My ex is dating someone else what can i do: if you and your ex were together for a long time, then there's still a chance. i also made a mistake when i started asking him to come back because everything seems like my fault. her family loved me and wants us to get back together they hate him. was her rebound guy… now she is in new relationship… she broke my heart in 10000 peaces… and now 4 months later im still in shit and she is in love with him…. at that point i told him i needed my space and that i wouldn’t be going to his birthday party anymore when i came home for spring break because i didn’t want to be about his new girlfriend and since then we have talked maybe three times and at one point when i mentioned his new girlfriend, he said nothing about her in his response. however she now is dating this new guy 2 weeks after we broke up. he thinks that we’re “too different” and stuff to make it work. i don’t see him being 100% better in every way like see she’s but like i said she said she loves him so i know that we will never see one another or hear from one another again.’m also lost on if your dating a close friend someone who knows all about you and she knows about him. i tried asking her to get together to catch up but she said she doesn’t think that’s a good idea yet because she’s currently happy with someone else. to help you decide whether you should try to rekindle or move on. i’m not sure how to give him the time and break he seems to want. in that week we had a lot of contact, that we should remain friends. however, at this point, i’ll recommend you get in touch with clyde. what i’m confused about is four days later he had moved on to a new girl and they’re currently dating. any advice on what i should or shouldn’t say?.Me: also, i’m not trying to get in the way of anything you’re trying to do (implying his new gf), i support you 100% and just want you to be happy.’s just now it seems like she was in it just to wait. girlfriend that i’ve had for about a year and a half left me about a month ago.[read: 9 things to keep in mind when your ex is about to get married]. simply put, it’s like inwardly saying that your ex’s annoying quirks are someone else’s problem now! all what i remember what my ex had said, that he is confused that he has feelings for two girls, he said he knows its hard for me that he is with that girl, and he has said that he remember good memories of us. to be assertive: 17 ways to speak your mind loud and clear. the only thing that i can guarantee you is that you did mean a great deal to her.. we were living together and constantly planning our future together. for that you have to make some positive changes in your life during no contact. it hurts really bad especially seeing friends that i was paraded in front of and had been around often liking the photo. shes in virginia now and the new guy is in jamaica which i find weird for a new relationship to work she is coming back in august tho, could this be a rebound? she’s with her new guy for 2 days now, and she seems happy for now. he told me that everyone was surprised and that his mom missed me. she said she’d want to catch up and even was open to tell me her schedule and what she was doing. i dont know if this is a rebound relationship or something else. do apologize for taking up and wasting your time lately. but thanks i will let her just do her and have to see what happens. she has said (a fair bit) over these last two years that i need to move on. i don’t know what to do next, or how to answer? the weird thing is she hasn’t unfriended or blocked me yet on facebook and i feel with all this anger/hatred she has towards me she would have done this already. two weeks ago we broke up and literally two days after she was back with him. contact him after that using one of the methods in this article. yesterday she tried contacting me several times again and i didn’t reply. [read: 10 signs that a past relationship is keeping you from moving forward]. he has been away for about a month and i felt his house needed some thorough cleaning. saying he wants to see me but it’s working on keeping better boundaries with women; he would rather talk about the good; he still wants to have a picnic with my kids; and is available for a walk or coffee when i’m ready. i started texting one girl, went out with her, but i just couldn’t kiss her cause i only saw my ex. kevin,i had read your all 5 steps but unfortunately i think its bit late for me,i am 23yrs of age and my ex is 22,we were together since 6 months from june2013 to dec13,but my possessiveness ruin our relation though i love her very very much,we were working together but break up cause me to leave the organisation which i was seeking from last 3years,after that i had tried to contact her in every possible from message to email,since last 4 months i was continuously text her because i thought time shouldn’t run away but she feel it very irritating and start to hate me more than she loved me,we were in great relationship but my few mistakes asked me to pay heavy price,but i really love her and she had also loved me alot,and i desperately want her back so please please help me out. it became too much to handle so i walked out on him. wouldn’t the only thing left to be is intimacy. she was absolutely perfect because we were just friends then we grew into first loves.” i’ve been busting my back-side trying to get through school so that i could make her my life partner. but i really think you should apply no contact for at least 3-4 months and think if you really see a future with him. i choose to contact her again after the 2 months of nc. in addition, you might also want to read this article on what to do if your ex is in another relationship. i gave him every opportunity to come clean about the situation but he refused to acknowledge anything. you so much, that gives me a lot more hope than i had before. what should i do i can’t describe to you the pain i feel. i helped him finically and got him out a loan. regardless, you can try getting her back using the 5 step plan and if it doesn’t work, move on. our confrontation i started doing nc im on 90 days nc, 4months of them going out. i really feel like i have been the loyal loving person to him that i can be. she recently started dating a guy and, via facebook, they were in a relationship after only ten days of knowing each other. literally 2 weeks of being broken up and he pulls this. the only thing you can control is your actions and your decisions. 4 months where she was dating both of us without the other knowing. i explain in the article, her relationship is probably a rebound and she isn’t as happy with her life as she seems to be in social media, which is why i recommend you stay away from her online profiles. wife started a new job 1 year ago and all was good as she said she found her dream job as time progressed she was always talking to me about a guy at work that she found really interesting but i let it go as she seemed pretty happy still with me… during this time i found a new job and had to do nightshift and she said she was not happy with the night shift but accepted it as i was think about our future and try to get ahead in life due to our finical difficulties. went to marriage counselling but every time she was asked not to contact him and start to work on our marriage she would just lie to the therapist and me and done what she wanted. also, i don’t plan on talking to him the rest of the week. but you will find someone who will care about your happiness. then a week later i found out that he started seeing his ex, who cheated on him before we started seeing each other. he’s pathetic and rebound or not, they are welcome to each other. instead, he or she just ran into open and loving arms, and there’s nothing you can do about it other than move on. will get much better once you move out and start no contact. reason that i could think of was when we found out that the hospital abroad wanted me to work for them for 2 years. i add that i would try and take an interest in her things, like reality tv, because i loved her and wanted to be interested in her likes. needless to say i was really confused by all of it. and friends of mine say that i just have to work on myself right now (parents told me that too) and see how it goes after a few weeks or a month. it showed me the difference between being happy physical with someone and not really caring compared to actually caring for someone like my current ex who i would of done anything for. until you let him go from your heart, you will never make the space for the right person. i was in shock and it hurt me so much! i am devastated all over again i love this man so much and we have been through so much together. reach out to your ex when you want to know what’s going on in his life, and want to reveal what’s going on in yours, and when he has a new girlfriend that’s probably not the case. i also got him agree to watch the season finale of our show together in a few weeks, hoping i can gain more ground before then). you sure you will be able to have a healthy and long term relationship with this guy? kevin, today i realized i shouldn’t be with the man i have dated for 4 years. when he was telling me about the girl he said it wasn’t anything serious and he couldn’t see it going anywhere. she just said that she wasn’t happy and that she wanted to be married.’s what i keep telling myself especially since this girl does not live here but apparently has come down to visit (southern state and she’s from new york). just accept that your ex has moved on, and so can you. after the movie we went to get dinner and she started to cry again. this a rebound and if so how should i pursue it as i think in the last week i have made this situation worse by the how i have treated her. want to try and forget about your ex, and you don’t need to be constantly reminded that he is dating someone else when pictures of the two of them show up with lovey dovey captions like “love him,” or “my boo. (there are a ton more details but i’m leaving them out for the purpose of not making this too long). continues her relationship, in hope that her level of intimacy with garry will increase and the empty feeling inside her will slowly go away. she said she couldn’t handle being in a relationship for a while and she said she needed some time away to start feeling better. have your moment of sadness and realization to let the news sink in, and then try to move on. haven’t ever been as affected as bad as this. i think he is trying to hold on to me still. we both have past problems and i think those problems were bumping into each other which coused trouble for the both of us., your advice has made me open up and realize alot. not that i can remember her saying any other reasons why she with me or why she is happy. anyway, about 3 months into the breakup she started dating a new guy and they are in a full on relationship, talking about marriage and so on. and you should do nc for 30 days and message her after that. you check the rest of the photos and see that this other person invading your ex’s profile pictures is your ex’s new beau. ask a trusted friend to change your password for you for about a week or two.’s not a good idea to show up at his house. also, i know for a fact the other girl was also just lonely getting out of a “relationship” where she was way more into the guy than he was into her. he still tells me that he hopes we’ll end up together, that he isn’t in love with her, but that she is a part of his “process”. i see her everyday so the nc rule is not possible., apply no contact for another month (or two) and then contact him. then he recently married this other but continues to contact me. it shows you that someone close to you can show you love and joy and the feeling of happiness that you might of had with in a relationship. i’ve been ignoring all his gf’s remarks online and acting like i don’t even notice them, but i think she’s trying to up the odds by posting all this lovey crap about him knowing i’ll see it, though he has yet to say anything about the relationship specifically. a honest opinion on how things have gone so far. things are getting worse then before i at one point i was able to not think of her as much but since last i saw her is when she asked to come over and since then she has just been so much more happy with him then she ever was with me. days after that i got no texts and i found out later on that during that weekend that we