here are five ways we can love someone with mental illness (and still love ourselves):1. but at the same time, the truth is that it's not always a good idea to date someone with a mental illness. (people with mental illness are more likely to be a victim of violence than to commit violence. you can help by inviting your loved one to join you in healthy lifestyle choices. when the study was published, numerous people tweeted or facebook messaged me the results, and expressed their disappointment and disgust about the stigma surrounding mental illness. strong, who has dated a man with depression, recommended partners practice healthy boundaries and self-love. it's the first, and someone doesn't want to date you once you tell them you have a mental illness, then shame on them.
sarah griffith lund on twitter:Author of 'blessed are the crazy: breaking the silence about mental illness, family and church' (chalice press). #3: the girl has a mental illness, she is not stable and does not have it under control, and furthermore, she is not doing the right things to try and get better. you date a man with depression, it can become a struggle to maintain a relationship with him and protect your own mental health. stigma and shame surrounding mental illness takes a toll on family members, making it difficult to find support when someone you love has mental illness."being an extremely active mental health advocate, i know that you would never have a problem dating someone with a mental illness," some of them said. everyone is different, experiences emotions differently, and even experiences the same mental illnesses differently. she and her partner have learned how to navigate the distance a mental health problem can create between two people, developing communication techniques that bridge that gap.
so the question then becomes, would i want to date someone who's always going to be unstable? about the feelings and needs of a partner without a mental health problem?'s call a spade a spade - until the person manages to recover, dating someone in this situation is going to be a roller-coaster. your mental health is more important than being with him, no matter how much it seems like he has become everything to you. the experience is not fundamentally different than dating someone without a mental illness, but there are issues that are more likely to arise. time, resources, and energy are often focused on our loved one's mental health needs, leaving us wondering how to maintain a loving relationship. i think when you're talking to someone who's never been in that heightened emotional state, which is very present when you're talking about orthorexia or bingeing disorder or anxiety or depression or whatever it might be, you have to also understand that the person isn't going to be able to get what you're feeling 100%.
just because something worked for you or someone you know once, doesn’t mean it is a solution for everyone. the other hand, if you fall into the third category and someone rejects you, then you're kidding yourself if you blame stigma. it can be even harder when you have with a chronic health condition."don't assume someone is as strong as they appear, especially if you know said person is depressed. candice christiansen said they often had more anger issues and struggled with being “too serious” about the subject of depression. this means protecting your mental health by giving yourself space when you feel it is at risk, which brings us to the next piece of advice. even in the moment, when i realize that i am maybe overblowing something, in that moment, [the feeling is] so powerful -- so, having someone close to you question the validity of your emotions, i think, can be really harmful.
the intention of fixing someone may be good, but it can make the person with depression feel you are looking down on them or don’t accept them. that time, outside of the house, work, bills, and responsibilities is really needed physically and mentally — it heals the soul spiritually! when you're trapped in the throes of a mental illness, you tend to be unstable and erratic, and when you're in that state, it usually leads to a lot of fighting, drama and stress - which of course can be very exhausting and taxing to deal with. this type of behavior on his end made me feel responsible not only for my mental illness, but his mental health as well. if they could 'just stop' doing it, they wouldn't have a mental illness. someone says something negative or seems disinterested in the relationship, it’s hard not to think it’s because of you. search nami (national alliance on mental illness) for the most up-to-date information about mental illness.