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10 ways to know you're dating a real man
but those ten things will only be what i think society wants to hear or more so what men want to hear so either they can relate to why they don’t have girlfriend bc of course i am a great guy and she’s not a keeper or because maybe a hottie reades this and becomes intrigued by my article and perceives me as a real man. i’m sorry ladies, but even if you meet a real man, all of these will likely not be in full swing at any given moment. yea sure you can lie to each other and say you trust each other but if you don’t mean it you know it’ll eat you up inside. above two sites will give you an entry point into red pill thinking (the second is a christian site, btw). a good man values your heart more than your looks – looks deteriorate, but a beautiful heart never becomes unappealing. apple i – pad’s features,functionality,capacity and capabilities makes it industry or market leader. a real woman won’t need any of this stuff. is not a mans responsibility to pander to a womans whims. i on the other hand will be happy to buy you a plane ticket to come here and see if you have the nerve to say that to someone i know. but also remember that in order to get a real gentleman, the woman has also to contribute properly to the relationship. the fact that we both think each other looks smokin’ hot is an extra plus, although i’m sure if you saw either one of us you’d think we were average at best. gl with finding a man who will succumb to your way of thinking, you are a hypocrite., i do agree with your definition of a real man as well, so thanks for sharing that – though, i don’t see how it contradicts my points in this article? a man will be direct, to the point, and honest with you. but nope, it was about keeping your nails did and your face plastered in makeup. i read this and loved it because it relates to my post on 10 ways to know your relationship is exceptional. some guy getting a shave, a cigar, and people in romantic situations…super materialistic, shallow, and completely unrelated to the article., if you keep this up for a while (understanding and supporting each other), almost automatically a third layer will be built onto your relationship’s foundation. and women aren’t being looked at under the same light because there are inherent differences that comprise each gender.. a good man will not worship you as the center of the universe, but rather also see the beauty in other people and activities. the original blog contained more pictures of young, athletic looking men. if your are just completely unable to live up to this for a woman you’re in a relationship with, then your really not a man at all. just because you act like a normal person in a relationship doesn’t make you a man, it makes you…normal. but yes, your general life goals should pretty much align in a good relationship. there is compromise on *both* sides in a relationship; women don’t exist to serve men. is such an american way to think what is “real man”. real men expect serious effort be put into your appearance, demeanor, and behavior. vulnerability: the key, and i implore you all to consider it. can’t be a real man and disagree with the truth. if would be legitimate to say that you applied it to men as well, but people do not normally assume that attractive men are dumb, as they might assume with women… you just encouraged that idea by saying we are “hard to find. billion men on this planet, all of whom are part of thousands of differing cultures, and every last one of these men are unique. if you replaced all references of a girlfriend/wife/etc. he is honest and careful with his words and he can speak directly whenever necessary. we have all been there before where its always one person is into the other but not 100% the other way around. that’s what this article is about, an attempt to define some principles, in relation to intimate relationships, of how a “real man” ought to behave towards his significant other. ur looking for a family life and a long term relations u might get a person closer to this description because ideal stuff don’t exist. been married for 20 years now, and i know im not a true gentleman…. i have never been married and have not had very good relationships.“she’s your sunshine on a gloomy day (and every day)”.: 10 ways to know you’re dating a real man | list bulletin. but merely to remind the men of the world that chivalry isn’t dead. only thing i disagree with is:“a true gentleman will have more interests than just you. to my way of thinking, a gentleman respects women, children and animals. my father was a relentlessly self-improving boulangerie owner from belgium with low grade narcolepsy and a penchant for buggery.’m so sick of this “real men” “real women” shit. is not a mans responsibility to pander to a womans whims. it just frustrated me about how people were arguing about a “real” man when its completely subjective.?Pingback: 5 signs her parents will approve of you | james michael sama. very good stuff but why think you need to lead your female partner? so in love, and longstanding relationships, should we not first be what we desire to have? if a woman, and man, do to the other to get what they want in return later than there will be happy relations…and it should be for what they want in return, it should just be that you want to see that person smile and if anybody (both man and woman) really loves each other then they will do anything to see them smile. i’m going to spend the rest of my life with someone, that person will be my best friend, the one that i trust most, the one i turn to first in any crisis or hard time. better yet can he treat someone else’s kids like his own? this article represents the further “pussification” of the 21st century male. i agree those are great traits of any person, not just a man. but then again i know girls who are like this towards they’re boyfriends. u are obviously not the man they are speaking of in this aritcle, so dont make your insecurities blatant for everyone to see. about instead of talking about the photos and trying to discern nonexistent meaning from them – simply because they were chosen to look good – try actually picking apart the content in the article and letting me know why it’s not up to par, incorrect, or just down right wrong. i think it very clearly states that he should appreciate more than just your looks. what it means to be a “real man” does not hinge upon dating, having a significant other (male or female), or how a man treats a woman, specifically.’s not no one is going out with you, you said it yourself you just don’t happen to be attracted to those that like you.’s nothing wrong with voicing your opinion but doing it rudely & offensively saying james isn’t a real man is wrong! but you’re saying at the same time they’re seeking attention? on the surface most women don’t want these men and instead fall for those who act dominant or manipulated. every man or woman you are with is a “real” person.“a real man will make you want to be the best version of yourself, without changing who you really are. so living without him knowing he left me for another. why else would his response stir such emotion in you? it’s so different for each relationship and people involved. not to mention the femi nazis craving this yet have no self respect, dont take care of themselves, and crave attention. could go on…but the point is not all women are attracted to this type of man. you conquer your insecurities with vulnerability, i promise you it’s one of the most powerful weapons. she gets attention- for all the right reasons: her work, her philanthropy, etc. let’s not focus on woman here, let’s focus on ourselves, as men and be the best men we can be for your girlfriends, wifes and future spouses. now that shes closer we spend more time together during the week, which is nice because now on the weekends i have more time with my friends. partner and i absolutely love your blog and find a lot of your post’s to be just what i’m looking for. addition to the last point – there will be no mind games or manipulation in your relationship. more importantly, i have kids to think about, and don’t want to risk any more hurt to them. i am very comfortable in my skin, enjoy the challenge of a completely new situation (and feel confident handling one), and am quite sure that i am a woman (and not a very masculine one, at that…). this can be out of your comfort zone, and you might even associate it as a bad thing. i love this list because it is very real and simple. all i did was critique what you said, which was ironically an assumption of what the term “seeking attention means”. being cool,calm and collective doesn’t make you a man. they may have values but their actions and way of expressing themselves aren’t congruent. imagine an article about what made a “real” woman that had the kinds of requirements in this one. people like you that think all women are the same and innocent are wrong. he was like he has been thinking about his life and he feels like he doesn’t know himself anymore and