were supposed to meet like always, he went on vacation with his colleagues (and that girl he talked about) and they, not the company, paid for it. i am in total shock because this is a man i have waited for, for 4 years. about 3 wks back during the no contact period she texted me that she hasn’t done anything intimate with the person she’s seeing. then yesterday i found out that he put my stuff in a empty apartment building in back of my house and that she moved in yesterday and her kids she already painted both rooms yesterday for her kids and then my brother called my ex boyfriend 2 days ago and he told my ex boyfriend either he is with me or not and he said to my brother that i was staking him and that he told me that it was over and that he keep telling me and that and that i am stupid because i can’t get it threw my head and then he said to my brother he moved on and he hopes this relationship works and that he don’t want any drama and he doesn’t want me to show up at the house at all but he told my brother that i am a friend and that he cares about me and what happens to me and that he loves me and he told my brother that he was not happy in the relationship with me and him and then he said that he met the new girlfriend a couple of days after i went on vacation and that he liked her and then he told my brother that i was going to live in the house and she was going to live in the house and my ex boyfriend said that won’t work so he told my brother that i am out and his new girlfriend was in and i am still on vacation at this rate with no house to go home to and he told my brother also that he wanted to end it with me a while back but didn’t know how to because he didn’t want to hurt my feelings and that is why he did it now because i am around family and he wants me to stay with family. even a month after we made love for the last time. noticed that after that day of making out, he started disappearing little by little…no text the whole day, then the day after that he just sent me a text that he has a lot of problems. only worrys me because when she called she said she been thinking bout me a lot but never really said why or what. nothing beats straightforward honesty, its less hassle all round and if you are both playing such games then what does that really say ? i don’t want him to think that i can easily be that comfortable around him and he just might take advantage. i am just wondering is this a rebound relationship or not because i am just so confused? it’s upto you to decide whether you should move on or not. it was two days after our anniversary and one of my friends at college posted a picture of me on facebook. anyways a few more weeks go by with no contact. they don’t want to upset you or want you to move on. and if she doesn’t break up by the end of that time limit, you give her an ultimatum. bf of 8 months told me he wanted a break because i am pushing him away. in fact, for all intents and purposes, the new person is your ex’s life has already won, but it’s not a competition you’re still participating in. it seems like she doesn’t care about me at all now. my reasons for thinking so is that we took time to develop our feelings for one another (that first month) and took things slowly, we had our problems but were very close. she said when he was stressed she would get stressed and then he would get mad cause she didn’t express what was wrong with her that’s when she said he yelled at her. in most cases, people have someone lined up before they breakup just so they don’t have to be single. updating it postingnphotos and changing his profile photo with the one shes in it. when we were together we would have so much fun and everything would be great, the second we weren’t together and he would text or call me he became mean and said he didnt feel anything. even if you try to resist, there’s always the temptation to have a teeny tiny peek at what your ex is up to. i really don’t know what the relationship is like because she doesn’t say anything about it to me. it’s as if he never truly listens or care about how i feel,March 26, 2014, 1:36 pm. seeing your ex with a new significant other can feel like a painful blow right to the heart. do i contact him and give him a time frame to collect or continue no contact? that’s why you need to cut contact with him. i have heard she has been getting a lot of tattoos from him recently. my ex emailed me the other day saying he’s trapped and his new fiancé is pregnant and she’s screwed him over and he hates his job and asking for help from the people he emailed. he finally contacted me about giving me my stuff back and he looked so miserable. wouldn’t they still be the same way like hanging out all time having great time together and other things. and when i texted her she refused texting me back for another 3 days and said she wanted to break up with me because she lost feelings on me(while waiting, i sent her a long email stating how i felt about her and i wanna know why she is not replying me). i was the one who broke up with her and she took the break up very very hard and was emotionally devastated. i was going to go as far as say i was just in the area and just wanted to set things straight. you want to ask a question about your relationship or breakup, head over to the boards. but there were a lot of problems throughout our relationship. she does nice things for me and calls/texts/facebooks sometimes and vice versa but then she will completely change and treat me like crap for several days in a row and ignores me until she responds to me again. im really feeling good about myself , and not depressed like i was when we broke up.. that my ex is the type of guy when being cornered or pressured will make bad decisions or worst stupid ones… i think the best way to deal is to let him do his thing… but does he ever snaps out of this? she is happy i told her and even more mad than i am: she forced him to quit his job, which she helped him get. i’ll be honest kevin i don’t have many people to talk to about this issue so i appreciate the advice. it gives you hope to fill that empty feeling inside you. he slowly started to disappear, but we maintained some sort of friendship for a little while after, and then it faded away. change it up & be a little mysterious… good or bad ideas? made things worse for me is that i saw him, two his colleagues and the girl in our own hometown. anyway, as of two days ago, i texted him for something. also do you think she will go in a relationship with her other ex for a rebound or a permenant relationship? she’d be snappy/curt/cold, and she knew i was suffering for it. do you think the chances are that she will actually realize that she was happy together and will think about that.. my ex bf ask me if i could get him any job there so he could come with me he planned to get us wed before i leave even before, i heard from his mom that for 2 weeks he was pissed off cant think clearly, he started to hang out with his officemates that are bad for him, drinking alot going to bars (which he doesn’t like ) . i literally wouldn’t see her for a week because she would last minute make plans to go out with friends every night. we broke up for particular reasons so we should ask why. week i visited my ex (after 8 months) and he looked great!.in hindsight i shouldn’t ever have responded to her and have been in no-contact for about a month now, even though she’s snapchatted me in that time (i didn’t respond). younger than me and she said she wants kids and to get married.! the night that i knocked round his house and he wouldn’t let me in because he had her upstairs. i do think you will be able to make a better decision if you go through the no contact rule for 30 days. neither of us respond because at the time we honestly didn’t know. on their 1st date she did the same things with him as she was doing with me, they went to same places, she talks to him exactly the same etc. i would always feel like i was hurting her when i wasn’t meaning too. why did she care how i learned about her engagement?, after months of texting back and forth, of him mostly blaming me for ruining something beautiful, but also wanting me to accept and be happy for him. was with this guy for 6 months and for the most part everything was great, but after a while the type of dates he wanted was not really what i wanted. i just don’t get how someone can be so heartless and vindictive. i don’t see how he is better besides being artist. of all i want to say that you have a great website . there are a bunch of articles out there on how to be more then just friends with a girl you have always had feelings for or how to be physical intimate with your friend. i lied to her about having another girlfriend before her, but i didn’t and i was ashamed i didn’t. he didn’t respond, but then the next day he randomly messaged me and said that yes we can still be friends. i still had feelings for her , even if we fought a lot.. i don’t know if shes a rebound and if he’ll come crawling back or what. this is the first time she has agreed to go out (as friends) for over a year. that was confusing to try and understand if so then why are you with someone. ex broke up with me back in december because he wanted time to focus on himself and his activities. also, don’t ever try to get to your ex through a friend. well he became relatively distant and conversations became few and far between. the more you try to find the truth from him, the more confused you’ll become. if you already did, then you should reply to him. he even took her to dinner and lied about it while we were together but begged me for forgiveness and was more in love with me after that than i had ever seen. sure ways to deal with an ex seeing someone new. the basis of the conversation went like this (sorry it’s going to be a bit of a read):Me: i’m not here to pull a beth, just so you know. it just seems since she started hanging out with all these new late night bar friends she has met, she has changed herself in order to fit in with them. she informed me that she didn’t think we ever had a connection, that she’s not the person for me, she felt so alone with me, etc. she had put all our things in a box, and put it away. towards the end she said something like we have unfinished business and that we even have like imaginary kids, i agreed. needless to say i was really confused by all of it. i couldn’t take it anymore, i blocked him out of my life. also says if your thinking of our ex at anytime its not important that you should not do it just learn to move on cause it’s not worth it to think or feel like you want them. the article also said how common it was for close friends to feel more then just simple friendship for one another. i think he is gonna send me a card or something. after a while we talked on the phone and she told me that she did not have the same feelings for me anymore. you are supposed to learn to live a happy life with or without your ex. unlike the past few weeks, he didn’t avoid me as i was going to where he was (since that was the only way i should take to go home) that’s why he was able to look at me as i was “talking on the phone”. also say the time that they have been together also play a factor. stopped no contact at 30+ days using the magic letter, she texted me and told me that a lot has happened. when you remember why it didn’t work out between the two of you, you’re less likely to be jealous of the person who used to be in your position. in the first couple days of the breakup i made the mistake of begging him to work through our issues instead of breaking up with me, and i told him i would always be there for him. when he and i talked about it because i expressed my confusion about a lot of the things that happened over spring break, he said he was sorry about leading me on and that it wasn’t intentional and that it’s easy to fall back into a relationship like that. tell him you need some time and space and start no contact. then contact her using one of the methods in this article. i do show him that i appreciate his efforts by thanking him, talking to him on the phone often (but i’ve never called him), and kissing him. here is what not to do when your ex starts dating someone else. yes, that may be hard, but be mad on the inside. apparantly he also had an affair 4-5 years ago while i had 24 hour shifts at my old job. promised me she wasn’t cheating, she just allowed herself to accept texts from another guy. i just dont know if what has happened are signs to leave, or if him becoming a raging dick when we arent around each other means that the “no-contact” rule will make this worse…. we initially wanted to just be friends with benefits, but he made me fall in love with him. in some cases, your ex will find a type of person they don’t usually go for. how likely is it that people get back together after breaking up, especially in my situation, where his mind and heart seem preoccupied with the infatuation with another woman? however, more importantly, i want to be happy with him and maintain that happiness. i texted a few minutes later and still have no response. like us on facebook twitter pinterest and we promise, we’ll be your lucky charm to a beautiful love life.
