Is it okay for a 19-year-old to go out with a 16-year-old? - Quora Is a 19 year old dating a 16 weird

Is a 19 year old dating a 17

i actually thought it was disgusting and shameful to date a man that much older than me. year old guys with designs on girls your age are socially inept and/or see you as an easy target. gold[–]softinseattle 85 points86 points87 points 1 year ago (2 children)especially because older manipulative guys often target teens who are vulnerable, such as those in difficult home situations. gold[–][deleted] 76 points77 points78 points 1 year ago (7 children)this is predatory behavior. memberposts: 2868joined: 9 oct 2008if its illegal where you live best not bang for a year otherwise the lad could end up in jail but morally theres no problem to me. more comments (7 replies)[–]womanwithwot 210 points211 points212 points 1 year ago (37 children)it's not only weird. gold[–]kaleewobshoopdeydey 6 points7 points8 points 1 year ago (0 children)im late to comment but surprised no one has called this out specifically. goldload more comments (4 replies)load more comments (13 replies)load more comments (32 replies)[–]zagorath 322 points323 points324 points 1 year ago (46 children). she didn't look unhealthy, she just looked 13 years old when she was 18. try this experiment: one day before his birthday, a 17 year old boy has sex with his 16 year old girlfriend. gold[–]justmeandmybudz 35 points36 points37 points 1 year ago (11 children)and in a lot of places the youngest age for a vasectomy from what i understand. goldload more comments (1 reply)load more comments (8 replies)load more comments (17 replies)load more comments (2 replies)load more comments (16 replies)[–]alwaysforgettingmyun 35 points36 points37 points 1 year ago (18 children)i can date 27 yr olds? more comments (1 reply)[–]marzipan86 21 points22 points23 points 1 year ago (0 children)there are worse things than being grounded. goldload more comments (1 reply)load more comments (2 replies)load more comments (6 replies)[–]boredgamelad 3681 points3682 points3683 points 1 year ago* (538 children)an age difference of 7 years when one person is 50 is nothing. i am about to have a daughter in a few weeks, and i hope that when she is older if she presents me with a similar situation i am able to approach it as calmly and reasonably as my parents did, and i am able to see her for who she is and where she is maturity-wise rather than just seeing numbers. i imagine from the perspective of a 15-year-old this doesn't seem that strange. goldload more comments (147 replies)[–]piowjdoiejhoihsa 84 points85 points86 points 1 year ago (4 children)hopping on here to clarify something, since the wording of op concerned me. i would ask if you would ever be interested in a 7 year old, but that's too young. gold[–]throwawaychicken123[s] 548 points549 points550 points 1 year ago (11 children)damn. he's gone through your stage of life development, has gone through the difficulty of transitioning from a teenager to a true adult (yes, it is difficult, and you'll experience it in a few years), plus a few years of "maturity" (eh, what should be maturity) from there.[–][deleted] 57 points58 points59 points 1 year ago (5 children)i have the same age gap with my wife, and the only time i've ever noticed it is weird is when talking about our childhood, now with our kids.[–]ta112233 291 points292 points293 points 1 year ago (7 children)or to make them feel obligated to "pay him back" (i. i was wondering, does 19 and 17 fall into the weird socially dating despite being legal like those two examples? back when you have an 86 year old grandma marrying a 14 year old boy. there are of course still perceived limits as to how big the age difference should be in order for a relationship to be “appropriate”, and a 28-year-old dating a 16-year-old would (more often than not) be greatly frowned upon by most friends and family. all flattering and shit when it happens but more often than not a 23yr old into a 15yr old is creepy. back when you have an 86 year old grandma marrying a 14 year old boy. gold[–]carlitosindamix 4 points5 points6 points 1 year ago (0 children)you know, i was reading through the posts and playing devil's advocate to give the guy the benefit of the doubt. goldload more comments (1 reply)load more comments (2 replies)load more comments (1 reply)[–]mottzapplesauce 110 points111 points112 points 1 year ago (3 children)in no scenario should a 23 year old man be acting this way with someone of your age. in pennsylvania, where i live, people between the ages of 13 and 16 may have sex with other people between the ages of 13 and 17, and there may not be more than a 4 year difference in their ages. 16 is the age of consent so no crime was committed but that is clearly more wrong than a 15 year-old having sex with her 18 year-old boyfriend by most people’s estimation. gold[–]bitterred 136 points137 points138 points 1 year ago (0 children)i agree with the sentiment -- i thought it was more like op being romantically interested in a 11- 12 year old. on jul 12, 2012parenting win: dad goes off on his 19-year-old son for dating soon to be 16-year-old girl! who knows, maybe you could have dated her at 16, but you would probably have to get her parents involved and it would be more complicated. you are lucky, you may get only three to five years in prison, but you could get up to 50 years or more. explainedarmyjobs guideemployer guidesdiscuss careersarmed forces careersengineering careersfinance careersinvestment banking careerslaw careersmarketing, sales and pr careersmedicine careerspublic sector careersteaching careerstechnology careerscareers advicehow to write a killer cvinterview tipspart-time workwriting a cover lettergetting a job at 16dealing with tough interview questionsrelationships & healthtalk relationshipsrelationshipsfriends, family and worktalk health & lifestylegeneral healthsexual healthmental healthfitnessfashion and beautyadvice on everyday issuesadvicelong-distance relationshipsdealing with a break-upcontraceptioncommon student health problemsuseful welfare phone numbersnews & entertainmentlatest newslatest newssportfootballpoliticseducational debateinternationalmodel house of commons.

Is a 21 year old dating a 16 year old

the case described, a young couple had been dating for 2 & 1/2 years, or since he was 16 and she was 14, when, after a fight, he (now age 18) sent out a nude photo of her (age 16) (a photo which she had provided to him of her own initiative, as far as i can tell) was convicted of distributing child pornography, and will for life (under current law) be registered as a sex offender. gold[–][deleted] 15 points16 points17 points 1 year ago (0 children)yeah, this sounds like the most sane logical response.) in general, a 15-year-old in this country has the same legal status as a 2-year-old has, or as a woman had hundreds of years ago: loved, coddled, and protected, but never trusted to make any decision of any kind. now i'm older and i completely see what my mother warned me about back then. that danger is young girls wanting to be popular by dating older guys.” and i know equally many women (myself included) who did not have sex as teenagers (well, okay, i had some sex as a teenager, but not until university when my husband and i started dating; i was almost 19) and nevertheless experienced depression, emotional turmoil, etc. an 18-year-old man can be drafted, but cannot order a beer. gold[–]anubis4567 9 points10 points11 points 1 year ago (1 child)quick tip from a 21 year old guy.'s the thing, you may be great but no 23 year old wants to listen to teenage bullshit. year olds are emotionally unprepared, physically its a bad idea (cervical cancer, etc etc). once you turn 18, its 16 and up, except in cases where you have power over the person [i. gold[–]holyshitnuggets 3 points4 points5 points 1 year ago (0 children)yes, this is definitely weird., 2 year gap is nothing and it will matter even less as time goes onward. from the outside looking in i’d like to make two observations, first being that if things had always been everywhere as they are now in the us i’d not be sitting here typing this, given that my grandmother was 16 when she married my 30ish grandfather. that means i was 14 and he was 19 when we first had sex. he recently told me (through text) that i'm an "amazing" girl and i deserve the very best, that i'm so "mature" for my age, that i'm so "beautiful". goldload more comments (2 replies)[–]mykidisonhere 75 points76 points77 points 1 year ago (1 child)women his age probably get the feeling or have seen him being immature and inappropriate. more comments (2 replies)[–]donna_fer 44 points45 points46 points 1 year ago (4 children)my husband is 11 years older then me. i suspect for you would feel similarly if a 10 year old boy who was really mature for his age asked you out. gold[–]nothappyjane 59 points60 points61 points 1 year ago (0 children)i disagree about her mother automatically being the right person to tell, she's reacted badly in the past, who's to say she's changed at all. goldload more comments (3 replies)[–]indescribable1 33 points34 points35 points 1 year ago (0 children)thats part of the grooming process, i promise. could you imagine if a friend told you they had a crush on an 8-year-old? know you're probably thinking that it's pretty cool that this older, seemingly more sophisticated and accomplished guy has an eye for you. my so is 4 years to the day younger than me (24/20), and we still have age gap differences that cause some issues. it took me years to figure out that my dad was the idiot, not me. thus making reliance on proving a lack of mature consent ineffective in terms of protecting young people from more predatory older people. goldload more comments (3 replies)[–]nitrosium 8 points9 points10 points 1 year ago (1 child)good news everyone the circlejerk is starting..Permalinkembedsavegive goldload more comments (13 replies)[–][deleted] 191 points192 points193 points 1 year ago (14 children)hey beautiful. gold[–]nerowasframed 185 points186 points187 points 1 year ago (0 children)absolutely worse. by contrast, one of my friends who was sleeping with her boyfriend that year (and with the same boyfriend the next year) was happier and more well-adjusted than i’d ever seen her before — and happier and more well-adjusted than i ever saw her in any later relationship until she met the guy who’s now her husband. is, take the older age, divide by two, and add seven. gold[–]kiddothakidd 35 points36 points37 points 1 year ago (0 children)similar thing happened to me about 9 years ago. it could be one or a combination of several things: you could find him attractive, you might be flattered by the attention and compliments he gives you, you might enjoy that an older guy is interested in you. gold[–]veggietrooper 88 points89 points90 points 1 year ago* (32 children)thanks for pointing that out.'m just a smeg headposts: 880joined: 30 jun 2010hope not since my fiancee was 17 and i was 23 when we started dating. gold[–]beerslol 390 points391 points392 points 1 year ago (3 children)very good point.