that he doesn’t want to hurt me in the processes. reading the article and some other comments i feel like the author and most of us are missing the big picture. it’s a well written article and if you disagree with it, fine, no need to be a dick about it. however, men will fall short of these things and it isn’t logical to say a real man will never get intimidated by your motivation ie jealous, anxious, annoyed, angry, sad. dreams, aspirations, and hobbies are a good way of wording it but it goes beyond that. at nearly 30 most of my female friends refer to themselves as “the girls”, and the males of our social group are most commonly referred to as “the guys”, although occasionally it will be “the boys”. it might make it difficult for a person to “put effort into you” but it certainly wouldn’t be impossible. first you have to please yourself , love yourself, feel you are worthy of someone elses love., is it not contradicting that you say women should not seek attention or want compliments but she be keeping up appearances (hair and nails) and putting in effort for her looks for you. are some ways to know if you've struck gold:1) a real man values more than just your looks. i hope you’re trolling, if not you sound like a bit of a twat to be honest. perhaps after you’ve hung out with “the gang” a few times, but first time? on and glad to know that i’m actually friends with a few real men, and may just have a positive, outstanding budding relationship with one, as well. if you want the best for you, accept your failures and learn from them. also, these are qualities of a strong man, not just being a gentleman for a woman. they may seem perfect but face it, unless you’re as loyal, understanding and independent as they are you don’t stand a chance with one., james there are a few things that bother me here:Put it simply, a real man *is* someone with xy chromosomes and a penis. if you’re in a solid, committed relationship, it’s important to understand where both of you see yourselves, and the relationship – going. for example, in order to be a real man, one needs to utilize his physical body to the best of his ability through some form of labor or exercise: this means weight lifting, martial arts, gymnastics, sports- whatever he so chooses, but he must do it, and do it well. this is nothing more than the original poster’s ideal version of a man or, more accurately, what they want the world to think their ideal version of a man is. love what i have posted or hate it i don’t care. when they lie all the time and think nothing of it, that shows you they are immature, deceitful and full of shit, of poor moral character, no accountability no integrity. and i do agree that women are more emotional and men more logical (in the majority of cases) because it is how we are raised. case in point: we’d been dating for a few months and a work obligation came up- there was a conference a couple of hours away and i was riding with a coworker. wattyson, you forgot one big question:Does she irritatingly capitalise the first letter of every word in a sentence, and this throw the middle finger up to proper english grammatical conventions? it is very rare to see a spiritual, well thought response from seemingly a loyalist. the list is unlikely if you achieve three your a winner. this article is about the criteria a man should be judged by when in a relationship, according to the author (which, full disclosure, i believe to be a perfectly fair list. to set rules that will protect your child and take certain steps to make certain your son or daughter is safe. see your other point too, a lot of women like the dominant type, i just personally don’t agree with this way of handling conflicts, but that’s just me. i’ve become a cold hearted bastard, and the only thing i care about any more is living long enough to see my kids become adults. true gentleman values more than just your looks- we also value your tits and ass. people are getting hung up on damn semantics instead of focusing on what’s important. maybe because thats not what you were looking for but rather you were looking for someone to make you feel complete. let me be my real (repeat : real, my good and bad) self, is a gentleman. because you know, your opinion is the end all, be all right? agree with most of the article, and find it annoying that some people think they should be able to tell their partner what to wear. honestly, if i hadn’t had them, i would have had no reason to move forward. [this was after i had just adjusted a week’s worth of obligations to be able to spend time with him at his request. women do not need to be lead in life we need to find out and trust that men are indeed trustworthy, aware of female need for an attitude of protection why? you would have to with that attitude, because your “wife” isn’t going to and nor is anyone else. if you want a confident, secure girl, then you want one who loves herself and puts herself first. but you all know deep down that the door swings both ways. pictures that accompany your article are a complete contradiction to your article (or parts of it). no one told you to go after the most inappropriate woman at the bar.’m with you man – i myself try to use these points (and others) as guidelines in day to day life. articles focus on different things because men and women are different. and i don’t need a man to help my confidence. i’m not talking about when you been dating for a few months.’s your sunshine on a gloomy day (and every day). sure, looks come into play but it should not take top priority over the inner beauty. women i think need to be more direct sometimes as well. a real man will let you know when you are wrong. a man can be a real men (protector, provider, leader) without acting like an animal or being a feminized men. men and women come in all shapes and sizes; there are, so called, “feminine” men, there are “masculine” women.” this is another way of making a point that he doesn’t think you’re attractive. james knows what audience he’s after and how to appeal to them. i also read your other post the difference between bad boys & jerks & that was spot-on too. there could be a plethora or reasons you were brought up to be an asshole. i need a man who respects me enough to check up on me. you only included the positives of “support”; basically being your cheerleader when you accomplish something. that example doesn’t apply to you and your man. i didn’t see an issue at all but because of how she was raised, and her religious beliefs, it became this 3 hour argument.. we tend to be more logical and rational minded leaving emotion out of the equation. i want to encourage yyou continue your great posts,Buy the version, the quality can be, is that little space inside to buy a second, very satisfied with the seller is also very warm, will come back to buy to the mother, the second time to buy, did not see the kind, should also his wife bought the line anniversary gift she was very happy haha, super like to buy for his wife.: why we should stop calling people “real” | james michael sama. i like my car so i wanted to put a photo of it on my blog to help represent my interests, can you please elaborate on how this affects my credibility? took a lot of frogs until i finally found my prince, if you’re one of the few that are as lucky as me, make sure you work hard to give back- don’t screw it up! a girl chooses to commit to you and your financials are not present at that time, it means its not the riches she is after. isn’t related to your post directly, but… i *need* to know where you got the second photo, of the red dress with the bows on the sleeves? personality is the only thing in a person that can always change. you read the article itself or just the bullet points? learn these ten signs and it will be easier for you to spot a fake from a million miles away. acting like a man doesn’t pay the bills or prepare you for the struggles of life. it doesn’t make them unmanly, it just makes them a gentleman. a well rounded man, that doubles as a single, responsible father, already has a lot of these traits factored into his life because of his kids and the responsibility he has towards them as both a parent and best friend. which most women are only interested in the guys that treat them like dirt. children soak up love and then turn around to do awful things all of the time. i know that i was asked to get some materials for the witch doctor to make a spell that will reunite me and my fiancé. i know that while i was reading this i thought to myself, “ehh, that is a good area i could work on! if i had someone in my life with even half of those qualities, it would be a dream. that you think you’re great, so you’ll never change. name one real man according to this article, whether real or a fictional tv character… i doubt you will find one. you attracted this type of women because you are immature. your male one was awesome, but this is what is exactly wrong with how men see women. many people throw around the word “misogyny” without even knowing what it means. the domino effect of mistreatment goes much further than the person you