other knowing. but i am pretty sure she still has feelings from you and she might even be having a hard time getting over you..) have been dating on and off for the past 7 years. he finally started avoiding my messages so i stop talking to him as well. i did ask her about the guy she was seeing the one who is her friend.: you and your partner used to be crazy with each other until stress created problems between you both-- which destroyed your relationship. i just feel i am worthless and that i spent six years with someone who couldnt care less about me. decided today to be nosey and look at my ex’s facebook. i have been two weeks nc and i just wondering if my ex has really move on with his new girl and am i wasting my time. but about a year ago he got depressed with his life and we broke up that was 10 months ago now. so i told my ex that but he said hes over me and just wants to be friends.. i had left him alone and he contacted my best friend asking how i was doing and that he wanted to be friends cause he cared about me still our breakup related to my actions and mistakes that pushed him way over the edge. girlfriend of 2 years recently broke up with with an email message at exactly the 2 year mark of our relationship. neither of us were happy here and i was trying to get us out. cannot tell if this relationship is just a rebound, and i have a chance of a future with this indecisive person, or if i should just let go of the entire thing and move on. feel like any type of texting will be ignored, or seen as me trying to get him back. texted him already but he dont reply knowing that he is awake and online. heard from his mom my ex is still asking about me, how i am etc thats a good sign right?: well, we had a connection and i don’t think it could be replicated. the best success, personal development, health, fitness, business, and financial advice. it’s common for them to feel something like love for each other and true happiness because they have so much in common and they already know all secrets and all other things about one another. they were married for 10 years (he’s 36 now, no kids) and broke up because they didnt have a good relationship: he wanted kids and she didnt, she wasnt in love with him, she did her life (went on holidays with friends and not even contact him once while away, went out every day with friends instead of come home to eat dinner with him) and act like her roommate, etc etc. it’s not because they want to play mind games, but simply because it’s human nature to try to be consistent with their decision. my ex sent me messages that he thought about me everyday, and also on that special day. i don’t understand how he could just have met someone else already especially as he works like crazy and his parents hadn’t even been aware that we had broken up until i told them. (getting along, common interests, physical intimacy, overall feeling for and toward that person, deeper connection, etc) kind of makes it hard to call it or see as a “rebound”. you say she loves two men in the same way? he didn’t jump into the relationship right away and he is letting her decide who he talks to, i’d say that he is pretty serious about his relationship. whenever i get out and curse him he begs me to stop pushing him far away than he is already. you and her were not together for very long time, it’s hard to say if her new relationship is a rebound. i have thrown myself back into the gym working out with a trainer and have taken on a part time job for the summer to give me something to do. i know i am still not over the break up so i broke up with the new guy. a few days beforevalentine’s day i texted him (sad, i know, but i didn’t text him so i wouldn’t be single for vday haha). i couldn’t take it anymore, i blocked him out of my life. but thanks i will let her just do her and have to see what happens.. just wait till his new relationship blows up because if his girlfriend continues acting like this, it will eventually end.. things with us were going so well recently but then a couple weeks ago, he went on a trip with his friends, and met a (gorgeous) girl who lives 3 hours away and i guess he got her number. she was working a lot and was getting stressed out. she never ended up calling me back and that was on tuesday. he doesn’t want us to cause each other to hurt. the following day i receive an email from her explaining she didn’t feel comfortable talking about it in person, but a month after she broke up with me she started seeing someone and they were going to marry in the fall. broke up on reasonable grounds: she’s going through a lot of personal problems right now with health and mental state, and she kinda unloaded that onto me, and she felt guilty that she wasn’t treating me properly. so another month goes by and while on facebook i see she is tagged in a pic in a hugging pose with another guy. of 6 years, one child together, ended it a couple weeks ago. if she doesn’t contact you and you still want her after a couple of months, you can try giving her a call and see how she responds. happened just today, my exbf contact one of our common friend in college. but i have no idea how i should aproach this. we also took a break to focus on some personal issues (work, life, etc). if you want to pursue her more, do nc for another 2 weeks and try again. he replied back that he is no longer engaged, and that he is gonna leave the country soon for time alone. they’ve been seeing each other