Is it weird/creepy for a 19 year to date a 17 year old?

Is a 19 year old dating a 16

gold[–]giraffecookies 6 points7 points8 points 1 year ago (0 children)all the people saying you're "stupid" or "don't do anything stupid" are stupid. sectiontsr communitylife and styleentertainmentdebate and current affairsstudy helpuniversity help and coursesuniversities and he collegescareers and jobsmost popular forumsrelationships forumchatvideo gamesnews and current affairsfootball chatsexual health discussionfashion and beauty sectionuni applicationsuni student lifegcsesa-levels forumeducation and teachingpostgraduatemedical schoolsmotoringuk politicsfitness forumlaw forumfinance and accountancymedicineexplore all the forums on forums home page »all forumstsr communitylife and styleentertainmentdebate and current affairsstudy helpuniversity and university coursesuniversities and he collegescareers and jobsgcsetalkgcse forumhelp with gcse subjectsscottish qualifications advicerevision & study tipsguidesrevision helpfinding a job at 16what to do after gcsesgcse past papersby 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uniuniversity open daysapprenticeships explained. gold[–]ianufyrebird 3 points4 points5 points 1 year ago (0 children)tl;dr. who are seniors (17 or 18) in high school date girls who are sophomores (15) or juniors (16) because “girls your own age” are either dating college boys or guys who went from high school straight into the job market. when i told him he could get in really big trouble he said it was "worth it".'s 23, if he has to dig eight years younger than him to find a partner, he's probably the type of guy who isn't getting much attention from ladies. a side note–in south dakota, you can legally drive at age 14 years 3 months. gold[–]zygote_harlot 122 points123 points124 points 1 year ago (13 children)i stopped talking to a (male) friend of mine in college after he casually mentioned to me how he would go after 15-16 year old girls because some of them were so "flattered" that an older guy was into them that they'd be more likely to "put out" for him. fact that we assume a 17-year-old girl cannot consent to sex is bizarre, if you look at biology or history. gold[–]itonlygetsworse 91 points92 points93 points 1 year ago (9 children)if you have lots of money, rules don't apply to you. he was three or four years older than her, iirc. my mom told me about sex, and what i intend to tell my daughter, is that when you decide to have sex with someone, you need to be sure you’re making that decision for the right reasons — because this is someone you like, someone you trust, someone you love, someone with whom you can be yourself, who respects you and whom you respect — and not for any of the many, many wrong reasons (including but not limited to peer pressure, having had too much to drink, fearing s/he won’t love you anymore if you don’t put out, just wanting to get it over with, and feeling like you’re the only one who hasn’t done it yet). i never slept with him and i told him to go away. naturally a lot of those girls are going to be looking at grade 9 and 10 for potential boyfriends — not because they’re gold-diggers or in search of trophy dates, but because many of the boys their own age are still, well, boys. to make matters worse, some states even have legislation in place that anyone under 15 or so is automatically a “no fly zone” regarding sex for anyone, even a 16 year old. it absolutely doesn’t matter that she was drinking at a bar and showed you her very high quality fake id saying she was over 21 before you slept with her and that you would never in a million years have slept with her had you known she was only 16.[–]mymonochromelife 43 points44 points45 points 1 year ago (0 children)i'm so sorry that happened. gold[–]throwawaychicken123[s] 54 points55 points56 points 1 year ago (49 children)my mom got really mad when she found out i was talking to a junior guy, so i dont even wanna know what she'd do. gold[–]apocalypticpotato 222 points223 points224 points 1 year ago (21 children)you asked the internet for its opinion and you got it with extreme consensus. the kid can be provided with every shred of information about, and access to, contraception and disease prevention, instructed on the correct use of condoms, told ‘a condom on every penis every time, no excuses! never ever have i ever had to worry about sex offender registries, teen pregnancies, stds, or the weird love triangles you see on tv. when you're out of school and getting on with your adult life, seven years isn't going to be that different anymore. goldload more comments (1 reply)load more comments (1 reply)load more comments (39 replies)load more comments (6 replies)[–][deleted] 22 points23 points24 points 1 year ago (0 children)no bueno, op. gold[–]all hail notorious rbgthe-friendzoner 406 points407 points408 points 1 year ago (20 children)sooo. but he said he like me more, which was really flatterning at the moment since god knows he could be with beautiful 20 yr old women. am not writing all this to say that it is never the case that older men prey on younger women, or that younger women never oversexualize themselves to grab onto an older guy, just that sometimes the relationship is actually quite honest and caring and loving and healthy, despite the age gap. memberposts: 3201joined: 25 aug 2010i will add my echo to the chamber and say that as long as they are 16 or older and the person they are dating is not in a position of power over them or using coercion then all is well. looking back thru the mists of time to my senior year, i cannot think of a single guy in my class who had a semi-permanent relationship with a girl classmate. gold[–]ohhzee 78 points79 points80 points 1 year ago (1 child)/r/theykindadidthemath. think age is irrelevant in relationships any way, it's about how you feel for the other person, not how much older(or younger) they are than you. goldload more comments (1 reply)load more comments (3 replies)[–]mykidisonhere 170 points171 points172 points 1 year ago (11 children)and it makes them less likely to tell afterwards because they won't want to get in trouble for using illegal substances or they might even think it's their fault for being under the influence. when he talks about his senior year trip to florida- can you relate? and i never told her my age–she assumed i was older based on my looks, my demeanor, and the fact that i was a soldier. gold[–]kitsbeach 49 points50 points51 points 1 year ago (2 children)"this shit is expensive! these are really your formative years in terms of sexual, emotional, and intellectual development.!Well time progressed, when i was 16 he was 25 and saved my life.

