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when he gave me the “not over my ex line” i told him that was ok as i’ve got a few other guys wanting to date me (not sure if that comes across as desperate or not). you fall for a guy who’s still in love with his ex, you may begin to notice that he has good days and bad days.’m in actually in a pretty drama-free zone of curiosity: what the heck do i want a guy for if all the healing-the-victim stuff is off the table and i’m not just interviewing for a co-parent? terry, he probably never told any of his ex’s they were pretty either, at the time.’s not like i can change the world of dating, but i think it’s a bit crazy the way we expect to be sucking face with someone we’ve only known for a handful of hours. my first experience was so well that i came back to dr. my breakdown, we had an amazing time together and i know he would still rather have sex with me than anyone else. met a guy at a wedding about a month ago. i can now clearly see that if/when i decide to date (assuming i get out of the house) and “i go out and find out”, if i’m not over the exmm/ac, it would have absolutely nothing to do with him. presuming this guy is a decent, honourable fellow (and you have to judge that over time, through actions), then he is certainly not the guys of your past who have abused and assaulted you. he’s clear that he doesn’t have the same feelings to want to be both feet in with me again right now – and i’m still smoking, too, but he’s also clear he doesn’t want to lose day to day phone and in-person contact with me and his hold on the possibility i represent. but i feel as if i´m suddenly poor, as if the world is blander, as if i´d just been told that this year, january will last for a long time and we don´t know if the summer will come, but we certainly hope it will. but anywho this guy was actually being an awesome gentle, but just wasn't for me. i obviously need to learn to love my new normal. too, as well as many women on this site, am in shock. i am actually just grappling with this issue now and talked about it in your previous post. but, his good qualities are very good (honest, caring, sweet, intelligent etc).’s either that they said they’re not over their ex, so you decide their actions say otherwise, or you see they’re not over their ex, but decide that they’ve said different – either way, nothing matches. as much as it hurt, he probably did me a favour by showing me this side of him now rather than a few years down the line when i was even more invested. but the hardest part for me right now is the idea that despite the fact that he was for the most part eu, that i was the buffer in this relationship.) and a couple of the guys i met were seriously grieving wives/girlfriends. i knew something was up, so i pushed it and he told me was separated from his wife who had cheated on him, he’d adopted her 2 children 3 years ago when they married. the meantime, i feel like a massive amount of time and space for both of us to sort out how to do this sanely is the best way to go. in the past, i didn’t only believe i “failed” in my relationshits with eum and ac, i also believed i “failed” by not getting involved with some other toxic guys..this chick comes in n chills every time she drops off her son. he also told me, he didnt love me and wanted to fish around for other women, (i ignored it too) he hopes our nc would mean that i would move on and that it would be best for me. this is only tangential to you, but i have started having these rebellious thoughts of, why is being a quieter, less party animal, and more emotive nature so shameful? i saw a guy for 6 weeks who called regularly, was affectionate physically and verbally, opened doors, was gentle, shy and commented how happy i made him.“and i am often explaining what nat says here to my sister: that being compassionate is about leaving someone who is afflicted alone, to fully heal, and about protecting yourself and keeping yourself steady so that if someone does need to rely on you, you don’t get caught up in the whirlwind, which is eminently unhelpful. you need to respect your own feelings about this guy. he clearly showed me time and time again that he was not over his ex, i even looked for signs out of paranoia and jealousy (lord knows i found them). you thought maybe you’d get a relationship, and now the excuses have been wheeled out. recently got asked out by a guy i barely know but we have mutual friends. when your eum looks you in the eyes and tells you he wants nothing more than to be with you, look right back in to his and remind yourself that they are only words. so be4 i continue i need to ask if this is okay with yourself ? ways to tell if you’re in lust or love. however, i became his friend, he was running game that him and girlfriend at the time was not getting along, and that he was sleeping on their couch. know that my only foray into dating sites, several years ago, made me ‘feel’ that i was out there,(in retrospect, i was still wearing the sticking plasters! don’t see any valid reason for a guy to show you pictures of an ex, period. i did almost take him to the end of his limit though, i think he was giving me one last chance to act interested…. ways to tell if he is hung up on his ex . he’s also had a two year affair with a married woman and didnt care that this woman was married with children. once googled a guy i was interested in, who mutual friends also thought i should get together with, and found out that he was a closet gay. elle, i hear you about making sex this big thing that turns the new interaction into some kind of redemption scene in the old magnolia’s victim story., the guy you describe, his behaviour, his ex issues, you, the next one after you…! his breakup – which came out of the blue for him – happened almost two years ago. i have been slanting all his actions through my own lens, which hopes that he is interested. he told me he thought his ex-wife and at least two ex-girlfriends were crazy (not the one he hadn’t got over – she, apparently, could do no wrong by the time our relationship was ending).” as his new to the city, he doesn’t have many friends, so not sure if i’m just being used for company or if he genuinely does enjoy being around me.