since march 10th and i’ve finally just given up. you agree to use a condom when having sex with a partner you meet on our site? last time i heard it saw from her was middle of october when she came to my place. i’m relatively sure he’s deleted my number and being that i’m not active should i activate again? i hitted his limit and he created new facebook account and added his family and relatives only. about a week later, her older sister’s fiance’s friend from work was introduced to my ex and from what i heard from my brother who lives in that house with my ex’s sister, she has been going out with this guy like every other day, and doesn’t come home sometimes till after 2am. to get your ex back- even when they are dating someone. towards the end she said something like we have unfinished business and that we even have like imaginary kids, i agreed. i was in there getting pretty heavy lift in, i was kind of feeling good had nice sweat going. about 3 wks back during the no contact period she texted me that she hasn’t done anything intimate with the person she’s seeing. someone who will care about you and treat you the way you deserve to be treated. is the ugliest thing about you, based on your zodiac sign.’s hard to tell what’s causing this confused behavior. however, more importantly, i want to be happy with him and maintain that happiness. contact him after that using one of the methods in this article. was i just nothing more then a stepping stone the last one. down i would love to reconnect with her again, but i know i do not deserve this kind of behavior. imagine she’s over me by now too as i haven’t been able to stay nc because i have to see her in college every day and she just starts conversations at me., although i struggle on the odd occasion… who doesn’t? listening to what kevin has said in this article and others, has really showed me a lot. i want to thank you for all the time and effort you put into me and this relationship. don’t have any regrets from my former ex who is married now. have been in a relationship with this girl for almost 14 months. broke up with him through a pretty harsh text but did not expect him to actually go along with it while he was home on christmas break. to help you decide whether you should try to rekindle or move on. doesn’t mean that we could never have gone to those fancy shows and places or that we never had same interests either. although, i am sort of glad that you found out the truth and have decided to leave him behind. we would go out to lunch and even had a day where we enjoyed ourselves again in bed. i wish i didn’t because we didn’t try to solve the problems and i chose the easy way and decided to break up. she left saying we would continue it tommorw but did not hear from her. i panicked and rushed to her house and begged for her not to. my experience, rebounds usually end and are not meant to last. everything was fine and got along and hung out a lot (nothing sexual) just friends.. i still want to get back, but we need to have some time to think about it..through my own investigation i found out she is seeing a 50 year old man now. it seemed like he still cared, but then it also seemed like he didn’t. this article, i’ll lay out some signs that will help you understand the rebound behavior and figure out on your own whether or not they’ve moved on. and then a week later, she’s all of a sudden with her guy. started to play online games with my ex again since last month and we had fun and he said “thanks for the nice memories:)”. i choose to contact her again after the 2 months of nc. the girl is controlling which is sort of a red flag for most guys. started saying things haven’t really looked up because after the message i haven’t spoke to her, what can i say to her anyway. it felt like we’ve made a mistake and he was talking about all the memories we had. texted me saying that it’s probably best if we don’t talk anymore. he’s sent a few horrible texts since and blamed me a few times and trying to reinforce he’s moved on but i’ve been ignoring him, no contact! so i told her that i felt the whole “friend” thing seemed fake , and it was better to go our seperate ways. thinking about these ludicrous situations is not going to help you in anyway right now. you can’t control what he will think/do or when he will be ready for a relationship. i want you to think really hard during this no contact period if you really want to be with him. he told me that he understand and he asked me if we aren’t go to hang out anymore. i do love him and i do want things to be re-patched up, but i want to know if this is something i should just give up on and push through the pain or try to rekindle… i do truly love being around him and being with him, we connect in ways i havent before.