are mistreating. does being with her take you into your own world where nothing else matters? remember, you are still you as an individual also and need to take time to nurture yourself either by yourself or with friends. i’ve always been crazy critical of these types of thing but i can’t find any point that’s too subjective, ridiculously hollywood, and that’s totally unaccepting of multi-gender weaknesses (also had a rough time of pretty much every relationship i’ve had, so i’d probably have trust issues alongside of being a “real man”), but this actually allows a man to be recognized as person. i’ve pretty much just posted a blog entry/rant as a comment here. and by the way (please don’t hate me for revealing this, sisters), sometimes the woman who is a teeny bit older, or wears a slightly larger size, or isn’t blond, will go to considerably greater effort to keep the relationship healthy and her mate happy. it made me rethink how i am as a partner to my boyfriend. also, based on the pictures, you better be a male model covered in versace suits and neck tattoos to be a “real man”. reading through these blog posts helps secure my decision that i’ve made the right choice., while we are making generalized, blanket stereotypical statements, lets say that girls just like money and only care, generally, about how they look. i like how you emphasized that looks aren’t the most important thing–after all, beauty fades, but personality just gets stronger.! don’t think you can slip up with a real man, he’ll call you on your shit, kick you out of the apartment, and have a backup girl faster than you can blink. however, we are human and not perfect, but you should inspire each other to be the best version of you. if everyone would just treat others the way they want to be treated, then respect would be the rule, not the exception. a woman’s perspective, i agree with american thinker, and with tom. if there’s one physical feature i suppose i always looked for, it was a woman’s eyes. there is no one “real man” or person for that matter. a man can put effort into a relationship if the reward is, in his individual eyes, worthwhile. men need to be logical and direct for women bc women are emotional and indirect (a lot of the time). and instead of taking anything positive from this, you are blaming women for the fact that all men aren’t perfect..no i didn’t see any thing about a real man taking care of his kids or family? unlike many women i know i do not over think relationships, including men i date, so i was catching everything you were throwing out, however i do agree with the influential amount of power that the pictures will have over the words. sorry if you didn’t like my comments chris but i am a teacher so it is in my nature to want to help people sometimes even when they dont want it. you’re a real man if you have a set of balls, a penis, and a y chromosome. – yes, most women under 30 are not ready to trade in their current lifestyle for the married with children lifestyle. true gentleman will make you want to be the best version of yourself, without changing who you really are. i have no concept of trust any more, and without that, how can any of the rest follow?. it’s quite corney though… women are eating this shit up though its all on my timeline. think the basics were left out because they are simply that, basics. think you could honestly combine the articles into one giant “things a grown up human significant other will do for you. if a man had said, “a man’s happiness is a woman’s reward”, it wouldn’t play in peoria, now would it? it makes me wonder if women just want “real men,” how is any of the above even possible? understand your pain and the decision to close your heart after these terrible things happened to you, but we must call these terrible things exactly what they are. while people can say “intimidated by motivation” to refer to what you’re saying, they are using the phrase incorrectly. yes we all have certain insecurities, but as you grow and mature, you grow out of them., really like what you’re stating and the way in which through.’ve dated men who are gentlemen and treat their mothers with respect. it was a perspective by a man and i respect that. you might not think so right now but you have lots of options available to you despite your disability and you have to think that every day. given the choice, most men gravitate towards the cleavage, rather than find the more subdued lady sitting in the corner. > sex & love 10 signs to know you’re dating a real man, by a real man. please write on why men, now-a-days, shy away from being a “real man”. you be interested in trading links or maybe guest writing a blog post or vice-versa?’t be an asshole i’m sure he probably wasn’t like that when she married him. two biggest dividing factorsin relationship come from kids and money because those two things reflect your inner beliefs. their alibi will always be something for a guy that is almost impossible to provide. you think the only reason a girl would be hit on is if she looks sexy or revealing? you have to pay separately for your domain name or does host gator offers free domain names on their monthly plans? while i do believe that james describes the “ideal man”, i don’t believe it’s something that us men are incapable of reaching. it really is true that a little absence makes the heart grow fonder. blog’s notion of what a “real man” is the most unrealistic piece of shit i’ve read in a long time. a healthy relationship, two people should be able to work out their differences via mature conversation and discussion. a man to choose a women, he would need to be sure that she also deserves his love and dedication. really if these are the only requirements of a man over a boy then i’ve been one since i was 16. here to get my new e-book, the gentleman’s advantage! i’m 30, have never been in a relationship, and a big part of that is because the guys who have shown interest (and who i’ve been initially attracted to as well) beyond a couple of exchanges have been entirely obsessed with my breasts.“a real man will never be intimidated by your motivation., but it’s using language that masculinity is earned, abusive behavior is immature and not just wrong, and men ultimately have to conform to one personality and (via the photos) looks type. does feminism have to do with being a civilized man?” because how you define this love is a lot less important to me than how you define what your life is meant for. must’ve been the only person who didn’t know that’s what happened during filming of that movie – just randomly selected the photo. respect is also in this one, everyone should respect each other. he did not contact me, wouldn’t answer my calls and emails, during this period i contacted many casters without results. i dress sexy and classy when i go out and that usually will entail an open back dress or cleavage. a real man would have stayed in whatever community college instead of making another internet top 10 list. are generally apathetic and just look for one thing from a woman.. mutual understanding and most people will not even be interested in rebuilding that either. he will never feel intimidated or threatened by a woman who goes after what she wants. just about every post was about, controlling, shaming, and using women; the antithesis of what real manliness is all about. sorry but i am a little lost… what red dress are you talking about? and assuming your motivation refers to pursuing a career, he’ll also leave you by the wayside while he pursues a woman that’s attractive enough and comes from proper breeding stock so she doesn’t have to work. i would be willing to delve further into my thoughts as the opportunities present myself; i merely wanted to give a quick summary of my main concern with this article. thoughts on “10 ways to know you’re dating a true gentleman”. i actually wrote an article after this about how to know your girl is a keeper. will, as we know, always be exceptions to every rule., my brother just shot me this article and i enjoyed reading it. i like your thinking, cause i think that’s the way you really feel . are worth a thousand words and need to be carefully selected to support the point of one’s article. they’ve opened people’s eyes to the kind of men who they are not, and should be. the only one i might take a teensy bit of exception to is the one about a man being calm and cool. me know when there’s a woman that actually wants these qualities. now that is something that is certainly attractive in a man :).: how to tell if your woman is a keeper (a response) | write or be written. long as you haven't betrayed his trust, a man will not be paranoid, or snoop around invading your privacy to make sure you're not doing anything bad. that post has been invaded, taken over, and redecorated by a society that believes men are broken women. he cant keep his true person under lockdown forever eventually he’ll show his true colors. though i do get your point, a woman can keep your interest if she continues to be herself. a man can be some of these and still retain his long term goals but