10 Signs Your Ex is Dating Someone else → Lovewhen we had a fake break last week she still would check my facebook and read my messages and chats and would get mad that i’m telling the world our problems. what is going on and what on earth do i do? also, his gf is straight up attacking me online while trying to be passive about it. she says she wishes i could still b the man iwas she she fell in love w me but doesnt think i can. and im too scared to write him that letter, especially when he’s with someone else. at least i can finally move on and hopefully he’ll let me go now. feel like i have failed in both mine and your life and that i could have done better but at least i tried the best i could while under the influence of other people. a second right after that my ex came out and i was like oh boy here we go. i felt like she was hiding something but didn’t want to fight about it. feel like any type of texting will be ignored, or seen as me trying to get him back. i made a great impact on my ex he was proud of me, and told people i changed his live for the better, because he had a dark past. i know she is on vacation with her new boyfriend, and i dont want to be the crazy pushy ex boyfriend. do the things mentioned in step 2 and 3 of the 5 step plan. got a call from my ex the other night at like 10 she asked if i was doing anything and if she could come over. you think i have great chance getting him back after i made the efforts and practically dropping form the face of the earth after? she has an old friend garry who comforts her, she finds herself attracted to him. like he didn’t want to work things out but he didn’t wanna let go either. has not spoken to me since she ended it about 5 months ago maybe 4 times she has talked to me. she will sort of freak out when she finds out that you have been investigating her and it’ll make you look creepy. why would you want to be like your ex’s new girl when being you is so much more fun?, this hasn’t stopped him from pursuing this woman down in cuba. i met him exactly a year later when he was still sleeping around with women, and they weren’t officially divorced yet. he actually texted me right after i posted that, just asking about a music festival i went to last weekend. devious ways to be a crazy ex and get your revenge. we have a almost 2 year old daughter together so this always makes things more difficult. say to do another couple weeks of nc and try to text her again. we broke up about 2months ago over an argument she knew she was at fault for but still continued to sleep with each other and have family days etc even though we weren’t living together. i broke every rule in the book, and look like a needy slop-tart. he came back from vacation, he didn’t even explain why he didn’t text me that long…he didn’t even apologize. it is a horrible time and i don’t see any light at the end of the tunnel. read this article that said rebound relationships are actually good for you. she said when i was on my trip she holed up at home, didn’t hang out with anyone and envisioned herself in the future, realizing i’m not the person she should be with. it’s the kind of intimacy that is built with time and effort that a relationship requires. that the change she still has feelings for me is bigger then the change she likes her other ex. figure out exactly what you want and when you contact him again, let him know what you need and expect. it was our dream and goal and i regarded her as my life partner. the trip was a getaway from our hectic lives and he wanted to find out if i will be ready to marry him in 6 months. i’m tying to work on things but this came up and it has been in my mind. i think i would still be open to give him another chance if his reason of cheating was his family wanted him to dump me and look for another girl who doesn’t have a kid. i have a feeling he started seeing her while he was still talking/flirting with me because he was very reluctant to tell me that he was in relationship. if she doesn’t contact you and you still want her after a couple of months, you can try giving her a call and see how she responds. i know it’s painful and i’m sorry you are in this situation, but i want you to know that everything will get better with time. she started seeing someone pretty much immediately, not sure if she left me for him or what. and for that you’ll have to let him go. just have been reading a lot of different things lately books and articles and was just wondering how people are getting with their exs after long periods of time. it was pretty much out of the blue since we were celebrating and the next week he told me he needed space, time…he continued to tell me he loved me and that he wasn’t going to leave, he just needed space. the big difference is that i actually cared about my current ex more then i have for anyone i told her i actually felt love for her not lust like others. it’s a complicated situation and i didn’t want to end the relationship but i had no choice as it needed to be uncomplicated.’s entirely possible he cheated on you and was lying to you when he asked you to visit him. i can’t stand the thought of her being w this guy n just miss her. she got herself a boyfriend but they’re not official yet, she told me about him the day that we were breaking up that she has been talking to him for almost 3days already. intimately close to someone gives us a feeling of security and a boost to our self-esteem. if i already, after the break-up , went all desperate texts/phone calls followed by 21 days nc. soon, things will start to get better and you will be able to think more clearly about this whole situation. but say you end up being right about her being in a rebound relationship with her friend. we chatted for some time and i asked her if she wants to go out for a coffee so we can catch up, she said she’ll see if she has any plans and she’ll give me a call i said no problem. if she decides to go with her ex husband, then you’ll have to suck it up and accept it. he told me that he had started speaking to another girl from stupid facebook… so of course, i made sure to back off and leave him to it. of course he was very angry at the person who did wrong to me and got quite protective. weeks after i called her, she re-acticated her facebook , put “in a relationship”. if you’ve been keeping tabs on her (via mutual friends or checking her emails or facebook), then you are not really following the no contact rule. she said she hadn’t and wouldn’t until she felt better. how is it technically considered a rebound if they never really said that you meant something. this has included talking about what we didn’t like about the relationship and things that hurt us that we never talked about before. more importantly, she went into the relationship too fast and never really got the time to get over you. deep questions to ask your boyfriend tonight that will immediately bring you two closer. i can get other women but i just don’t want anyone else.. give him call while he is at work or something. reading a lot of different things last couple months i have started to think that i was just a rebound from the start because she would always say stuff about how she is really attracted to me but nothing else. has usually been happy when she is around him before their step up in relationship term from friends to actually being more then that. 4 minutes later “why do you not say “with my friend xyz” like it’s a ridiculous pet peeve but saying with a friend seems cold and distant. about a week ago i saw a text from a guy on my gf’s phone and got disappointed that she was planning to hangout with him and when i asked to see all her other texts between them she said she deleted them because it would’ve made her feel uncomfortable if i saw it. the conversation wasn’t an argument we talked calmly and towards the end we even laughed a little. i thought it would be a good idea if i sent the letter so it arrives after her b’day & a separate postcard with a simple b’day greeting. i’ve already started nc for a few days, but i just want him to be happy and i don’t want to ruin his chances at happiness. this week's installment of our column with Lauri Loewenberg, the expert interprets the recurring sex dream a young man has of his ex with other men. this has been a non physical, normal flatmate arrangement and we get on, what i think, really well. he says that he’s “taking it slow with [the girl]. even though we dated for almost 3 years, we never experienced going through a rut or anything. recently we started talking again and have hung out like 4 times. all of their friends are pretty much throwing a parade for them online, and it’s killing me. your mind is still going to continue thinking about it and probably stuck in the negative spiral. i still see all social media posts etc (unless blocked from future posts, idk? their personality and a lot of other things that i’m sure are being reinforced with him so it makes her realize how he was there for her all these years. he say’s that he still loves me and calls me baby when we talk to each other, he also told me when i broke up with him that nobody is going to love you like i do! a huge part of me says no girl in her right mind will pack up and leave her family and friends to come to a small town in the south, but of course things happen. and a part of your mind will not believe me and keep you stuck in your negative state of mind. then just over 3 months ago he met this 19 year old girl ( he’s 27) and has been seeing her exclusive for 3 months they even did a 2 week trip to new zealand together… my question is should i be worried that this relationship is serious? she said just before she broke with me that she wasn’t remarrying him, but she needs to be happy for her kids. of all: i wouldn’t dare to show up here if i wasn’t absolutely sure that her ex (the one before me and the father of her child) is an absolute jerk. after that, if you still want him back, get in touch with him. i still think he could do much better than her. i admit, we argued on wednesday and we did talk a bit about “our relationship” saturday on the way to the fair, but other than that, everything was swell. if he starts calling you constantly, let him know you need some space and time to deal with the breakup. like i said everything they do and he does for her and how she thinks of him are perfect and she loves him. her best friend (girl) who is also a friend of mine and she told me that it is probably not true that she likes her other ex.’ve had break ups before (not that many to be fair) and i know the world still turns, but there something keeping me there…. of course if something is genuinely wrong i’d talk to her, but i have just 2 more questions:1. it’s hard to believe in what people say even when they are trying to help in a lot of ways because they don’t know situation they say same as what few others agree at. take a step back for a second and look at how much obsessed you are becoming. is to every girl who has ever tried a little too hard., i am beginning to wonder if i was the rebound? broke up on reasonable grounds: she’s going through a lot of personal problems right now with health and mental state, and she kinda unloaded that onto me, and she felt guilty that she wasn’t treating me properly. unfortunately i couldn’t understand his need for space and i freaked out. yet i noticed something strange: he borrowed my laptop to do social networking stuff, checked on his photos and showed one to me, mentioning a female co-worker of his out of the blue. on the other hand, if you are not already friends with your ex’s new fling, absolutely do not friend her! but since then she has randomly hit me up out of nowhere between ending it and now. we have been fighting our way through the