***change and spiritual surrender: opening yourself to the possibility of greatness. that he doesnt want to have kids or get married any more. but i found out that he was already dating this new girl before i even came back home. on the other hand, if they waited an appropriate amount of time (like three to four months) before entering the new relationship, it’s less likely to be a rebound. the past 2 weeks have been stressful and he’s answered my emails but uber delayed (4-24hours). even though the sex is great, she is still not at peace with herself. it’s a complicated situation and i didn’t want to end the relationship but i had no choice as it needed to be uncomplicated. is my ex contacting me if they don't want to get back together?’m just hoping that she’ll see me for me…but i know she can’t do that unless i’m not there to be missed. but then she was still behaving weird and it was really hurting me so i told her that we cannot be friends and i am not gonna contact you again. do you think the chances are that she will actually realize that she was happy together and will think about that. i’m confused and i’m sure he is too. that’s why it makes me worried that this is the same thing happening with my current ex. although i have been biting my tongue on many things i want to tell her but i’m afraid of saying them because they may work against me. stalked her a bit and found out they work in the same industry, seems nice and normal with a good job. i was in my friends car so my ex couldn’t hear me. but maybe i do need some tactics now… please help! like i know the time apart has been long and a lot of things have happen. why not spend your time finding someone who can truly commit to you. she constantly cried herself to sleep every night for the last month. i didn’t want to break up really, i was just confused and for the first time, we didn’t communicate well and just walked away from all our years and history. she also said she told her family and friends that i was a good person but we were not right for each other.’m sure that is what my current ex is realizing her self. this time i know my ex hasn’t forget about me. at first i would look past the distancing, but then i started getting frustrated and we would start fighting. i usually initiated the conversations, and he would too but not all the time. the example you gave of jane and gary i thought might be what is going on but i’m sure that’s not the case. although, from what you said, he is still not fully over you. and i was thinking the fudge, were separating and u have someone already and you’re telling not to cry? we’ve continued to see each other behind her parents backs..Me: also, i’m not trying to get in the way of anything you’re trying to do (implying his new gf), i support you 100% and just want you to be happy. it doesn’t matter if you want to get back together or not.: my ex is dating someone else and i heard that they're serious. we had our whole lives planned out together and we were planning to get married in a few years. her parents being against you and pushing her into the new relationship might work in favor of you. most probably, you met him at a time in his life where he isn’t ready for something. even if he is with that girl, it’s probably a rebound and it won’t last long. i wanted him to feel that i was done chasing and exerting effort to get back. very common sign of a rebound relationship is whether or not they are trying to rub in your face. not saying this will happen not even by a long shot or anything. just because they have hope that if they go for someone completely different, they’ll find happiness. if she is not cold towards you and you have already done no contact, then you can stay in touch with her. i was beginning to accept this but then 4 days after he broke up with me he changed his status on facebook to ‘in an open relationship’!” march 13 was the date on my facebook status were i tagged our friend. i was always this was more then just a friendship from first time hearing about him. i don’t want the same thing to happen again. attempts like moving in together after only 5 weeks of dating; meeting garry’s parents and asking garry to meet her parents; planning to move overseas with garry. could only lead to disaster considering how a person is not yet over the old relationship to enter a new one. she has a passion for writing (obviously) and loves reading anything based on a true story. have not talked to her for awhile i had gotten rid of her number about the time she saw me before she left for vacation in begining of august. if we ever did get together ( not saying that there is any chance of that or it will happen in future) but wouldn’t she be thinking of him when she would be around me. i usually let him do his thing and be supportive. also said is was easier when they were just homies but yet here she is just amazed and happy with him. i am not much for playing games and have been very honest the whole time. decreasing your self worth and self esteem in the process and putting an unnecessary roadblock for yourself in moving on and finding the right girl for you. only worrys me because when she called she said she been thinking bout me a lot but never really said why or what. he hugged her for a bit then they walked away. then starting around november/december she started acting much differently, such as a complete personality change, loss of interest in hobbies/interests, heavy drinking/staying out until early mornings, constant anger,lies and hatred towards me for no reason. you so much for your advice…i really think you are right. we lived together for 4 years and we got stuck and i decided to break up. after a little over a year and a half she wanted to be back home. and you should do nc for 30 days and message her after that. the problem is that she broke up with me after this three months. i made a great impact on my ex he was proud of me, and told people i changed his live for the better, because he had a dark past. me and my ex boyfriend had been 2yrs more together and we just broke up for almost 3 months but in that 2months we still contact and see each other and many