live happily, all the best to you my dear brother, lots of success, much love and happiness, don’t weep, don’t cry. that reason, i’m kind of ok with naming my daughter the same name as my husband’s niece but, since we already aren’t close, i don’t want to start a fight by saying “yeah, so, that was our name, too, so uhhh, let’s just both have babies with that name. our family we have: melissa, alyssa, marissa, carissa, 2 steve’s, a maddie and a matty (which sound exactly the same when said aloud so we call them dd and tt) and 3 pete’s. first cousin and i have the same name – she is 2 yrs older than me –. if you went ahead and did not use this name because you wanted to avoid the whole conflict issue and then when your sil has her daughter 3 months from now, she has changed her mind and not used it either? part of me thinks it’s ok for them to call dibs on a name this far in advance if they feel strongly about it, but my husband was pissed that they didn’t wait until they found out what we’re naming our daughter. Can I ignore her calling "dibs" on the baby name? i don’t care about having multiple people with the same name, i just don’t want to deal with the resentment that comes with accusations of name stealing. we know the sex of ours and knew what the name would be even before the kid was conceived. read your advice to someone else on this subject – what if you had your heart set on a name, but a family member who is due before you announces it’s their baby name before you do?
(if it helps, this isn’t the kind of name that gets shortened differently, like elizabeth can be liz, and beth, and eliza, this name is stand-alone, not the shortening type). my mother rarely, if ever, managed to correctly say the name of the kid she wanted to address when calling for us.” it was not necessary for them to check with us before they picked their name, and if we use it later i dont think they’ll care. brother and my cousin have the same name, and we lived less than a mile apart and he was at our house nearly every day growing up. let her know that 1) you aren’t going to change your plans, sorry, but 2) you are 100% completely okay and cool with her using the name as well, and would be happy to laugh and tell the story about how you both came up with this “perfect” name independently., this is part of the reason why we’ve been very public about possible name choices (cassandra marie for a girl – i’ve had this name since i was 15 years old). names are important, but everyone needs to be adult about it and deal with the fact that their name may not be unique unless they name their kid something the kid won’t want to put on a resume. what if she gives birth prematurely and she “takes” your name…would you truly, honestly still use “the” name? our boy name was taken from us but the way it was handled was the most upsetting part. two months later, her sister gave birth… and used a different name than the one she had “called dibs” on.
watch me speaking very badly about the book, and to get your name in the back of the special edition, visit unbound. my husband’s sister and sister-in-law (his brother’s wife) have the same first name. i hear stories about “baby name wars” i think of the scene in my big fat greek wedding when the dad is introducing all the cousins; “and this is my sister nikki and her kids nick, nicolas, niko, and nikki. addition, i was named after my mom so i know all about the credit files getting crossed despite the fact that my name is an extended version of her’s and we have a different middle initial… go figure…. maybe because she was hoping to turn the other person off the name, i dunno. he actually cried when we first said this name out loud (which of course made me cry).” i was expecting you to flame us because in the past you told the person in this situation to let the name go. but when i read it, i’d interpreted it as that they hadn’t chosen a name yet, but when they heard the sil name choice, it seemed like the perfect name for their own baby. i think you only claim not to care because you have the upper hand in being able to name your child first. agree, you should say something to your sister-in-law, but calling dibs on a name just makes me roll my eyes.
you have every freaking right in the world to name your daughter the name you picked, but your sil’s email does mean you’re going to have to talk about your plan. the following farewell letter was written the next day by 17-year-old budapest resident pinchas eisner to his brother, mordechai, who at the time was in a forced labour camp. it didn’t show up in my reader, but my husband was googling “name wars” and it came up and he was like “is this us! similar happened to my mom when she was pregnant with my brother. for that reason, my attitude is, if i feel strongly about the name, it’s ok if someone else in my life gives their kid the same name. not to call dibs, but so that if at some point, someone we know names their child the same thing we want to name a future child, no one will think we stole it. i had a baby girl last year, and we kept her name a secret from the day of our 20-week ultrasound until the day she was born…and i was terrified that at some point in between, a close friend or a family member would announce that they’d be using “our name. agree that you should talk to sil but still stick with the name you love. first and foremost, you both must consider the ramifications for your children. point is, the name confusion will happen no matter the names involved.
she’s still fuming about it and will whine to anyone who listens that we ruined “her” name., with regards to “(considering) the ramifications for your children,” did you miss all the comments by people who have the same name as their cousins and thought it was super fun? clarify, yeah, in rereading, it does sound like one commenter says, that we liked the name only after we heard my sil say it. it okay if a family member steals a name of a baby who was just born without speaking to the parents about it? if they end up with the same name, it’s no big deal, especially because they’ll only be together once a year-ish.) because i loved you and i see you as you smile, (the vein on your brow is swelling) as you are thinking, as you eat, as you smoke, as you sleep and i feel great tenderness, great love and my eyes are filled with tears. you said that, if i die, you will kill yourself. in the end, unless these names have explicit sentimental meaning (honoring a loved one), i see no reason why you both can’t open a baby name book and explore other options. he is sitting by the fire next to a kitten with a very unusual name. we went round and round on names, and ended up picking oliver for our boy.