I'm dating a guy 9 years older than me first he was caring then he got too caring now he is controlling enough to beat me! hopefully this will bring it home… men and women are different…no matter how much “they” tell you different…the hard drive is clearly not the same… a woman wants love from a man…#1, period. but do take note that we also live in a small place where i would say “unique” relationships are a little more frequent than average. i thought that i would be alone for the rest of my life…now i feel complete with "r" in my life. not her place to assume, and not only that; not a healthy mindset to judge others based on something as petty as age. they ask me what am i thinking and ask,how could i be attracted to someone who could be my father? would my family keep him a secret to avoid judgment? i am simply talking about a woman in her 20s and an older, handsome, fit, genuine man as her partner. but i love him so much that nothing can change that. i guess i never really thought about the age difference since my parents also have 10 year age difference and they are happily married. thank you for sharing that with me, i wish you and your man all the best and i am so glad you are happy. this alone is a reason why i refuse to go back into the dating pool with guys my own age., it is sad that the two important loves of your life can’t get along, i wish mine could. you rachel for writing such a fantastic article that has struck so many chords with me! so when i spoke to a couple of my friends about him, i was told that i need counseling and that i do have “daddy issues”., i know this is an older post, but i stumbled upon it at the right time. and when we make love its like he knows everything my body likes which is awesome! lots of online advice warns against big age gaps in relationships and i have agonised over a female colleague at work who is much younger than me who seems to be giving me the 'come on' and is a truly wonderful person in every way. iv hardly dated guys my age it never really works for me, but dis is d eldest iv ever went..yet it seems it either bothers him or i'm not mature enough to understand the situation… ive dated guy's 2 years younger than me and didn't really ever worked out because i always found them immature. i was growing up, we had these family friends, the kids were my age and the parents fit right into this discussion. i am stuck at a cross roads of deciding what to do! strange how the age gap speeds that up, just done that with my man, well it’s always ongoing isn’t it? of course, that is quite limiting, but so is society. i kept thinking about all my shortcomings, and clearly thought this was a short term something not being able to figure out what will happen. i said i was dating her, but i thought she was just using me for sex – and after that, they all loved me, told my friend she was a bitch and they all hated her, and claimed ‘dibs’ on me when she was done ‘using’ me! i cannot understand how i feel so meant to be with him yet the world is screaming at us to split up. i know that i need to just ignore the comments, and maybe i was even expecting too much from these friends, but it upset me a lot. would’nt feel the need to chat about that 8 months in if we were the same age. i am not a gold digger, i don’t come from a broken home, and there’s nothing ‘wrong’ with me. now you know what women his own age were feeling. when i turned 18, i immediately went to his city and visited him. we match instantly and everything goes naturally without even any “weirdness. either way, i think i would defiantly want to be older before i try anything like that again! to me, it even sounded like she was rejecting myself and wanted my boyfriend run away from me. but our love is so strong, so passionate, and so magnificent right now. never really thought i'd get married, and i've never wanted children of my own, but now i've got a wonderful husband and a fantastic 19 year old stepdaughter. he treats me with the utmost respect and like i am his queen. i'm in my mid 40s and my fiance is in his mid 60s. i’m also dated an older guy and fell in love with him. yet, such “normal” marriage doesn’t always reflect one’s ideal marriage and happiness. i also do not want to make my boyfriend feel pressured into having me move in with him. went through a very weird experience with a woman recently. i and my husband’s conclusion about the questions is that we never know how ‘life’ goes. have been dating a man 26 years older than me and its the best relationship i’ve ever had. i love this post and the comments other people have written as it has given me the strength to deal with my friends bitching attitude. he has been the best thing that has happened to me. i've never dated guys my age, they were always a few years older than me. i'm 27 and i'm tired of the lack of maturity in my generation. think, think, think…and tell your mom she was right…. the texting games (how long should i wait to text him back? i know about all the dangers of the internet as well, i'm not here for a lecture. for the long post, just trying to share some advice with someone close to my age! used to the fact that he’s lived a whole life before you met..By the way, i should say that i am seeking therapy! we were friends 2 1/2 years before i even started dating him but he makes me laugh, hes very kind, and a good listener. but he loves and cherishes me deeply, even if he is not always as vocal about it as my girly heart would like ;), and then there are the times when he daydreams about our future together and we concoct elaborate fantasies. he agreed and loved how i explain everything to him, rather than create a meaningless emotional over-drive of an argument(like most other women/men do). it never got serious with any of them, but they all treated me very well. i am shown love everyday and that is all that matters! i see a lot of posts on here with couples who are 20/40 or 30/50. but all i can say is that i am completely in love and so is he and we have so much support from everyone. i can still remember the days when i’d utter those words and essentially have an anxiety attack every time my phone buzzed and it was a guy my own age i’d been casually seeing. am an old guy, 67… i dated a woman 17 years younger for 12 years, 18 years younger for 6 years, 2 years ago a 19 year old for almost 2 years and am in a new relationship with a 23 year old with a new baby. i’ve done a lot with my life in the last 8 years and i think she knows i can make a good decision. our love story is a wild ride, and we’ve both tried and failed numerous times to fight it, and as he put it he “can’t