things happened before i decided to do the no contact rule. it makes me think it is less about her and our relationship and more about something else. i know i’m supposed to be doing no contact (which i’m implementing right now), but he usually texts me “good night” and “good morning” even if we’re upset with one another. was sending pictures and chatting via snapchat for about 30 min… nothing super personal , just friendly conversation. i am in total shock because this is a man i have waited for, for 4 years. i had him around my fingers and did not know until now. we broke up she started seeing this guy at the park right after we broke up an now he’s sleeping over her mothers house while my kids are there. is what i plan on doing and i hope your right about the missing me part. at that point i told him i needed my space and that i wouldn’t be going to his birthday party anymore when i came home for spring break because i didn’t want to be about his new girlfriend and since then we have talked maybe three times and at one point when i mentioned his new girlfriend, he said nothing about her in his response. ex is the kind that you described as the angry ex in another post, however, he has anger management problems. kevin, i know from reading this what you will think, but he is a good person deep down; affectionate, caring, funny and loving, however this dark side is extremely overwhelming. apply no contact for a while and then contact her. do i just not try at all to talk to her until she feels that she has something to say to me or what. company which was his plan before when we were still together. you can use the checklist at the beginning of the step 4 in this article.
i met him exactly a year later when he was still sleeping around with women, and they weren’t officially divorced yet. she was actively looking for dates online after being rejected by the other guy.’s hard to say why he did what he did. everything you are asking is based on the assumption that they have a great relationship together. she might feel that she is in love with garry because garry provides her with comfort and an escape from the pain that she desires deeply.. stuff that’s money / status related ( i thought it was wird , she seemed very obsessed about it ) . was i just a place holder till she realized who she always wanted. we went out for bbq for lunch and then went back to his place and we ended up watching a movie. she does nice things for me and calls/texts/facebooks sometimes and vice versa but then she will completely change and treat me like crap for several days in a row and ignores me until she responds to me again.. when i found out i told her i knew about it and she just stopped replying to me , what should i do. i showed up telling him i’m not trying to “pull a beth” (his other crazy ex who we battled together and had fun doing so even though she borderline stalked him) and that i genuinely just wanted to be friends with him. have read this article a lot trying to find something that was related to what was going on but i statred to see no connections. does this strengthen the fact it could be a rebound? either your ex will move on and be in a happy relationship with her current boyfriend. i’ve always been good to him (well…most of the time). she came and stayed with me for a few months but family probs forced her back to her x, but her intention was to return to me after a while. did reply everytime she contacted me besides when she showed up to my work. i did nc for a while and then randomly i would contact him. during xmas my ex messaged me and he said that he thought about me, more than i would imagine (wtf, how would he know? but we were madly in love and our wedding were supposed t take place in a month, so he got married t this girl he hardly know and he posted got married in his facebook wall maybe he is in a rebound but he got marriedg. have since learned that she asked a friend of mine if she should tell me about the engagement before i heard it from someone else. when i tried to make another date he ignored me. i havent contacted him since after i saw the picture and i will not do it… so i will follow your advice. i was going trough some personal ( work related ) problems at the end of our relationship. they are thinking of a short term rebound relationship which will hopefully help them get over the breakup. part of me thinks he is trying to illicit a response from me. i’ve been ignoring all his gf’s remarks online and acting like i don’t even notice them, but i think she’s trying to up the odds by posting all this lovey crap about him knowing i’ll see it, though he has yet to say anything about the relationship specifically. we just got back from a short vacation in europe. that and when you have been apart for almost as long as you were together don’t that kill any chance of that ” running into them and realizing things could work” type deal. we had an amazing weekend, however today he changed completely again told me it’s not fair on me that he is talking to other girls and wants to end our friendship and never see me again., yes, part of it could be her being the “damsel in distress” but, before she told me that she’s found this guy, i was fairly happy. what if after couple weeks she still does not have any association with me. so obviously this means she is 100% over me already and very happy in new relationship with her close friend right? i’ve had a couple of casual text conversations