asking all of it from him is asking to much. and no women enjoys giving up their mani/pedi/book club/gym time as well as no man enjoys giving up their gym time/football games/guy time. true gentleman will put effort into your relationship- only when he wants a little somethin somethin.’t to find your email subscription hyperlink or e-newsletter service. bookmark it and return to read more of your helpful info..I think our initial disagreement was that you were presenting real man behavior in terms of how well he met the woman’s expectations in a man. but mind games are more direct than the direct approach. you could be more specific about why the content i’ve written here is flawed, rather than saying my site design takes away from the actual words on it, that would be great. i’m not trying to bash but this article is clearly mislabeled and would give other women a sense of false priorities in choosing their own “real” man. my hope is that some day my grandkids have an awesome laugh over this, and that my granddaughters won’t constantly have to make sure they’re keeping themselves up to some time-consuming standard of beauty because of expectations they didn’t create and have nothing to do with who they are as people. i can see what you mean now in that you wanted to uphold your values (i also would find it difficult to be with someone who was un-accepting of other people). tons of components to this though…how you think of the past, yourself, how congruent your values are with their actions. it isn’t stated here explicitly, but it is well known with the cliché statement “real men” comes a connotation about males who have left their post as men. a lot of ladies here will probably deny it, but for most of us, it’s true. they know how special we are; that’s why they’re dating us. part of any healthy relationship, as you mention, is becoming a team. there will always be people who read a few lines of something, get offended, and lash out.: 10 ways to know your woman is a keeper | forever21ramona. sexist statement @suka pantat, but i would like to say that of all my observations of women, they do tend to pick the least logical/mature male option when given the choice. cant tell the difference between someone keeping up their appearences and someone seeking attention? you’re a guy being a wise ass, still love the reply, it’s just not as effective.” boys are encouraged to not cry or play with anything colored pink or to stay away from the kitchen. on the other hand agree with most of the things he listed because i have experienced what it’s like to be with this type of man for 3 years, and it was an absolutely amazing and fulfilling relationship. clearly you don;t know the first thing about how to treat a woman. i don’t see any references on this site to target audience, so i’m assuming high school girls? woman to keep is someone who has good qualities even when there’s no man around. hope they make 10 ways to know you’re dating a women….“he puts in effort for you” should also be on the 10 ways to know you’re dating a real man. (like not pretending to find a racist joke funny, just because it’s a hot chick telling it).. this is definitely a good overview of what makes a solid character in a man. did any woman actually read that without a bit of bile coming into the throat? for taking the time to read this and give your feedback! if a guy tries to touch my gf then i wont be so calm anymore. as for your grammar, you used the wrong your after fat slob (you’re* a fat slob! you look and look and look and you pick out the one car thats physically jumps out at you first., i think the problem is that most men have this kind of “list” in mind and many don’t see the inherent sexism going on. the fact that they’re not a really good person. there are millions of extroverts in the world, both male and female. mom always taught me a real man should treat u this way (just what it says in this article) and he should treat u like a lady i’m only a teenager and i have already found my real man ;~). that’s when you get stuck and that’s when you stop living. relationships can be idealised, but that’s not often the reality. and the fights grew and at one point i was worried for them. “men are logical and women are emotional” is an absurdly old and preposterous generalization. which, of course, means that you realize sk8terkid is correct. men like this do seem to be a rare breed. guys like that, who set boundaries and are comfortable saying no, usually have no problem gaining respect. who are content with their own self confidence and don’t look elsewhere for validation, shine from within and will add to your life. addition to the last point -- there will be no mind games or manipulation in your relationship. i didn’t even know that you could have ptsd without being in iraq or afghanistan.>but my point is that the whole “makes an effort” point shouldn’t even >be made if a previous point was to find someone who is not attention >seeking. earning respect from a real man takes a minimum of a year so you’d best be on good behavior. drummer man, it appears that you have “99 problems and a bitch ain’t one”. this doesn’t provide any sort of foundation for a solid relationship. some men create petty arguments, while some “real women” are incredibly direct. especially a red one and a knot that belongs in 1997. and of course the above behavior would in no way qualify as putting effort into the relationship. however, i feel like it takes “real women” to appreciate dating a “real man”. i understand you have explained this list as guidelines as opposed to criteria; however, based on numerous responses in the comments as well as the structure of the article itself, you are presenting your thoughts as criteria and only those who really read into the comments would see any indication otherwise. real man,i stud by her side til the last second of her life,and visit her grave very day , til the day i daid. they are wonderful positive goals and every woman would benefit from all of the attributes mentioned and a man would feel wonderful if he could meet these “real” men characteristics. being said, i understand where you’re coming from – but i don’t necessarily mean this in a “if she does this, it’s ok to love her” sort of way. in which case, it would be safe to assume that he was not attempting to be disrespectful and the situation could easily be fixed by stepping in, with a cool, calm and collected demeanor and making your position known., we associate manhood with superficial milestones such as turning 18, being able to drink legally or losing ones virginity. i agree with the previous commenter in that it is ridiculous to impose one view on what a real man is. i understand it fits the theme but i’m sure you have a large audience and some can be easily influenced and make the wrong associations. any disrespect after that would of course warrant more extreme measures. you are clearly not a real man and hence you can’t seem to understand these points!@ shouldbewritingalabreport: you state, “this is how men should act, with class, chivalry, and control over their emotions. a healthy relationship, two people should be able to work out their differences via mature conversation and discussion. on the other hand, you can do everything the author suggests and still not be confident, assertive, or masculine. you have to tell your gf or wife not to wear this or that.” i also, like bukojoe, dislike the implication that a “man” must be “cool, calm, and collected.
Ten ways to know you're dating a real man with respect to what you said to me, shannon, can you please spell out the three-fold returns? where does this guy get these moral/ethical absolutes from anyway? shrinking of sizes from a large being 16″ waist to a large 10″ waist. real man doesn’t need others to define “real man” for him. reclaim your dignity and credibility and fix that second grade error! and the reason i disagree with this is because some guys will cross that fine line thats not acceptable. your significant other should be one of, if not the first, people you want to tell exciting news to.’s a really good point about the introverts – i suppose there are only so many levels deep i went with this in terms of exceptions. none of this bullshit whining over small, petty shit like how the woman “should put effort in the relationship. essentially it is an apples to oranges comparison and to be blunt about your last question, our society places a much higher value on female beauty, than on mens physical attractiveness. you want the one you couldn’t possibly let go.’s great that you are getting ideas from this piece of writing as well as from our dialogue made here. furthermore, i believe your idea of a “real man” is entirely too idealistic and, frankly, an unattainable standard that would make 99% of men not worth dating. i wished i’d gone on ladette to lady and got my diploma to say that i’m now a real lady. china but there is an ongoing debate over whether the first casinos. | reply share hide replies ∧guestjohn anderson4 months 9 days ago“we are losing sight of the value and importance of putting effort into building a relationship and a real connection with someone. when we realize that, we allow ourselves to be truly happy.’m so sorry to hear this…i feel your pain. with destiny: find the love you need (kindle edition) – then maybe you shouldn’t be hopping around in the interwebs >pretending you’re the defender of justice.