run anymore”. at that moment i thought: “this man is going to speak with you, careful. is so beautiful and have helped me extremely on making my decision. i recently started date a 25 years older guy that i’m. it wouldn’t bother me so much if my mother were supportive, but she threatens to disown me time and time again because of it., i know young women like to think they are so mature, but they don't seem to have much common sense or life experience.. i found it already by google when i was surching for a articles about dating over 50. will tell my family this coming week when they visit, and i’m scared. he learned the hard way and now that he has someone that fits perfectly, he shows me every day! lovely to be reading all your comments, you’re awesome ;). i also hear alot, "that's like a 25 year old dating a new born! i have not told my parents yet, he is their age and i am know they will not approve.! but anyways lm glad im not along on this journey. i am also indian (24) dating someone 30 years older than me for almost 2 years and cannot decide if i should tell my mom or not. as a woman becomes more confident in her own career and finances, she seeks a partner who matches that, which often is not a 25-year-old guy. we are seriously in love and i am the happiest i've ever been in a relationship. know that i am setting myself up for heartbreak in a few years. he told me about his bf, i aslo worried bit. she was not interested to marry early, but i encouraged her to marry early, because her bf is in 40s and she wanted kids from him. while there are questions about kids, retirement, etc…i don't consider them any more of a challenge than issues you have to deal with in a relationship with someone closer to your age. now stick another sock in her mouth and finish f__king her – then go to sleep! he then had no words to put together, i smiled and remained at ease. she still had a lot of growing up to do, hell, she had just turned 18 years old and graduated high school. most older men realize that you don’t always have to be right and other people’s opinions being valid doesn’t mean that yours are not. i even bug him about his looks if i see that he is gaining a bit of too much weight. at first i didn’t have a problem because we loved each other very much bt now when i had 2 find out that he’s 38yrz i became very scared and very disappointed on him. im also dating an older guy – good luck with what makes you happy and i hope you stay happy. i feel complete when i’m with him and when we’re out on dates, our different skin tone and his grey hair make us put our chins up even higher. we ended up dating just short of a year, but it was a great year! kept this relationship for almost 9 months and finally i decided to tell my father about this. if i am honest with you – i think i understand where your boyfriend is coming from – if you wait a couple of years, perhaps your relationship will have more credibility to your family. within a month of doing so i realized i made a huge mistake. what matters most is that you make each other happy. he has even been open to listen to me about my past traumas (if it does come up). my 20 year ol girlfriend who is 19 years younger than me is terrified to tell her parents that she’s even hanging out with me. can you afford to get serious w some one u will have crummy sex with? guess my plea to you, world, is please talk to me before you decide about me. are any of these thing different than with a younger man?. joy, if the guy only goes for young women, he's not seeing you as an option because you're not young. (and i'm so paranoid about blabbing this to people that i'm not even signed in as my usual poster identity. being such a gentleman, he payed for my starbucks, and payed for the cheesefries we shared at a small restaurant. i am aware that this isn't exactly legal, however, it was a complete. i want no one else but he cannot continue a relationship with an emotionally unstable woman, and i understand that. i have not told anyone in my parents about my relationship. i’m 24 i wasn’t initially attracted plus i feel mixed signals, but we laugh alot together. ive just started seeibg a 49year old (im 19) we get on so well and everythings so easy between us.. i just don’t know how my mom or brothers would react to it. no sugar-coat conversation, no empty promises, his action speaks louder than anything.! yes, it all depends on who you find and that they are a good match for you and only you are able to make that decision. while i was working on her parents house she would text that i left a tool out or something after i left work.. to be independent enough, stand on what i knew is right… he’s the person who makes my heart beats and skips fast, he’s the only guy who fullfil my imaginations in dates… flowers chocolates that snow ball bear, he’s a man with tons of sense of humor…i am just praying to have this kind of relationship till we grow older. i went againt all odds by dating this man: i’m dating out of my race, he’s more than twice my age, has two kids going throught a divorce; but he is such a sweetheart! i didn't plan to get involved with someone so much older than me and now i can't imagine my life without him. so far, we get along great and have a lot in common.’s taught me soo much has helped me in soo many ways! he wants me to be his wife someday and i am truly nervous., i am not saying all age gap relationships are bad – a bad relationship is a bad relationship regardless of age (or, a good relationship regardless of age). my profile was in depth, and contained the total absolute truth about myself and my past. is only a few years younger than my parents and i fall in between his two daughters and i am scared about what my family will think.’m glad i’m not the only one who’s been going through this kind of life experience! my mother is thinking more easy about it; she told me in the end that she will not keep me on a string. at first it’s always awkward and its all we can do to not laugh out loud which is one of the reasons i love this man, our ability to laugh and laugh often. i tried not to see him anymore and married someone 5years older than me . he teaches me new things and i make him feel young again. i did not understand how he could fall in love with me who was so much younger, but then i thought reverse and he must have thought the same.) have been trying to ask of me about what's going on with such-and-such. our relationship is so open and honest, full of compassion and thoughtfulness that i am confident that i have made the right choice in pursuing it. you tell me to shave my beard if my skin wasn’t brown?