with her since so she’s not ignoring me. someone close who you already know and you are already happy being around them before you started a relation ship with them. a therapist can help a lot if you are unable to let go of obsessive thoughts. i would try at least to do things to make her happy. weeks, she’d called three times texted a couple, i decided to call on the way to work. well eventually down the road i was feeling smothered so i tried to get some distance. we were completely in love but this must have changed his mind right away. even months down the road she would hit me randomly saying she misses me a lot and thinks of me a lot and misses us and what we had. if they already connect on deep level then i’m sure she feels the sexual physical part is complete too. not once did i say in that conversation that i didn’t love her or want to be with her. i keep understanding his situation on why he did it, i forgiven him i told that. how can she go for some guy who has no plan for his future and could move to another country just like that? for my ex, after 5 and a bit months she’s still been simultaneously hiding her relationship (ie, “it’s not official”) and rubbing it in my face (all kinds of tweets, photos of parties with him/things we used to do, etc). two weeks after break up, she hooked up with a guy who looks exactly like me, has same interests, watches same tv series, listens to same music etc. made the mistake of keeping in contact with him throughout his entire relationship with her, that lasted about 3 months. you will miss your ex as you go through the grief process. contact her after no contact period is over and until then just keep concentrating on yourself. missing someone is a huge part of the grief one goes through after a breakup. it usually doesn’t have anything to do with how perfect their rebound is for them. i asked him how it was going and he said okay, it’s been a while since i’ve dated anyone, invalidating the fact that what we did over break wasn’t dating.(we then proceeded to talk about our favorite tv show, about work, family, etc. was (am) basically just the complete opposite of his ex wife. and talking to her best friend is not a good idea. you need to realize what will help you move on and what will keep you obsessed over her.’s nothing much you can do other than what i said above. you are looking for a time to reach out to your ex, as soon as he starts dating someone else is most definitely not that time. he said “maybe im just confused, regret the idea of courting her, im not into her, just give me time, thats all i am asking, im not serious about her i cannot break up with her so just give me time”. she doesn’t love both of you in the same way. i’ve been through a lot of failed relationships in the past and i wanted him to be my last, that i’ll end up with him in the near future. remember when you said there isn’t going to be a friendship like we had? you are confused because everyone seems to be telling you it’s a rebound relationship while your instincts tell you that your ex has moved on. and 2 days after that (which was last week), she put photos up of her and her friends on the beach in a bikini shoot basically.’m looking for places…she does need to miss me but, in all honesty, i don’t she any hope in her coming back to me. this is the first time she has agreed to go out (as friends) for over a year. that day, i saw on his facebook he changed his relationship status with the new girl. was in a relationship with my girlfriend for 3 years but at the end of the first year she started to become very depressed. if i had to guess, she loves you more in a romantic way while her ex is more of a “father of her child” sort of love. she blocked me on facebook but did not change her profile pic to them. we initially wanted to just be friends with benefits, but he made me fall in love with him. and neither one of them can give you an accurate description of what the relationship meant to her. he’s converted in bad tattoos, lives in his moms basement and has no job or car. or she will break up with him and realize she still has feelings for you. i got drunk and i sent very angry messages to both of them. i’ve already started nc for a few days, but i just want him to be happy and i don’t want to ruin his chances at happiness. was just in a relationship that moved way to fast thing is i still have strong feelings for her we been apart for 11 days when she left me i did the whole multiple pathetic text i told her a few days ago that i’ll stop texting altogether she told me not to stop texting her just not as much and that she still cares about me we just moved to fast i’ve pretty much made myself the door mat last night i erased her number from my phone to remove the temptation to get a hold of her i’d like to know if by doing this and not talking to her if it’s possible she could miss me things are complex because i guess you could say that i’m a rebound she just got out of a 6 year marage and is in the middle of a divorce she told me from the beginning that she doesn’t want to move fast but she kinda made it that way she kinda smothered me tho i enjoyed it made me feel loved is it possible to get back after i’ve made myself look a fool. even if your relationship had problems, she chose to leave you instead of working on them. if you decide to comment read the comment guidelines before commenting. asked for some space in february after our 6th anniversary.: if you and