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i just wanted to bring to light the fact that man and women are so different. we need to walk in love, always thinking of the other, and be mature. ive seen and known guys and girls both who have shot down the others goals in life. woman i know, regardless of age, wants a man like this. emotions debate, i agree; however, my boyfriend and i are both aware of this. who is to say that these are also not 10 ways to know you’re dating a real woman., people just rationalize where they stand and not stand for what could bringabout the best in every person. this might be a dangerous question because i don’t know how u feel about this topic, but do u also believe the same pertains to homosexual men? and hope that one day it pays off because you didn’t allow that opportunity to pass and you’ve paid your dues. these are traits i can’t stand, and which i consider to be beneath a good person. don’t think there should be a separate list of what a good man and woman is.“a true gentleman will have more interests than just you.. she verbalizes her level of comfort in any situation and can respectfully excuse herself from any social obligation you make on her behalf. using pictures of average looking men or older couples simply doesn’t attract his demographic. though i agreed with most of this article, this bit made me cringe a little: “an intelligent, well-spoken, witty, funny woman with killer looks”. we’ve been dating for two years and he believes i’m a keeper, yet i wouldn’t be considered one by your criteria. luckily, my man does all of these things with the exception of two–as opposed to manning up to conflict, he runs. i simply put outstanding creatively innovated ways of effort in them, which consequently leads to “too much, too fast,” which equivocally means desperation. keep your arguments to yourselves, keep your priorities consistent, and be each other’s support system. love all of the points made in this article, but i can’t stand the term “real man”. he makes me feel good about myself in every way, and thinks i look great in everything (including my sexy little dress). putting forth an effort in the way that’s pleasing to your significant other is what he was getting at. i just disagree with the ways you’ve stated some things. if a person has a rotten heart, no amount of material beauty will get them anywhere. it was like he got tired of me or something. at one time a boy became a man when he took responsibility, was able to look after his family etc… but a girl simply ‘became’ a woman. thing i can address with the ‘web design’ is that this is just a simple templated wordpress theme, which has a photo of myself and my car on it – please accept my apologies for not finding this overly outlandish. you are clearly not a real man and hence you can’t seem to understand these points!’m pretty sure no one actually took you seriously once you started with “all bitches want…” just sayin. they are just selective of settling for any guy for the sake of just saying they have a boyfriend. you may not always be happy, but he will always be reminding you you’re special and loved. secondly, relationships, in a way, can loosely refer to the fact that we’re all looking for something like our other half. if this is what women look for in a man then why am i single? i am coming form the catholic perspective and this is more or less what both parties do. “real man” perception is different school wise and street wise. then models those ways for his family, friends, and community. many men nowadays you don’t like being challenged in your opinion and your thoughts. you thought you failed, you did that the first few days you knew she was different coz she is and you tolerated that. you said you were a “door mat”, a doormat is someone who tries to get there self esteem or self worth by pleasing others. if you're at the bar together, or if she's out with her friends, it goes without saying that your girlfriend will get hit on every once in awhile. i recently experienced a situation where the guy i was dating made me choose between him and pursuing an amazing opportunity career-wise (going overseas to puruse it), and i cut him loose so reading this is truly comforting. bothers me about this is a man can be all of those things and they still will leave , the question really is a man looking for a real woman, they have has so many blueprints and how we men are suppose to act like , this guy is clearly a simp( somebody idolizing mediocre panties), let us men see how do you find a real woman. a woman who feels she needs to look good all the time “for her man” would not be her own person or have the confidence to do those things for herself, nor would she not be looking for attention most likely. 🙂 and as soon as someone disagrees with you, you start calling them names and assuming you know all these things about them and being utterly rude to them? their father is a true gentleman, so they have experienced growing up with one. if a guy is in it for the long haul, he will back you 110% on your ambitions in life. respect is something that is still very promoted by women all over the world. but you’re saying at the same time they’re seeking >attention? if you don’t agree with certain elements, then so be it. we real men laugh at you and your soon-to-fail marriage. hadn’t expected people to actually respond to my comments. as a woman who is very independent and ambitious, and who has married a man who is decidedly less secure, you are spot on james. you lack the ability to truly bond with another human being or knowing what that takes.’m thinking everyone needs to back up & breath because goodness….. can you suggest any other blogs/websites/forums that cover the same subjects?’m happy to not be in that relationship anymore and the wonderful man i have now would never treat me like that. people (women in particular) are constantly measured by their peers, suitors, coworkers, and society at large by such shallow and vapid metrics as put forth here.” i can remember times that i have forced my girlfriend to do something she was uncomfortable with, in order to better herself. people (feminists and white knights) will go ape shit and call the writer a misogynistic woman hater. by that standard if i should have to give these above behaviors then would that make a women anymore likely to give me what i want from her? difference between doing your nails, getting a pedicure, getting your hair done…. for example: i personally watched a married man get dropped off at the bar by his wife with there child in the car. women, men, transgender, we’re all working towards improvement that fits our own individual lives…. matter how awkward or uncomfortable a situation is, a real man will approach it, and you, with respect. no one can prescribe a way to be or live without belittling those who aren’t the way you’ve described. i’ve spoken to men crying over their wifes leaving them, taking the kids, disrespecting them, its all awful. and, lo and behold, i can honestly say i scored myself a 50% according to this list!” this is another way of saying that the man isn’t interested quite deeply on what intrigues you. a real man is a giant who stands up to talk with kings but kneels down to play with babies. women are really upset about the hair and nails thing (when it was just an example in the first place), but i cannot tell you how many times men have noticed and complimented me on doing my nails or changing my hair. a real man leans on god and is not afraid to submit to a power that is greater than himself. you take a note on encouragement and support to going on a rant about challenging. you see, i have read list after list of what is expected of real men or true gentlemen, and these lists are verbose and quite specific, literary in fact. of these woman bitching and moaning over this… there were equal “what one party should do for the other” in both articles. that is said because i know that the desirable qualities stated by james are important, i know because i love every single day with a man who has none of those qualities. games, online fantasy games, and action games include the most typical genres. try too hard and you scare them away, don’t try too hard and well, they’ll question your dedication. think a man should not wear a black shirt and a poorly tied necktie. when the relationship matures, i do think it is important to show the qualities that james is talking about here. just like the idea where you keep a close eye on what you value out of fear of theft, women begin to think that if he lets you go where-ever, when-ever, its’ because, maybe, you’re of low value, he’s got a side-fling, or “alternative interests,” or worse, secretly gay.! i don’t care how great they think themselves, you need to know better and dump their ass. oh, and i am so not a candidate for you, btw, so no red flags here. like the article, but man, when you say “an intelligent, well-spoken, witty, funny woman with killer looks, granted is hard to come by,” you throw us under the bus!