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Is a 19 year old dating a 16 weird

more comments (4 replies)[–]dearinternetdiary 107 points108 points109 points 1 year ago (7 children)yes it does make it worse. gold[–][deleted] 72 points73 points74 points 1 year ago (2 children)you had the maturity that everyone here is talking about. for example, a 20 year old could date a 17 year old, but that's kind of weird due to age gap/maturity issues or say a 26 year old can date an 18 year old but again, it's kinda weird socially. goldload more comments (40 replies)load more comments (23 replies)[–]proudpeopleofrobonia 17 points18 points19 points 1 year ago* (1 child)adult man here. i sent her a message and asked if she wanted to hang out, i was 22 she was 19, much more acceptable and it worked out great. i wasn’t a gold digger, and i didn’t want bragging rights. gold[–]nichtmagisch 5 points6 points7 points 1 year ago (0 children)20 year old guy here. he's probably thinking that he could manipulate you to do what he wants, plus get away with being super bad at sex, assuming that you're not old enough to know what you want or mature enough to have opinions. gold[–]probablygotdrunk 137 points138 points139 points 1 year ago (11 children)i went through puberty at age 9. goldload more comments (9 replies)load more comments (8 replies)load more comments (43 replies)[–][deleted] 135 points136 points137 points 1 year ago (20 children)my fiance is 35, im 28, even at this age its a little strange. gold[–]undercitylights 27 points28 points29 points 1 year ago (2 children)there's a big difference between a junior who is a year or two older versus a 23 year old who has been out of high school for quite some time. if we had waited a few years before getting into it, it's possible that things would've worked out. i had no sense of self or boundaries because i had been molested by a close family friend several years earlier and no action was taken - there was no accountability. no magic wealth of knowledge enters your brain on your 16th birthday to suddenly make you able to make good decisions. goldload more comments (2 replies)load more comments (4 replies)[–]throwaway29402487 30 points31 points32 points 1 year ago (1 child)fuck this guy. gold[–]darthkaine 29 points30 points31 points 1 year ago (0 children)you never know. many states have misd stat rape for less than 3 year difference – referred to as romeo and juliet laws. daughter has been attending community college classes since she was 15 and has been socializing as a high schooler with many teens in the 18-20 year range. goldload more comments (4 replies)[–]katiemp3 417 points418 points419 points 1 year ago (66 children)or someone else you trust who is able to do something about it (teacher, police officer, aunt/uncle/grandparent, etc.[–]konnichinya 34 points35 points36 points 1 year ago (10 children)i graduated hs with a girl that i often wonder whether or not she actually hit puberty. would be akin to op being romantically interested in a 9-yr old. don't do it, i was older when i met a guy alone and he tried kissing me and feeling me up in his car, it very easily could have been much worse. goldload more comments (1 reply)[–]zephusa 36 points37 points38 points 1 year ago (0 children)sounds like grooming. gold[–]ponku 10 points11 points12 points 1 year ago (0 children)great comment. gold[–]skullsnkisses 34 points35 points36 points 1 year ago (0 children)as a girl who repeatedly fell for this crap - run. many of those same peers were no better suited emotionally to make that decision at 16. haven’t seen any state where the 19 year old with the 17 year old will go to jail — but again, i only did a quick review. maybe he has difficulty forming connections with people, so he goes for young girls because they are too inexperienced to tell that he is faking his love, or because he can tell them tired cliches that actually work on them because they haven't heard them yet (whereas an older girl will have heard them many times and will roll her eyes, maybe he doesn't have enough of a personality to carry the courting past the cliches). more comments (79 replies)load more comments (7 replies)[–]apocalypticpotato 1911 points1912 points1913 points 1 year ago (509 children)it is extremely weird tell your parents immediately. so 16 year olds basically are the starting point, matching with 16 year olds. best friend from hs was dating a freshman boy when we were seniors. goldload more comments (1 reply)[–]throwaway29402487 176 points177 points178 points 1 year ago (9 children)okay, i'm going to give you a different perspective, considering i've been the guy in a similar situation. not because 15 year olds are terrible or anything but because at 15 and 21 or 23 we are at very different points in our life. most normal people want to meet the family of the person they are dating. two boys will be 18 their whole senior year of high school. sourceposts: 5joined: 25 dec 2016does 19 and 17 fall into category as say 20-23 dating a 17 year old?

Is it weird/creepy for a 19 year to date a 17 year old?

Is a 19 year old dating a 15

he is daily making my sister’s life hell and ruining their children, the first of which she had when she was 16. goldload more comments (5 replies)[–]mokitty 247 points248 points249 points 1 year ago (6 children)the reason he "likes" you more/is making advances toward you is that he knows you are young, you are inexperienced, and more easily manipulated than girls his own age, and he is trying to take advantage of you. gold[–]snugglepea 26 points27 points28 points 1 year ago (0 children)as someone who was creeped on by an older man when i was the exact same age, a thousand times yes. i am married to the man i had sex with all those years ago, and on the 30th, we’ll be celebrating our 10th wedding anniversary, and 16 years of being together. gold[–]underarmfielder 78 points79 points80 points 1 year ago (46 children)at 15 she could still going through puberty. so if my 16 year old has sex with her overage boyfriend in georgia, no crime. what is he getting out of the risk of dating someone so much younger? do you think their families told them that it was ok to be married but not have sex? read this site and practice (or plan to practice, when my daughter is older) many tenets of free-range parenting in part because i think parental attention and worry is misplaced. how about talking about your job and how it isn't as productive or impactful as you wish it to be despite 4 years of training in college?[–]bumpkerr 103 points104 points105 points 1 year ago (2 children)i'm sorry, i haven't checked to see if anyone else talked about this - but your being 15 makes you really controllable to an older guy. gold[–]poxymusic 6 points7 points8 points 1 year ago (0 children)i just wanted to say that i've got a daughter just about your age, and i'm really glad you're smart enough to realize something is amiss, and to reach out.’ll have to keep this editorial until my son is old enough to date. it's for a very good reason that you won't come to truly understand until many years down the road. you don't need to tell your parents all the in's and outs and as someone old enough to be your mother i would be respecting the ever loving crap out of you for talking to me about it. gold[–]artistskater 150 points151 points152 points 1 year ago (22 children)i could see thinking a younger girl was cute, but why? it weird/creepy for a 19 year to date a 17 year old? for boys, the same process starts a couple of years later. and in practice, the image of the middle-aged sexual predator seeking to corrupt the virtue of 16-year-old (sic! goldload more comments (37 replies)[–]thesuperfamilybiz 28 points29 points30 points 1 year ago (1 child)if he was really a good guy, he would respect your discomfort about the age gap and he would stop trying to pursue you romantically. a trusted person doesn't always gave to be your parent who frankly can often be assholes re teenage dating or the slightest hint of sexuality. even if he is safe a relationship in which one person is 50% older than the other would never work. the problem with laws is they have to be general so you get weird little secific cases. gold[–][deleted] 9 points10 points11 points 1 year ago (0 children)yeah he probably will always want a 16 year old. gold[–]shut_your_pie_hole 37 points38 points39 points 1 year ago (3 children)you just need to have the foundation. goldload more comments (6 replies)[–]metaphoricalsimile 429 points430 points431 points 1 year ago (21 children)that should be a huge warning sign. but there are plenty of 20 year olds having sex with 17 year olds who do not end up on a sex offenders list. is fun and it's awesome, but a 23-year-old wanting to bang a 15-year old. more comments (8 replies)[–]lailababy66 130 points131 points132 points 1 year ago (3 children)i do not mean to insult you, but if he gets nowhere with you, he will tell the next girl the exact, same lines. goes off on his 19-year-old son for dating 15 year old girl! this same girl decided to have sex with a 16 yo boy she is the “innocent victim” of this evil sex offenders desires and the boy is placed on the fast track to the registry. gold[–]paladinofscience 384 points385 points386 points 1 year ago (9 children)let me put it like this, if he's dumb enough not to realize how inappropriate this is, he is not mature enough for you. the other hand, it is very difficult to tell some 16 year olds from 20 year olds. · 12 comments i want a hysterectomy and i keep being told no. gold[–]ahayd 15 points16 points17 points 1 year ago (3 children)tell people at work. more comments (2 replies)[–]dinorama 55 points56 points57 points 1 year ago (0 children)when i was 16, one of my coworkers was 32 and i fell for him. The best 100 percent free dating sites and Free dating sites in tyler tx