struggles of raising a child while attending college and working. about the only thing she has said in past is she misses me but never that i meant something or still do or was important. i go i sit what ever i see he is in my mind what happened to him? apologies i meant not making eye contact while we were talking but looking elsewhere and smiling. i think she saw me and feels that i’m the same person or she regretted even calling and seeing me..And i remembered what my ex told me that he would give his resignation letter and he wont see her anymore. we’ve had our bumps like any relationship but loved each other. when do you see it as it is and realize you have to just give it up. telling she cant adjust with me as i am 11 months younger to her and now she is in a relation with a new guy whom her parents will also like and she loves him alot and will marry him, and she also told me doesnt love me any more and dont expect her again. she looks kind of similar to me, have the same similar personality, and they have been doing the same things that what we did. is what i’ve learned about real happiness after leaving everything i’ve ever known. they know each other in and out and i’m also pretty sure they have been physical with each other for sometime. you need to realize what will help you move on and what will keep you obsessed over her., i don’t think knowing the reasons for his actions will give you any closure. i don’t see how he is better then me. lots of crying, her telling me “i’m doing this for me. i said sorry for everything i had done(second mistake). the last text from her was “i don’t have anything to say to you at this point in time. and i know he had just been waiting to be with her for sometime. post: should you contact your ex on valentine’s day? her parents don’t like me because we got into a little debt when we were younger. but if she needs to do that, then she probably isn’t over you yet and is quite immature. i havent contacted him since after i saw the picture and i will not do it… so i will follow your advice.!But later that night he retracted it all and said he wanted me to continue to keep in contact, and we had a great neutral conversation where he finally gave me closure. although i have been biting my tongue on many things i want to tell her but i’m afraid of saying them because they may work against me. former ex who is just married recently told me that she been thinking of me and misses me. let me add to this that the week before she initially posted the picture of herself with her now-boyfriend i saw her at a nightclub making out with some guy that is not the guy she’s currently dating, and also looking over at me in between kisses (i was there with my sports team, she was there for a friend’s birthday and we knew by that point of the night that each other was in the club). i just stared at him and the girl and didn’t make a scandal or confrontation. she continues texting you, tell her you need space and time right now. we did still see each other on and of till about 4 months ago, until then he was just dating girls but nothing serious., my name is mario, i recently was dumped by my girlfriend of 4 years. it’s thursday now and i called but she canceled my call on the fourth ring? they’ve been seeing each other since march 10th and i’ve finally just given up. we had our ups and downs like the typical relationship. meanwhile, i will keep working on my current goals and changes. i want her back and don’t know how to proceed and would like your help. weird side note, other guy knows about me and our situation. i replied nicely to it as i was happily getting my closure and felt in a good place to be ok to contact him back and say he needs to talk to her. broke up almost 3 weeks ago and sadly i’ve done the text terrorism and showing my neediness towards him. to the point where my ex said i was pushing him towards her cause i caused him stress and she didn’t. things were moving forward slowly and a month ago we went to a concert together, which he initiated an where he actually told someone i was his girlfriend. me and my ex fiance were together for nearly 10 years. i didn’t call her to talk or anything, just asked what was wrong, but got no response.? lol sometimes i think theres a hidden meaning to it. learn to live without him and be happy without him. her reasoning for not wanting to be in the relationship anymore is that she didn’t have time and she felt that she was missing out on life from being in a serious relationship. and as i said earlier, social media is not an accurate reflection of relationship. i played pranks with the pa and found out he has been in a relationship with a girl and she practically lives with him 4 days in week., not like the essays you used to write in high school. are still there from your ex, no matter whether or not your ex is dating someone else. if it’s a 2-3 month thing then it’s not really a rebound it’s just a relationship. tell him you need time and space to deal with the breakup and you can’t be his friend right now. i’m in love with this guy and i don’t know what to do, the best thing is to move on but i love him too much to move on, he still asks me who i hang out with, and if i hanging out with guys, we’ve been together for 4 months and i need some great advice, please help me i’m in desperate need of help i don’t want to loose him and i feel like each day passes i’m loosing him! so far i dont think her new reltation is a rebound reltn. the last time we saw each other he told me not to cry or beg keep repeating it. what should i do if he doesnt reply to my text? this is the first time i’ve ever done anything like this, i feel helpless. if you feel the need, get more help on getting over a breakup (google, books, therapist). how can she go for some guy who has no plan for his future and could move to another country just like that? but i know the cause of his unhappiness is us not being together. i was in my friends car so my ex couldn’t hear me. said at one point that when she happen to run into me earlier in month she wanted to say she misses me but i ignored her and that she thought i hated her so that why she ignored me at gym.. now i have to be a bitch to tell him to make up his mind? should i approach him around that time and ask him if he’s still down? i have tried everything possible to reconcile i have had no response i keep texting and calling no answer. ex was in a ten year relationship with his ex, was married to her for five. im one week into no contact now, but i think im going to have to wait at least 2 months. should i do at this point, considering all i’ve done and if i am unable to physically create space or make ‘no contact’. shouldn’t affect much if you are not needy after no contact. there a way to see if they were only with you because they were only physically attracted to you especially when they are saying the same things they said to you to their new partner. i am just afraid that it will turn out just like me former ex before my current one i am talking about. the only difference is that different people deal with this grief differently. while we watched this movie, he only had on boxers and an undershirt and he held out his arm for me to cuddle with him while we watched. like it cants just be you run into that person down the road and start talking and having good time again and be like we should try again and it works. just before i leave to return to uni,I agreed to meet him, however this just ended up involving us going for a walk outside and me shouting at him saying “how could you do this? just before christmas, something really bad happened to me involving another male taking advantage and of course i went to my boyfriend for support. he’s younger than her and according to her very clingy, even wanted her to move in after only a couple months. but here are some effective ways you can deal with this knowledge. a few days beforevalentine’s day i texted him (sad, i know, but i didn’t text him so i wouldn’t be single for vday haha). this is why most rebound relationships abruptly end as people are not yet emotionally ready for a new commitment. when i met him i was actually in a serious relationship (2. i don’t want to be pushy if he honestly does not want to get back. she has definitely rushed things with this guy (they’ve been together now for about a month) are “in a relationship” on facebook and she’s being very over-the-top with her openness on social media about him in general. is it a rebound when your dating close friend you both alrwdy know everything and get along great. about maybe 3 or 4 months ago she text me randomly saying she misses what we had but i found out a month ago that she is engaged and now she is married and i never knew about it only cause i saw her facebook saying she was engaged and now it says married. he chose to stop talking to me, but said that he’ll only be talking to me when she’s not there. i met my bf in hospital and he was angry at me. ever since then, i have been pestering him by call and texts for two weeks..) have been dating on and off for the past 7 years. i’m not sure why she wanted to come by then? should i answer or even tell her that i know all of this? he kept all my friends and family as his facebook friends and only deleted me once he was sure i saw his new relationship status. since then, we haven’t talked and he’ll go on my tumblr and like my posts. i was trying suicide( not smart move i know) but the pain was too much then.) he said you are either gonna be my friend or nothing at all! if you decide to comment read the comment guidelines before commenting. if it doesn’t work, you can close this chapter and try to move on. i’ve been on a roll turing myself around 180, making positive strides then this comes up. 1 week after the break i made efforts to get him back, gave him the anniversary gift i was saving up for him. finally, the last time he came back to tell me he had made a huge mistake involved me asking him to call the girl in my presence, whereby we spoke and i found out they slept together. i desperately want to tell him all of that but i definitely don’t want to beg him to take me back.’m currently at university and so live away from home where my boyfriend is. boyfriend of two years broke up with me about 6 months ago after 3 months of drifting apart (me being super clingy and him pushing me away). believe he does have feelings for this woman down in cuba, though i think it is mostly based on infatuation and his decisions and actions right now seem more emotionally based than rationally based. i’d love to help and see her and show i’ve changed, maybe this is a good opp to rekindle something as i have completely changed physically and mentally. garry is a temporary solution that is alleviating the pain, but he is not the cure. most likely have more than 50% chance to get her back. us acting like strangers toward each other is killing me. i was in there getting pretty heavy lift in, i was kind of feeling good had nice sweat going. perhaps there is someone better out there suited for you. we talked here and about getting back together and fixing our family. breakup was random and blindsiding, occurring on her birthday after i took her out for dinner. so i went 30 days nc, she contacted me once, and after a month and something i sent her a message about a tv series we watched together and i said “hope you’re fine” she replied just “yes i am. but he said “no, i don’t need space,” i want to keep texting and talking to you. it seems the guy was the reason your ex left you. he’s converted in bad tattoos, lives in his moms basement and has no job or car. it was a one time thing, and my girlfriend found out and i lied about it, then told her the truth 2 weeks later. like this happend few times before in the past,but in day or two everything was okay. i cried but i didn’t believe him when he said that, but i thoguht he was saying these things becuase he was feeling hurt. i was devastated, she was younger and more beautiful than i am. she recently reached out on email just thanking and asking if i was doing well.