your ex were together for a long time, then there's still a chance. check out her writing on thought catalog and follow her on twitter and facebook! the last text from her was “i don’t have anything to say to you at this point in time. in addition, this new girl doesn’t really seem like all the other girls he’s dated before me (i was also different from his usual type which makes me wonder if i was the rebound but he was single for more than a year when we met, so i don’t know) and she’s not friends with any of his friends and vise versa though i don’t know if that has anything to do with it. yeah sure, she can go out with him even during late nights because she doesn’t have a kid and parents to take care of. some people i know say she still likes her other ex a little bit. he initially didn’t like her but she had her eyes set on him and kept making her move, which made me feel insecure so i expressed my concern and so he talked to her and said he didn’t like her that way but i feel like that fueled her even more and she kept on pushing and making her moves on him till it made me really upset and insecure and really put strain in our relationship. i’ve been in nc for about a week but miss her and get major doubts that i could get her back because she tries to convince everybody she’s really happy with this new guy but gas only known his for two weeks. that mean she is on to the next right even with the random they saying they miss you and what not. after dinner he, myself and his friends went to a bar for a little bit and at one point one of his friends approaches him and asks if we are getting back together. but i really think you should apply no contact for at least 3-4 months and think if you really see a future with him. he said in march ‘i’ll collect my stuff soon when work calms down’. tell him you need some time and space and start no contact. i mean, a part of me does wonder was it me that caused him to run, or is he a natural runner? let me add to this that the week before she initially posted the picture of herself with her now-boyfriend i saw her at a nightclub making out with some guy that is not the guy she’s currently dating, and also looking over at me in between kisses (i was there with my sports team, she was there for a friend’s birthday and we knew by that point of the night that each other was in the club). the last thing you want is for your ex to think you are completely devastated from your break up. by september of this year, things seemed to be getting better, but in november, he went to cuba for a week and came back telling me he met someone he was madly in love with and wished to end things with me. just left you a comment on another page but wanted to write this one here since this is the topic. if anyone has suggestions as to what i should do, please let me know. she’d be snappy/curt/cold, and she knew i was suffering for it. you can help me with this, because i’d like to know if the nc rule is still applicable to my situation or it’s already too late. if she texts you during these two weeks, you can reply to her but keep it short. while i do believe creating space and time is productive, i’m in a situation where the ‘no contact’ period is impossible.’ve always done something special, along with sending a single rose on her b’day. but i’ll strongly recommend you concentrate on moving on. he’s 30, bringing a child into this world but acting like a child himself. i read everything above, but he wouldn’t have volunteered the information about this new girl to me without me asking and he didn’t seem too keen on telling me about her. he thinks that we’re “too different” and stuff to make it work. thinking about your relationship with her in this way is just going to lower your self esteem it’s going to hurt your next relationship. i guess its gonna take 6 months for the no contact. i also got him agree to watch the season finale of our show together in a few weeks, hoping i can gain more ground before then). let her develop a friendship with you again and listen to her problems n dont place any negative spin on her relationship. i feel like everything crashed down again but not as bad as when she broke up with me.? lol sometimes i think theres a hidden meaning to it. of all i want to say that you have a great website . do you really think he could have changed his mind within 6 months? 9 months or so later after a proposal and her dumping a guy she was seeing she moved to my home with me. i do think you will be able to make a better decision if you go through the no contact rule for 30 days.” she said that it’s not a rebound relationship that it’s away of wanting to move on even though she says she’s an emotional mess and considers herself “damaged goods” and no one would want to date her. she has definitely rushed things with this guy (they’ve been together now for about a month) are “in a relationship” on facebook and she’s being very over-the-top with her openness on social media about him in general. when she left i told her i missed her laugh and she said she missed me..and i texted her a couple days later just to let her know her know i was sending her kids gift cards for their birthdays she didn’t get mad she just said ok. saw her at gym she walk right past me didn’t even hesitate to look at me. but when he dumped me, that same night he started to talk to her. we fell madly in love right away and dated for a year.’ve always done something special, along with sending