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you think if he was 7 years younger than you (ie: 8 years old)and could hold up an intelligent conversation, that you would think him mature enough to date? in those states, then, at 14 and 15, they are old enough to work, but are the ultimate jail bait. i was just 17 i started dating a guy who was 26. Win: Dad Goes Off On His 19-Year-Old Son For Dating Soon To Be 16-Year-Old Girl! you may think that it's incredible that an attractive older man is interested in you and the truth is, it is!:if its illegal where you live best not bang for a year otherwise the lad could end up in jail but morally theres no problem to me. not knocking blind dates for others but i could never get the hang of dating someone i didn't know before the date as a friend. i always thought it was creepy when i became legal at 18 when older men above typical college age (18-23) approached me. gold[–]undercitylights 11 points12 points13 points 1 year ago (0 children)more directed at op and younger/unsure girls in general but always listen to your gut and walk away when you have a weird feeling about going somewhere with or doing something for someone who has sexual/romantic intentions. gold[–]borgimplants 551 points552 points553 points 1 year ago (55 children)it's not very likely, it's very definitely criminal behavior. said – even if my kids were mature enough to handled a sexual realtionship when they are in their teenage years, i will not be supportive of it for other (moral and religous) reasons. gold[–]lailababy66 108 points109 points110 points 1 year ago (1 child)you will try to analyze every word he says, in every tone he uses. gold[–]gravitationalarray 7 points8 points9 points 1 year ago (0 children)you are not stupid; you are 15, and inexperienced. of my long-time friends started dating her future-husband (wedding is in january 2011) when she was 16 and he was 21. lack of consent could be shown by the age of the victim, mental ability, aggressor’s position of power over the victim (student/teacher; boss/subordinate) and other things that would fully encompass the possible power differential between the older party and the younger party but would exclude those cases where the younger party was 100% consenting. obviously if i told my mom she would flip and say he's a creep or a pedo, but do you think it's possible he actually likes me? but when you're (old enough, legally) if he's still interested, eh, find someone who isn't in the habit of preying on children. goldload more comments (1 reply)[–]secthian 265 points266 points267 points 1 year ago (10 children)your mother would only be mad at you because she's concerned for your wellbeing and safety. memberposts: 24657joined: 16 jan 2010crazydiamond:i just want to say just because it is legal, doesn't make something morally right. gold[–]cane_skretteburg 9 points10 points11 points 1 year ago (0 children)oh look! you don't want this weighing on your conscious years down the road if it turns out that he is a pedo and harms someone; you'll find yourself asking the "what if" questions. so to enter into a relationship with a 15 year old, an adult would have to consider that he might be messing you up for life, and consider that an acceptable risk. he was 2 years older it would be one thing, but 7 at your age is exponential. gold[–]major_space 6 points7 points8 points 1 year ago (1 child)congrats that's wonderful for you two i think the thing that sets him and i apart from op's man is that we were aware enough to say that it might be the right person, just the wrong time and place in our lives, we respected them as an individual and thought highly of them. goldload more comments (13 replies)load more comments (5 replies)load more comments (2 replies)load more comments (3 replies)[–]weirdonerdfreak 283 points284 points285 points 1 year ago (10 children)girl, he realizes it's inappropriate. mom knows a boy who is in this exact situation, he is 19 but still in high school and was dating a girl a couple of years younger, with her parents permission. goldload more comments (9 replies)[–]thetemporalvoid 82 points83 points84 points 1 year ago (0 children)he knows it's inappropriate. quickly reviewing most state laws on this subject, 16 is the age of consent in the majority of states..Permalinkembedsavegive gold[–][deleted] 16 points17 points18 points 1 year ago (0 children)jail is just a new small apartment with a roommate! i think most would agree that someone in their 20’s having sexual relations with a 12 year old is criminal, but where is that line where it becomes just two young people exploring love? issue is not whether in the abstract a 16 year old can consent or whose fault it is if the sex occurs – the issue is why the is the state involved in a teenager’s love life? he expressed he liked me and once i told him how old i was he said he was sorry. goldload more comments (1 reply)[–]chellbelle3 25 points26 points27 points 1 year ago (0 children)think about what you just typed, that he could be with someone his own age. never had an interest in older men, i only dated teenagers my own age or a grade above. how would that make you feel, to be in something that potentially has years of jail as a consequence if you only did what everyone does in a relationship - talk about it? do you think about a 16 year old dating an 18 year old?

Dad Goes Off On His 19-Year-Old Son For Dating 15 Year Old Girl

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this obviously predates the seemingly infinite prolonging of childhood that has occurred since, and 16 year olds were considered pretty much grown up. gold[–]idiotsonfire 36 points37 points38 points 1 year ago (0 children)she gets angry because she cares about you. gold[–]elysianblight 66 points67 points68 points 1 year ago (2 children)little rant: this is one aspect where i feel like the media needs to be more cautious . i am much less worried about the near-mythical stranger kidnapper and much more worried about the much more common over-friendly uncles and creepy older boys who hang around with much younger girls because they can´t get the attentions of anyone their own age. goldload more comments (86 replies)[–]josh_ness 681 points682 points683 points 1 year ago (54 children). he might be stuck in that "15 year old mindset", or is desperate for intimacy, or (even worse) has bad intentions. goldload more comments (3 replies)load more comments (6 replies)load more comments (14 replies)load more comments (8 replies)load more comments (8 replies)load more comments (103 replies)[–]moonyenoom 90 points91 points92 points 1 year ago (0 children)agreed. a boy and a girl a few years apart who have sex just doesn’t sound like a sex crime to me. had sex with my boyfriend, two years older than me, at 16. predators seek out the very old, the very young, the sick, and the weak.(and to clarify, i am not talking about rape-plus-statutory-rape, or grown men having sex with teens, but that gray area in which two older adolescents, of oh, fifteen to twenty-five, commit a crime. i have a sexual relationship with my boyfriend of two and a half years, who is nine months younger than me and therefore, 17. social policy, 2017: five years after girls’ severe sunburn, washington considers bill to let students use sunscreen without doctor’s note. years is not a huge age difference when you're older but there is a huge difference between 15 and 23. gold[–]throwawaychicken123[s] 764 points765 points766 points 1 year ago* (136 children)i just remembered he did ask me several times to hang out with him, like to sneak out of the house and chill in his car. it’s nothing to do with girls wanting to gold dig… hell, they’ve got studies showing the natural tendencies across human history in all areas of the world for a girl to be with an older guy! i was wondering, does 19 and 17 fall into the weird socially dating despite being legal like those two examples? the sad fact is that, though women are still held up as innocent and pure, they can be just as, if not more, malicious and manipulative than any “older man”.'m a ★posts: 941joined: 22 oct 2011people who find it creepy/weird are weirder than this :^). goldload more comments (3 replies)[–]the_munchkin 20 points21 points22 points 1 year ago (1 child)you have an obligation to tell other people. biologically speaking if one is past puberty, then they should have access to the skills and support to be a stable family without threats of withholding traditional emotional/financial support from family and society.'m 15, is it weird for a 23 year old guy to be "romantically interested" in me? forget how long they’d been dating, forget that she was absolutely capable of consent with a boy that age. i never invited it, and i never wanted an older man. goldload more comments (1 reply)[–]sarah-goldfarb 82 points83 points84 points 1 year ago (5 children). the problem with laws is they have to be general so you get weird little specific cases. gold[–]getoffworkat5 27 points28 points29 points 1 year ago (0 children)i had a similar experience when i was your age. aside, given how much your brain is still developing, it's really better that you wait until you're older to smoke. goldload more comments (2 replies)load more comments (10 replies)[–]updown-whocares 6 points7 points8 points 1 year ago (0 children)yes, it's very weird. anyway, when you are 23 it will be clear how weird and unattractive a 23 year old guy who wants 15 year old girls is. she’s dating a 19 year-old, and she started asking me stuff like, “is it ok for us to go on dates, if we have a note from my mom? most states, there must be an age difference of 3 or 4 years before sex between teens is considered statutory rape. sourceposts: 5joined: 25 dec 2016what if they knew each other before?!My limit is 25 - well younger than that but one guy i went out with lied and told me he was 19 when really he was 22 :/..Permalinkembedsaveparentgive gold[–]answer_the_call 286 points287 points288 points 1 year ago (0 children)a friend of mine was raped by a man she thought was her friend at 15. i have only visited your country once, but as soon as our six month old son is a little older we will surely be back.