so my questions are: should i try it after a few weeks or a month, or do i just have to let it go and give up? & relationshipslovewhat must i do if my ex is dating someone else? had been on a few dates in the mean time, had sex with one or two, but no relationships. happened just today, my exbf contact one of our common friend in college. like i know the time apart has been long and a lot of things have happen. that it went to something serious physically and general relationship wise.’m so glad you ignored him if he loves you he will beg for you . she said she does not see us getting back, not meant to be, etc… i brought up lies that she said, and instead of apologizing she yelled “dont you ever call me again” and sent me a text that said “have a nice life! questions to ask a girl if you want to know who she really is. i wanted to be able to ask her for her hand knowing that i could provide the type of lifestyle each of us want. i love him and i know he has felt the same way about me, too, he is just still trying to figure out what he wants. if it’s because of his family, then there’s nothing you can do about it unless he decides to go against his family and be with you. ex broke up with me 10 weeks ago (we dated for 2. successful sex coaches offer solutions for issues in people’s sex lives.’s been hard on me, the breakup, since, as in a rebound, things tend to move fast and i was really crazy about the lady so from my side all the quick steps at least felt genuine, although i should have been wiser and read the signs. he claimed he lost feelings for me but never acted that way or showed it. he was being very dramatic and said he was going to stay single for a long time and didn’t know if he’d ever get married, etc. i pleaded for her to come back after i found out they had sex but to no avail. self-deprecating thoughts are very common and one of the worst ways to deal with a breakup. think it’s a good idea to contact a week or two before you come home. and there is always the hearts and happy face stuff attracted to pictures of them together and she post other reference that deal with them and the things they do and he also has the same on his social media pictures of them together smiling happy saying she is love of his life and other things. that mean she is on to the next right even with the random they saying they miss you and what not. my birthday will be coming up this week and last week when i visited my ex he asked me for my new address. so in five months from our break up he’s got a new girl pregnant, made her his fiancé and now contacting me. i made a huge mistake in a moment of stress, and now i am full of regret. these are the kind of questions you should be asking yourself to help you move on with your own happiness. she basically wanted a level of commitment i wasn’t comfortable giving at the time, i thought i wasn’t ready. we all have our breakdowns and lose ourselves every once in a while. also, before she started dating him were in contact quite a bit, but right after she started dating him she became very cold and distant and seemed to be trying to push me away. do you think he will still care or think about me or should i stop worrying and move on? on the other hand, your ex might just be in a rebound relationship. and is there anyway or hope that we would get back together? it just means she is in a rebound and didn’t really have time to process her emotions. that said, we still live together, a mutual decision not only because we don’t want to physically have to make the move, but also because we don’t want to separate. he didn’t jump into the relationship right away and he is letting her decide who he talks to, i’d say that he is pretty serious about his relationship. i read your article about the no contact rule and the 5 step plan. when first time i saw her i was like your all different she agreed she is into things she was not into before but all of a sudden? that’s why it makes me worried that this is the same thing happening with my current ex. so another month goes by and while on facebook i see she is tagged in a pic in a hugging pose with another guy. they are exactly the same person personality wise, spiritually, ideology, and belief wise. to know the truth isn’t even for the purpose of rekindling anything, but just for a sense of closure. they fact that she hangouts and has sex with this other guy destroys me but i feel like she’s just trying to replace me. applied nc for 3 days now, i told her i need some space right now. i guess i just need to grin and bear it. asked for some space in february after our 6th anniversary. he’s still saying he wants make me the effort to keep me in his life and make us work as ‘friends’. he also hangs out with her in full view when he is the kind of person to keep his business to himself. only way you can analyze your past relationship right now is just by memories and conjecture. new relationship will eventually suffer as your ex is not yet over the past one they had with you. if there is a way i could just get some feed back it would be really great and helpful, because i don’t want to keep feeling like any day or two i am gone snap and lose it about all of this . resolute ways to resist the urge to call your ex. to sum everything up, we have been on and off for about 2 years and during that rocky point of our relationship, i made the biggest mistake of my life. they have given me a lot to think about and consider. broke up and he started dating his co worker, after 3days of the break up. i just let him do his thing because i think maybe this is the way for him to let his anger out that i was going away. it’s not like i can do the “no contact” because we have a daughter together so it makes it really difficult. they can’t stare back at me long enough, so i assumed they were guilty of making me look like a fool for a long time. i know she doesnt love this guy im way better looking she always said he was ugly. i think you should apply nc even with his texts (it’ll most likely have him thinking, especially if he regularly texts you “good morning” or “good night”). either your ex will move on and be in a happy relationship with her current boyfriend. and my ex of 5 years (which is also my 9month old’s father) recently broke up end of may…. apologies i meant not making eye contact while we were talking but looking elsewhere and smiling. this site has placed a lot of perspective into my situation. know this because you two were in a serious relationship for significant amount of time. he said it would be best if we cut down on the talking and we did until i texted to ask him about money he owed me. i’ve seen her on there multiple times in the past day, and i’m pretty sure it means her rebound is starting to fall apart. that’s why i think she moved on and over as quick as she has already and to the next guy she feels she has better connection with. i do know she has got some things going on but i have the feeling that maybe i should just leave her alone because she will not want to try again. i’ve been in nc for about a week but miss her and get major doubts that i could get her back because she tries to convince everybody she’s really happy with this new guy but gas only known his for two weeks. if you haven’t read the main 5 step plan to get your ex back, then you should. she said she still had it in her car i asked like you mean unopened she said no she read it when i gave it to her. don’t scream it out at the top of your lungs on the highest building you can find! for what to do, you should just apply no contact, at least for 60 days. i cried, called him crying, begged him to come back and work on whatever was going on with him. think whether or not is he capable of doing it.. i was mad but i told him lots of luck and he did the same. here i was planning to spend my life with this woman, and now its nothing. i haven’t said anything to him since the break up. just feel that no matter what he’ll feel like that for a while (doesnt want to get married and have kids) but that in the end, at some point, he’ll want them (maybe not get married, but i dont mind that, i just want to know i ‘ve found the one and we are both commited “forever”, but i dont need a paper and even less, a wedding). she said that she lost of her family, meaning my family. she did not reply to that message but i sent her another message saying “i was pretty drunk yesterday and let me know when i can talk to you”. because you were important to her and it’s hard to get over a relationship especially if you are in a rebound. she contacted me again after like 4 days and we just talked random stuffs. my ex sent me messages that he thought about me everyday, and also on that special day. i know i could’ve said more or less at some points, but initially i was hoping by appearing non-threatening to his current relationship, it would be easier for me to work my way in. well, kissing your ex when you know you are starting seeing somone is not ok. and while you are still trying to understand what happened and pick up the shattered pieces of your life, your ex has started another relationship. but it’s still significant if you two had a good connection. i also called her (she agreed that i could call her) and i talked like i was doing great (i am sort of) and she said she didn’t have any feelings for her other ex anymore. either just being ignored or whatever so you do nc for another time period. if he didn’t cheat on a physical level i am sure he cheated emotionally. i think you do have a chance to get back together. she cried all the time to her family saying how much she loved me n her dad told me so i know its true. this is fairly uncommon and it could mean two things., say your ex is in a rebound relationship now and you start to do no contact. the next day he called me three times but i didn’t answer and have no answering machine and i also got a text calling me scum and my mum lazy. either he can commit or you cut him off entirely from your life and move on. it felt like we’ve made a mistake and he was talking about all the memories we had. me send me an email telling me how it isn’t problem with me,but him. if they already connect on deep level then i’m sure she feels the sexual physical part is complete too. i don’t think either one of you is a rebound. i thought we would have until i found out he actually did have a gf that he’d been lying about. today i sent him an email letting him know i can’t accept a cold friendship like this, “we deserve better and maybe we have a better shot at friendship later on, hugs”. not saying this will happen not even by a long shot or anything. after a lot of effort, i gave in believing that he was truly sorry. so my parents tell me to just give up because this is the second time she broke up and if we get back together the 3rd time will also come. still haven’t replied since it’s been only 15 days into the no contact. if at that time she still wants to work things out with her ex husband, then you should move on. however, we still tried to make time for each other to talk and catch up with how our days went. and when you see how happy they look together, it may just cause your heart to break into even tinier pieces. were together for three years and i find it hard he left. hope you’re too” so i waited for some time and i gave her a call. i did happen to see her at the gym couple days ago but i didn’t talk to her or look at or anything just saw her and tried to mind my business, been really trying to get good workouts in, take my frustrations out on weights. that your ex is now seeing someone else can be a painful realization. you two haven’t really broken up, i suggest you let him know that you need some space and time and you want no contact for a month. anyways i moved out of our shared apartment back to my hometown for a month, before we both decided we should be friends and roommates(so we both could save money up easily in order to move into our own separate apartments). use this time to sort out your feelings and to make yourself more resilient. if she is still cold, you know you gave it a try and you can move on without any regrets. when you severed ties with your ex, you’ve basically forfeited the right to butt into your ex’s business. idk how she can completely move on so fast its almost unfathomable, like she has no conscience. i screamed so loud and yelled as loud as i could bursting into tears. am applying as much of the no contact rule as possible…. your website has been very insightful, helping me approach my breakup bewilderment in a more healthy and productive way. some people keep someone lined up for dating before breaking up just so they don’t have to be single for longer than a few days. i’m relatively sure he’s deleted my number and being that i’m not active should i activate again? set up a night out with your close friends so you can tell them all about it and then move