“so i’m definitely not putting my life on hold waiting for the “not over his ex” guy to become available. sometimes it's hard for men and because they were in love, some fall in love and have children some people were never in love or had a form of puppy love, but if a deep emotional bond was created this can harbor bitter feelings and sadness for the dumped party either guy or girl.) the gist is, any unsuspecting woman he romances now is getting an ac who’s now also eu and committed to keeping a foothold in his ex’s (my) life! but, in all honesty, right now i cba and i want to get myself to a point where i can push myself so that i’m living more fully and experiencing new things. in these recovering from ex’s scenarios, a positive affirmative answer to that, ‘i’m sorting myself out, i’m important’ keeps everything right. i did two dates with a guy once, pre my br education – because i was determined not to put/keep myself on hold for the now ex eum who was hanging about my life when he felt like it – i didn’t do a third date for many reasons but one of them was that i realised (all by myself! know, the sexist shit that still exists in the promised equal world. i’m so glad that it now seems wiser to me to self-soothe and to talk through the little panics with myself rather than dramatically ‘open up’ to a new guy. sadly, i discovered that i am the unavailable one, since it is the one thing that all of my exes said about me and most of them, also had as an issue. i allowed myself to believe an illusion that the man was ‘special’, not a regular person, my best friend, confused about his feelings etc., you will be up and down, wholly understandable after this. reading br, i was of the mindset that the best way to get over someone was to get under someone else… it was interesting to read this post because my ex ac obviously thinks this way and i’m now the ex. know, it is very comforting and very healing for my self-esteem to realise that, as leaky and unsteady and uncomfortable as this little fallback boat might be, i’m in it with a group of such witty, wise and intelligent people as are on here. at least we have the opportunity to learn this lesson and know the gory signs for next time. fast forward, this dude has a lot of issues, and he done had woman after woman since knowing him., in the pub with his friends who introduced us, they tell me he said i reminded him too much of his ex in the way i was relating to him, and the particulars weren’t exactly positive.
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.well there was this one time where after i forwarded a picture of me to a guy a friend had introduced me to via email some years ago, he replied saying he was getting back together with his ex.. i still have this kind of thinking about mm too.’s almost like he was dating to find a counsellor to hear his stories about the ex. as you spend more time with this man, you’ll wonder when you two will ever break out of the “talking” phase and enter a full-fledged relationship. if he realizes he’s not over his ex, i truly understand that it has nothing to do with me. while it did explain his hot and cold behaviour, i was tormented by the niggling thought that “yes, he may not be over his ex, but maybe the real reason is that he’s really not that into me. what’s not his right (except you gave it to him) is to sleep with two women, keep you on hold and insult you. he would mention women that had broken his heart in the past but always end the sentence with “i’m over her anyway” and continue to boast about his accomplishments. there are those guys that just hate, walk away and leave the woman on her own. ghoseexpert 200 shares + more content from yourtango:how to be the best boyfriend ever (according to boyfriends)beware! i love him in a completely different way from how i´ve loved others.) that i was emotionally still stuck on the eum – emotionally on hold, and that i was kidding myself on if i thought this was me ‘not putting myself on hold”. davinexpertmust-see videosvideophoto: unsplash 6 ways monogamy can make your sex life so much betterno, really! point is, that self esteem is so very important and its the valuable lesson i have learnt with my experience. while you go out on those other dates with guys who might actually turn out to be fully functioning adult males. i explained my problem to someone online and she suggested that i should rather contact a spell caster that could help me cast a spell to bring him back but i am the type that never believed in spell, i had no choice than to try it, i mailed the spell caster, and he told me there was no problem that everything will be okay before three days, that my ex will return to me before three days, he cast the spell and surprisingly in the second day, it was around 4pm. i have often been taken aback by this, and even felt a bit cheated by how sad and sorry i had felt for the person because i would know that i would not get over and get on again that quickly and so have wondered if they were never really ‘in it’ with the one they had lost. had never been truly treated both respectfully and intimately by a guy my age, nor did i fully know how to respect myself, so i didn’t recognize this bs for what it was, as you are not recognizing it. reason i’m repeating all this is to you is just to make you aware that there are guys on these websites that seem to good to be true, so as nml says you must date with your self esteem in tow!, if a guy says he isn’t over his ex, believe him. but i do take it as a real problem when a guy asks me on a date, and then doesnt appear to want to kiss me on said date, especially if we’ve been out more than once. you give a reason for this, which i suspect he has spoon-fed you. you’ve made me realise that while i’m preparing to go out and date other guys, i’m still harboring the secret fantasy that ‘not over his ex’ , will suddenly morph into mr emotionally available and will suddenly tell me what a fool he has been and that i’m too good a catch to let go! when an experience is fundamentally good and happy then you just let go of it and move on, pausing only occasionally to think “that was nice” before carrying on being happy and thinking about other things.’m laughing here when