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19 year old guy dating a 16 year old

’s just sad that now my “sex talk” will have to include, “and if you have sex with someone older/younger than you, even if you love that person and they love you, they *could* go to jail. goldload more comments (5 replies)load more comments (1577 replies)use of this site constitutes acceptance of our user agreement and privacy policy. goldload more comments (1 reply)[–]canadianrangeofficer 59 points60 points61 points 1 year ago (0 children)yes. considering that they’ve been married for what, nineteen years now, it obviously wasn’t an immature decision, but it’s a bit scary to think that under current law, a similar situation could be prosecuted without the will of either party! gold[–]throwawaychicken123[s] 373 points374 points375 points 1 year ago (432 children)if i told my mom i would probably be grounded for the rest of my life. gold[–]helloniick 41 points42 points43 points 1 year ago (0 children)it doesn't matter if he gave off rapey vibes. sickly, imprisoned hillbillies, with guns, preoccupied with nothing but their old family feuds. you might not know now but you will in 10 years. gold[–]deathwarmdover 38 points39 points40 points 1 year ago (7 children)not to make your main point invalid, because it's not, but how does cervical cancer tie into all of that? we dated for 2 years and have now been married for 2 years. of girls: teach your daughter that the 18 year-old boy (when she is 15) that she just loves soooo much (dripping with sarcasm) will serve jail time, so she needs to stop seeing him.’s a 14 year range in which a person may or may not be considered an “adult,” or at least old enough to be “trusted” by society with certain responsibilities. gold[–]ben275 49 points50 points51 points 1 year ago (1 child)this has made me feel older than any old joke could. gold[–]littlebitodd 11 points12 points13 points 1 year ago (0 children)not only that, but the guy can write off any inappropriate physical advances on being intoxicated. the idea of my daughter being labeled as a golddigging whore if she likes older guys is very upsetting to me. for instance a 50 year old could date anyone over 32 and a 23 year old would be cut off at 18. goldload more comments (54 replies)[–]pippafert 975 points976 points977 points 1 year ago (157 children)don't do it. more comments (3 replies)[–]japanwall 5 points6 points7 points 1 year ago (0 children)yes. gold[–]throwawaychicken123[s] 447 points448 points449 points 1 year ago (149 children)he's pretty attractive though. was introduced to prevent abuse, not to stop highschoolers from dating. the “formula” used by my friends in high school and college for whether or not something was “creepy”:O = older person’s age. sister was a 15 year old runaway who had sex with a 28 year old man. if it did, we would let 16 year-olds vote, reside on their own, join the military, drive (some states yes, some states no), drink and the plethora of other things we don’t let 16 year olds do. even when i told him he could get in really big trouble he said it was "worth it". of consent is 16, but if you're 15/16/17, you can legally get away with having sex with another 15/16/17 year old. say in any other state but the one you live in, your sexual relationship would be statutory rape- a relationship between an 18 or 19 yo and a 17 yo.@clio – in many states, there must be more than a 3 year difference for felony stat rape. gold[–]ben275 78 points79 points80 points 1 year ago (19 children)reasonable car insurance and the ability to rent a car > legally drinking. i was 17 he introduced me to this crazy concept of having an open relationship with his wife of 10years. i'm not trying to freak you out, but it's really not normal for a 23 year old guy to want to smoke out a 15 year old girl. gold[–]machiaveili 67 points68 points69 points 1 year ago (0 children)both likely.)submitted 1 year ago * by throwawaychicken123hi, basically what the title says. goldload more comments (1 reply)[–]ryvan 38 points39 points40 points 1 year ago (4 children)as a side note a good way to tell if the age difference is creepy is to use the "half your age plus 7" rule. was very hard for me, at your age, to accept that older men like him were lying straight through their teeth to get what they wanted. gold[–]tikka_tokka 6 points7 points8 points 1 year ago* (1 child)hpv, an std, causes 70% of cervical cancer cases. gold[–]nsa_chatbot 4 points5 points6 points 1 year ago (0 children)i'm a dude and caught this on the front page.