on. all articles by mika maddelasee mika maddela's expert pageget updates on loveget updates on mika maddela. she still has feelings for you even if the close friend might seem perfect for her, it’s probably not going to work out. she hugged me and started crying, she hugged me for around 10 seconds and told me:”i can’t do this, i feel like i’m cheating on him. a therapist can help a lot if you are unable to let go of obsessive thoughts. you should do no contact to learn to be happy without her. ex boyfriend started a new relationship while he was still in a relationship with me i knew we had problems and, i found out about him being engaged, but he continued to contact me/flirt with me and visit me. or wouldn’t she be comparing what they had when more then friends and what we had. i said okay because i had done a few myself and they sucked. so, now i want you to tell me, how to get her back. she said she is at someones house and she is gonna be there for the whole day. but i’m sure she thinks is really great which obviously she doesn’t see and probably couldn’t care about because they are best friends and they get along so perfect with and about everything even when physical intimacy was introduced and involved i sure she thinks that’s also perfect too. if things don’t work out by that time, give up on him and move on. so even if you force yourself to try and be better than the new partner, your ex probably won’t dump his or her partner just because you’ve improved yourself overnight. we were completely in love but this must have changed his mind right away. i usually let him do his thing and be supportive. i will take the advice that i am given because whatever i am doing, is not working! it looked like he was willing to take me back but once he admitted it i turned him down immediately having another sudden mood swing. it seems she is texting you just to see if you are there for her and once she realizes that you are, she feels satisfied and doesn’t respond to you anymore. just don’t make it obvious you want to get back together. your partner is trying to move on with their life and as much as it hurts for you to know that, you also have to focus on your own happiness. i keep understanding his situation on why he did it, i forgiven him i told that. i already feel like i been lost her awhile ago, not going to be able to get her back since she said she moved on from it cause she been here before and it not worth it, that her relationship isn’t a rebound it going to be real mccoy, and that trying to follow these steps is just going to fail me. i decided to stop contacting him because our talks were confusing, one minute he said “you are my best friend” or “i love you” and the next minute he was saying that he still needed space and to be on his own. she called at two weeks to say she doesn’t think we should talk for awhile. was in a relationship with my girlfriend for 3 years but at the end of the first year she started to become very depressed. however he has texted twice: to ask how i was doing and to ask a trivial question. so i said i want to break up with you the following day. i told him about someone who had offered to set me up and he said i should go on the date. this can be just as bad as stalking in person! how much time limit you give to yourself is completely up to you. texted me saying that it’s probably best if we don’t talk anymore. she was working a lot and was getting stressed out. she always told me she would not date someone with kids.. i had left him alone and he contacted my best friend asking how i was doing and that he wanted to be friends cause he cared about me still our breakup related to my actions and mistakes that pushed him way over the edge., although i struggle on the odd occasion… who doesn’t? i’m no psychologist but after coming out of a long term relationship and hurtful breakup with someone with npd, he seems to show a lot of the traits. i can’t do and give her the materiel things she likes that he can like tattoos. can you do right now to help you feel better? i don’t think she would have stayed with you if you didn’t mean anything to her. what strikes me is that 5 months later their engagement fell through and he tried to reconnect with me. or could it be that he earlier met this old friend while we were together? i broke up with my boyfriend about four weeks ago and he contacted me saying he’ll give me a week to decide if we should get back together, but when the day came and i made up my mind on wanting to be with him, he said we should just be friends. and if you found out all these things after the breakup, then you should not tell her you know all this. i feel i want to reply as positive as i can on how i’m doing. she is so infatuated by everything about him and they have been close friends for years. it’s now summer and he still hasn’t tried to contact me. but he posts pictures and quotes about being with his girlfriend and he posts pics on instagram with her too (i don’t have an insta, i only know this from a friend). never got a response from the email/don’t know if he even read it. i’ve bagged it all up but i’m not a storage facility nor a taxi service. it’s hard to say if it’s a rebound. then when i instituted a no contact rule, after about 2 weeks he was begging to be back with me. like i don’t see any of the signs just the ignoring and already moved on signs. i said it was ok for him to take his time and if he wanted to be single for a while i was ok with it, but when i asked if we’d get back together in the future he said probably not. obviously, i was upset and i told him that i felt unimportant to him because of what he said and he expressed that that wasn’t true and that i was important to him and he didn’t want to lose me and he would do what he needed to do (within reason) to make me happy. we don’t hang in the same social circles so i have no clue? i am concerned that she came over for a reason besides thinking of working things out. was really shaken up after our break, and didn’t know about the nc rule…after we broke up i texted him several times and i ended up called him profuseley apologizing and told him that i loved him (which i admittedly never did during our relationship). i don’t want to “play games” but, i’d like to wait for a couple days after, as i mentioned before, i don’t want to upset her & i’d like to leave her wondering why i haven’t contacted her too. i just felt like it was good to end the txt / snapchat thing on a good positive note. he is a very honest person and said he started having feelings for someone else, but that he still loved me but it seemed like it was no longer “in love”, but then he explains that it’s possible to love to people and describes are love as a garden with many plants and what he feels for this new girl as a single planted seed. but there is a problem that started in our relationship, i was getting jelouse of his best friend who is a girl in high school and about to graduate, she is 18, and my ex is 22 and they known each other since childhood, he told me that i had nothing to worry about, he isn’t attracted to her and he called me an idiot because he only loved me. there’s also a very small chance that it’ll end. my ex was furious that i spoke to her parents and now refuses to speak to me., it’s hard to say if he wants to get back together, but there is definitely a chance and it’s definitely worth trying to get back with him. know that she is confused and needs help as she has been drinking heavily and smoking heaps but she tell her family she is happy with this new guy…. me and my ex boyfriend had been 2yrs more together and we just broke up for almost 3 months but in that 2months we still contact and see each other and many things happened before i decided to do the no contact rule.’s probably a rebound, even if he met her while you were together.’m just hoping that she’ll see me for me…but i know she can’t do that unless i’m not there to be missed. i broke up with him i’m january this year and a week later he’d moved on to the type of woman he used to moan about and the complete opposite of me and i keep seeing them around my neck of the woods. however, you have to consider that you can’t accelerate the way you get over things at will. i have since started counselling and am now on medication for depression. in fact, try to move on completely during these 2-3 months. she is cold towards you, you should do no contact for a while and let her initial honeymoon period get over. but you really should do nc for at least a couple of months and learn to be happy without him. well down the road i split up with her because i thought it was best.” she also told me i was amazing, wonderful and that she loved me which was the most confusing thing to hear. we said we should take a break to miss each other for some time, we missed each other soo much after 3 days, but we said that we can’t do this for next month, so we broke up saying we should stay only best friends. but maybe i do need some tactics now… please help! came to see you because she was still confused and still had feelings about you. and when they get in touch with each other, they realize that there is a good chance their relationship might work better this time, and they give it another go. i am just saying that you should start learning to live without her in your life and start exploring the possibility of finding someone else. and the more you lose hope the more you start analyzing their new relationship (and obsessing over them) trying to convince yourself it’s a rebound. he saw them as the perfect couple and since that i think he kind of lost faith in marriage or the fact that a truly great relationship can last forever. like i don’t think she lives around here or work around here anymore. i also feel like when she came over she only did it because she was that bored or something that she only came over to kill 20-30 minutes before leaving to her house. just express it in your own way, with minimal damage to those around you., it’s not a surefire way of telling whether or not it’s a rebound. i encouraged it because we have a big age difference. stalked her a bit and found out they work in the same industry, seems nice and normal with a good job. and 2 days after that (which was last week), she put photos up of her and her friends on the beach in a bikini shoot basically. change it up & be a little mysterious… good or bad ideas? you want to find out your chances of getting your ex back? he said both of them went into it not expecting anything serious, but the more they chatted the more they had in common. things you need to know before dating an outgoing introvert. we had just started college together and were both kind of on different pages in the relationship. tell him you need time to think things through and so does he. i told her i wasn’t going anywhere and that she was the love of my life and always will be but that some space would make things better. so yesterday i noticed her profile was back up, but all the pics and info were gone. in the meantime though, before we rediscovered each other, she got married and had 2 boys with a guy she eventually broke up with. make sure you read the checklist at the beginning of step 4 in the 5 step plan before ending no contact. although, it doesn’t necessarily make it a permanent relationship. same pattern went on all winter break with him and we kept in touch via skype and calling and text when i went back to school and everything seemed to be going well and we were communicating a lot better.