a single yellow rose on her b’day. there a way to see if they were only with you because they were only physically attracted to you especially when they are saying the same things they said to you to their new partner. during no contact, you will realize whether or not you should get him back in your life. my ex is still dating the other guy & i haven’t heard from her. i take it it means she has found her guy she been looking for since they been talking and or actually seeing each other for probably couple months i could assume. he kinda looked like he missed me the way he looked at me according to my friends, i didn’t look at him. i’ve been changing however for us, but yes it did seem like she gave up “fell out of love” this new guy is 23. the weird thing is she hasn’t unfriended or blocked me yet on facebook and i feel with all this anger/hatred she has towards me she would have done this already. left gym maybe 10 min after that and went home, didn’t want to annoy her anymore the what i probably did just by seeing me and have felt down since then..because it felt so right just wanted to let it happen naturally and not stop it. and i don’t think you should talk to him for at least 2-3 weeks after this. there are things i know she really isn’t down with and some of them he has. i want her back and don’t know how to proceed and would like your help. i would hope it’s not because she is trying to work things out with her friend. unfortunately i couldn’t understand his need for space and i freaked out. four days later i was told by a mutual friend that he was also seeing someone else and had been doing so 2-3 times a week for 2 months! he says that he’s “taking it slow with [the girl]. may now see our list and photos of women who are in your area. your ex started dating someone else within a week of breaking up, then it’s more likely to be a rebound., reading everyone’s stories has made me feel less alone. if he decides he wants you again, don’t be so quick in taking him back. do i just nc permanently and leave alone for good and let her do her own life? 1 week after the break i made efforts to get him back, gave him the anniversary gift i was saving up for him. anyways a few more weeks go by with no contact. it was a lot of fun, but i kept my distance and suddenly he was very flirtatious, talking about our sexlife and how great i looked and so on. i’m not sure if i’m at “deaths door” or “indifference”? i know it seems like the plan is meant to be about playing mind games, but if you notice, a huge part of the plan (step 2) is about self realization and self-improvement. he never acknowledged being engaged to this other women, he was shocked i found out and asked me how i found out. let him do most of the work since i feel that i’m the girl and he shouldn’t feel that i like him a lot. she feels that perhaps this guy can make all her pain and the emptiness go away. all you can do is learn from your mistakes you made and carry on with your life. to steal your ex from their new boyfriend or girlfriend (sneaky tricks revealed). even the night after i saw her making out with that guy she texted to say she saw me last night and if i had a good night. he is immature and completely confused about what he wants in life. however he has texted twice: to ask how i was doing and to ask a trivial question. she said when i was on my trip she holed up at home, didn’t hang out with anyone and envisioned herself in the future, realizing i’m not the person she should be with. i now have a really solid group of friends and i think that would greatly improve our relationship. they have given me a lot to think about and consider. two months later he’s still with her and sent me several texts simply saying i have moved on. seems like she likes excitement and guys who are hard to get. things are getting worse then before i at one point i was able to not think of her as much but since last i saw her is when she asked to come over and since then she has just been so much more happy with him then she ever was with me., it’s not a surefire way of telling whether or not it’s a rebound. and my ex were dating a little over 2 years and about a week after she broke up with me , she already found another man. so after being treated like crap by her for several months, i finally had enough and moved out and will be gone the entire summer for work/traveling. you are not sure if you should contact her, you should do another month of no contact. i dont know if this is a rebound relationship or something else. i guess the best you can do is keep in touch with him and have fun conversations with him occasionally. she recently turned 18 and seems to think she can do what ever she wants. what strikes me is that 5 months later their engagement fell through and he tried to reconnect with me. remember, there will always be a part of you that will wish he fixes his issues and you can get back with him. the next day he called me three times but i didn’t answer and have no answering machine and i also got a text calling me scum and my mum lazy. she clearly posted this message for her ex to see. been 3months since my ex and i broke up, and now shes seeing another guy. he said he met her a couple of weeks ago and they’ve seen each other a couple of times, but i also happen to know that they have already slept together. what is there to possibly miss when you have had your best friend as your new boyfriend for some time and you love this guy. but