I'm 15, is it weird for a 23 year old guy to be "romantically interested

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i turn 19 next august, which means that i’ll be 19 as a senior in high school. on second thought, i'd get the guy to stay away, but as an older guy i have more options than you do. gold[–]sarah-goldfarb 18 points19 points20 points 1 year ago (0 children)good point. one who couldn't go to pg13 movies with you (you can't go to bars with this guy), whose friends were all 12, who did 12 year old things, and was intelligent whenever you spoke to him? if a guy a year younger than me ever hit on her i would crack his fucking skull open. this isn’t about rape, and it isn’t about 25-year-olds seducing 12-year-olds. we met when i was 15 and he was 26 at the time, he didn't know i was so much younger because i look older than what i am, he thought i was 20. gold[–]thromnomnomok 85 points86 points87 points 1 year ago (35 children)isn't it 18-33 and 14-17? work in the criminal justice field and 18 yr olds being prosecuted for sex with their 15 year old girlfriends happens all the time. have a 30 year-old friend who “just didn’t want to die a virgin,” so she slept with a buddy and got pregnant. guess what, a parent allowing a 15 or younger child to date an individual 18 or older will be found, in the courts i’m familiar with, to have neglected their child and the child will likely be removed from their care — not to mention what will happen to the 18 year old.“in their 20’s having sexual relations with a 12 year old is criminal, but where is that line where it becomes just two young people exploring love? goldload more comments (2 replies)[–]boredgamelad 2277 points2278 points2279 points 1 year ago* (90 children)anybody who describes sleeping with a minor as "worth it" or says "age is just a number" to a 15 year old realizes exactly what they're doing. can get your driver’s permit from as young as 15 (exact age varies by state), and your license at 16. my older sister and i had relationships with older males when we were underage, but with very different circumstances. goldload more comments (3 replies)load more comments (37 replies)load more comments (9 replies)load more comments (33 replies)[+][deleted] 1 year ago (4 children)[deleted]. i was 17, a 26 year-old pursued me, and enticed me into having sexual relations. gold[–]luckylizard 16 points17 points18 points 1 year ago (0 children)he's telling you these things because he's trying to manipulate you. goldload more comments (8 replies)[–]mayhemmm 25 points26 points27 points 1 year ago (3 children)"age is just a number". when i was a teenager, older men often hit on me. most state statutory rape laws *also* require at least a three year age spread between the two people involved. goldload more comments (1 reply)[–]ajaxeler 97 points98 points99 points 1 year ago* (0 children)i had a similar situation with a guy at work when i was 15. during the busy time of resettling in a big old farm house, we forgot to refill his prescription. i don’t think georgia girls are more mature such that they can consent to sex 2 years earlier than kids in new york. that being said, some 15 year olds are intelligent and mature enough to carry on stimulating conversations and have meaningful relationships with for a 23 year old. at age 16, many states then have a minimum age for the offender to be. do think taking the age difference (in years) into account between a minor and an adult is one of the crucial factors. he can't not be a pedo and a predator as a 23 year old trying to get with a 15 year old. then if you are lucky enough to get out of prison alive and not warped by years of being around hardened criminals, you now get to register as a sex offender. yes, girls should know how to say no – and as a girl i remember having many older guys want to get with me yet i was a kid who was not afraid to say no and get lost… thank goodness – my daughter (one of the two children i had with my sex offending husband of 10 years) will know how to do the same. goldload more comments (19 replies)[–]reasonedbam 22 points23 points24 points 1 year ago (20 children)i believe in you. refuse to be like my father and so many people in america who believe that not talking about it is fine, threatening is fine, sex is unnatural outside of wedlock and before 18, and that you’re either a whore/golddigger – sex offender/pedophile if you have sex with a guy who happens to have turned legal age before you did. gold[–][deleted] 28 points29 points30 points 1 year ago (1 child)i'm 28 and still make "that's what she said" jokes. would like to note that many people keep using an 18 year olds having sex with a 17 year old or a 16 year old with a 15 year olds as examples of statutory rape. had a boyfriend from 14-20 — the same one — who was 5 years older than me. goldload more comments (2 replies)[–]rvolving529_ 19 points20 points21 points 1 year ago (0 children)as a 23 year old guy, let me say, this is super weird.

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gold[–]nattylight_murica 15 points16 points17 points 1 year ago (0 children)he's manipulating you. (and, more to the point, that my husband isn’t: he’s 5 years older than me. when 15-year-olds have sex they are just opening the door to a lot of feelings and that they are not ready for. gold[–]boredgamelad 104 points105 points106 points 1 year ago (3 children)i admit my own ignorance on the topic from an international perspective; i could only state with certainty that this is definitely illegal in my own country, so i didn't want to give false information. obviously you are much further in life than a 10-year-old, but that's the difference in perspective we're talking about here. the true crime here is that had this young man been convicted of murder, he would have passed the same seven-year background check and nothing further would ever have been said. takes two, one a young lady seeking an older guy or someone in power (either a gold digger or for bragging rights) and a guy to give into the advances. i really only saw him as a cool, older friend who could buy us beers. it's not a question of: "is he being super weird, or does he actually like me? now, will i look to prosecute a man who is talking to my 15-year-old daughter and he’s 10 years older than her? goldload more comments (1 reply)load more comments (9 replies)load more comments (7 replies)load more comments (11 replies)[–]bleatmop 57 points58 points59 points 1 year ago (18 children)my wife has the same birthday as me. takes two, one a young lady seeking an older guy or someone in power (either a gold digger or for bragging rights) and a guy to give into the advances. goldload more comments (20 replies)load more comments (8 replies)[–]sibeliushelp 23 points24 points25 points 1 year ago (0 children)he is consciously grooming you. if the girl is younger, its sometimes also seen as good to date older guys because of mental maturity difference, though that does greatly depend on the people you're talking about. more comments (1 reply)load more comments (11 replies)[–]littlewoolie 286 points287 points288 points 1 year ago (10 children)yes. goldload more comments (4 replies)load more comments (3 replies)load more comments (4 replies)[–]questdragon47 77 points78 points79 points 1 year ago (1 child)so i used to hang out with this guy all the time. to some extent, i don’t mind this sort of progressive advancement, but one of the things i find massively contradictory is that a 14 year old is mature enough in the eyes of the government to have a taxable job outside the home (and can even work full time during the summer), making them a tax-paying member of society, yet from 14 until the day they turn 18, they’re considered not competent enough to make an informed decision about who they have consensual sex with. if a couple of kids are dating in high school in an 18-age state, even if they’ve been dating since 14 and 16, the moment that boy turns 18, he’s a criminal, because now he’s an adult dating a child. it works on mobileposts: 1118joined: 3 apr 2013deimosmasque:hope not since my fiancee was 17 and i was 23 when we started dating. is he being super weird, or does he actually like me? it’s good to discourage 18 year olds from having sexual relations with 16 year olds. an example is the big mess that happened a few years ago when a politician didn’t resist an intern. and i do maintain that a seventeen-year-old girl is able to consent to sex. 'i remember this song from the junior prom' 'i remember this song from an ecstasy binge my sophomore year of college'. goldload more comments (4 replies)[–]juice_box_jones 108 points109 points110 points 1 year ago (2 children)it's creepy. goldload more comments (1 reply)[–]eversist 4 points5 points6 points 1 year ago (0 children)i think the connection between the std hpv and cervical cancer, and that op might not be vaccinated yet? gold[–]petit_cochon 5 points6 points7 points 1 year ago (0 children)romeo & juliet was a looooong time ago, and that show is not fucking shakespeare. gold[–]newnavyspouse 52 points53 points54 points 1 year ago* (5 children)good call. sometimes a 19 year old high school senior has a 17 year old girlfriend/boyfriend, and sometimes they make a decision that they are not mentally or emotionally capable of handling. at 15 you shouldn't be full of wisdom and life experience--that comes with, you guessed it, a few more years of life! gold[–]dreadfullypeculiar 48 points49 points50 points 1 year ago (1 child)i've read that the earlier you become sexually active you run a higher risk of contracting cervical cancer. now he's older than you and because of that he has leverage against you, power over you. 20-30 years, the rest of the world will (rightly) look at the whole us the way we currently look at the country folk who live their whole lives in appalachia. they would think "wow, that girl is really awesome, but i should wait a few years before trying anything, because i don't want to go to prison and ruin my life. gold[–]leelluu 1940 points1941 points1942 points 1 year ago (11 children)you're not dumb. just like 18 year oldswho are not in school full-time have to be ‘an adult’ and get it themselves.