texted her how she was doing after her appointment with her terapist bus she said it is tomorrow. wanted to say stop exaggerating about the unhealthy part because we were both really happy she just got upset and felt that way when she had an attitude and i didn’t want to talk for day or two, it was to give each person space, not like i was such that bad person she makes me out to be. my ex send me message that i was right when i said to my bf tht it was unfair that he decided all alone to end our relationship. she clearly posted this message for her ex to see.. he spends a lot of time with this new girl. need to mention that after she called it quits, we continued to live together as flatmates (and have done for two years). i can’t get her pregnant because of my infertility problems but we always would talk about being together for a long time and even settling down and have kids through a donor. and no, this is not just what she has told me. posted before but now im really confused, my ex broke up with me about 3 month ago, we were together 10 years we have been in regular contact until last week when i decided to go nc i knew she had been seeing another guy and i think that’s why i was dumped but reading on here he could of been her back up plan before we finished, she kept lying about him all the time then last thursday she sent a text telling me she was now seeing him , but a month ago she said he was a rebound a bit of fun , now her saying that makes me think its serious between them last sunday after spending the day with her which she organised , holding my hand kissing me etc he text and she said i have to see him to sort my feelings out, she spent the night at his, i was heartbroken i think she is in love with this guy and after reading on this site its like she hasn’t been emotionally involved for months but on the other hand dumpers in rebounds think there in love but this guy has been around to pick her up when we were going wrong , she sent a snapchat on friday then i had caller id withheld calls on my phone on sunday which she used to do if we fell out could be coincidence but that has never happened before im trying not to panic i have been no contact for a week but god i miss her so much even after how horrible she has been but im in panic mode , how can she stop loving me , how can she forget me , how can she move on , etc etc etc but this site says if she waited 3 months or more to move on she admitted seeing him after 3 months but has been seeing him longer , and this guy is the total opposite (more confusion) real player not nice to women multiple partners etc etc ,but she says he is gorgeous and in her text she said i was good looking great sense of humour ,big heart which i think is a ego boost for her cos why leave if im all that anyway im so hurt and confused some good feedback would be excellent cos im at rock bottom. people lose feelings and there is a good chance she cheated on you while she was in the relationship. if she ends the relationship, she will have to face all the pain and emptiness alone and she doesn’t think she is ready to do it yet. he displayed all the signs ti want me back but i was aloof. it was really hard to hear her lash out and distort me and our relationship to say the least. you decide how much time of your life are you willing to waste on someone. i just want us to have a real, honest chance to be happy together without all the lies. story short, my ex girlfriend dumped me randomly (stopped having sex with me about a month before) so maybe no so randomly. and if she’s found a way to be happy (i am not saying she is), then it’s her right.. i cant txt him, because his gf keepa on snooping around his phone and even the one who’s replying to his messages and acting that she is my ex (she done this with my ex mom and she wasnt happy about it)., you need to get out of this situation and find yourself another place. is he already so invested in this new girl that he’s trying to completely take me out of his life? he dumped me over spring break, on text because he got mad at me that i forgot to do something. how are you planning to get out of this state of mind leave her behind? i and my ex broke up couple of weeks ago and i still don’t know the reason for that. eventually, jane would breakup with garry and will try to deal with her breakup pain.’ve always done something special, along with sending a single yellow rose on her b’day. my ex girlfriend and i have been separated for just over 5 months. he does these 8 things, he doesn’t actually want you back (he’s just bored). i heard about this no contact rule and i did it for one month. if i could get some answers in both these fronts? after a bout 8 month at sea i find out he is dating someone else i though i was okay with it but when i finish the contract and returned home and started working at my old job where both my ex and his new girlfriend work i feel very sad and heart broken i love him and wish to be back with him he has been dating this girl nearly three month now what should i do. why was she in love with me for three years if we never had a connection? we fell madly in love right away and dated for a year. after a breakup, that intimacy is gone in a matter of few days and you are left feeling empty. everything you are asking is based on the assumption that they have a great relationship together. i know she’s seeing someone but her usual mo is to show her enthusiasm with the person she’s with all over social media. so obviously this means she is 100% over me already and very happy in new relationship with her close friend right? and btw i saw a stat she posted yesterday that said ” whats love but a second hand emotion? do yourself and your sanity a favor and unfollow your ex and his girlfriend on any social media channel. i 40 partners 35 been in a realationship for 7 yrs broke up 4 and half months ago she has 4 kids from previous long term abusive realationship i have 1 child to her. don’t have any regrets from my former ex who is married now. some cases, your ex will choose someone who is completely opposite of you in every possible way. they have that then wouldn’t that mean things are complete between them. just because they have hope that if they go for someone completely different, they’ll find happiness. you choose to search for a new relationship or put all your efforts into a hobby, it’s infinitely better than sitting at home and thinking about your ex and your ex’s new partner. i knew from the start this was never a rebound. i have called him and told him everything i know and i have asked him not to contact me when he gets back. i feel good, i’m happy with going with the flow, spending time with friends etc. if he just lost attraction, then this article is a good way to rebuild attraction with him., he’s recently started talking to this girl that he works with, and since then, he has changed his whole perspective on our relationship. and neither one of them can give you an accurate description of what the relationship meant to her. they are in a rebound, you still have to apply the no contact rule and follow the 5-step plan. (referring to him obviously) saying that so quick even if you had a thing for him and he obviously was just over the top feelings for you when you were “friends” she never said that to me that quick. but when he dumped me, that same night he started to talk to her. but we haven’t talked since yesterday at 1pm and he hasn’t once tried to contact me yet. if their behavior resembles that of a person in a rebound relationship, you can be know for sure whether or not you have a chance at getting back together. he told me that he understand and he asked me if we aren’t go to hang out anymore.: my ex is dating someone else and i heard that they're serious. fast forward to march 2014, i find out she has slept with several guys, and has been fucking a “guy friend” these past several months. she told me she never loved him her dad said he was no good and they always broke up. that and when you have been apart for almost as long as you were together don’t that kill any chance of that ” running into them and realizing things could work” type deal. a few real talks between us to help clear some things on the interim. have been in a relationship with this girl for almost 14 months. so i told her that i felt the whole “friend” thing seemed fake , and it was better to go our seperate ways. should i contact her while she is in relationship with this guy after 1 month? it sucks to be painted in negative light by everyone in her life because they only knew one side and that they would tell her to bail he not good enough or he just the same as all the rest. if you think you need more time, tell her so. they think that finding someone completely opposite will probably give them happiness. i met with her parents to talk about us after i found out and they were shocked to learn she was still seeing me. i can’t get over it cause she said he was like a brother but but he is not. seem to not be making any progress as much as i am trying to not think of her or anything related. even if he does come back, he might hurt you again.: does someone lack self-awareness if they say they are unlucky in love? i finally agreed to meet up with him after 8 months of separation (april 2014). i could tell by her voice she was telling the truth so i now go back in no contact to see what is going to happen. he’s from another town and is apparently pretty poplular. she feels a little better when she is with garry, but she can’t shake the feeling that this relationship is not giving her the peace that she expected.. stuff that’s money / status related ( i thought it was wird , she seemed very obsessed about it ) . i’m more confident, thinner and healthy with a new home makeover. there is no more bond to speak of, so whatever your ex does is out of your hands. well my ex kept begging me but i would just ignore him&he would text me nonstop call me nonstop. if they were, he wouldn’t scream at her and call her a psychopath. earlier this month he posted on his tumblr reminiscing about our relationship. they do everything a couple would do together but she just keeps saying she isn’t dating. thing were going well until i let my emotions run wild and we rehashed the relationship for 2 days on chat. if it was a “rebound” it’s been going on since she ended it and still going on. has contacted me again after about a month (i’ve kept quiet after the breakup) giving me hints of good memories together etc…. he said he intended on ending things with me when he got back from cuba, but since being back, things have changed. i just feel i am worthless and that i spent six years with someone who couldnt care less about me. the problem with that is he might end up engaged etc. he said he needs time, so you should give it to him. i had just returned from a month long trip – something she had fair notice of and was okay with – and we had an anniversary. we were soulmates n i can’t even describe how true it was. with all the talking and attempts on both sides to ‘fix things’, we now have a stronger and deeper connection than we had before (a mutual opinion). a few years ago, if you asked jane whether or not she would move this much fast in a relationship, she would’ve called you crazy. anyway – were together for a year when things started to get difficult between us, so i had to break the relationship off with him to give us both space to get ourselves back on track. heck noooooo, if she’s in a relantionship and having sex with some whatever, move on, leave, get yourself a nicer one, there are better ones believe me, let her keep on rebounding for the rest of her life then. i felt like she looked at me like she still hates me and like i said she is in a relationship now from what i can tell. i wish i didn’t because we didn’t try to solve the problems and i chose the easy way and decided to break up.’ve been together for a year (1 year and 15 days to be exact). the truth is, you can never know 100% if your ex has truly moved on or you still have a shot with them. we haven’t communicated since valentine’s day and it’s been a month since they’ve started dating and almost 4 months since we broke up. i didnt know he was a rebound up until now. he and i never even had a profile picture today and we were supposedly in love. you need to stop trying to rescue the “damsel in distress” and find someone who is happy and who can make you happy. she will come around because you have more length of time. and if she did end up being single what reason would she even contact me not saying to get together or anything like that but just in general.: you and your partner used to be crazy with each other until stress created problems between you both-- which destroyed your relationship. we have gone through this once before but he came back. 2 weeks went by and she contacted me that she needed us to meet up so that she could the things she left at my house and to give me back my key. i saw comments on his instagram (bc he insisted i re-follow him) of people being shocked.. just wait till his new relationship blows up because if his girlfriend continues acting like this, it will eventually end.’m very lost at the moment, so a response would be much appreciate. he told me that this came all out of a sudden he meet her en she liked hem and vica versa. i have been so depressed not eating, nightmares, and i’m trying to get over it, and i see him all happy with her and he