>it just makes an ass out of you (and me). there really is no need to dissect and over analyse the article and bring sexism and inequality etc. the point of this article went over your head and somewhere over the rainbow. one can be a keeper with only some of these qualities, because news break, it depends and not all guys or women seek the same things. if you’re at the bar together, or if she’s out with her friends, it goes without saying that your girlfriend will get hit on every once in awhile. i am a successful man, and i happen to fall in love with a female that was not so successful in life prior to us meeting, or at least not to concerned with the same level of success i am, than if i choose to have a family with this lady, i then have to lead her to the same path and teach her how to achieve financial stability, also conquer the world of finance, may it be trough a hobby that she is good at and could try to perfect it, or just hardcore business, for when i die, or if i die before my time, she will have no need to rely on another man to survive and bring him in my house to abuse my children. problem is within your self and until you get that you will be stuck in the past for the rest of your life. i asked him to drop me off in the morning- it would have required him to get up about an hour earlier, but the spot was close to his house, so he technically could have gone back to bed for a bit before work if he wanted. especially the part about not being intimidated by a woman’s ambition. and im glad i learned a long time ago thats completely false, and actually its toxic in a relationship. this is a post for the real men who might need a correction of direction. i will love you, respect you and take care of you. where the hell did you grow up that being decent is not an ideal? the only reason men are making negative comments is because they don’t belong here. very often they don’t even realize it…there’s a lot of psychology in it i’m sure. said this could be something as small as doing your nails – thusly keeping it open ended but offering a suggestion. at first she was taken back by my weekend “off ” here and there as she calls it. a real man will never take out more than he is willing to put in..If you are still damaged from a past relstionship, you should probably work on you before you enter a new relationship. and for when he does reply back to my text, for it to be more then just “lol,” “mhm,” etc. it doesn’t say anything in the article about the style of dress. your list, while it does have some good points, is also very much a product of our generation, and it shows. the definition of desirable will obviously vary based on the compromises a woman is willing to make. no, absolutely not, but just a small gesture of taking the 15 minutes to paint your nails means more to your man than you know.’s not how i intended the tone for this article to come across – i meant for it to be written from a man’s perspective (as it was) and how i believe we should act in relationships – i didn’t think i had framed anything from the perspective of how a woman thinks we should be, but perhaps i’m just not recalling it. it is a distance relationship, i don’t think you are asking too much by requesting a little more thought provoking answers to your messages, etc. relationships work for lots of reasons, and some are even unfortunately successful because of inequality. those are the primary attributes they look for in a mate. you seriously commenting like this with the posting name of “realman”? completely agree with every one of your points, melissa~ do you have a blog? i haven’t read the list for the woman yet, but i am sure it’s just as unrealistic. if she is funny and has a personality then that’s more important to me. there’s only room in my heart for them now. whenever i take a look at your website in safari, it looks fine but when opening in ie, it’s got some overlapping issues. if you are not single, i would still say that you need some help and encourage you to seek it; because any good quality gentleman would be unable to deal with that sort of anger for a lifetime. blog often and i really thank you for your information. but perhaps i’m getting hung up on the “high” self esteem and thinking of it as “over confidence” rather than just being confident in one’s abilities which is perhaps what you mean. want to make a “how to tell you’re dating a real woman” list and see how it goes over? i’ll give you an anecdote to prove my point. but a real woman would prefer to be with a man who also takes care of himself. thank you for reminding me of what i sought, and perhaps found. it’s a list that treats both genders equally (at least, as i could tell from an initial read-through), and that’s awesome. i have looked at this article a few times over the past few days, and have noticed that the author of the blog changed some of the pictures. a man should never whole heartedly trust anyone 100%, 99% is fine but i would never give blind faith to a person whose life i will never know completely about.) what woman or man enjoys having their pursuits/personal interests put on hold during a relationship. again great guys are hard to find, especially with genuine traits like cooking for you, complementing you, appreciating you, etc. this individual has made his new girlfriend very pleased but does he have kids from a past relationship that he will never neglect, not even for one day? since i am in a relationship i have been able to go out with my friends and observe the interaction between men and women and i can definitely see the truth in this whole scheme of what works and what doesn’t. she shall care for herself but you and ye shall care not for her if she cares for herself. these few relationship characteristics are considered so unrealistic now…i am extremely worried about the next generation. problem with this article has been stated many of times. was just wondering if you get a lot of spam remarks? i was just showing different examples of seeking attention that dont include doing your nails, brushing your hair or your teeth. bc if it is true you’ll be super duper balanced! i consider myself a pretty great girlfriend but holy cow, there’s no way i could live up to all of these, all of the time! i appreciate lists such as these because it reminds us as men that we are not above growth and bettering ourselves.. a true man always showers her woman with attention and gives her her space. i think it’s an awesome blog, and i also think that more real men need to be noticed…., mine doesn’t work any more, and i don’t think it can be fixed again. if a group of men were to list attributes that would make for the ideal woman there might be many of the same and probably quite a few physical additions as well. i just wanted to ask if you ever have any problems with hackers? ever happened to just falling in love with the person who makes you laugh and you like to hang out with. a real woman will appreciate you and respect you all the more for being this kind of man. real men have many options, but if you bring enough happiness into his life he’ll choose to spend much of his free time with you. it’s a description of a certain type of man. its if the guy is a keeper and it goes off on how a guy should treat his girl. no, i don’t agree 100% with every word, but you got me thinking and looking at my relationship and considering some aspects i hadn’t looked at (at least not consciously) deeply before. if you have this kind of passion, it’s very attractive. my gf is very attractive and when guys hit on her she don’t even realize it. just because you disagree with a very well thought out criticism (which is on point), he is an idiot? if “real man” was replaced with something like “good partner” it would really make the tone of the article more positive and less judgmental. a real man never starts what he doesn’t intend to finish. i began to resent him due to the influx of other feelings my secrecy had attracted.) a real man will make you want to be the best version of yourself, without changing who you really are. in my opinion a real man is one who puts his priorities ahead of any one, if a woman wants to be a part of that mans life then a woman should expect that this man has goals and aspirations and not put herself ahead of them by forcing a man to be everything listed above. learn that, and you’ll more quickly find yourself in a real relationship with a real person in the real world. all men should have a code that they live by, whether it be religious, philosophical,or what have you. doesn’t pay to be a man who cares for anyone else, so i’ve shut down emotionally. i understand making sacrifices for relationships so that you can be able to spend time together, but allow time for yourself (man or woman) to do your thing. if waiting and working on your own