i think about how my ex would always refer to ‘how beautiful his wife looked in her wedding dress’ or his various ex girlfriend’s sports car/language skills/cooking…. it's not fricken normal, everything else in our relationship is perfect, he's loving, caring, romantic, i am the complete opposite of that "woman" i work, look after myself, i'm supportive and caring, yet this continues to happen, i just don't understand it! if one of the first pics that a guy volunteers to show me is one his ex…flush delete. i don’t feel in any real danger of having sex before i’m ready – funny how though the exac told me he wasn’t pressuring me to have sex, i totally felt pressured – i feel no pressure coming from this guy. i’m pretty much just normal garden variety crazy these days – excepting some recent over the top acting out…. clearly he wasn’t “over her” but this behaviour made me uncomfortable and was one of the many red flags that i failed to act on. i listened to him go on and on about these women, and while i was still smitten with them i would think to myself, “oh, what fools they were to not see his wonderfulness…” wretch. finally stopped thinking dating was an opportunity to hold up my spurting finger and be like, um, can you help with this? he was sorry and sad and tried to help, but his response was basically “i didn’t mean to do it – it wasn’t about you at all”. he could be the most amazing single guy in the world, respectful, honest, trustworthy, and caring but if i’m not over the ex, it would have nothing to do with how wonderful he may be or is. when i excuse myself from the date, he kept begging me to stay…. it took me a while to get that too: it was only when my experiences with my ex ac/eum left me in such a state (my body physically shut down for 3 days) that i realised i couldn’t let myself down anymore and it was time to say enough. ex just wrote me a letter to tell me how hard it’s been for him to deal with his life alone these past 7 months, and how he doesn’t understand why i don’t want to have any contact. by the same token, if he isn’t over his ex, it cannot be about me and i shouldn’t make it about me.“it means thoughts popping into your head when you least expect them that you may feel like you have no control over. i think it probably has to do with me being a very old fashioned family oriented man, i would love nothing more than to see our family put back together and actually work out. it’s a sign of his sickness, his emotional unavailability. the alky ac and my ex eum seemed strangely over their exes, too soon, without a backward glance,slagging these women off into history. it means crying unexpectedly or feeling a sudden surge of anger or a deep wave of sadness. i do like the man, but he’s got issues besides this one. red flags that he is still in love with his ex . it means crying unexpectedly or feeling a sudden surge of anger or a deep wave of sadness. i also think the reason we see so many eu’s not over the ex is because they did not do what we are doing; the hard work, the grieving, the learning and moving on. know it occurs to me you can predict(allow a little margin for error) when these guys are going to start ‘bigging’ up their ex or exes…it’s when they stop idealising you! it is a no-win when those idiots do that [gush over the ex] ; if you squirm and look uncomfortable they think ‘she’s not confident’, if you blow it off; they think ‘gee i can get away with just about anything w/this one’. in my situation i don't per se love my child's father but i respect him as her father, he has a girlfriend now that has really helped him mature their relationship is really good, i actually like her more than him. you’d be worried that you were ‘impatient’ and that after allowing yourself to be a buffer, once they’d recovered in your rebound hospital, they’d skip on out of there and be an available, over their ex partner with a different person. as far as love goes i love him to the degree that my daughter loves him and he's important to her so since i love her i care about him. i now believe this is why i got messed up with the ac affair, because i saw relationships as a solution to the last one ending, some sort of justification or validation to the outside world or to myself, that it was the right decision, to end a relationship (because ‘see i have a new, better one now! try taking this elephant in the middle of the living room on my fanny out on a date …. still makes me a bit nervous to get involved with anyone else just yet, if i’m honest… i obviously have more work to do! my last ex used to compare me in a negative way to his ex, which was like convicting me for her crimes. ex was a crazy-maker, and clearly villainising you so that he found it easier to live with what he was doing. be glad that you have dodged a bullet with this guy, and that you are free to meet someone worthy of you. if his feelings grow or mine do, but a relationship isn’t on the cards, then it may be time to end the friendship..this chick will be around for awhile and im sure try getting him back again like she admitted before. he’s also nice enough that i think, maybe if i have these doubts now, i’m (still!) photo: weheartit the 2 magic words that make men commit instantlyphoto: istock this shocking video shows the real reason you aren’t losing weightphoto: istock the 1-night challenge that totally revolutionized my relationshipphoto: weheartit the truth about how men choose the woman they're going to marryphoto: istock if you’re sick and nobody knows why, here’s what you need to knowphoto: weheartit the kind of woman he falls for hard, according to his zodiac signphoto: weheartit 3 mind games all narcissistic men play in relationships photo: weheartit do not say 'i love you' until you can honestly answer these 5 q'sexpert advicephoto: weheartit 3 mind games all narcissistic men play in relationships watch out for these signs.’, but have learned to identify this reaction as nothing more than a habit, which i am happily trying to break. a young teenager i cut the tip off my left index finger. she says she will always love me no matter what but she never admits anything even when i came to get my son and a random guy is in her house with his shirt off walking out the bedroom.