left me here broken. we also took a break to focus on some personal issues (work, life, etc)., after the 3 months, are conversations became more involved and i started to open up to him and reconnect again and things were getting better. she recently turned 18 and seems to think she can do what ever she wants. we broke up she started seeing this guy at the park right after we broke up an now he’s sleeping over her mothers house while my kids are there. even the whole thing with her dating her friend maybe even still. weekend we skyped for a few hours and everything was ok, he even asked me to come visit him next month and that he would take me camping. i see that she changed her profile picture on fb and instagram to different pictures i took of her , when we was together . and then a week later, she’s all of a sudden with her guy. i am pretty sure she will break up with that guy eventually.. i still want to get back, but we need to have some time to think about it. ex and i broke up when i just came back from overseas exchange program. there’s no way you can know for sure if she still has feelings for you or she has completely forgotten about you. meant considering everything you have said till now about what happened, in my opinion and experience, i think she will reply when you contact her. i can tell you from my experience that she is not as happy in the relationship as you think she is and she does miss you and probably still has a place in her heart for you. i tried talking to my sister about this she said i was just being used because she would say she misses me but never say why and it always happen out of blue maybe once a month and then back to nothing. i know there’s a lot of hurt and internal conflict and misery here and my recent heartbreak certainly feels insignificant to many of these stories. we did everything together traveled the world for years at a time and i thought we were so unstoppable. i can hope is that it doesnt work out for obvious reasons im bitter. do you agree with what my friends have said in regards to a slightly manipulative behaviour from her? my bff suggests being aggressive about it, but i rather follow your advice from last message and let it be his idea. she said, “if you really wanted to marry me, you would have found a way. she said she was wrong for emailing me when she broke things off but i was wrong for the things i said afterward. any help/advice/insight you can give me would be greatly appreciated. have no choice but to do the no-contact rule i suppose? i wasn’t just comfortable doing that at my house and i told him that, because i wanted him to feel that my parents’ house isn’t really the best place to do it. has sent me a txt like this before and we have got back together. came across your site and am starting to follow the 5 steps and have recently began the 30 day nc period. i couldnt see myself going through yelling with him any longer. if any two people are involved in this type of thing …maybe they arent mature enough for a relationship in the first place. when we were discussing this i asked if we were still friends at least? dated this guy for 2 months, and during the first month i let him know i like him too by kissing him back. we still see eachother but lately i’ve calm down from crying and all of that. why was he letting a young girl sleeping at his house if he loved me and didn’t want anything to happen? he has admitted that since being back, the person i am now and the state of the current relationship is like night and day compared to before (his words). hardest thing i’ve ever had to deal with in my 30 years of life, without a doubt. i said i was off hiking for the weekend with a friend. may like him because hes exciting but the glamour wears off. it is also my understanding that he is fresh out of a long term relationship so they may both be rebounding. i decided i didn’t want to keep seeing him like before, and told him if we ever were going to end up together it was his turn to fight, even if i didn’t think he ever would. i cheated on him 2-3 years ago&he recently found out of september 18th 2013 so he broke up with me&i apologized to him every single day have him comfort but all he did was ignored me. you so much for your advice…i really think you are right. but yes and want us to get back together and have a stronger relationship. ones who leave this world will never really leave us. i asked him to not talk to her, but he still did, and when he did he would tell her that he still thought about her. the rose is symbolic & a little thing only we know. boyfriend is in the military and stationed overseas, we have been together for two years and i just got back home from visiting him over christmas and new years. last time i heard it saw from her was middle of october when she came to my place. she dated this guy alex for two years before me. we were together for 4 years and we had an argument which resulted in him saying goodnight and goodbye to me to which i didnt reply, then i get this txt two days later, please help! from moving the rebound relationship too fast, another common behavior that rebound relationships have is choosing someone they’d not go for normally. and in august he and this new guy became a couple. regardless of his reasons, start no contact for a month. sent him a lengthy email saying i was sorry i messed up and that i hurt him, and that after we broke up i had done a lot of self-evaluation and i was sorry that i was so selfish and that i took him for granted. i said, you should start talking to him more often and then ask him to hang out. unless he used his little brother’s account and saw my status or his mom told him that our college friend and i are talking :). we’ve been together for over two years officially, but 5 years we had feelings for each other. was this meant to happen was i just the last person she wasted time on before realizing she loves her friend more then a just a friend as someone she could have life with. i am really burning inside and i really want the relationship back and i would of course do anything to get it back. hooked up at a big 80s bash that happens every year. yourself when your partner shuts you outhow to stop defensive behavior & save your marriagethe next 5 great romantic first date ideas (ii)broken trust – 7 keys to rebuilding trust in your marriageis your present partner a victim of your past relationships? i didn’t want to break up really, i was just confused and for the first time, we didn’t communicate well and just walked away from all our years and history. you want him to think your life is better than ever! your mind is trying to find something to be obsessed about. neither of us were happy here and i was trying to get us out. what is going on and what on earth do i do? a scarp book of us and lastly a video of me about 100 reasons why i love him.’s hard to tell what’s causing this confused behavior. he’s been beyond childish and cruel throughout all this when i wanted to be civil and get my stuff back and his. i even went to his house and waited for him. when she left i told her i missed her laugh and she said she missed me. he kinda looked like he missed me the way he looked at me according to my friends, i didn’t look at him. is this new girl a rebound and if so what are my next steps. ” from tht tina turner song whats love got to do with it . but all that is not going to help you with your current state of mind. my ex emailed me the other day saying he’s trapped and his new fiancé is pregnant and she’s screwed him over and he hates his job and asking for help from the people he emailed. if that’s the case, could this make the relationship more or less successful? she broke up with me, saying that she needs to get her life together and is terribly sorry for using me in this way, but my feeling is that the real reason is that i’ve really done a bad job in handling and embracing all this complicated stuff with her ex. like i said they are the same exact person with everything. partner of 6 years broke up with me 2 weeks ago,mew have some issues due to my illness he finds it hard to cope. i wonder if the extreme level of intimacy and commitment to her within hours of meeting her fits the ‘rebound relationship’ definition from your article. texted me the other day a picture of something that made her think of me. before it ended we were talking bout getting a place and i’m sure she probably stays with him now or has..but then i did not know what kind of texts to send. i said before, you should remove her from all your social media. was just in a relationship that moved way to fast thing is i still have strong feelings for her we been apart for 11 days when she left me i did the whole multiple pathetic text i told her a few days ago that i’ll stop texting altogether she told me not to stop texting her just not as much and that she still cares about me we just moved to fast i’ve pretty much made myself the door mat last night i erased her number from my phone to remove the temptation to get a hold of her i’d like to know if by doing this and not talking to her if it’s possible she could miss me things are complex because i guess you could say that i’m a rebound she just got out of a 6 year marage and is in the middle of a divorce she told me from the beginning that she doesn’t want to move fast but she kinda made it that way she kinda smothered me tho i enjoyed it made me feel loved is it possible to get back after i’ve made myself look a fool. or do i still have a chance given the history we have? im hurt that he cheated on me and made this side chick hes girl…. i usually recommend people to give themselves a time limit, in most cases, 2-3 months, if things don’t work out by then, you should just move on..because it felt so right just wanted to let it happen naturally and not stop it. mutual friends have severed their ties to this man, get an untrustworthy feeling from him or understand him to be a jerk. even though, she usually waits three months before sleeping with someone she is dating, she makes an exception in garry’s case; simply because she thinks that sleeping with him will make her forget about you. at the time, i was stressed about helping family so i got a better job. she ended up choosing the other dude to see where it would go. he tried contacting me the first 3 weeks and then stopped. my question, if this is a rebound is better to not interfere or to keep in touch with her during? you are who you are, and unlike your ex, you will find someone who can appreciate that. i, though i honestly want to she her happy, want her to see me as the one guy that was always there for her….” granted the month before she had picked out her engagement ring and was talking about it all the time. i’ve had a couple of casual text conversations with her since so she’s not ignoring me. she basically had the same profile pic up when i meet her until i said something for 2 years. i’ve been through a lot of failed relationships in the past and i wanted him to be my last, that i’ll end up with him in the near future. her state of mind made her a little self-centred and unempathetic, so she’d never take an interest in mine (i’m sure you can see why it had to end). someone close who you already know and you are already happy being around them before you started a relation ship with them. unfortunately for him, i’d binned all his stuff having given him months to collect and contacted him many times and then said i’d bin them.. they know it’s a rebound and they want to get back together with you someday. cant think straight but am trying to be the “fun” flatmate and she’s agreed to come to a couple of shows with me. keep in mind that this person is not your direct competition. i am pretty heartbroken, and feel that i should move on with my life. course, it’s not really a surefire way to determine whether or not they’re in a rebound relationship. after i read this i kind of did my own thing, but we ended up seeing each other when i came home for winter break and i was under the impression that we were just going to hang out as friends since that seemed to be what he wanted at the time. obviously i want him back and he knows this yet he has said if he wasn’t in this new relationship with this girl he would try again but he is so he won’t. is this a clear sign that i was never really anything to my current ex? she started seeing an old boyfriend within a month of being home. she contacts me again saying that i still had something of hers at my place.