personal foundation is too much to ask, then you will be doomed to date the assholes at the bar for the rest of your adult life. i agree with the principles, but i’m not always going to be comfortable in every situation. i am in your shoes…as a woman…but i refuse to allow my heart to grow cold. you want to grow your know-how simply keep visiting this website and be updated with the hottest information posted here. they’re in no way intended to send any sort of message, just to break up all of the text in the article. advise this book to go crazy with love for her man. men need to define themselves and form themselves through habits before they become someone worthy of approaching a noble woman. i am all for feminism, but these women who are bitching and moaning obviously don’t understand what feminism means. i also find it a bit amusing that regardless of how idiotic the responses are, you continue to take the high road and model the very principles outlined in your article. i don’t look for the “best looking girl” a girl is beautiful to me on more levels than just looks. if she brings up her accomplishments and you think it’s “bragging”, perhaps she has a right to brag and perhaps you’re jealous? everyone here, including the author of this blog, and most human beings do understand what a male/man is. the optimally desirable man is someone who has the psychological capacity for emotional attachment, actively takes care of people close to him as needed, maintains a steady level of interest in a woman, maintains a stable set of responsibilities (including employment), and has enough disposable income to satisfy the respective woman’s minimal socioeconomic requirements. fully understand each other (you and your car or the relationship you have with your dog or cell phone), 2. particularly the part about “attract[ing] this type of woman”. there are those who want to be the “power” person in the relationship. him as no one else know such distinctive about my trouble.. she makes you want to think of ways to make her smile. i feel fortunate to have the kind of relationship with my kids that most parents dream of. i’ve reluctantly drawn the conclusion that loyalty has to be purchased with cold hard cash.! a real man is interested in things like guns, gambling, fine liquor, travelling, literature, philosophy…in other words, a real man is much more interested in everything else in this world besides you, so you’d better bring enough to the table so he keeps your ass around. i do think things just happened but most important is how we can keep the momentum longer, how we can keep the initial passion longer throughout the relationship. guess this is meant more for an older woman, because i am not confident, and i like to stick to my boyfriends side during events where i don’t know someone. but, in this instance, i would say blue, with shades of red and green. but people who really like themselves tend to be annoying, self-centered and obnoxious. the only way to be a “real” man is to be real. know-it-all article about something that isn’t based off facts……awesome.’m not entirely sure your little feminist head even got what he was saying. but this article is geared more towards women then men so a logical argument isn’t what’s needed. you do make some valid points of what it means to be a man, the whole “real man” thing is quite disagreeable. even in the hardest of situations at the end of the day its just you two, that’s it. they do not care what you think of them and will certainly never tell you the don’t care. implying that there is a gender ideal means that we don’t find fulfillment or will grow with the help of another. one sure way to avoid this problem is to base your relationships on emotional and mental connections, not just on physical attractions or sex. wearing the shortest skirt possible, showing as much cleavage as possible and posting as many raunchy pictures on instagram/facebook as possible? the key to surviving all this is knowing the law of karma and that relationships mirror our own level of maturity., do you have anything to comment regarding the actual content or the points i made? a very, very, very lonely woman would expect a man to fit into this silly f*^%$g list. some of these things mentioned are more important to woman than man (generally-but there is the exception to every rule).: 10 ways to know your woman is a keeper | the spirited soul. a real man could and, frankly, should knock you out–but because these guys are real men, they don’t waste their time and energy with pussies like you. these men will not try to fix you and will simply avoid you if you try to incorporate them into your dramas. he already leads a somewhat balanced but at times chaotic lifestyle, such as myself, but in the end in makes him stronger in both spirit and mind and “can” give him an edge when it comes to having a ‘well rounded’ relationship. the second part i would like to address is the entitlement philosophy that women deserve access to these “real men” by virtue of them simply being a woman. i must admit still not totally 100% percent clear in my head. and lastly, bruce wayne’s parents died because thomas wayne was just “too cool, calm, and collected. i am a needy person in both my relationships and my friendships, that doesn’t mean that i am insecure. that being said, very well written artical overall, i think more girls (and guys) should read this. it sure beats sweat pants with a loose fitting sweater, gross. as i define it, there’s a difference between a broken heart, and heartache. obviously we all have different minds/feelings/actions wasn’t trying to steal thunder or compartmentalize. i actually enjoyed reading it, you can be a great. everyone else: if you ever meet a man like this – you know he’s the one…. there are people and places out there that will help you leave him if you need assistance financially. but the framing is, i might go as far as, misogynist… the more articles written that attach simple positive human qualities to men, the more it contributes to the oppression of women. you’re saying is quite true…in a surreal world. understand where you were going with that, but i completely disagree with the idea of this “civilized man” coming from the feminize movement. i’m grateful to have them,, and i let them know that daily. the tragedy is when a good man/woman is taken for a ride, gets jaded, stops believing in love, and jades a person that could have been the one they wanted before they got jaded. you can reclaim a better outlook of life without depending on women to facilitate it. if you’re not – what makes you think that she will forget all about it and that your relationship will coast through time without it being an issue? she sought out attention and yours drifted to hers and she grabbed that attention when she decided you were worth trying. and you want her to care more about your happiness than her own? wonder if those that didn’t like or understand the article are perhaps not feeling like they measure up??Depends if this is for a good reason, or if it’s to call me an idiot, as many have lol. the right girl won’t care about these things she will love you for who you are! off, there is huge difference between a person who took a selfie with a bikini on 101 times last week and someone who is saving kids in somalia. of your responses don’t really address the sentence at hand properly. however, for the post itself, i would just like to say (for anyone who takes the time to read this lol), this does not describe a real man at all, it describes specific ideals. a man will be direct, to the point, and honest with you…but with kindness. it’s important for the kids we influence, to the people around us, and the relationships we hold. honesty, trust, and respect are definitely qualities any “real” woman looks for in a man. found your post among the top wordpress posts for today! i wrote the poetry, brought home the flowers, paid attention to every word, thought and desire. i’m all of those 10 things , just by being me, but somehow, it goes unnoticed and un appreciated. a writer you have to consider the whole page as part of your message, and not expect your readers to rely only on the body text. real men get real women whom don’t go around looking for fairytale stereotypes brought on by disney and the likes of them. there have to be sexual attraction between them, but that is complementary regarding their way of looking at things and respecting each other. women don’t just want a male, they want a man. he’s the most amazing man i’ve ever met and i try my best to make him happy and to make sure he knows he’s appreciated! the read, i stumbled upon this through friends fb share. luckily, that’s an area in which he can improve, if he’s willing. in fact, he liked me and pursued me despite the first impression i gave him (full of attitude and negativity). however, the quest to become a “real” man is the holy grail! so now you’re degrading women because they dress the way they want to dress just to make your point? a note of your blog and keep checking for new details about once a week. sadly most