and if really truly love each other you guys can handle it😊 0.? you tore me apart, w out even reading the entire thread and admitted it; you didn't say my profile name just once, you repetitively slammed me and i'm not to have a reaction? and my schedule is just work and school, and i always have one day a week off and he knows that. have a situation where i have a guy that is too comfortable and he thinks i’m not going anywhere. i know this will be hard, i’ve been there, but you have to think about yourself. i have only brought it up once but i will definitely take your advice by keeping my options open and when it comes to the point where i’m done with the non-commital dating, i will give him the ultimatum. tried doing this by withdrawing a little bit and he got all upset saying that i was cold and distant and he felt i stopped caring and that i used to be more lovey-dovey a few months ago. he’s really the type of guy i don’t want to let slip through my fingers. i’m pretty sure that men don’t look for female friends on match websites just so that they can have a platonic friendship and talk about their day at work. the rest we have and go about our daily lives., this is the best advice i could have asked for. we need to stop convincing ourselves that these guys are going to change their minds. so i have been with tom for more than a year and in the beginning i thought it was more of a fling than anything and then eventually we started meeting every week and had become intimate and me being a girl fell for him. the neurological disease i have, i've learned there is a solid chance it's genetic. do you ask girls if they have hsv 1 orally before kissing them? a normal guy would have moved the relationship along by now. so the dr said i must have contracted it prior to 15 years ago. we have known each other for a couple of months now. he’s on of the guys that has “too much on his plate”. just have no desire to go there now if ever again.! i wasted 10 months because i was stuck on the idea of”what it could be” which is a big mistake. like i said i got it at 19 and it has ruined my life,and i always wonder what my life would have been like. it turns out the problem was me: i didn’t know what commitment looked like because i was so used to practically begging a guy to really want me..i said i couldnt have sex with him anymore outside of committment. it works the same for guys… the guys who hate or resent women tend to attract the absolute worst women. i wouldn’t need to be asked and i wouldn’t use a dating site to find “buddies”. i would have walked years ago had i known what this man would do to me later in life. years or longerif you’ve been dating a few years, the valentine’s day hoopla isn’t all that exciting to you as a couple anymore.“i’ve been seeing this guy for almost 6 months now. i am in that situation where i have been seeing someone for 9 months but he won’t fully commit by calling me his girlfriend. a couple of my girls friends have had it for a decade or a little less, had several partners during that time and never spread it. i, of course, said that just because it has been one way in the past, doesn’t mean that is how it will be in the future, so i stayed. he have a load of reasons why you can’t go to his place? i'm terrell how did you girlfriends prevent transmission that's my only concern i take daily antivirals and i don't have blisters however my girlfriend hopefully soon wife has hsv1 i think orally 0. if you've ever had chicken pox, then you have an hsv virus living in your lower spinal nerves. i probably wouldn’t be ready for matching grave plots after 3 months either, but i wouldn’t dodge the issue if it was brought up. this article is a huge eye opener, for six months i’ve been wondering why he won’t ask me out officially, when he tells me he loves me and tells me how great i am…. i been dating my guy for almost a year and still no comiment. he has been married once, and was in a long-term (five year) relationship with someone else. there is a lot of time pressure on women and if women as a group didn’t put up with this wishy washy bs and move on asap, the men wouldn’t be able to get away with it and would have to commit or date their hands or spend big bucks getting laid by a professional, as they should if they are just going to act like a customer at a strip joint. people have hsv, (statistics vary), but something like 70% to 80% of the human population have some form of hsv. would never treat a man the way some men have treated me and i would so love to be present when these useless losers get their come upppance. ever since, we have spent a lot of time together but he is still in contact with the other girl, they had a long weekend booked which they just came back from, where they shared a room. as it is and i guess it because of my own attitude i am single didnt have kids..have 7 kids between us so are on the other end of the spectrum where the fairy tale is being re written……xx. wait till you know he’s a guy you actually want to be with though. guy is using you, jennifer, and what’s hard to take is that he doesn’t even know it. have been seeing this guy for a couple of months., i think maybe, even though we don’t want to admit it to ourselves is that we are staying because we think we will be an exception, that eventually, the guy will see that we are the ones for them and love us and everything that is the reason why we are still staying. i am reading lord of the rings for him (i love the movies, but haven’t read the books). i could tell he was interested, so i told him i was trouble and he should stay away (because i have gone through a lot recently). if a guy is in love and wants to be exclusive all online profiles on dating sites get deleted not just hidden. now he came back to me (as usual) and says “oh we aren’t dating! we’ve been taking things very slow but last week my parents were coming to pick up my bags from university and he didn’t want to meet them. well, that’s certainly true, in which case there’s just no point in seeing the guy at all, otherwise you’re simply letting him get away with whatever he wants/leading you on. i then text him saying “have fun at the party babe”.'m really sorry to hear that you have a neurological problem and i can see why and how that would weigh in on your decision much more to possibly risk getting a life time disease. after 3 months i ran back to my man and haven’t left his side ever since. he claims the only girlfriends he’s ever had, he casually dated for 4 to 6 months and then they made it official.@ kayla quintero, you have made the right choice, in giving him some. if a guy actually wants to be with you, he’ll make it happen. be grateful you have found out before you got infected and now you have the choice to stay or go..but he thinks it is bcuz he called me that one day at nightand the convo is that pleasnt …(let me remind you he has access to fb) what do you guys think ? 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