19 People Who Actually Married Their High School Sweethearts

we started dating long distance when i was 16 and he was 19. gold[–]jrj84105 79 points80 points81 points 1 year ago (0 children)this is your answer right here. to me this seems to be a very reasonable cut off age for a 23 year old. you compete with those girls in terms of what they have learned over 21-23 years? goldload more comments (3 replies)load more comments (1 reply)[–]beanoftw 37 points38 points39 points 1 year ago (4 children)the fact that he's 23 and you're 15, and the fact that he's initiating this level of a conversation to you, is very disturbing. the significance of each year decreases by multiplying by some factor each year, rather than adding some factor. my husband’s forebears there are also many examples of young women of 16ish marrying men in their mid to late 20s. gold[–]blueballgroup 24 points25 points26 points 1 year ago (0 children)quite honestly, he may already have another girl. and there are lots of 23 year old women who are beautiful and amazing and mature. my brother started dating the woman who is now his wife when she was 16 and he was 23. seems likely to me that this guy sends of alarm signals that you would pick up on in a few years (unfortunately, when you have a little more time and experience with creepy dudes). gold[–]content404 573 points574 points575 points 1 year ago (115 children)standard creepiness rule: don't date under (age/2) + 7. he turned stalkerish, and he went from being super sweet and innocent to super creepy and he told me the truth about all his lies. gold[–]impediment 4 points5 points6 points 1 year ago (2 children)i started smoking heavily when i was 15. goldload more comments (1 reply)[–]avoidingmaths 9 points10 points11 points 1 year ago (0 children)yeah gal. we generally take the next day and celebrate it for the other person and alternate each year so its ok., one of my brothers unknowingly broke the statutory laws, something his wife discoverred years later when she got a new copy of her birth certificate and found out her parents had forged an earlier year on the copy they’d had to get her into kindergarten earlier. goldload more comments (10 replies)[–]wifichick[🍰] 179 points180 points181 points 1 year ago (18 children)i was 16, he was 24. if i told my mom she would flip and say he's a creep or a pedo. goldload more comments (2 replies)[–]veggietrooper 45 points46 points47 points 1 year ago (0 children)he definitely knows it's inappropriate. because you're not interested in being 12 years old anymore; you're living your 15 year old life. gold[–]only_yost_you_know 158 points159 points160 points 1 year ago (19 children)because younger girls are easier targets. goldload more comments (3 replies)[–]cock_murder 272 points273 points274 points 1 year ago (41 children)uh, it's the leadup to a crime, it constitutes preparatory steps, but it is not a criminal act in and of itself unless he has solicited her for pictures, dirty messages, etc. goldload more comments (1 reply)[–]chopsnz 407 points408 points409 points 1 year ago (60 children)'hanging out' and 'chilling in his car' are sex. i've seen her a few times in the last few years and she looks completely different. goldload more comments (9 replies)[–]princessawesomepants 590 points591 points592 points 1 year ago (2 children)trust me, he knows it's inappropriate. again my dad was 23 when he started dating my 17 year old mum so that may be why it's not a huge deal to me. but these cases, the ones that the letter writer is referring to, are those cases in which a young man, maybe even 20 with a 17 year old girlfriend, becomes a criminal simply for having a 17 year old girlfriend. which is what i found to be kind of weird, because he could be with a lot of women around his age if he wanted to. gold[–]cookiebootz 18 points19 points20 points 1 year ago (0 children)you have nothing to feel stupid about. that’s why if she has sex with another seventeen-year-old, it’s not rape. 3 years later she and i wound up at the same state school. gold[–]ynocfyinco 1332 points1333 points1334 points 1 year ago (16 children)if only all rapists gave off rapey vibes. we have been together since 1991, have two kids and the whole nine yards. we ended up dating for two years, and up until my husband was by far the healthiest relationship i managed to get into for a long time after that. for example, a 20 year old could date a 17 year old, but that's kind of weird due to age gap/maturity issues or say a 26 year old can date an 18 year old but again, it's kinda weird socially. Middle school dating advice for parents, year old men want to do things (most) 16 year old girls don't/shouldn't/won't. when a 17 year old boy who has consentual sex with his 15 years old girlfriend is not a criminal, and he is not a rapist. boys and girls grow up all the time to end up dating in adult life in smaller towns, i can think of at least three couples back in my hometown who have that story. she had written a letter to young women, then she would have talked about the dangers of older men, and probably wouldn’t’ve accused them of being temptresses or whatever. gold[–]ben275 133 points134 points135 points 1 year ago (0 children)i like your style. she is a mature, passionate woman trapped in a sixteen year olds body. we had a highly publicized case of a 16-year-old high school student having sex with her 30-year-old teacher. but this is america, and we are talking about 17 year old girls with 19 year old guys.(in another case mentioned, a 15-year old girl is being charged, having circulated photos of herself wearing a training bra when she was 12.’ve seen firsthand some young women trying to see if they can attract an older guy. gold[–]throwawaychicken123[s] 177 points178 points179 points 1 year ago (58 children)we were supposed to smoke together (smoke weed). 23, i remember feeling weird dating 19-year olds, this guy knows exactly what he's doing. i don’t believe i changed that much between 17 and 19. gold[–]apocalypticpotato 47 points48 points49 points 1 year ago (59 children)i doubt you would be grounded at all if you told your parents even if you were there are worse things than being grounded. people who don’t recognize the difference between child-abuse and a 16 year old having sex with an 18 year old, and the politicians who want their votes. but just a couple of years earlier, our relationship would have been a crime.) “children” is almost non-existent, nor is it used as an excuse to make sexual relations between kids above the age of consent (which is 14 to 16 in almost all of europe! might say it's weird in that it's somewhat unusual, but if everyone is a consenting adult, and there's not manipulation or coercion or anything to invalidate that consent, it's not my business. goldload more comments (11 replies)load more comments (2 replies)load more comments (28 replies)[–]mistasmiles 121 points122 points123 points 1 year ago (55 children)meh, there's a difference between pre/post pubescent. gold[–]disenculture 27 points28 points29 points 1 year ago (5 children)let me put it this way:Is it normal for an older male to be "interested" in you, given that you are in your sexual development stage, even if he is 8 years older than you? if they had the same attitudes 5 years earlier, for a guy to give in would be a criminal matter. i was a very mature 16 year old, but also very damaged. the girl was 16, and it was legal in my country, but the age difference was identical. husband of almost 15 years and i started dating when i was 19 and he was 30. some people might feel weird about it being someone who's in uni dating someone who's in highschool, but since they're just into uni it can instead come off as kind of cool to have someone independent with their license to run around and take you places and all that sort of stuff. i’m very thankful my parents were willing to get to know the person and not just react to his age, because i would have missed out on something really good if they had just said no, he’s too old. the states that have a 14 year age of consent recognize this a bit. goldload more comments (10 replies)[–][deleted] 46 points47 points48 points 1 year ago (0 children)i feel like i'm reading a post from my little sister in the past. lot of teenage girls — maybe most of them — would rather date older boys than boys their own age, but not necessarily for the reasons adduced. now, if there’d been some creepy 25 year old… yeah, okay. gold[–]owenleejoeking 7 points8 points9 points 1 year ago (0 children)just remember that you are far more important than he is. goldload more comments (1 reply)[–]2quik4u2 32 points33 points34 points 1 year ago (1 child)i remember being a 21 year and being hit on by a 15 yr old girl. this 23 year old guy just wants to get something he doesn't deserve, and he picked op because he hopes she doesn't know any better. so a seven year difference when you're in high school puts the guy in or past college; very different life stage. goldload more comments (1 reply)load more comments (2 replies)[–]allyourcritbotthings 424 points425 points426 points 1 year ago (26 children). · 738 comments republican senator gets owned by 16-year-old for gutting planned parenthood184 · 17 comments ohio state rep compares planned parenthood to nazis, then deletes her facebook pagethis is an archived post. 