since then she has randomly hit me up out of nowhere between ending it and now. the meet up lasted for an hour with him wishing me well on my next relationship. he told me he would never leave me for another girl, that i was the most beautifulest and cutest girl he knows and then he says it to her. i could tell by her voice she was telling the truth so i now go back in no contact to see what is going to happen. let him know that you will wait for him until he makes his decision but you will not be a doormat or his backup. you will realize what you should do during no contact. your last comment, i am little unsure if you applied no contact. we do nc for two weeks at most, for now. my question, if this is a rebound is better to not interfere or to keep in touch with her during? all what i remember what my ex had said, that he is confused that he has feelings for two girls, he said he knows its hard for me that he is with that girl, and he has said that he remember good memories of us. and if he doesn’t commit even at that time, you should move on. it was two days after our anniversary and one of my friends at college posted a picture of me on facebook. i know i could’ve said more or less at some points, but initially i was hoping by appearing non-threatening to his current relationship, it would be easier for me to work my way in. i said it was ok for him to take his time and if he wanted to be single for a while i was ok with it, but when i asked if we’d get back together in the future he said probably not. i applied the no contact for 2 months but just recently i just gave him a birthday cake (because his birthday is near) thru a friend, and he told the friend not to do such things again and told her not to get involved. guess the only thing you can do is give her time to figure it out herself. soo its been a week now since ive contacted her meaning i been applying the no contact. just have been reading a lot of different things lately books and articles and was just wondering how people are getting with their exs after long periods of time. seem to not be making any progress as much as i am trying to not think of her or anything related. and after they breakup with you, they start a relationship with someone who has no career and no life goals whatsoever. they are exactly the same person personality wise, spiritually, ideology, and belief wise. are there aspects of your life that you feel could use some improving? lot of times, the reason people break up is fixed and things change during the period they are far apart. there’s also a very small chance that it’ll end. when we were discussing this i asked if we were still friends at least?. we were together for five months but we did a lot of great stuff. media is not an accurate description of how people actually feel. since then i returned to uni and he continuously called/ text me letting me know how sorry he was and that he’d do anything to show me no matter how long it takes. is it a rebound when your dating close friend you both alrwdy know everything and get along great. see what your saying on stop with the having hope and stop thinking of her. i also learned she had been with new dude three weeks when the engagement happened and she moved in with him. went on vacation february 20th and i was going to be on vacation till april 7th well my ex boyfriend of 3 years and 8 months ended it with march 4th and he told me not to come home but he would text and call me sometimes still and then on march 18th he told me that he was talking to someone else but not dating them then he told me that he would buy me my ticket to come home when ever and then i ask him if i could stay at the house still and he said yes and then i ask him if he was still going to be there he said yes and that he didn’t want me homeless or loose any of my belongs and then i ask him the next day the same thing and got the same answers from him and he said it was going to be different but he would still be there for me and help me out and be around for me and then he said april i am sorry about everything and what happen between us but we know it was coming and then on march 24th i text him and told him that i got my ticket and that i will home in 3 to 4 days and he text back april i know u know that i’v met someone else because people talk but i want to be honest and then i ask him i can still live in the house right because u said that and then he said she is moving in and then i ask where my stuff was and he said in the house still but i am going to put it in the shed if it ok and i told him my stuff wont fit in there. i got a “i’m seeing someone, we’re done talking, don’t ever talk to me again”. but i see things on how she loves him so much how they are perfect for each other and how she loves the things he does like took her to vegas for her birthday. it just made me miss her all over again recently that’s why i do the stupid things like look on her websites but of course it only makes things worse seeing them together and seeing comments like he’s amazing and hearts around his name and other types of post that relate to him. your “sneaky signs your ex still loves you (even if they say they don’t)”. this site has placed a lot of perspective into my situation. eventually, jane would breakup with garry and will try to deal with her breakup pain. i hope you are not thinking of getting back together with him. crazy as it is…i love and miss her…any thoughts or should i give up?