college girls(im a senior in college) seem to be interested in the complete opposite of what you’ve written :(. to know youre dating a true gentleman | james michael sama is kinda vanilla. also, when did my lovely lady tell you she was going through breast cancer?! perhaps next time you could comment on the actual article rather than the random photos i selected for visual effect.’s face it, when you’re dating somebody, you’re not alone with them all the time. it’s great that in their adult life they can look forward to guys like you keeping track of them on a score card as you would a round of golf. if i were to go to a social event of my boyfriend’s friends, of whom i know exactly no one, and he leaves me to fend for myself for an extended amount of time, that’s rude. we only get to see each other on weekends but we are still going strong and make the best of our time together. also gotta love this one: a real man is direct. show me a woman of same standards from 50’s and 60’s who stay at home and look after the house and make sure everything is perfect for the man, so when he comes homes from bustin balls all day at work to pay the bills he can spend that remainder of the day with her and relax and possibly fuck her brains out as she pleases. you had a boy who never grew up, and can’t look beyond himself. already knew, but thanks for the confirmation that i have struck the motherlode among gentlemen. if she doesn’t want to cry with you, respect that. penning this post and the rest of the site is also very good. implying that only men should do this reinforces the “men shouldn’t express fear, surprise, or sadness” stereotype at the same time that it reinforces the stereotype that women tend to be overly emotional and hysterical and could probably use a man around to keep her calm and levelheaded. well, after a year long horrible divorce, i am dating a great man for almost 2 years and we are getting married soon. i would love to see you say something like to my mother in front of me. being this kind of guy lands you in the friend zone. then after picking between which car physically looks the best, you finally get to the interior and learn more about what it possesses. you have to go through many bad eggs to find a good one. so have just put your blog on my desktop so i can go straight to it and have another look later. to me, dating carries a risk of hurting another person, should they develop feelings that i weren’t to share. true gentleman will make you want to be the best version of yourself, without changing who you really are- meaning we are more than willing to get you implants to help you be the best version of yourself.” this reciprocates negatively in the sense where the man could not be valuing you. there is no such thing in real life in men or women, because they would then be perfect and there is no such thing.” they wouldn’t seem so long if you’d approach them with less scorn and cynicism. you don’t know who the real men are because you don’t take the time to find them. your woman questions her trust in you, ask why she felt that she had to and see if your relationship can move forward or not.. i liked what you were trying to do – it’s nice to think there may be some men that fulfil *all* of that criteria – but it being a checklist for women to carry around misses the mark for me. to break it to you, but you do not fit into the category of ‘real man’ based on the above comment.) what person (male or female) enjoys being appreciated for only their looks? site addresses a lot of the same subjects as yours and i believe. i refused to settle, and after a long wait and failed loves, i found him. once upon a time when we understood this truth, we trained our sons and made them prove themselves worthy of being called a man.. i value men who own up to it when they make mistakes (which all real men do)., but remember – as specified in the introduction, this is strictly regarding how men act in relationships. it is up to parents (or those doing the parenting) to teach young boys how to act like “real” men. and if you’re demanding such a stimulating conversation from a woman, take a listen to yourself once in a while and see if you’re a decent conversationalist yourself! strive to be a man of character, and the rest will follow in suit. hope y’all have an amazing day and i really appreciate this article. whatever works for you, is the right thing for you.” ) show there are still a few henry viii types out there. you are one of those that gets offended by someone calling you a “girl” instead of a “lady” or “woman” aren’t you? had an abusive partner at one time, and what she did was unethical and hurtful, but that doesn’t imply i ought to treat all future women as she treated me. i just have yet to meet one man who encompasses everything. author is a mangina who throws this pablum out to women because he knows it clicks with them and knows it furthers himself at their continued delusion. the above traits are all traits of a gentlemen, ie, respectful, confident, honest. i’ve had too many boys in my life, i think i’ve stumbled upon a real gentleman 🙂. it’s an abstract idea open for discussion, so to make a claim about what a true “real man” is, is exactly the point. we don’t know and quite frankly, who gives a flying fox? it can be something as simple as keeping her hair or nails done to look good for you. it’s the little things, kisses goodnight, open communication every day, taking care of yourself so you can care for others (physically, spiritually, emotionally, mentally). oh i am sorry you probably do not have a brain. i can admit i fall short ina few of these categories but this list, even though it is definitely “ideal” and maybe not realistic for some, is a great standard for all men to hold themselves to. without a strong foundation based on this, there is no dating, not even the chance to comfortably chat. your with one and you don’t even know it. i also think this article has merit, but in my criticism, the underlying premise is troubling. security problems with my latest blog and i would like to find something more safeguarded. be honest enough with yourself to walk away from any situation that is dangerous to you, physically or emotionally. because the phrase real man is used too widely for many different things.” while i am a true supporter of this statement, it seems that women think that a man pushing you to be the best version, is still changing who you really are. if you want to be a part of my life, then accept that you are part of my life. johnb, i completely agree with you and think if more insecure women were to take this advice, they’d be much happier in their relationships and life in general! there is no need for cruelty or swearing in such a man, and yet, he can be a fearless warrior defender whenever required. we’ve had so many obstacles since day one thrown at us, but with respect, compassion and communication we’ve only pulled closer together. the way i see things, i have no right to be in a relationship any more. to see that you changed the pictures… the original one (photos taken from like they were stolen form maxim magazine) really contradict your messages…so good job. for others like you and myself, since we know how to love life is a test of keeping your heart open and trying again no matter what. communicating to a woman with pure logic that is completely void of emotional stimuli is not going to get their attention.’s articles like this, and the true belief and conviction that the authors have that is the real problem with society. don’t recall making that statement, but perhaps you can jog my memory. please be sure to open and click your first newsletter so we can confirm your subscription. there is a huge difference that you should be able to tell (depending on how old your are). it is perfectly reasonable for a “real man” to verbally confront someone hitting on his significant other (especially if the significant other is too kind to tell them off his/her self) depending on the situation. i too have become very cold hearted, i do not disrespect women or anything, however the one bad one certainly has soured my perception of the female species as a whole…. “you don’t earn respect by doing or saying things”? he comes out with boys (which is rare without her joining), she constantly is texting him and calling him and pretty much ruining his night (and our nights). please tell them how to beheave with our friends, give our personal space with them… oh yea, and also how to beheave when they are invited to a family reunion. which is odd because you say you want men to shift their focus from individual body parts and “talking dirty”. i don’t know very many people who are successful that just kick back and go on vacations…they keep working and challenging themselves. wouldn’t allow your woman to wear something of her choosing without your approval and your talk about respect. why not be alive instead & use your time to look for the right woman for you and be the right man for her. are not exclusively masculine or exclusively masculine qualities, nothing of this makes you a man.