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gold[–]seanbc 7 points8 points9 points 1 year ago (0 children)"age is just a number.) legally, a 17 year old is not an adult in the us–not when the 17 y/o wants to make their own decisions about sex, alcohol, education, employment, living arrangements, etc. i read about a case in which two 17 year old were having sex, but could not be prosecuted because they were both underage. gold[–]don't panichms_pathicus 64 points65 points66 points 1 year ago (1 child)well, fifty shades portrays an abusive relationship. goldload more comments (20 replies)load more comments (1 reply)[–]hokeydokey8234234 37 points38 points39 points 1 year ago (0 children)you're not stupid, you're just young. it may even be that her mother thinks it is kind of cute that her young daughter can attract an older boy. liked this girl, thought she was gorgeous, but i was only 3 years off and i still didn't think it was right for a college guy to be dating a high school junior or sophomore, (can't remember what she was, point is she was too young). sourceposts: 5joined: 25 dec 2016i just want to say just because it is legal, doesn't make something morally right. and if you ever followed through on it he would assuredly guilt you into silence by saying exactly what you're saying now (that if you told anyone you'd be grounded forever, you'd be responsible for sending him to jail, etc.-year-old says he should get death penalty afer killing texas man! gold[–][deleted] 307 points308 points309 points 1 year ago (73 children)though you get a really kickass double birthday party, right? more comments (1 reply)load more comments (9 replies)[+][deleted] 1 year ago (25 children)[deleted]. goldload more comments (5 replies)[–]i-like-naps 19 points20 points21 points 1 year ago (1 child)almost doing it and actually doing it are two very different things.[–]ben275 829 points830 points831 points 1 year ago (53 children)trying to convince her that my 25th is more important than her 21st. goldload more comments (66 replies)load more comments (4 replies)[–]helloniick 1057 points1058 points1059 points 1 year ago (160 children)yes, absolutely. i don't know if he's creepily fetishizing young girls, he's hoping to find someone naive who he can manipulate, or he's a tool and women his age have enough life experience to see through his shit so he has to go after teenagers to find someone who'll think he's cool (nothing against your seeing-through-shit skills, but i'm sure in 8 years you'll be better at it). you don't have to be strangers with the person you're dating. i hope she learns that if she wants to be in a relationship with this guy then she must make him earn it, either by getting her parents' involved or waiting until she is older. because, like someone said earlier in this thread, at that age, 7 years matters a whole hell of a lot. the older man is the one with the experience and the power to not get involved. more comments (1 reply)[–]badass over herelocalgyro 104 points105 points106 points 1 year ago (10 children)yes, yes it is. while the company had done only a seven (7) year background check, when they discovered he was a sex offender they gave him an ultimatum: quit or be fired. more comments (9 replies)[–]ninjameme 75 points76 points77 points 1 year ago (5 children)show your parents your maturity by telling them the full story truthfully and calmly. high-school drama that happened to you this year is about as interesting to most 23 year old's as a 10 year old's drama is to you- not because it isn't important or serious, but because they have gone through it dozens if not hundreds of times by the time their 23. goldload more comments (4 replies)[–]mightymangotits 76 points77 points78 points 1 year ago (0 children)i hope op considers this. goldload more comments (3 replies)[–]oh-hidanny 146 points147 points148 points 1 year ago (50 children)i am a 25 year old woman and this guy is a creep. this is a guy who is targeting 15 year olds, is a loser, and doesn't care about you. memberposts: 2030joined: 28 aug 2014if the 19 year old is in college and the 17 year old in high school, i can see that raising a few eyebrows where i live. gold[–]kiwifalling 210 points211 points212 points 1 year ago (43 children)super important quote from a book on domestic/partner abuse:"why for example, does a twenty-two-year-old man pursue a sixteen-year-old adolescent? do you think about a 16 year old dating an 18 year old? fortunately, we live longer now, but biologically, we are still wired as if it were the old days. gold[–]acidwashfarts 57 points58 points59 points 1 year ago (1 child)oh my god, you're not dumb. by basically maz kanatahifructosecornfecesa community for 7 yearsmessage the moderatorsmoderatorsbasically maz kanatahifructosecornfeceswaffle ninjahiddentofu💕redtaboodemented_pantshigh horse crusaderlittlemissp◖◧:彡heatherannehail eris! neither can i see how it can be seen as condoning neither rape nor older men taking advantage of younger, vulnerable girls. am 36 now, but i distinctly remember knowing quite a few girls in high school who purposely had sex with older guys, told everyone and then, if their parents found out, cried rape. i've devoted 8years of my life to this miserable man. 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i agree with donna in that the statutory rape laws should be repealed, and that the “real” rape laws should take into account the power that one person holds over another. i have no problem with alcohol laws even knowing that some 18 year olds are more able to drink responsibly than some 21 year olds. we dated for a while and have been married for 4 years now and have two wonderful kids. as the mother of sons, the grandmother of a boy, and the older sister of a guy to whom this could easily have happened (they’ve been married 7 years and 2 kids now, but there was a minute when her dad was quite a threat), i know how easily something totally non-problematic can cause tremendous, lifelong problems for a guy.’re allowed to work certain (non-farm, non-hazardous), taxable jobs from age 14 (federal law), and can work more jobs for longer hours from 16. do note we were already dating nearly two tears before, although we did not attend the same highschool. goldload more comments (20 replies)[–]owenleejoeking 67 points68 points69 points 1 year ago (0 children)end the relationship. gold[–]krhsg 5 points6 points7 points 1 year ago (0 children)you've gotten a ton of replies, and everyone's pretty much right on point. more comments (1 reply)load more comments (3 replies)load more comments (14 replies)[–]underarmfielder 1665 points1666 points1667 points 1 year ago (313 children)it would be akin to op being romantically interested in a 9-yr old. is a somewhat of an exclusion for those less than 3 years apart.-year-old who was whipped on camera by uncle for facebook gang activity murdered in n. instead to imagine someone in your class hitting on 10-year-olds. gold[–]b u t t sseroton1n 10 points11 points12 points 1 year ago (3 children)so, there is hope after all! gold[–]kerrda 213 points214 points215 points 1 year ago (1 child)i'm a 24 year old male and it is extremely weird, i would stay away. (and i say this as the nervous father of a 16-year-old girl. in mind that we’re talking about an 18 yo boy with a 16-17 (maybe 15) yo girl. when i was 14, i let a 30year-old guy flatter me into giving him head. it’s about 18- or 19-year-old boys having consensual sex with 16- or 17-year-old girls. gold[–]360saturn 26 points27 points28 points 1 year ago (3 children)this description reads a lot like a synopsis of fifty shades. gold[–]joef_3 495 points496 points497 points 1 year ago (4 children)that inexperience is why he isn't going out with women closer to his own age. gold[–]alex3omg 28 points29 points30 points 1 year ago (3 children)sounds like this guy really wants to bang a 15 year old. if i am not wrong girls complete the stage by 16-17, even if they start much earlier. you'd think that friend was a fucking weirdo, and maybe had something wrong with them. confused, we are talking here about 19 year old guys with 17 year old girls in many many many cases. gold[–]apes_driving_cars 9 points10 points11 points 1 year ago (0 children)i'm not trying to be insulting but if a 23 year old is interested in a 15 year old then something is wrong with the 23 year old. hook-ups resulting in marrige at class reunions, yes, but in school… older boys date younger girls. if a 16 year old has the ability to consent to an 18 year old through a years span rule why would it suddenly be not ok if the young man were 20? i tend to see the significance of each year as an exponential graph (with a negative coefficient of x). goldload more comments (2 replies)[–]the_panophobic 60 points61 points62 points 1 year ago (0 children)but there's a big difference between "i don't want my daughter dating" and "i don't want a predator going after my child. gold[–][deleted] 81 points82 points83 points 1 year ago (9 children)this age difference wouldn't matter if he was 29 and you were 22. gold[–]muslinbagger 89 points90 points91 points 1 year ago (14 children)i don't know any math, but i'd give every one here a hand job. any older teen or adult who gets involved with someone of that age is a danger to other children. think it’s absolutely horrifying that a 17,18 or 19-year-old can be considered a “sex offender” for having sex with a 16 year old girl. an age difference of 7 years when one person is 15 is everything. in most stat rape cases, the boy was about as mentally mature as the girl (boys maturing several years after girls). young women start dating, it is so important to have independence.